Non-virgin sex-havers, what is life like for you? Do you feel like you belong in the world?
Sex is overrated man
why would slipping my dick into some random hole influence my feelings towards my outlook on life
>>28629628
This. Its good but it did not solve any problem of mine besides being a virgin.
>>28629609
No, getting laid once every half year does literally nothing to make life better. It's sad to see retard here waste their life obsessing over it.
It's pretty good. Two kids, husband, work part time so I can stay home during the day with my kids.
overrated
after the first time your world will collapse because you realize how boring and meaningless it is
>>28629609
I had sex 4 years ago. TeeBeH it feels like it never happened. I tried being in a new relationship and she got tired having to teach me how to kiss properly, I still shake when I talk to people from anxiety, and I cannot keep a conversation going. I have one friend and spend all my time on the computer.
I mean i guess it's a nice thing to have crossed off, but it sure doesn't change you into this amazing life-having god.
>>28629609
It's pretty good, it's like the best part of your day when you get it but it's not a big deal really. However before I lost it my virginity it really affected me so I get how you feel
>>28629609
>obsess over not having had sex
>finally have it at age 22
>afterwards my first thought is "thats it?"
In hindsight I dont know what I expected. Now I know its not worth it
I can see why people who haven't had sex would consider themselves faliures, but it doesn't really change anything. You're just a failure who had sex.
T b H I still spend more time thinking about the girls I could have had sex with if I hadn't been such a beta faggot.
Its not sex that is important. Its having sex with someone you love and care deeply about. Degenerates will not understand this feel and will try to fill their void with it. I had a one night stand once and it was empty, like mutual masturbation. But every time I have sex with my girlfriend it feels like I get more close to her.
Sex is overrated, love is not.
Everyone chases after something, and it's never ending. There are very few people at peace with themselves.
It's human to obsess and want more.
For you guys, it's sex, for others, it's another room addition, or a new home, or a new boat, or some other shit.
Be happy with where you are, now, or never be happy at all.
>>28629844
I agree with this 100%. I just want somebody to love, who cares about sex. About a year ago a huge stacy, probably one of the hottest on campus, texted me and said she is coming over to spend the night. It was SO clear she wanted to fuck, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. Sex is meaningless without love.
>>28629609
Life is great. Good job, active social life, good mental and physical health, romantic companions. Every day I'm glad to be alive.
Life's shit. I'm a depressed and dropped out of engineering. University is free in my country, so I started studying Japanese in order to hide that I dropped out. Gave me a reason to a school, and my family doesn't know that I dropped out of engineering. Managed to get a scholarship to study in Japan for a year, now I'm here spending my time getting drunk trying to fuck girls. Doesn't change the fact that I'm a self-loathing failure wasting my time doing nothing. I guess I'm having fun here, but it's all superficial.
>>28629844
love is overrated if you aren't a retard
>>28630099
sounds cool, id love to be in japan. peace brother
>>28629609
>you will never have her sit on your face
>>28629609
No, it's still shit. I just got incredibly lucky. I'm probably worse off now more than anything.
>>28630099
Another reason not to vote for Bernie
Nope. Still want to kill myself daily. Still suffer from severe depression.
I have a gf and all it does is make me constantly worry about hurting her or fucking up her life.
>>28629609
Definitely cured some angst
Still have many many issues. More than when I was a virgin but I guess this is aging
>>28629609
Not at all good, I can only shag ugly hags so I end up faking a orgasm some 70% of the time...I think I have more pleasure doing the crosswords than with sex...but well, it's a easy way to burn some 5 hours of your day and have some social interaction
>>28630285
>more pleasure doing the crosswords
That's great. Seems like something most of britain would agree with.
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>>28629628
>Sex/relationships/intimacy is overrated guys
>Oh, but you still can't have it though
If it's overrated, then why is it still SO FUCKING DIFFICULT for me to get anywhere near even doing so much as kissing a girl?
>>28630342
Sorry, bro. I was cursed with good looks I didn't grow into until 18 or 19yo. I was ugly until then.
I say cursed because my good looks have brought me nothing but the fleeting and ultimately depressing attention of shallow whores, feelings of extreme inadequacy, worthlessness, and the scorn and disdain of my fellow robot.
OP do you have the frontal view of that girl? Her buttcheeks are 10/10, amazingly plush.
>>28630327
This shit is dope, I'm with two books by my side right now
>>28629609
No.
