How the FUCK do you meet new people and make friends if you're a filthy NEET with no connections?
>>28920264
>How the FUCK do you meet new people and make friends if you're a filthy NEET with no connections?
You don't.
I've been saying this for years - If you don't form a social circle by your early 20's, you're doomed.
This American Life on Normie Public Radio had a segment this week on making new friends as an adult. Thought of threads like this.
>>28920300
I'm 18 anon. Help me before it's too late.
>neet
>no connections
give up
>>28920462
Are you in college or uni?
>>28920462
ok i'm 18 no friends to, let's be friends?
>>28920576
I'm a NEET poorfag with no money for uni in a shit country with a 20% unemployment rate.
>>28920584
make them online, it's your best shot.
Here are some things that sound like they could be true. I don't actually know or have experience with it though.
be genuinely interested in others
git gud at small talk & storytelling
fake it till you make it
that's all i got.
say hello to random strangers until you either get the cops called on you or meet someone as desperate as you
also if you have an interest in something you can go to a meetup of some kind
it's not comfy to be a stranger like that but it might lead to something
>>28920584
I'm sorry - I can't help you. Someone else might be able to though.
>>28920462
get a roomate(s). Take a bunch of adderall/cocaine before you meet them. Buy these drugs off the internet. I'm being semi-serious
>>28920361
link us faggot
You know if you don't actually need the money, just get a job and do the bare minimum, not having to worry about getting fired actually makes work bearable for me. And it only takes me 3 weeks to buy a new gaming pc. I could literally build a top gaming pc every three weeks if I felt like it.
All thanks to normies who want the minimum wage increased to pay for their multiple kids
>>28920584
i said i'd be your friend you fucking cunt you're in no position to be picky
skype?
>>28920643
http://thisamericanlife.org
587: The Perils of Intimacy
>>28920300
Jesus christ dubs of truth
my life is fucked, 26 no friends no gf ever, I am doomed
might as well get the Helium bag ready
>>28920680
But I already have online friends, anon.
I want real life friends to chill.
>>28920760
not trying to listen to the whole fucking hour
where to start?
If you don't naturally make friends just existing, you're not ever going to make a true friend. This whole "do this, do that" bullshit is just selling you false hopes. You either have the personality to have friends or you don't, there's no real in-between.
You will need to have at least 30% normie qualities to your personality in order to obtain friends, because you'll never to be able to connect and emphasize with normie issues.
>>28920889
I think it's like the second or third segment so try around 15-20 minutes in.
The first segment is pretty interesting too it's about a woman whose boyfriend kept committing identity theft against her for years and she kept falling for it.
>>28920973
Starts at 17:00
Thanks bud
>>28920955
this thread reveals so much truth
I have never been able to really talk to people never made friendships much less get a gf
What do you do if you are lonely and never able to interact with people at the same time?
>>28920955
this is true but it comes naturally to a lot of people as adults rather than right away. most of the complete fucking losers in my high school turned everything around in college or a few years later, but they couldn't say a word in my classes to anyone.
but yeah you can't tell anyone or help them out with this shit. it's just about taking the time to find people like you or becoming more like them.
>filthy
take a shower, wash your clothes and wear underarm deoderant. DON'T spray yourself with cologne or Lynx.
>NEET with no connections
Go to social events or activity groups relevant to your interests. Also don't be afraid to talk to people just randomly on the street or ont he bus, but don't be that autist that tries to start a conversation with everyone or hit on ever girl you see.
Meeting people is easy, the hard part is relating to normal people with jobs and lives when you have neither. Cause most of what people talk about is their work, their friends, their relationships, and are constantly on their smartphones socializing and will think its weird no one ever texts you and you just look at your phone too check the time.
>>28920760
>>28920973
This is pretty fucking depressing
tl;rd: the secret to making friends as an adult is to memorize sports facts and hang out at bars. That's the conclusion they arrive at.
>>28920836
I can't tell if you are being saracastic or not.
I'm confident in my theory, but there's evidence to the contraty I'd be delighted to hear it.
