What would you like to improve about yourself?
What's your goals for this year?
Last year lost a bunch of weight. Still have 7-8lbs to go to be happy.
Next going to be better about doing the physical therapy for my back. I get lazy about doing the exercises.
This year want to fix my posture
I guess top of the list is find a real job. A postdoc doesn't count, fuck everything about that.
Try and publish some fiction. Doesn't have to be good, just in print, and I need to get some pity payment for it.
Raise Japanese to a newspaper reading level.
Don't kill self.
>>26646447
Nice m8. What type of job are you looking for?
>>26646473
I'm currently looking at finance. Not because I like finance, but because I hate Britain and the only way I will stay here for another year is if I get paid well for it. Plan B is a bit hazy. Some sort of programming job is always a possibility, but I feel that would be a halfassed solution. Sure, I can program, but so can everyone. I can also develop algorithms and understand higher mathematics, and it would be nice if my job used that.
It would be ideal to find a job where I can combine my technical skills with my artistic pretensions, i.e. video games, but that requires me getting off my ass and actually doing something.
>>26646392
>Become 80kg (currently 90kg)
>Become able to hold a conversation without sperging out
>Improve my French language skills
>Reduce my significant paranoid tendencies
>Build up enough courage to switch to contact lenses
>Whiten teeth with laser white therapy
>Make one friend (currently have zero)
>Smile and laugh more often
>Become a more confident
>>26646437
Holy shit, amazing work anon! Keep at it!
>>26646614
>Basically become a chad
We've all tried and got nowhere
Make 1 friend this year
Improve russian and japanese enough to read kids' books within a few months
Start gardening delicious vegetables
Get fit enough to run for 30 minutes
>>26646636
>Make one friend
>Basically become a chad
fuck off
>>26646614
good for you man, srsly
>>26646614
>Build up enough courage to switch to contact lenses
I used to wear glasses, then went to contacts, now I'm about 50/50 between the two. I'm now considering corrective surgery: LASIK or PRK (s/p).
Contacts do take some getting used to, my suggestion would be to find someone who specializes in contacts and is will to spend some time with you to teach you how to do it. The first few weeks are a little awkward but then you'll get really good at it.
When you put them in, just keep looking straight forward and hold your eye open with the other hand. If you miss no big deal, even if your finger hits your eye it is really no big deal. It's the fear that takes some getting used to, but it goes away.
>>26646626
Thanks!
>>26646636
We can do it, Anon. We might not become Chad per say, but, the best version of ourselves if we systematically try to improve ourselves and don't get too discouraged along the way if we slip a bit.
All I want is to get rid of my alcoholism.
>>26646708
You can do it man. I was drinking way too much, daily, now down to just a beer a day. It's not perfect but at least I'm not trashed al the time.
>>26646437
Good job mate
>go from 240lbs to about 200lbs. im 6'4 so 200lbs might look ok on me.
>start law school in august
>pay off some debts
>read more books
>DONT BUY ANY VIDEO GAMES
>talk to at least 1 woman
>start therapy. again.
>if fail, kill self.
![sum-geometric-series[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/QELxJ8h.jpg "sum-geometric-series[1].jpg")
Learn more math in my spare time. Already have a B.A. in an unrelated subject; already have a career in an unrelated field. But I discovered math in my senior year, and loved it, but
>still doing trigonometry
>still doing entry-level discrete mathematics
>tried fitting in geometry and statistics into studies
>can't do more than two subjects at once
>haven't touched calculus yet -- still have to finish trig first
>have a huge backlog of textbooks
>will probably be studying discrete math for years to come (set theory fucked my shit up)
>tfw you either know much more math than the average non-STEM major, or much less than the average 1st year STEM major
>tfw you're in a barren wasteland with no one to talk to about your "hobby"
>tfw you can't tell people about your "hobby" because it's just pathetic
Pic related: the closest I've learned to anything you learn in college.
I don't think I'm gonna make it, senpai. I can't give up but knowing I'm a massive pleb just pains me.
>>26646796
>DONT BUY ANY VIDEO GAMES
I know this is hard, but this really helped me. Not playing video games has really improved my life. I wasted wayyy to much time playing them. I'm much more likely to go out or even talk to someone now.
>>26646392
>cyborg, 18
>trying to suppress sexuality shit
>got an internship while being a second-year student
>forcing myself to socialize
>>26646835
School is a great opportunity to work on socializing. Really push yourself to get out there. It's harder once you are done with school so try to learn those skills while you are there.
I've been working on some shit.
Finally got a job which earns more than median income.
