If you have or have had a gf, tell us how you got one.
I have realized that I haven't really done anything to acquire gf or lose my virginity and that's why I haven't yet. Unless you're Chad, girls won't just appear in your life and you have to actually work to get there. So normalfags, how did you do it?
stop thinking about getting a gf.
get your life in order.
that's it. and don't take your life so fucking seriously. you really want to spend your life not enjoying shit and not having fun?
remember if you don't like yourself, nobody will truly love you and most people will just use and abuse you.
that's it
peace
>>26910898
That's fucking shitty advice. As I said I'm not Chad and girls will not just appear in my life out of nowhere.
>>26910782
>went on tinder
>onenightstand.pdf
>she comes over again
>this happens for 2 months
>mfw I realize we're dating
made friends with girl i didn't find attractive, hang out occasionally, invite her to friends party one day, come back to my place after getting kinda drunk and high at said party, chillin on my bed decide to watch aristocats on netflix, then she starts doing things to me, too drunk/permahorny in those days to care, dickinmouthohmyfuckinggod.jpeg. 2 and a half years later here i am, still her bitch, shes gotten a little more attractive thanks to a lot of prodding from me, nice round ass but pretty flat, haven't said I love you yet, she says it maybe once a week and thinks shes believes it too.
>>26910961
No. He actually had good advice. Get your shit in order. Once you're a functioning member of society, then you go out and hunt for qt3.14.
They have to be attracted to you for a start.
>>26911078
How did you make friends with her?
>>26911060
Thanks Chad
>>26910782
Only act like thineself
>>26910782
i read pickup then practiced it loads.. eventually met gf through friends of friends, get number, flirt, meet, kiss, meet again..etc
tbqh i think theres something abnormal about me because i like the idea of mind control and manipulation better than a relationship or sex, thats why i got obsessed with pickup.
>>26911101
Well ye that's a given, I am a functioning member of society already.
>in university
>take care of my hygiene and fashion
>play sports and go to the gym 4-5 times a week
>decent social skills and somewhat active social life, attending parties and clubs occasionaly
>>26911101
>Once you're a functioning member of society
What did he mean by this?
>>26911146
aaaannnnd that's not how you get a gf.
you manipulated her into being ur gf, and someday she will cheat on you with some other manipulator.
>>26911146
How did you meet her exactly, ie how was your first time talking? Did you approach her and flirt?
>>26911165
okay.
do you feel like your need love?
do you feel a lack?
i'm telling you right now. nobody can fill that emptiness but yourself.
don't need love too much. that shit will get you fucked up
Im still pretty autismo so you dont have to be chad to get a gf, she had apparently had a crush on me since 9th grade cause apparently i looked chad? Idfk, but my friend told me that she had a crush on me and i was like "this is my only chance to ever get a gf" and i did it, also as far as i can tell, girls like confidence, stop playing vidya and try your absolute hardest at anything and everything to make yourself seem like a better person
>>26911127
through uni, went down to the smokers area one night and met that way. Then occasionally ran into each other downtown. Myself and a friend get invited to chill. I was actually trying to fuck her friend, but thinking about it that girl is more of a mess nowadays.
>>26911285
>she had apparently had a crush on me since 9th grade cause apparently i looked chad?
Now you must understand why this is shit advice? People on /r9k/ aren't usually attractive and have girls "crushing" on them.
>>26911191
they wouldn't cheat on me. i control the relationship. not in relationship anymore, haven't left the house in 2 years, dont see the point
>>26911230
theres been a couple. really it just comes down to meeting people through friends of friends/social circle, then pursuing them until you get rejected or meet up. i guess im a cyborg, i used to have a lot of charisma and be very social but not anymore
>>26910782
For me it came down to luck
A girl liked me and basically gave me a hand written invitation to ask her out, so I took the opportunity and we dated for 5 years
I don't see myself getting another gf unless it's dumb luck
>>26910782
A little about me
>24
>Fucked 23 bitches
>about 6 of them worth bragging about, the rest were eh or worse
>Only my 3rd post here because I'm a normie and I don't feel like I need to disturb you guys I just like to watch, but since you asked.
Obvious shit is be funny or get money, take care of yourself as best you can (Turns out going to the gym with the intention of just getting buff works pretty well)
Whiten your teeth
Figure out a hairstyle that works for you
Shop at the mall get some jeans shirts and shoes that fit whatever aesthetic you're going for
I mean fuck, I read a bunch of David DeAngelo I stumbled across while I was 13 but turns out I've got pretty good genetics to start with and I play guitar so it hasn't exactly been hard mode for me.
Try David DeAngelo's 77 laws that's some pretty good shit to get your mind set.