Which country do you live in?
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>>28920264
Volunteer places, go take classes at a college, go to the gym, get a job, etc.
>>28920955
After quitting fapping my symptoms of autism are minimized, and my natural social confidence and charisma is in full force. So I naturally make friends just existing. But I don't actually do things with or talk to people except if we meet by chance in public or at an event, since everything normies want to do costs money, and while today for example, I was outside for 9 hours going for long walks, eating alone, and riding transit I can't imagine spending the whole day with someone and us not getting bored of or annoying each other. When I just see freinds by chance for brief periods no one knows that I'm an autistic NEET loser and people assume I'm just a regular albeit quirky guy.
>>28921349
not sarcastic
I guess you could see the post that way
but no my life is really fucked I agree with you and I have no friends at 26
>>28920264
You don't. Get a job and a car you worthless faggot.
>>28921376
>go take classes at a college
Been doing that for 3 years. Classmates =/= friends, they will not talk to you outside of the one class you have with them
>go to the gym
Are you retarded? Just go up and talk to somebody while he's doing his set?
Everybody has headphones in nowadays anyways
>get a job
see "classmates"
Nobody wants to be friends with NEET. Get yourself together and put some value into your own life
>>28921439
stupid advice, just be so rich you don't need to work and ride in a chauffeured sedan
>>28921442
yes, this is correct information
I get this normie advice form family members, sometimes
god dam leave me alone that is not how society works!!!!!!!!
>>28921467
no one wants to be friends with a careercuck, they're always busy working, too tired form working all day to do anything, and frantically running errands on their days off.
>>28921442
>he's saying dumb shit revealing that he hasn't been in a classroom or a job for years, possibly decades
listen if you are just lazy, admit it. you could always just go to social events on occasion if you want to hang out without the responsibility of getting to know people.
>>28921403
How many times per day did you fap and how long did you spend fapping every day?
>>28921439
>have 2 cars
>have job
>still no friends
>still no gf
Shit advice
>>28921529
It's possible to be in between
>>28921529
So fucking true. I'm a NEET and my best friend is a careercuck and this describes him to a T.
>get a job
>new job tell you that employees aren't allowed to hook up.
what the fucking fuckkkkk
>>28921552
About four to seven times a day, two minutes to several hours.
>>28921557
Then you aren't trying at all. Next step is to get a hobby, join a club, and force yourself to be social.
>>28921648
I'm not that guy, but what's the point of trying? Just going to get embarrassed and/or letdown.
>>28921636
>this is the type of people spamming the no fap meme
I literally fap for 5 minutes, once every 2 or 3 days. And I got told on here by some internet expert that I should quit doing that and do no-fap.
Mother fucker, we aren't all spending hours everyday fapping.
>>28921736
Lmao, you got trolled kid. That wasn't him. It was me. Hahah, I love being an imposter, muwahhhaa. Holy shit I'm laughing so hard i'm crying oh wow
>>28921648
Clubs aren't as common as you people seem to think. The only ones that exist are either in college settings or are for senior citizens.
>>28921736
Person you replied to was someone else, but I concur, and you are right: Only people who really NEED nofap are serious hardcore extreme masturbation champions, but I still say that everyone can benefit from cutting out fapping from their lives.
>>28921648
Lol I've done those things too and still nothing.
No fap made me feel terrible
I was so horny it only made me feel worse for being alone
>>28921758
This.
Besides that, if you live in Northern Europe, nobody is interested to make new friends with strangers from a 'club'. Everybody minds their own business
>>28921800
same buddy.
I get this weird flushed feeling when I'm on nofap.
It's really quite uncomfortable.
>>28921426
>but no my life is really fucked I agree with you and I have no friends at 26
Good to hearthat you agree with me, not that you're in that situation
>>28921800
How long did you last? Did you abstain from all fapping or still edge/frot yourself on the bed? Were you still watching porn?
