My girlfriend says I'm her favorite person in the world. But I feel like I only kind of like her. The only thing I look forward to in the relationship is having something warm and soft to hold at night.
I know I'm normie scum. But what should I do, robots?
you should start abusing opiates
>>26555101
>something warm and soft to hold at night
At least it sounds like her penis is pretty feminine.
why do normies feel the need to come here? aren't there other forums or subreddits where you can discuss this? Trying to have a discussion about relationships on /r9k/ is like trying to discuss feminism on /pol/
>>26555116
I've considered it. The warmth of opiates would probably fill the void a little bit. I already abuse the fuck out of alcohol, though.
>>26555101
Are you me? Got the same damn problem. Not sure should i just dump her or keep on going.
>>26555147
She has a vagina, but it's a 3/10 based on my experience.
Just remember love is a privilege that very few actually get to experience. If you leave her, you may be alone for the rest of your life.
>>26555161
No, there really aren't, anon. I would never post shit like this on leddit, because everyone is going to tell me I'm a piece of shit and to break up with her. People aren't such fucking uptight moralizing pieces of shit here.
also lurking due to similar problem
>>26555101
You should be grateful that you have anyone
>>26555219
the sad thing is the being alone feels more normal and comfortable to me than being with someone for possibly a long time
not op btw
>>26555193
Sometimes I feel like it's worth the grind, other times I feel like I deserve better. But I'm not very social and kind of ended up with her due to a glitch in the matrix. My chances of finding someone else within the few years or so are slim.
>>26555219
I certainly am experiencing the privilege of being loved. The problem is that I can't return the favor.
>>26555232
I am. Sometimes it's better than being alone. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes it's worse.
>>26555200
>She has a vagina
What?
I don't want to derail your thread OP, but I feel conflicted about my oneitis. I like her very much and she returns it to some extent, but I'm fearful of going all it and committing myself fully emotionally. I feel stuck in a grey zone; it's a little like being undecided if I want to cut off my last emotional limb.
>>26555250
Yeah, same here. The only good way for me to get a new gf would be to try to get a date from dating sites, but they're so full of shit. Also it would be a pain in the ass to dump her, because she has shit ton of stuff in my place.
tfw too lazy to dump gf
>>26555330
Yes we live together as well and untangling all of that would be a pain. She's also met my family and hsa enmeshed herself in my friend group. Honestly I think I could get over all of that but it would be such a colossal pain in the ass. I'm not suffering enough to motivate myself to break up with her.
>>26555322
Just do it. My only advice is to hold off on moving in together for a year or so.
i feel bad for your gfs kinda. that's fucked up to have one foot out the door when they prolly love you
then again they're women and don't deserve respect most likely
>>26555481
I agree. It is kind of fucked up. I don't know if she deserves respect. She's kind of a vapid tumblrina whose most interesting trait is her hair color.
But then, it's not like I'm very interesting either.
everybody with a girlfriend just fucking leave this board, at least somebody validates your pathetic existence for a change you ungrateful fucks!
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>>26555605
Grass is always greener, anon.
>>26555636
Mocking your existence or just making your more aware of your shortcomings?
>>26555538
Well yeah your girlfriend is a commodity to you, its nice having someone there and hey she loves you that's a plus.
But if you stay with her you are never going toexperience anything better, can you live with yourself having given up on love?
If you have a single doubt before starting a relationship with someone, should you just not?
>>26555700
So you're looking at it from his perspective?
Maybe consider that he's a selfish fuck because he still hangs on to somebody even though he has no feelings what so ever? Just as he's being cared for, the other person should
have the oportunity to experience the same thing.
Also, REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
>>26555101
Women like what other women have so don't leave her before you find someone you like better. Being in a relationship greatly increases your shots at uppgrading.
>>26555790
You are a retard
People are broken, you shouldnt judge them by making mistakes
It's not like he is abusing her or something like that this girl actively chooses to see him everyday op is just there
>>26555707
Not necessarily. Maybe escalate things in a more casual way, ie, get to know each other more before getting committed.
>>26555700
I don't know that I would be giving up. I'm only 20. Hopefully there is something better down the road.
>>26555790
I have feelings for her. I want to care for her and like her. But she has said things like what I mentioned in the OP many times and I know deep down that I'll never be able to completely reciprocate those feelings.
>>26555823
Not a bad piece of advice, there.
I understand you and every man with a girlfriend will understand you.
It's nice to have someone but women are way too complicated because mostly of them it's like treating with a 5 years old child but grown up, and that is very tiring.