>>26910782
I guess I'm a failed normie, although I never really tried to be a normie. I'm 30 and have had 5 girlfriends, one one-night stand, one booty call, and a couple of semi-blind dates from back when nobody had profile pictures on the internet.
Started dating when I was 17, lost my virginity
at 18. Actually the first girl that had sex with me cheated on her then-boyfriend with me and then broke up with him to be with me. I even got out of the friendzone once.
>normand rooo get out
I haven't had a friend or girlfriend in 6 years now. I've gone full piss-bottling anime-watching NEET, but at least I have fond memories to look back on and also masturbate to.
>>26910898
>>26910961
That's actually some of the best advice. Getting a gf is something that is less likely to happen the more that you try to force it. When I got my dick wet I wore edgy ironic t-shirts like "drunk girls think I'm hot" and was more concerned about looking punk rock and edgy than actual tfw no gf, and then the gf happened almost all by itself.
>>26911165
>>26911101
It also helps to have a personality and specific interests or an "angle" that overlaps with potential girl, because what you wrote just sound of sounds like something you'd put on your resume. Not something that will get you a gf.
For me, it was the whole punk rock nu-metal/emo world of the early 2000s, going up to the late 2010s as well. That was my "angle" if you want, or call it a gimmick or something. It's not something that I was into just to get a girl it was something I was genuinely into, but there were plenty of girls in it. Then it was video games and LARPing and cosplay and anime.
>>26910782
The girl of my life came into my life through sheer willpower
She literally clang onto anyone I talked to just to get to hear me because I didn't speak very much
After a while someone told me to check my facebook that my parents made for me because ma soshell lyfe
We talked for a bit and decided that we would date to see where it took us.
I miss my virginity...
My only girlfriend was in highschool, my friends set me up with someone. Not like set up a date, but followed me around and coached me and and helped me with what to say/text. We went out for a couple months!She left for another guy as soon as they stopped holding my hand. She's the reason I'm not a KHV, but I'm still a virgin
>>26910782
My gf and I basically weren't friends before we met but we were at a party and both feeling kind of awkward and not in the mood for socialising and we just drifted until we eventually started talking and we ended up sat on the couch talking and cuddling for the whole party.
Whether you believe me or not, I'm not a Chad in any way, I'm an awkward self-conscious piece of shit. If I had to give a piece of advice it would be to not just go for someone who looks appealing to you, but go for someone who looks like they feel/think a similar way to you. For me, that was me and my gf both feeling awkward at the party. For you it could be seeing a grill at the theatre watching a movie you really liked and looking like she loved it too. Something you can connect over.
Hope I helped someone. Peace brobes.
All I can say is you will have to ask the girl out.
It's not going to just happen.
>had a gf for a month when I was 16
>she went to an all girls school, and I think she just wanted a bf because her friends had boyfriends and it was the cool new thing
>she never spoke about any of her interests
>very rarely started conversations
>this inevitably caused many awkward silences
>she broke up with me after a month because "it wasn't working out"
>kissless Virgin to this today.
At least weheld handsthough.
Guys what do I do?
I got this qts number and we study together often but we don't talk to each other most of the time. When we do talk it's mainly about dental school and money in the future but I have no idea how to overcome my autism and talk about other stuff. She laughs at my jokes and I have eaten lunch with her once but I have no idea how to go farther than studying for tests
>>26910782
im actually attractive so I just walked up to a girl I liked and said will you go on a date with me this saturday and she said yeah
>>26911103
Not necessarily, girls are less visual than guys. She may not like you at first, but if she finds you interesting, funny, or smart, a girl may develop a liking towards you.
>>26910782
try talking to all kinds of girls and not just the ones you are interested in sexually. Take it as practice.
I'm also insecure when I let my brain get the best of me. But I fight it, and I fake being confident. It seems to do the trick. People usually cannot tell the difference.
My first girlfriend made her friend make me ask her out
My current gf just straight up asked me out
The only time I've had a girlfriend was by being in the same social circles as these girls. I've never ever gone up to a girl and talked to her
Normies don't know how to gfs, they never search for love they only wait for it like sheep waiting to be shed
>>26910898
>truly love you
What is "truly loving" someone? I mean, I'm trying to better myself, I am. But I don't think "I love myself" I just don't think in terms of hating myself.
I'm still suicidal though because of my horrible mental illness and insomnia. I'm in love with my best friend who is a girl and she's in love with me in a mutually platonic way.
I just think it's an obstacle for me at least. Does anyone think I'm wrong? Genuinely curious.
>>26912920
that's the only way to do it nicely.
i think the term is: organically.
you just have to put yourself in social situations that complement your interests. that's it. and let go of worry. that shit sucks.
>>26912984
>What is "truly loving" someone?
She'll break up with you before she gets pigroasted by Chad and his boys
I had one gf in my life. And that was absolute luck, thats literally the only person I know that actually took interest in me.
