You guys may remember me, I am the guy who asked out a qt3.14 to the aquarium on a date, and then updated on it and such. Well today we went on our second date, we just watched Captain America: Civil War, and then grabbed lunch then chilled at her house for a bit before she went out with her family to dinner for Mother's Day, so here's how my date went.
>Decide on time night before
>This morning, texts me wanting to have the movie date a bit earlier since her dad said there would be long lines.
>Decide I will come an hour earlier than first set up
>Get to her house 30 minutes late anyway
>We get to the movie, chatting the whole time
>Get to movie super early, she buys popcorn (she insisted that she pay for it since I bought the tickets).
>We are talking the whole time about all kinds of stuff
>During that time I show her gif in pic related and about how real life can become an anime one day thanks to VR
>Came up because in the pre-movie ads, one was for Oculus Rift.
>We watch movie, share a large popcorn
>We are unable to finish it
>She says "We should buy a medium next time"
>Green flag, very big green flag
>We go to Jason's Deli for lunch
>We talk a lot, end up discussing the restrictions her parents have on her
>Find out she is not allowed to have social media or she gets grounded
>She must go to bed by 9 o'clock
>Strictest parents I've ever seen, literally Nazis
>We get to her house
>We go inside, play with her dogs and lizards a bit
>Dad invites me to go to a gun range one day over the summer
>Green flag, even bigger green flag
Cont.
>>28431410
Part 2
>Time to leave, we both step outside to my car
>We hug, tell her that I love her (last time, was over text, this time i grew a pair)
>I ask her "are we together now" (it's another way of saying, are we bf and gf?)
>She says "Yes!"
>She then apologizes for not knowing what to do as a girlfriend, since this is her first relationship
>Tell her not to worry, that it is my first relationship also
>She asks what we are going to do once I go to college (I am in college this far)
>Tell her not to worry, my college is only an hour away, not across the country, and that we can worry about the future later
>I tell her that I love her
>She says "Thank you"
> I drive away and wave at her as I leave
>I realize that I actually have a girlfriend
>FeelsGoodMan.jpg
>>28431410
>>28431432
NORMIEEEEEE, GET OUUUUTTTT YOU FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT YOU ARE THE REASON THIS BOARD NO LONGER HAS REAL ROBOTS
Fucking before the third date: she's a slut.
Waiting until after the third date: you're a beta cuck.
Next date will be the third. Are you willing to sacrifice your wizard powers?
>>28431948
It's not a sacrafice if OP loses his wizard powers, he will be descended to normie level instead of superior wizardy, but then he also gets a gf.
Captain America was shit desu but good job on the qt OP
I'm suicidally jealous
>>28432123
>I'm suicidal
Aren't we all?
>"i love you"
>"thank you"
Wtf anon, saying i love you on the second date?
>>28432299
Umm, are you saying it's too early or that I should've said it earlier, like on the first date? Btw I do love her, and I want her to feel the same towards me. However, I can give her a pass for saying "Thank you" since I'm probably the first person to say such a thing to her in a romantic non-family loving way, and she wasn't sure how to react.
>>28432123
Naa, I think the movie was good, my gf liked it too. It also provided good discussion content over lunch at Jason's Deli.
>>28431410
>During that time I show her gif in pic related and about how real life can become an anime one day thanks to VR
Are you autistic?
>>28432700
I should've read the second post too
>We hug, tell her that I love her (last time, was over text, this time i grew a pair)
You've been on TWO dates and you weren't even sure if you were together before you told her that you loved her. Not only is that a huge red flag you're setting off, but the fact that she accepted it is a huge red flag.
>>28432700
My gf and her mom are total weabs. They have an entire room in their house dedicated to anime and manga, with an entire wall of japanese stuff. She thought the gif was pretty cool, just like I felt.
>>28432744
It was my way of asking her "Are we official now?" and making it seem casual and informal.
>>28431948
Don't think OP had wizard powers to begin with, he's a total normie
>>28432793
Saying that you love her so quickly is essentially announcing that you have the emotional capacity of a kiddie pool. You fell in "love" with a girl that you haven't spent much time around which could imply several things to her. Could be that you're so desperate you're trying to cling to the first person you've gotten intimate with. Could be that your feelings are extremely fickle and you could just as easily fall out of love or in love with someone else. Could be something similar in that you don't know what love is and you're throwing the word out there because you think you should be. Could be that you're an obsessive partner.
