Why are girls so slow at messaging?
Like when a girl messages a guy he responds instantly but girls take much longer.
Why?
>>27897723
because each girl is talking to 5+ guys at once and they don't care about you more than any of the others. just stringing you along for attention and in case they need something from you in the future
>>27897723
why don't men have anything better to do with their time than sit and wait for a message to come up so they can answer it immediately?
you come off as a desperate creep when you do that. like you barely know each other and already you're devoting all your attention to just some silly messages. no one wants to think about how overwhelming a person like that would be in person. come on, have some common sense, people have other things in their life that aren't you.
u stinky
>>27897723
NICE
GUYS
FINISH
LAST
Seriously that OP pic is idiotic. Clearly she ignored him because he was rude to her.
>>27897818
Fuck you you vapid cunt. We like to talk to other humans.
>>27897883
so do women, that's why they don't always have time to respond to you immediately. there are other people they're talking to at the same time. I know it's hard to imagine that a person could have to emotional capacity to talk to more than one other person at a time, but it's true, they do it all the time.
no one owes you an immediate response. fucking autists.
>>27897723
lol, she just a retard
>>27898045
>emotional capacity
that's a funny way of saying 'people give a shit about me because they think of me as a dick sleeve so i am never without multiple dancing monkeys'
>>27897723
Just ignore them its hard as fuck but you have too. As a male I take awhile to answer shit usually because I hate fucking using the phone unless its porn. Specially when I have to take phone calls from my mom. I fucking take forever on purpose.
>>27897723
block that cunt and stop bothering.
Blocking hurts real bad, especially to wymym
I've figured it out to be the following;
-Uninterested
-Boring conversation
-Talking to other people and trying to hold mutiple conversations
I find them answering long even on 4chan threads. Don't really care anymore though.
>>27898113
women don't only talk to men... ?
I have three whole friends in my life. two are women and the last is a gay.
so if I'm busy, I'm probably talking to them.
so wrapped up in the /r9k/ le misogyny meme that you forgot it was a joke all along...
>>27897723
top secret female intel: women are messaging seriously 2
0 people at once
>>27898234
>but im lonely anon i rally am
>>27898179
what do you mean and what did you do?
bro even if you feel that way you cant be honest with her like that about it. as soon as you come off like that (desperate and clingy) that will push her further away. its really childish and pathetic but thats the way it is
>>27898377
what do you mean, what do I mean?
I mean exactly what I said. you're clearly a newfag.
/r9k/ didn't always used to be like this. it was a slow evolution of maymays becoming other maymays. and then an entire slew of you 18-20 year olds came in and believed what you read on the internet. you created these self-fulfilling prophecies of sorts where you look for the worst to come from women, so you see the worst in women - and you think it proves some kind of point. the fact is that none of you are smarter than the average person. if there was seriously some kind of huge disparity between males and females, don't you think people other than the literal self-proclaimed scum of the earth would have noticed?
none of you are outside of society and somehow more perceptive and intelligent for it; you're all just insane.
all the oldfags know it's a meme. it's a charade that has withstood the test of time.
and the newfags ruin everything, as usual.
>girls don't message back
I'm agriland I always message back as quickly as possible provided I'm not at work / studying. The guy I liked never messaged me back after he found out I don't believe in putting out.
Basically, she's not romantically interested in you. If she was, virtually nothing could keep her from interacting with you. At best, she thinks you're cute and a possible bf maybe. Most likely she views you as an acquaintance, a friend, or, as >>27897773 suggested, someone to keep around until she needs you. (PS: Fuck her. The guy I mentioned above only messaged me when I wanted me to help him with his fucking resume. Ignore them.)
>reads OP's chat
>don't wanna live like this anymoe
Oh, gee, OP, I understand this feel. I hate being ignored and no matter what anyone says, phone calls and texts do matter. You're right to feel bad, but depending on the context this can come off as absolutely bonkers.
>any response is better than feeling suicidal
If you are suicidal OP this girl can't help you. You need a professional. If you aren't suicidal then this is using guilt to get attention and while it's understandable it's wrong.
>then stop caring
Yeah, she doesn't care about your feelings OP. Guy ^^^ said something to the same effect to me ("Lol you better get over me not returning your calls because it isn't gonna happen").
I'm really sorry OP. You seem like a good, sincerely emotional person. People who tell you not to be so forward emotionally and affect detachment are absurd. With the right person, your feelings and affection will be validated. She isn't the right person. She doesn't sound like a romantic partner, she doesn't even sound like much of a friend.
Feel better OP <3
>>27898600
your post gave me a headache
please kill yourself
>>27898622
I'll get right on that, anon.
>>27898484
I faced this dilemma awhile ago, 4chan is just full of newfags now and it's something you have to deal with. That's pretty much the reason it's best to either move on or go on other image boards that have people in their mid 20s still posting (cripple chan for example).
Most of the comments here are quite pathetic and whiny teenage shit in general, or just full on non-ironic edgelord.
>>27897723
Females have friends - lots of them
Females talk to multiple people at once - a lot of people
I'm not joking when I say that in almost every situation it's better to have a male talking partner than a female. Any young female today is just inferior as something worth talking to. The only reason males talk to most females is because sex exists.
>>27898600
>The guy I liked never messaged me back after he found out I don't believe in putting out.
Where did you meet this person?
How did this person find out?
>>27898600
>qtgril
CANADA
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You can't win with women OP and you can't lose if you don't play their game.
Best way to manipulate women is to give them the initial interest, then just fuck off. Let them initiate every. single. conversation. If they fuck off, then initiate again, rinse repeat. If she stops responding move to the next woman.
Also, you have to have the stomach to be desensitized to emotions and feelings. To the point where you can't feel love anymore.