I have felt that way before, but this time I did not have that phase, likely both because I masturbated so much it caused pain in my balls, prostate and perenium muscles, and I have been practicing kundalini yoga, which channels sexual energy from the lower 2 chakras to your third eye. So I am very calm and feel better than I ever have in my life. Also extremely emotionally resilient, I can never get sad or angry for more than a few minutes on rare occasions. Only time I felt super horny was sometimes when I woke up with raging morning wood, but both the erection and lust subsides right after getting out of bed.
If you can make it through the rage/frustration phase you will see the light. You don't have to do yoga, but there are many other mind-body exercise rituals that will help with relaxation and happiness.
>>28921889
can you describe it? Not trying to intentionally derail threads to talking about nofap, counting the days on my shitposts is just another habit to reinforce my new lifestyle changes. I'll keep counting for a year or 1000 days
>>28921800
Same here.
I was on no-fap for 10 days.
I actually felt pure sadness for the first time. It didn't have any positive effects like all the memers claim.
I turned into a little bitch that was constantly sad. At least when I'm getting my daily fap in, I don't worry about being alone.
No fapping doesn't just magically make your personality better, or magically make you look better to other people, or make you more outgoing. That's all fucking broscience.
>>28921914
I dropped everything for a month
The actual abstaining from fapping was fine but when I would go outside and see girls walking around (even fat ugly ones) it made me feel bad because I wanted to fuck them but knew I couldn't.
>>28921969
Thats because you were already depressed, lonely, constantly sad. One of the first things I noticed after a week every time was that emotions are experienced more crisp and clear. Fapping dulls your emotionality and numbs your whole life experience like you are walking around in a haze and your brain is foggy.
A better way of saying it is that quitting fapping reveals your true nature, shows you what is really going on with you that you have been repressing and denying. Don't discount if if you feel like total shit, because liberating yourself from masturbation is the first necessary step to any genuine and lasting transformation. If you feel bad about yourself, find out why, and find out how to fix it- without retreating back into the familiar temporary comfort of masturbation.
>>28922274
You sound like a reformed smoker. Or someone on /fit/ who claims squats cure everything from colds to cancer. Life just isn't that simple.
>>28922309
He's right though. Masturbation is a distraction from the reality of your shit life.
You masturbate so you don't have to face the reality of your life every day.
Masturbation prevents you from being sad that you are alone, it allows you to not need to pursue a relationship.
You are just making excuses now
>>28922274 is completely right.
>>28922453
You don't get it.
If I stop fapping (I only fap once per day, for 5 minutes) I stop being able to function in everyday life, everything around me falls apart, what I do have going for me I start losing.
I become too depressed to lift, I become too depressed to stick to my nutrition, I become too depressed to wake up for work.
Fapping once a day for 5minutes literally keeps the positive things going for me in life.
The moment I remove fapping all I think about is women and not having one and I just stop wanting to do anything in life.
There's no reason I will ever stop fapping until I get a female to fuck to replace it.
>>28921981
I felt this way before, but like times when I feel very horny when i wake up, it quickly passes. I focus on the positive when I see women, and just enjoy simply looking at their bodies.
So I guess the key thing here is to also stop fantasizing about having sex with everyone like you do when browsing the pornosphere. And am sure there are other factors that play into my experience, like being self-confident, not actually wanting sex, and not seeing women as privatizable entities. I like to share my experience, and many have thanked me for helping them, but its impossible to get what it in my head into yours. Like its impossible to teach someone to become Zen, they only way to become Zen is to reach it on your own.
>>28922309
Well he or you sounded like they were scared to face their emotions and used it as an excuse to go back to their addiction. Having never-before-seen clarity in your life when quitting fapping is something I read constantly in people's reports of their nofap experience, which echoes my own, so I can confidently say that this is actually the case, and it is not because abstaining from masturbation makes you depressed. I don't know why you're depressed, but if you try again and at least break your personal record, developing such self control is something you should be happy about.
Also Frankincense essential oil is such a cure-all, breathing in vapors from a diffuser or even just putting a few drops in boiling water and breathing in the steam could alleviate depression. Doctors even say that putting a few drops on your tongue and licking the roof of your mouth twice a day cures brain cancer. Doesn't help you quit fapping though, and a few times I actually used the diluted frankincense+jojoba skincare oil to masturbate.