My advice is just enjoy your time with her (specially sex, you never know when you will have again if you are in r9k) and put some space between both of you and live the life or just get the balls to break that relationship and go on.
>>26555101
My friend did this to his girlfriend of 6 years, hooked up with a girl right afterwards, then proceeded to do the same thing to her like 6-7 months later.
I don't think people like you/him will be satisfied with anyone.
>>26555101
If it still feels good to be around her keep going.
>>26555101
break up with her IMO
>tfw 5/10 gf
>tfw know i can do better
>tfw too awkward and shy to make the effort
>tfw settling for crap but dont want to go back to foreveralone
>>26556216
Do you not care about her feelings?
>>26556216
Grow a fucking spine and leave her. Then again, if you're really that awkward/submissive she probably feels the exact same way about you, maybe you both deserve each others mediocrity.
>>26556134
I hope that's not true, anon. If this is the best relationship I'll ever be in that's just down right depressing.
>>26556153
It does, sometimes. I'm happy when she comes home. It can be fun cooking together or watching anime.
>>26556167
I'll probably stick it out for a few months until my situation is a bit more stable.
>>26555101
This might sound weird, but you need to go on some big adventure with just the two of you, like maybe a roadtrip or just camping, or whatever.
You need to spend more time together getting to know each other, having fun, dealing with each other's stress, etc.
She's about to rope you into marriage
Women aren't capable of emotions, not how she didn't say she 'loves you the most', she said you're her favourite person, as in the most valuable asset on her way to ez-mode life with Chad on the side.
True happiness doesn't lie in gf. Gf is just the carrot that keeps the normies moving.
>>26556272
I don't know if I'm responding to bait or what, but the second you know you don't want to be with somebody, that's when you should definitely break up with them. How much more important is your "situation" than hers that you're waiting for another branch to grasp before you'll do what you know you have to do?
That's a very feminine position.
>>26556294
No I think that's a great idea, man. We always have fun doing those sorts of things but it's been a long time. I think part of what I'm feeling is just being caught in this monotony for so long.
>>26555330
you will still be unhappy once you dump her
>>26556298
Nah we're both too young and I would not marry her under any circumstances. I don't provide for her financially. We split rent/utilities, etc. We will go out to eat sometimes but my friends who make minimum wage take their gfs out more than I do.
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>>26555700
roastie logic blox
>>26556326
Is it? I'm just evaluating my options and will improve my situation when I have the chance. She's not suffering, so what's the problem?
>>26556259
horrible advice
>>26556216
you need to have gf to get gf. roasties dont let go of a branch until they have grabbed the next one
I feel like that with my boyfriend, too. He's so in love with me he sometimes chokes up talking about "us" and legit plans to spend his life with me/has me involved in every aspect of his life. He basically hangs on whatever I say/do and worships me even when I fuck up or act like a jerk. Meanwhile I like him well enough but I don't feel that strongly towards him, if we broke up I'd be ok but not that happy about it. You can't dwell on things that change as quickly as feelings, you can only choose to honor your commitment to somebody and let your actions speak for you.
>>26556423
Does any little bit of criticism you offer him completely devastate him?
>>26556374
And what happens if you never find somebody to move on to? You pretend to love your gf until something forces it out of you?
Why don't you just deal with the feelings of loneliness and do the right thing?
>>26555182
Then the seal is already broken, might as well abuse multiple things
>>26556447
The long and short of it is is that I'm just kind of a neurotic mess and I don't know how to make up my mind. I've been making strides towards improving myself and improving our relationship but I'm not sure if it's all for nothing.
And for the record I've communicated my feelings and said that I don't think I care about her as much as she does for me, etc, etc. But I told her that I still want to be with her because...well. It's nice sometimes, and I think we could have good relationship if we both work towards it. I don't want to be with her forever, but I think we could have fun and help make each other better people.
>>26556491
I've fucked around with painkillers before. They're very nice but I'm just not willing to pay that much to get fucked up. I'd rather smoke meth.
How do you know if you are falling for someone?
>>26555101
Same thing happened to me (gf of 9 months). I decided to break up with her because going on like that wouldnt have been good for neither of us. You will feel like shit for some time but you'll get over it. Just make sure to explain it to her, no bullshitting.
>>26556645
How did you break up?