Need to lose weight and exercise more
Need to move out
Need to talk to girls
>>26646848
>Need to talk to girls
Where2find?
>>26646614
>Improve my French language skills
Go to your favourite torrent site.
Search for "Michel Thomas V3".
download the French folders.
>Become able to hold a conversation without sperging out
Maybe this will help
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI
>>26646847
thanks, doing my best here
in two years I got, like three very close friend and a big bunch of acquantancesthat contact me only when they need help on study or some shit, but I think it counts
>>26646808
Hey, I support your ambition, kiddo. You could skype me atisen_nzif you want. I can't promise I'll get excited by high-school tier trig, but I could certainly help you out if you ever have trouble understanding anything.
>>26646895
Yeah it counts man. It's all good practice. Also as they get more comfortable with you might invite you out.
looking for a job and went outside yesterday. don't know if that counts as self-improvement, but I haven't gone outside for a few month so it's a change of pace I guess.
still don't know how I'll do in an interview though, the thought of talking to someone in person is nauseating and gives me shivers.
>>26646881
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI
Watching this. I like it.
>move out of my parents' home
>start saving money for a hair transplant
>move to another country
>improve my german and my english
>start a masters degree
>>26646834
im trying but its been hard. fucking xcom 2.
>>26647088
>start saving money for a hair transplant
Just buy a razor and whiz the rest of it off.
>>26647121
at least I want to give it a try m8
>>26646722
I don't even get trashed anymore, my tolerance is so high. I'm just buzzed all the time. I'm scared about damaging my body beyond repair.
>>26647135
You could spend that money on something that actually matters though like moving to another country.
How much will hair transplants cost?
>>26647195
Maybe cut down one drink per day until you get to a reasonable level?
>>26647257
Oh I know man that's why I said start saving money, it's about 5000 euros but I think some other non surgical remedy will eventually be discovered
I would like to socialize more. no idea how to accomplish this.
>>26647294
>some other non surgical remedy will eventually be discovered
It already exists, its called "accepting the fact that you're bald"
Its really cheap.
finish my SaaS side project and start getting that sweet, sweet passive income
>>26647356
meetup.com
reddit.com/r/<your city>
social hobbies
>>26647275
That's a great goal. Just hard to achieve. People who haven't had a drinking problem don't understand how hard it is (I'm sure you do).
I was without a drink for the last 3 days. Today I am on my 3rd beer.
>>26647097
How is it? I never really liked the originals. It seems like you need to enjoy perverse pleasure for that game.
>hit rate 94%
>miss all 3 shots
Become a woman.
>>26647386
Not him, but what if I live in the middle of nowhere? Can't afford to move
I want to start swimming laps every day to get fit, but it's three quid for admission and I don't have the money. Need to get a better job, but no marketable skills
>>26647395
Yeah, I never had a drinking problem but had another drug problem. I had to ween off it. The hardest part is that I always want to go back and use them again (stimulants to make me a normie, benzos to calm my anxiety, etc).
Also after I quit I had a lot of rebound symptoms which made me want to use more. Took like 6 months to a year for my anxiety to lower back to reasonable levels, and my energy still hasn't bounced back up from stimulant abuse,
After failing all my classes because I was too scared to even show up most days, I'm taking a year off from college to focus on getting better mentally. I have AvPD and it makes life terrible, I can't do anything. It takes me three days to build up the courage to send a two-sentence email. I hate myself.
I'm a month into the break and apart from going to therapy once a week I haven't done anything to improve. I only go outside to go to my therapy appointments, my sixth stab at medication still isn't helping, and I still hate myself and want to die. At the end of the year, when it's time to go back to school, I think I'll be in the same exact position I was in when I left, with no improvement. I'm thinking I should just drop out and accept the fact that, after nine years of struggling with this disorder, I will never be a normal person and I will never live a normal life. Problem is, I don't know how I can convey this to my mom.
>>26647456
save up and move.
>>26647367
I already have shit genetics m8 at least I want to fix this problem, I might even change my mind in the meantime, but I'll save some money to afford that surgery
>>26646392
>What would you like to improve about yourself?
Get rich.
>>26647607
there aren't any job opportunities here, massive unemployment levels
>>26647704
Where are you exactly?
>>26646392
>what's your goals for this year
markmanson.net/goals
>>26647842
>mark manson
>>26647897
What's your problem with him
>>26647842
>markmanson
I liked his book. I should read his blog.
>>26647934
Probably just a shitter.
>>26647842
I have thought a lot about achievement in life and such, and I don't like very much his approach to the problem, simply because my background and world view are completely different. But I agree a lot with him.
