inside im an alpha. but outside im a beta.

my body wants me to act as a dominent figure (alpha), but the anxiety stops me. i used to act like dominent, but now im just hiding. everytime im in a crowded area or if i walk past someone on the street, i try to get the persons attention as far away from me as possible.

>>28473257
I'm not sure how to help you, anon. My problems was that I never knew how to talk to people, but I never had anxiety, so I don't know how to deal with it.

Hey OP, how do I approach a girl who has a longtime bf? Obviously my motives are impure

>>28473417
Uumm, well back when I was into that what I did was I just befriended them and then just stayed their friend until something happened with their bf, or they decided to go have a little bit of fun on the side.

Word of advice though - it never ends well. You will never talk to her after that, and you won't really gain anything out of it either. You're much better off not wasting your time on already taken girls.

>>28472365
I'm in the middle of undergoing exposure and response prevention therapy for OCD. My OCD is mainly focused on homicidal and necrophilic thoughts that are EXTREMELY distressing, obtrusive and difficult to ignore. They are accompanied by urges, or compulsions, to act on the thoughts. The therapy is supposed to reduce my reaction to them, reduce my anxiety, and make it so that when I get the thoughts and urges, they will not bother me the way that they do now.

There is a problem.

In the last couple of weeks my obsession has increased to levels that I didn't think were possible. I am living, breathing and sleeping this shit. When I wake up, the first thing on my mind is the dead. All day I go to cemeteries, draw pictures of me fucking the dead, post about it on imageboards, read stories related to necrophilia, study anatomy and forensics, and of course stalk people and struggle horribly with the urge to attack them and act out these urges.

I talked to my therapist about it today and he told me that with this kind of therapy, it's normal to have an increased level of anxiety and for the obsession to get worse before it gets better.

My long-winded question to you, OP, is what would you do in my situation to reduce the anxiety and feel better, in the short-term? I know that eventually things will get better, but every day right now it's a major struggle to not chain-smoke and drown myself in liquor until I collapse over a gravestone somewhere.

>>28473589
Did the therapist say how long this "short term" is? My advice would be to find something else to drown yourself in - some sort of hobby rather than cigarettes or alcohol. If you're into vidya or something, then just play that and try to do anything that takes your mind off it until you start getting better. Good luck, anon, I'm afraid I'm not a real therapist so I can't offer anything solid :/

>>28473636
He said the most intensive phase of the therapy takes about 6 weeks to three months, on average. I've been doing it for a month with no signs of my anxiety going down, so I probably fall into the latter category. Unfortunately.

I thought that drawing would be a nice break from it but I only wound up drawing sick shit instead. I'll try some video games- nonviolent ones- and see if that helps any. Thanks anyways man.

>>28473758
No worries, good luck, just stick with it and you'll get through it. Are you on Sertraline or anything?

At least draw pepe's entire head you lazy piece of SHIT

>>28473257
You're just a beta don't kid yourself pathetic lol

>>28473777
Abilify, lithium, propranolol and wellbutrin. I've got bipolar disorder type 1, too, so they've got me medicated up to my eyeballs.

>>28473793
I didn't draw it, someone else did and posted it, so I've been using this instead since.

>>28473816
Alpha/beta is a state of mind, anon. No-one is really alpha or beta save for some extreme circumstances. I have a gf, plenty of friends and I go out regularly with them, but I still consider myself a beta.

>>28473822
Fair enough. Get better, anon.

How do I fuck this single mother chick that's living in my house? Her husband's been in jail since December. I keep thinking of scenario's in my head where I woo her over like a fwb kind of thing without messing her relationship with husband. Like everyone's bodies have needs.

>>28472365
no one here wants your opinion, please just leave us alone

>>28473959
Why? That is such a terrible idea, anon, even if her husband wasn't in prison. Trust me, just go for someone else and wank off to the idea of fucking her in the meantime.

>>28473988
>Why?
Because I'm biologically male and want to shag this broad I see every day.
I've gone as far as masturbating with her panties when she ain't home,

>>28474033
Don't do it anon - don't fuck yourself into a hole. This is the epitome of dangerous chicks - I would do everything in my power to stay away from her.

>>28473877
>Get better, anon.
thanks man. I appreciate it.

>>28474062
No worries, bro.

What's it like not being lonely all the time? Not having this pain in your chest because you're so lonely?

What's it like being able to do something about your loneliness?

What's it like actually wanting to live and looking forwards to the day?

What's it actually feel like for someone to care for you?

>>28474057
this guy is right. she will tell the husband for one reason or another. either in a fight to hurt him or to come clean with him because she feels guilty, or wants to start the relationship again completely honest or w/e.

You dont want some recidivist asshole guy to have you in the crosshairs.

Why can't I just be happy and content? I've got a secure job that I don't completely hate, enough money to take care of me and a gf that genuinely cares. Yet I just can't seem to feel happy at all and I'm not sure why.

>>28474126
not that guy but the difference is night and day. i have been on both sides. Its kind of hard to describe.
You just feel energized and look forward to talking to people and seeing the outside world. as opposed to feeling drained and just wanting to watch tv or sit on the computer and feel that talking to people is some huge chore that inconveniences you.

Tips to be an alpha ?

>>28472365
Hey anon, how do I get over my EXTREMELY DEBILITATING KEKOLD fetish? I just can't get enough of watching WHITE women get PLOWED by BIG BLACK COCK. And I can't stop talking about it to people. Everyone in my life is starting to shun me because it's all I THINK and TALK about.

>>28474129
Sounds logical but try explaining that to my penis.
Maybe I should just keep seeing escorts.

>>28474126
Everyone has the power to do something about their loneliness. Three years ago I was teetering near a 7th storey window talking myself into jumping until the police came and talked me out of it. I ended up taking steps to improve my life, and I'm currently where I am now. You can do it too, just start taking one step at a time, and you'll make some progress anon. Also, yeah, it feels like (>>28474209) described, essentially.

>>28474203
Maybe you feel unfulfilled and want something more out of life. Perhaps it might be a good idea to try and find your passion, whatever that might be. Alternatively you might have depression - that's something you might want to talk to a real therapist about.

>>28474240
How would you define alpha, anon? My answer depends on your answer.

>>28474243
Give it time, anon, and it will pass.