>can't hold conversation
>sperg out on anyone that tries to approach me irl
>no idea what to say on sites like omegle
>too shy to orbit online
>mostly lurk instead of posting because i feel i have nothing to contribute
>this thread will inevitably be ignored causing me to regret even making it and lurk moar
Hey kid, there are others like you. Life's not too bad.
Yeah. Every now and again I add a person online then I exhaust their interest in me until the can is empty and swear never to impose my useless self on anyone again.. until I do it again. Sort of like how normies mockingly promise never to drink again after every hangover.
>>27729712
The problem is I normally take things to extremes, either I get really into something (like how I'll try and reply to everyone ITT) or just don't care at all. I know exactly what you mean with the first part senpai, sometimes I just stop responding so I don't annoy people any more
>>27729660
That's reassuring but doesn't help with my situation
>>27729750
Do you feel that for some people you find it impossible to find anything to say at all while for others you talk to them far too much (perhaps while still having nothing of worth to say) which just makes you annoying? No way to win.
I don't even have internet friends for years. The last one was an autist from the days I played wow.
help
>>27729843
Yeah that's pretty much it, sometimes I have ideas but I'm just too scared to bring anything up for fear of being ridiculed
>>27729858
I wish I could senpai, we're all in the same boat here
>tfw used to make online friends as a kid just by finding someone that lives in the same state as you on forums
>tfw now it's almost impossible
I was on omegle and this stoopid fcking 12 year old was telling me she and her friends were all these pansexual, gender fluid, abstract motherfuckers.
I didn't know how to respond to such lunacy.
my son is dead he died in the iraq war
>>27730040
how old was your son?
>>27730022
I tried omegle a while ago but I had no idea what to say, most of the time I just stayed silent until the other person either disconnected or threw something out (which I probably didn't know how to reply to anyway)
>>27730040
Sorry senpai, how old was he?
>>27730062
Omegle sucks
Play games or something and find chill people like that or something
You're overthinking this internet shit too much. Just type coherently (not spergy) and you'll have friends online
I don't even wanna ask how you do irl
>>27730210
I don't play video games
I've done that for a while and nothing has come of it, at most it's some extended conversation on here. One time I added someone from here on Skype and we ended up deleting each other after literally 20 mins because I had no idea what to say, after that I stopped going near any of those types of threads
Ironically I have somehow managed to work my way into a group of normies as the token mysterious autist who never says anything, I don't speak to anyone outside of college though
>>27730276
Skype stuff is stupid, I don't know why I would sit there going off and on in conversations about random shit.
I like the idea of hang out with someone while I play video games and they read or do whatever. But my brother was doing that shit when he was 12 with his friends and I was doing that with my brothers when I was younger than that.
The thing is most of the 4chan people can't hold decent conversations and they just simulate what having friends actually is. They go to Facebook, snapchat or whatever the latest teen trend is and hang on to it like a bumbling parasite. They fake it till they think they can make it.
>>27729636
I know these feels all too well my friend.
I can speak well to myself, but when there's literally anybody else about, no chance.
i'm the same way
i'm too scared to even put myself out there, i know i'll just be wasting anybody's time
This sums up my whole life
>>27730429
Is it just me that runs through imaginary conversations in my head that are extremely unrealistic?
>>27730462
I know that feel all too well, I know I'll just annoy someone so I don't bother
>>27730416
That seems to be the social platform of choice for most people on here
There are a few intelligent threads but as you say it's mostly memeposting retards. I don't really use social media so I can't comment on that
>>27729636
OP you just described my social life since I was a kid
>>27730462
also, this
Yup, I can't make friends. I'm just not sure how to talk to other people.
>>27730528
It seems a lot of people feel the same way desu. Did your parents prevent you from going out as a kid?
>>27730543
The whole process of making friends just seems so alien to me, like how would you go from a complete stranger to someone you would trust with your inner secrets
>>27729636
>be in computer architecture class
>guy adjacent to me introduces himself: "Hey how's it going, the name's Chad."
>sperg out; eyes wide open, mumble a reply
>"I'm sorry, what was that?"
>"A-anon. My name's anon."
>"Oh nice to meet you anon. Here's hoping we do well in this class."
This was in community college last year. He asked me if I was transferring to a 4 year university and I was. He was already attending the university I was gonna apply to (he went to a CC to take some classes; already graduated was going back for a second bachelor's). I eventually dropped the class because I fucked up early on in the year (my depression hit me hardest that semester) and after I left he texted me, "It was a pleasure to meet you dude. Hope I see you at my uni!"
>tfw later met him
>tfw he congratulated me
>tfw he waved goodbye but I misinterpreted as a high five
>mfw
>>27730503
>Is it just me that runs through imaginary conversations in my head that are extremely unrealistic?
