What is the one reason you can't get a girlfriend?
Be specific about it; just saying autism doesn't count.
I'm just really terrified of being touched or being close with people. I both know and don't know why, it's sort of some murky area of my subconscious I'll deal with on my deathbed. But after a few terrifying incidents I resigned myself to being lonely forever, just because it's a lot easier than dealing with whatever I know is wrong with me.
>>28209643
I keep turning them down.
no money, impossible for me to meet anyone
>>28209686
How do you enter a packed lift or train?
I'm bad at picking up on social cues and responding appropriately. Basically autism. I imagine it must be frustrating for them since I'm tall and attractive. It's like finding a girl is super hot and single and dtf but she doesn't give up the pooper or succ.
>Shy around women
>Don't know how to talk to them
>Have avoided them always
>Refer back to the second reason, cant talk to them about anything related to men things, men hobbies, interests etc.. that i know about
>Which in return makes me not say much, be a mute, and thus a boring individual.
I'm also bad at picking up any cues.
>>28209744
I don't. They invented cars and stairs for people like me.
I don't want or try to get one.
>wanting to have to spend hundreds of dollars just to have a chance at sex
I can just get a prostitute for that and be guaranteed sex.
I doon't try
I hate people
multo bene comment familia
I'm 5'4, which I've heard is an automatic turnoff from some of the women I approached; even if they're shorter than I.
Also I've been alone for so long and focused on the porn of my fetish mainly, I don't really seek pussy like I should.
>decently attractive
>women are interested in me
>always fall for someone I can't have and push away the women who actually want me
thus is life as a retard
>busy with muh life (job, study, building computer, shitpostinh, etc)
>every one I know is either liberal hippie or tumblrina or mentally unstable anime convention-goer (none ugly tho)
>>28209643
Any time I actually get one, I end up pushing them away because I'm a self-absorbed piece of shit that doesn't know how to love.
Also they see how emotionally unstable I really am and that scares them I think.
>>28209643
>one reason
Thinking about relationships in black-and-white terms.
For the vast majority of people here, there are several factors at work. I think the only common factors are:
>Excessive cynicism
No one likes misery except the miserable
>social awkwardness
Self-evident
>lack of particularly interesting characteristics
You only stand out on account of your negative factors
>>28209905
Is that a picture of you? Fix your hair faggot you look like me when I was a freshman in highschool. At least part it like a man or something instead of having it swooped over like that ffs
>>28209907
Our problem is too interesting characteristics. Normalfags and females especially date hobbies and cool stuff.
>>28209643
The fact that i'm not a Chad is all the information women need to know
I sit in my house all day everyday. My tinder profile consists of 2 bad pictures so I don't use tinder or other dating websites/apps,
If I did find an attractive person outside of my house, I ignore them because I assume they don't want to be bothered by me while they're in the middle of doing something, even if that something is doing nothing at a bus stop...
>>28209923
>Our problem is too interesting characteristics.
So which of your characteristics are too interesting?
Because I'm am ugly blackbot, who people say looks androgynous. :(
I don't actually want one.
Quit falling for the gf meme, women are parasites.
I really wish I knew.
I'm tired of using this guess and check method of self improvement.
>>28209975
you don't look bad desu
don't look androgynous either
>>28209643
>gyno
>bad teeth
>bad skin
>no money or insurance to fix those
>rarely exercise, very little muscleI have an overweight girlfriend but I don't think that counts. She still gets hit on by good looking guys.
a mix of being socially avoidant, a fat slob, and boring
living at home at 29 doesn't help
>>28209643
Come spend a day with me and still say that autism doesn't count.
>>28209975
Only a little bit andro
I think the rounded glasses are adding to the andro factor too desu. Get some glasses like pic related or something
I don't know any fampai
>>28209906
normies should go away
>>28210090
Sorry mate, if it makes you feel any better it's been about 4 years since I've had a gf and 8 months since I had sex. Don't have any irl friends either, just one old friend that I talk on the phone with pretty much every day.
