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who here /ldr/?
i recently got into a long distance relationship and would like to know /r9k/'s experiences with them
Almost a year and a half here. Losing hope desu senpai.
>>27825600
normie get out, go back on /soc/
>>27825600
Had a 2 year ldr period, now I live together with her and we are engaged. It is possible bros
>>27825600
they are terrible and never work. there is nothing to keep the other person from cheating, and trust me they will. you'll be the nice "emotional" bf while they go out and get fucked on the reg. if and when you ever meet, they will be disgusted by you, it will be awkward, they will find an excuse to leave early, and you will never see or talk to them again.
save yourself the years of agony and heartache and never start one to begin with
>>27825600
Nope. Having a girlfriend is enough of a hassle. Having one hundreds of miles away with all the disadvantages and none of the advantages... well son, why would you go and do that.
Might as well just be "really good friends"
>>27825682
How'd you meet, anon? I want hope.
>>27825697
Never been in any kind of relationship whatsoever, but this does seem like something a woman would do.
>>27825682
Ever asked her how many dicks she took while you were ldr?
>>27825600
went beautifully for 6 years, she cheated on me 2 months before i was going to propose and 6 months before we'd live together
just fucking kill me now i want this fucking suffering to end
WHY
FUCKING
LIVE
>LDR
Nice meme. It's literally better to be alone than to be in a relationship with someone you can't even touch because they live half a world away.
>>27825718
She is an old friend of my sis, we've known each other for about 10 years but developed feelings a lot later. She was studying in another state when we started dating.
>>27825600
How did you meet each other? Will you ever be able to visit?
They are shit, they don't work and its just suffering on both ends.
who here /met their gf on /r9k/ /?
>>27825600
Been in a relationship just over two years, and its been long distance for like 6 motnhs. its kinda hard but i keep it going because i wont find anyone i like as much as her. i know she wont cheat but i really do miss the sex. got a fleshlight and that kinda helps i guess. doesnt help that i have to hear my flatmate have sex through the wall each night.
Who here /fuckalotofbitcheseveryday/
CUZ I DO HEHEHEHEHEHEEKILLMEHEHE
>>27825600
they never, ever last, sure at the time you might think it will but either one of you will come across someone you can have a physical relationship and either cheat or break it off with one another or you will get tired of talking about the same thing and not being able to have sex, i say save yourself the heartache and don't get too attached to her.
>>27825600
In one now. Been dating my gf at school for 2 years now, but I got sent off to student teach three fucking hours away. Luckily I only have 3 more weeks until graduation and I come back into town.
>>27825600
loaded gun because more than likely it won't work out
Namely because you are just phone/video penpals most of your days which means eventually one of you will find a new mate that's not hours away.
Now if somehow you do find a way to make it work then you enjoy the worse threat that if you ever try to close the gap in distance you might not get along because they like the long distance you.
Also consider the following: tragedy of life has hit (parent dies, lose a job, diagnosed with some awful illness) and you reach to contact them, and nothing. No answers, zero contact it's just dead air you are calling/texting. How are you going to handle that? Are you ok suffering alone? If so what are you really getting out of this relationship then? A non random person to piss the breeze with? Finally they answer claim life got crazy for them too. Do you believe it? Trust them even though you just discovered that if they can't make contact they will try in no way to warn you or at least shot a message saying "sorry problems arose I'll talk when I can"
Because that my friend is where long distance relationships lose there charm, their luster. At that point it's just knowing you both were too pathetic to find something local and settled for the glass two screen approach where neither of you had to commit beyond the quite down time.
Be better to yourself and find someone you can actually visit when hard times hit
>>27825600
3 years that was one of the biggest wastes of my time.
>>27825795
Who here /going to get cucked very soon/?
I see at least one :)
I'm interested in trying again, but guys usually seem to ditch me for a local Stacy. it's fine, I guess. I just want a sensitive qt, but r9k is not the place for one, soc is full of manwhores.
reminder that if you are or have ever been in a long distance relationship you are a cuck. there isn't even room here for a clever metaphor or anecdote because 100% of the time your gf will be riding the cock carousel.
>>27826184
there's always one shill in every thread. hello shill, how is your day?
men in ldrs are cucks
>>27826184
I approve of this post
>>27826299
Does CK stand for KEK?
>>27826216
>shill
i don't think you understand what that word means, anon
>>27826315
It means cuck king
I dunno if you can consider it a LDR since we were in the same city, but we met after a couple months and its been almost 3 years. bretty gud
>>27826216
>"shilling" the truth
Find 5 LDRs where there was no cheating
Find 1 LDR that worked out
as someone who's cheated and been cheated on, I know what I'm talking about. you're relationship is completely fictitious and built on lies.
>best friend moved away when we were kids
>kept in contact through occasional phone calls, letters, and email/instant messages once it became popular
>"dated" long-distance all through high school
>went to visit her in the summer between high school and college
>she proposed to me during that time and we got married before I went back home
>moved to be with her permanently after college
>had two children together
>been together since
Some days she's the only reason I can bring myself to get out of bed.
>>27825600
Got cheated on for half a year, got dumped, took her back when he left her a month later
Been together ever since(2 years) still LDR
>>27826485
nice cuck bait, faggot
>>27825795
How'd you do it? Who is she?
I have been talking to a girl in Japan for a long ass time. I think I could start a relationship, but I don't think it'd work out because she wants to be an English teacher there and I'm not willing to move there. She's qt as fuck and her personality is awesome though. ;_;
been in one for 4-5 months with a very special girl
this short time being with her has honestly been the happiest period of my life
>>27826500
It's not bait.
Not everyone is insecure about being cheated on
>>27826638
>It's not bait.
So you're actually a cuck, then. Good to know.
They don't work for shit. I mean go head and try, we're not gonna talk you out of it, but in the end you will either be heart broken or so apathetic to your relationship that you won't care if it ends.
>>27826692
We started a new leaf, you bitter virgin
You are just jealous of our relationship 'cause your parents wouldn't stay together for you after your Mom had the whole local Football team in her while your Dad was at work
>>27825600
In one, the week we visited was the best week of my life. Hes incredibly insecure though because he can't hold down a job, so moving in is going to take a 'long' time. For now its just plane trips.
>>27825898
You better mean a three hour flight out else I'm gonna ree
>>27826796
>We started a new leaf
Amazing how these Hallmark-tier phrases actually mean something to people as stupid and gullible as you.
It will never work as long you have cell phones and internet access of any kinds. She WILL cheat on you and you will spend every minute of your day doubting her loyalty.
Don't do it.
Why is that men always have to worry about women cheating in an LDR while women literally NEVER have to worry about men cheating on them?
Women are ridiculous.
>>27826464
Glad you're happy anon :)
>>27827002
Because you can literally make a woman take her clothes off on camera by just giving her enough attention.
>ldr with a guy I met in vidya when I was 15
>he was 19
>he gets fucked up and goes to jail for doing lewd things with me
>vow to him that I'll wait for him
>he's out of jail now and is doing a trade because he can't really get any other jobs while being a sex offender criminal, we work our hardest to make it work
>I'm a lawyer now
>I moved to him and we live together and we're happy, engaged now
feels good man
>>27827086
How could you ever be with someone who has sex with teenagers!
>>27827086
How did you even get caught? Did your mom find your phone?
>>27827115
It was only with me.
>>27827137
Not even, I actually have no idea to this day. It couldn't have been my family since they legitimately had no idea what was going on when cops came to our place.
>>27827176
>It was only with me.
That's not an excuse, anyone who has sex with anyone under the age of 18 is a child rapist. A child CANNOT consent.
>>27827002
I'm gonna be honest with you. If they are dating a Chad then they are worried about getting cheated on. Chads cheat on their girlfriends all the time. Chads also don't get in ldr and if they do they 100% cheat on the girl
I met mine here on /r9k/.
We met after two weeks of being together, and have been together since November 22nd.
We live two and a half hours away and try and see each other every weekend.
He's awesome, and we get along great.