I'm always sure this practice will help when a real conversation starts, but it never does
>moved to new town for job
>bumfuck nowhere
>only place to meet people is the bar
>get drunk and reveal my powerlevel scaring away the normies
>go home alone
>>27730679
>Did your parents prevent you from going out as a kid?
actually, yeah, kind of
my parents would let me stay at home watching tv whenever i asked and didn't seem to mind me doing so
>>27730716
I think this may be part of the problem, I'm not sure how many people consider me as a friend but personally I have no one I see as more than a casual acquaintance
>>27730752
Kek same here, I also plan through phone calls but it never ends up going like how I expect
>>27730841
I think this had something to do with it, the one time some people came round to my house and invited me out as a kid, my parents didn't let me go. They never asked again after that
>>27730789
The worst part about moving somewhere new is that everyone else is already in their groups while you're all alone and its even harder than normal to make friends
I find when I'm taking care of my self I can make friends with no effort. These days where my confidence is shot I can't make shit.
>>27730896
new town guy here
fucking this, plus I don't do Facebook.
going to the bar again tonight to do karaoke (I'm a musician so I can usually outsing any non-musician plebs at the bar. music is the one thing I'm good at)
people always compliment me on my singing but it never gets me anywhere
hoping tonight will be different but I know it most likely won't
at least I have fun singing
>>27730896
>people in groups
This.
Perpetual third wheel here.
>>27731146
do you feel like me? like you are always a backup friend? just the guy that is always around but nobody ever gives a shit about unless you contact them to hang out first and they have no one better to hang out with?
>>27731146
I always feel like an outsider in any group I'm in, even when we had to do group work for college my group just ignored me and got on with their own stuff
>>27730974
Even on my good days I don't make much progress, I'm fine with going outside but approaching people is just too much
>>27731103
Hope it works out senpai, guess you could always try and get in with some local band
>>27731194
I couldn't even call myself backup friend.
Probably a step higher from that clerk you meet everytime at some specific day.
>>27729636
Lurker 4 life
>>27731205
my original band just broke up I was playing drums
(Im a multiinstumentalist drums guitar bass vocals)
then I joined a cover band on bass and they didn't like me so they made up a billshit excuse to kick me out
thinking about recording my own music on all instruments like Dave Grohl did in the early days of the Foo Fighters but its impossible to record a drumset in a small apartment without getting evicted
>>27731256
I normally just go for months without posting, I think this is the first thread I've made this year
>>27731194
>>27731220
This was me in high school, I used to have people I could say hi to in the hallways but whenever it came to group activities they always left me out of plans (sometimes even discussing stuff in their subgroups without involving me while I was literally right there)
>>27731220
ever feel like you have never had any real friends, only acquaintances?
>>27729636
>tfw you can joke
>make people laugh
>care for other people
>help them
>still no friends
I guess there's something that repels people in me.
>>27731322
I know that feel
maybe we are social pariahs
>>27731333
Checked. What do you think makes people avoid you? I'm my case i think that people see me acting unnatural, like i'm faking my emotions and actions.
>>27729636
I'm the same. I write out a lot of posts and then delete them without ever posting them instead of just straight up lurking though.
>>27729636
can't even start a conversation yet alone keep one going.
unable to even talk much on this this site where i'm anonymous.
i'll type out a response to someone, over analyse it and just end up exiting out of the thread.
i just want some online social interaction desu.
>>27731390
Hello how it's going fellow anon?
>>27730462
I sincerely believe that anyone who agrees to hang out with me is only doing it out of a sense of obligation and not because they enjoy my company so I mostly just don't ever ask and no one asks me anymore.
>tfw aspergers
At least I have an excuse
>>27731371
>>27731390
Fuck iktf hard
>spend 5 mins typing out a long reply
>no one will even care
>they'll probably just ignore it anyway, there's no point posting
>>27731281
Have you thought about an electronic kit? I know it's not the same but you could practice on that and then have your final recording sessions done in the studio
>>27731370
if I be myself everyone thinks I'm weird/annoying
I used to have more success in social situations by trying to be someone Im not but I got tired of keeping up the act and stopped giving a shit about what people think about me. feels good to be myself but there are consequences. most people are fake and can't handle people who are real.
>>27731447
got a Roland ekit
don't get me wrong its great for quiet practice but it doesn't have the same feel or sound as acoustic drums
>sperg out on anyone that tries to approach me irl
Do people approach you in the street or when does this happen?
I don't have friends either but no one has ever tried to make contact with me.
>>27731464
plus to record in a studio is fucking expensive and I need money for other things like a better car
>>27729636
good news op
1 day you will become numb to it all
>>27731322
This. Fucking literal social retards who couldn't speak properly had more social time in school than me.
Sometimes I wish someone just sat me down and told me what the fuck was wrong.
But nope, can't hurt anon's feelings even though it would help him.
>>27729636
No one talks to me or initiates conversation.
Either I'm ugly and/or look uninteresting or look like I murder people in my spare time.
My bigger problem is keeping friends.
>>27731492
>Sometimes I wish someone just sat me down and told me what the fuck was wrong.
This. Fuck it I'm going to ask everyone I come across what I'm doing wrong.
