In normal relationships, how does sex work?
Specifically, I want to know who in most cases does the initiating? Is it the male?
And, is it blatant such as the male asking the girl "hey do you want to have sex", or something like "when we get home we should have sex", "we should have sex tomorrow". Or is it more subtle, like the male starts touching her more and tries to kiss her and just escalates it?
What would you say is the normal?
Also, does the female ever say to the male eg, "I want to have sex later today", or does the female start to kiss the male and escalate? Or is sex more the male trying to get the girl to accept it?
I want to be filed in. I feel like I don't actually know how relationships work even though I'm 23 lol
And a few other questions:
>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)?
>do the man and women get completely naked?
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? or is it bright in the day? don't people feel shy being naked in the bright light?
>what happens after sex, as in wouldn't all the cum come out of the girls vagina, or does it stay in there? does she have to go clean her vagina after?
>is it awkward afterward?
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing? do they kiss the whole time while having sex or is it not like that?
>are you supposed to shower beforehand or after?
>are you supposed to talk about it after? like "that was fun I liked x I didn't like y etc"
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what? and in porn the girl makes crass talk I mute it, but that doesn't happen in real life right? "oh fuck my tight pussy oh fuck yeah fuck me ahahah hss hss" lol
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy?
Someone fill me in, I feel naive.
The day i schedule sex is the day I an hero.
>>26544909
Yah you don't talk about it you just start kissing her and teasing her until she gets horny then you slip it in. Girls do the same they kiss you until you get hard then you fuck. No one plans it it needs to be spontaneous
>>26544909
I was in a relationship for about a month so I might be able to shed a little bit of insight.
>I usually did the initiating (I'm a male), though I'm sure if I didn't initiate she probably would have at some point.
>It usually starts with kissing when we're alone (tongue kissing), although every time she got undressed to go to bed I would initiate and she'd go along with it. And when we were in bed I'd fuck her multiple times, usually two or three (we once spent an entire day just having sex, watching Red Dwarf, and getting breakfast/dinner).
>I'm pretty vanilla so it was all in missionary, the excitement generally came through technique (how fast/deep I'm thrusting), I've found that women enjoy it if you vary your speed/depth
>it mostly happened in bed or in the shower
>it happened completely naked
>the lights tended to be off, but it sometimes happened in the morning/during the day. Day and morning sex are pretty cash, I would recommend it as a way to start your day.
>she always cleaned the cum out with a paper towel or tissue
>it's not really awkward, you feel closer together in some respects
>it all depends, generally kissing initiates it but sometimes we'd kiss along the way all throughout
>either/or, it depends on when in the day you do it. If it's in the morning it makes sense to take a shower after.
>you can, I generally didn't because I'm kind of a prude
>"oh fuck me harder" and shit like that, I'm not particularly well endowed so the moans were more subdued, except for when I'd do things like change speeds
>sober sex is the norm, it all depends on the person. some women prefer drunk sex.
>Partner, usually male, starts getting touchy feely and it escalates
Simple as that usually
>>26545107
>spent an entire day just having sex
How saw were you after that?
>>26544909
Your post is really autistic sounding.Even though Im just as ignorant as you . . .
Read some game blogs. In the initial stages of a relationship (and assuming you arent dating a nympho) it seems like there is a lot of dancing around the issue and calculated escalation.
>>26545171
Not him but sex doesn't make your dick as sore as jacking it, you just get really tired afterwards. Girls get sore though, some of them get hungry for whatever reason
>Once got bored and fingered gf to 8 consecutive orgasms without stopping while watching tv
>Was out of it for hours after basically just laying against me in this weird bliss state
>She told me later it hurt to pee for days afterwards
Good times
![get-out-266x300[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/Ic52ceF.jpg "get-out-266x300[1].jpg")
>>26545107
Thanks for sharing normal scum.
>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)?
pretty much always in a bed, have done it more than a few times in a cubicle or disabled toilet, once outside, laying on a towel
>do the man and women get completely naked?
yeah, unless we're rushing, it's also pretty hot that way, it's nice having her with just her trousers around her knees
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? or is it bright in the day? don't people feel shy being naked in the bright light?
always with light
>what happens after sex, as in wouldn't all the cum come out of the girls vagina, or does it stay in there? does she have to go clean her vagina after?
if she's on top she drips it on my stomach when she gets off my penis, then clean with tissues. if I'm on top we try to catch it with tissues
>is it awkward afterward?
no, usually we cuddle, in fact, I don't even bother pulling out before cuddling, it's a very intimate moment
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing? do they kiss the whole time while having sex or is it not like that?
missionary and her on top with perhaps kissing, nipple sucking
>are you supposed to shower beforehand or after?
lmao, who cares about that? I usually just wash my penis first (I'm uncut)
>are you supposed to talk about it after? like "that was fun I liked x I didn't like y etc"
yeah, eg "would it be ok if I kissed your anus next time?"