He's going into the air force so we are going to get married by the end of this year so I can live on base with him and I'm excited af.
It won't work unless you have been in an irl relationship before, meet up with some regularity, or live close enough you can easily meet once you decide to.
>>27827549
no gays in the military
/co/ reject here, scanning the board for cringe.
Currently ldr, well 4-6 hours isn't that long. We're moving in together in 4 weeks, and have lived together for brief periods of time. Maybe the sweetest thing to ever live.She's a turbo furfag though and somewhat of a shutin. Still kinda cute and endearing somehow. After practically bullying her for an entire month we started talking and then later dating.
>>27827549
he has to go through training first, which takes a few months
>>27827573
actually 2 years ago they made that a law so gay people whore are married get the same benefits as straight couples, sorry
>>27827589
pray to god she doesn't live near sacramento or i know exactly who you are talking about and she is psychotic
>>27827192
a child cant consent to having sex but a child can consent to have a sex change?
>>27825697
>>27825913
>>27826721
>>27826933
Spotted the bad experiences.
>>27827635
Yeah, are you trying to tell me children don't have genitals or something? They exist and can choose to identify with it, or not.
>>27827589
>scanning the board for cringe.
you just posted one of the most cringe things, so congratulations i guess
>>27827605
I know that, I've been preparing for him going to basic for a bit.
He leaves in May!
Also I'm a real girl senpai
>>27827628
>sacramento
Nope. Other coast. She's crazy but more in a cute spaz kind of way.
>>27827668
Nothing cringy about being in a relationship. Or is it because she's weird? Girls can get away with having strange hobbies and interests. It's "cute" and "quarky". The only thing cringe here is how downtrodden r9k is. Why are you guys so sad all the time?
>>27825729
She probably engaged with him after she was not desireable to chad and Jamal
>>27827777
>It's "cute" and "quarky".
>tfw no quark gf
>tfw will never be the antiquark to her meson
>tfw will never be the color charge that holds her together
>>27827777
first of all, glorious digits hombre
>Why are you guys so sad all the time?
The only thing in life worth living for is love. Unfortunately, most of us here were born with shit genetics and have no idea how to even communicate with a man, let alone a pretty girl. Life fucking sucks man.
Was in one for 6 years. She was cool: Indonesian robot and her dad was a mob boss.
Used it as a crutch to avoid any other close bonds with people and ended up needing therapy for abandonment issues (still ongoing) when she left.
If it's your first relationship, I don't think you can do it without fucking yourself up emotionally. If you've had other relationships, why the fuck would you want an LDR?
>>27826464
>>she proposed to me
>>27827777
>fundamentally broken in some way that ruins any chance of a romantic relationship or even casual friendships
>no one will even tell you how your broken so you can fix it, just give shitty advice like "you're over thinking it, just be yourself
>/co/fag" lol y r u so sad gais?"
>>27827660
never had one honestly Im >>27825913 and Im just sharing what happen with the friends I had that pulled that shit. All 4 were the same:
It was "great" till life was life then it was total shit for them and it crash and burn way harder than a normal relationship
Only had terrible experiences. All of my normie "friends" also had terrible experiences with it
>>27827628
anon may i ask more about this girl you know who is psychotic near Sacramento? i wonder if we know the same girl..
>>27825600
this is what long distance relationships actually are, OP.
enjoy being cucked
Fucking why?
Relationships are so stupid, let alone /ldr/
>>27828070
That's how she is, yeah. She takes what she wants, and she decided pretty young she wanted me.
>>27827019
Thanks, I am too.
>>27828383
>le cuck maymay
wow how original. love how you show up in every thread.
The hardest part for me is knowing that we can't be together long term without getting married. I can't wait to get married and raise a family with him though and I'm ready to wait a few years.
>>27827002
I worried about my ex cheating on meand he didbut I never worry about my bf, I trust him too much to even entertain the idea.
don't do it OP they always end badly
>>27825600
A more accurate pic for you OP
>>27830980
I know Henry Kissinger was a politician or something
This thing is cheesy as shit and I think it's stupid, but I did sort of want it. The girl might think it's cool.
>>27831689
do not do this if you want a girl to ever fuck you
>>27825730
Kek
Beep boop original
>>27830578
>tfw no ldr negro bf
LDR is painful. As soon as you discover they're being shady and distant, if you are emotionally invested, you will be crippled with overwhelming anxiety that will effect your everyday life. It's absolutely terrible. I had hope for mine but it didn't work out.
My conscious is clear after mine went sour. I held up my end of the deal and kept my promises. There is nothing I would have done differently and I had to watch it fall apart from a long distance.
Robots: You have been warned.
>>27830578
>topkake
So true
> be straight guy and meet femboy while playing vidya game living close-ish to me (I'm in NY, he's in Michigan)
>he's pretty depressed and seems to want a bf
>have good no homo friendship of mutual feel exchange combined with his cute appearance cause me to develop feelings for him
>seems to like me as well
>legitimately attracted to him, find him pretty hot
>get massive woodies when he talks to me about certain things
>have sometimes had girls like me but I wasn't attracted to them (not cute, fat or asian) due to unrealistically high standards from internet
Should I go for it?
I'm 26, I've been talking to this qt Spanish girl since I was 17.Through the years we both had our own relationships, sometimes talking on and off, desu never saw this as a "relationship", although if you ask me I do know we love each other(as much as you can love someone you've never met).Anyway, she's flying here(Mexico) on summer, we're gonna met after 9 years, currently nervous as fuck.
was nice at first, but I can see her slowly losing interest
>>27832387
Come to terms with the fact that you're a faggot
>>27827777
>turbo furfag
>cute
>quirky
End yourself
>>27832796
I'm not meming. I'm straight. He's very feminine and has a cute personality. I'm only attracted to very good looking females. Like 5-8s, but I can only pull 2 and 3s.
Tried to fug grills I wasnt attracted to 3 times. Couldnt do it.
>>27832531
she dtf?
>>27832387
you're a faggot, embrace it and go for it.
I have no experience with them, but I've seen how alot of them end first hand, that is, the guy finding out that she's been fucking anything with a dick the entire time.
>>27832531
This is sweet, I hope it goes well. What's she like?
>>27826415
>you're relationship
>you are relationship.
it's not difficult to learn, mr. mature and superior LDR. You're = you are; and your = Your. Hope this helps since youre so cool and amazing for having a mature LDR unlike me a, simpleton. gee whiz thanks for sharing your life pro tips with me.
>>27825600
>2 hour difference
Try 7 hour difference, feels bad man
I feel so bad bc qt3.14bf is three hours ahead of me and he stays up late and I am probably (read: definitely) a bad gf.
I am constantly scared he's going to recognize that he can do better than a ldr with me.
Honestly even if it doesn't work out and even if I'm naive or deluding myself, it's infinitely better than the lonely nights I'd spend comtemplating suicide and fretting over thoughts of dying without ever connecting to other people.
I used to be afraid of dying without accomplishing anything. Now that I have a sense of direction and purpose and have an established foothold in my field, I'm better off, and I thought that was kind of where satisfaction and positive emotions would peak for me. So I got used to it. I didn't know anyone could make me actually happy and elevate me past the point of being content.
I'm not really interested in anyone else, like I don't look at other guys.
At worst, it'll turn out to be a waste of time and maybe leave me emotionally and socially stunted, which is exactly where I was before anyway.
I've got a lot more to gain than I have to lose. Not only that, but I'm positive I want this. I don't mind investing my time and emotions in us, even if our happiness comes to an abrupt end.
Dating a Russbot for just over 5 months.
Hes got a friend that dated in ldr, for 1.5 years they didnt see each other at all but now they live together, play vidya and watch animu in a comfy apartment. He said they had loads of intimacy when they met finally,
Its possible Robots
>>27832970
>>27832970
Last time we talked:
>blablabla I'm gonna show you around
>Around? I just wanna stay inside with you all day
>no prob, we can lock ourselves in
>good, I thought you were gonna take me to a bunch of museum
>heh
(I was gonna take her to a bunch of museums tho ;__;)
>>27833079
She's awesome.