>>27731322
>are you me
wow anon you're smart
wow anon you're funny
wow you're witty
>>27731464
Yeah I get what you mean
You seem like a talented guy anon, keep at the music
>>27731446
I suspected I had Aspergers as a kid but never got a diagnosis
>>27731448
Eventually you just can't be bothered to pretend you're interested in things you couldn't care less about, like I couldn't give a shit about Chad's 59th gf but have to act like I do and it just gets so tiring
>>27731482
I go to college so there are some situations involving group work. I meant more like cashiers/waitresses and stuff though, like when they try and make small talk I have no idea how to respond
>>27731530
Yes. I think I will do this too.
>>27731447
>spend 5 mins typing out a long reply
>no one will even care
>they'll probably just ignore it anyway, there's no point posting
Too close to home, anon
>>27731530
People will just see you as weird and you'll be even more ostracized. Normies can't handle someone asking them to not be ironic, passive aggressive little shits.
>>27731322
i think its my empty dead eyes
>>27731492
>>27731530
no stop it you guys
there is nothing wrong with you or you or me
hard truth is some people are doomed to not be understood by anyone because they can't get on our fucking level.
it's not you, it's them.
even if someonr told you what's "wrong" to change that would mean lying about who you are
and living that life is no fun been there done that
stop caring about what people think it will destroy you
sorry if thats shitty advice but its true
>>27731489
I'm not even mad, I just wonder how you can even be this socially inept
>>27731492
Exactly this, I had literal autists in my school with girlfriend and social circles and you think to yourself 'I can't be that bad... Right?'. Maybe we're wrong Anon...
>>27731499
No one goes out of their way to talk to me, I meant like staff and similar stuff
Yeah I can feel you on being too ugly to make friends man
>>27731625
Anon I share your thoughts but it's too late for me to change, it's the lack of any closure that fucks with me.
I went through my entire school life (and, as of now, most of my uni life) not knowing what the fuck I was doing wrong. Why I never got invited to parties or get-togethers despite making everyone I know laugh and be interested.
I just want a concrete reason why I never got on socially. I don't have autism, or child abuse, or something else to fall back on; so I have no fucking idea.
>>27731546
I try but its hard to fucking care about bands anymore
most people who I've been in bands with are only in it to be cool and try to fuck Stacey/Chad (never be in a band with a woman guys)
so few people pick up an instrument purely for the feeling of playing music like I do without ulterior motives
>>27731706
you will never find closure anon Im sorry but you won't
>>27731775
I know, and that's the worst part. Normies just expect everyone to know exactly what to do and what they've done wrong.
So instead of pointing out flaws they passive aggressively ignore and demean someone for no reason.
>the best most interesting most understanding most willing to share their feelings and hear about your feelings friends you ever will have are anonymous posters on the internet
these fucking feels
>>27731432
i'm eating, so i'm content for the moment
how are you anon-kun?
I'm the same. I also get tired really easily from socialising with other people, not in the bored sense of tired but in the sense where I get really tense/agitated and need a break.
>>27731863
the thing about Normies is they are secretly super insecure behind their facade of confidence, cool, beauty, normalness, etc
they are fucking liars and fake people only interested in keeping up appearances
charlatans all of them
>>27731447
having your response go unreplied to hurts more than it should
why does the anxiety still ruin me when no one knows who i am
am i too retarded even for 4chin...
>>27731301
>sometimes even discussing stuff in their subgroups without involving me while I was literally right there
My high school friends did this. I guess I seemed closed-off to them, but even friends I really liked ended up leaving me alone. I spent many lunch table conversations wondering why they weren't acknowledging me at all.
>>27731952
At least they get the brain reactions that friendship, companionship and love bring. If I knew how I'd be fine faking it a little to get there.
They hide from their insecurity, whilst insecurity is all I am.
>>27731987
faking it feels worse brobot trust me it does been there done that
>>27731738
A lot of people would love to have the talent you do. I tried to learn the guitar a while ago but was completely shit so I stopped
I guess that makes it even more important, people like that just have to make music I guess
>>27731604
>dead eyes
Iktf, people say I look like a zombie
>>27731881
>tfw you pour your heart our online but everyone thinks you're a cold impassive robot irl
>>27731902
Yeah I hate to just perpetuate that introvert meme pic but I get all cranky if I spend too long in large groups
>>27731955
W-which post was it, I was eating and shitposting at the same time so I might have missed some
>>27731971
That's the worst part, when everyone else is happily getting along and you're there on the edge wondering why you're even part of the group when you never get involved in anything
>>27732026
Yeah, but at least faking it you might find at least one genuine friend. If you don't/can't do anything you're fucked.
>>27731902
same here, i'll become snappy and a total grump
i either need to leave or be alone with some music for an hour or so to recharge
This whole thread speaks to on a spiritual level. I hate it that there are so many people like us but we're never together, we never find another anon on school, college or work, we're always among normies who could never relate to us, we'll always be the outcasts.
>>27732058
>W-which post was it, I was eating and shitposting at the same time so I might have missed some
i just meant in general anon. bless your heart
>>27731883
What you're eating anon? I'm also eating ramen and drinking cheapest cola.