It also sounds as though you haven't even gotten past hugging and yet you feel (what should be) a deep emotional and intimate bond with her.
Honestly Anon, you need to take a step back and evaluate the relationship. How do you even know you love her? Have you experienced it before? It sounds like you're just getting excited over having a girlfriend for the first time.
>>28432592
Alright, it was ok, but it was too busy setting up the series. Not much happens except thatTony finds out Bucky killed his parents and then him and CA still end up not that pissed at the end, Tony didn't even throw away the phone.
Like 2.5 hours just for that one major plot point. Everything else is little crap and Black Panther was an obnoxious nigra
>>28432793
have you even kissed her yet you retard?
>>28433020
>You fell in "love" with a girl that you haven't spent much time around
>How do you even know you love her?
Why the hell are you making assumptions about how much I've known her? You think that we have never talked before until our first date? And that we just matched on Tinder or I just out of the blue asked her out? We started talking back in February when we found out we were both weabs, and watched anime together at school and sitting together in the back of a dark bus alone with a blanket and chocolate. I could have remained in the friend zone but I chose to escalate it and things went well. And I must act flirtatous with her if I want her to remain my gf.
>>28433148
Next time, I intend to take her to bowling and then a flower garden where I will try and kiss her.
>>28431410
>>28431432
hello again anon. good to see you're doing well. good luck with your qt, she sounds amazing.
>>28433189
>>28433189
>never even fugged
>i love you
das beta man
>>28433189
I'm making those assumptions because I've seen all this multiple times. It isn't fair to assume that the context of you situation is that same as all the rest, but you're definitely going down the same path. Though it doesn't really matter what I say because she's your girlfriend and obviously nothing can go wrong since you watched anime with her and told her you loved her on the second date. To which she replied "Thanks".
Also, it's "weeb".
>>28431432
>I tell her that I love her
>on the second date
dude
what the fuck are you doing
>>28431432
>>28431410
>>Find out she is not allowed to have social media or she gets grounded
>>She must go to bed by 9 o'clock
This sounds weird. Is she an ugly sow chained to her room or 6/10 at least?
>>28433351
>you're definitely going down the same path
You mean I'm too obsessed with her? I probably am, I have a blue ball pillow I snuggle with every night that I pretend is her. But at least she acknowledged a 3rd date and that she is my girlfriend.
>>28433426
Maybe I really did fuck up. But at least she my gf. Why are women so darn complicated?
>>28433524
she is 7/10. She is kind of short and weighs about 100 lbs. She has cute freckles across her cheek and is very pale and has a beautiful voice that soothes me. She also has jet black hair that goes down to about her shoulders, not too short not too long. She is not an ugly sow at all lol. Just protective parents.
Also, I forgot my trip in >>28433189 and >>28433535, so I'll comfirm them to be me and not an imposter.
>>28433535
It's not really that complicated, you're just somehow completely oblivious and inexperienced when it comes to intimate relationships.
The only thing I can think of that might help is if you try and see things from their perspective without projecting your own hopes and desires onto them. I don't know your situation but just as a general example say that you met a girl and you two got along great and seemingly out of the blue you're told that she loves you. That wouldn't seem a little weird to you? Sure, you might like them and I guess some people fall in love faster than others but it still seemed to come out of nowhere. I mean you've known the person for roughly 3 months and have been intimate for even less and despite that they're throwing around something as meaningful as "love". I don't know man, it's probably just going to have to be something you experience and learn from. But what do I know, maybe it'll work out for you.
Just a warning, the harder you obsess over her the harder you'll crash if things don't work out. That doesn't mean that you should be super jaded and never love anyone because you'll just get hurt. You just don't want to be on either extreme end of the spectrum.
>>28433600
How do you plan on sex, 3rd date is the best timing for it. The dad may shoot you.
>>28433747
>seemingly out of the blue you're told that she loves you
Well, if a girl did this to me I would be very happier, especially if it was my gf. And it wasn't out of the blue when i told her, it was when I was leaving so it had the dual-function of a love confession as well as a goodbye greeting.
>>28433924
>Well, if a girl did this to me I would be very happier, especially if it was my gf.