I only answered OP with "get rich" because it's something I want or unfortunately fantasize about, but I am aware that setting goals is useless.
Things should come naturally as a result of effort, habits.
If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control.
Discover a way to magic myself out of 1) poverty and 2) subjective brain defects.
Goal every year but it has yet to happen.
>>26647794
english countryside
>>26648131
>considering marrying his third girlfriend
>thinks sex will you change you emotionally and determine your social maturity
>got depressed for getting rid of anime, videogames and porn
>thinks he needs to spend money on "interesting things" which is just buying to sheep mentality
Damn, this guy is really beta. Still gives two fucks about retarded shit. Most incredible experiences are the ones you don't need money for, just the right way to see things and break the social norm. He is going to get cucked hard, it's clear that he is weak and it's really easy to break him down.
>>26648193
>subject brain defects
What do you mean?
>>26648268
To be fair, he's happy and we're all sitting here wallowing in self pity and hate
>>26648343
>he's happy
That's not what his post shows.
>self-pity and hate
I am not on self pity and hate, though.
>>26648312
I have mental disorders involving introversion, anxiety, inability to function like a normal person or function very well around other people for extended periods of time, as well as causing memory deficits and comprehension issues, among other things.
>>26648208
Okay... So what will it cost you to move? How do you get money now?
Looking at Zoopla right now, you can get a room in a shared house for like 75 quid per month rent if you go to a city in t' north.
>>26648375
He has friends and a long term, potentially life long, relationship. I think happiness can be inferred from the tone of it, too.
Everyone here is full of self pity and hate, be honest. This board is literally cancer, but it's the only board we have
I think it's mostly a continuation of self-improvement for me. I've been at it since a few years ago and have come relatively far (much further than I dared hope back when I started), but there's still a lot of room for more improvement.
Living independently in a temporary apartment, I'd like to find an apartment that's less temporary; It's very likely I'll have to leave this current one within the next 3-9 months due to it getting torn down.
Working a pretty physical part-time job, I'd like to either find a new job that's less physically exhausting and thus allows more hours (or a better hourly wage would work as well, but I'm assuming min wage wherever I'll find work), or find work I can do next to this job; something like freelance work that could be done from home would be nice. I currently have a permanent contract though, which is a big financial security that I don't want to just throw away.
Having quite some interests and hobbies but too little drive to really invest time in improving, I want to try and find a way to get my state of mind to allow for better motivation and investing without it being forced so much it becomes less fun.
In a similar fashion, I'm finally feeling moments of ambition again, moments where I feel a bit more risk-taking and considering a less passive approach to life. I need to change that state of mind to allow such ambitions and investments into it to be doable.
I'd like to further expand my social circles as it seems like I enjoy getting to know people more than I thought.
I feel a bit like I'm at a plateau at the moment, where I went from a crappy position to a mediocre-but-content-worthy one. Growing stagnant is a concern now, as experience shows that's the bane of self improvement (for me at least). Right now self-discipline and trying to push past the stagnation will likely be my main priority (besides finding an apartment) for self improvement.
cont.
>>26648447
I live with my parents, I have literally 0 money. Don't even have a bank account. I suppose I could get a shitty job in one of the closer towns, cycle there and save up for a year or so to move to Manchester or something. Would have to find someone to rent with, though, so I could place an ad in the paper?
>>26648488
As I have a progressive illness it's difficult to really invest in longterm stuff. I didn't manage to finish college due to it, and although I feel a lot better since, investing the next years and a lot of money in skills/training is still too risky. Chances are it'll be worse within those few years and I can't finish the training and thus lose all that investment, even higher chance that I'll end up worsening before I manage to pay off the debt and so miss seeing the investment pay itself back. I physically can't work full-time which makes for another hurdle to see the investment pay off.
This is what keeps me from really investing in hobbies and interests as I find the purely training and improving for the sake of improving a bit of a dull ride. To stay mediocre but having sufficient fun the occasional time you work with a hobby throughout your life, or to spend years without real fun so you can later on have a lot more fun but at the risk of never getting there before illness progresses too far, is basically the question.
I still intend to work on self improvement on other aspects even if I'll never lose this state of mind, but it's something that stunts me overall.
A cure for the illness or finding a job that pays well enough to allow saving and investing that extra money would probably fix this dilemma, but realistically waiting for such an unlikely thing to happen instead of trying to push past the state of mind regardless, would be more harmful than do any good.
I am curious as to how people in similar situations manage to get past that point and push on through, sadly "You just gotta do it" is often the response, which for me is not something I can "just" disregard or outdo my concerns with.