>>27732058
I know that I have this talent and need to use it but being successful in music also requires dealing with social bullshit that I have little patience for. especially in 2016 when its close to impossible to make a living playing music. its a blessing but also a horrible curse. why can't I be good at something profitable?!
>>27729636
>tfw no friends with whom you could play vidya, go travelling, reveal powerlevel or just talking without judgement.
>>27732064
>faking it
>genuine friend
choose one dude
>>27729636
>no idea what to say on sites like omegle
Oh fuck, I know this feel so much. Honestly I bait and shitpost a lot on the internet. Here and omegle included. I realized a little while back that it's because when I make genuine replies they generally get passed over and I feel like I wasted my time. At least when I post inflammatory shit people reply with passion. Even if it is negative passion.
>>27732183
That's why I said might. If you're doing fuckall because nobody wants to be around you then how could that ever happen?
>>27731881
It wasn't meant to be like this.
I'm too boring to have friends. Even online, attempted friendships fall apart because I can't hold someone's interest.
>>27732259
what if it was though?
what if god/the universe/whatever is a sadist who wants us to suffer?
>>27732170
I would do that stuff with you anon....
>>27732305
>tfw all these people enjoying games like Destiny and The Division
>I haven't played an online game with someone else that wasn't a complete stranger since 2012
Why is the only place I can interact and make jokes with people on anonymous online forums?
Why the fuck can't I even be funny here?
Whhhhhyyyyy???
>>27732113
That's the thing, you probably wouldn't even realise. A true anon would just blend into the background without even being noticed
>>27732128
Ah OK kek, don't want anyone to feel left out here
>>27732164
Yeah even someone talented probably won't get noticed without the right contacts, all these labels and agents and support you need to get your tracks heard. Do you have a bandcamp by any chance?
>>27732204
>>27732128
This is exactly why I don't really make serious posts anymore, I know they're just going to get lost in the sea of shitposts and ignored
Tbh I expected this thread wouldn't get any replies either, but here we are I guess
>>27732305
That's pretty much all of us ITT senpai
>>27732317
Fuck I think about this all the time, was just reading about the problem of evil yesterday and it's depressing af
Being alone isn't so bad but sometimes it can get tiresome, is it too much to ask for ONE fucking friend?
>tfw severe depression due constant loneliness but ultra sperg and severe social anxiety
what do?
>>27732134
it's friday night so it's some sweet n sour chicken and wontons for meee
>>27731194
>backup friend
>backup friend
>backup friend
>backup friend
i wish i ahdnt opened this thread. so many thingfs are clear now. fuck evrything
>>27732414
I would do a bandcamp once I get my songs recorded still working on them especially the lyrics.... lyrics are hard for me.
>>27732472
Damn that some good evening you've got ahead. Did you made those or bought?
>>27732414
>That's the thing, you probably wouldn't even realise. A true anon would just blend into the background without even being noticed
Well, in a sea of small groups it wouldn't be so hard to notice someone completely alone. The problem is that it's too noticeable, and most of us don't wanna look like we're weird or autistic, so we try to blend in any group even if we don't relate to them, thus being left behind and getting feels.
>>27732528
you seem a bit intoxicated friend
sorry to cause you those feels
where is the good ol bartender thread when you need it?!
>>27732676
i was actuall missing the forgs & feels thread earlier todya when i was feeling worse and hadnt opened the bottle yet
>>27732388
Too bad one of us would fine gf and we start spending less and less time with each other. First it starts like, not being able to meet because you're going with gf, then time between messages increases because we dont have shared experience anymore. We both would like to write each other but then it comes realization - about what? We barely spend time and our interests are too different now. Eventually we drift into dead zone where besides wishing happy birthday on normiebook or just bumping into another on the street nothing happens anymore. We both wonder what have happen but we accept it as fact that nothing could've been changed.
>>27732698
Im drinking too man but guess you got a head start on me lol
shit I would make a bartender thread myself but Im scared I would somehow do it wrong....
>>27732746
>me
>find gf
>use normiebook
you got me all wrong
>>27732612
Try and post it on here when you're done, I would be interested in hearing some of your work senpai
>>27732650
Yeah like you said a robot doesn't have to be that guy with no friends, it could just as well be that guy that just floats around from group to group without ever getting involved with any of them. To an outsider, it would seem as if they're just another normie but we know otherwise
>don't talk to co-workers because I'm a quiet sperg that can't talk right
>still look forward to nights out with them because I can get drunk and make conversation and feel something close to friendship
That's it. That. is it.
I am so sick of being a friendless loser. I've gone through all of high school and now most of community college without making a single friend. And I am DONE WITH IT.
Thank you for giving me the inspiration to change my life, OP and fellow posters. Tomorrow, I am going to go outside and make FIVE new friends, no matter what it takes.
>>27732804
will do senpai hope you get to hear them
if I had to say a genre I would say "robot rocknroll"
>>27732804
>Tfw OP takes his time to answetr to everyone's replies
But anyway, this is what mostly fuck us up. There should be some way to recognize each other irl, but something that isn't a neon sign for autism like those cringy fedoras.