Sex feels like some kind of alien act that isn't natural and I'm being pressured into doing by society and the person of interest. Maybe I'm just submissive or something, but taking the initiative and throwing some chick around and pounding her feels like a fucking facade and I've never gotten past that feeling with the 4 girls I've been with.
Just as a note, I haven't had sex in a year and didn't for several years before that
lost virginity at 25. its pretty good but makes you realize all the pressure you put on yourself about it wasn't warrented. also gave me a small confidence boost, as I had previously believed no girl would ever possibly want to be with me and so I gave up without ever really trying, but I learned that wasn't really true.
>>28630409
I don't, sorry. I saved it from a thread on here.
>>28630489
Completely agreed, honestly I blame it on circumcision. Think about it, taking away the foreskin removes the normal sliding motion and thus reduces sensation during sex dramatically. It's so fucked up how female circumcision has been illegal for two decades but male circumcision is still forced and legal.
>>28630342
I think most fellas who say this probably have a shitty experience losing their virginity or do it completely drunk or something.
From a purely physically point of view sex is overrated but there is a lot more to it than that
I lost my virginity at 22 to a gorgeous girl. She was funny, charming and instantly made me feel comfortable. It changed me significantly for the better.
I slept with another girl the very next night hehe :P
>>28630489
>Sex feels like some kind of alien act that isn't natural
haha I found the complete opposite, when I was fucking for the first time I thought this is the most natural instinct I have ever felt
>>28629746
>not worth it
Not worth what? Did you actually put effort into it?
Sex is a bi-product of enjoying the company of women.
If you were actually working and doing things you didn't want to do in order to have sex then of course it's not worth it.
How does sex happen?
>>28630342
because girls are overrated ofc
>>28630556
What? I liked the girl of course, but sex just wasnt what I had built it up in my mind to be. Have had sex a couple of times, but it just made me lose interest in it.
>25
>have had sex with 30 girls
>have not had a real relationship in 5 years
>have only loved 2 out of those 30, both of whom cucked me
>will probably never have another meaningful relationship and continue coasting on vapid, dumb sluts
who needs marriage anyway right guys?
>>28630696
ask me how i know you're white
>>28629609
Not yet because I still live with my parents and am not working.
But having sex gets you closer to f
I hate sex itself, but I have a lot of fetishes I get off on
>>28630618
pennis --> vagine x10 = big cummies :)
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>>28630342
>>28629746
I think it's a riot when someone tries to dismiss something as 'not worth the trouble' or 'overrated' when they don't have any idea it's all about themselves. You can't write off the taste of chocolate as 'overrated' because you ate a snickers.
Sure, when I lost my virginity it was a disappointment too. But like anything, it's a skill that needs honing. Sex is a minefield of sensation, emotion and psychology, and everyone will have different definitions for it. Those that are really passionate about it will tell you that while you can get pretty 'good' at it, it's never something you can really pin down to an exact science. And that's a good thing, because if it was, it would get pretty boring pretty fast. It's not overrated, it's one of the best things you can experience as a human. And you suck.
>>28629609
When I was a virgin I was 16, 17, 18. Lost my virginity at 18. I was a naive and underdeveloped boy. Still pretty robot though. Kept myself quiet, didn't have friends, the only social circle I was part of played yugioh and had geeky shit. Some guys in that circle allowed their girlfriends inside it. They were mostly high school drop outs and I generally spent more time with them until that's all I did. Any who, met my ex among them. Lost virginity. Then spent 2 grueling years with her. Still did nothing for myself.
After we broke up, I felt like shit about myself. I was 20, needed a job, needed to do something with my life, as my ex pointed out a shit ton of shit that I needed to work on. Like my education for example. I ended up speaking with some girls on /soc/ meet up threads and I always was a horny guy that liked to sweet talk with girls online. Except that's all I was. In person I wasn't all that assertive. Met two girls which ended abruptly. Started looking for jobs after that, where I ended up meeting this other girl at a party I went to because one of the girls in my old social circle invited me. I wanted to get better at socializing so I went. Met this other girl I ended up being friends with, who also ended up being my oneitis. Her ex came back into the picture pretty soon though and I found a job through door to door sales right after so I said fuck it and focused on that life style, working across the province of Ontario until I realised that my oneitis started to really like me. She had complications with her ex, and she was probably looking for another person. In any case, that person was not me. After they eventually broke up, she got with this other guy she met at an event, and I had shifted sales jobs. Tried tinder and dating sites to get over her. Met some hot girls. Realised skills I picked up in sales REALLY helped with speaking to women. Except I was still very much a robot personally. My sales persona is just a mask.
cont
>>28630843
>It's not overrated, it's one of the best things you can experience as a human
Tell that to the normies
>>28629679
similar experience. losing virginity doesn't really do anything for you
>>28630897
Yeah, and keep categorizing your entire being as a 'robot' to avoid having to learn, change or adapt to anything to actually get what you want in life. Despite being a creature that is fundamentally well suited to learning, changing and adapting.