Which is why I told you try not to project your own hopes and desires onto them.
>And it wasn't out of the blue when i told her, it was when I was leaving
You're completely missing the point.
>>28431432
>>I tell her that I love her
>>She says "Thank you"
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA
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>>28434073
>>28433988
I'm her first bf so she just didn't know what to say back, it wasn't her fault. We have both told each other that we are new to having a relationship so we are giving each other a lot of leeway on things like that.
So at this rate will you be proposing on the third date?
Hi OP, my closest friend went through the same thing you are doing right now. Being the first boyfriend to an Asian girl with Nazi parents.
You have to make her love for you overpower her obligations to make her parents proud or she WILL drop you like a sack of rocks in order to fully commit herself to her future career.
>>28434147
>thinking girls are logical
>thinking this girl is going to "give you any leeway"
>thinking this girl isn't going to take chad's dick as soon as chad offers
son, you are in for a surprise
>>28434147
Or maybe she didn't know what to say back because you completely caught her off guard and she's not even close to reciprocating those feelings?
>>28434218
>she's not even close to reciprocating those feelings?
She recognized herself as my girlfriend and that she is willing to go on a 3rd date. She wouldn't do that if she wasn't reciprocating any feelings at all.
>>28434213
She rarely talks to men, mainly women, and has few friends outside of school besides me.
>>28434277
I meant reciprocating your feelings of love. Has anyone ever told you that you have problems following a conversation?
Your story is really cute, and I hope things continue to work out for you. Don't worry too much about all the trolls, it is very early to be professing something like love, but it doesn't sound like she freaked out or anything. Great sign that she's comfortable with you being your awkward self. Enjoy your good fortune :)
>>28434314
Why would she go on dates with me and apologize for not knowing how to be a girlfriend if she doesn't love me?
>>28431410
>>28431432
>dad invites you to gun range
Be careful you don't get shot by her crazy strict dad. If they are as over protective as you say they are, I'd keep an eye out. And judging by how you said "I love you" on the second date, I feel like you don't have the keenest sense of social awareness.
Be careful OP
>>28434353
Because you don't have to (and normally don't) love someone to go on dates and be in a relationship with them.
>>28434501
>you don't have the keenest sense of social awareness.
You are actually right (why do you think i'm on r9k?), but it's ok since neither does she. Also, he took my gf's older sister's boyfriend (both of whom I know and have as friends) and he's still alive and well.
>>28434545
So you are saying that my girlfriend does not love me?
That's nice OP, I wish you the best while I resume jerking off 5-6 times a night to snuff porn and cultivating my growing amphetamine addiction while attempting to mentally prepare for slitting my own throat.
>>28431410
mate i think you are setting yourself up to be cucked
finding range buddies is nice though
>>28431432
Awww!!!! That's so freakin' cool!!! Congratulations!!!!
>I was the femanon who told you in the first thread the aquarium was a god-tier date.
>sorry to see you go, ex-robo...
>>28434353
Love is something that develops over some time. It's deeper than the attraction that starts the relationship off. You're infatuated with her. Give it a few months before saying it's anything more.
>>28434582
In all likelihood yes, she doesn't love you. She might like you and be attracted to you but that doesn't mean she loves you.
>>28431432
>"I love you"
>"thank you"
HAHAHAHAH AAAAAAH
well good job getting a gf. Despite how hilariously cringy this sounds I'm glad she likes you. Good luck op
>>28434582
You've been on two dates. She does not love you and you do not love her. You're in the honeymoon phase idiot. Actual love develops over time even if you are dating.
>>28434582
She probably doesn't love you. This would be normal. This doesn't mean she won't come to love you.
I don't think love is the right word for your feelings at this stage either.
>>28434635
Love is a made up concept with no actual definition, only the subjective definitions by people who are certain they've experienced it.
>>28431410
she doesn't love you until you've given her big cums and tortured animals in front of her to show you how alpha you are
>>28432374
You're not supposed to say it that soon.
You're supposed to honestly wait until you've been dating for a while to say it.
It's ok for you to tell her that you feel that way but right now she doesn't like you back quite that much so be careful. Don't give your whole heart to someone until you truely know them.
>>28434633
Plus she loves animals, her house is like a zoo lol.
>>28434656
Good thing she is thinking long term since she asked about me going off to college next fall.
