>tfw you find out everyone at your job hates you
i thought i was doing okay, but apparently i "rub people the wrong way" - whatever that means..
an example that was given to me - last week we had a day where we wore blue for some charity, one of the people wore purple and i asked why she wore purple. she said she thought it was close enough to blue, to which i replied that it is close, but isn't actually blue
apparently that makes me a bad guy
i got yelled at today for putting a child in his room and leaving him
and then again for putting a kid in a room who's class wasn't dismissed yet
i didn't know
i had like 4 more kids to put away
Fuck work I hate it so much
>Anon just doesn't listen, he seems distracted
no, i'm just stupid and i dont care sorry senpai
Imagine it from her point of view
>Have to wear blue for work
>Don't own any blue clothes
>Wear purple instead
>Guy at work asks why I'm not wearing blue
>Explain it's close enough
>He just says it's not blue
Basically needlessly ragging on her for a minor thing. It sounds like you do this a lot as well. People find that sort of thing irritating because it feels like you're interrogating or, worse, attacking them. Imagine if someone had said that to you, how would you have felt? Most likely shunned and alienated.
I don't think you're a bad guy, I just think socialising is something you're still learning. Just take this lesson to heart.
For future tips, always try to imagine things you say to people from their point of view, like I did above. Effectively treat people how you yourself would want to be treated.
>Tfw loved by all the women in the office
>Tfw get date offers weekly
>Tfw they are all single mothers or obese
Sometimes I want to kill myself. But I realize we need to genocide tumblr first.
>>28964276
Why do normies take everything so personally?
>>28964237
Everyone makes mistakes at work anon
You're probably quiet. Normies fucking hate quiet guys, especially if they're not chad. Normies cannot comprehend somebody being genuinely shy and socially anxious, or just naturally introverted (not meme introversion).
They think everyone should be chatty and if you're not yapping away 24/7 then you're rude and/or creepy.
I say fuck them. Honestly fuck them, I'm so sick of trying to impress normalshits whom I have nothing in common with. Fuck. Them
>>28964276
It sounds a little like OCD or autism to me, a need for uniformity and correctness probably. People like that can't help but point out this stuff. He's probably not cut out for highly social jobs, where you have to interact with a lot of normies, and does not have the "soft skills" to fit in with these types. Consider something alternative.
>Everyone gives everyone else shit except for me
What does this mean?
>>28964276
this is what i have a problem with. normies need to feel a part of something so badly that they will completely disregard what the actual event was.
just wear normal clothes to work and then say you don't own anything blue. the fact that she made no real effort bothered me
>thought I was getting along alright with everyone at my job
>turns out literally every single one of them didn't like me
I don't know how I even managed to do it
>>28964113
>work has turned me into a husk
>all the people I related to are gone
>boss overspends his hours and takes away mine
>on new schedule work 6 days and 25 hours
>feel isolated and depressed when I go there
>>28964359
It's not something you can change, but you can work around it and build trusting relationships, at which point you can start to be yourself more.
To take the purple clothes example, you could have improved it by simply complimenting her on her purple clothes. When you noticed it wasn't the correct colour, you could have stopped yourself and instead said "That dress really suits you", or something.
What you did wrong was first ask why she was wearing purple instead of blue, which immediately feels interrogative and puts her on the spot. After her answer, you then dismissedher.
My co workers don't like me either, but you know what? I stopped caring. I am who I am, if you dislike me then I'm sorry but I can't please everyone. I just do my work, clock out and go home. I'm not at work to be your buddy.
>>28964387
It means you're not part of the group
People only give each other shit when they're comfortable enough with each other to take it in a joking/friendly way
>>28964113
Your an asshole buddy noone likes an asshole
>>28964399
But she did make an effort.
>>28964478
Nah I mean serious shit, like nitpicking nonsense
Then again 70% of my coworkers are women so maybe I'm glossed over as a result of being one of the few men in my job.
Women are terrible coworkers, guys typically can bro-out and talk about how shitty the job is and work out their problems. Women on the other hand will never help you without giving attitude, and will gossip about you at every given opportunity.