>>27729636
Sometimes I wonder if it's better having no friends
>>27732840
>Thank you for giving me the inspiration to change my life, OP and fellow posters. Tomorrow, I am going to go outside and hang myself out of misery.
Fixed friendo
>>27732884
Robot island when?
>>27732884
think about this:
we could be neighbors but we are too inept to know each other
robots are everywhere
>>27732800
>you got me all wrong
We will see anon, maybe tomorrow everything will change.
>>27732637
i bought it with my pretty princess points
do you have anything exciting planned anon?
>>27732905
what if we all hated each other though
>>27732935
Not really, it's 2:15 am. Wait a minute, are you a girl?
>>27732926
My neighbour is like, 80. I would genuinely be surprised if there were another robot within 30 miles of me
>>27732840
you'll be back
don't forget you're here FOREVER
>relate to a lot of posts here
>always feel like a third wheel
>hard to make new friends
I likely have Aspergers but don't want to get tested because I don't want it to show up when I apply for jobs.
>>27732884
Yeah I don't want anyone to feel left out ITT, glad someone appreciates it. I think that's one of the main issues here as well, people contribute a lot but because no one ever openly thanks them they feel unappreciated and eventually get bitter about it.
>>27732894
In high school I was a backup friend and stuck with it just because I was scared of being completely alone. I guess if you have no friends at all you can be yourself at least
>>27732957
I think this is also a big problem, people assume that just because most people ITT are outcasts they'll automatically get along which is probably very far from the truth
>>27732957
We would have to start off small with only a few trusted robots. Dibs not paying for land
>>27729636
We get it, you're a stupid bitch. There's no need to make these threads.
>>27732987
>tfw you are in social situation and realize how pathetic you truly are
>you come to conclusion that they have something that you lack
>you wonder what it is
>you cant figure it out
>>27733021
Chad we will fucking stab you fuck off
you just walked into a hornets nest bud
>>27733033
It's a mystery to us all, anon. I doubt it's something quantifiable, since people as fat as me, as ugly as me, as unfunny as me have gotten friends and gfs yet I haven't had one.
At least you have the only thing that matters,dubs
I'm in college and most everyone is friendly to me but I haven't made a single friend in the year. People will go out of their way to greet me, ask what is im doing, how my weekend went, and how I'm doing personally and I reciprocate with similar questions but nothing transpires from there.
When I was a boy I had very many friends, but since I moved when I was about 12 years old I have not been the same I guess. At best I'll have one very good friends, and it's odd to me because people a lot worse off physically than myself have dozens of close friends they hang out with.
How do I take a girl smiling and waving at me and make it into something? Shieet
>can hold conversations
>don't sperg out often
>always something I could say
>still never say anything because any time I've tried it's eventually ended in failure
Something about me makes people gradually repulsed. So I gave up. My mantra now for pretty much anything is "they're not your friends". I repeat it to myself a lot so I don't forget and get carried away.
>>27733103
are you me
right in the fucking feels
>>27733085
That's the curse of intelligent people. Inbreds, white trash, rednecks, niggers, thugs are capable of finding gf/wife/partner and friends/nakama/compadres, while we struggle with the simple function.
>>27733090
I can related to this, I was kind of extroverted when I was younger, I had a small group of friends and practically every day we would play games and chat on skype, but then I slowly degenerated into what I am today. I tried to do it again but I still don't know how I managed it.
>>27733128
Nigger I ain't even intelligent. I can't into STEM and I'm shit at studying and have no idea what to do.
At least I'm not a fedora, right?
>>27733021
/r9k/ has no topic so I can post whatever I want
This thread is a no bully zone so take your meanposting something else
>>27733054
>tfw another anon defends you
T-thanks <3
>>27733090
Do you also think of everyone as acquaintances but not as true friends? They might see it differently for you, what normies think of as a friend probably isn't as deep as what someone on here thinks
Fuck I moved as a kid too, maybe that has something to do with it
Well if she's waving at you there must be some interest there. It might sound creepy but I would suggest finding out about her interests and then subtly letting slip that you are also interested in the same thing while she's there
>>27733103
I think this is to do with being too self aware, normies don't think about this stuff so it's natural to them but we go over ever possible reply in our heads so by the time you've analysed whether it's OK to say that, the conversation has already moved on
>>27733021
>>27733128
Can't we have ONE (semi)serious thread once in a while?
>>27733217
hey man we gotta stick together even if its just anonymously on 4chan
I wish we could all hang out and play hotline miami together
>>27733383
me too
but I dont know what that game is
>>27733383
>Pounding those columbians into coffee.
>>27732965
if you're gonna reee at me then no, otherwise, yes
>>27733519
ree
roo (ree)
>>27733519
I wish i could reee but i have no mouth. This frog warcry wont bring friends. Girls have easier time finding friends or in the worst case beta orbiters, atleast they can ease the pain.
