My parents weren't assholes, and they provided food and internet for me but they micro neglected me and that's for sure
>tfw didn't learn to tie my shoes until 14 (a girl from my class taught me it)
>dad knows how to play the guitar and never taught me
>never taught me how to drive
>never helped with homework
I still can't tie my shoes.
I'm 20.
I'm Asian, my dad literally taught me nothing. He literally thought doing well in school was all there was to life. He didn't even teach me anything about school, he just yelled at me if I got anything other than top notch grades.
>>27680121
>dad died
>mom too busy with her life to pay much attention to me
>spend most of my life playing wow and shitposting on 4chan
>now 18 currently getting ged no idea where I'm going in life.
>20
>don't know how to drive
>don't know how to tie shoes
>never been drunk before
>never smoked
>parents never helped me with anything
>stayed in all the time playing vidya
>haven't had a friend since 14
>kissless virgin
>recently started watching to help with the dullness in my life
>NEET
>don't know if im depressed because im content with my current situation yet i really shouldnt
>no mental disorders as far as I can tell
>outside less than an hour a week
Parents somehow still support me with food etc.. but I think theyre starting to think of me as nothing but a living husk. I want to blame my parents but I think its half on me and half on them.
>>27680121
Thanks for making this thread OP, no idea this was even a thing
>Dad never taught me how to ride a bike
>Never taught me to drive
>Never taught me how to tie a tie
>Late bloomer, no facial hair, but he probably wouldn't have taught me how to shave anyways
>step-mom was a controlling bitch who did everything for me so I never learned how to do stuff on my own
>Real mom would act happy to see me on the weekends, but if I stayed with her too long she would get angry at me because I'm not outgoing
>None of them are interested in my hobbies or interests
>Get scolded for being too old to play Yu-Gi-Oh in middle school even though it was my only hobby
>Had a couple of friends in school, but never get to have them over or go to their house b/c my parents don't want to drive me
>every day wake up, go to school, stay in my room when I get home with the exception of a dinner break
>meals in front of the TV, no conversation, no interaction
>basically isolated all of my life, but my parents fed me and kept a roof over my head, so get told "lol, it's ok, you have nothing to complain about"
>>27680121
As soon as my brother was born (2 years after me) my parents had their hands full with him, he was a complete brat and required their full attention constantly, so I was forced to be "independent"
I usually just occupied myself with video games in my room, my Dad was always busy with work and my Mom was always busy dealing with my brother. We never ate dinner at the table, we never really did anything as a family together. I love my parents, and they're proud that I grew up to be so "independent" that I was able to move out at 18, but I feel like my childhood was a complete waste. My Mom especially cares about me a lot, she secretly told me one day that I was her favorite son, but that's because I pretty much raised myself, I was easier to raise than my brother, that's it.
I need to give my parents credit for feeding me and clothing me and paying for various things every now and then but I learned absolutely nothing of value from them, everything I didn't learn through the internet I taught myself. My Dad's only advice for all of the social problems I had was "Be yourself", literally that's the only advice he could offer. My Mom didn't really have any advice for anything. Only in recent years after my brother went to college have my parents offered me helpful advice, and it's a bit late frankly.
Am I acting entitled? Probably. It's not like I hate my parents, but I wish they actually tried to raise me like they raised my brother, who always had many friends and successes while my life was rife with loneliness and failure.
>tfw just taught myself everything well, albeit quite late
I did ok, but I can imagine this being the first push that sets someone on this path
also microneglect sounds too much like microaggression, tumblr as fuck senpai
>>27681695
It's pretty much just straight up neglect in this thread, there's no real difference, I don't think microneglect is a thing.
>>27681605
did you have an older sibling too? I know at least part of my problems stem from my "middle child" complex
>was an outsider all of my life
>most likely suffer from add/adhd/autism
>parents never notice anything wrong
>only time I brought it up, I get told I'm perfectly normal and I'm just making it up to get out of doing schoolwork
>little brother is born
>6/7 years old and he's shit at school
>parents automatically assume it's add/adhd/autism
>take him to see every specialist imaginable
>get's a diagnosis, gets put on some medication to help him out
nothing can describe the seething rage I feel that that little shit got help before I did. I'm almost done with my freshman year of college, and my concerns are being taken seriously for the first time in years, and only because I failed half of my classes.
>>27681718
No I'm the oldest.
No idea there were other late bloomers to the shoe tying thing. I didn't learn until I was 12. My family always made fun of me for it, but never even bothered to try and help me. I forgot how I ended up figuring it out.
This thread helped me realize that my family's a bunch of assholes.
I remember when they stripped me down to my underwear on a cold night and had me stand up against a fence outside and threw eggs at me when I was 7. Most traumatizing memory I have.
>>27681718
>my concerns are being taken seriously for the first time in years, and only because I failed half of my classes
I know that feel. Suddenly my parents are concerned about me only when my grades start falling.
They have no idea how fucked up I am, I've had multiple nervous breakdowns in front of them and am on medication (which I had to get myself) and they still just consider me "perfectly normal".
>>27681795
I literally learned how to tie my shoes from a television show.
>>27681795
yeah I only learned when I was 16
>
I remember when they stripped me down to my underwear on a cold night and had me stand up against a fence outside and threw eggs at me when I was 7. Most traumatizing memory I have.
holy shit greentext this. isn't this actual abuse as well?
>>27681818
Was it Spongebob? Not how I learned, but I remember they had an episode on it.
>>27681870
I think it was Arthur.
>>27681795
>I remember when they stripped me down to my underwear on a cold night and had me stand up against a fence outside and threw eggs at me when I was 7. Most traumatizing memory I have.
Jesus Christ, that's fucked anon.
