>first gf
>she's a nerdy autistic girl
>thought she would be quirky and fun
>she's actually really boring and cold and makes me feel bad all the time
>feel legitimately worse now than before I had a gf but I'm so scared of being alone I don't want to break up
>>27784184
If you feel worse now than you did before you had a gf, then why are you scared of being alone? You feel worse now, so go back to being single. You said it yourself that you were happier.
>>27784493
It's just so rare for me to be close to a girl, I want to keep waiting to see if she will change but I have this creeping feeling that she won't.
>>27784184
Walk away m8.
If she's a bitch she will stay a bitch, save yourself before its too late
>>27784531
You're right, she probably won't.
Have you tried talking to her about it? If so, how'd it go? If you haven't, you should.
Now you fucking know why women go for chad. Because you're all miserable fucks that dont make other people happy to be with.
Same shit here.
>>27784531
She's probably going to kill someone.
Don't let it be you.
>>27784578
She's not a bitch, at least not intentionally. She obviously has problems, I'm willing to overlook them to an extent but my mental state is not doing very well dealing with her erratic behaviour.
>>27784586
I haven't brought it up, and I don't know if I can. I mean her entire personality is a problem, it will be difficult for me to start telling her these things. She is a nice person on the inside and I don't want to hurt her, but I know this relationship is not going to last much longer at this rate.
>>27784184
She needs BBC faggot. You're literal shit tier in bed and it makes her feel like complete ass for even giving it up to someone so unsatisfying. Give me a call whenever you're ready to see her happy and beaming with light.
>>27784610
>You're
shoo shoo toasty roastie
>>27784610
She couldn't get Chad if she tried, one of myfriendswho lays different girls every week tried hitting on her before I knew about her and he said she's impossible to talk to. He told me not to try anything with her because he thinks she's got problems, but I am so desperate I didn't care.
She told me herself that guys hit on her a lot (which surprised me considering she's only like 5/10) but she's never done anything sexual before, I don't even know if she's been in a relationship before considering how bad she is at all of this.
I'm really being kind, I buy her gifts on occasion, I take her out and try to get her to open up and have fun, I tolerate all her faults, but I feel like she really does nothing in return and it's difficult being in a relationship like that.
>>27784779
I haven't slept with her yet, I've tried but she's not into it.
Post pics so we can assess your situation better OP
>>27784883
I'm not going to post pics, I don't know how they could help either. We're both average looking.
Your girlfriend sounds like an actual fembot, unlike the stacies that post here claiming to be.
>>27784713
>I mean her entire personality is a problem, it will be difficult for me to start telling her these things.
You're going to have to be honest with her eventually. Might as well just bite the bullet and do it before it gets worse.
>>27784860
Yet you're still giving her gifts? Bro, this isn't the make a wish foundation or Autism Speaks, you need to drop her. If she's not on her knees after you buying her dinner then she's literal shit-teir. I'm not even memeing anymore. I'm just trying to get you to wake the fuck up and realize that you're going to piss away valuable time of your prime with some autistic bitch that doesn't even give a damn about you.
Here's a test. I did this with an autistic girl I dated and it actually worked. I got her to open up by buying a shared journal that we both write back and forth in. I began seeing sides that she was incapable of expressing externally and it was actually relieving to know that it was in there somewhere.
If she doesn't write in it, she doesn't give a shit about you. Just leave her a note one day that says, "I'm leaving you." Never talk to her again. Boom.
>>27784184
holy fuck. i know this feel so much. she is not even good looking or interesting but shes nice and im just afraid of being lonely and breaking up
>>27784836
>autistic
Well there's your problem you need to get a normal girl.
Why did she agree to be with you in the first place? Have you talked about how you feel with her? If not, WHY?
>>27784919
This sounds like a good idea
Bumping for it
>>27784912
Not really, she wouldn't really understand anything regarding /r9k/, she's the kind of girl that unironically enjoys watching Big Bang Theory and doesn't understand sarcasm or irony or atypical humour of any kind.
>>27784903
Fuck!
At least I tried
Does she wear glasses?
>>27784947
>Why did she agree to be with you in the first place?
I have no idea. We started talking one day, made out the next day, then that continued for a few weeks, then she told me she wanted to make it "official" and I said yes like a retard because I thought that meant she'd start actually opening up to me, but after a month now nothing has changed.