>>27733564
> I have no mouth and I must ree
>>27733562
there there little froggie
>>27733564
i understand a lot do have it easier, but i haven't experienced that.
i wouldn't want orbiters either, i'd like genuine conversation and not someone sucking up to my retarded butt
>>27733659
>i'd like genuine conversation
You know that poor soul (assuming it will be male) will end up having feelings for you? Then it will become awkward to have conversation with him.
>>27733659
many men would like to suck your butt
>make an okcupid account
>get 2 mutual matches
>message them both
>neither respond
it's then i realize that i'm probably competing with 12 other guys who are messaging the same girls at the same moment with at least half of which are more attractive and accomplished than me.
not being in the top 10% male bracket is suffering
>>27733700
>feels thread will going to die down into steady orbiting
> you felt confident posting this sentence
>>27733707
>you're having convo with girl
>she's taking a lot of time to write back
>ask if she's writing with other people
>"oh yeah, i talk with a lot of people at the same time"
>feel disgusted and betrayed
>stop messaging her
>>27733700
roasties ruin everything
>plenty of shy awkward female support groups
>just have to ruin one of the few male shy awkward support groups
damnit Im sorry you feel that way femanon but could you just give us the common courtesy of dying alone? why do you have to deprive us even of that? now everyones thirsty and the thread is derailed. I hope you're happy
>>27733707
Welcome to being a male on online dating. Men message a lot and get no replies, Women get overwhelmed with messages and won't reply to the majority.
You might get a reply if you say something like "Yo bitch, how about you suck my dick" but that reply would be them calling you a pig or something.
I didn't mean to make you delete your reply, anon
>>27733711
Shhh, I thought going to sounded better but forgot to delete the other stuff. It's 1:00 in the morning and I'm on my phone, give me a break senpai
>>27733707
Iktf senpai, I thought about what I have to offer other people and came back completely blank
Doesn't help that I made a fake girl account a while ago and saw how many replies they get first hand, desu if I was in that situation I would probably do the same
>>27733691
or maybe he will be repulsed by me and not want to talk. or or maybe i will feel the same way back, i seem to fall for anyone who shows me some attention on the rare occasion that it happens.
>>27733698
well i will only let one do such things!
>>27733707
>>27733749
>message a girl on okcupid and she actually replied and we talk for awhile
>we go on a date and it goes really well, she's really cool and qt
>afterwards we agree to meet up again
>log in one day and see she's deleted her account and I have no way other way of contacting her
I gave her my phone number at one point so she might text me one day maybe but no.
Sometimes I wish that I could give people socialization lessons. I see people doing stupid shit all the time, and they don't have the faintest idea why they're fucking up and they never will, so they can't fix it. I'm betting this is the case with a lot of you here.
>>27733910
Give us an example then, anon.
I find people either utterly fascinating or extremely boring and there's little in-between. Unfortunately, the fascinating people tend to find me boring, because I'm not as interesting on the surface as they are.
>>27733910
>Sometimes I wish that I could give people socialization lessons.
Dude... You can, just fucking spit it out, most of us are in need of this kind of advice.
>>27733927
Like, a girl I know talks very, very fast and mumbles the whole time, then she'll stop talking in the middle of a sentence and look at you. Her skin is flaky to the point that it's actually offputting and she never brushes her hair. She's not retarded, she's just utterly socially inept. Another guy I know just smiles way, way too much, and has long periods of smiling while not talking. Again, his IQ is probably pretty normal, he's just socially fucked.
>>27733862
girl, you have an awesome life ahead of you by nature of your birth as a woman. why do you hang out here? is it because you like the attention from thirsty betas? leave us to die alone with dignity. have some fucking respect.
>>27733884
Do you have normiebook? You could try and message her on there
>>27733910
I get what you mean but the problem is these rules aren't set in stone for normies, sometimes things that would ordinarily be weird or wrong can be OK. For me this is one of the hardest parts of making friends, you have to vary your approach and adapt to different people which is hard enough when you can't even make one friend
>>27733933
Iktf, I have nothing to offer so the people I want to be friends with have no reason to be friends with me
>>27733977
Except I never displayed any of those behaviours. When I was around people I was completely fine, it's just nobody seemed to want to be around me.
I highly doubt it's as simple as that.
>>27733862
and by one you mean Chad
PROTIP:
download the app 'hellotalk' on your smartphone
it is a language learning app. put that you speak english fluently and you are learning some language that a lot of poor people speak (i use russian). i in fact don't speak a single word of russian, but for weeks i just make a post 'english word of the day' and add some thesaurus word and a cute puppy/kitty photo along with it. today it was ostentatious with a puppy in a crazy outfit. before it was amicable with a puppy nuzzling up to a rabbit. etc
i have numerous friends, females only (i ignore all of the males) that i talk to on a daily basis. it is so easy, i even have some girls that wanna be my gf. i just have to buy them a visa and plane ticket.
>>27734051
never let women use you for money
>>27733997
No I just set up a blank normiebook so I could use tinder. Also she never told me her last name so finding her would be near impossible.