>>26556238
>>26556259
Why tho? I love her personality its just that shes just not that physically attractive to me (short, flat, sightly chubby, wears too much makeup)
>>26556747
We started talking about how we felt out relationship was going. Eventually I felt the need to tell this to her, I hadn't planned it or anything; we both felt like shit during and after, but I think we ended up on "good terms", we can still talk to each other, no problem. I think she is still waiting for me to change my mind, so I'm trying not to give her false hopes, I'd prefer if she moved on and focused on other things.
>>26556820
have you told her this
>>26556334
Not in the same way. Maybe a little bit lonelier and had to do more chores, but otherwise more happier.
>>26555101
Just keep using her for something to hold at night until you find someone else OP. When it comes to relationships, or anything really, you should be concerned for what you need before anything else. To think otherwise will only cause you regret in the end.
>>26557384
I guess that's the plan for now.
I hope you get ass cancer, you time-wasting user piece of shit.
>>26555101
>But what should I do, robots?
people surely told you this before but a good course of action would be to kill yourself
>>26555200
>she
>vagina
how do you kiss girls properly?
Take some natural antidepressants, you sound like you need some.
Stop watching porn and fapping for a few weeks. See if your view of her changes.
>love
>real
wew lad
Staying with someone you don't see a future with just because you're not sure if you can do better is pretty shitty man. She'll never be able to get that time back.
>>26558959
I really don't watch porn, fampai. Maybe a couple times a month at most. I masturbate probably 3-5 times a week. I forgot to jack it for a few days last week and had a wet dream.
>>26559814
Seems like she's having a good time. I just think I could be having a better one.
>>26559814
How do you know if you are sure though?
become an alcoholic
>>26560125
Already there, buddy.
>>26555101
That's good though the person who cares least in the relationship has all the power.
>>26555101
> what should I do, robots?
probably leave r9k tbqh
I was like this and then I fell in love with the girl. Do you wanna fall in love with her? Or cut it off before things hurt and you learn the terror of another person?
>>26555250
What was the glitch in the matrix. I want to be able to find a gf without having to first develop a social life.
>>26560215
Yes, in a sense I have the least to lose. She would be losing her "favorite person" and I would be losing...something much less significant.
>>26560241
Yeah, probably.
>>26560250
I wouldn't mind falling in love with her.
>>26560282
Well I was hanging out with my friends who are all degenerate weirdos doing LSD. Then someone says that another friend, B, is coming over and bringing a girl, A.
He brings over this girl and she's pretty hot. I offer her some drugs and she accepts. Right from the start she is very into me. B is a total Beta orbiter who has been buying this girl shit online for months and hasn't even fucked her. I am drunk enough to convince her to fuck me that night (I was in a wheelchair from a car accident at the time as well).
B was kind of pissed but got over it. Over the course of the summer my parents kicked me out for being a scumbag and doing drugs. I didn't have anywhere to go and somehow convince A to move in with me. I have no money or possessions so she pays the deposit and rent on a house and we move in together.
Now I have a pretty good job, the glow of the first few months has worn off. And I'm not sure where I want to go from here.
>>26560444
>Hanging out with friends sharing drugs
>Normie get out this place isn't for your kind
>>26561014
I would probably be your friend if you asked, robot.
>>26555101
Do not change anything. This is how it's properly done
The woman must be invested in you more than you are in them.
It's all biological.
Many of them don't fully understand it. They may believe there own independence is what the actually want but that psychologically doesn't make sense for most women.
Back in the caveman Era women were caretakers and gatherers, while men hunted.
The relationship was symbiotic but the women truly relied on men for the survival of of themselves in there children. A man can hunt on his own and provide for himself, but most women can only gather berries.
They literally wouldn't be able to survive without meat. This put a reliance on men to provide. Womens contributions was procreation and caretaking.
Though much has changed over the millenia, humans still contain primordial instincts.
This is the reason why many girls seek relationships with older men. The age difference suggests more maturity and ability to provide.
Relationship where the man cares more or equally about the woman just don't last.
>>26561351
There are some serious benefits to me. She will do what I say and take care of me. But all females are a pain in the ass in some way or another. And sometimes it can be difficult putting up with her shit because I don't care about her that much.
>>26555636
Fuck you. You don't get to say who comes on this board and who doesn't. This isn't the 'virgin board' its /r9k/ and that only means that comments have to be original, not exclusively from virgin.
Tl;Dr no u gtfo
>>26561613
That's fine.
She's offering you emotional support and helping you with tasks.
As long as you maintain the perception that you do not depend on her, then she will continue being interested in you.
Is there an easy way of telling a girl you can't commit?