I hope everyone else here trying to improve themselves will manage to stick with it. However small the steps are, a step in the right direction is better than standing still. you might slip and fall at times, but moving is the only way to move forward.
>>26646437
The struggle is real.
I used to weigh as high as 293, then I quit soda alone. The month after I went down to 283 and got the determination to actually eat right.
Not going to stop until I'm skelemode. Fuck this fat.
>>26648509
>I live with my parents, I have literally 0 money.
So what your parents aren't going to help you at all?
>Would have to find someone to rent with, though, so I could place an ad in the paper?
No, you just move in to a house share. You rent your bedroom, and the living room and kitchen are communal areas.
Stuff like this:
http://www.zoopla.co.uk/to-rent/details/39020923
http://www.zoopla.co.uk/to-rent/details/39279468
>>26648579
They feed and house me, even though they don't have to, and I'll always be grateful for that. They hold the view that you should earn everything yourself, I'm amazed they didn't kick me out at 18. I thought they would.
Zoopla seems really convenient, thanks. How do you know these people are legit though?
>>26648268
A thing to consider, though, is that different people have different preferences.
Introversion or extroversion, inhibited or outgoing, comforts of home or exploring/traveling to new places, theory or practice, the list goes on and it's often not black and white either.
Some people find genuine contentedness or even happiness in a life as that pic describes. As much as he seems genuinely happy with what he went for, some people will find most happiness and incredible experiences in what you described, the ones you don't need money for, just the right way to see things and break the social norm.
In my opinion both approaches are neither an inherently bad or poor one. Granted, some people simply buy into the whole sheep mentality and end up miserable, it's something plenty of people genuinely want in life.
>>26648659
>They hold the view that you should earn everything yourself
k well ask them how they think you're supposed to do that when you live in a rural dump with no jobs.
>Zoopla seems really convenient, thanks. How do you know these people are legit though?
Depends, there can be some wankers.
If you sign a tenancy agreement though then you'll have legal protection.
https://www.gov.uk/private-renting/your-rights-and-responsibilities
>>26648533
Man, if I quit drinking beer I'd prolly lose weight.
Time for water and vodka.
>>26646392
Lose weight
Go to more concerts, movies, social events
Casually date more
Start becoming a leader in my friend group
Go back to grad school
6' skelly (~145 pounds) here.
My goals:
>Gain 10 more pounds by end of year (~155 pounds).
>Add more muscle.
>Get three moles (two on stomach, one on back) surgically removed for cosmetic reasons.
>Get rhinoplasty.
I'm confident I can do the first three. Fourth one I'm not so sure about. I can afford it, but I think you need weeks for recovery and well I work.
>>26646704
>We might not become Chad per say
>become Chad per say
>per say
You get 0 words per say from now on.
>>26649551
do you go to these events alone?
>>26646392
>tfw I can't find any motivation for my goals
>>26649602
how bad is your nose anon
>>26646681
I am russian native-speaker and I think I could help you with russian if you get any troubles.
>>26650142
Not him, but what do you think the best method for learning russian is? The entirely different alphabet is very scary
>>26651054
You can learn the alphabet in a week if you really wanted to. This is what my Russian teacher told us to do.
>>26651054
Alphabet is not that crazy as you think. Grammar is much harder. Commas are common thing and used in every complex sentence and even lots of natives can fuck it up.
So, I'd advise to learn an alphabet and how simple words are pronounced (3-4-5 letter ones), I think it's a good start step. Even though I don't think it is an effective method since I'm not a teacher.
>>26651083
He is right.
I like to drink beer and watch soccer. I think I'm going places.
>>26648533
Nice man, keep up the good work. MFP really helped me.
If you want to get skelle try the Thinspo General on /fa/: >>>/fa/10971023
>>26646392
Start doing cardio, I'm thinking about muay thai or boxing
>>26646636
Speak for yourself nigger
>>26647842
>markmanson.net/goals
This is some food for thought.
Although I do most of those things already as habits, I keep bumping into issues of starting - and more importantly continuing - new goals. Be it new interests I want to give a try or things to achieve, I keep seeing it as goals. I already found out about the smaller goals/steps approach and it works well enough with some things, a habitual approach is new. If I can manage to try and form some habits around certain hobbies, maybe I'll be able to circumvent the often lack of self-discipline to force myself to practice, and instead be able to do so as force of habit.
Definitely worth looking into, perhaps this is the approach that will allow me to continue improving at the pace I've grown used to, thank you.
I want to gain the courage to kill myself this year.
I came in my own mouth recently. Been working up the courage to do that.
Next going to swallow.