She's beautiful, a green eyed redhead with a fucking awesome sense of humor, she's hot and smart, she loves to read, and man, her accent! I'm excited as fuck, I've been busting my ass working 12 hours shifts so I can have a bunch of money for when she comes(we're not gonna met at my city, I'm flying to the capital) and lifting everyday.
I can barely think about anything else, scared as shit.
>all these desperate betas thinking ldr is the same as having a crush on someone from the internet
If you haven't met in real life and had sex, it's not a relationship. It's not a ldr if you don't see each other regularly.
t. in an actual ldr. We see each other every 2-3 weeks.
>>27833163
Oh dear, it's gonna be hell for you when it's over(it will), you have no idea.
>>27825600
Had one for half a year. It's not worth it.
She'll just end up cheating on you with some dark triad faggot.
Seriously, get out while you can, run, and never look back.
>>27825600
It's possible if you're secure and trust the other person, which nearly nobody on /r9k/ is.
It's not easy at all though. Personally I wouldn't consider a LDR where the plane would cost more than my rent and I can only see them once or twice, but one where you can meet a handful of times a year is okay I guess. If something terrible happens (parents died, mobbed, bad illness) I think it's also your responsibility as a bf/gf to pack your bags and go over there in emergency.
>>27825801
> i know she wont cheat
Gee i think you're the first person to say that. All those other guys reckon their gf is probably going to cheat, so you're a-ok.
I had a long distance during uni holidays seen as my gf went to the same uni as me. We would see each other 2-3 times during summer.
Then her degree finished a year before mine so we were long distance for most of that year but she lived close enough that we would spend every weekend either at my dorm or her house.
Now we live together and are about to have kids. But i'd still say that long distance can only work when there are concrete plans for it to end, and even then you have to be able to meet up once a month or so.
Otherwise the split second a different offer appears one of you will jump ship.
>>27833163
stefanie?
>>27825929
this tbqh fambo
>>27825600
I don't even know where to find interested girls
I guess it's for the best, I'm one of those assholes who's attracted to emotionally vulnerable girls and I'm not dumb enough to not realize that that's unhealthy
I'm in an LDR.
One thing that's worked for us is that we're still allowed to sleep with other people. We gotta deal with the fucking urges somehow and skype sometimes doesn't cut it. We see each other twice to four times a year. It's a little extreme distance-wise, but we're making do. But yeah, we got rid of the whole 'cheating' aspect by agreeing that we'll sleep with other people. The only rule is if one of us gets an STD from not playing safe, we break up.
So yeah, we're honest about it. I have emotional support and I still get to grindr it up.
>>27825600
terrible. get living together asap. it's fucked from the start
>>27834642
:D YES IT ME
>>27834729
never thought you'd browse /r9k/
There is no way its you!
>>27834706
kek
what a cuck
>>27834787
Sounds like he gets sex too, so it's probably not so bad
>>27834787
That word does not mean what you think it means.
There's a difference between getting cucked and being in an open relationship.
(And honestly, I'm the one that sleeps with people. He's pretty reserved.)
>>27834787
he's gay, so you can expect him to be depraved
>>27834759
haha u r a dumbo nd ur mumz a gaybo :P
>>27834804
>He's
so you're a whore, not a cuck
sorry for the mistake
>>27834804
>he
Ok now i get why you said grindr
>>27825730
>2 months before i was going to propose
You dodged a fucking bullet there, I hope this has taught you a lesson about marriage
>>27834834
To be fair, there's only so much you can do to relieve tension with vid chats and the limits of your imagination. Sometimes sex is sex, and we're both cool with the idea of sleeping with other people while remaining emotionally bonded and eventually living a life together.
He's had sex maybe twice and I've had a number of pump-n-dumps since being together. The key is just to be honest about it. It's really not that big of a deal and if you're mature enough, you'll understand.
Unless you're one of those people that believes in christian shit like 'sanctity' there's really no issue, anon.
I'm in one myself. I like him a lot and we share many things and ideas together, but it's difficult when we have a 6-hour difference and he's hardly ever on skype, while I'm the only woman in the US without a phone. He'll probably get bored or think of it as too much of a bother in the end. I'm still going to enjoy it and won't feel bad if/when it ends since I've never been in any kind of relationship before and I'm just enjoying the experience and the memories I'm gaining.Also, I have his pictures and a couple of skype conversations recorded to listen to in the future lel.
>>27825600
>get into an LDR with a girl who says she is moving to your country
>she was lying and has a kid
>now stuck in a ldr with no intention of moving country myself
don't do it.
>>27834832
Yep. definitely not my girlfriend.
Oh well. That description of feelings and the time difference is so similar to my own ldr. Plus she usually gets up around this time. Oh well.
>>27834864
don't care
you're still a whore and he's a cuck, deal with it
>tfw after the initial newness wears off the LDR you realize you're just doing the same shit over and over
How to spice up an LDR? All we have to do is watch tv shows/movies/video and talk on skype. It's fun but I can't see it lasting too long without getting boring for her. What do you guys do in your LDRs to keep it fresh?
>>27834876
And in the end it will all work out nice, anon. :)
I hope you find someone special too.
>>27834919
When I was in an LDR things got pretty spiced up when she moved to my country and we fucked regularly for a year.
She lost interest in me when she went back home though, so that's kinda shit
>>27834919
one part of it is the constant planning for meetups and eventually planning to live togather
you are probably not in a relationship, just some internet "gf" who you will never meet
>>27834864
>Unless you're one of those people that believes in christian shit like 'sanctity' there's really no issue, anon.
>degenerate thinks religion precedes human behaviour
Smarter humans than you wrote it in there because it's detrimental to your health, mental stability, and future of your offspring you mouth breathing retard.
>>27834969
>All the plans you guys made to meet
>All the things you said you were going to do in her city
>Telling yourself the arguments and disagreements won't matter when you meet in person things will be great
>you never end up meeting
>>27834971
Sex is healthy, anon! Embrace it. As long as one engages in sexual activity in a safe and positive manner, there's really no harm.
>>27834871
>stuck in a ldr
How?
>>27825600
>Tfw had ldr mommy gf
>Tfw I'm 25 and it's my first and only relationship to date
>Tfw have been rejected so many times that I never thought I would have a chance at being loved, especially because mommy gfs are so extremely few and far between
>Tfw she's so nice and bought me diapers and candy and stuff that I've been wanting ever since I was little
>Tfw we've been together for seven months
>Tfw last week she said she just wants to be friends now "until we can meet up"
>Tfw the plan was to meet up this year, preferably on my birthday which is coming up in a couple months
>Tfw she kept getting me to trust her 100% and promised she would never abandon me
>Tfw the thought that this would happen lingered in the corner of my mind for months until I finally felt certain that this was it
>Tfw her text still has me wondering if this is just a bad dream I haven't woken up from yet
>Tfw I don't know if the relationship is actually over or not... haven't really spoken much since
>Tfw lingering thought that she's fallen for chad but doesn't want to admit it
>Tfw can't help but feel like if that's not the case, then she'll forget about me and fall in love with someone else before we meet
>Tfw slowly changing back to my bitter, careless, hopeless self
JUST
KILL
MY
SHIT
UP
>>27825795
I met her on here.
>>27835050
>Sex is healthy, anon!
with one partner
>>27825697
>they will find an excuse to leave early, and you will never see or talk to them again.
What the fuck, this happened with me. She said she had to go to a child birthday party and left(she really did though, even bought the present), but this after we fucked for 3 days and slept spooning together. We still talk, we are scheduling our next encounter, I really like her but she seems unsure if she wants to continue or not, even while saying "i like you very much and don't want to lose you", i'm confused.
>>27834993
you should never wait more than 3 months with meeting up first
the sooner the better
where theres a will, theres a way
>>27835050
unless you are caught in the act by the angry husband
There are no pure women in 2016. Even women in SAUDI ARABIA get fucked by Chad by their 18th birthday. And you think they will refrain from being whores in western countries where there are no consequences, and the betas are pathetic enough to just let it happen and still marry these whores?
