I'm so incredibly desperate for female contact, 23 years and I've never even hugged a girl, I'm going insane. It's on my mind at every waking moment now, I cant do anything anymore without drifting off into depression over this
I just never leave my house, I spend all of my time online, I literally do not know how to make friends and certainly have no clue how to meet women. I know there's tinder but I don't want some whore, I just want a normal girl to interact with, I don't even care about sex at this point
Does anyone have any suggestions? What do I do? Where do I go? I have no friends so social settings like a bar is not a good idea I think, I'd probably look like some loser being there all alone, not that they'd be wrong.
Have you ever thought of the downsides of a gf?
Like the fear of her leaving you, the pressure for you to perform sexually, monetarily, and emotionally, and/or all the fucking attention, time, and support you have to give her?
>>28576619
What a sound argument.
>>28576670
Not saying it's anything great, and I wasn't arguing lol so chill, but it was just something I think about myself to stave off the loneliness
>>28576158
It all honestly depends on how low you're willing to crank the quality settings down on your standards. Unless you're the top-tieriest of Chads, no skill or look will get you an angelic, perfect maiden that most of this board's population wantsnot in this lifetime anyway. The more you do so the higher your pool of potential gfs.
How high are your standards?
>>28576747
I want a girl that actually talks to me. No one word replys. I want to feel like talking to a person and not to a wall. Also it would be nice if she wasn't repulsive, so like 2/10 upwards.
Thats it. Everything else is "extra", like having similar interests, her being funny, her being good/mediocre looking.
>>28576158
You need some sort of social interaction first, anon. You have to train yourself to feel comfortable around others just the same way you are comfortable being alone in front of a computer screen.
Hire one of these girls to cuddle with you for a few hours every week. Explain your situation and watch a movie together. It will be awkward but it's a start.
>>28576847
Where are you looking? I'm a bit in the same boat as you, as well as many of the people on this board I'm sure, that none of us know the first step of a place to look. Maybe we, as a collective, can brainstorm a plan?
But you're right. No girl of value will turn up at a bar or on Tinder. Not unless it's a miracle. At this point I believe the only way to get a good girl is either through a religious setting (ex. church), or going to a country with strict standards for upbringingor just hasn't been spoiled by western culture(ie Japan, China, Poland(?), Germany, Norway, Kyrgyzstan, etc.)
>>28577000
>germany
>norway
>not spoiled by western culture
wat
>>28577000
>strict standards for upbringing
>Germany
I got news for you buddynice trips tho
>>28577064
>>28577068
Alright maybe I was a bit wrong with Germany but what is wrong with Norway exactly? I've met a few femanons (not from 4chan) from Norway and they seem like some level-headed gals.
>>28576158
get job
get fit
get independent
make friends on the way
friends take u to social gatherings
boom u got gf
go with the flow dont overthink things if you do something emberassing and stupid laugh it off and act like nothing happened. And number 1 thing is to not be an edgelord in public. You should be fine OP.
>>28577756
>lol what are variables
>its this easy bro
Before you say that I'm dodging responsibility: I understand the need for willpower, but you what you are doing is providing the ends, not the means. Everything you posted was a goal in itself, not a roadmap to get to one.
And if all of that IS what it takes to get a girlfriend then holy shit it isn't worth itand I'm already the first 3.plus girls don't want "fit" guys. they either want completely muscle-bound ripped guys or dudes that have girl-like bodyframes
r/nofap
r/seduction
r/bodywe
r/malefashionadvice
if you don't do these religiously for a year you are not allowed to complain
godspeed anon
>>28578625
r/bodyweightfitness
Do you think youll find a gf here?
>>28576158
i'm 20 and same here bro
>>28576158
Its really not worth it. Relationships are just pain in the end.
>>28578625
Fuck the year I give him 4 months and he'll find his first gf. He'll want to UPGRADE in an year.
>>28578625
No offense but subreddits like /r/seduction and /r/TRP I would not fucking recommend because they do worse than better for you in the long term and although have some right elements are hugely playing on selection biases and kills your ability to be affectionate
>>28578625
>unironically linking to reddit
>unironically telling a depressed guy on the verge of killing himself to stop fapping and deny himself the only pleasue in life he gets
>>28579348
>no offense
when did reddit take over the board
How did no one suggest hookers yet?
