>Tired of being lonely
>Try to make friends and become a normal person
>Buy new clothes of normal popular brands
>Attempt to hide my power level a bit
>Start getting invited places
>All anyone ever does is go to clubs and talk shit about each other
>Most are genuinely awful people
>Really stupid and uninformed on anything except pop culture
>Really entitled and aggressive and mean spirited
>Incapable or unwilling to discuss or analyze anything in depth, in any time or place or circumstances
>No real insight on anything
>Vapid and narcissistic
>Unwilling to attempt to understand other perspectives or opinions
>always on their phones
>Absolutely hate clubs, but that is the only place they want to go
>Too socially awkward for bars, and they're too expensive
>Find a group that might be cool
>Take them to a sort of off the path place with an amazing view that I go to some nights
>They just talk about how creepy and dark it is
>Quickly become ostracized and am just sitting here watching other people talk
>Can't relate to anything they talk about
>They just take a bunch of pictures of themselves for snapchat/instagram and then leave
Seriously, they record fucking everything for snapchat and instagram. We were having a conversation and this fucking asshole sat there the whole time recording us talking, and then afterwards showed us how he posted it online. I had said some shit I certainly don't want online, and finally he deleted it.
Where or how do I find better people?
They exist. School or work
You'll meet better folks as life goes on
At Least Now YOU Know What YOU Don't like
Even as shitty of an experience as that was, it meant that you gained some social skills and experience. There are plenty of intelligent, kind, and interesting people out there, but you need to find them. No one I know goes to clubs regularly (not that there's anything necessarily wrong with that).
>>27720822
They're all shitty. And I don't feel any better off now after dozens of social experiences than I did before. In fact i've become a genuine misanthrope
>not staying a recluse and dedicating your life to the theoretical sciences
You're heading down the wrong path, OP.
>>27720757
Yeah man for sure. That's how it goes.
>>27721133
Misanthropy is the only way.
>>27721133
Just because you met a group of people you didn't like that has totally different interests from you does not mean that everyone is just like them. If you're happy alone then it doesn't matter, but (if you are OP or are like OP) then you are NOT happy alone; you are lonely. So by deciding that all people are shitty you are just making yourself miserable so that you don't have to try. It's just like the retards with the 'woman hate' threads who make shit up about what all women are like so that THEY don't have to try. It's the ethos of this board and it's a shitty, self-destructive one.
is that a skram band OP???
it looks super familiar
>>27721213
get lost, normalscum
>>27721246
Go to wizardchan if I'm triggering your fragile sensibilities, you bizarro-tumblrite.
>>27721225
jeromes dream
>>27721266
Right, right right. Thank you. seeing means more than safety is top quality shit
The whole instagram and selfie shit drives me up the wall. Like, its more important that people KNOW youre doing something interesting, rather than the intrinsic value and satisfation of said thing.
Ive actually heard the term selfie meals used inironically by people, ordering lavish food not to eat or enjoy but to take fuckin pictures with it.
Im sure theres a term for it. Cancer, maybe
>>27721213
But what if it's not just one group that i'm talking about? And yeah, I am OP. I mean easily dozens of different groups of people from different cultures and subcultures and socioeconomic classes in 3 different countries.
There's just some certain general truths about human nature. I don't like it. I don't like the cruelty, the meanness, the hatred that is always present. I've met very very very few people who I could genuinely say I liked. Down to earth, reasonable, empathetic people. I know they exist, but they seem to be a very small minority, and unfortunately I think many of them go the way of suicide, or changing themselves to fit in.
I tried changing myself, but I don't have it in me.
>>27721338
I'll never understand photos of food.
>>27721361
I don't know where you met these people or what age they were, but if you met them in party/bar settings and they were college age then it's not surprising that they would be interested in clubbing and social media. Not all college-age kids are like this, but many are. The ones that are not like this don't tend to spend a lot of time at bars and parties. When I was at college, I made some friends who were studying computer science with me, and they were down to earth, reasonable, empathetic people. Not all of the people who were studying with me were like this, but I found the ones that were and I got to know them.
