Day 10 of no contact with oneitis
Oneitis didn't text me today
Perhaps she has given up
>>27771945
Please consider killing yourself. Thank you.
Keep it up, anon
>>27771945
you don't have to make a thread everyday
>>27771945
Did you even have a real relationship with this girl?
If not, you are a very sad man.
Oh look it's this faggot
Original
>>27772153
Yeah, OP, you should start updating it twice a day.
Still rooting for you, day 2 myself now. She sent me pictures from out at the bar trying to get a reaction, maintained silence.
>>27772176
Not a romantic one, no.
>>27772239
Good for you, anon! Don't break, ya hear?
Try another girl
really OP
it feels really beautiful to see your oneitis simply vanishing as soon as you kiss another girl
>>27771945
if i were her, i would have probably given up as well. she's probably confused and upset about you ignoring her, but there's nothing she can do obviously. you should move on too, senpai.
>>27771945
stay strong op, don't end up like Jake Rapp
>didnt talk to her for over a month
>we run into each other
>i ask her if she wants to meet up friday
>she agrees
>she stands me up
>plays dumb when i call her, but apologizes profusely
>asks me to let her know when I'm available so we can hang out
>>27773570
Just go no contact, she's toying with you.
>>27772153
>you don't have to make a thread everyday
This.
In fact, I'd be so bold as to say you really don't have to make anymore threads.
If you really feel compelled, give an update in six months.
Think of staying off /r9k/ as a challenge just like not talking to your oneitis: it's part of making you into a healthier human being.
>>27771945
>don't talk to my oneitis for a week
>her roommate asks me why the fuck i broke up with her
>wtf?
>go see oneitis
>she's in her dorm room with shades down, lights off
>very depressed
>cheers up when she sees it's me
>grabs onto me
>says "dont ever do that to me again, I need you beside me."
>tells me we need to talk about "us"
>leans against me
>put my arm around her
>the alarm clock goes off
>she snuggles closer
>the alarm clock keeps going off
>wake up
>I'm holding my pillow
>been a year
>oneitis never even noticed i stopped bothering her
>>27771945
>no contact with oneitis
>contact with oneitis
>contact
>>27771945
I stopped orbiting around my oneitis after I overheard her friends talking about how I was creepy and too stupid to take a hint and that none of them could stand me but she was afraid I would take her hostage this was right after that Fritzl guy in Austria was found out so they were saying I would be like that if she "provoked me" by telling me to fuck off.
Probably one of the very worst moments in my life. Not only did I not know she was creeped out I couldn't imagine she was actually scared of me.
Just disappeared from her life, eventually switched schools. Try not to even think about her but this thread reminded me (thanks a heap).
Gave up on love and friend after that. Better if I don't bother anyone.
>>27772494
I fucked another girl and it meant nothing to me. Oneitis is not easily vanquished.
stay strong guys you are doing the right thing
>>27771945
Just stop thinking about it anon. Walk away. I'm in the exact same situation right now and there's no other way. There's nothing you can do about it. She was never interested in you in the same way you were in her.
>>27774115
I'm sorry I reminded you anon, but you shouldn't give up on love after that. You can always try again.
>>27771945
>be talking to some girl on kikebook
>she seems totally interested and engaged in the convo
>suddenly stops responding
>no message
>for days, weeks
>eventually decide after some time to message her to ask what's up
>she's back to being interested and engaged in conversation
>even makes longer messages than I do
>after some time she just stops responding mid conversation
This happened like 3 times now. What the fuck
>>27774514
This usually means you didn't make a move quick enough.
>>27774528
A move? We've met once. I tried asking her out a few times later and she wanted to meet but she claimed she was busy so "not now". It actually seemed legit, and she keeps talking about how she's got shitload of work all the time. One time she actually agreed for a second meeting saying something like "oh okay, we can't meet tomorrow but we totally can meet next week because I'll be free".
But when it came to it, I asked to confirm and she said something important came up and she "might" make it to our meeting, that there's a pretty good chance she will, but some few hours later she said she's gonna have to actually stay there.
Fuck that shit mang
>>27774598
Should have took your cock out mang
>>27774850
I want serious answers.
>>27774115
>Better if I don't bother anyone.
Whoa.
I gotta ask, you've had some time pass...what do you think? Were they right about you? Are you creepy and scary? Would you have stalked her or worse?
>>27774876
Women love the naked man. Should have done it.
>>27774598
it's always hard to tell friend. did you specifically ask her out or did you ask her to hang around together like friends?
>>27774598
She probably talks to many more people in a month than you do. You're some guy who she's chatted with three times out of dozens of friends and family members. If she remembers anything at all, it's that you seemed OK, but got kind of pushy about wanting to go out.