You do realise that women don't do ANY of this shit right? It's weird how theyre supposed to be the "emotional" ones, but the ONLY gender which you see CONSTANTLY crying online about the opposite sex are MEN. Sure, women will respost those stupid facebook quotes of "waaah he left me im soooo depressed my life is so darkkkk xD" but they do that for ATTENTION. If you go to anonymous you know how many women you see crying about this shit? FUCKING NONE!!! Why? Because they do not CARE! LMFAO!
>>27835256
Eh, only okay bait
>Friend you want to be in an ldr with plays a game with someone else and you aren't invited randomly
How do I curb this indescribable feeling of annoyance or anger.
How do I cope with it? What is it?
>>27835288
>want to be in a ldr with
Why not just tell her?
>>27835308
I did and they dismissed me so I get annoyed when they spend time with others and I don't know why or how to deal with it.
>>27835288
its called jelousy
very natural feeling
tell her how you feel, get rejected, learn from it, find an actual girlfriend
>>27825600
True love relationships can only happen if the relationship started as a long distance one.
If you try to get someone in real life, not only you will both judge each others appearances at first glance without thinking "maybe our personalities match", but you also have a chance to stutter, embarrass yourself, creep the fuck out of the other person or do a mistake that will forever destroy any chance you have with said person.
By long distance, you can share information about yourself easily and convenient, you don't have to go to annoying dates, and you don't have to abandon some daily life activities to commit to a relationship.
>but relationships are formed in real life
No they are not. You've been indoctrinated and manipulated by your parents, elders or normal people to go outside and find a lover because that used to be the only way to meet someone to spend your life with. Times change.
That mentality nowadays is not only stupid, but it's also wrong. There have been thousands of cases where long distance relationships work. It's all about commitment.
>but lover might cheat. You're just a cuck
That is as common as in real life relationships. There's absolutely no difference between them in this case. In both cases you can tell if someone's cheating on you by their speech pattern.
If you still think that true relationships only happen in real life, stay ignorant little sheepie. Live your simple lonely life while ATTEMPTING to copy what the "cool sheeps" do...because that's the only thing you're capable of in life: mindlessly copycat the so-called "alphas" or whatever you normal people strive to be as.
>tfw only relationships you've been in are LDR
>they've all been international too
>NEET so it takes months to save up money to potentially meet
>LDR is over before I get the money
every time
>>27835323
She's not interested?
Look elsewhere, she's not going to change her mind
Spend time with other friends, try to remove yourself from her emotionally
Don't get too caught up over someone who's not interested, yknow?
>>27835276
Lol you pathetic fucking white knight cockroach.
Yeah, because anything that points out how women actually are is "bait". I really don't see why you orbiters don't just stay on reddit where you belong. Oh well, doesn't matter. I'll be the one laughing when your LDR oneitis (FUCKING LMAO) gets fucked hard by Chad.
Every boy I seem to like lives on the other side of the world and it hurts because I could never get into an LDR since I know I'd end up getting cucked by Stacey.
>>27835403
Stop living in australia m8
>>27835395
Yeah, that's good advice. I'll try to find new friends.
Thanks.
>>27835414Even worse, it's New Zealand
>>27835447
What is new zealand like? It seems clean and pretty, but I always think my perception of other countries is biased by the grass always being greener.do you have a qt new zealand accent
>>27835471
It is clean and pretty, a bit boring but I'd take this over America any day.I get told I do
>>27835502
Hey, America isn't so bad! There's a lot of pretty places here too, and some places people are really friendly and welcoming. Some places... aren't, but usually americans are decent people.
>>27825600
I dated a girl from the other side of Europe for a while who I've met over a 4chan.
At first its exiting and you accept the fact that the other person just lives far away.
You try to make it work with skype, but it just doesnt satisfy
Then you move in, but because she doesn't speak the language she cant get a job here.
Constant stress of going back and forth.
Cracks start to appear as she still demands a full relationship while she away. Have to talk to her over skype for hours sometimes even well into the night or else she gets mad and gives me the silent treatment. Have to constantly check my texts, because if i miss something, I will get punished.
Try to desperately get her a job here, because the long distance thing is not working. She doesn't really seem into it that much and prefer to just go back every month to work at home while it's killing me.
Constant fighting an arguing erupts even in violent encounters. Makes me constantly completely unhappy and I've never been closer to actually killing myself as I saw no way out.
Talk to her about it. State that if it doesn't work out this time its over. Meanwhile I have to go for an internship in another city. So now I'm away from my actual home where she lives now. Think this might work, but then the "im going go home to work" thing starts again. Because "Youre not here anyway and you choosing for yourself anyway by choosing to complete your education, so I'm gonna chose for myself 2". Ask her not to. She still wants to go back to work, even though I offer her to live on my money.
Still goes back. I say its the end. She agrees, She doesn't really want to. Spend a few months apart hardly talking. Start talking again, forgive her. Find out she fucks another guy. I'm not into it and can't be bothered anymore. She says we were on a breakup, which is true. But I'm not really into sloppy seconds.
Deleted me of skype finally a few weeks ago after months of not talking. The love of my life.
NORMIES OUT NORMIES OUT RRRREEEEEE!
>>27835561
What ruins America for me mostly is the political situation and how utterly retarded the government is, most first world countries seem to have a retarded goverment but in America it seems worse.I'll stop derailing the thread now, have a nice night American Anon.
>>27835589it's morning but thanksif you ever wanna chat my skype is glitch-kun
I'll stop derailing the thread too now
>>27825600
been in one for 3 years, not yet met her. we talk daily
>>27835586
>you try to make it work with skype, but it just doesnt satisfy
>demands a full relationship
Either you or her are "too normal" to commit to a long distance relationship or you both don't know how it works.
Both of you should realize that long distance is based on commitment.
The fantasy of you guys being together one day should be enough satisfy both you and your lover, and ultimately should be the goal that keeps you guys together.
>she gets mad and gives me the silent treatment.
This is a sign that means "I'm a girly-girl who wants to manipulate you. And you will do it because I can get a guy anytime while you can't get yourself another girl"
Never fall for this ever. Let these cancerous people to go extinct.
> Find out she fucks another guy.
Because she's a girly-girl with needs and you should understand that you need to be the beta of the relationship. Otherwise it's over.
>The love of my life.
No. You just fell in love with the wrong person. Try finding someone that doesn't attempt to rule your mind and soul for her sake. If you break up with a person who actually respects you then you can say you lost the "love of your life" and feel bad about it.
>>27835105
That's pretty harsh man, but it's probably for the best that you either cut contact or seriously talk to her about it.
>>27834919
>tfw after the initial newness wears off the LDR you realize you're just doing the same shit over and over
So it's just like a real relationship?
don't. you get all the shitty parts of a relationship, with few of the benefits. and you will probably get cucked
>>27835384
you never had a relationship
>>27834919
>play videogames with online function together
Anything that is based on teamwork or is played better with others is good. From MMORPGs to games like animal crossing. Avoid competitive games like MOBAs or FPSs
>sexting
Either by roleplay or teasing. You can attempt this after at least 6 months of the relationship without looking as a creep. Preferably after a year.
Or be creative and find stuff you guys can do together. Don't force activities for the sake of the relationship. You both need to like whatever you guys do.
>>27825600
>Met each other online through a social media site
>Late June will be our 2 year anniversary of dating
>Talked to her/flirted for about 3 months before asking her out
>Actually talked to her before all of this too, we stumbled across each other and had about a 10 minute conversation on the website maybe 6 months to a year before we started talking.
>Really lucky and glad that we ended up meeting again after I let her go the first time. No idea why I let her go the first time
>I moved 3,000 miles across the country to be with her back in October
It really doesn't feel like it's already been 2 years. Time sure does fly. We're both virgins and first real relationships for each other. I can see how ldr can have a lot of pitfalls and dangers if one of the people is a piece of shit that leads the other one on, but if you're both in love and want each other then it's not really a big deal since good things are worth waiting for.