As far as the shoe tying thing, nobody taught me to do it right either. The kicker was, they still made me try to tie my own shoes, and when they would come untied, I'd get screeched at by my step mom for not tying them right.
>>27681799
It's like they don't get that the only reason I did well in k12 was because I'm a turboautist. I could hyperventilate in front of them after getting worked up over some trivial shit, but they'd be convinced that I was perfectly normal because I got As in 4th grade math/reading
>>27680849
This, except for the Asian part.
He never gave a shit about was I was doing but always yelled at me when I was doing homework the night before the deadline, so I ended up not doing homework at all.
>>27681868
I'd greentext it for you, but it's a pretty vague memory and I can't remember why they did it. I did bring it up a year ago and they made fun of me for that and tried to justify doing it (how the fuck do you justify throwing eggs at a naked 7 year old on a cold night?), so I know it's not something my mind just made up or a dream or anything.
It's fucked up.
I'm 19 now and I usually have a shit memory, but I never forgot this one.
>didn't learn to read until I was 10
>had no confidence my whole life, it's just "how I am"
>no friends
>have no hobbies except vidya
>18 and still don't know simple math
>a diet of junkfood all my life
>never been to the hospital in my life, not even for a checkup
>only been to the dentist once where they took out my rotten teeth
>>27681912
>I could hyperventilate in front of them after getting worked up over some trivial shit, but they'd be convinced that I was perfectly normal because I got As in 4th grade math/reading
Our parents are exactly the same, it's crazy.
>>27680755
dude you're using the fuck internet to post this, get a grip
>>27681996
Just remembered some things
>mom wiped my ass until I was like 7
>learned to tie my shoes on my own at 10
>learned to shave on my own
>didn't take showers regularly until I was 12
>only have 3 pairs of clothes and 2 underpants
My parents should have been sterilized, but the thing is they aren't violent or mean people so it's hard to for me to be mad at them even though I have every right to be
>>27680755
>>27682051
This. Whenever I don't know how to do something I just search it on the internet.
The internet teach me how to tie my shoes, my tie, how to cook and how to fix things.
Damn this thread is like a therapy session. I just realize the only reason why I smoked weed in high school was because I wanted my parents to reprimand me for once, when I got caught I rubbed it in their faces so fucking hard, seeing the anger in their eyes was like a drug in and of itself.
And the sad thing is they didn't even care enough to get me to stop, they just yelled at me and let me keep doing it, never even lost my allowance despite using it to buy weed every week. Fucking hell.
>>27682162
>learned to shave on my own
>didn't take showers regularly until I was 12
These fucking feels. My parents let my teeth rot out of my head too because I was too lazy to brush them regularly until I was a teenager.
Why did they never fucking take responsibility and try to raise me? For fucks sake, I was walking around with rotting god damn teeth and they never did anything, a 10 year old isn't old enough to know the consequences of this shit.
>>27682257
Guy you replied to here
>My parents let my teeth rot out of my head too because I was too lazy to brush them regularly until I was a teenager
That's another thing I forgot, exact same fucking deal here, they didn't teach me to brush my teeth, my brothers helped me with that but no one enforced it so I just didn't do it until I was a teenager
>>27682001
>>27682001
It would be one thing if they were fair, at least then I could overlook their being oblivious to my mental problems, but they (dad and step mom btw, mom is pretty cool, if not a stacy) would come up with the most arbitrary rules and go back on their word on all kinds of shit, which is usually what I got upset over, I was a good kid otherwise. The thing that will always stick with me is this:
>beginning of junior year of high school
>had been staying at my mom's all summer because of an argument with my dad at the end of the last school year
>had to go back because school was starting again
>dad is still pissed because of our fight, and frankly, so was I
>I begrudgingly agree to go back since the only condition was that I was grounded from using my laptop for 3 weeks
>3weekslater.jpg
>ask dad when exactly I'll get to bring my laptop back with me from mom's
>"when I've decided your punishment is over"
>But you said it'd be over in 3 weeks
>"I never said that"
>Bullshit, call mom, she backs me up
>dad doesn't give a fuck
>start going apeshit, raising my voice, calling him a liar
>step mom threatens to call the cops on me
>nothing I could do about it, eventually get my computer back about 6-7 months later
>The night I got it back, heard my bitch step-mom say that she thought it was too soon and that I still hadn't learned anything
Nothing my father ever does I says will change my view of him that this incident created. It probably seems insignificant to him now, but I'll always think of him as that lying faggot, no matter what.
>>27681592
>>>basically isolated all of my life, but my parents fed me and kept a roof over my head, so get told "lol, it's ok, you have nothing to complain about"
Ik this feel all too well fampai.
>tfw despite all the neglect I still love my childhood and prefer it to now
Somehow I was happy back then living in squalor
>>27682360
This is too juicy, anon. What was the argument before summer about?
My mom has never done anything "wrong" to me, in fact she's very nice to me. (Too nice, she's the exact mom from the poo poo pee pee stories) I'm 27 and still live at home and don't pay rent so that should tell you what our relationship is like.
But I just fucking hate her guts. If she died I wouldn't miss her, although I'd be in deep shit because I don't work full time or pay the bills so I'd lose this house.
She's obnoxious, she's immoral, she's stupid, overall she's just a bad person whose only worth to me is paying the internet bill.
I hate that I feel this way. I wish I loved her, I wished I was close to her, but she annoys me so fucking much that I just want her to never speak to me or be in my sight.
>never went to conferences or asked to see my report card (A student)
>never made me do chores or get a job
>never taught me any kind of skills (she doesn't have any herself)
>only fed us junk food so me and my sister became obese
>hoards animals she doesn't take good care of
>house is a junk pile
>lots of mental illness/emotional problems
>laughs at disabled people, talks shit about everyone, rude to store employees and is a kleptomaniac
>>27682752
>What was the argument before summer about?