>"...or was that another guy? I don't remember."
And even when she does think about you, she's not really giving you much consideration.
If someone asks you to a party, and you're not sure if you want to go, you say you "might" make it. But you figure that a bunch of other people will be there, so if you don't make it, no skin off your ass.
If someone asks you on a date, however, you say yes or no. Those are the options. You might still blow them off, but you'd have to be a real asshole to say you "might" show up right from the start. That is basically saying, "I'll admit I'm not going to bother to show up, but even so, I want you to make reservations somewhere nice and then go sit there like a douchnozzle for an hour until you give up."
That's what she did. She's an ass. Move on.
>Not even sure why you needed an opinion on this, she's just some airhead from FB.
Day 10 here too, only got a text from oneitis on day 2, not one since. One week without talking to her and she doesn't even care...
>>27771945
Someone explain to me what's happening please, I only saw these and have no idea what the context is.
>>27775705
some guy started to stop orbiting a girl and he makes threads about it to keep us posted
>>27775705
>meet girl
>become best friends
>confess
>get rejected, she only loves me as "a friend"
>try no contact
>come crawling back after a day
>she becomes distant for the next two months
>try no contact again this time without telling her
What happened so far:
>day 1: I leave the skype call
>day 2: she asks why I left
>day 3: asks why I haven't been online
>day 4: calls me twice
>day 5: no contact
>day 6: no contact, saw her at the mall
>day 7: calls me while I was drunk
>day 8: asks if I'm ignoring her
>day 9: asks what she did wrong
>day 10: no contact
>>27774975
I don't know. I have thought about it a lot really too much.
I didn't get much further than studying with her and her friends a few times and sitting with them at lunch. Once we went to a movie together but only after I offered to buy everything for her and her friends. I always paid for everyone's food even though I couldn't afford it but I knew I didn't have anything else to offer. I don't know.
I was never alone with my crush and looking back, that was deliberate on her part. I was quiet but I tried to make a couple of jokes and once I said she looked nice but everyone acted like I didn't say anything so I let it drop. I was very cautious about what I said because I was afraid they would think I was weird but maybe I was too cautious. I don't think she or her friends ever made eye contact with me when we were together.
Maybe some of that made me creepy. I don't know. I feel like they thought the "you look nice today" comment was creepy and I regret saying that. I don't know why they would say I was scary. I don't know. I didn't sit there and talk about freaky stuff or something. I think I look kind of ordinary, maybe kind of skinny but maybe there's something about me that upsets people
I don't know. That's the worst part. I messed up really badly but I don't know what I said or did wrong so I can't even try to fix it and I feel like there's something really wrong with me that I don't know what I did and I can't see how it was bad.
Once I started thinking about it I realized how many people I made uncomfortable in a day just be being around them. I stopped trying to be polite and talk and started avoiding people as much as possible so I didn't bother them. Sometimes that works other times it seems like they hate me even more for being weird.
I wouldn't ever hurt anyone, and I hate that I upset them so no I do not think I could ever harm someone.
iktf, OP. What was your Oneitis like? Was she cute
Mine had freckles and glasses
>>27775143
Specifically asked her out. She well knew my intentions I was pretty clear about them.
>>27775880
She was really cute, anon. Not the prettiest woman in the world, but she didn't need to be for me.
>>27775885
guess she doesn't care about you then. if she would consider it important, she would actually try to create some space for you
better stop it
>>27775789
lmao. this post is creepier than half the shit on /x/.
Can someone explain "oneitis" outside of context for me.
>>27776046
basically that one girl you are in love with but friendzoned you and you are still orbiting
>>27775789
After reading this, I'm imagining that you look like Ed Gein or that guy from Slingblade. You just give off that creepy rabbit-murdering, dog-fucking vibe. Sorry, brah.
>could you stop posting now
>weirded out
>>27775789
cringe thread?
sorry m8
Keep going at it, OP. Oneitis texted me a couple of months ago and I instantly blocked her number. Feels good, glad I finally got over her.
>>27776476
How long did it took you to get over her?
>>27776046
Oneitis = one it is
When you think that some particular girl is "the one" and you're basically addicted to thinking about her. It's like an illness.
You're a fucking idiot Opeeeeeee
OP, you're being retarded. Just talk to this girl.
>>27776816
-itis (plural itises)
(informal) A medical condition accompanied by inflammation.
>no contact
why you should you do this and what does it achieve?
>>27778791
It helps you forget a girl and improve yourself in the meantime.
Alternatively, it makes the girl miss you and can force her to mistake those thoughts for love, at least for a few days.