I've never been on a date or pursued any sort of relationship, even an online one.
I'd like to try, but I can't think of a way to start right now, seeing how I'm 26 and have zero experience with it.
I was thinking of that Interpals website, where people hook up mostly to practice language skills or something, but I got too anxious and dropped the idea.
>>27835833
Yeah... I want to talk to her about it... but I don't even know what to say or ask. Six hour time zone difference sucks. I'm pretty sure she's the only grill that will ever love me, especially that she way she has. I had pretty much accepted that I was destined to die alone before she showed up... now I have hope and it's disappearing.
But yeah... seven months... never had an argument... like what the fuck. To break up because of work/school/whatever seems so bullshit. It's not like she'll be working forever. I'm trying to resist the urge to just quit my job or pull an Elliot or something.Passing out now btw so probably won't get to reply when I'm back up. G-goodnight, /r9k/... at least I still have this hell-hole.
>>27835105
>Tfw she kept getting me to trust her 100% and promised she would never abandon me
A long distance relationship where you've never met in real life is doomed for failure.
>>27825600
i met a woman who lived in a different part of the country on the internet, we got close and after a while i moved down to live with her. she gave me a place to stay and a ton of help with my problems, im glad i did it.
>>27833473
>it's not LDR if you don't see each other regularly
Do you even know what long distance relationship means?
>>27825600
Your dick isn't multiple time zones long, so what's the point?
>>27836357
Companionship, original-comment-san.
>>27833473
>If you haven't met in real life and had sex, it's not a relationship
This is what cancerous people say. Also known as "normal people". Bunch of sheeps that baaahh at each other about how to be "alpha" or whatever you normal people find "cool". Indoctrinating and brainwashing others about your ideals on how to live your life, marginalizing and excluding anyone who questions your ideals. Because you where told "that's what you should do"
>hurr durr we need physical contact because that's what mommy and friends said it should be otherwise it's stupid.
Please take your breed along with the "cool kids" you strive to be as and kill yourselves. You guys are nothing but mindless clones of each other.
>>27825730
>2 months
She'd been cheating on you for years prior. You only found out about the tip of the iceberg.
she is cucking you right now
>>27825600
Two experiences.
I met the first guy on WoW (yeah yeah). Eventually we got close over MSN and started dating. He visited me soon after. It was a bit awkward, and sadly, the visits got worse and worse cause we'd fight a lot and he had a very violent temper. It lasted for 4 years before I decided it's enough and I ended it. It was just a character mismatch and he was going through his parent's divorce at the moment so he took it out on me. We got back in touch a few months ago, he apologized for everything and said he's been seeing a psychiatrist for the past few years and it really helped him see how much of a dick he was, and that he still has nightmares about all the shit from back then. We're actually good friends now and talk almost daily.
Second one is my current relationship.
I first heard the guy on Ventrilo (Again, WoW) and I can't even explain it, it felt like something happened right away. I thought to myself "Wow, he's -exactly- like me". We ended up talking and got really close, and I mean extremely close. I had never felt that kinda connection with another human being. We obviously fell in love, and since then it's been bliss. I have had years of abuse all my life, and I have never felt true happiness like I am feeling right now.
He visited me in December, we got to spend Xmas and New years together. He's vising again in June, and I will do it soon after.
It's weird to me because it doesn't feel any different than IRL at all this time. I see him when I wake up on skype, and when we go to bed. It's how we fall asleep and how we start the day. We play vidya together online, drink coffee together over Skype, watch youtubes, etc. It's all exactly the same as if we were together irl.
When we met for the first time, it was amazing and wasn't at all awkward. It was like we've been together for years. We just held hands right away, chatted, made jokes, and he told me he loves me like 10 mins after we first made eye contact.
>>27836627
Cont cause limit.
He was here for 10 days, and it was amazing, we just had incredible chemistry. We discussed about getting married or having kids before we even got together, we both want that and we have very similar interests and views of the future.
So yeah, if the person is right, it will be bliss. If not, then it's best to end it before it gets too hard.
Usually the first visit should be a great indicator.
But hang in there robots. It's not all bad and not all people are cheating cunts.
>>27836376
A key part of any healthy relationship between two adults is a sex life between them.
If you want companionship, buy a puppy, but long distance is a no go unless it's brief.
I'm in one right now with a qt I met on r9k, we don't live that far from each other so the possibilities for my poor ass to visit are quite a few. I was going to go on easter but some stuff happened on my side so that couldn't happen. But on winter break probably. We've been together for 6 months and it sort of terrifies me, the idea of the first meeting, I'm really scared he won't like me and shit. About the loyalty issue there's really no problem because none of us go out or have much interaction with other people besides family and I trust him 100%. I never thought I'd find someone so perfect for me and I'm going to do anything to make it work, idec about bad past experiences or anything, we're both committed to it
I'm sort of in one now? I think we avoid talking about it because we're both scared to ruin it. We've talked about meeting up in person but I'm not sure I want to. He'll think I'm ugly. Our minds are so compatible I would be absolutely crushed if the only thing keeping us from being together was his lack of attraction to me physically
yep met on r9k shitposting ~8 months ago
normally have problems talking but we both just felt very natural doing it and just never stopped
going to meet irl in a couple months probably and if it goes well move in together
she is also less social then I am (and I have literally no friends past 1 person I occasionally argue with on steam chat like once a month)
I probably added over a hundred or two people from here (some off soc if I was really lonely but they were all terrible) before meeting her though when I did it clicked pretty quickly (literally every message/post she had originally)
her house burnt down so no computer now but before we would watch stuff, try multiplayer games, i'd stream old adventure games, or we'd just find weird game we can play together online and do that together.
def really nice and she has been great though even for r9k she is pretty unusual. Most girls on r9k are still shit and attention whores and they fill all the chart threads and everything too. Keep at it just adding ones from different communities and you might find someone you click with, our autism fits very nicely together.
( reminds me of a line from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Co0_BZiLdg but instead of lunacy its autism)
She has good taste in music and everything else as well. Friends all female (except one she added from r9k to practice talking to people), never been in a relationship before, qt, actual interests and hobbies and interesting to talk too.
theyexist
>>27825795
>>27837169
>I would be absolutely crushed if the only thing keeping us from being together was his lack of attraction to me physically
men don't talk to you if they don't want to fuck you
>>27825600
>relationships
>/r9k/
Shoo, normie scum!
>>27825600
Only doable if one of you has a job or any form of income.
>tfw no ldr gf now that i have money
>>27838476
He wants to fuck whatever qt he thinks I am based on pictures or blurry Skype video. I don't doubt that. But I think reality will be a different story. I'm pretty ugly, anon
I think they can work out, op!
I've been in a successful ldr, the only issue is that one or both need to take charge and initiative.
>Currently dating cute NEET kissless virgin boy
>It's been about 4 months and he doesn't seem interested in sexual stuff or meeting up, this makes me feel really sad.
>Suddenly he opens up and wants to meet up and do sexual stuff.
What happened?
>taking long distance relationships seriously
You guys are natural born cucks
Just so you know, your long distance ''gf'' doesn't take it seriously, and she's out there sucking dick or just pretending to love you
a real relationship is based on two people being together in person, not through the internet or phone
>>27839778
Guarantee you he's been on nofap for a while. Masturbation kills any sexual libido that he would have had and nofap, although difficult will reintroduce all the stimulants and hormones that this guy needs in order to get laid also to ensure that you get as much enjoyment out of it as possible.
almost? I dunno I don't think it really qualifies
she kept telling me she liked me and I dismissed it until I finally caved under emotional duressregret not going to sleep early that night to this day, williams had just hung himself and the Genie was one of the only things that made me happy as a kid.It was neat in the immediate but it quickly became evident I fucked up and cut it off hoping friendship was still possible.