>sign up for a fuckton of AP classes for the next school year
>have to pick up summer assignments after school one day during the last week
>normally ride the bus home
>tell step mom I'll probably need her to pick me up since I'll probably miss the bus
>"can't you just try to make the bus anon"
>sure I can, but I'm telling you it's unlikely, can you just plan to pick me up
>"why don't you just call me if you don't make the bus"
>I'm 100% certain I won't make the bus, but don't want to make a big argument out of it
>go get assignments
>miss the bus
>big fucking surprise
>no cell phone, have to use the phone in the front office
>call
>no answer
>call again
>no answer
>call a third time
>"ugh, what is it anon"
>By this time I'm pissed
>What do you think?
>"excuse me young man?"
>Can you just come pick me up at school please
>she does
>think nothing of it
>flash forward a day or two
>find out that I don't have an exam on the last day of school
>make plans with mom to skip the last day and go spend the first week of summer with her
>go to let dad know
>"actually, since you were rude to your step-mom on the phone the other day, you have to go to the last day"
>wut
>I wasn't even asking you faggot
>skip the last day and go with mom anyways
>dad blows up my mom's phone when he figures out I left anyways
>end up staying with mom all summer
In retrospect, I should have just gone to school, but I never could have predicted that it would have spiraled out of control so hard
I genuinely wish I could help all of you guys, I really do. My parents were the only great thing about my childhood. I'm sorry gents.
>>27683148
tell us what it was like anon
>>27683041
skips the last day and spends time at moms anyway like a champ. Good call. Sorry you got so much shit for it.
>>27682957
You're just a spoiled rotten brat.
Don't like the messy house? Move out or clean it up yourself.
Obesity is entirely your fault. My mom only served junk food that would make an anorexic person morbidly obese. Guess what? I either ate out or cooked my own food.
You weren't and aren't neglected in anyway.
Fucking faggot
>>27680121
>micro neglected
Your spoiled white ass needs to be beaten with a garden hose just for coining that term
>>27681971
>tfw homework assigned the day before it is due
WHY THE FUCK DO YOU ALWAYS WAIT TILL THE LAST MINUTE ANON??!?
>>27683361
>only served junk food
>cooked my own food
Out of what? Junk food?
>>27683362
niggers don't have feelings so I can't blame on your post
be free lil monkey fella
>>27683362
>think of le hungry kids in africa
>microneglect
good god
OP you have just started something that will likely spiral out of control.
>>27683361
He was basically not raised at all. Parents have some responsibility to actually raise their kids and not just sit on their ass and do absolutely nothing at all.
>>27683362
clearly this isn't the thread for you faggot.
people suffer to varying degrees all around the world, just because there are people who have it worse doesn't mean we shouldn't get a chance to share and relate to each other.
>>27683421
Muh microagressions
>>27683421
I'm sorry I didn't get raped by my uncle when I was 12, I didn't realize we were having a dick measuring contest over who's childhood was the shittiest
>>27680121
>a girl from my class taught me it
Hot. Greentext pls. Did she do it out of pity or she was actually nice, caring person?
I never knew my date of birth and I got emberased in front of class when teacher asked me my date of birth for something. I was like 9 or 10
>>27683792
Same here, even the same age
But I didn't even know the current year cause my family didn't celebrate new years(or any holiday)
2007 was the first year I knew
>>27683769
nice caring person
>>27684000
>no greentext
Fuck you.
If she was nice caring person, why did you allow her to go away and not be your girlfriend? You were supposed to protect her from this evil world which probably has already turned her into nasty whore who chokes on thousand dicks and has pussy of mileage higher than Forrest Gump's shoes.
>>27683362
that's literally what OP is arguing for you dumbass
>>27680121
Yea, food, shelter, internet, that was it. They payed 0 attention to me otherwise. On a good day I might say a total of 20 words to my parents.
>>27683361
> I either ate out or cooked my own food.
How are twelve year olds supposed to eat out or buy their own food you massive faggot?
I have lost a ton of weight now that I cook for myself, but as a child there was nothing I could do. To me it was completely normal that we ate burger king every day. And as an adult I've fought hard to rid myself of those bad habits and get over my cravings for greasy food.
We clean the house periodically but my mom is a klepto and a hoarder and she filled it up quickly.
>>27683362
Yep. He should try being:
>macro abused
>>27684088
she is still my friend
I don't want her as my gf it would be awkward she's like a cousin or something to me
My dad never taught me how to shave I just sort of figured it out on my own through trial and error.
I am 25 and I don't know how to tie a necktie.
He taught me skills like sports, handyman stuff, fishing, etc.
But the really basic stuff like how to be a normal human being or have normal hygiene habits was totally forgotten.
It's like they expected me to just have that knowledge at birth.
>>27684187
>still no greentext
Fuck you in both holes. With no lube.
Cousins are fine. Protect her, marry cher and have a lot of childreen.
>>27684224
Your father did a good job. He only taught you what really matters. Being shaved or having a necktie doesn't help you when you're attacked by thousand niggers. Hair, dirt and cutting your food with side of the fork in right hand is the man's path.
>>27681384
>never been drunk before
this is good. its incredibly overrated and its better you never even try
>never smoked
in regards to cigarettes this is very good, in regards to weed its probably better to try it once. at least you're not DUDE WEED LMAO every day like i was for a while
you're only 20. being content with your situation is actually pretty good, but leeching off your parents is not good. just start with community college or something, after a year or two you can get a 40k/year job and get your own place, then spend all your free time playing vidya/watching anime/fucking hookers. thats what i did.
I suspect most of your dads don't really want to spend time with their degenerate sperg offspring. Really who would.
He's probably busy kicking it with your non-retard siblings.