Well, at least for women.
Lie about loving them.
>>27898743
>Best way to manipulate women is to give them the initial interest, then just fuck off. Let them initiate every. single. conversation. If they fuck off, then initiate again, rinse repeat. If she stops responding move to the next woman.
this wont work unless you are chad
>>27898736
>he worked with my high school friend
>I had a reputation for being a "hippie"
>he assumed I was loose
>I'm a virgin
>starts hanging out with me to get lucky
>I assumed we were really friends, fall in love with him
>he starts talking about friends with benefits
>say I don't judge people who do that sort of thing, but that it's not for me.
>he tries to use my romantic feelings for him, saying things like, 'well it'd be impossible to not develop feelings for them, you'd eventually have to make them your gf"
>say that really upsets me
>say I don't want to have sex with him unless he is my bf
>stops talking to me
>>27898877
Well sorry to hear that, mate. But i still don't understand since he did seem thirsty why he didn't just become your boyfriend if he really wanted sex? Did he not want a girlfriend, did he have one on the side you knew nothing of?
Anyway using the "love" tactic, or reverse psychology made me smile. Because i knew it was coming.
It's a shit test to gauge if you're Chad material
>>27898600
Not OP but
>Basically, she's not romantically interested in you. If she was, virtually nothing could keep her from interacting with you.
fuck
>You seem like a good, sincerely emotional person. People who tell you not to be so forward emotionally and affect detachment are absurd. With the right person, your feelings and affection will be validated.
FUCK
Reading this goes against my admittedly few experiences with people, guys and girls. Every time I thought I was safe I blurted out too much at once and people got disgusted with me, rightfully so since I was super self deprecating. But now I'm trying to be less of a sperg and paranoid as fuck as being too emotional or forward because I'm a pretty emotional person.
Also getting harassed by people you thought were friends after displaying a moment of emotional vulnerability also sucks. Along with just letting insecurities slip in conversations with someone new.
I want to be true to myself and my emotions but I feel like I'd just be overbearing no matter what stage of the relationship it is. I recognize I have to change/control myself too but I have trouble recognizing when I should show restraint and when I should let it out, especially when it comes to girls because of my lack of experience.
I guess the best I can do is just keep doing the things I feel is natural + logical and try and keep the dumb stuff at bay along with just moving on if it doesn't work out, but I'm worried that way of doing things is just "wrong" objectively.
>tfw being anonymous is the only way I can vent some of these insecurities
Ive been thinking the same thing
>i text my female friend on kik
>she responds in max 5 minutes If shes not busy (shes pretty fast)
>i reply seconds after that
>takes her a couple minutes to respond back
I guess they talk to other people too
Also the girl you're talking to OP, doesnt seem interested in you, i talk like that when im not interested in someone
>>27897723
dud youre a fucking retard. shes giving you one word answers. she isnt putting in any effort with you. you arent worth her time. shes literally telling you she doesnt want to talk to you anymore and youre writing a paragraph in response
STOP TALKING TO HER YOU IDIOT.
>>27899102
>>27899077
ops just a sperg who fell in love because a girl gave him a little attention
>>27898740
Hey fellow Canadian! Which part?
>>27898733
> Females talk to multiple people at once - a lot of people
Yeah, but it does not take that much time to say hello to someone or to laugh at a funny picture they send you. If you really are pressed for time, it only takes a second to reassure your friends you're not ignoring them. It's very easy to be considerate.
>>27898976
He didn't want a girlfriend because he said he was "afraid of commitment", which basically means, "I'm scared of having access to only ONE pussy".
He's a bad person.
>>27897723
I'm a girl and I always respond right away to texts, but boyfriend always takes awhile because he's doing other things, it makes me sad ;_;
Apparently for some reason, it is seen as a weakness by girls if you respond too quickly.
I know, it's strange considering how starved for attention girls are, you might think that if a guy is showing interest in him they would respond in kind. That it shows you like them if you respond quickly, because you care about what they have to say
But in fact basically if you respond too quickly, it basically shows that you aren't doing anything , you're just sitting around waiting for her messages. This makes you look desperate and they dont want desperation
But i bet there are girls who like a guy and purposely dont respond for a while too
>>27898692
This is so true. This has been the year 4chan has hit its all time low in quality. Everyone sounds like 17 year olds with no life experience
>>27899120
>He didn't want a girlfriend because he said he was "afraid of commitment", which basically means, "I'm scared of having access to only ONE pussy".
And yet, he was still able to convince you otherwise he was a good guy before all the shenanigans happened. Only if he carried on his his fake charade you would have eventually fucked him and thought you felt an even more "connection" not knowing of his original ideas for being with "you".
I'm at least thankful I'm very good at reading people, even though I'm not a woman. But i can easily spot when you are sincere or not which is a curse since I'll think of you as trash forever when i pick it up.
Have my job to thank for that.
>>27899143
this kind of shit really pisses me off. it's so fucking annoying.
>talk to a girl
>she responds quickly for maybe two or three messages
>silence for hours
>sends a single message response
>send a message after
>silence for hours
like, i know people have lives, but if you're just sitting there or skype on steam you probably aren't up to much. i just want to have a decent conversation. fuck.
>>27899120
>Which part?
calgry
how bout yourself lady?
>>27899143
>>27899190
I agree with this and honestly I'm guilty of doing it to some of my online friends and I feel bad and end up apologizing for it but as >>27899120 said it really doesn't take long to be considerate and say you're doing something.
I think I'm going to do that more often.