In hindsight all things considered I think she may have been one of those people that does the whole orbiter shtick for free shit; only thing that bothers me is that she called me a nigger on christmas day before it was even noon and I had sort of been wanting to get her something prior to seeing that. Confusing since I'm not even partially black but like god damn she said it before it was even 11 am I got a family I spend christmas with in the morning
>>27839862
>implying you can't get cucked in real life relationships
>a real relationship is based on two people being together in person
No, being in a relationship means committing to each other in order to be together. Long distance feelings are as real as the irl relationship ones are.
You're too primitive and impatient to commit to a long distance relationship.
Fuck of sheepie. Go back to that cancerous place called real life where you belong.
>>27839778
You do realize that any guy who tries to hint any sexual stuff to their gf in the first 6 months of the relationship is bound to be labeled as creep right?
Guys who are interested in a long term relationship don't risk getting that label.
>>27825600
>tfw long distansce relationship with 9 hour difference
>>27840179
Today I learned I'm clearly not as experienced in relationships as I had thought. I had no idea that people thought like that.
How long did it take all of you in one to go from just meeting online, to hitting bf/gf status?Theres this guy I've only been talking to for 4 months and he won't stop throwing himself at me, hes pretty damn thirsty
>>27836431
Your internet gf has a penis, just saying.
>>27840179
>You do realize that any guy who tries to hint any sexual stuff to their gf in the first 6 months of the relationship is bound to be labeled as creep right?
>this fucking post
the orbiters have unwritten rules for when they're allowed to admit that they have a dick
top kek
>>27840179
>any guy who tries to hint any sexual stuff to their gf in the first 6 months of the relationship is bound to be labeled as creep
Get a load of this virgin, everyone.
>>27840260
Last gf, about 3 weeks since we started messaging. Currently I've been messaging a girl for about 4 weeks, we plan on meeting this weekend.
>>27840254
As someone who had a lot of experience with long distance relationships, I've noticed some patterns:
>Showing any kind of sexual interest in the first months of the relationships is bound to make the guy look desperate and/or a creep. This usually doesn't apply to girls.
>Being overly-talkative as a guy may ruin the relationship on the long run.
The healthiest (no drama) relationships I had where with girls who would do most of the talk. Not sure why. And it was easier to move on after a break up for both of us.
>The more you try to convey your feelings to a girl, the bigger the chances to be marginalized because "you're too clingy"
Etc.
>>27840455
And your real life girlfriend is fucking Chad, just saying.
>>27840459
>orbiters
>implying I'm a normal person that should make the first move
Lovely, another sheep joins the internet. Please go back to your real life, mr. cancer. Do not pollute this place with your normality.
>>27840514
Thank you for your compliment, anon.
>>27840566
>And your real life girlfriend is fucking Chad
Good thing I'm Chad.
>>27840595
>Good thing I'm Chad.
You browse /r9k/..
>>27840628
Yes, and? /r9k/ is a cesspool full of bitter failures at life, but there's also a fair amount of normal people who have had sex and gfs.
>>27825600
You have made a big fucking mistake and are in for a WORLD OF HURT my boy
>>27840595
So your one of those sheeps that baaah around trying to act "cool" or whatever you "alpha"-looking sheeps do.
>Baah I'm alpha baaah I'm alpha AM I ACCEPTED IN SOCIETY NOW? MY INSECURITY INTENSIFIES!
Maximum cringe. You people have no free will. All you can do is copy what others find as "cool" so you can fit in.
I don't care how much you bait me with your normality. I'll keep taking the bait.
>>27840566
>Lovely, another sheep joins the internet. Please go back to your real life, mr. cancer. Do not pollute this place with your normality.
ok, Casanova
>>27840699
>not sure if troll or idiot
But it's clear you are far beyond any of us, enlightened one. The rest of us will live miserable lives like the sheeple we are, going out and enjoying life with our friends and loved ones, having sex, and exploring the world. You, as a superior being, will live the rest of your life in the basement, attaining enlightenment through fapping to animu and vidya and being fed tendies by mommy.
>>27840759
You don't understand. He has a lot of experience in long distance relationships. He's even evolved beyond the need to meet anyone in person. Or do anything remotely sexual.
>>27840679
Don't be so jaded! It can happen and work out.
>>27840892
don't be such a liar, you'll hurt people
>>27840912
It's in my experience that they can work, people in my family have made it work, I've made it happen, and various friends made it happen and all without cheating or getting hurt.
>>27841001
It's my experience that people lie, to others or even themselves.
>>27840763
>implying your happiness is superior than mine
Of course you normies think that you're superior to others. Top kek
First of all, enjoying life can be achieved in different ways. The fact that you instinctively think that enjoying life means going out with friends, having sex or exploring the world just shows how brainwashed you've been by your parents, your elders and your friends.
Second, why would you actually assume your life is better than others? I have no friends to betray me, I have no girlfriend to cause me drama (or heck, even betray me), and I don't throw away money on activities I don't enjoy, such as exploring the world.
You have big limitations on ways to enjoy life. You've been narrowed by society to do only certain activities because you where told "that's how you live your life".
At this point it's not even cringy. It's sad to see sheeps like you polluting the real life world and spreading your cancer like this.
>>27840813
That's actually true to some extent
>>27841034
You can't live the rest of your life afraid of moving on because you've been hurt or have seen others get hurt. There are good genuine people out there, give them a chance
>>27841104
I'd rather spare them the bother and isolate myself from everything
>>27825600
Grills always prioritize convenience and comfort. You WILL get cucked/dumped.
>>27841104
Like weaboos for example
>>27826596
If it makes you feel any better, she's probably getting loads of dick.
>>27840566
>The more you try to convey your feelings to a girl, the bigger the chances to be marginalized because "you're too clingy"
I know this feel
This again? Ok. I will post story again.
>>27841320
Followup
It's also really nice to read these success stories about people finding happiness on here
Makes me feel like maybe I could post one of those success stories here one day and pass on the feelingbut probably not
>>27835383
Criminally underrated post. The chances of her cheating in an LDR versus a normal relationship is the same. Just because you're around to "check in on them" doesn't mean jack shit if they wanna cheat. Cheaters gonna cheat.
Is it worth it to invest into a girl that livesacross an entire ocean?
I've been in this situation before but at least that time she lived close by and meeting up was possible, this time around the girl lives in a completely different continent and I doubt there are any chances of us meeting within less than a year? The feelings are there and all but it just feels like it won't pay off with the whole waiting for an entire year..
Pic related is gonna be how it ends, most likely
>>27841516
Depends on the girl. I was messaging a girl across the ocean for a few months. Then I finally thought I should arrange to meet up. After I started making plans, she disappeared.
>>27841578
Disappearing isn't really a worry here since I know a lot of other people who talk to her, we also know each others full names so it's not like one could just drop off the face of the earth anymore
>>27841320
if you're a male this will happen 99% of the time
>>27841635
We didn't. At one point she did say maybe we should add each other in FB. I didn't wanna do it back then... maybe I should have. Too late now for regrets.
>>27835050
>As long as one engages in sexual activity in a safe and positive manner
You sound like one of those people who think condoms virtually eliminate your risk of contracting serious STD's.They don't. They lower it considerably, but there's still a fair deal of risk involved.
>>27841104
only true if you're a normie
>>27841320
>sexting with a girl you never met
>it totally was a relationship!
Lel.
>>27841696
While it's too late now, having a shared trust like that is extremely important
I don't picture things working out if you aren't 100% open with things like these when in a relationship across a scale as large as this
>>27841715
Or if you're not a degenerate.
lf ldr mommy gf to keep me company on skype but never meet lol
>>27841715
Yes, because robots are too angry and negative to ever want to try.
>tfw have had a handful of girls fall in love with me online
>tfw literally can't feel love so end up bigboyzoning every one
sorry babes
>>27841516
>I'm in a long distance relationship. I gotta make it a real one as fast as possible
Why? How about, I don't know, enjoy it? Why make long distance look like it's something that needs to be replaced as soon as possible with the real one?
Don't get me wrong, your goal should be to meet. But it's something that should happen someday, not forcing it as soon as possible.
