Welp, lads, it finally happened.
>been together 3 years, 6 month break in the middle
>live together
>walking by this morning
>journal open on her desk, written: "he won't return my calls...been crying, sought comfort from anon and lied and said i was upset about blah blah blah"
>i call her out on it, big argument, yelling etc. she says they hooked up one time YEARS ago and he is an old family friend, says name is John
>i never look through her journal because trust/don't wanna see what i don't wanna see
>she just left, decide i might as well see what's in there
>blatant evidence of cheating within the last couple of months
>still texting/trying to text one guy
so...what should i do? just tell her: well, i snooped, saw that you cheated on me. have a good life. And then proceed to move out of her place? Just ignore it altogether?
hard mode: we already have tickets/hotels etc bought for a trip to europe next month.
feelsbadman
>>26751190
drop her, take the tickets and go with a m8 if possible, fuck that bitch senpai. just wait until she's gone one day, move all your shit out, so when she comes back she's gone. Leave a note saying some shit like "you know what you did" or something gay like that
Dump her and go to Europe alone. It'll change your mind and you won't be controlled by that whore. Plus hey, free sex with the yeuropoors since you're single!
If you are paying for/own where you live, tell her to get the fuck out and never talk to her again.
Otherwise just move out without a word. You don't want a fight clearly. This'll be easier than her breaking it off from you since at least you will have stood up for yourself.
No hardmode get your shit and leave. Don't ever contact her again and ignore all of her calls.
IF you're beta and show emotion, you will show her she won. Starting working out and better yourself. Godspeed anon.
>>26751261
meant to say "so all your shit is gone"
>>26751190
>just tell her: well, i snooped, saw that you cheated on me. have a good life. And then proceed to move out of her place? Just ignore it altogether?
yes
>hard mode: we already have tickets/hotels etc bought for a trip to europe next month.
count your losses and move on.
could be worse.
>>26751190
There is no choice here, you fucking cuck. Already living together? Neither of you should be fucking other people. Get your shit, get out.
I honestly wish I had a gf that cheated on me just so I had an excuse to bash her head against a wall until she was twitching.
get rid of her, cancel the trio and try to get your money back
ignore every attempt she makes trying to contact you.
obviously she doesn't care about you anymore so there's no fixing it and there's no point yelling at each other. end it, ignore her, masturbate to trap. porn to take the pain away
Leave her on Europe
>>26751190
Nah don't stick it out another month, its just a waste of time. Since you are the man, I'm assuming you bought the tickets and they are in your name. Makes it even more funny, bitch is probably trying to string you along just another month too so she can fuck euro chads behind your back.
Deny it from her.
>>26751320
This. Take her ticket with you on the plane.
>>26751190
man that's unfortunate, but here's what you gotta do (i got this idea from some youtuber and it's great):
1) ignore that she cheated ok? ignore it, never happened a'right?
2) Don't fap for as long as you can, also she's not gonna ask for sex cause she's cucking you, so yea don't fap at all for a big quantity of time, hopefully a month.
3) When the month passes, you organize a date, like a nice romantic dinner or whatever you can afford, and you go ahead and tell her this "ctpie(or whatever names you call her), my boss told me a few days ago that I will get a huge raise, ask me anything you want, I'll give it to you". Ok epic nice, she goes "oh dear that's so great ty ty <3" or whatever, then dude this is the important part, you ask her if she can give you a bj.
Then....focus a lot, focus as much as you can, focus...focus...focus...FOCUS...AND THEN YOU FUCKING DEEPTHROAT HER WITH YOUR CUM AS IF YOU WERE TRYING TO DROWN HEEEEEER.
5) you tell her she's a fucking cheater, dump her ass and continue your life.
>>26751320
This would be ebin, but she's already a cheating slut so she'd probably get some eurochad to live with until she gets things sorted out, just fucking every minute. It'd just cuck OP harder.
>>26751468
I agree with telling her he got a raise. I'd just bring it up casually a few days before he lays down the bomb. It'll make her full of regret because women can only think in terms of sex and money.
>>26751190
Best thing you can do is (1) move on and (2) not give her any closure
Just pack your shit and leave 1 day when she's not around... she'll be so confused, and have an emotional roller coaster.. she'll contact you and everything else.. just block her on everything
go on your trip with a friend or solo.