>>27899143
>But in fact basically if you respond too quickly, it basically shows that you aren't doing anything , you're just sitting around waiting for her messages. This makes you look desperate and they dont want desperation
and what the fuck are they doing? Sitting in front of the monitor.
its a game of sorts
she doesnt want to seem to eager as if she's waiting around for him
its stupid but its what you do
it should only be like that for maybe after the first date
then she better respond pretty quickly otherwise shes being an asshole
aslo the op in the pic sounds like an immature fuckwad and I would advise all grills to avoid
>>27899053
> Every time I thought I was safe I blurted out too much at once and people got disgusted with me
You wear your heart on your sleeve, anon, I respect that.
> paranoid as fuck as being too emotional
I think it's silly people should hide their feelings, especially if they're positive ones.
> Also getting harassed by people you thought were friends after displaying a moment of emotional vulnerability also sucks.
It does. Or when they just don't care.
> I'd just be overbearing no matter what stage of the relationship it is.
That's a self esteem issue. I think you need to reflect on the way you behave when other people are emotional with you. If someone wanted to cry to you about something, would you be angry or feel they needed to shut up? If not, then you're not being overbearing, you're expecting fairness.
Here's a quote I like that's relevant to you:
"Mr. Elliot was rational, discreet, polished--but he was not open. There was never any burst of feeling, any warmth of indignation or delight, at the evil or good of others. This, to Anne, was a decided imperfection. ... She prized the frank, the open-hearted, the eager character beyond all others. Warmth and enthusiasm did captivate her still. She felt that she could so much more depend upon the sincerity of those who sometimes looked or said a careless or a hasty thing, than of those whose presence of mind never varied, whose tongue never slipped."
Because they're not interested.
If you're getting short low-effort responses then your conversational partner is already checked out. Don't waste your time.
>>27899242
exactly. i'd prefer the person i'm talking to just to literally say "oh i'm going out now" or "just going to mute my phone to watch a movie" or something instead of just literally nothing.
hell, if i had to go and do something i'd at least say that to them.
>>27899305
they dont think anon.
>girl i see is on her phone 24/7 in public
>send message later on once shes not around
>takes 4 hours to respond
why is it so hard to just say "im not interested"
>>27899169
>And yet, he was still able to convince you otherwise he was a good guy before all the shenanigans happened.
I don't like your tone, anon.
It's very possible for a bad person to have good qualities, and to do good things for people. In most respects, he was considerate to his family, hard working, and friendly to me.
> Only if he carried on his his fake charade you would have eventually fucked him
Or he would have become my boyfriend, realise that doesn't mean sex immediately, and gotten tired after a month at the most.
>thought you felt an even more "connection" not knowing of his original ideas for being with "you".
>you're not a mindreader
>you believe people when they act kind to you
Yes? I don't go through life suspecting everyone of being terrible.
> But i can easily spot when you are sincere
Mmm, sure anon.
>>27899190
>when people don't like to talk or only talk about mundane shit
I respect people who can sperg out on a topic and listen to others sperg.
>>27899219
Small town in Southern Ontario. :P
>>27899259
>But in fact basically if you respond too quickly, it basically shows that you aren't doing anything
This is such insane thinking. Again, why is that so wrong? "Haha, he actually looks forward too talking with another person! What a loser!"
>>27899337
THIS IS WHAT I DON'T FUCKING GET ABOUT THIS WHOLE GIRL TEXTING THING
IT HAPPENS WITH TEXTING, TINDER, APPARENTLY ANY KIND OF MESSAGING APP
GIRLS ARE BASICALLY ON THEIR PHONE 24/7
EVEN WHEN WITH FRIENDS, EATING AT A TABLE, EVEN IN A CONVERSATION THEY ARE ON THEIR PHONE
YET SOMEHOW IT TAKES THEM HOURS TO RESPOND TO A SIMPLE MESSAGE
>>27899337
Well, to be fair to her, sometimes it can be awkward to say you're not interested either because you legitimately feel like you're in danger (bars, parties) or you don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
>>27899424
i'd love to listen to her sperg about any kind of topic, but she never even sends messages or chains long enough to even show much interest in any kind of topic. it's really infuriating.
>>27899424
>It's very possible for a bad person to have good qualities, and to do good things for people. In most respects, he was considerate to his family, hard working, and friendly to me.
Yes, just like the good guy wanted to use you for sex. But it's okay since he has good redeeming qualities after all like being able to carry a conversation. And of course he'd be friendly to you when you clearly stated what he was originally after.
Logic, have any?
>Or he would have become my boyfriend, realise that doesn't mean sex immediately, and gotten tired after a month at the most.
I highly doubt it would have taken you a month to spread your legs, especially after you insisted you'd have sex ONLY when he becomes your boyfriend. I would have given it a week if not a few days tops.
Especially since you already knew him prior and liked him.
>Yes? I don't go through life suspecting everyone of being terrible.
You don't have to be a mind reader to be able to pick up body language and various other signs, to know the person are are conversing with has other intentions.
>Mmm, sure anon.
Just because you cant spot anything, because you were blinded by the attention of a male doesn't mean everything else is the same. I worked a job where i was transporting millions of dollars / valuables.
Reading people is something that was needed ;)
If women don't reply much they give zero fucks about you. It's the painful truth.
>>27897723
Oh man, that's a sad series of messages to read. What a bitch.
>Ontario
Alas I hardly knew ye, qtgril
u can still be my runescape gf
>>27899494
>she's not interested in anything
Then why do you like her?
> And of course he'd be friendly to you when you clearly stated what he was originally after.
>assuming I knew what people were saying about me at the time
>assuming I knew what he was thinking
>assuming I knew he was a bad person when there was no evidence to indicate that he was up until the creepy "develop feelings" comment.
>ergo, you are illogical
For someone who is calling me illogical, you're making a lot of assumptions. Would it be more logical for me to, without any basis, assume that every single person who spoke to me was trying to use me for sex?