>>28922498
So fapping is your way of distracting yourself from your deep-rooted happiness.
Which probably stems from not having a girlfriend.
Maybe you should change your priorities.
As much as this board would like to think, having a girlfriend isn't the most important thing in the world.
You are the most important thing in your world.
Improve yourself, learn to be happy in yourself.
>>28922641
Just out of interest,
Do you exercise regularly?
Do you eat clean?
>>28922498
>>28922498
>There's no reason I will ever stop fapping until I get a female to fuck to replace it.
You are beyond help until you change your attitude/perspective on this. The bigger picture to consider is that its not just masturbation addiction but addiction to sexual release (orgasm and ejaculation) that controls your life. You will never be free, and most men are not because they are slaves to their libido and need to cum. Human beings have the unique ability to transcend this nature and be more than just simple creatures that crave food sleep and sex.
For me it is easier than most to acheive this transcendence because I never want to rick having children when I don't want them, which is probably never, and I have a particularly noticeable "post ejaculatory slump" where I feel disgust towards sex after a few minutes of afterglow (something reported by others at least 1000 times on 4chan) and would never want to feel that way in the presence of a women even if wasn't too worried about getting her pregnant to have sex int he first place.
>implying
I'm a virgin and Ok with it, but I suggest that if I even become sexually intimate with a woman again, I could probe her G spot if she wants to get off, and we can bond physically by intimate cuddling, and doing various tantric breath meditations that feel even better than sex. There is one ritual where you can get your spine to vibrate and all the blood rushes to your head and you pass out for a few seconds as your whole body convulses in "orgasm." I read about it in a book about tantric sex suggesting doing it with penis in vagina, but I did it masturbating, and then with just my breath, not even touching my dick and no erection. Pure bliss, so powerful I rarely actually do it, and there are lots of other kriyas I do in yoga class that give you pleasant lightheaded feeling that I'm satisfied and don't feel the need to do it. Also I'm a low attention span lazyass and rarely actually practice at home.
>>28922685
I walk at least 2 hours a day, often much more, and do dynamic kundalini yoga and similar stuff very often, 5 classes a week usually. I eat super healthy, lots of vegetables, lean meat, organic dairy, cod and salmon, whole grains, and also tumeric, ginger and cayenne pepper- although I also indulge in lots of cookies, cake and (natural)cola and sweetened tea/coffee beverages.
>>28922860
Hey, I've been trying to do NoFap recently, but every time I try, I do it for about a week or so and then relapse badly.
This goes for eating clean and going to the gym to.
Do you have any tips on how to be more self-disciplined and motivated so I can do NoFap, go to the gym and eat well consistently?
>>28923067
>Hey, I've been trying to do NoFap recently, but every time I try, I do it for about a week or so and then relapse badly.
Sounded a lot like me for most of the past several years. Like I said, if I wasn't in all sorts of pain from muscle strain/overuse due to fapping, I'd probably still be fapiing 7 times a day and edging to porn for 4 hours in between. Fapping for just a few minutes to completion once a day is normal, and if you can actually practice moderation and stick to that without fapping until your balls hurt, its not much of a problem for you, but obviously still an addiction, and something that should be eliminated if possible.
>This goes for eating clean and going to the gym to.
>Do you have any tips on how to be more self-disciplined and motivated so I can do NoFap, go to the gym and eat well consistently?