>>28630863
I have a lot of people I can consider friends but I'm a complete underdog and widely nicknamed
I was kissless until last month
>>28630863
So when I turned 23 in December of 2014, I ended up talking to a really cool chick on OKC. We met and instantly clicked, except I was unintentionally using my sales persona. Personally, I was very aloof, still very uneducated, especially regarding sass and sarcasm, things my ex really enjoyed using. Yet I ended up having an 8 month long thing with her. Ended up taking her virginity. Yet, she couldn't fall in love with me and saw many reasons why she wouldn't want to "invest her time" with me anymore.
And now here I am. Back in a miserable stupor, that same place I was in when I had that shitty break up, in that same place when I realised that my oneitis wasn't going to date me even though she liked to basically be naked around me and sexually tease me. The kicker though is that I am currently dating a girl I met on Tinder, but she seems incredibly aloof and not like my ex, where I realised that I really enjoyed my ex's logical and rational reasoning and thinking, and although at times she was cold and distant she was very balanced with affection, and this girl I am currently seeing is just too emotional. So I am still looking for women for me to date and to experience the benefits of being a young fit male. Even though it means having to sift through hours of bull shit just to find any yielding results.
So basically moral of the story is that whether you have sex or not, it just doesn't matter. Only difference you'll experience is the understanding of the female anatomy, what girls like in the bedroom, and how girls are in a sexual mood. And just simple social dynamics regarding the people you meet, how they behave with their friends and family, what their structures are like, and in the end it makes you reflect on what you have and makes you think about whether you want to change or improve anything.
I'm currently working somewhat stable jobs, and have improved my social skills slightly, but still feel miserably alone and hated at my jobs.
>>28629609
I've never had proper sex. I either cum in less than a minute or don't cum at all. The actual act of sex scares the shit out of me now. So if anything it made me feel worse than before.
The only good thing about it was that the girl I was fucking was actually really cute, and that gives me bragging rights. I never really satisfied her, though.
>>28630971
Even if I did change, why would anyone settle for me?
>>28630342
Sex isn't overrated dude, trust me it isn't. I'm outing myself as a normie here but it's for your own good guys. Sex feels incredible and I'll take vaginal penetration over masturbation any day of the week. Even pulling out and cumming is still better, the only thing that comes remotely close is fucking my onahole between my mattress and boxspring, and the only reason I even do that is because I've been spoiled by sex. I'll tell you what IS overrated and thats losing your virginity to someone you don't care about. I lost mine to some random slut when I was camping at a resort and regret not doing it with someone I cared about, they don't have to be the love of my life or anything just someone other than a drunk teen. I have no idea why people here insist that sex is this overrated act that doesn't change anything, maybe if you're an emotionless nihilist but then why are you even fucking in the first place?
>>28631201
>I'll tell you what you guys already know! It's for your own good guys!
>>28631250
Just doing my part ;)
>>28631357
I'm sorry to inform you but you don't do it very well.
>>28631055
Well this comes down to the act of changing. For instance, if you're changing because you're seeking to better your life as a whole, this is an admirable characteristic and will be seen as such. You'll find that you meet people and make friends based on the things you enjoy doing, and for the basic virtue of who you are. No-one will be 'settling' for you, just like you won't be 'settling' for them. You'll end up being around certain people in a pretty logical and mutual sense- your lives are bettered by one another's company.
If however, you decide to change purely for the sake of someone else (getting a girlfriend, for instance), this will demonstrate a lack of self respect, and come across as low value.
Everyone knows that people (not just women) admire people who are driven, know what they're doing and why they're doing it. These kind of people tend to be born leaders. To harness these virtues you don't look at what everyone else wants from you. You examine yourself, and find out what it is YOU want. Some of these choices can be so simple. Maybe you want to be a good swimmer. So just get in the god damn pool. You'll encounter a ton of problems from the get-go, but every problem has an answer. Several answers in fact. Just ask google.