>>28210115
Ooh, a full 8 months? :( Must feel so bad for you! All of my feels.
Retard.
>>28209643
I have a crippling fear of hurting others.
>>28210124
That's right. Let it out. Let it out. Breathe deeply now.
>>28210124
Ikr?
My gf turned LDR on me right before senior year was up. Haven't fucked in 2 years, because I have to turn every girl down that wants it while I wait for my girl to come home from college in Arizona.
>2 years to go
Feelsbadman
Well I actually have one.
>>28210020
>>28210050
He was fishing for compliments you dicks. AKA attentionwhore
>>28209945
Any of them are. Normalfags are pretty intolerant of anything interesting. Alcohol seems to be something they hate more than usual though. It's also one of my favorite things. I have a broad understanding of the basic shit and go full autist in many areas. Normies only cage about getting high. I stopped caring and now use it to be an asshole. If you ever want a laugh ask a female suggest a beer or wine to go with dinner. I swear they purposely go backwards. I draw the line at picking an people for mispronouncing shit though. Growing up I always knew lots of fun words but couldn't say them because I'd only read them.
>>28210166
>>28210115
try not having sex for 29 years
>>28210166
And you have not met once during this time because...?
>>28210205
You're not making a really convincing point tho mate.
>>28210211
No thanks, I'll settle for having it everyday.
>>28210166
>Haven't fucked in 2 years
You poor normie, must be hard not having someone to slosh genitals together with.
>>28210239
fuck off complaining about not having sex for two years, normie scum
>>28209643
I don't know.
It's not confidence. I speak with many gfs I consider interesting. I see a nice looking gf, I talk to her. Ourt talks are usually p comfy and nice, too. I lift, read a lot, write. I'm an eternal student however who never held a real job. Only part time stuff. Feels like I live the /lit/ lifestyle. Graduated 3 useless degrees. math and 2 lib arts. Never managed to get a real job, even in libart heavy fields such as newspapers etc. So I stay in academia.
I'm very cynic and don't hide it too much. The gallows humour makes me less of a dry person, I guess, I don't know. My hobbies are rather passive. I don't do team sport or anything with other people. Reading, lifting, writing, running, hiking, drawing. everything you can do alone. No friends.
I'm not sure what exactly I lack. Maybe they can sense that deep inside I lost the spark of life for a long time now. I'm also 26 soon. I doubt I get my shit together... and even if I could: I don't even know what to do. I don't really feel like I don't have my shit together besides the lack of a real job or a gf. Don't mind the lack of friends. Dunno what it is, really.
>>28210213
I have a job and not enough time/money to visit her that far away.
>>28210257
Not that anon, mon. I've had sex everyday for the last two weeks, once or twice a week before that. Don't mix me with him.
>>28210257
I didn't say that, NEETfag
>>28210276
Just a matter of arranging it. Sounds like you just don't want to. Neither does she.
>>28209643
I'm too scared of talking to them. My face is alright, my weight is alright, my height is alright, my standarts aren't so high. My small talk skills are okay I think. I'm just to anxious to talk with girls I'm interested in.
>>28210289
i have a job, though.
>>28209643
I'm objectively unattractive. My face is unlovable. Not much more to it than that I don't think, besides autism.
>>28210211
Almost a wizard eh? I really wasn't complaining about my current situation I couldn't care less that I haven't had sex in 8 months. I figure it's a good post to let some robots blow some steam over though.
>>28209643
I am bad at talking to other people. I can't really do it.
>>28210205
>Alcohol seems to be something they hate more than usual though.
Bull-fucking shit. Most people drink, even if they don't enjoy it. You have to be intolerant to peer-pressure to avoid it, or simply have no friends.
>Normies only cage about getting high.
Is crack a high?
Is heroine a high, even though it depresses you?
Is alcohol not also a high?
>If you ever want a laugh ask a female suggest a beer or wine to go with dinner.