>>28964368
what is "meme introversion"
>>28964445
I'm not OP and if I was I just wouldn't have talked to her.
>>28964665
Normies labelling themselves as introverts to seem like an edgy unique, mysterious special snowflake, when in actual fact they might just not like going to clubs or some shit. As apposed to somebody who genuinely prefers solitude the majority of the time.
Meme introversion is much more common in women.
>>28964737
oh that makes sense. i've come across quite a lot of people like that, it's a bit annoying since i'm an actual introvert
>>28964550
That's called banter mate. In the UK at least it's a sign that people are comfortable with one another but it sounds bad to an outsider. E.g. when you're with a group of friends and one friend, within earshot of the person in question, tells you how much of a faggot that person is. It doesn't mean he genuinely thinks the person is a faggot.
>>28964113
>start new job
>try to get along
>make small talk with everyone
>try to be helpful and co-operative
>try to be generally nice to everyone
>think I'm doing well
>one day, about to walk in the lunch room when I hear my name come up
>they're talking about me
>suddenly a burst of laughter
>I catch phrases like; he's so creepy, so weird, such a loser
>one day he might walk in and shoot up the place xDDDDDD
>we'd better start wearing bulletproof vests LOL
>chad and stacies laughing like there's no tomorrow
>almost have a panic attack
>run into the bathroom to calm myself
>decide to get back to work
>chad sees me "hey buddy, we missed you, thought you ran off and did something crazy LOL"
>he grins at the chad across from us
>they both try to stifle their laughter
welp, time to kill myself, nothing makes a difference at this point
>>28964768
What you should have done is walked in and said "you guys chatting shit about me?" and ran with the banter.
>>28964768
Call them out for being shitty people for no reason, tell them you were just trying to be nice but you dickheads aren't worth it.
And then ignore them
>>28964768
Do exactly what they thought you'd do friendo
>tfw I am most likely seen as gay or an orbiter due to me only hanging around with women
I just can't have conversations with the nigspic guys at my place.
>>28964764
Do women in the UK act like that?
>>28964737
Introversion doesn't mean preferring solitude the majority of the time. Look at Jung's wikipedia page or something.
Robot faggots wouldn't be so annoying if they weren't so stupid and ill-read on top of being whiny and unsuccessful with women.
>>28964768
What a bag of dicks, no wonder you reacted that way. They're a bunch of normalfag idiots, who cares what they think? If I were you I would be rude and very sarcastic to them and insult their intelligence constantly.
>being so autistic you cant get on with people in a normal friendly manner at work
just fucking kill yourselves lol
>tfw unimportant small guy nobody notice
>tfw most girls think I am the nice guy
hope i dont lose my last normie friends while being NEET
>be me
>have unpaid internship
>had mental breakdown but got help for it and accomadations because colleges do that now
>have issues talking with people but am working hard and doing my best
>must sign in before I go to my area of work
>go in to sign in one day
>overhear the boss person say some people deserve to fail and that the program is too lax that anyone can pass nowadays
>sign in
>leave
>mfw
I fucking hate normies so much. They hate me because I'm quiet.
>>28964113
>to which i replied that it is close, but isn't actually blue
damn dude, do you do that sort of stuff in every conversation? i could see that being grating after a while. i did the same shit in elementary & middle school till I started seeing a shrink to work on the patterns behind it.
in the best case, you're being a spaghetti spiller for ignoring the implications of people's statements & being redundant by repeating what they already know. lemme explain a bit
>she said she thought it was close enough to blue
she knows it isn't actually blue. saying it's only "close enough" to blue, and not blue, is an implied acceptance of this truth
>to which i replied that it is close
okay, that's fair, you're agreeing with her
>but isn't actually blue
and here's where you fuck up. you're either unaware of (being sperg) or ignoring (being patronizing) implied meanings in statements. since your co-workers don't know you well, they probably don't know which it is and may even think you're a bit of both.
serious question mate, have you talked to a shrink or therapist? i'm a diagnosed moderate-autist w/ mild OCD and did the same shit till i saw a shrink for some months. i still get redundant thoughts, but i've been able to work a lot on my filter
>>28964399
Give another example
>everyone seems to like me at my work
>get along with most of them
>even bantz along with a couple of them
>no one seems to invite me to hang out, or want to have any discussion with me beyond good humoured ribbing or w/e
i chalk this up to me being introverted, but it's weird feel.