Furthermore, let's say I was "illogical", naive or a poor judge of character - so what? None of these are indicators of a person's intelligence or moral character. Trying to manipulate someone is bad whether they are clever or stupid.
> especially after you insisted you'd have sex ONLY when he becomes your boyfriend. I would have given it a week if not a few days tops.
>all you know about me is that I said I wasn't interested in sex with someone who isn't my boyfriend
>extrapolates that to mean I would have fucked him the moment he said "tfw gf".
> I worked a job where i was transporting millions of dollars / valuables.
I'm very impressed by you and very happy for you anon. I'm sure you're also 6'6 and have a huge penis.
>>27899636
>runescape
Having middle school flashbacks.
>>27899805
i don't even really know the answer myself at this point.
i guess i just try out of loneliness and the fact i've known her for like two years now.
>>27899805
>For someone who is calling me illogical, you're making a lot of assumptions. Would it be more logical for me to, without any basis, assume that every single person who spoke to me was trying to use me for sex?
Those aren't assumptions, you spark me as a closet whore, who did admit she will have sex once he becomes your boyfriend. It's simply adding 1+1 together. You aren't exactly the sharpest tool in the shed. Especially sine you were a 'hippie", i highly doubt you were getting any attention from males let alone any trying to pick you up.
Yet you couldn't figure out ones intentions when it happened out of the blues, or gave yourself a second to think about it.
Your pseudo intellectual comments won't work here.
>assume that every single person who spoke to me was trying to use me for sex?
Good job trying to deflect the situation and pulling rabbits out of your gaping hole.
>Furthermore, let's say I was "illogical", naive or a poor judge of character - so what? None of these are indicators of a person's intelligence or moral character. Trying to manipulate someone is bad whether they are clever or stupid
Yes, because using someone for your own gain isn't a sense of ones moral character.
You aren't very smart... are you?
>>27899821
>two years
Oh, that's hard.
She might be nervous about rambling? Maybe ask her opinion on something?
>that persistent fear that anyone, but especially a woman, doesn't give half a fuck about you
it's better to live in fantasy
>>27899843
i don't think she's nervous about rambling, i've asked about the short response type thing before and she just says she's "boring" and "doesn't have much to say", things like that.
i've tried asking for opinions on stuff as well, but all i get is a brief response, no matter how i push. "it was alright." "i didn't really like it." ect.
pic related is how i feel after looking over my messages with her for the past few weeks.
>>27899285
Thanks anon, I honestly wish I talked/knew more people like you or people I felt close enough to share this kind of thing and not be anonymous. I just spend so much time internalizing this stuff and I still don't feel it's good to share with other than close friends, but I think I need to manage my expectations of fairness as well.
Also I don't think it helps when I'm really quiet and reserved and suddenly I'm emotional, especially when my cold/aloofness attracted them to me in the first place, just kind of out of nowhere.
Thank you for the quote too, it makes me feel a little more secure in how I am. I feel like those kinds of people are more of a minority but I can't really say I suppose.
>>27899530
>>27899424
>>27899285
>>27898600
See this shit OP. This is your problem with women right here.
Notice how she's got to reply to all of them?
That's what's happening with you. There's just way too many other guys she's talking to and she has no time for you anymore. Just like this girl poster she sends the longest replies to stuff that triggers her the most.
>>27899888
dont forget, these are woymn on r9k pretending to be saints and caring about your problems and agreeing with what you say
in the real world it's the opposite.
I don't know why I like my friend so much. I've known her for 2 years now and I know we're exact opposites. She partys a lot, drinks, smokes sometimes and have sex. She actually talks to me whenever I text her but she doesn't really have much interests. I'm able to be myself around her but that's about it.
I wish I could get over her for good.
>>27899893
She takes ages to respond, but none of her replies are thought out or hold any value. I wonder what she is doing before she starts typing away?
Sucking on a door knob?
>>27899893
>Notice how she's got to reply to all of them?
No one is forcing the hippie wench to reply to anyone, she is replying herself without any force.
>>27899842
> you spark me as a closet whore
>/r9k/
> who did admit she will have sex once he becomes your boyfriend.
>say I don't want to have sex with him unless he is my bf
Saying you wouldn't skydive without a parachute is not the same thing as saying you would jump off the nearest high building the moment someone hands you a parachute.
> Especially sine you were a 'hippie"
>people calling you something is the same as it being the truth
> Yes, because using someone for your own gain isn't a sense of ones moral character.
>you actually read that as me referring to him
You're not very good at reading comprehension.
> i highly doubt you were getting any attention from males
Hey, you managed to get one thing right!
>pseudo intellectual
Hi pot, I'm kettle.
>>27899887
Sounds like maybe she doesn't want to talk. Still, she sounds a tad boring.
>>27899888
nice trips.
>i'm really quiet and reserved and suddenly I'm emotional
Still waters run deep, anon.
> I honestly wish I talked
I'm sure lots of people feel this way.
> my cold/aloofness
That could be it.
>I just wanted to smoke with this guy wtf is he talking about
> I feel like those kinds of people are more of a minority
Most people are scared about being open.
I guess maybe the only advice I could give would be to think about what sort of emotions you express and what you want out of the other person.
If you talk about an >abstract feel, there's little chance that the other person will relate. If you talk about something more generic, there's a greater chance they'll be like "that's something I can rant about too!".
And maybe make sure it's something that they can help you with. People like feeling that they've helped someone. So just saying, "can I please vent to you" and "thanks for listening" endears you to them.
>>27899981
All your replies are fucked up and make absolutely no sense. Do you have autism?
>>27899896
Even if it's fake, I can feel out the limits of people myself as a learning experience and it's just nice to read nice things and feel validated. I'm an idealist at heart and still need to experience the harshness of reality so that I can get a better footing. I've also been trying to talk to more people so I can become more emotionally stable so I don't necessarily have to have someone as an emotional dump.