That would be an asshat move, and I really hope you don't think that her lack of interest is what turns her off.
You put her on the spot. You knew that she would probably not know about alcohol, and it only served to humiliate her. Jesus Christ.
Here is what you do:
>Suggest it personally
>Get drink
>Ask if she likes it
>If yes, casually mention your hobby
>If she seems disinterested, talk about HER interests
And yes, MOST people have some interests which they are well versed in, even if you find no value in them. Hobbies like fashion, calligraphy, tattoos, alcohol, video games, etc.
>>28209822
It's an investment. You spend the money up front, but once you hook her the sex is free and unlimited. The upkeep is fairly minimal. Just a dinner or movie here and there
>>28209643
>deformed face
>curly hair, althrough i'm white
>decided to cut my hair altoghether because it looked like i have pubes for hair
>now i look like a retard or a mentally ill person who just escaped from an asylum
>live in a shitty village in the middle of nowhere in eastern europe
>family is poor as shit so i have to wear dirty, torn second hand clothing; i basically look like a hobo
>just googled hobo, pic related is way better dressed than me
>my father drinks away the money he makes as a truck driver
>never see him anyways, he's either working, drinking or banging hookers on the other side of the country
>me and my mom live off her 160 euro salary as a street cleaner
>19, kissless virgin, tried finding a job, but the economy is shit and the only jobs i could find are so far away that i can't afford transportation
>also family doesn't have a car so i spent almost all my life in this run down shithole of a village
>all the girls around age already moved out to the bigger cities to seek better opportunities
>only married and retired people live here, i have the feeling that i'm the only person younger than 40
>i already gave up on ever being intimate with a girl, i'm planning to either join the military or become an othodox monk
>friday nights are spend reading the bible with mom, it's chill desu
>i haven't held a conversation with anyone but my mom in the last few months
>i've already accepted my fate to either die as a virgin somewhere in afghanistan or in some 1000 year old monastery
>>28210450
fair enough
i don't care about not having sex. i haven't had it for so long, i don't know what it feels like outside of "fapping with another person"
it's the smugness others have about having sex that kinda gets to me for some reason.
I have no friends and no social skills. You need a social circle, most couples meet via mutual friends.
>>28209643
I'm ugly, I'm 5'5 and I'm socially retarded.
That's reason enough.
>>28209643
I'm not that attractive, I'm terrible at socialising, and I have very conflicting views with a lot of women.
The terrible fear of being rejectedand I actually have autism
>>28210578I do tooAnd I actually had a gf once, all it takes is lowering your standards just a tad and once you're there the lower quality ones will take you at "hi".an autist can do itI speak from experience
girlfriend is a waste of time. i have vidya, porn, a job, and school to worry about.
>>28210485
>curly hair even though I'm white
Fuck this feel
Just one?
Being a 5'8" manlet is probably the worst
>>28210920
I wish I was 5'8...
>>28210920
>>28210956
Third world or 14 years old?
>>28209905
It's the ever popular Pete White. Cool.
>>28211172
Shit genes. Father's 5'6, mom is 5'1.
I'm >>28209858
>>28209643
Peenletism killed my confidence
>ugly
>black
>autistic
>no friends
>2D is better anyways
>What is the one reason you can't get a girlfriend?
I don't want one.
Women are not good people.
>>28211219
How did you get to 5' 8? My dad's 5' 8" and my mom's 5' 2" and I'm 5' 6"
>>28211332
not him but i think its not just your parents heights at work. my dad is 5'8, mum is 5'5 and brother is 5'8 but i am 6'3.
>>28210920
I'm 5'6" and have had gfs. You must be doing something wrong. Find another excuse.
>>28209643
I can't behave like a normal humang being around women I find attractive, loose my spaghettis all the time. They probably all think I'm retarded.
>>28209643
I'm a disgusting fucking transsexual and no woman wants an artificial peen.
I never tried to get one.
Age 0-15 I didn't want one.