>>26751190
>Welp, lads, it finally happened.
It was bound to happen sooner or later. Now fuck off and deal with your normie problems else where faggot.
Take everything, steal all the money from her and bounce out, its a blessing lad
Take this shit to /adv/ you fucking cuck
>>26751190
Post revenge porn to /b/. Those fuckers will eat her alive.
>>26751468
And then anon gets charged for rape
Just dump the hoe and get europuss.
>>26751190
>6 month break in the middle
There's your problem. What did she say she was doing during this break? Why did y'all take a break? Where are you from?
>>26751190
best thing you can do is, move on.
don't take it personally.
i repeat : DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY.
if she is a cheater, well, you have to accept it. move on with your life.
it's going to hurt real hard my brother, but remember she is the problem, not you.
>>26751375
this. dont even take her to europe anon, either go with m8's, alone, or get your money back
OP, if you're still here, DO NOT listen to all these virgin robots who have never been in a relationship before.
Face it, cheating happens. Cheating happens in most married couples. Cheating happens when you're young. It doesn't mean she's a bad person and it doesn't mean you should give up on your relationship, especially if you were comfortable enough with her to blow money on a trip to Europe.
If she apologizes and fesses up to what she did, forgive her. Do not just "cut your losses". You've been with her for over 3 years. Mistakes happen. People are human. Don't be rash and impulsive. Try to approach this from a level-headed and less emotionally charged perspective.
>>26751801
Actual cuck alert Actual cuck alert Actual cuck alert Actual cuck alert Actual cuck alert
Holy shit, this is what nu-males actually believe. I bet you'd take care of another mans child too wouldnt you faggot? (rhetorical question, I know you would)
>>26751801
>It doesn't mean she's a bad person
>Do not just "cut your losses". You've been with her for over 3 years. Mistakes happen
Look up the stats retard, cheaters are likely to cheat again.
>>26751801
>mistakes happen
I didn't know that rationally and systematically cheating on your boyfriend for months was an accident.
I guess mistakes happen! XD
>>26751801
CUUUUUUUUUCK GOD DAMN FUCKING KEK
>>26751190
>rip the tickets (both if possible even if you lose money)
>try to cancel everything like hotel crap so she can't go either
>pack your bags, right now
>leave her a note
>I read in your journal that you are a cheating cunt so I guess this is it
>go fuck yourself and don't contact me again
Leave and enjoy the rest of your life.
>>26751801
>It doesn't mean she's a bad person and it doesn't mean you should give up on your relationship, especially if you were comfortable enough with her to blow money on a trip to Europe. If she apologizes and fesses up to what she did, forgive her
>"sorry i fucked another guy anon, pls forgive me it will never happen again"
>forgiveness.jpeg
>OP gets cucked 2x
your autism is showing
>>26751801
reply
bloxl
>>26751190
If the hotel reservation and tickets were bought with your credit card, go to Europe and insist on paying for everything there so you can treat her. Convince her not to even bring her own money. Then when you check in to the hotel, pretend you have never met her in your life when you check in and that you came here alone. Cancel her flight home. Then, you go home early and get on her computer as fast as you can and start looking around Al Qaeda and Isis websites so she'll get on the terrorist watch list. She will be stranded in Europe somewhere with no money and no way to get home.
>>26751801
OP, if you take this cuck's advice then you're giving her the signal that it's okay. Obviously it's not by you otherwise you wouldn't have posted about it.
Quite literally cut your losses and save yourself from a similar and worse event occurring in the near future. You didn't do anything wrong, unless you take this buttfuck's shit tier advice; it was far from a mistake
>>26751190
>pack bags
>go to last entry of journal
>Write: Have a nice life. Anon
>cancel everything related to the trip because you need money
>find someone which doesn't fuck you over
>live a happy life
>>26752101
This is the best option, OP.
Don't go on the trip anyway like >>26751261
suggests. In the back of your head the entire trip you're going to be thinking about how you and Stacy were meant to go there instead.
Just leave, move on with your life. Don't return calls or try to contact her ever again. Go to Europe alone, find another hotel and have a blast. Europe is wonderful.
I'm sorry that happened, anon. Good luck picking yourself up.
>>26751190
Dear John...