>>27684295
a lot of good it's done me.
Nobody cares if you're good at sports when you can't maintain eye-contact or have a normal conversation with them. You still don't get picked.
>>27684407
Nope. It's the other way around. If you're good at sports people will make all kind of excuses for you.
>>27684228
I've already did a greentext about it here
here we go then but as I said the first time I don't like remembering these times
>be the sweetest kid
>never ever would curse anyone
>till 5th year in school
>new school being nice as always
>new kid comes in class
>no one talks to him might as well say hello
>"hey dude how's it going?"
>"FUCK YOU FAGGOT"
>in shock
>go back and sit
>hardly I knew that was the start of the worst year of my life
>never been evolved in a fight
>Been in 4 that year
>every single person was fucking disgusting cunt
>there was this guy
>he was the cuntest cunt to me
>he was a chad ofc
>did absolutely nothing in class but sleep
>for some reason every single teacher loved him
>we got into a fight because he was a cunt to me
>year finally ends
>next year i'm in the same class as a girl I knew a little but didn't talk to because her boyfriend once tried to beat me
>she notices i'm the most miserable thing on earth
>comes near me
>hissssssssss.jpg
>she starts talking to me even tho i'm defensive as fuck
>we start to be friends
>she introduces me to a girl
>she was so sweet too
>they bake me a cake in my birthday
>literally holding my tears of happynes and gratitude
>the years go by and they teach me how to improve myself
>we've been friends since and thanks to them I didn't kill myself
the one who taught me how to tie my shoes is the second one.
>>27684441
>tell me more about how my life went
>>27680121
Dude... My dad moved to another country and I have no way to contact him. Haven't seen him in seven years. My mother has told me many times to my face she wishes she were dead, and tells me I'm not "of her bloodline".
So count your fucking blessings you pussy.
>>27684459
You're probably not as good as sports as you think you are.
In sports performance on the field trumps everything.
>>27684359
My dad's been dead since I was 7, anon.
And interestingly, my brother is 5 years older than me and had a great school life with friends and multiple gfs and is now working in a really great job with room for promotion.
I'm the opposite.
Funny how that happens, really.
>>27684489
You where:
>macro abandoned
>>27684449
You should improve more to be able to protect her and tell her what you feel anon. Make her happy wife and mother.
This sounds like a fucking tumblr thing but
>get beaten with coat hangers if I corrected my mother on anything
>a particularly memorable time is when I told her Antarctica was a continent and she told me to take it back while whipping me with coat hangers till I bled. Fuck her I didn't, Antarctica is a continent and no coat hanger can change that
>get smacked across the face for spelling words wrong verbally; I could never and still can't spell aloud it's like some weird verbal dyslexia, despite the fact that I literally never got less than 100% in a written test
>got dinner up until about 14
>get constantly told I'm a waste of space and contribute nothing to the house despite the fact that I've had a full time job since 15 and payed rent
>mother constantly asked me what was wrong with me and why wasn't I normal
>would make fun of me for never having a girlfriend but freaked out if I so much as brought a girl into the house
>if I eat any food complains, even though I bought it and I fucking pay rent
My dad is a good dad and I love him, but he's held me back for most of my life and he still is. He's a very controlling man, he can't handle something not going exactly the way he wants it to. He doesn't have any real friends because he's an introvert, he's kind of an asshole, he spends most of time working, and he's very paranoid/suspicious of people. As a result, me and my siblings have pretty much been all he cares about. He's always been super protective of me, he very rarely let me stay at friends houses for long periods of time, he's always checked in with me every few hours for my entire life, he puts up security cameras around the house to make sure I'm safe while he's at work. Despite all this I was able to make friends through my childhood and teenage years at school, but I was never able to enjoy those teenage years and do the things that teenagers do because he wouldn't let me. I could never go to parties or concerts or anything that my friends would invite me too. Those are usually the places where you experience sex/drugs/alcohol/etc for the first time and I never got to be apart of any of that.
I'm 19 years old now and he's still doing it to me. I wanted to go away for college so I could finally live on my own and go to parties and lose my virginity before it's too late, but he guilt-tripped me into staying. My older siblings have already bailed and left me to deal with him, and now I feel too guilty about leaving him because he doesn't have anything else. I fucking hate this situation I'm in, because I have to choose between making my dad happy or making myself happy.
idk what to do
>>27684491
I was on several all star teams in baseball, soccer and tennis. Took a state championship in baseball. Made it to the regional finals in soccer.
But I was weird.
>>27684540
>too late
>19
Kek. Stop whining.
>>27680121
dad never taught me to drive but he taught my sister lol
mother is foreign never taught me her language so i could speak both english and another
there's much more but this is the most obvious
>>27684565
Thought you said you didn't get picked. Get your story straight anon.
>my 13 year old cousin knows how to drive and I don't
fucking shit, my aunt taught him, I think i'm gonna ask her to teach me since my parents will not
>>27680849
this also except he didn't care about grades and sent me boarding school and divorsed my mother and went to live abroad and got a new wife and started a new family in asian lady land
>>27684629
Why dont you niggas just go to drivers ed or watch youtube videos on how to shave etc.
Whining about muh micro neglect is pathetic.
>>27684683
nigga it is his responsibility to teach me how to fucking drive
>got into a "STEM" program in 3rd grade
>parents thought I was some sort of above average student
>get confused/upset when I don't do good at algebra in middle school
>learned to tie my shoes in 8th grade
>Fuckme.jpg
I still don't get why they think I'm a advanced student
>>27684618
at recess and the like broseph.
I was on organized teams. I wasn't included in the social aspect. I saw no benefits to it at school or anything like that. I would play in the pickup games at recess from time to time but beyond that it didn't get me far at all.