Age 16-19 I was too scared to try.
Age 20-22 I had other things on my mind.
And from age 23 to now I simply couldn't imagine how a relationship works. I don't know the mechanics behind love or sex, or even simple things like flirting and smalltalk, so once again I just keep to myself instead.
>>28209643
No one fucking wants to be around me. Im not some fat neet I'm pretty much an average person but I have no friends or gf
>>28209643
>just saying autism doesn't count
Why? I'm a diagnosed assburger which has never had sex. I lost the gene lottery and that's the reason I don't have a gf.
Glad I posted this. Now back to living an unfulfilling life in my room in my parents house.
social anxiety, trust issues, takes too much responsibility.
>>28209643
I have horrible skin and chronically bad breath.
I don't think I'm particularly ugly, but those are the two big things that make most people cringe when looking at me.
I'm very shy and have social anxiety, I tend to get anxiety attacks sometimes in social situations and it makes socializing and connecting with people very hard for me.
I only have 3 true friends, and I tend to be quiet when we hang out because I usually have nothing to say.
Socializing with women is 10 times harder for me, I can barely talk to a woman.
It's fucking killing me, I used to be more confident when talking to people but I Iost it feeling that people became much less social to me, I want my confidence back for fuck's sake.
I have no idea where to go to meet girls that aren't cunts. My classes are mostly male and the only girls are Chinese implants. I don't really want to pick up drunk girls at bars. Tinder seems like it's for chads and most of the girls look repulsive. Blind dates through friends ends with fatties. On the rare occasion (maybe once or twice a year) I meet a decent girl and it never seems to go anywhere.
>>28209643
I'm half black and black women are either ugly as fuck or if they are atractive they are looking for Tyrone or they are feminists. If you don't have a BBC or are white, white women will never look at you, so I gave up.
Also, I'm a ugly fat manlet with semi brown skin, and a autist when it comes to socialization and speaking with women, so I never had a chance.
>>28209643
i'm not white desu
>>28209643
>no money
>#vanlife
>van doesn't even run atm I'm trapped in a trailer park
I'm a boring person.
I don't even have trouble talking to people, I just never know what to say for them to be interested in me.
>>28213620
This for me really, I can pull girls and get one night stands but I'm a cunt, works fine with my male friends as they can take the bants but with girls I'm careful what I say and just come off boring
I'm trans and it's really hard to find a girl who wants someone like me
>>28213687
Congrats for falling for the trans meme, enjoy a shitty life courtesy of leftists
>>28209643
1. No friends which is a prerequisite for a GF.
2. Social retardation, which is why I have no friends. Like, I can say hello and maybe one other thing but then my mind goes completely blank and I start overthinking the scenarios for when she finds out I'm really a loser.
3. JUST. I'm destined to be a loner.
I'm a shutin, man. Unless the government sends misaki along I ain't touching pussy ever.
>>28210485
r u from romania?
I've been so much deluded and damaged during the childhood that basically any kind of serious relationship I pursuit would be the loving and caring one, wich we already know it's pretty impossible to obtain.
Other than that, there's a big emotional wall between me and others, one that shuts me anytime I get clues from cuties or when I'm in the center of attention.
I feel at ease only when I'm alone or I'm neglected, wich are the complete opposite feelings I should have when going after a girl.
>>28209643
i'm not outgoing and entertaining enough
i also never tried since i never really met a girl i was interested in in that way
>>28209643
no job
I mean, the only reason I had a girlfriend in high school was because we weren't expected to have jobs. Now that I've graduated, I offer nothing.
>>28211408
Get buff. Get a bi girl. Enjoy.
>>28209643
I live in a small town neighborhood with old men as most of my neighbors
>>28213737
>1. No friends which is a prerequisite for a GF
you sure? My girlfriend has no friends.
>>28209975
You look fine and not androgynous.
>>28214052
with females is different... they don't really need friends in the first place because they don't have to search a bf or to establish a social group supporting him.