>>27784986
WHY ARE YOU WITH HER?
Fuuuuuuuck
It's better to be alone than to be with someone you don't care about and just being a
Cuck
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It would be better for her too
Christ
Get ouuuuuutttt
Reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
>>27785004
No glasses. She has a nice body, her face is pretty meh, she doesn't wear makeup which I actually kind of like.
>>27785053
I already told you I'm afraid to be alone, this is the only affection I've had from a girl in my entire life.
>>27785045
Ight I've been reeeeeing at you a bit but real talk.
Try that journal idea the other anon has and give it a good two months. Put some real effort in there. If you aren't happy by the end, and you have made your feelings very clear to her, fucking get out. It's better being alone than trapped. You'll at least have your freedom back.
You'll either get a gf, or you'll get freedom. Being alone sucks, but in my experience relationships can be overrated. Best of luck
>>27785073
I was the same fuck make-up
>>27784986
If you don't break up with her, you are the biggest fucking pussy on earth. Quit letting yourself get cucked, you retard. Stop making excuses and just break up with her if you aren't satisfied with the relationship. FUCK. GROW SOME BALLS!
Are you only afraid of being alone because you see yourself as lesser due to your virginity?
>>27785176
I definitely feel ashamed of being a virgin, I really want to get rid of it, this is the farthest I've gotten with a girl and I don't want to hastily throw this away.
This girl is also a virgin so it would be perfect if we could lose it to one another, but she is so reluctant, and that makes me feel really bad, it makes me feel unattractive, and like a failure.
>>27785261
>dragging yourself through the dirt this far to get some pussy
Wow, dude. This is some next level bull shit you're putting yourself through. All to bust a nut? I mean... it probably SMELLS like you are eager to fuck her and that's why she doesn't have any interest in it. Jesus, man. You need to get a hold of yourself. I've already parted with some wisdom to you, but I don't think you're going to listen.
Being beta must suck, seriously. You guys are hopeless.
>>27785350
I'm going to tell her that she's not reciprocating enough in the relationship, if that doesn't work I'm going to need to break up with her.
Do you think calling me a beta is seriously going to help? I have low self-confidence, I know I'm a fucking idiot, and a coward, and a fucking pathetic piece of crap. This isn't news to me. I'm really fucking trying to be a man but I have no idea what I'm doing and I'm 23 years old and only just got into a relationship, I don't know how women think or what they mean when they say things, I don't know how to play these fucking mind games, I have no experience with people.
So yes I am a fucking beta but not by my choosing I'm doing the best I fucking can right now.
>>27785442
Well, since you say you're trying I'll lighten up.
>I'm going to tell her that she's not reciprocating enough
Stop right there and don't do this. Girls don't do well with the whole "I'm going to lecture you about how you're just being urself" bid. They get vindictive and spiteful. If you want her to reciprocate, you need to force her hand so that she has no choice. If you verbalize that she's taking advantage of you, you're admitting you're getting dogged out.
>I don't know how women think or what they mean when they say things
No guy does. They literally flip flop on everything they say. It's frustrating of course, but the main thing you've got to develop is your immunity to their nonsense (read: doing whatever YOU want and not letting them get under your skin when they can't keep their fucking word about something simple). It's not necessarily mind games, it's just how they're wired. A guy is the one that has to be tactful about how they're behaving. It's a lot of work for minimum reward. That's why I don't necessarily do relationships.
>>27784836
>surprised me considering she's only like 5/10
Why would this be surprising?
>>27785261
Ight nigga. Sit down for a minute. No one actually gives a shit if you are a virgin. You probably spend too much time on the internet and now you've got this stigma. No one worth giving a flying fuck about will care whether or not you put your stick in a hole. It's not a be-all end-all either like how media makes relationships out to be. I thought that if I could just get a nice girl I would be content with life. Of that's your existential ideal, then fine. At the end of the day though it's just as meaningless as everything else and certainly isn't some meaning of life. Getting a gf really doesn't make the human condition suck any less. If you're not confident in your sexual ability it's all just a fucking spook man. Don't give a shit if you don't want to. If you want advice in that regard though read the /fit/ sticky, read the twogirlsteachsex ebook, and watch how to eat pussy on pornhub. Find other ebooks and read those. All you can do is your best and put in effort. That should be enough for you in a stoic way, don't give a shit about what's out of your control. Def do the journal thing with the lady tho
>>27785584
>"Live, Laugh, Love"
Holy shit. This is almost in every girl's room. Either that or at least some variation of it is. I thought I was the only one that noticed this faggotry.