I quit fapping because I couldn't control myself and it was literally destroying my life. I was never able to do it with moderation- every time I relapsed, within a week, a day, or even an hour I was back to cumming until my balls hurt and edging to porn all night. Knowing this, that the only way to free myself from the addiction is to completely stop, cemented my all or nothing approach to the problem. Most people like yourself actually want to enjoy masturbating and having sex, whereas I resolved my masturbation problem by declaring complete abstinence from all masturbation, like reverting back to when I didn't even know how to masturbate, yet still was attracted to girls since I was at least 5 years old
>there are still people trying to spread the no fap propaganda
top kek
depriving yourself of a basic need isn't gonna magically make your life better if anything it's gonna make it worse cuz you're constantly cucking yourself
and speaking of friends, they're annoying cuz you're forced to do small talk, and what not but at the same time u need friends in modern society, or I guess you always needed friends
How do I join a cult?
get hobbies and meet new people through them
you have to make an effort with people, organize things and invite them
you need to fix the mental health problems you might have because depression or anxiety make things much harder for you and mask your real self with negative emotions that others dont enjoy being around
Join a club or a team sport. This way you will make friends and stay fit.
>>28924267
>basic need
No. I went the first 14 years of my life without it, and never would have done it in the first place if it hadn't been for a friend to tell me I was supposed to make white stuff come out when I got a boner. No man needs any more "sexual release" than will happen naturally while sleeping. There is good reason why all religions of the new and old world suggest a man only ever ejaculate for the sole purpose of procreation.
>>28924539
before puberty it's not a need, but once you hit puberty you need sex or you start getting depressed at not having any
>>28924856
People need food, water, oxygen and sleep. No one needs sex. Not now, not ever.
As I attempted to explain, people who get depressed without sex or wanking are just depressed people period. I for one am the happiest I ever been in my life when not masturbating, and even before quitting fapping, the times I felt most content are when I just completely forget about sexuality altogether. Usually this happens when my mind is preoccupied with other things- I noticed this once when I was thinking about money, and women, sex, boobs, ass, cuddling, falling in love, etc hadn't crossed my mind for quite some time. Naturally this also happens often when in yoga/meditation practice, unless there is attractive woman there with some skin revealed of course.
>>28925029
it's very difficult to not obsess about sex when you can't get any, nofap might work short term, but if you dont start getting laid it will be a lot tougher than you think
thats why priests rape little boys, and straight prison inmates fuck each other, sex is a need for males like food and water
Three words:
Magic the Gathering
Or any /tg/ related hobby.
Everybody is a sweaty nerd there, they won't judge you.
College is an alright place to meet folks as well.
>>28925199
there is difference between repressing sexual desire and transcending it
Repressing: Sex is bad, I must not think about it or do it. I feel guilty for having sexual urges.
Transcending: Sex is natural, sexual thoughts and urges are natural, but I don't have to act upon them, and I accept my heterosexuality, but it does not control me
>>28920264
Try getting into warhammer or an other tabletop game. Find a gameshop/club nearby. People there can be nice and understanding, and most of them are not even turbo autists, just average guys
>>28925378
interesting post. thanks for this.
>>28925208
>Everybody is a sweaty nerd there, they won't judge you.
SJWs have taken over unfortunately, and yeah, they will judge you, and kick you out, and ruin your life, if you're not in the clique.
>>28925208
It is not really that easy for some /tg/ related hobbies but Magic the Gathering is the safest way to meet people, just go to a store with your deck and there will be people who want to play just ask if they want to play, but other ones like are very social clique bs.
>>28920300
Pfffft yeah. Right autistic robot here food mew friends when I started work, don't worry anon just don't ne yourself and when you get home drink to numb the pain,works for me.
>>28925378
could you use another person like a fuckslut to transcend sex just from sheer amount?
>>28922962
>healthy
>animal products
Don't kid yourself, go all the way or don't bother.
>>28925199
People become priests in order to abuse as they're in a position of unquestionable power.
For inmates it's just about domination, it's sexual violence not romantic.
Your examples suck more pecker than an alter boy.
interpals.net
As long as you're white bitches will want to talk to you and you don't even need any social skills
>>28927310
>healthy
>vegan
Not this meme again.
>>28927310
fucking vegans all over the place,goddamn
>>28922860
>There is one ritual where you can get your spine to vibrate and all the blood rushes to your head and you pass out for a few seconds as your whole body convulses in "orgasm."
Do you have any links?
>>28920264
School or work. Or drugs.