It was all about who you knew and how you got along with them. Just the same as the fucking job market it's not about pure skill or talent, people want to be around people they connect with.
>>27684759
>mom, dad, I don't know math
>No, You know
>No, I don't
>No, you know
>Ok.jpg
EVERYTIME
>>27684772
You where an all state baseball player and didnt get picked on sports teams at recess.
I have a very hard time believing that anon.
>>27684772
Nigga please. If you where allstate good you not only would have been accepted you would have been a leader. I'm 99% sure you're full of shit.
>>27684802
don't believe it then i don't care.
People pick their friends first. I was no ones friend. I didn't get picked.
>>27684783
Is that what happens when azn parent's have dumb kids?
>>27684867
You're a terrible liar. If you're all state good at any sport you're a super chad.
Fuck off with your bullshit.
Parents never talked to me, only to my older brother. So I sat alone all day everyday playing videogames for 17 years. My brother was going to school to become a nurse, and my mom was always so proud of him and told her friends about him every day on the phone. Then I get enrolled into the same program and she's still putting him on a pedestal. Little things like that that she never really acknowledged, but I listened silently with the headphone she couldn't see out of my ear, noticing every single time she showed favor towards my brother.
>>27684916
failed normie.
This is partly why I think I ended up so bitter. I did everything "right" and saw no rewards. Just because I'm not fat and terrible at sports doesn't mean I can talk to people or form meaningful relationships.
My family has a long history of mental illness. It would be foolish to assume it skipped a generation.
The only thing "chadly" about me was my athletic ability. I was still highly autistic in all other aspects of life.
>>27683426
my parents literally thought that sending me to 'good schools' (they weren't good)
was JOB DONE
>>27685019
No nigga, you said all state baseball. It takes supreme confidence to be that good at any sport. Athletes are almost irrationally confident.
Fuck off. You're full of shit.
>>27685128
confidence in your game sure. I knew I was good at baseball. But that means fuck-all in every other aspect of life.
>>27685019
Just cause you got the auts doesn't mean it's cool to shit on other people's problems. We've all got our problems. You got auts, I busted my ass 24/7 so I can get a scholarship because my family is poor as shit yet my mother won't even look in my direction.
>>27680121
same, dad never gave me any sort of sex talk or life advice, never knew how to do taxes or get women or anything
>>27685177
did you intend to reply to me because I don't see how that has anything at all to do with anything that I have been saying.
>>27684530
wrong, antardica is the ice ring that surrounds flat earth, you are nigger and brainwashed
>>27685168
Sure it does. People who win get used to winning. If you where an all state good baseball player you would have been having your ass kissed since you where very young.
>>27685197
You anons need to temper your expectations.
Nobody i knows dad taught them how to do taxes or pick up women.
>>27685242
Hows routinely winning at [video game] working out for most of the board?
Who are these people you think go around kissing the asses of kids who win state? Do you even know who won your state last year? How about when you were still in high school?
>>27684540
Sounds like you need to assert some indepedence Anon. Your Dad is an adult and he needs to find other people, besides his children, to have in his life. Even though he has done alot for you, it isn't fair that he stops you having your own life simply because he doesn't have anyone else. Let him know that you still care about him but go for something away from your Dad, and don't let him emotionally blackmail you. If you want to go to college, then go for it. You'll regret not going if really want that and you don;t go because of your Dad.
Toughen up, be more selfish, and stop letting your Dad totally dominate and manipulate your life. If you don't you'll regret it later on.
>>27685302
I was a good baseball player. Not all state but got a college scholarship.
I was getting my ass kissed by the time I was in 4/5th grade. Buy adults and my peers.
Your story dies even remotely match the experience of any even above average athlete I have ever met.
It makes no sense. I don't believe you.
>>27685402
>I had a different experience than you therefore yours is false
Idk what to tell you. I guess people around you cared more about baseball than they do around here.
So wtf are you doing here if you landed a baseball scholarship?
>>27685499
idk. Sitting on the couch watching cavs/pacers shitposting?
We both know you weren't an all state baseball player.
Next time keep your bullshit within the realm of plausibility.
>>27680121
>tfw wasn't able to go on field trips in elementary school
>tfw wasn't able to go to visit any of my friends at their houses
both my parents were abused and raised in poverty. they were never mean to me and my brother but they were these loveless husks who never hugged us said i love you or took any sort of interest in our lives - positive or negative. and now im this stoic husk too, i think my classmates and coworkers think im a serial killer. it's like i can't feel emotions
>>27685605
Mine are the same
>tfw parents always encouraged me to do my best
>try new things
>learn an instrument
>play a sport
>always at my games and recitals cheering me on no matter how much I sucked
>always turned down their congratulations
>told them to stop being so supportive, that it wasn't worth it
>they still showed up
>even after growing up white, middle-class, smart, and semi-talented at music, I still managed to fuck everything up for myself
I think the reason I hate myself so much is because even though there were people who always encouraged me and did everything let my potential bloom, I turned away from them all and now I got exactly what I deserve.
>tfw /r9k/ are just parallel universe sjws
>>27685402
yeah, if you where an all-state level athlete, you could literally have the personalty of a cardboard box and stacys would still throw themselves at you.