>>26751801
>Mistakes happen
yeah like women
I'm sorry this happened to you anon but I'm glad it did, guys like you remind me why I need to keep the women in my life strictly on a professional level. Never to befriend nor love them, and my life will have less worry and heartbreak.
You suffer so that other men can learn and never fall to the same fate.
>>26751801
KEKBOY McFUCKBOY
Dump her, you fucking tard. Who gives a fuck about a trip to Europe? If you solely paid for it, take some other bitch. If not, fuck it. Money wasted, but that's better than taking some girl that will just end up fucking European dudes behind your back while you're there anyways.
>>26751801
>cheat on somebody
>use them for emotional comfort due to issues with the person you cheated with
how can you do this and not be considered a bad person
>>26751190
What the fuck is wrong with men.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO PROVE ANYTHING IN A BREAKUP JUST FUCKING KICK HER OUT
>>26751190
>hard mode: we already have tickets/hotels etc bought for a trip to europe next month.
>hard mode
no that's super ez mode fampai. either you find another girl to go with, or you take a buddy and spend your time in europe drinking and fucking dumb european sloots. doesn't that sound amazing? plus you get to make your gf that much more butthurt by not letting her go.
>>26751190
nobody fucking writes in journals anymore. this is bullshit
reported
>>26751315
You still go to prison for killing your girlfriend if she cheated.
>>26751190
>gf
This is r9k you fucking retard.
Take your normie problems to /soc/ or reddit.
>>26751468
12 year old detected. anon pls
if its your place, kick her out quickly, if not, move out immediately. ignore her calls and do not make any contact with her. bring a good friend with you to europe and fuck a lot of whores. goodluck OP
>>26751801
Reddit gtfo
>robot pls
>>26753512
this
do you ask a manlet how to dunk?
do you ask a fat ass how to lose weight?
do you ask a deaf man how to play an instrument?
why the fuck would you ask anything at all about a relationship to a robot?
>>26751801
Perhaps the most obvious post ever made by a woman who knows her value relies solely on sex.
>>26751190
Did you or did she pay for the tickets?
If you did, return her shit and go alone, fuck yuropeen grills
Show no emotion, meinegger.
>>26751284
>>26751285
>>26751261
>ignore here
>>26751588
>not give her any closure
maybe it just hasn't sunk in, but i don't want to hurt the girl emotionally. i really don't. just rather pretend it was a mutual break up and never let her know i know.
>>26751721
break was her dumping me because i lied to her and was texting sexual stuff to an ex. it was justified, i think.
>>26751734
thanks. i think you are right.
>>26753664
or by a giant cuck
>>26751801
>to blow money on a trip to Europe.
we split the costs of the trip, so not going would just be a lose-lose, but what the fuck are we gonna do, sit next to each other on the plane, then meet up in a month and sit next to each other on the flight back?
>>26753700
Don't be such a stupid faggot.
Just be like: "Hey stacy, whether you cheated or not, it doesn't matter, I just don't feel it anymore, I got all my stuff, cya later."
>>26751286
we deathgrips now?
>>26753749
Look up the sunk cost fallacy. Stop being stupid.
Just cut and run, offer to sell her your tickets/half of hotel.
>>26753700
>maybe it just hasn't sunk in, but i don't want to hurt the girl emotionally
Why the fuck not? m8 she utterly fucking betrayed you. She even exploited you for comfort. That is fucking sick and this girl is a piece of shit.
>>26751801
Disregard this cuck.
>>26753887
ya man. not rational of me i know. maybe i'm just not a mean/vindictive (alpha) person.
>>26751190
Confront her about it, I want to know what justicification she'll come up with.
>>26751190
My advice would be say something like "I know you cheated. It doesn't matter how I know, I just do." Even if it does somehow get out that you looked at her stuff, DO NOT LET HER MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. You are completely in the right here, and she is in the wrong. Don't argue for long. Leave after 5 minutes max and start your trip back to the good life.
As for the Euro trip, I'd just say try to get what money you can back, and cut your loses on what you can't get back. It's not worth staying together over. Either that or find a friend to go with you.
>>26754061
Answer this one fucking question: Why does he need to prove that she cheated?
>>26751836
>>26751860
>>26751871
>>26751889
Have any of you judgmental assholes actually been in a serious, long-term relationship before?
Didn't think so.
>>26754097
>I don't need statistics I love her!!!