>>28577756
>get job
>get fit
>get independent
>make friends on the way
>friends take u to social gatherings
>boom u got gf
This is true except if you are a manlet, Indian or extremely ugly. I know from experience.
What efforts did you do yet, OP?
>>28577756
why do people have girlfriends even if they are not independent and they have no job?
>>28576747
>tfw your standards are just skinny and short and you can't even get that...
>>28578625
>all of this Reddit garbage
1/10 smdh pham
You're a lost cause OP. Accept that life is unfair bullshit and be /2d/.
>>28576158
>I just never leave my house, I spend all of my time online,
Here's your problem boyo.
Had the internet not been invented you'd probably have a gf by now. Blame your parents
>>28580225
>This is true except if you are a manlet
What's the cutoff for manlet
>stand very still at work
>grille talks to me about normie things
>absolutely stutter the fuck out of the first word I say
>quickly recover and attempt bare minimum of saying bland normie attempts, weak jokes and eye contact
>successfully hid my power level for one more day and probably just made myself look like a quiet and uninteresting person
She was really cute, had all these cute girl mannerisms and body language when doing everything.
I caught myself involuntarily smiling after the conversation and had to quickly pull my facial muscles in control since even though I was facing away most of the time. The mere fact that a cute female had engaged in banal conversation with me to pass the boredom and had laughed at a weak joke instead me horribly fucking up things triggered those smiles. I don't even mean for it to happen it just does.
>>28576158
Seek professional help. And I'm not using that term as an euphemism for "go see a psychiatrist", although doing so might help so; I'm saying find an escort girl, a compensated dater, or any kind of person whose job is to hang with people for money. Or to help those who are socially inept. You can find those online, just google it.
If seeking help sounds like something you don't want to do, you're either too prideful or don't actually want help.
I think the #1 problem on /r9k/ is that those willing to change want to do so by themselves and not rely on anyone, which is kinda silly since trying to become social by yourself is a void endeavour.
>2016
>Still not making a fake persona to not sound autistic in the real world
Also
>"I know there's tinder but I don't want some whore"
>"I just want a normal girl to interact with, I don't even care about sex at this point"
>Implying women aren't all hypergamous whores
>>28581802
>Implying women aren't all hypergamous whores
They ain't. I even know a girl who'd love nothing but to be a hypergamous whore and not have to bother with her silly sentimentality, consciousness and stuff like that.
As a short and unattractive skinny man I have accepted that every single woman that would ever be willing to date me would only do so out of desperation due to being ugly or a horrible person. It hurts like fuck to accept it because I really do want female attention, but I'm just being realistic. I'd rather be alone and miserable than drop my standards to the absolute bottom rung and then still be rejected all the time.
I went on Tinder and Okcupid for a week and got literally 0 matches, even from really fat ugly girls. I finally got the courage to ask a cute girl out for the first time in my life. I stumbled through it, but got her number anyhow. Was seriously pumped and happy for the first time in a long while, because she seemed interested.
Fast forward to today and I get a text from her coworker that I know saying that she is already in a relationship and just didn't tell me, because she was too nervous or something. I broke down and cried profusely for the first time in many, many years.
I just don't see the point in trying if It's just going to end up like this every time. I think I will probably end up killing myself before I'm 30.
>>28578625
Could you even TRY to pretend that you are not an underage summerfag redditor?
>>28576158
>I have no friends so social settings like a bar is not a good idea I think, I'd probably look like some loser being there all alone, not that they'd be wrong.
Easy solution:
>go to bar alone
>order a few drinks
>get a bit tipsy so youre not a socially awkward faggot anymore
>actually approach people and be like
>i just moved here what cool shit is here to do etc
Nobody will question you being there alone since you "just moved". faggot.
>>28583367
That doesn't work if you're not socially able at all. It takes nerve to actually approach people.
>>28577000
The combined brain power of every autist in the world would not amount to what comes naturally to chad.