>what is life like for you?
Pretty awful but occasionally broken up by brief joy from sex/drugs
>Do you feel like you belong in the world?
Does anyone, really?
I certainly don't
To all the KV's out there, sex isn't overrated, it's bloody great, but it is pretty meaningless when compared to real long term accomplishments in life.
If I could go back and study in school instead of fucking club sluts then I definitely would.
>>28630342
If it's overrated then it's not as good as people say. If it's not really that good, why would people be interested in it?
"Why is it so fucking difficult" ---> people aren't pursuing it because it's not that good. Everything logically checks out. You didn't raise a counter point at all, you said something that completely makes sense within the framework of the proposition
>>28631395
I see your point. I feel it's too late for me to change anything though, no one respects someone who starts at square one at my age.
>>28631448
Admittedly, when people say "sex is overrated" I'm pretty sure they're only referring to it's rating in certian modern media and cultures where it's portrayed as the be all and end all of ones life.
I mean, it's not as good as people say it is, but people say it's really really really good, it's still really good.
>>28631480
This
When people say "sex is overrated" they're by no means saying it's bad. Just because it's massively over hyped in the media doesn't mean it's not still pretty amazing in reality anyway.
No one belongs in the world.
No one got the privilege of asking to be born for a purpose.
The only thing we can belong to is a piece of the world we carve out ourselves.
Some people do that by falling in love and having a family. They belong as father's and mothers, and find purpose. Sex will help you in that regard, obviously.
That's not the only way to make something of yourself and to belong, but it's probably the easiest.
No I don't, I just fuck an escort every couple of months and jack it everyday in between.
Question to other BP users are those Asain escorts legit? Cause I would def call one if they're legit
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>>28631463
Don't you see that you're still thinking about what others want from you rather than what YOU want? If YOU want something, to hell with what anyone else thinks. That's the seed of what makes a great man, a great leader, and what in turn commands respect.
No matter how late you think it is, it's better than stagnating. Don't think about how long the road is in front of you, man. That alone has stopped countless people from achieving their full potential, regardless of age. Just begin to take steps towards achieving what it is you want. Hell, you might end up somewhere completely different than where you imagined you would. Either way, it would never have happened if you'd never taken those first steps.
>>28630342
It's because you should be looking at it as a side project in your life. It's incredibly demanding to cultivate a relationship as well as a healthy sex life with that woman, and ultimately it is supposed to lead into having children/family life. You are there to work for it and build something.
The feeling at the time is a bit better than jerking it, sometimes. With the overload of work put in to receive, as well as the consequences afterward many of which I didn't even touch on in this post, make it quite simply overrated, and far more hassle than it's worth. Advice to all virgins: get an escort, not a gf.
>>28630843
Nah it's overrated
>>28629609
>Non-virgin sex-havers, what is life like for you? Do you feel like you belong in the world?
Shit
No
Didn't have sex in months tho
Will probably get to eat out a qt girl next week and she might even hit me with a crop
Feels nice
>>28631663
But the thing is, you are what other think you are. What's the point of doing something I want when it won't make people like me?
You will find that most of the people are happy to remind you that you are not worth much unless you have something to offer in return, be it looks, money, validation, etc.
>>28630099
r9k stories are better than watching series or reading books
>soon being a virgin over the age of 20 will be a punishable crime
>mfw
>>28630434
dont cut your fingernails that deep
>>28629609
Sex after a childhood spent fapping was pretty dissapointing. Don't think of sex as the goal, it wont fill your emptiness, what you need to do is build something every day. Vidya can fulfill you with imaginary achievments, but there's nothing like building your own shed, writing a program or self improvement through martial arts/learning. That's how you feel a part of the world.
Sex with a girl you love, no condom, after a few months of no fap, now that's something
>>28631973
If the normies made virginity punishable by death, the world would become a better place overnight.
>>28630342
something being difficult is in no way related to its worth.
I have a girlfriend with whom I have sex with around 1-3 times a day, about 3-7 days a week depending on our schedules. It's not everything. It fulfills my need for sex and for emotional intimacy, but it doesn't fix my inability to enjoy a lot of the same shit my peers do. it doesn't fix my social anxiety. it doesn't fix anything, really. It's just another crutch in your support system that hopefully enables you to deal with these problems yourself.
>>28629844
100%
I love my wife. every other sexual encounter.....little better than wanking tbqhfamolio
>>28630400
>fellow robot
>fellow
You are no brother of mine