If you guys are as autistic as I am, and I belive you are, you can only rely on luck.
>>26913024
Being passive hasn't helped me one bit, i'ts only when i act that things happen
>>26912883
This kind of shit won't work for robots who have no social capital, which is needed to go to events and parties.
So to put it simply: Be active or become a normie and wait like a sheep
>>26910782
I went to music events and then beer events. It's p. easy for anyone to find people there.
Dog parks are a cool thing where more down to earth girls are at. You'll probably meet people just doing shit like bar quizzes or rec sports or any useful hobby.
Just be yourself is the most important advice, but you can develop your social skills faster by making friends with older people relative to yourself, but not more than 10 years. Make sure they aren't socially retarded or part of some lame subculture themselves.
I got girlfriends just because I asked about their lives and smelled good. You can literally make or break a relationship on what you wear and how you smell. The better relationships I got started out of me seeing a girl who was simple and open, and me being really forward. If i wanted to kiss her, I would go in to kiss her. And the times it works outweighs all the times it doesn't work or the time it takes to figure out if you should or not. Until you know body language you could take things a step at a time like with touching her and teasing her and being forward verbally.
>be me
>have girlfriend
>have multiple women in love with me all across the world
>completely average-looking
>>26913124
>you just have to put yourself in social situations that complement your interests
that's not passive at all. i'm just saying, don't obsess over it.
>>26913255
>live life in easy mode
>brag about it
>>26913234
>bar quizzes
>useful hobby
Being a southamerican sucks
>>26913308
I'm: >>26913255.
South American bitches are so fucking easy. Grow a pair, Javier.
>>26913342
What country?
What the fuck are you doing here?
Suck my shaft, don't talk about my balls you queer
>>26913408
>queer
Nice one, dude. I remember hearing that one used a lot back in the seventh grade.
>>26912133
Do you go to Marquette? :^)
I only know one girl who is in predental and I guess she didn't like me because we went on 1 date then she never talked to me again.
Study with her at night around dinner time then invite her to get dinner with you while studying. Or ask her beforehand to study and get dinner together the same night.
U can do it
My first and only gf was my physics lab partner in HS
I asked for her number over fb because I was a beta fuck. I texted her while I was on vacation with my family because I was a beta fuck. I told her she was cute over text because I was beta. I asked her on a date when i came back from vacation, over text because, you guessed it, I was a beta.
I got extremely lucky. Being with her changed me though. I don't really have social anxiety or issues talking to girls now.
Hope I helped but if not, just do everything I didn't. Be confident.
>>26911180
Nothing. Just normalfag spewing bullshit.
I go to work and I come home exhausted, Saturday I grocery shop, and Sunday I relax and panic because Monday is the next day and my boss picks on me.
>>26914665
Classic wagecuck.
Tick tock.
>>26910782
Find a girl that you hangout with already and know she enjoys your company. Then, talk and spend time with her whenever possible. Then, give her a reason to make her want to be with you. (find what she needs and shower her with it whether it be, attention, laughs, validation, etc.) And wait until the both of you feel something for each other. As a fat failed normie with braces and a slight lisp I tell you the most important thing is confidence in yourself. Always be confident. Don't get discouraged, everyone (especially unattractive people like myself) has a low batting average, but that didn't stop me. You'll find someone anon, I have faith in you. Good luck faggots
>>26914772
This just sounds like how to be an orbiter.
>>26910782
Social skills. Social skills is an acquired skill set, just like learning to play the piano, guitar or football. Practise, practise, practise.
>>26916098
How to learn?
Practice is one thing, practicing the right thing is something else.
Literally all you have to do is be attractive. Just do that.
>>26916687
This is a good question that deserves a bump.
I can carry a decent conversation which I couldn't before. Only very rarely will I click with someone though. Am I on the right path or am I in a rut? How do I hurry it along somewhat organically without forcing it?
>>26916723
>tfw attractive virgin
I had my first kiss at 17. I lost my virginity at 19. I've been in a relationship with a beautiful girl for 6 1/2 years now.
It took a long time for me to not sperg out round women. I took drama at school and it brought me out of myself, and that confidence leaked into the rest of my life. I joined a debate team and became outgoing.
I cannot express enough how shy i still was. A girl from another school messaged me on a social network after seeing me at a debate between our schools and then we met up and starting dating I guess.
Once you get that first gf out of the way, it gets so much easier. You don't panic and sweat anymore, you just feel at ease.
My advice would be to find something you are good at, and become great at it. Chicks really like when you are passionate about something, it doesn't matter what (unless it is creepy and antisocial, in which case get a new hobby.) The reason you'll hear people say hit the gym isn't just for you to get in shape, its because it is a good hobby that girls are attracted to.