>>27734068
i haven't spent a dime though. if you just want someone online to talk to, get the app.
>>27733862
Just out of pure interest, are you a virgin?
>>27734015
Not those exact behaviours, no, but I'm guessing you have some weird ticks or fuckedupness that you can't recognize. If you're consistently noticing that you're offputting to people then there's something there, and it's different for everyone and it's invisible to them. Like how everyone's house has a smell that they don't really register themselves.
>>27734051
No offense but you make it sound pretty shallow, like something that would happen in normiebook.
>>27733973
I'd have to meet you first to figure out why you're weird, it's not like there's a list or anything that you can follow.
>>27734101
So what do, anon? Nobody's going to tell me, so what's the point?
>>27733193
It seems like I was a totally different person a little under a decade ago and just lost whatever it was that allowed me to so easily interact with and enjoy the company of others.
I'd say I'm definitely still an extrovert, in that I get a great deal of energy and enjoyment from talking to or being around others, but it's not often I'm in that situation for whatever reason.
It's as if people know not to get too close to me but are otherwise friendly
>>27733217
I don't think they would consider me their friends. We never hang out, text, or even talk to each other outside of short exchanges in the hallway.
I don't know most of the girls names who wave at me or say hello, and besides greeting them back I am just stuck as what I should do otherwise.
I don't know if there's a solution for people like us.
>>27734102
no, i assure you the people on this app are much friendlier than on facebook or anything else. then again they live in completely different countries and will never meet you IRL so if that's what your looking for it's not for you
>>27734087
Do you know any of her friends names then, you might be able to find her through there? If not then just searching her first name is the best option, it may take a while but it'll be worth it and I think facebook has some location stuff so mainly the girls in your area will show up
>go to Uni
>too loud and normie to fit in with the socially awkward asians that study and play LoL all day
>too quiet and robot to fit in with the chads who do meme majors and party all day
I made friends with people who were really hated and had lots of rumors spread about them in middle school. They didn't have that many friends, so they were happy to have one more, and because they were outcasts they had lots of interesting opinions and hobbies, so there was always stuff to talk about. After spending years with them, they became close friends and still are the only one I have.
I don't think I would be able to make new friends if I lost them. Everyone seems the same now, and I don't know what to talk about with the majority of people. Even their faces seem the same, I have trouble distinguishing people now because the majority looks the same to me.
>>27733862
>or maybe he will be repulsed by me and not want to talk. or or maybe i will feel the same way back, i seem to fall for anyone who shows me some attention on the rare occasion that it happens.
Could you describe the last time it happened?
>>27734169
Iktfb
>tfw actually want to get involved and stuff and go out
>'friends' are a bunch of lazy stoners who never do anything except except smoke
>>27734119
Hmmm... well, the real thing is that you need someone to tell you what makes you offputting, but you don't have any friends to do that *because* you're offputting. It's tricky. Maybe you could go in to see a therapist and ask them to have a conversation with you, and tell them straight-up that you don't want them to say "you're a special little snowflake and have value just as you are," you want them to help you develop social skills by conversing you and offering feedback. It's worth it if if can improve your life.
>>27734215
That sounds like it might work, but having a conversation that isn't "real" is difficult for me. I don't know.
It's late where I am. I'll have a think about your advice, anon. Thanks.
>>27733989
where is this awesome life you speak of?? i hang out here because i never leave the house and i have no friends irl, this is the only place i get to interact with people. and this is only the 2nd time i've revealed my gender in the years i've been here, so no, it's not an attention thing.
>>27734099
no i'm not, i briefly had a boyfriend when i was 16
>>27734182
i mean, i haven't had anyone approach me for years because i don't go out/use things like fb so?? there hasn't been an opportunity to be rejected
>>27734468
>i mean, i haven't had anyone approach me for years because i don't go out/use things like fb so?? there hasn't been an opportunity to be rejected
Do you have social anxiety when interacting with people or lack of hobbies with whom you could share?
>>27729636
its okay anon this thread will live forever because I will shitpost infinitely
>>27729636
I'm starting to know this feel. For the first time in my life, I'm starting to wonder if I might be stupid.
I don't have friends atm. Some of it is my fault for being too quiet. But some people who I thought were my friends just stopped talking to me suddenly so now I hate humans.
>>27734520
i'm autistic so it's always been very difficult for me to interact with people
lots of hobbies, i always say i'll join local groups for them but i never get around to actually doing it, too intimidating
>>27730841
Your speaking my life here
Why do girls always use lowercase "i" when referring to themselves
the only people I interact with are my co-workers and they're all much older/successful than I am and only care about normie things like traveling and alcohol
I can't relate to them because my only interest is shitposting and vidya
>>can't hold conversation
I feel like this is the main thing holding us back.
If we could only interact with people without being awkward, things would fall into place.
How the fuck do normies come up with hours of material every single day? It's mindblowing.