>>28964941
oh come on anon, as long as they're not talking about you, you shouldn't assume they are. Keep on working hard and you'll get somewhere (even if they are talking about you).
>>28965106
But they are talking about me. There's only one student at the internship and he is very good at talking to people while I read a book in the breakroom and keep to myself. I can't get anywhere in a nepotistic industry if people think that of me...
>>28964799
>and ran with the banter
Are you a Brit? If so, I think our obsession with "banter" is overrated.
I got this vibe from people in my last job, had I known sooner I probably would have just quit. I can't be assed with people being cunts just because I'm a loner and don't care about the details of their insignificant lives.
>>28965343
>britbong can't handle the bantz
pip pip, lad
>>28965176
you need to make a choice. either you're bothered enough to start making more of an effort to talk or you're not.
also, if you're in an industry where you need people to like you to get promoted, you have to decide if that's the right industry for you.
i understand wanting to keep to yourself but lots of people would prefer to do that but they still do what they need to in order to get ahead (or they do something where it matters less). when people like you, they want good things for you and your life is easier. it's effort and it's hard but it might be worth it.
another thing to consider. better social skills can help you in your personal life too, and with work people the stakes are slightly lower because there's less pressure to be real friends or share anything overly personal. sometimes chatting can be hard and seem pointless but it's a skill that can serve you well.
>>28965428
There is a difference between banter and bullying. If they'd be teasing him to his face and having a little joke, that's different.
The poor bastard had to walk in and hear them all being mean about him behind his back, then being fake and gay with him to his face.
That is bullying.
If I were him I would have just gone along with it quietly and when they were lulled into a false sense of security, shot the fucking place up.
I hate cunts like that.
>>28964768
Fuck those guys man, next time you overhear that shit just walk straight in call them all cunts then leave, blank them for the rest of your employment if possible
>>28964768
if something happens to them they actually had it coming for shit talking you.
>>28965480
>an industry where you need people to like you to get promoted
When is this ever not true? The only exception I can imagine is self-employed/small business owners but they still need social skills for other reasons, probably more so
>>28964443
>working 6 days a week
>only 25 hours
what kind of job would have this shitty of a schedule?
>>28964768
They behave like this and then wonder why people do end up going out and shooting them.
>>28964445
>>28964113
That's because you are not supposed to call people out on things they are self-conscious of. Granted that normies care about such insignificant shit such as not wearing the right color on such events.
Better yet, instead of saying that blunt, easily misconstrued dumbass shit you said you could have not even said anything to her. I know some weird ass people who do the same shit. Learn to not pick at people's appearance or actions. Im not saying you need to agree with them or suck their dicks or anything, just shrug it off in most cases.
>>28964113
tfw paid by the hour and my supervisor kind of thinks I'm a lazy fuck but can't prove it or anything. I half do projects, mess them up, and give up. Feels awesome.
Although I hope people really like me. I've put effort into being friendly and I always fully help somebody when they ask for help etc.
>>28964399
But she did make an effort, she wore the closest thing to blue she had.
What is purple anyway if not blue with a bit of red
>>28964113
>>tfw you find out everyone at your job hates you
>tfw when your being used and abused but need the money and can't find another job
I hope i drop dead lose it and kill everybody then myself or quit and slit my own throat.
>>28965481
true. i was doing this site's version of bants-ing
he should either confront these people and tell 'em to stop being mean, or tell his boss. that's shit behaviour.
>>28965480
You just want me to be fake and act like a normie. This advice is shit-tier.
>>28964113
All the girls love to tease me and grab my butt. They also gossip about me having sex with one of the more attractive co worker. I'm a virgin and I'm also dead quiet at work so idk what these bitches want.