Did anyone else's father just completely ignore them? I am 21 and have like 0 relationship with my father while I talk to my mom almost every other day/am really close to her and I live an hour away from home. He would work in a shop all day and come home dog-tired but because of his personality/tiredness he just never spent time with me ever. It was like after I turned 5 he stopped wrestling and having fun with me and turned me over to my mom. He hated going out to eat with us, refused to ever go see a movie, wouldn't ever ask me about school/my day/my interests, didn't buy my presents or cards, wouldn't meet with my teachers, and only really talked to me to yell at me. He tries to treat me like we're close and kiss me on the cheek when we see each other and it's so fucking awkward. He talks in this borderline-yelling-awkward-voice when we speak like he uses with strangers when he's nervous like I'm not even his kid, it hurts that my dad doesn't know me and doesn't care to
>tfw daddy issues
Parents hate it when I go out always demand I come home quick or early too scared I will drink or do drugs or get a girlfriend usually make a big deal if I'm going to be going out 2nd time in a week cause of their overprotectivenes I didn't develop any sort of social skills always disconnected from fellow class mates in high school where they go out party make "teenage memories" I'm sitting home usually religion shoved down my throat dropped out high school due to extreme bullying and shitty teachers failure to act or help in any way have only 1 good friend other people only use me as a backup friend I still can't tie my laces or properly talk to girls cos my shitty father never taught me or engaged with me properly my entire life honestly lads I'm thinking of just ending it
I just wanted a chance to have frinds go to parties and make memories
>>27685802
What is it that you are upset about?
>>27685568
>tfw no friends until 7th grade when I made up an incredibly autistic persona so people would laugh
>tfw go to one field trip in elementary school and end up hospitalised
>tfw "when are you going to bring home one of your friends, anon?"
>>27685947
Nigga please. You're just a loser. Jesus fucking christ are some of you kids babies.
https://youtu.be/_aAeI7p-Tkc
Is it really that hard?
>>27685963
your story makes no sense.
>>27686011
They also refused to make a big deal when I told them how I was sexually abused when I was younger I think that has made problems in my life as well desu
>>27685963
I got to go on a field trip in kindergarten, because my mom got to go with us, as well as a few moms with their kid.
>tfw "we got to see a helicopter!!!"
>tfw "we all got [free stuff to take home] on the field trip!"
>tfw they got to go to the movies
>tfw I didn't get to experience any of that.
>>27686065
Sexually abused by whom?
Anon, you seem kind of like a stupid drama queen, I'm not sure i would have believed you either.
>>27686081
You story makes no sense either.
Are you little nigga mentally challenged or something?
>>27680121
>provider emotionally distant dad
>mom who thinks that i'm capable of anything
am i the only one with this combo?
>>27681384
Start walking to your local library. Whether it be German 19th century philosophy or the history of water fountains in Austria, you'll find some topic of interest. Plus, walking there will be something positive already.
Also, try to find some activities nearby. Or take some foreign language classes, or something. Just a tad of activity and you'll feel better and more disciplined.
>>27686173
>You story makes no sense either.
>You story
???
>>27686118
My mum's friends son she was good friends with his mum and see would usually leave me there to play there while she would do shopping together with his mum and it's not the fact they didn't belive me they said they didn't want to have their reputation tainted and that was her close friend so she didn't want anything to change between them
>>27686221
omg, you found a typo. guess i'm busted.
>>27686227
how much older was he than you?
>Was little kid
>Mum thought I was "creative" and very independent with no need for videogames or watching TV
>I just spent countless hours of boredom playing with legos and developing autism to kill boredom
>She thought I was "independent" enough that I didn't need friends
It's not true that complaining brings you nowhere. Hell, had I been a fucking brat, I would've gone much further,
At least I have money, a brain and am studying.
>>27686270
Near about 10 years old
>>27681795
>I remember when they stripped me down to my underwear on a cold night and had me stand up against a fence outside and threw eggs at me when I was 7. Most traumatizing memory I have.
WAT
POST STORY PLS
>>27686297
Ok, you got diddled.
What was it that you wanted your parents to do?
>>27681795
You just triggered a childhood memory I repressed.
>little kid, maybe 5-6 getting babysat by older cousin and her friend
>wet the bed at the time, think I had a rash on my butt or something
>cousin was giving me a bath and noticed it
>made me stand up, put my hands against the wall, and show her my ass
>brought her friend into the bathroom to look at it
>thought they were concerned or something
>"oh my god anon's butt is so big hahahaha"
>"that rash looks so weird LOL"
>starting crying
>told me to calm down and dried me off/put me to bed
>tfw
>>27686400
He was 10 years older than me I was about 3-4 I rember how he would do it at the time I didn't understand why is it he was doing or what he was doing I only relaised later and felt violated or some shit and I initially told my big brother first who told my parents
>What was it that you wanted your parents to do?
Idk put me in therapy break their ties with that family inform the police?
I dont think this thing needs a special snowflake label. I think it is just benign neglect.
"Oh anon is just shy, he will open up someday."
"What do you mean anon cant(Insert any literal easy fix flaw here)."
"why doesnt anon drive yet?"
I dont know what to say. I dont know if I can say anything. It just feels like other peoples parents taught them how to do something or at least they were allowed out of the house alot.
Perhaps I'm just bad because I lived in a ruralish area. But I'd like to think my childhood should have been more family involvement less videogames because my mom literally bought me one when I was 7.
They literally made ZERO effort as far as getting me to hang out with other people of my age, they did literally nothing to help me aside from basic shit like clothes food and schooling. They sacrificed my social life for physical wellbeing and mental health but I am socially flawed.
I am at bare minimum two years behind everyone socially. It is such shit I may just drop the nuke on my parents when I go off to uni after this summer of if I get kicked out for not getting into uni.
>>27680849
Did you at least do well in school or were you a useless shit that let your parents down?
>>27686464
you reminded me of something that happened to me
>be me, maybe 8
>dad beats me with a belt while mom holds me down
>don't even remember now what it was for but I guarantee it was something stupid because my parents were abusive assholes and overreacted to everything
>crying, go to take a bath, lock the door on the bathroom
>mom uses the key to open the door on the bathroom and pulls back the shower curtain while I'm in the bathtub
>makes me stand up and show her the welts on my ass so she can 'admire her work'
>crying even harder now
humiliating. they're such awful people. I wish I could kill my parents without going to jail for it.