>>27731305
not that guy, but yes. i might have similar interest and even hang out with someone.we'd click and hit it off, but i never fully connect with people to form friendships. idk, guess im scared if opening up and letting people in ( i see it as a weakness and fuel for future blackmail/betrayal) idk, i always been content being by my lonesome, so i guess the need for friends doesnt appeal to me, though it is nice to have a night out with friends (the few times I ever did) but i guess i just enjoy my own company.
>>27736617
>How the fuck do normies come up with hours of material every single day?
fucking true bro.
>>27729636
I feel you
Most of my awkwardness comes from being very blunt and uncaring towards most people's feelings, though not intentionally. Makes it hard to attract a bf/gf cause people think i hate them
>finally meet random guy in net who doesnt mind my mannerism
>get to know him decently and talk regularly on FB
>happy its first person in a long time who can tolerate me
>Sometimes very jokingly get flirty with him
>Find out today he was qt asian guy and he had a bf he met on FB
>what is this feel
why do i feel like I lost something /r9k/?
I mean we weren't intimate but I feel like I lost something, though I never had it
>>27729636
Go on Reddit desu senpai. You can find a sub for anything, no matter how autistic it is. You'll find a few chill people too
>become anti-social because stuttering disorder and dont know how to socialize
>join a group to try and socialize and make friends
>end up not doing anything and staying alone and quiet
>the other kid who is exactly like me makes friends with everyone
>pretty he also has autism or down syndrome by the way he speaks
>the group had a pizza party tonight
>no one told me
>stuck eating leftover cheese-its i found in my car
shits not ok familia
>>27737295
Damn, man that's rough
I'll have pizza with you, Anon
>tfw now all these feels
>>27737123
I imagine it's hard enough being an aspie, but being a homosex aspie surely take the cake and the kek.
>try to get to close to someone
>end up a clingy beta orbiter
>>27737562
bi-sex aspie actually
though that probably only makes it worse
>>27731492
see, this is why i never try to spare feelings when giving social critisism that should be obvious to everyone. it makes me an asshole, i get that. but i do see changes in peoples lives based off of things i and others have suggested
>friends from when I was younger don't respond when I try to speak with them
>get passed by a lot
>try to meet new people, and try to initiate conversation at appropriate times
>aside from the initial conversation, I get ignored after
>parents, despite divorced, don't have the time to speak with me, often out with others
>find numerous online gamer groups
>join for a session, and they don't seem to mind me
>try to join later, but none of them respond
I'm not angry about it, but it does get me down.
I'm not even that autistic, I understand social cues, keep clean, and have no physical deformities.
It confuses me, but after two years I'm starting to accept it.
Same here. Dude I'm too autistic to even talk to people over any online games. Playing an MMO or ARPG solo is not as fun, but talking to people I don't know is so draining. My old friends I grew up with don't play video games that aren't NBA 2K or FIFA because they're a bunch of fucking normies.
In grade school I was the lowest rung on the ladder, the punching bag people would go "ew" if they accidentally touched me. I have multiple memories of the entire class making fun of me and everyone laughing.
I shut myself away and practiced math and music all day every day. When I got to go to college they were often just as vile. The mathfags hated me, the music fags hated me because they think my autism-induced practice makes them look bad. They dont realize that I have nothing; they have social lives and are rounded human beings while I'm a recluse. Nobody will admire me unless I turn myself into some social chameleon
My personality might be shitty. I don't know. I don't know where to put my eyes when I talk to someone. Maybe they see my aloofness as being rude. Autistic people are cast aside by society only getting a few claps when they teach themselves a skill that garners the same admiration and interest given to a show monkey.
I can't make friends because I have a serious problem where not only am I ugly, but I am both hyperactive and I'm also weird as fuck. This means that I just become annoying and obnoxious, and when i try to "tone it down" I just revert into an antisocial shell.
While people generally seem to be okay with me being around, they don't want to go any further with me, like they can only tolerate me in small doses. The years of social rejection and isolation have made me into an asshole too.
I really have no problems getting to know people and make jokes and make people laugh all the time (been like this since elementary school). I've been called hilarious, witty, the funniest guy people have ever met. This happened in high school and with the few people I knew in college. People even seem to like me like at work or whatever. Senior year of college my roommate would invite me to stuff he and his friends did and his friends all loved me, and new people I would meet at parties he would drag me to would say how cool I was.
Yet no one has ever wanted to be friends with me. Ever. Besides my college roommates pity-inviting me places, no "Hey Anon, you want to come to this thing we're doing?" or "Hey anon, I'm having a party tonight, you should come". nothing. Ever. Haven't even had friends to text, I've barely texted anyone in my entire life even though i'm 24.
The worst thing about not having friends in a situation like mine is that it seems like I've always done all the things necessary for at least having SOME friends, but I basically never have. i bet if I asked all the people I went to high school with why they hated me and never wanted to be friends with me, that would have dozens of reasons.
>>27737980
I can relate to this all too well. I'd be your friend, anon.
>>27738020
be my friend too thx
>>27732746
But think, even if that was to happen, what an improvement for the both of you. It is a win-win situation.
I've had the same friends for pretty much my whole life. We're all fucking depressed but hey at least we can be sad together