>>27771945
It's a great thing that you're doing, anon, but cutting contact is not the only thing to do to get rid of oneitis, you must actually stop THINKING about her. Cutting contact is just step 1 in that plan, you need to keep going forward.
>>27775789
you got serious too soon, you have to joke around and stuff before you drop compliments out of nowhere, find someone else. You went too far and they used you. Don't be so passive and such a pushover. If they wouldn't go to the cinema unless you paid for everything then you shouldn't be hanging out. Find someone else, and don't fall for the single NEET life trap
>>27778791
Keeping your distance from people actually decreases your feelings for them. It's great against oneitis.
>>27775789
>I didn't get much further than studying with her and her friends a few times and sitting with them at lunch. Once we went to a movie together but only after I offered to buy everything for her and her friends. I always paid for everyone's food even though I couldn't afford it but I knew I didn't have anything else to offer. I don't know.
I know I would feel very uncomforable with someone following me around like a lapdog and buying everything from me. He'd snap at some point.
>>27771945
find an escort who looks like her and fuck the shit out of her, make her gag on your dick
will help you forget about her.it's what i did
What's funny is that this cuck won't reply to anyone who calls him out on being the ugly beta faggot that the girl rejected him for in the first place.
He then samefags to justify making a trip of himself.
Jist report and hide this ugly beta cuck.
>>27778989
I always reply, anon. I just said I agree that I'm pathetic, I don't know what else you want me to do. Answer why I'm making these threads? To concentrate all of my thoughts of her in the same place.
>>27774598
She's killing time having a conversation with people then when she starts having plans stops talking again. It's just good timing when you have that bit of good conversation but she doesn't care about it enough to say bye. She likes you but doesn't think about you. The fact you even typed it out is probably more than she's thought about it.
>Be me
>Emotionally co-dependent lazy over-bearing faggot
>Meet propane grill that has similar interests, psych ward in and out like me, shit posts like me, etc etc
>Tells me she wants to get to know me and not just the meme
>I ask her why she wears the mask
but seriously though she's pretty cool and I don't want to be an over bearing faggot again, its like Mirai nikki tier Yandere. The worst part?
I actually met a girl who was yandere-tier bat shit crazy like I am in the psych ward, and we got into even deeper shit, just so you have an idea of how bad it can be, but as a pair we were pretty smart about avoiding getting caught. This new girl seems really cool so I'm trying to differentiate the wayward thoughts and the normal thoughts.
Fuck my shit up fampai.
>>27772153
>>27772200
Whatever dudes, OP is using us as a support system and breaking a habit of any kind is easier when you make yourself accountable/share with others.
Dude is trying to fix a problem he has and it costs us nothing to be a little supportive, it's not exactly detracting from important topics
You go OP keep it up
>>27771945
OP, we'll be here if you need us.
My oneitis is in the same uni accommodation hall with a guy who's already confessed and he won't take no for an answer.
I had the same problem with a girl for almost 2 years. Truly did care about her! Usual on/off convo, our last time speaking she just ignored my last message. That was 11months ago, hasn't said a Damn word since. OP it's never gonna change so just ball up and go speak to some other girl! I did and now i have a girlfriend who I've being with for 9months...still miss her tho
>>27781179
Your beta orbitness was getting to her.
>>27771945
OP you're doing the right thing
Your oneitis will never love you no matter how much you lie to yourself
Free yourself and open your eyes
There's infinite directions and infinite realities
Don't limit yourself to one
>>27775789
>started mocking comment
>then realized this is was me my senior year of HS
>new school
>desperate to be liked
>fuckers absolutely hated me
>beat up
>spit on
>stuff stolen
>humiliated and treated like i was a psycho
>had my locker searched twice because someone said i brought weapons to school
>got it bad for this one bitch
>she called me her dog and joked about playing "fetch" with me
>she would tell me she wanted something and that i had to fetch it for her
>i even paid for the prom dress she wore went she went with chad
>didn't go to prom
>thinking about this post, realized just now that she never once looked me in the eyes either
>after school
>decided i would never do that shit again
>went to college
>being cool
>not talking to anyone
>big shitty state school
>live at home
>no one notices
>no one cares
>nothing but a number
>think about last year of HS
>every
>fucking
>day
I did see spring break pics of my old oneitis on FB and Insty a few days ago.
>tfw she was so beautiful and happy i almost couldn't breathe
>tfw told myself i wouldn't creep on her profiles anymore but ended up cutting class thursday and friday just sitting there looking at her pics over and over
>>27783465
>>tfw told myself i wouldn't creep on her profiles anymore but ended up cutting class thursday and friday just sitting there looking at her pics over and over
You can't do that, man. You're fucking eating your own head.