Even if everyone in the real world is like that and I can't talk about things like this there will always be r9k.
>>27899981
>Saying you wouldn't skydive without a parachute is not the same thing as saying you would jump off the nearest high building the moment someone hands you a parachute.
I already stated, your pseudo intellectual comments won't work here. It's still rather cute you need them to try and act like you are somewhat intelligent but couldn't tell the intentions of a thirsty male who started giving attention to an ugly / fat hippie.
>>27899981
maybe she does, maybe she doesn't, i don't know.
maybe i'll just wait until the next time she says something and give up on trying with her, i hate being the one to almost always message first.
>>27900006
It is fake, there's no "even if it is". You are doing nothing but talking to a mirror and having the mirror agree with everything you say. None of what that whore says is genuine in anyway shape or form.
Stop living in denial.
>>27900006
>I've also been trying to talk to more people so I can become more emotionally stable so I don't necessarily have to have someone as an emotional dump.
have you tried not being a fucking bitch?
>>27899981
>>you actually read that as me referring to him
This whole conversations was about him, why are you turning it around and pretending otherwise you stupid cunt?
>>27899906
> I'm able to be myself around her but that's about it.
That's okay. You can friends for different things. Why would you wanna get over her?
>>27900014
>i can't actually say why you're wrong so I'll just insult you.
It's okay, anon. Whoever hurt you was wrong to do so.
>>27900019
> i don't know.
She could be quiet? Some people don't like to talk.
> i hate being the one to almost always message first.
That sounds like a smart idea. Although,
>being in a relationship where you are concious of how many conversations you initate
That usually is a pretty good indication that the other person isn't making you feel secure enough.
>>27900060
>the conversation was about him, therefore every pronoun, even those that are not male, refer to him,
Anon, really, it's okay. Settle down.
>>27900037
>anon just wants to share his feels
>be rude to him
Literally why.
>>27900084
Because we're too different maybe. But I think I'll continue texting her and we'll see what happens.
>>27900022
What am I denying? That everyone in the world doesn't care? That's fine with me, I've been alone for a long time living in self delusion with sweet words and only recently actively reached out to other people.
>>27900037
Your comment hurt me because I am a bitch, but that's why I've been trying to talk to more people anon, to work on not being a little bitch.
>>27899285
>"Mr. Elliot was rational, discreet, polished--but he was not open. There was never any burst of feeling, any warmth of indignation or delight, at the evil or good of others. This, to Anne, was a decided imperfection. ... She prized the frank, the open-hearted, the eager character beyond all others. Warmth and enthusiasm did captivate her still. She felt that she could so much more depend upon the sincerity of those who sometimes looked or said a careless or a hasty thing, than of those whose presence of mind never varied, whose tongue never slipped."
This is why I hate being around people. I'm fundamentally flawed because I can't be like this. Not even with male friends or family. Autism is hell if you can't fake normal or can't stop wanting to be normal. My only hope is to somehow accept that I'll never be able to connect with others or be close to them. The difficulty is when life forces you to be in social situations.
>>27900084
i'm only really conscious of it because of how many messages just seem to go ignored or how many times i actually need to initiate conversation.
if she was sick of talking to me or something i wish she'd just come out and say it, i've asked her about it before and she said she wasn't and gave the "i'm boring" thing again.
>>27900104
>Anon, really, it's okay. Settle down.
Why would you change it around, and add in everyone else into the conversation when we were talking about your hideous ass, and the guy who wanted to fuck your captain cook looking vagina?
It's a nice little stealthy movement to try and shift your retard onto someone else, after someone finding out how dense you truly are. I mean look up at your other replies, you did nothing but spew out arrows thinking it was going to get you anywhere because you cant handle an argument when you are wrong.
Also thanks for admitting no men gave you attention, basically what i said here is true; >>27899842
And that was not being able to find out the intentions of a guy, even after you were disowned by everyone else and had no male contact or attention.
Those drugs turned your brain to mush, kiddo.
>>27900175
>Your comment hurt me because I am a bitch, but that's why I've been trying to talk to more people anon, to work on not being a little bitch.
hang yourself you whiny little bitch
>>27900084
>>i can't actually say why you're wrong so I'll just insult you.
if you weren't so stupid you'd figure it out. I'm not here to spoon feed a literal retard. Though I'm sure your tard handler will anytime now.
>>27900179
I'm sorry to hear that anon, it must be really difficult for you to want to connect but physically can't. I admittedly don't understand autism very well but is there no feeling when you're talking with people or is there just a fundamental disconnect of understanding?
>>27900252
>I admittedly don't understand autism very well
How is that show when everyone of your replies spark me as someone with severe autism?
>>27898600
>>27899285
>>27899424
>>27899805
>>27899981
>>27900084
>>27900179
I'm an autist too anon, so I get where you're coming from.
(Hell, someone in this thread called me autistic, although that might be because "autism" is thrown around on this board).
My autism was pretty bad in that I was accidentally rude. People didn't really "get" that it was a mistake. I still ask people frequently during conversations if I did something wrong.
Besides people misinterpreting your behaviour, you should be okay. Other people in this thread said they ENJOY people sperging out. Sperging by it's very nature lends itself to over-enthusiasm and sincerity.
>>27900306
you will never know his feelings when you've got a vagina between your legs. Stop pretending to understand when people will look at the male with autism much lower and on another lever compared to that of a women where she will be hailed as strong.
>>27899190
>i just want to have a decent conversation.
why don't you go out and talk to someone ffs
>>27900334
why not suck his dick like you were programmed to do?
>>27900340
wat orignigga
>>27900370
why not just suck our dick to take us out of this misery?