>>27684683
At some point it is but my parents should have still done their fucking job.
>>27686490
>inform the police?
For something that happened long ago, with no evidence besides the recollections of a then 3-4 year old?
Yeah, no.
Your parents did the right thing.
>>tfw didn't learn to tie my shoes until 14 (a girl from my class taught me it)
That's fucky
>>27680121
>always get bitched at for wanting to go out and do things as a kid regardless of how much it'd be
>they wonder why i never ask to do anything now
Me and my twin sister raised each other. If I didn't have my sister around growing up I would be a full blown autist.
My parents loved us, but they were just never around. I had all the toys a kid could want, dirt bikes, video games, rifles and shotguns, a pool, etc. And very little adult supervision, ever. With our groups of friends combined we had weekly parties, and we lived in St. Louis so liquor and drugs were always around. Lots of Truth or Dare games lead to me losing my virginity very early.
So socially everything is great, I can talk to anyone. But the cost was never having any structure growing up.
Now I'm 30, still the life of any party, but I'm a blue-collar burnout, and always will be. My groups of friends would change and the party never stopped, but eventually you realize you're the oldest one in the room. I still look young enough, but I only have a few more years of that at best. And then what? I'll be the creepy bearded 40 year old asking teenagers for weed and trying to get invited to parties with people half my age.
My dad never really tried with me. He would only bitch about grades and things I was doing wrong. My mom just wanted to be friends, never complaining but never offering advice either. The fights with my dad were so bad that we moved out at 15, and he didn't stop us. We got jobs and cars at 16, along with a lot of new older friends. We didn't stress over bills, just cared about having enough cash for weed and parties. Years go by in the blink of an eye, and suddenly all my old friends have jobs and kids.
I've somehow slipped through life without ever having a father figure to teach me how to buckle down and plan for my future, and simultaneously always having friends in the same situation.
>>27686195
Mine are sort of like that. My parents are divorced and my dad was an alcoholic until recently (liver failure) and although he wasn't "there" for me eve,r he paid his child support plus gave us obscene amounts of cash for birthdays and such to make up for not being around.
I'm a typical robot loser yet my mom believes I could join the army or get some high paying job.
ITT losers blame their poor decisions on their parents.
>>27686498
I live in the country as well. We lived on the end of a dirt road in the middle of nowhere without any neighbors. The first time I ever saw another kid was when I went to school, and I was too shy to talk to anyone so I stood by myself in the corner during play time.
Never had friends, no cousins my age, my birthday parties were just elderly relatives. I have one younger sister.
Now I'm older and see shit about "play dates" where parents arrange for their young children to play together. I sure as fuck never got that.
>>27686871
textless posts not allowed on the most original board
>>27686871
>lolol, u guise r such losers, just bee urself and take responsibility and you can be a well rounded normee like meeeeeeee
>>27686871
>B-but muh dad never taught me how to shave
I'm amazed some of the anon can wipe their own asses.
I've had clinical depression since I was 11 and I'm addhd, dyslezic, duspraxic and somewhere on the spectrum
I remember having suicidal thoughts at like 12 and I told my parents. They yelled at me and grounded me cause I was "lying for attention"
My school intervened when I got picked up for special needs. I got diagnosed at 15 with stuff but they only started caring when I missed half a year cause my depression got so bad I lost the ability to function
>>27680121
"Guys don't leave me out!!! I was abused too!!! You got raped by your dad ok yeah well he didn't teach me how to play a fuckin guitar stop triggering my PTSD you ableist scum!!!!"
>>27687054
Good parents. They didn't indulge your bullshit meme diseases.
>>27687054
Thinks huckster academics know better for him than his parents. No wonder you're one of these
>muh diagnosis
faggots
>>27687080
Meme diseases or no I've been an alcoholic since 13 and raped twice cause of being roofied at bars before I turned 18
>>27687190
best way not to get roofied? don't be an underage b8 in bars
>>27687190
Kek. You got roofied by faggots because you where underaged and prancing around gay bars.
You sound like a real piece of work anon.
>>27687080
>>27687136
normalfags need to leave
>>27687229
I'm not him but I've been raped once and roofied twice at bars after I turned 21
the first time I was roofied I was with coworkers and they managed to keep me safe but the second time the person I showed up with left without me
people will get you regardless.
>>27687229
I'm a guy, not even close to being feminine looking
Not even that, both time were by women
>>27684489
Dude I'm so sorry... They are both cunts.
>>27687292
Guy claims to have been roofied and raped by women.
Topkek.
>>27685924
I guess but, mostly he talked to me but just was there, idk how to explain it...he just always looked at bills/ and money's and was just grumpy
>>27687408
T*W*I*C*E*
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>>27687445
>.he just always looked at bills/ and money's and was just grumpy
>omg, my dad acted like a dad
>be in 8th grade
>have people I talk to in school
>repeat the same Shi to them because I don't do anything out side of school
>realize I just go to school, home, bed, etc, then weekend where I sit home and wait for schoo, to strat because I do nothing
>overprotective parents made me scared to do anything, I knew I'd be embarrassed
Yes, people will make fun of you if your parents are overprotective in high school
I'm OP
so you guys know I actually like my parents but I know they weren't prepared to have a son
My mom married pregnant and I know I am an accident
still I am socially inept, so cut your bullshit
>but think of le poor child in africa tho
I literally can't function around women anymore...
It's really the only reason I'm still alone... I did a few modelling jobs for art students and mom and pop stores to pay for my guitar before it happened
>>27687408
>>27687570
Any teenager worth his salt rebels.
>>27680755
What do you do? Just wear autism shoes?
>>27687601
You still don't get it. Kek.