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what? and in porn the girl makes crass talk I mute it, but that doesn't happen in real life right? "oh fuck my tight pussy oh fuck yeah fuck me ahahah hss hss" lol
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_copulatory_vocalizations#Among_women
only women biologically designated to be whores moan during sex
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy?
for me, zero. In fact we've both never really be drunk.
>>26545171
My dick was less sore than my wrists from holding myself up because the bitch was being lazy and didn't want to get on top.
>>26545332
>with just her trousers around her knees
Can she spread enough like that?
This is really the thing that robots are missing. Not teenage sex, not taking a girls virginity, not innies or non-roasties or any of that other nonsense.
The feeling that robots will probably never have is making love to a girlfriend you really love and who really loves you. That's the real tragedy, because THAT is the best feeling a human being can have.
>>26545409
>implying the feeling of having sex with someone who loves you is even comparable to the warm, sweet embrace of prescription opiates
>>26545409
True. Just because we never have doesn't mean all hate those who have.
>>26545409
Yeah, well you know. There's also that a hug once a year would be a nice stepping stone.
>>26545409
whoa this shit just got deep asf
>>26545391
No, but that's kind of part of the fun
>>26545409
perhaps.
I lost my virginity to my qt virgin innie gf when I was 17, and her 18, and we are still together. We really do love each other, and I don't think that would be possible if she was a whore and I had fucked 20 other women before her. This is all documented by the way.
As an added bonus, we made some porn together(on my 18th lmao), and everytime I jack off to it, the thing that really gets me is the loving look in her eyes, the way that she holds me, the hugs etc.
(yes, I am the kind of faggot who would include naked cuddling in porn, I will never regret it)
>>26545409
>>The feeling that robots will probably never have is making love to a girlfriend you really love and who really loves you. That's the real tragedy, because THAT is the best feeling a human being can have.
I would argue that the best feeling a human being can have is succeeding at a long term goal like writing a novel or something like that.
>tfw reading this tread gives you a massive erection
kill me now desu
>>26545594
I think it's generally accepted than being in love is the best feeling a person can have. Coupled with the physical pleasure of sex (which is the best physical feeling you can have), I think making love to a woman you love has to be top.
lost virginity to 30 year old
all she wanted was sex every 30mins-1hour
straight up ask me "hey want to have sex"
>yeah
"well take of your fucking pants then
that went on for about 3 months until she dumped me cuz i couldnt support her drinking habit.
>>26545620
Something would be wrong if it didn't.What happens for you fembots? For science!
>>26545620
>tfw it doesn't
I don't know how i'm supposed to feel.
>>26545686
how do you find a gf like that?
>>26545718
she came onto me. i guess the best way to find girls like these are in bars. I was also 19 at the time. she got me drunk and then sucked my dick and fucked me.
>>26545718
>>26545743
Also came in her. Shit was cash.
>>26545704
Perhaps it would work irl.
nobody gives a shit about initiation, basically if you want to you start kissing and foreplay, or if you're more like talking you can start talking dirty and just come out with it. Mostly, its not that big of a deal. With my girlfriend we usually start off in missionary, then we go doggy for a while, and finish on her stomach, occasionally she rides me. Its never awkward afterward, and she usually showers to clean up because we don't use condoms. We usually say a few comments, especially if it was more intense or more romantic than usual , or if something was really good in particular. My girlfriend is really loud when she can be, (when her roommates aren't home, we go to college and the walls are very thin). We literally have never had drunk sex, unless you count buzzed at around 2-3 drinks.
>>26545805
Maybe, don't have any motivation/desire though either so I'll never know.
As a male you just escalate.
Smack her ass, kiss her neck, start grabbing her etc and then proceed to fuck her.
Also almost all girls like guys who are rough. Don't worry about her orgasm and just fuck her hard and she'll be happy.
>>26545743
>>26545760
great. thanks for bragging normie.
>>26545860
Think of it as inspiration.
for the first part, intiation really varies with me and my gf. I'd say most of the time it's me just kind of starting to get up on her and being more physical/handsy until she gets the hint and starts kissing/touching me back
for the rest, all questions are just in my own experience with the one girl I've been the most sexual with btw
>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)?
yes
>do the man and women get completely naked?
yes it's awesome being totally naked with someone
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? or is it bright in the day? don't people feel shy being naked in the bright light?
dimmer is more romantic, and everyone looks better when it's a little dark. no shyness, see above
>what happens after sex, as in wouldn't all the cum come out of the girls vagina, or does it stay in there? does she have to go clean her vagina after?
idk what my gf does after sex but she always goes to the bathroom. I assume she's cleaning up, wiping jizz out of her pussy, whatever
>is it awkward afterward?
if i fall asleep during yes it's awkward the next morning when I wake up with a hangover
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing? do they kiss the whole time while having sex or is it not like that?
missionary is probably most common. kiss every now and then when not checking out all the naked body stuff going on
>>26546081
cont
>are you supposed to talk about it after? like "that was fun I liked x I didn't like y etc"
sometimes if something stands out mention it. if i have questions maybe ask "was when i did x good?"