>>28214052
>girlfriend
>girl
If you have a vajayjay you WILL always get sex eventually, unless you die.
>>28214122
>unless you die
even then, that may happen nonetheless
I have a girlfriend. Go ahead, reeeeeee at me.
>>28209975
You a wavy dude anyways.
Social anxiety, been getting worse ever since I started Tinder. Shame because there were women who seem interested in me but because of my literal autism, I lack the social awareness and confidence I need to make a move. I wish shit like asking people out wasn't something only men should do, I keep telling myself that I'm going to ask one of these women out but I'm too nervous to do it.
>>28209643
Because I'm a mentally ill 30 year old neet who couldn't keep an erection during the one time he had sex? I think that's a pretty good reason.
>>28209795
this happened to me, she took me into her room to show her picture gallery (she went to an art school as a photographer) and once she showed me i said thank you and she kinda looked at me like she wanted me to make a move and was wondering why i wasnt. so then when the moment passed we kinda just walked back out into the party. that look will be something i will cringe at for the rest of my life. never again guys.. never again
No money, no job, no car. Also after sereval bad times i try to just stay friends unless i really want to be with them, or else if they say no, i just stop talking to them. Call me a cuck, but id rather keep a friend than gain a girlfriend
My ugly face is the cause of my social isolation and therefore my inability to get a gf
Had one in the past. It change you as a person, you need to tune in to the girl. I don't really want to change, it feels weird, like actual me was nonexistent through my relationship and the other guy taken my place.
>>28209643
Why do you people insist on asking the same questions over and over?
>>28209643
-too cynical
-bouts of depression (although uncommon) that cause me to push people away and become nihilistic
-misanthropic
-don't watch movies or television, couldn't tell you 99% of songs on the radio
-disconnected from family
-don't like discussing religion and politics
-don't want to get married or have children
-can't stand annoying/stupid/ignorant people
That enough or should I go on?
>>28214379
What does this mean?, sorry for bit very hip..
- not rich
- too old (32) so the only girls who would date someone my age are single moms in their 30s
- i'm tall + good looking + workout but that is nothing without money or youth
- live in a rural area
>>28209643
>I'm bad at talking to people. I'm too scared to say what I'm thinking so I just wait for others to start conversations but I can't carry them on either. I'm also bad at speaking. People will often ask me what I just said because they didn't hear me.
>I don't think I'm that attractive. My facial structure isn't too bad but I don't have good skin or teeth. My nose s the main issue though, it's too wide for my face and there is too much flaring when I smile.
>I don't like being bothered by people and that's how I treat others as well. I'd much rather be alone with my own thoughts.
>I have very little things to say about myself. I'm a pretty boring person.
>I dress bad.
>>28215253
>I'm also stupid. I listed five reasons why I don't have a girlfriend when I should have just told you the one main reason.
I have a micropenis and the first time I got close to losing my virginity I was turned down and she broke up with me a few days later. Since then, whenever we get close to sex I shut it down out of fear and then they get frustrated with the lack of sex and break up with me... I'm fucked, why won't life just end now...
>>28215338
lol at least you have an opportunity to even talk to women
i haven't even talked to an IRL female in a year
>>28215391
No. I don't. It's been over a year since I've said more than "Hello", "Thank you", "Goodbye" to anyone not packing a penis.
>>28215446
it's funny how women are insanely guarded by men.
even having a female friend in this day and age is an extreme luxury
lol
>>28209643
I'm just a boring person desu
I am content to stay at home and sleep/fap
The most interesting thing I do is take walks in the woods
I don't really like being around more than 2 people
>>28215479
Seriously. 20% of guys get 50% of girls, it doesn't even make sense. It's not just the girls faults, Chads and normies are often so greedy
>>28209643
bc im fat, dosnt have a job, im a manchild and a drunk, the only girl that acept this combo is 500 miles away, life is pretty desu desu
>>28215555
that's an old figure, it's say it's more like top 10% of the guys get 90% of the women
it's not chad's fault, lol
go on tinder with an average looking guy and see how you get zero matches
not rich and good looking? you are dog shit to women
>>28215555
>tfw polyamory is real, alpha men date/fuck multiple girls a week
>tfw can't even get one girl
FUCKING CHAD WHY ARE YOU SO GREEDY EEEEEEEEEEEE
>>28209643
Im an ugly piece of shit
>>28209643
They would much rather be with someone else than with me.