I think you are meeting people in a specific age group and social setting, and assuming that everyone else is like them just because you are delving into this very specific group. There are tons of nice people out there but you are just searching in the wrong places. That's my guess, without knowing much about your story. I'm not pulling shit out of my ass here; I've met lots and lots of nice people.
Why don't you just be more like them? It sounds like you want to encounter them and then recoil and compliment yourself on being different from them. Then you end up painting yourself into a corner in some attempt to remain consistent with yourself.
>>27720757
>hey guys come check out my view spot im so deep
Everything else you said aside, that's straight sperger. You can't get angry at people for not being down with your homo little personal moments.
>>27721527
I don't mind conforming to an extent. I'm more than happy to pick up on positive influence. Going to the gym and playing sports, for example. What I'm not okay with is the bullying, the insults, the talking about people behind backs, the blind hedonism, and obviously not a huge fan of clubs.
>chad cunts obsessed with clubbing turn out to be douchebags
gee who would have thought
>>27721546
>implying that is how I framed it at all
Someone suggested drinking at a park, we went and it was filled with families and stuff. They wanted to go somewhere secluded, so I just said I know of a place that wasn't too far where we could drink. I didn't say anything else beyond that.
>>27721154
Pretty much this. I've been on this path my entire life. Sometimes I pop outside for pussy though.
>>27720757
>>Attempt to hide my power level a bit
>>Start getting invited places
there is a massive gap between these steps which makes me think your story is bullshit.
Iam a normal person, I groom myself, dress OK, was told through out high school that I was funny and am able to keep an IRL conversation going most of the time.
Yet still I have no friends, do random people come up to you and invite you to their shit.I doubt it. Where are you conversing with these people that they want you to become part of their friend group.
>>27721705
Mostly people I went to high school with who no longer have friends living here and coworkers. It's a relatively small community, and i'm (sort of) well known, so sometimes I'd just bump into people I know and they'd invite me to join them.
Most of my life has followed a cycle of meeting new people, getting pulled into a group of friends, and then quickly becoming the outcast of that group and spending a few months alone. Over time I've been in and out of tons of groups so I have a lot of sort of friends and acquaintances, but no actual friends. Sometimes a few of them invite me out some place.
>>27720757
Just keep an eye out and be proactive, OP. If you're lucky, they'll find you. If not, then it wasn't mean to be.
>>27721558
I've found that talking about people behind their backs is normal for all people, even priests and people who consider themselves good. And most conversation is self congratulatory or malignant, even amongst church groups and support groups. The rest is just matter of fact statements and becomes a battle for intellectual supremacy/credibility followed by diminishing the significance of possessing any learning, followed by once again attempting to gain an upper hand.
Any time ever talked with someone and they complained that they hated someone because that person talked about people behind their back, I'd say "But you are talking about them behind their back". Then I'd get a speechless contemptuous response and I see why, it's autistic and shows a lack of solidarity. You've got to take someone's side and pretty much invariably find them to be right and then they might do the same. This includes talking about other people behind their backs while simultaneously decrying the act of talking about people behind their backs.
>>27721705
You cannot claim to be a normal person and have no friends, sorry. You are definitely, DEFINITELY abnormal.
If you want to get friends then talk to people at your job or school, and/or join some social/hobby clubs in your area (book/anime/gaming/what-have-you). And also recognize whatever it is about yourself that has prevented you from making friends. You almost certainly have a problem that you are not aware of and need to address.
>>27721782
You have a problem that you are unaware of and need to address. Address it while I watch. Get on it.
>>27721782
>job
Never mind the fact that I dont want to be friends with all my old fag coworkers, how do I escalate from casual acquaintance to friends.
Also I like how some NEET who has probably never held a job before is giving me some advice.
>>27721860
Ahh, you're too proud. That's one of your problems. Try whittling down your ego a bit, kiddo.
>>27721903
top kek
kill yourself, because you obviously have no real advice/experience
>>27721775
This is an amazingly insightful post, thanks anon
>>27721846
I'm just saying that he should be more mindful of how he acts and how people react, rather than just assuming that he's 'normal'.