>>27785522
>If you verbalize that she's taking advantage of you, you're admitting you're getting dogged out.
I don't really know how to break it to her then. I guess I could try the journal thing but I feel like it's pretty early in the relationship to be pulling this kind of stuff out. If she declines to do it I'll need to break up with her plus I'll look like a fool.
I'm starting to think trying to fix this isn't going to be worth it, I may have to just break up with her without warning, but I feel like she'll think I'm a piece of shit who was only after sex when I really did want this relationship to work. Sex is definitely a reason but her not reciprocating in any meaningful way is the biggest reason.
No matter what I come out of this situation look like a jackass.
>>27785442
M8 this is 4chan you gotta have thick skin. Just be a person with her. R9k is going to tell you a lot of shit about women's, but they're just people(inb4 Reeee)
And you need to have a heart-to-heart if a RELATIONSHIP is going to work out. You literally need to be your most honest self if it's going to be worth anything.
>inb4 b urself:^)
There is zero point to a relationship if you can't be honest with the person you love. I'd rather have a Waifu if I couldn't be authentic
>>27785677
How isn't she not reciprocating? Is she just not being affectionate back towards you?
>>27785677
Just give it a chance breh
Don't be so hasty
Like I said 2 months. Fuck even just one.
>>27785677
>>27785699
>>27785722
I'm just checking these three dubs in a row.
>>27785261
Here's a truth bomb for my fellow robots
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QYA9DaSIddo
>>27785722
It's mostly her autistic attitude. She rarely kisses me first, she's uncomfortable just chatting over coffee (says it's "dismal", which hurt quite a bit), I listen to her really boring stories constantly but when I try to talk she often interrupts me or gives me one word responses, she doesn't get my jokes very often, she takes hours to text me back a lot of the time even though I only text her like once a day or two.
I mean there are a few positives but I feel like I'm getting shafted.
>>27785865
Have you sat down and talked about this with her?
>>27785974
No.
I've decided now that something must be done, but I have some people telling me not to outright tell her and some people telling me to just be honest and I don't really know what the best way to go about this is.
>>27785865
Maybe your jokes are shit?
I don't get a lot of my bf's "jokes" either. They're just unfunny and hurtful.
>>27785994
Be honest, man. Anyone telling you to beat around the bush is wrong, it will just prolong your suffering.
You NEED to communicate your feelings with her. Not just for you, but for her too.
>>27785994
Do you honestly see a relationship working if you don't talk about your problems together? And since she has trouble articulating there's the journal thing. Nobody is going to give you the same answer and there isn't necessarily a best decision here. We will only know in hindsight. I think you should just sit down and open up then help her open up as best she can. At the end of the day though it's your decision and your decision alone.
>>27785994
Do not just "sit down and talk to her." That is way too non-masculine, and she will respect you even less for it. You'll appear whiny and emotional.
Just cut off all affection. When it comes to reproductive psychology, women are dogs. You have to Pavlovian condition them. Never give her a "gift" of affection; only REWARD her good behavior with affection. Do not be nice to her unless she is nice to you. Period.
>>27784184
Dude, I feel you. And my best tip is to get OUT right now. My first gf was cute and shy, but turned out to be emotionally abusive towards me after a month of behaving nice. It fucks you up senpai, I felt exactly the same and now that I'm rid of her, I don't have this constant dark shadow hanging over me
>>27786135
>Do not just "sit down and talk to her." That is way too non-masculine, and she will respect you even less for it.
Congrats! You're a fucking idiot.
Don't listen to this dumbass, OP.
>>27786135
>conversing like an adult is non-masculine
>following redpilled Pavlovian advice written by a man child is manly
For the love of christ, I cannot believe all the "sit down and talk about your feelings anon" here. This is why you're robots, you fucking gay faggots.
OP, chad here. I've had sex with 5 different women and I'm telling you DO NOT get all mushy, talking about your feelings and shit. To make a girl attracted to you romantically and sexually, there has to be at least SOME amount of intimidation. You CANNOT let her feel completely comfortable and safe, you CANNOT give her the impression that you love her unconditionally. You must always maintain some sense that you are willing to walk away. it sucks, but that is how women work. You're a fucking man. If your girl is being a cunt, you punish her. You don't waste part of your day talking about feelings. Jesus christ.