>>26754075
I never said he did. I said he should just tell her he knows and that if she does press him and it does get out he doesn't need to explain himself
>>26751988
What the fuck is this "cuck" nonsense? Talk about a stupid trend. How about not being sheeple and repeating exactly what everyone else says?
>>26753348
Another idiot. You have any idea how expensive plane tickets to Europe are, let alone hotels and entertainment? Do you even have a job or any awareness of how much things in general cost? I went to Europe last summer for a month and my airfare, food, lodging added up to over $10,000 in total. Unless OP is a millionaire, he can't afford to throw away 5-10 grand.
>>26751801
This viewpoint is so tragic.
>>26753749
Just go. Going to spend time on another continent is amazing no matter who you're with. If nothing else, you guys can go as friends and do your own thing.
>>26754061
Fuck you guys are dumb. "Cut your losses" on a $5k+ trip to Europe LOL
I'm convinced this thread is full of 15 year olds with no meaningful life experience, because none of you know the value of a vacation in Europe nor a long-term relationship. Those are both two things that no reasonable adult would throw away.
Even if OP's girlfriend made a mistake, she's still a human being who is deserving of a chance to redeem herself or at least explain her actions. I'm just saying, OP should consider the fact that he has spent 3.5 years with this woman and not just throw away a relationship because a thread full of 15 year olds will call him a cuck if he doesn't.
>>26754220
You ever had a serious girlfriend? Didn't think so.
>>26754229
Why stay with a unloyal girl senpai?
>>26754097
I was.
I got emotionally cucked by chad.
>go to gf's house for the holidays
>gf is really distant during the trip
>don't bring it up verbally, but dote a lot more
>she leaves on a 3 day vacation to attend her friend's wedding
>she meets chad
>chad teaches her to dance
>pictures are taken
>she comes back
>i ask if she had a good time
>"yeah!" and she proceeds to tell me about chad
>laugh it off, continue to dote
>my car breaks
>she calls her dad, a mechanic, to ask if he could do something about it
>her old man loves me, so he says sure
>mom and pops come from a couple cities over to fix my car
>at the end of the day, after the car is fixed, gf calls me up to her apartment
>tells me to sit on the couch
>"anon, I'm breaking up with you."
>i ask why
>"you'll never accept God. I can't accept that."
>alright
>leave
>cry
>chad starts to show up all over her facebook feed
>eventually she is 'in a relationship with' chad
>'in a relationship with' turns into 'engaged to'
>'engaged to' turns into 'married'
>I hear she's pregnant now
Even now, I keep our letter correspondence from when I was in the military under my bed. I just can't bring myself to throw it away. I loved her so much, anon. And I know it wouldn't work out. And I know it's over. But holy christ I still love her memory so much. I feel like I'd be better off emotionally if she'd just died though. Is that terrible of me?
>>26754250
That's a sad story and all, but I don't see how it's relevant. First of all, it doesn't sound like she cheated on you, she just found another guy and/or possibly had a heart-to-heart conversation with her parents that made her rethink her relationship with you.
Sorry that she broke your heart, but she's allowed to date other people that aren't you.
>>26754332
>doesn't sound like she cheated on me
>>26754250
I know it is hard, anon. But try to create new memories. It is alright to love whats in the past, and even be sad about it, but urge to make the future better.
>>26754097
I've been married for 13 years faggot.
He should dump the slut, no fucking explanation on his part, just pack his shit and leave.
>>26754380
Oh no my current life is pretty great. It's just that she's a fucking cunt stacey and I hope he doesn't get cucked by her too.
But no I make more than either of them. My hours are better. I am worth more than them financially. Economically, there's no comparing me to either of them.
>>26751801
Fucking kill yourself you worthless cuck
>>26754135
Why does he even need to tell her that? Just tell her its over.
I've been in plenty of relationships (currently married), I've been dumped a little over half of the time when the relationships ended. When I broke up I always spent a few weeks/months looking for reasons to bring up during the breakup to prove why I needed to do it.
The women that broke up with me would always say essentially the same thing: "This isn't doing it for me"
You know what? That is fucking easier. The last chick I broke up with before I got married, I just told her that I wasn't feeling the relationship (I thought she might be cheating) and ended it without all sorts of fucking drama.