>>27900379
You have a collective dick? You are a dick?
>>27900252
This is a little lame sounding but I view it like every person is an island. You can see each other, wave, even smile, but to really connect you have to both lay down a "bridge". That's the part I can't do.
Even with my stepsister, who theoretically cares about me and would like to be closer... I just can't be "open", "warm", "eager", etc. My mind can't do that. I can hug her and say I love her but... just be normal and bond through communication and random shenanigans? It's impossible for me.
>>27900397
if you suck my dick I'll teach you how to into reading comprehension.
>>27899887
I know someone like this too. I don't know if they are actually all that boring or she just doesn't like me. I initiate every conversation and fumble for new conversation topics, she seems to not like most things but I can't help but like her. However she seems to remember things we talk about and sometimes we share a bit of banter. I don't know.
>>27900402
Stop whining you autistic little shit.
>>27900205
I feel this acutely. I had a friend who wouldn't respond to me, but periodically just send me things. The fact that they would continue to say anything indicated that they wanted to still be friends. It mystified me.
Maybe she's the same way. Maybe she likes to be alone for long periods of time, or genuinely doesn't like saying much. Maybe her concept of friendship is different than yours.
Still, it sounds really rude. If she knows that her behaviour hurts your feelings, and she doesn't modify it, she's not being a good friend.
>>27900211
> your captain cook looking vagina
You're really mad, huh anon?
> had no male contact or attention.
Except I did have male friends, and three brothers I am close to? And a dad?
> Those drugs turned your brain to mush, kiddo.
I don't do drugs.
> you cant handle an argument when you are wrong.
I've responded to most of your comments. And you're the one that's repeatedly made assumptions about me and been wrong.
>>27900252
For me it's a fundamental disconnect. "see you later" as a generic goodbye really confused me. How are you going to see me later? You don't have my contact information? I barely know you! You didn't even ask me! Taking things literally, not knowing my behaviour or desire to be alone was weird, etc. I know autists who don't really "feel" empathy, but can rationalise that they should care.
>>27900406
it's kind of the same situation with me, except there really isn't all that much banter.
god, the more i think about it the less reasons i can justify to even keep talking to her.
>>27900433
>You're really mad, huh anon?
Good job, having to deflect it again, but now spewing the "are you upset".
>Except I did have male friends, and three brothers I am close to? And a dad?
Yet you admitted you had no male attention, yet you had friends? Pick one, autist.
>I don't do drugs.
It's a good thing you don't anymore, they've fucked up your brain beyond recognition.
>I've responded to most of your comments. And you're the one that's repeatedly made assumptions about me and been wrong.
You responded with nothing more but garbage that held no weight or any points, you did nothing but post arrows thinking it made you sound intelligent. All it did was show how dense you are, as well as it being your first week on 4chan.
Drink some bleach.
all i learned from this thread so far
>some dumb bitch wanting all this attention
>she is retarded / hippie
>still has friends
so far i learned girls cant be lonely.
>>27898484
Pretending to be a george foreman then pulling the newfag card, you've got this one in the bag.
>>27900433
>and three brothers I am close to? And a dad?
all of them think of you as nothing more but a wet hole
>>27900402
Do you bond better through actions? Like physically doing something?
>>27900406
> I can't help but like her
I hate that. You just wanna turn your feels off. I get this way with people I've known for a long time, but have changed dramatically from when we were better friends.
>>27900463
>no male attention, yet you had friends?
It's possible to have male friends and not be their romanti- Oh whatever. TLDR, anon.
>>27898976
Holy fucking shit thirst beta. just fuck off replying
>even the retard bitch in here takes 25 minutes to reply to people despite having no friends outside of her family
>>27900507
>It's possible to have male friends and not be their romanti- Oh whatever. TLDR, anon.
They aren't your friends, they are nothing more but family. It still proves what i said above that you are as dense as a cinder block with no logic in that head of yours at all.
Get used like a flesh-light, please.
>>27900433
i honestly don't know. if this was any other situation i would've probably become apathetic towards it by now and moved on, chalking it up to her not giving a hoot about me or something.
i should really go to bed anyways, thanks for listening to me vent/ramble about this shitty situation for the past hour or so. it feels good to actually talk about this kind of thing to someone i don't know.
>>27900507
>It's possible to have male friends and not be their romanti- Oh whatever.
If the guy finds the girl attractive that just doesn't happen.
>>27900507
>replying to people when they originally didn't reply to you
how fucking thirsty are you for attention and validation you retarded cunt?
>>27900533
don't tell that loose hippie, that. Anon.
>>27900531
I get that. There are some people I know where I don't care if it takes them a week to get back to me, and other people where it really bugs me.
> it feels good to actually talk about this kind of thing to someone i don't know.
Feel better anon! You deserve to be listened to!
>>27900550
>>27900535
>>27900512
>>27900518
holy fucking shit you cuck, stop samefaggnig
>2016
>girls coming onto r9k and pretending they are virgins
>>27900562
how often does your father and brothers fuck you?
>>27900579
good job retard
so how often does daddy fuck you?
>>27897723
Is that actually how you talk to people? God you're a fucking creep, man. You're pretty fucking mentally far gone and it would take a mountain of work to fix your mentality. You need professional help.
>>27900550
>>27900580
I'm going to assume no one else bothered to read my posts because they're massive, so it's probably a samefag.
This isn't upsetting anon, it's just sad.
>>27900597
So, who goes first when they fuck you? Your brothers or daddy?
Do you regularly get spit roasted?
>>27900597
>This isn't upsetting anon, it's just sad.
so
are you going to tell any stories if you getting fucked by your own father or not?
currently got my dick out
>>27900306
I'm more of a "shut inside themselves" kind of autistic. Sometimes I come off as rude too though. It's a terrible feeling.