How about this: you stay 3-4 years in a long distance relationship and then decide to meet in real life with your lover.
I hope you're not the type of person who can only love someone in real life but try it long distance at first because people said it's possible..
>>27841849
>I hope you're not the type of person who can only love someone in real life but try it long distance at first because people said it's possible..
I've loved someone who has lived far away before, the issue is that I want to be able to express it physically too
There is nothing as excruciatingly painful as falling asleep in a skype call knowing that you can't hold her
>>27836074
>We're both virgins and first real relationships for each other.
My, now, ex girlfriend took my virginity. I wish I lost it to the one I'd marry, but my friends were telling me "DO IT, FAGGOT".
On top of that, she'd been fucked by two other guys before I got to her---One while talking to me online.
>>27825600
My cousin was in a long distance relationship, she lived in Virginia and he lived in New York.
It was a fucking shit storm. They didn't actually meet until 4 months after dating and of coursed fucked right then and there. She'd stay there for almost a week, and go back every 5 months. Eventually she started living there which was a waste of time because they constantly broke up and got back together. It involved her lugging her shit back and forth.
They adopted a dog together and now there's a huge problem with who's keeping it.
Basically you're dating someone you don't know. It's hard to find out who someone really is if you just talk to them online and barely see eachother in person BEFORE dating
>>27837243
good luck in your relationship bro. I hope everything turns out alright for you
>>27841900
>There is nothing as excruciatingly painful as falling asleep in a skype call knowing that you can't hold her
I used to feel the same. Later I started to appreciate fantasying about a real relationship with the long distance lover more and more.
At some point, just dreaming about a real life relationship with that girl was enough to keep me motivated.
>>27841964
>not knowing how to identify how someone is by their speech pattern
You can say they are acting and lying about how they are, but if the ldr lasted more than 2-3 years, at some point the acting will show some cracks...if the one that is lying can even stay that much in a relationship to begin with.
All I can say is that your cousin rushed before they knew who they're dealing with.
>>27825682
What the original fuck are you doing here then?
>>27827589
Screen cap your own post then faggot cause that's some cringe shit right there
>>27827777
God she sounds cringey ass shit bro hahahahahahaha holy shit. What will your poor parents think when you bring home an actual autist.
>>27842333
>caring about what others think, including your family
Do you need approval from mommy to hang out with le wild female?
>>27831689
Lol she's gonna laugh with her freinds at how gay that is
>>27842201
>What the original fuck are you doing here then?
I know a girl who's married and lurks here when she's bored cause she was a 'channer' wayy the fuck back into 05. They really do find our suffering amusing. I couldn't blame them, either.
>>27834864
All that shits gonna come back up when you move in together and he starts thinking of all the cock you took. It'll drive him crazy
>>27834868
>6 hour time difference
Is he in the UK?
>>27840679
I met my girlfriend who lives across the ocean only a little over 1.5 years ago and we're in the process of moving in together. We met by complete coincidence since I wasn't expecting to be meeting any girls and I thought I was talking to another guy at first. Because of the way we met, we quickly shared a lot of personal things and found out that we have a lot in common and are very much on the same level emotionally. We developed a really intense friendship and a kind of love that I think is rare. Getting to live together when you're not from the same continent is not that straight forward but what we have is so magical that any obstacle becomes trivial.
>>27842602
tell the story pls
xxxoriginalasdf
>>27832340
Nothing to add but I back this post up with the same experience.
Only thing worth getting out of LDRs are nudes and camshows. But since I can get all of that on 4chan, seems kind of pointless.
t. someone who was in ldr for 6 months
>>27841900
Dude, you're being trolled. This guy is telling you to not meet her for 3-4 years? The only advice you'll get from that guy is how to die a kissless, relationshipless, bitter virgin.
>>27842960
>trolled
>not being patient and understanding how relationships work
Are you a desperate impatient normie or what? Do you even relationships, bro? Go back to your cancerous place called real life.
Also, have fun getting changed like socks for the rest of your life by other degenerate normal grills. You deserve it for having such cancerous mentality.
>>27843096
>has never been in a relationship
>is an expert on relationships
The delusion is strong in this one.
>>27843137
>thinks relationships can only exist in real life
>too impatient to hold a long distance relationship
>is a sheep that strives to be "alpha" because that's what all normies do
Can you even get lower than that?
I love my boyfriend a lot. We spend all of our time together unless one of us is sleeping, but even then we're usually still in a call.
>>27843282
Did you explain to him that I pozzed your tight little neghole yet? I can't wait to send him the pics so he knows his little boyfriend is a fucking cockslut with AIDS
>>27841320
That's not even remotely a relationship. Waste of time, don't post again.
>>27843395
Will post again
>>27843282
i want that so bad ;_;
especially with atransloving mommy
>>27843462
You can't have that, because the type of person you are looking for is a dumb degenerate by default
>>27843452
And you wonder why you've never been laid?
>>27843525
b-but i want to take care of her through her transition and be her little helpful boy
>>27842590
No, He's from Norway.
>>27843607
Indulging in your dumb fantasies isn't what makes a relationship feel good unless you're a baby
>>27843790
nah its just that i have an extreme urge to take care of people, but im also submissive
so mommy relationship where im submissive and she has problems is perfect for me
i can hope, tripfriend. its likely never going to happen but i can hope
>>27843842
I hope it never happens.
>>27843882
ah well. i can accept that. i hope you and your bf live long and happy together <3
>>27843882
>Bandage BTFO this hard
weeew
>>27825600
Been together for about 7 months now, I visited her a few months back and now she's planning to come see me. There have been rough patches but we're happy together and want to make it work.
>>27825600
4 years in. We both keep getting declined for visas. But we spend half the year together every year so its alright.
How do you manage to spend half the year together if I might ask and how long have you been trying to get a visa?
>>27825600
Not anymore! I moved in with her a year ago. I was living in Texas at the time and her in Kentucky.
>>27844055
Assuming you meant to quote me. Been trying for two years. Both our countries are in the British commonwealth and allow us to stay for 6 months a year without a visa.
>>27843563
I really don't.
Bloox
>>27842663
I don't want to go into too much detail because I'll get carried and start bragging. Basically I used to be extremely shy and anxious and one day I decided to join a NEET Skype group to practice talking in front of a group and getting used to having people around. She was involved in all of the conversations I had with people in the group and that's how we started talking in private, before she revealed her gender. We overshared a lot and discovered that we had a lot of weirdness in common. Talking to her became the thing I looked forward to every day and we kept sharing more and more intimate things. By now I feel like I know her so well that we could almost be one person...
I'm from Europe and she's from the US. I got an apartment where we can live together and she's coming over for three months soon. When we've been together for two years we can apply for a visa to live together so she can stay.
>>27842385
>le wild female
Capping this for a cringe thread
>>27844421
>"le wild female" is cringe
The only cringe in the world is normality. Nothing else.
Not only normal people are inferior, they also lack the ability of free will. They can only replicate what other normals think/say/enjoy and they strive to be "alpha" because for some reason that's "cool".
When will you ascend, anon? Don't you see that you're just a sheep?
>>27844231
Yeah sorry about that, thanks for explaining
>>27825600
>who here /ldr/?
I am, or at least I think I could have leadership potential given the chance.
I think I'd be awesome at being in charge, I am a very fair person, and I can focus on achieving any goal I put my mind to.
>>27844662
>reads Thus Spoke Zarathustra once
>>27825600
What's the point if you can't cuddle or hold hands?
>>27844841
You have to have drive, charisma, potential, and the ability to inspire to be a truly effective leader.
Do you have that?
>I didn't think so, maggot.
>>27836074
>2 year anniversary of dating
>We're both virgins
U wot m8.
>>27844945
I still don't get it, what is being mosaiced in that?
>>27845051
It should be obvious, here's another hint for you.