OP, just break up, the girl will cry the first day or so and text you for about a week and will move on like nothing happened.
the bandaid method, do it fast everyone will be better off for it.
>>26754229
>Even if OP's girlfriend made a mistake, she's still a human being who is deserving of a chance to redeem herself or at least explain her actions.
>redeeming herself with a trip to europe
She's literally getting rewarded for being a dumb cunt you sniveling shit, it's not like she's fessed up and apologized and is super contrite.
>>26754146
a cuck is literally a man who's been cheated on. You are a cuck, just accept it and move on.
>>26754146
You are a dumb fuck, this is the epitome of a sunk cost fallacy.
IT DOESNT FUCKING MATTER HOW MUCH THE FUCKING TRIP COST BECAUSE GOING WILL BE WORSE THAN NOT GOING
The loss has already been incurred, just accept it and move on.
>>26751315
Stupid nigger.
>>26754229
>not knowing how to travel cheap
you can get return flights to Europe for around cheap $700. You have know how to uses sites like google flights or momondo Airlines or credit cards might even help you out in certain circumstances even without travel insurance.
Also, if you book on places like airbnb or hostels they generally have pretty lax cancellation policies, especially if you cancel way before you're supposed to arrive.
Yeah, there might be some monetary loss but it's better than to be forced next to a horrible person.
>>26754229
Sunk cost fallacy is worst fallacy, educate yourself anon.
>>26754229
>Fuck you guys are dumb. "Cut your losses" on a $5k+ trip to Europe LOL
>I'm convinced this thread is full of 15 year olds with no meaningful life experience, because none of you know the value of a vacation in Europe nor a long-term relationship. Those are both two things that no reasonable adult would throw away.
This is EXACTLY what a 15 year old with no meaningful life experience would say.
As is this >>26754146
>>26751190
Try to find someone else to take the trip with my man. Even if you can't find another girl, bring a friend or a family member. If you can't find any of those bring a random person.
>>26754374
>lt's entirely possible that she's an honorable girl and broke up with you before she fucked him.
Can't help falling in love with someone else, anon.
Not sure if this idea is worse or better for you though.
>>26754250
thats what you get for being an edgy atheist you piece of shit
>>26751801
>sunk cost fallacy
Disgusting.
>>26754420
But you'll never have that perfect future you built in your mind with stacy.
>>26754332
>she's allowed to date people other that aren't you.
Is OP not allowed to date people other than his cheating girlfriend?
>>26754581
I know that I won't.
I hope that I'll find somebody better. If I keep improving myself, then it has to happen sometime right? That's what my elderly friends tell me. "Just do your best. You'll find her, anon."
>>26754613
This is what happened for me, anon. I didn't even ask out my wife, she asked me out.
Just work on yourself, put yourself out there and meet people.
If you find your passion and work on that you will be naturally happier and that attracts women.
After I went back to school and got certs I got about a 50% raise (switching jobs twice) and women keep throwing themselves at me (I'm loyal to my wife though). Success and genuine happiness is the best way to attract women.
>>26751190
Take some time and think about it. Do you love her anymore?
>No
Dump her, go take the trip with friends/family.
>Yes
Talk to her. Can you make it work? Do you think think you can move past the cheating? Even if you do still love her there are a lot of things to consider. Don't be too hasty but don't be too hung up on her either.
>>26754667
>Success and genuine happiness is the best way to attract women.
>>26751190
That's what you get for being a normie. Hahaha. Fucking cuck.
>>26751190
this happened to me once with a dude. yeah, snooping is wrong but if you have an inclination to believe that they're cucking you, then fuck them. move out or kick her out, you don't even have to talk to her man
>>26754847
What interests you anon?
Find a job that will pay, if you have no skills, go to a vocational school.
Find a hobby that you love.
Most people don't really like their job, even people who are working in their dream field.
>>26754992
I'm applying for some schools right now, just uncertain about the future is all. Not sure if I'll actually be super happy if/when I'm more successful.
>>26755025
How old are you? A lot of problems you are experiencing pretty much disappear when you get older, I had similar issues to you and they just faded away when I was 27-28.
>>26755161
Yeah you're probably right, it's already better than it used to be.
Dump her and go on a trip by yourself then come back have a beer and relax
>>26751665
This so much /thread. (You) wait for it.
>>26751801
Spoken like a true Roastie