>>28434591
Fun fact: After we started dating my masturbation went from daily to once a week (I've only fapped twice since our first date.) In other words having a gf really does help with no-fap.
>>28434730
>Good thing she is thinking long term since she asked about me going off to college next fall.
You're beyond help. If someone asks what someone else does for a living does that mean they're planning on marrying them and want to get a rough estimate of their annual earnings together?
>>28431410
>Strictest parents i've ever seen, literally Nazis
Don't you realize your blessing? Her parents are doing all the work and keeping her pure. Btw, I hate you, and you shouldn't come back here.
>>28434786
Not what I plan to do when I go to college, idiot, we both plan on doing pre-med and we've known for a good year or so. I meant she asked what we are going to do about our relationship in college once I leave. And I thought I was socially inept...
>>28431410
Good job anon, I also managed to get a new young qt gf at the exact same time as you. I even made a thread about it that mirrored yours.
>tfw we share this good feel of tfwgf
>>28434824
You're right, my mistake. 4 months away, huh. She really is thinking long term.
>>28432374
Yes, you're going overboard with your feelings. You don't love her yet, you're infatuated with her.
It's a little cringy, so just trust that you need to tone it down a little bit. Don't scare her away.
>>28434824
>pre-med
You do realise that social skills are a fairly important part of medicine right? Also picking up on subtext and being good at reading people.
>>28434891
>>28434824
This. Have fun flunking out of the interview, while she becomes a doctor and cucks you with a real success story, loser
>tfw remember being 16
>tfw gf told me she loves me on 2nd date (while grinding on me)
>tfw I told her I loved her too
it's just infatuation right now but it could grow in to something more in a few months
>>28434582
being in a relationship with someone doesn't mean that you don't love them.
Most people take longer to develop feelings of "love".
You may be her SOUL MATE and she might not love you right away. That doesn't mean that she doesn't like you and care about you deeply- she does.
But love is generally something deeper than that. It's an obsession that you need to consciously control or the relationship will be unhealthy.
You sound like you're in love with her- which is great. It's a little dangerous and it shows that you're inexperienced, but it's not a bad thing unless you try to push that on her before she's ready.
Don't try to take things too fast OP. Give her time and progress SLOWLY. Just because she's your GF doesn't mean she'll be comfortable kissing you yet, for example.
if you want to kiss her, try to arrange something romantic and in the evening between the two of you. Maybe plan a picnic or take her to a carnival or something. Girls are a lot more likely to really reciprocate a first kiss if they feel like it's "the right time"- and things you can do to make the mood right will affect her impression of how sexually compatible you are.
My first kiss was with a boy who took me to a carnival and we rode the Ferris wheel and watched fireworks at the top. On the way up we were talking about childhood games that we used to play, and I mentioned klonoa and he pulled up one of the songs from that game and he played it while we were on our way up. He put his arm around be and I snuggled in to him and we just enjoyed eachother's company and listened to the song for a few minutes. When we were at the top, he held my face in his hand and kissed me.
Was it cliche as fuck? Yes. Did I eat it up? You bet. I was SO in to him after that kiss. It seemed so spontaneous even though I'm sure he had planned out atleast some parts of it.
Things like that are cliche for a reason. They're "popular" and "overdone" because SO many women love them. It become "romantic"
>>28434959
>It seemed so spontaneous even though I'm sure he had planned out atleast some parts of it.
Trust me, he planned everything. Which kind of makes it cuter to women.
>>28434891
>>28434941
>belligerent black woman takes STD test at anon's hospital on first day of job
>"WATCHU MEAN I gots da es tee dees, I wanna speak to your manager!"
>"Dis man called me a whore fo havin' a disease an' said I gots ta stop sleepin roun wit NIGGAS! He called us da N WORD! He a RACIST!"
what do you do?
>>28434959
Being in a relationship with someone doesn't mean that you love them***
>>28435015
>I...I think I love you
>>28434959
This now reminds me that i have never kissed someone and im 18. If i was to get a chance, how do i not completely fuck up?
>>28435012
I know he planned the Ferris wheel and that he went in with the intention of kissing me, but him playing a song from a game that I loved that came up randomly when we were talking was a nice touch. I was the one who brought up that subject anyways- and he only knew which song would be good for the mood because he had played the game forever ago too.