I mean if you can't find love anywhere else, what do you have to lose? But I wouldn't be for it. Too many beautiful girls in the city for me to hit on and fuck.
literally just got out of one an hour ago
don't do it OP holy fuck this hurts
>>27825795
>did
>lived together
>got dumped a few weeks ago
I've posted this like three thousand times on r/9k/ so far and I will not stop until I become apathetic.
Don't do it if your "gf" is fucking immature.
I had a bad experience I will try to greentext:
>gf is15 years old whiile I'm 18
>Typical otaku tumblrina
>Is nice when everything is calm but
>Complains and threats to kill herself if I can't go to see her some date she made up
>Constantly complaining about her shit parents
>Constantly complaining about every single detail she doesn't like about her friends do as she is super paranoid
>I can't talk with other girls about some common hobbies/likes because she will start hating them for no reaseon other than jelousy
>Gets mad when I went out with a common weeb friend (Even if it was the first time I go out with someone in like 10 years), then she goes out with their normie friends without she telling me before and throwing all my plans to the trash.
>Broke up with me because she saw some private chats where I talked about this with my friends and thought "I was trying to make them hate her".
Basically what it is a little immature brat with no confidence or self-respect.
So OP, don't make the same mistake I did.
>>27834864
>Unless you're one of those people that believes in christian shit like 'sanctity'
Well disguised b8, anon.
Im surprised more bots didn't bite.
>>27836627
>he was going through his parent's divorce at the moment so he took it out on me
lmao what, no man cares about his parents divorce. It would have no effect on him.
>>27825600
How do i find LDR gf?
I dont care if its a dude as long as you never tell me and sell the act pretty well.
>>27847136
Holy fuck, I think we were with the same chick.
Name started with an A?
>>27825600
ITT: NORMIES reereerere
I really need to know
How do aquire a ldr gf??!!
>>27847791
>300+ posts
>ctrl+f normie
>11 results
Where were you when you realized we had already lost?
>tfw she dumped me about half a year ago or a bit less
still sad and think about her everyday listening to the voice messages she used to send me
i was sort of a betafag back then but im kinda hoping she messages me this year on 9/11(probably wont happen but who knows)
pic related
>>27847914
>/r9k/ is the new facebook?
feelsbadman
bunch of normalfags, the lot of you
I have money to make it work
I'm willing to move next to her or invite her to live with me, I have my own place.
She gave up on us anyways
I think I'm gonna kill myself
5 years.
usa-canada.
good, then hard, then bad, then suicidal.
planned our lives together.
the break up still hurts me today, but only because i know how great life can be, and how shitty my life is right now.
>Wanting to be an emotional pillow for women they will never meet until they fight someone to fuck
Literally why? I was making fun of this shit when I was like 11. Its so obviously stupid. If you aren't still searching irl while talking to them to make yourself feel better Im assuming? You are doing the most poorly out of KLVs on /r9k/.
>>27846196
Getting out of any relationship hurts. It's just the way it is. There are myriads of other reasons that you shouldn't fuck with a ldr. I mean potentially things can turn out fine, but the chances of this are very seldom, and though the same is true for any relationship, I just think the lost time of not seeing your loved one face to face is not worth it.
>>27848010
9/11 is a long way away. You could... you know... Improve yourself and get a new girlfriend you dolt.
>>27846196
What happened, anon?
originalityplease
>>27849804
Man, you wasted 5 years of your life on a girl that you couldn't even see whenever you wanted? I think that's a lot more depressing than the breakup, Jesus Christ.
Seriously, all of you, this shit is a little pathetic. These girls probably meant the world to you (even though you could only see them a couple times a year, if that) and you guys were for the most part probably just an intermission between real boyfriends. Relationships over a computer screen are not real relationships, they feel real, but they're not, you're literally getting only the idealized version of the person that they want you to see. It's bullshit. That's not love.
If you were in a real relationship and you or her moves away, I get that, that's totally understandable, otherwise can we please stop this shit? It leads to nothing but hurt for you boys.
>>27825795
I refuse to belive that girls are on 4chan at all, or the Internet in general.
>>27833544
You're probably right but God I hope you're wrong. I hope you are very wrong.
>>27834642
Also nope, lol obviously not me. Probably better if she doesn't browse /r9k/ anyway.
>>27825644
Same here, it lasted about a year and a half after 3 years of being together and then we split. Feels bad man.
Long distance relationships aren't real relationships.
>>27850541
not going to go into detail since she browses /r9k/ (lmfao)
basically she got tired of my autism and mental instability
>>27850735
Ouch. You'll be able to move on though.
>>27850780
nah man. i either have her or no one else. it sucks because she set the bar so high and i'm not willing to settle for anyone else that isn't as perfect as she was.
In one with someone only an hour away, but we just started dating about a month ago. Hopefully it goes well!
>>27850847
I can tell you're young; I used to always think I found THE one. Anon, the truth is that there is always going to be someone better out there. It's only a matter of time before you find her.
>>27850847
What was so good about her? I can relate.
Just got off Skype.
>tfw she says Good night
>tfw I say Good morning
She's not my gf. Just my cousin whom I feel really comfortable talking with. We both know we can't get into a relationship with each other because of family reasons.
>she puts her microphone right next to her mouth
>can hear her every breath
>strangely attracted to her now loud voice
>probably most odd sensation I've felt in my life and I want more
>tfw will never get to see her in at least 3 years
>tfw will never get to hug her
>tfw she will never whisper me to sleep
>>27850876
thanks for trying to make me feel better but i really doubt anyone else as good as her will enter my life. even if someone did, they would always be compared to her. she was 1 in a million and i just had to go and fuck everything up
>>27850907
she was me in female form. watched anime, had similar music taste, /pol/ack, hilarious, intelligent, not to mention stunningly beautiful. some nights we would skype and barely say a word to each other and just stare and enjoy the company of the other person. god i'd do anything to go back to one of those nights and relive it
>>27850730
This guy, this guy right here gets it right.
>>27851453
They aren't until both people move together, thats the end goal.
>>27851076
Man stop being such a little bitch. Everyone feels heart break, we all feel this type of shit in our lives. Be glad you had her and move the fuck on. What? You're the only one that's gotten broken up with? It was a ldr too, so it's not even serious.
Just stop being such a pussy about it. Women already have a pussy, they don't want another one. "Oh woe is me she was perfect and she left me". Its happened to all of us, you're not special, so chill out with the pity party.
Plus, that's not love, you sound like you were just infatuated and wanted to own a beautiful thing. That's not love, that's just weird and possessive. You're just sad that you can't own her. It doesn't even seem like you really knew her that well, like knew the real intimate her. How many times did you have sex?
>>27825662
>autists with internet pen pals
>normies
I might need to get into an ldr because of work
If I do have to move we won't be able to live near each other for three years
It's fucking killing me
need some advice robots
got a kind of ldr going on, nothing official but we fap together most nights for the past few months
I'm not gonna get into an actual relationship because there's no way I can trust her but without setting some boundaries I think she will just do it anyway...
so I'm kind of screwed no matter what right? is it better to keep what I'm doing not make anything official and assume she isn't fucking anyone else or try and set boundaries which might just make her want to fuck someone else more?
>>27852261
>ldr
>the only thing you guys do is fap together
You don't belong in this thread, hombre
>cuck
>19 matches
>in a thread of 300+ posts
I am disappointed, /r9k/
>>27835204
>i'm confused.
well i'll tell you one thing
I wouldn't lick that pussy
not unless you like the thought of running your tongue over the same hole some other dude's dick was all up inside
love my girlfriend, we talk every day
Things have been pretty rough for both of us recently, but I still love her totally. She makes me want to be a better person for her and that feels real great
>>27832227
>>27842399
Not him, but seemed really cool for me. Why expressing your love is gay?
is a 7 hour drive an ldr?
>>27853165
But I love eating pussy. I have a plan, next time we visit each other i'll take her phone while she is not seeing and install some shit to track her, then if I discover something shady I can just break up with a clear conscience that I did the right thing and didn't take retarded conclusions.
>>27854365
Yes, unless you are comfortable with traveling this far with the frequency of a normal relationship