>>27687682
Get what
Original comment no.6557953389865
My parents are both upper middle class self-made business people types. I respect them for their jobs and character and they have provided me with many financial advantages but
>never taught me any meaningful skills
>gave me consistently shitty and contradictory advice throughout life
>never really ever asked me about my personal life, kept their emotional distance from me
Basically they treated and still treat me like their employee, and they're both fairly shitty bosses.
>>27687632
The r9k specials
>micro neglected
I really like this term. Thanks, OPie.
>>27687754
The physical absurdity of a man being roofied and then raped by a woman.
>>27687788
Boo hoo. Muh parent's didn't ask me how my day went. I'm micro devastated.
>>27687824
I was only a teen but I got tied up and fed Viagra after she "offered the barkeep to drive me to hospital"
>>27687864
My parents have literally never asked me how my day went or anything like that.
>>27687877
You've changed your story. Shocking.
>>27687889
So what? Maybe they respect your privacy.
>>27687974
How did I change my story you autist
>>27688026
You're a terrible terrible liar anon. Like ridiculously bad. I suspect you're pretty young.
>>27680755
I taught myself when I was 17.
>>27685802
when/where did it go wrong
>dad never wanted to do anything or teach/show me anything unless he got something out of it
>never cared about my hobbies, always made fun of my interests every chance he got
>hated any friend that didn't figuratively lick his boots whenever he was around, causing people to not like me
>got pissed off at me whenever I needed help with homework and mad when I didn't immediately understand the work
>became irrationally angry when I failed even one class
One time when I was 16, he moved his truck a block away and my mom and I thought he was gone, so we were talking about how much of a cunt he was being that day. Next thing we know he comes out of the hall closet and heard everything we said, and just pouted in his room the rest of the day.
Shit even to this day I'm afraid to say or do anything that someone may not agree with.
>>27688242
You're a special guy.
>>27680121
I'm almost 100% certain that r9k is populated more by children of autists than by actual autists.
>>27688269
>became irrationally angry when I failed even one class
Failing a class in high school is an appalling thing. It either means you put literally no effort in at all or that you're really dumb. High school is easy as fuck.To not scrape by with a C is almost unimaginable.
>tfw never been 'grounded'
thank fuck for single moms nigga
>>27688284
I was also forbidden from shaving by my parents until I was 17 so I had a wispy mustache and pubic looking facial hair until then.
>>27686910
Well I had a brother but he was like 10 years older than me and we fought alot. I havent seen him in 2 years.
I was socially active but I literally never talked to anyone outside school. My parents didnt trust the friends I brought over and then would say I need to find friends.
Fuck them. It got marginally better as I got closer to graduating but it was still an obstacle. Then I found The RedPill at 16 and made myself marginally better but I literally had to do a few years of parenting in a year. I am glad they kept me fed and clothed though. But I honestly see no relationship with my parents in my future, hell I may not even have contact with the lot of them.
>>27688327
It happened from the beginning of first grade to freshman year. Once he realized my math never got better, despite the tutors I'd go to, he just gave up. Thank god.
>>27688327
Found the turbonerd who actually went to class.
>>27680755
>keep thinking velcro shoes will come back
>they don't
>literally wear bundles of socks taped around my feet when i have to go outside
IT'S 2016 WHY IS IT STILL SO GOD DAMN COMPLICATED
>>27680121
Shut the fuck up you entitled fuck. Your parents aren't obligated to show you how to do everything. If you didn't know how to tie your shoes you should've fucking asked. My mum plays the piano and never taught me. It's not her duty to do so. My parents never taught me how to drive because they were using the car to do shit like go to their jobs to earn money to put food on the table for me. And as for homework, them not helping should've taught you how to work as an individual instead of constantly relying on other people for help. How have any of these things directly and negatively affected the person you are today? Stop dreaming up issues and problems in your life. You have it better than 99% of the rest of the world and you should be fucking thankful.
>>27684540
>>27685327
What this poster said desu, you should probably focus on yourself before your dad.
>>27688454
>someone has it worse so you're not allowed to feel sad about anything
Found the fucking normie. Literally kill yourself. I'll watch it if you stream it.
>>27688430
5 year olds can do it bruh
>>27688518
Let me rephrase that for you
>I'm an little bitch who can't go through life without inventing problems for myself because that's the only possible way I can try to come to reason with my dissatisfying existence
OP crying because his parents never taught him how to drive. What a fucking wet faggot. Wait til one of your loved ones dies, maybe that will give you a little perspective on how much of a little bitch you are being.
>>27688336
I feel you, but I was lucky to go to a private school where shaving was required.
>>27688454
You're a cocksucker. I hope someone rapes you to death with a bread knife.
>>27688801
At least provide some reasoning for your disdain towards my opinion.
>>27688844
The fact that you admit it is an opinion yet espouse it as fact. Also "muh african children" fallacy. Goodnight, shitstain
>tfw you got micro neglected
>>27680121
your parents raised you in such a way that you were comfortable talking to girls at age 14.
on the flip side, you turned out to be a whiner desperate for a ride on the victim train.
so, you know. they could have done better, could have done worse.
>>27680121
We call them shitty parents who didn't want kids to begin with. i support controlled breeding because niggers such as your parents need to be killed off for the greater good.
liene assholes, no one's child hood was perfect. No one's. If they wanted to, anyone could nitpick and second guess they're parents.
Blaming your problems and issues on your parents is for suckas.
>>27689503
>>>/b/
Normie go.
>>27680121
I didn't know this was a thing. Is it a thing? What is defined as a microneglection? Kinda sounds like the tumblr microaggression tbqh
>>27689625
>What is defined as a microneglection?
When your parent's take care of all your needs except for your spoiled ass feels.