>>27786157
Yeah, well how many girls have you fucked, anon? Where's your advice coming from? Your little low-testosterone pacifist robot brain, that's where.
>>27786158
>implying women are adults, with fully-developed brains and emotional intelligence
>>27786186
I don't have any leverage to "punish" her, she is the one who seems like she almost wants nothing to do with me (despite her being the one that actually started this whole relationship).
I've been distancing myself from her more and more recently because I can't tolerate her, but she seems unphased by this.
>>27785865
You should really listen to me when I say this: cheat on her. Now that you have a security blanket, get some pussy on the side and that way you'll drain these feelings. You're getting all kinds of fucked up because you want to get some pussy. You need to just cheat so you stop behaving like a woman. You're really not going to listen to me because "muh virginity" but, you're just going to crash and burn either way in this situation.
>>27786158
>never had a gf: the post
>>27786262
You stupid fucking nigger stop taking the painfully obvious bait
>>27786186
>>27786135
>>27786273
>You should really listen to me when I say this: cheat on her.
I have thought about it, but it really makes me feel terrible, I don't want to be a cheater. If I go for another girl I will need to break up with her first.
>>27784184
Talk about feeling to her I'd you really don't want to break it off.
>>27786273
Shoo shoo you fuckin fagoo
>>27786262
Then tell her you're breaking up with her. One of two things will happen:
1. She will scowl at you, probably call you a faggot, and leave, and your emotionally abusive relationship will be happily over.
2. She will start crying and saying "Why anon? Why are you leaving me" etc. Then you can let her squirm for 10 minutes or so, let her beg for forgiveness and realize what a cunt she's been lately, and then finally forgive her. At which point your relationship will be a lot better, because she will be reminded that she actually wants to be with you.
>>27786347
NIGGA WHAT
THIS THAT SAME GUY?
>>27786347
You're guided by your emotions and guess what your emotions are doing? They are literally causing you to suffer for _pussy_. Man, one of these days you're going to look back and never want to remember it again. I'm not saying this because you won't cheat, but because you're not budging on any option thrown at you. You must enjoy feeling like this or you'd have put this issue to bed. Just be honest with yourself about what you want, make up your mind, and commit to executing it. That's all there is to it.
>>27786358
I'm really not b8'n. I'm being fucking serious. Leave memester. We're trying to solve issues here.
>>27786379
Yes I'm OP. In my bouts of horniness I have contemplated cheating on her, especially after she refuses to do anything sexual for the nth time and I have a rager that needs to be dealt with.
>>27786478
You should've though, that's what I'm saying. You'll feel like shit at first, then realize that you quelled two problems at once. (1) you solved your virginity issue; (2) it doesn't matter if she's distant because you've already got a side piece. Win-win for both of you.
>>27786468
>Man, one of these days you're going to look back and never want to remember it again
My entire past is like this it's nothing new really.
>you're not budging on any option thrown at you
Like I said I'm definitely not going to stay in this relationship as it stands, I'm going to either break it off without warning or try to somehow talk to her about this. I'm leaning more towards just breaking up with her ASAP so I can stop having to deal with this shit.
>>27784836
>not wanting this
>wanting a shitty normie relationship
She sounds amazing, I'll take her off your hands anon.
>>27786525
She's really not amazing, you guys don't know what it's like, I thought the same thing before I entered into this relationship but this is not good at all.
>>27786557
What's so terrible about it??
>>27784836
How much affection do you show for her anon. Affection isn't just giving gifts and taking her places, or having fun with her btw.
>>27786478
Looks like you've got more shit to deal with before you even start thinking about a good relationship. Come on man, shit's bad form
>>27786766
Like I said I'm not going to do it, I'm just being honest here.
>>27784836
this is the one kind of gf i wish i had desu
t. autistic cold robot
>>27786782
What do you look like, post pic.
>>27786853
Like I said it's not going to happen. I'm tall and at least 5/10, that's about as far as I'll go in describing myself.
Just wait until VR OP
>>27786877
Lel m8 your self esteem is probably bringing down your self perception, I guess you'd just reject whatever someone else would have to say about your appearance anyway, seeing it as just them trying to cheer you up or some shit, post a pic anon.