>>27900507
No, I guess I'd say I bond best through the internet. But you'd probably agree that the internet is limited, rarely satisfying, and not sustainable in terms of connecting with others. For some reason people can bullshit forever in person but online most get tired of it.
Anyways, it's late and I'm going to go. Thanks for replying. I feel bad for OP because I used to be a lot like him. Now I don't try to be close to people online for the reasons I listed above. Focusing on some kind of personal project helps distract from the loneliness.
>>27900593
>>27900608
>thinks rape is edgy on 4chan
>>27900650
if i want you to speak I'll tell you to speak, got it you white knighting faggot? it's also not rape if you enjoy it.
>>27897818
>people have other things in their life that aren't you.
that's an excuse that always comes up for whores like you, shortly before you put communication on hold completely.
OP's pic is story of my fucking life as a male trying to find a gf. and I don't like it one bit. I don't confess my feelings like that to a cunt though. this guy must be on the verge of tears. I can't blame him tbqh. there is a time where the bullshit becomes too much and where one needs to talk about it IMMEDIATELY.
>>27900650
http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/study-reveals-female-rape-victims-enjoyed-the-experience/
http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Cant-Stop-Thinking-About-My-Rape/3025714
op you're going about your interaction with her all wrong, but im too tired and dont care enough to actually explain how you should respond, which should more or less be your attitude toward your girl
>>27897723
She's not interested in you anon.
>>27900433
>>Except I did have male friends, and three brothers I am close to? And a dad?
who's got the biggest cock?
>>27900646
> "shut inside themselves" kind of autistic. Sometimes I come off as rude too though. It's a terrible feeling.
I used to shut myself off a lot, but I recently moved to a much bigger city where having niche interests makes it a little easier to socialise.
I do a lot of stimming behaviours.
> It's a terrible feeling.
I feel that. I hate phone calls, so when I moved my family got mad at me because I emailed instead of telephoned.
> . But you'd probably agree that the internet is limited, rarely satisfying, and not sustainable in terms of connecting with others.
I actually wouldn't agree with that? I met one of my best friends online. We still prefer skype to meeting IRL even though it's possible now.
> not sustainable in terms of connecting with others
I think that's letting other people define what is a "normal" way to have a relationship. If you're friends with someone by "doing things" or through Skype calls, what does it matter?
Have a nice night OP! Feel better!
>>27900712
No one cares
unless you are going to tell stories of about how daddy fucked her little autist daughter you can leave.
>>27900712
>I actually wouldn't agree with that? I met one of my best friends online. We still prefer skype to meeting IRL even though it's possible now.
All i witnessed in this thread is no matter how retarded or autistic a woman can be, she will always still have men throwing themselves at her in hopes of friendship or something more. And they have the nerve to post on r9k or claim they are lonely.
>>27900402
I think I understand how you feel by not understanding it, if that makes sense. Your analogy helped a lot too. I feel like I can't understand how you can't make connections because it's so natural and I realize that feeling of frustration? from not being able to do is how you're feeling? I could be completely wrong though.
Good night anon.
lets get a lonely women thread going
>>27900658
What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I'll have you know, etc. etc.
>>27900737
women can most definitely be lonely
remember
never trust a women
>>27897723
why are you so needy?
Goddamn you people annoy me
>>27900755
the op did admit he is fucking autistic
>men hold us down
>we want equality
>this thread
>autistics whining about not being normal
>caring about fucking text messages
>some chick spouting platitudes
>some edgelord so fucking TRIGGERED he cites AVFM
>white knights
>white knights everywhere
this threads a goddamn mess
>its sexist to hold open a door
The only way to get girls is to make them believe they are inferior to you and lucky to get any attention at all from you.
>where are all the good guys gone???
>>27900712
Well I guess I'll prove some of the anons in this thread right.
I'm >>27900252
and the guy you said the quote to. If you want to keep in touch here's a throwaway. [email protected]
Good night.
>>27900802
no one cares you dumb bimbo. die in your sleep.
>>27900786
that's really hard because that would mean that you have higher social status than her in every way. that you're at least 5 years older and more accomplished than her and the most important thing, that she will approach you out of her own volition based on seeing you as admirable without you doing anything for it. now when does this ever happen? almost never.
you can't make them feel the way you described either because you'll have to make the first step and that always implies "here I am, there is something I want from you and it can only be you who decides if I'm gonna get that specific thing from you or not."
>>27900835
Why do college girls fuck their professors?
Because they are inferior to them. Women want to be dominated.
>>27900755
>why are you so needy?
>lack of attention from girls and everybody else in his life
>always goes nowhere when he tries to get some attention
>later, some dumbfuck retard like you stumbles into the thread asking "hurdurrr y u so needy?!?!" like your normalfag bitchbrain can't even process it.
Jesus Christ. Look at your-fucking-self.
>>27900843
>Why do college girls fuck their professors?
I don't know if that even happens anymore. or even in secret. there is so much stigmatizing going on if this gets public. the male professor would lose his job asap and they all know this so there is no sex happening no matter what. it could end in a disaster. there were a few cases a while ago in my city where something like that happened and since most women are ultra-leftist, hyper-feminist and brainwashed by kikepropaganda, they'd shit on him no matter what.
>>27897723
Probably not to seem desperate?
Stop bumping this shit thread if you contact a girl you deserve everything bad.
>>27900912
that ruins the relationship before it can even flourish though. not like bitches realize that either.
>>27900908
Teachers fuck students all the time. They just wait until she has finished his class then go balls deep.
>>27900926
I agree with that. I'd say some women are afraid of being rejected just like men too tho. It's all just a silly cluster fuck of communication sometimes it seems. Not at all saying it's always like that but you'd be surprised.