I mean in every possibly scenario there is always at least one guy "better" than me, who comes to steal away anyone I may have a chance with, and the girls all go for him because it's the logical option for them.
I'm just not good enough, I'm not the worst, but I'm not the best, and that's all that really matters.
No girl likes a fat, short, piece of shit. Because I'm in employment, every girl that has tried to be with me is only doing it for money. It's because of this, and past trauma that I hate most women and instantly turn many away.
>>28209643
>170
>arrogant
>shy
>pretty ugly
>tried 2 time failed both
>don't know what to do
>>28209643
I'm just boring and the worst thing is I don't like girls that bore me either. I'm a hypocrite but when I look deep into my soul I find no willingness to change. Just want to spend my life playing video games and reading. Yes boring but I like it.
No way to meet any, really.
> don't drink so no bars
> don't facebook so no tinder
> no friends
> besides shopping, only leave house for woods and library
> inb4 talk at a library, that's not only rude as fuck, I'd hate if someone bothered me when I'm searching for shit
>>28209643
socially retarted, I make jokes girls don't like
Male, 19
I'm bad at starting conversations with girls. I earn minimum wage. I'm not in college right now. I don't want to date a girl under 18 and girls that are 18 are fucking 23 year olds.
>>28209643
There were plenty of them in the past, but now the primary one is that I don't bother myself trying.
My political views/worldview, really.
I like politics too much to not discuss them when meeting someone.
>>28209643
I have no social circle, i.e. I am a loner. And I have trouble meeting people/making friends because I am insecure about being a loner.
I think everybody is out of my league, because everybody has friends and as a result I am afraid to open up to people because they may find out im a loner.
>>28209643
>dont like physical contact
>insecure about body
>Quiet
>unattractive
I don't have the confidence to talk to them, and the reason I don't have the confidence is because I don't feel attractive enough.
First of all, my dating pool is very limited 'cause I'm anftm tranny. Recently, I got kinda rejected by a girl for that reasonshe didn't reject me straight, she didn't even know I'm attracted to her, she just said next to me that she wants to bear a child, and it wouldn't be possible for me to impregnate her, obviously, although in another conversation turned out she's not against invitro kind of stuff. Actually I get a bit confused sometimes since she contacts me first, asks to hang out even just in two sometimes etc. which normally may be signs she's interested but due to that one comment I assume she isn't
Still, I could get a girlfriend in this very moment by reaching out to a girl who's been orbiting me (literally complained about being friendzoned). The problem is she's 10-15 kg heavier than me and almost height which I don't feel comfortable with (mind I'm skinny, so she's not even that fat). It's possible I'll just go for a girl like that one day, though. Those girls get interested in me pretty regularlyguess the meme about only fat tumblrinas having meme sexuality like pansexual or bisexual & accepting trannies is truebut unfortunately my low self-esteem makes it impossible to accept a girl who's heavier than me, I only go for skinny ones and preferably shorter. Who knows, maybe it's also my female genes speaking, because one time I managed to land a hot girl, so now I won't accept a girl who's not at least skinny with average face (plus a personality I like, obviously, but the personality alone doesn't suffice).
Basically, I'm in a shitty situation due to my problem (whether you see it as physical or mental, depends on you), and because of that shitty situation I should lower my standards to not be alone, but for now it seems like I'd rather take up a risk and try going for girls I'm actually 100% attracted too (and hope for one in million chance it'll work) rather than lower my standards.
