>read self-development books
>gives me hope for the future
>still don't give enough of a fuck to change my life
Who /shoot themselves in the foot/ here?
>>28394454
"This is for original comment"
> try to give up fapping
> going ok for a while
> then urges become too strong
> give up, download a whole bunch of porn
> fap a few times, feel like shit
> delete porn, start nofap again
I've been in this cycle since the start of the year. Sad thing is, this cycle typically lasts less than a wekk each time.
>>28394521
Same. I did nofap before when I had a girlfriend but if I'm alone I don't have the motivation. JUST
Nobody on r9k reads self-development books?
>>28394454
Any recommendations?
I've had a lot of success with principles I learned from How to win friends and Influence People, Verbal Judo and the books of Rory Miller. Also the book Flow by [Hungarian name].
Anything romance related and I'm still stuck tho. Any relationship books with actual pragmatic psychology would be appreciated.
>>28394778
I can't recommend anything because like I said, nothing has worked for me. Or at least I couldn't apply anything, or didn't want to. I don't fucking know. Maybe some other anon knows some good relationships books.
>>28394778
How did Flow help you? Can you give me a tip you find most useful?
>>28394880
Honestly the concept more than the book itself. I was in an extremely bad place at the time and was really approaching a breakdown. I kept on top of stress by tying increasingly complex knots in any spare moment. Calming down and refocusing. As a sort of meditation that actually works for me.
I threw it in there because it really helped me out I consider it more a psychology book than self help and honestly the book although very readable is padded out with alot of repetition but I still regularly recommend it.
Most of those books are for fighting mindset and conflict deescalation which might not be relevant to robots.
>>28395004
Have you read any Tony Robbins shit? I've been considering it but I don't know if it's worth it.
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/26a8r8/my_compilation_of_core_redpill_books_read_now/
this is a pretty great list
>>28395154
I haven't. Straight up self help or motivational stuff I try to steer clear of. I'm more interested in psychology and practical applications of it.
I may have listened to his seminars tho. I find with guys like that reading their books is just missing the performance and I do listen to them sometimes but I have no interest in business or any long term goals i need motivated into pursuing so they usually fall a little flat.
I have been meaning to start going to the gym because my body disgusts me but I just can't leave the house or find the energy to exercise.
I wish I had a Chad friend or gf who wanted to "fix" me to go exercise with.
>>28395257
So start off at home like everyone else.
It's all on youtube. If bodyweight routines are too much for you watch and mimic tai chi videos till you're a little stronger.
>>28395237
I've recently read The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. It tells you how to create a habit or to change a bad one, but the whole concept is predicated on applying willpower. I can't do it. That's my number one problem, I don't give enough of a fuck. Reading it feels good, but when push comes to shove, I just go "Nah, tomorrow I'l do it. For sure." It's driving me crazy.
>>28395312
The sad thing is that I used to run half marathons every other day and lift weights every day.
I just can't find the energy to do it anymore even though I know exactly how to.