>>27721860
I am not a NEET. I have a PhD and am currently working as a software developer. How do you escalate from acquaintance to friend? Try to interact more with those people, slowly escalate the kinds of things you do with them (chats about work -> chats about your life in general -> having lunch together at work -> eating together somewhere outside of work -> meeting up outside of work to do something like see a movie or play video games).
I was approached by a black man with huge dick in a locker room. He asked me all sorts of questions and whether I went clubbing. He said I look like I don't go anywhere or do anything. It's written all over a person I guess, can't hide it
>>27720757
This is exactly what everyone I met at university was like, especially my flatmates. I didn't even care that they thought I was an autistic weirdo, even if I could have been friends with them I wouldn't have wanted to. They were all completely insipid and basically like animals in that all they cared about was feeling good at the expense of others and were also entertained by the most inane shit imaginable.
>>27722601
At least they're honest. More than can be said for you.
>>27722629
Please elaborate. Also they weren't honest at all, they all gossiped about each other behind their backs and were only concerned with advancing their own social statuses whilst pretending to care about other people. Pretty disingenuous if you ask me.
>>27722661
Their expressions were honest expressions, they aren't sanctimonious. You are. You secretly wish to join in.
>>27722661
They're just doing what will give them a future in society. Even if you don't believe in any of it, its better than being a lonely outcast for your entire life because you wanted to be "true to yourself and not like them". Compromise is the name of the game. You balance it out or you kill yourself by 35 because the loneliness becomes unbearable and you end up like everyone else here. Either hang out with them and make the most of it or make the effort to go and find like minded people who are probably all locked away in their dorms. College is not a chance to be wasted anon.
Also get the fuck off this board.
>>27720757
You find better people by going to better events. The more specific they are to your interests, the better.
>>27722777
They weren't doing what will give them a future they were all doing useless subjects like philosophy or sports science and were only there because they were hedonists and conformists who just wanted to get shitfaced in clubs whilst mummy and daddy funded them. I left because I couldn't stand it and my course was a waste of time. I haven't chosen to be like this. I've tried to fit in but I'm fundamentally incapable of socialisation, people will write me off because I look like a prepubescent and have a cleft lip and my social anxiety makes me seem autistic. I would kill myself but couldn't put my parents through that so I'll probably have to wait another few decades. I'm a defunct unit and hopefully once genetic engineering becomes socially acceptable people like me won't have to be born anymore. Also you're the one who should get the fuck off this board with your "just be urself" crap. I'm sick of normies like you spewing this ignorant idea that everything directly correlates to effort and it's impossible for people to not fit in for reasons other than those they can do something about.
Being a normie as a millennial means you have to also be a narcissist. You need to focus on your image and maintain it through posts on various social media sites and messaging apps. It's the only way you can get other normies (ie narcissists) to associate with you and the only way you climb in status within your social group. Your status in the social group determines how good your life is and how much pussy you get.
Cyborgs are the only true sources for friends and luckily there's more of them than most people think.
>>27722739
They mocked and rejected me based on my appearance and mannerisms, things which I can do nothing about. I think that's the very definition of sanctimonious.
>>27723114
Okay, maybe sanctimonious isn't the right word but they were certainly arrogant and decided to treat me horribly when I had done nothing to them just so they could make themselves feel superior. I really struggle to see how disliking them for this makes me sanctimonious.
>>27720757
>try to become a normie
>only meet normies
You brought it upon yourself. Try meeting people with similar interests by finding clubs/events near you. I met some pretty cool guys at a punk concert a couple of weeks ago.
>>27723727
To clarify, by "clubs" I don't mean nightclubs, I mean groups of people that get together to discuss common interests.
what i really hate about normies is how each and every one of them talks shit about the others behind their back
they never have one fucking good thing to say about anyone, it's all just shit talking bantz. they're basically like walking talking australian shit posters
>>27721133
You went clubbing you dumb fuck, it's one social experience repeated forever.