I gotta question for you all that is semi related to this.
I've been talking to a girl for about a month now. We have been on 3 dates so far and they seem to have went well.
We flirt when we are in person and have a good time and cut up.
But as far as the texting/messaging goes; I'm always the one that messages her first.
She always messages back although it might not be immediately. She will message back and we can usually chat for hours at a time. But it's always me making the contact.
Is that a big deal? Or am I just being paranoid because I'm an insecure robot?
>>27900976
>you'd be surprised.
well, I actually had my fair share of miscommunication with women. almost always it ends in being stuck completely because she doesn't care enough. you can be bullet-proof about your whole behavior, appear confident, have plans with her in mind, where to hang out, the best intentions ever, about to make things happen and all that good stuff, but then they will suffocate the whole thing from the beginning because communication on her part is lacking.
can't blame any guy for going insane if that keeps happening so often. it's boring too.
>Last email was 2 and a half days ago
The latest is usually one day, I don't like this feel.
>>27901033
She is one of those people that only thinks about what is in front of her.
She will cheat on you.
>>27901033
Hard to say. I don't know what kind of person she is. If I met her in real life I could give better input. But, I'd say she might just be busy. You say the dates went well and you guys flirt a lot so it's probably not an issue on your end.
>>27901042
As I said. I don't believe every women is like this but there are a fair share of them that are complete assholes who don't care. The blame could be put on both parties but it really depends on the situation and also the personalities of both people.
>>27901073
Well we do have total opposite work schedules. I'm usually going home around the time she is going in.
But she has messaged me first a few times. Earlier this week she did. And on the dates we've had dates, she has messaged me first to ask when I wanted to meet.
I feel like shes interested, but I'm so fucking insecure that I have a hard time believing a girl would like me.
And the girl I dated a long time ago would message constantly, and this girl doesn't.
>Read thread
>Vintage 'fembot' roleplaying as a pure virgin who just wants to love all robots
>You cucks eat it up like cake
>>27901114
I wouldn't worry about it if she does message you first sometimes and is very flirty when you do meet up.
>>27899337
This right here. Why cant they at least just tell, why do we have to play detective whenever we want to know what a woman actually thinks?
>>27901114
Just keep in mind that she is interested and that your insecurity might just be freaking you out a bit. Also not all chicks are the same. Maybe if you give it time the relationship will go somewhere and you'll see her start messaging you back more frequently.
>>27901141
Thanks. I think my issues are directly tied to how girls have done me before. I'm so fucked up that I question everything. And I couldn't see how a girl would ever want to hang out with me.
>>27899842
It really fascinates how every time a woman posts here that everyone and their mothers needs to apply some kind of r9k women meme and vent all their problems with women on the one girl who has dared to make a post on a pakistani smoke signal convention.
Hardly surprising that most people here are virgins.
>>27901178
I hope your right. But I'm afraid my insecurities will push her away.
One of my biggest fears is that I can't take a hint and I keep hanging around like some orbiter.
>>27901244
Lmao this is true
>>27901244
she wont sleep with you or sit on your shriveled up penis for defending her honor on the internet.. dude.
Pretend like you're uninterested or busy. Women aren't worth the time of day anyway
>>27900712
What are your niche interests?
>>27901295
stop giving the whore attention you dumb faggot.
>>27901281
I always like posts like this. Everyone knows what r9k is about. This poster knows, yet he has to let u know women aren't worth it.
But he's here....on r9k....of course he can use the lame excuse of well I'm just stopping by. I'm from fit or pol or something. But we all know why he's here. We all know why u posted that.
>>27901326
>implying this board has actual robots and isn't /b/ 2
Must suck to be you
>>27901259
Why do you immediately assume that anyone who isnt an asshole towards women expects something in return?
>>27901411
relax dude, she wont fuck you.
>>27901244
>>27901326
This is some Doj level white knight shitposting
>>27901394
I'm implying he's a robot and not a Chad like he's pretending
>>27897723
I would say to just give up on her. If it's blatantly obvious she doesn't give you the time of day to even message you back, then I would say to just stop talking to her in general. And no, don't be hoping she will message you back eventually, block her and just move on. It's probably a shitty feeling, but if someone can't emotionally invest themselves in you, as much as you have in them, then they aren't worth your time. Fuck them
>>27901757
good job replying to an old thrad when the op went to sleep, fuck tardo.
>>27898377
>you're a fag.png
Come on son. At least make the filename less obvious if you won't change the anime girl.
Sorry you had to find out this way, anon http://www.rooshv.com/women-who-own-iphones-lose-the-ability-to-love
>>27902157
Rooshv wew lad.
Somewhat ironic that he complains about the posts and likes girls get on their photos, yet he has thirsty guys loving all over him.
>>27897723
jesus fuck OP, that is painful. Reminds me of my young days.
Tell her: Hey I don't think you really care so I'm gonna move on with my life. Moreover, you also seem to leading me on so if you really aren't truly interested that sort of makes you a jerk.
Delete her (or ignore her completely) and move on op. Stop wasting your fucking time because that is the one thing you can't take back.
Do not stalk her, do not expect any replies from her, do not expect to interact anymore with her. Deleting and blocking her would be best.
>>27897723
>Then I got a little angry at you and acted stupid
Context please. Maybe you hurt her. It's natural she avoids you after that.
femanon here
for me, it's always been the opposite and my replies are vague and shitty and ill only have one person to talk to
>>27897723
>BOOOHOHOO I'M A NORMALFAG LOOK AT ME I GOT DUMPED FEEL SORRY FOR MEEE BOOOHHOOO
Listen kid.... I'll only say this once. FUK OUTTA HERE NORMIE WASTE OF LIFE.