It was just like, smooth. I know he had intentions going in but he made me feel very comfortable and I knew that the kiss was coming without him having to be like "CAN I KISS YOU"??
He gave me clear signals which was nice because if I hadn't been comfortable with taking that step with him yet I could have steered us away without ruining my relationship with him.
It was just well done in my opinion.
Also- I DO like when boys put in effort and plan, but at the beginning of the relationship it's nice when things seem to "flow naturally". It makes you think that you are a good match without having to try hard.
>>28434959
>if you want to kiss her, try to arrange something romantic and in the evening between the two of you
I intend to take her to a local botanic garden when I feel the time is right for us to kiss. However, that won't be for a while, we still need to hold hands lol.
>>28435096
Honestly, i was worried about getting in late, but since my first kiss ended up being a drunk sloppy makeout sesh i found it came pretty naturally. That kind of shit is basically instinct.
>>28435096
Just let it come naturally. I didn't make out with someone until I wasin pre-school and it was with three different girls that each wanted to marry me
>>28435112
Out of curiosity, how old are you? You might have said in your first thread but I don't remember.
>>28431432
>>28431410
good job. now get the fuck out of r9k you dirty disgusting normie
>>28435108
Yep, this is why robots who aren't willing to put in the effort are never going to get the girl.
>>28435112
Oh, you've been on 2 dates and haven't held hands? You should get on that
>>28435173
In an ideal situation it would go both ways. Guys shouldn't have to do everything to keep a girl interested.
>>28435096
Watch videos of people kissing and try to copy that behavior. I'll try to find a good video to show you.
DO NOT JUST START MAKING OUT WITH HER. This is the most common mistake boys make- they go in like tongue first.
You want your lips to be moist but not sopping when you meet hers. When you kiss someone, you basically put your lips around either their top or bottom lip.
No teeth; no tongue. The kiss sound last between 3-5 seconds.
Your breath should smell nice, make sure to BRUSH YOUR TEETH every day and to use mints throughout the day if you plan on kissing someone. Don't try to kiss someone right after you eat or if you could potentially still have food in your mouth.
Don't kiss someone if you have acne on your lip. I dot know if you have facial hair but generally smoother is better.
The first kiss is a huge step. Don't do it before the time comes. It will affect her entire perception of you. That being said, if she likes you then you have more wiggle room. Like even if you mess up a little she'll thing it's endearing or something.
So don't worry, unless you SERIOUSLY fuck up it can only make her impression of you better
>>28435156
18, high school senior, my girlfriend is 17, a juinor. So no underage b8 here, sorry.
>>28435108
In other words all the pressure falls on me (the male in the relationship) to do all this planning and such? Well, it's a lot of work but I'll try my best, I want things to work out with her. Hopefully she does some stuff too, so that >>28435202's situation becomes a bit more true.
>>28435173
>>28435202
I agree.
And he didn't, I definetly reciprocated and initiated a lot of the fun things that we did that night.
That's one of the reasons why I like spontineity on the first few dates. It's good to go in with a game plan but I've also been on dates with guys who had the entire night planned to a T. Like at 6:30 we'll do this, and then at 6:45 we'll go here, and then at 7:35 we'll eat this. They tried to anticipate what I'd like and what I'd want to do, but a lot of that kind of stuff depends on my mood. These type of guys also have a "go to" list of questions that they ask and the conversation doesn't flow naturally because you feel like they're just asking questions without expanding on the conversation, and when you ask a question and then try to expand upon the answer they give you they kind of cut you off or ask you another one of their planned questions.
So I'd say that robots do either. They either are too lazy to try and thus remain single, or they fuck it up by over planning and being control freaks.
You want to put effort forth, but leave some room for her to put effort forth as well.
>>28435237
Only at the beginning.
When she starts to fall in love with you she'll start cooking for you and making you presents and planning dates.
That happens after things become more casual though. Right now you're still in the "I want to impress her and I want this date to go well" mindset.
Eventually if things go well it will be more like "I wonder what she wants to do today". Like you don't even think about what she thinks of you because you know that she loves you.
>>28435096
Boohoo I'm 18 and never kissed a girl :'(
>>28435316
Yeah, being a normie, I assumed when you said planned, you meant "hey let's go here, then here, then here" without any itinerary. I agree with what you wrote.