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what? and in porn the girl makes crass talk I mute it, but that doesn't happen in real life right? "oh fuck my tight pussy oh fuck yeah fuck me ahahah hss hss" lol
porn girls are acting, most of the time. ymmv. some girls are louder than others
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy?
drunk sex is awesome, but I tend to get drunker which can ruin it.
>>26545332
>I don't even bother pulling out before cuddling
How hard is it to stay inside if you are not actively fucking? Have always wondered if you could just cuddle wile you go soft or would she squeeze it out quick.
>>26544909
If you want an answer for someone been in a relationship for three years post again in a few hours if this thread 404s ill answer when I get home.
>>26546260
it takes a while for me to go soft when I'm inside her, and then the cum might drip out around my penis
>>26546260
She probably can't squeeze out an erect penis, she would just squeeze againts it.
But once you go soft and it retracts some, she would be able to squeeze it out... If she wanted. But she has voluntary control over those muscles like you do over your spincter. So if she still wanted you in, she wouldn't squeeze. And there is no reason your penis would fall out assuming you didn't change position much.
>>26545718
bru she was probably overweight and made him pay for her alcoholism. Not worth
This seems fun
>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)? Wherever is convenient, generally the bed, sofa or shower.
>do the man and women get completely naked? Kinda depends, Normally they all come off eventually.
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? or is it bright in the day? don't people feel shy being naked in the bright light? She is a bit shy when it comes to her body but during it she claims not to be as bothered so its up to her.
>what happens after sex, as in wouldn't all the cum come out of the girls vagina, or does it stay in there? does she have to go clean her vagina after? Sadly we use protection.
>is it awkward afterward? Nah, sometimes we giggle because we are all children at heart but its pretty romantic and shit.
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing? do they kiss the whole time while having sex or is it not like that? Switch positions a lot, kissing is like just an act of reassurance most of the time.
>are you supposed to shower beforehand or after? Easier after.
>are you supposed to talk about it after? like "that was fun I liked x I didn't like y etc". We hint at it but normally over time not right after.
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what? and in porn the girl makes crass talk I mute it, but that doesn't happen in real life right? "oh fuck my tight pussy oh fuck yeah fuck me ahahah hss hss" lol. Porn super exaggerate it but she is never mute.
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy? Neither of us drink but have sex fairly frequently, its all about picking the right person
>>26546775
wat format how
>>26546552
Sometimes a vagina will compulse uncontrollably for several seconds after the girl cums.
>>26545107
>"oh fuck me harder" and shit like that, I'm not particularly well endowed so the moans were more subdued, except for when I'd do things like change speeds
lol btfo
Why do dicklets even try?
>>26546828
That makes sense.
>>26546775
>we use protection.
How much of a moment killer is that?
>>26545107
>>26545332
>>26545409
>>26546081
>>26546122
>>26546775
This makes me unsure if I should stay the schizoid person I have chosen to be, or if I should go find someone.
>>26546986
Do you have a choice?
>>26547001
I think so. I choose to not interact with most people because most of them are pretty shitty. I still want human contact, so I come here, which probably only strengthens my belief that humanity is shitty. But then there are some things that are really, really heartwarming that happen here.
I probably could change myself and interact. I have decent social skills that I can pull out if absolutely necessary. I'm not full autismo, I just prefer to keep to myself.
>>26546956
Not a big deal unless it's an un expected requirement or difficult to find
>>26547092
Are you sure that's true or do you hope that's true...
>>26544909
>Specifically, I want to know who in most cases does the initiating? Is it the male?
>And, is it blatant such as the male asking the girl "hey do you want to have sex", or something like "when we get home we should have sex", "we should have sex tomorrow". Or is it more subtle, like the male starts touching her more and tries to kiss her and just escalates it?
usually just escalate from kissing. Sometimes she'll rub and play with my dick with pants on
>Also, does the female ever say to the male eg, "I want to have sex later today", or does the female start to kiss the male and escalate?
Simetimes she buys the condoms beforehand. Its always a pleasant surprise.
>>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)?
Mostly bed, sometimes car, ocasionally couch
>do the man and women get completely naked?
Sometimes. Last week she kept her teddy bear pjs on with the buttons undone. Sometimes she keeps the skirt or socks on (my fetish). once she put on a see through blouse at my request. Clothes on is sexier
>>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? Mostly night for me.
Ive gotten some Omgs but its mostly moaning
>>26547092
Super secret cheat code on finding a good gf: one who's parents are still together.
>>26547130
>I keep to myself to keep away my feelings of crippling insecurity
I've thought about that before, but I remind myself of when I was in 6th grade and actually had friends. I was not Chad-tier, but I was not the kid who was bullied his whole time in school. In 9th grade I learned that the world is completely fucked and really only had 3 friends who I wanted to talk to.
>>26547199
What about if one of the parents died from accident or natural causes?
>>26545594
love is basically constant oxytocin being released in your brain to trick you into having kids
in my experience achieving a goal isnt even that joyous, it's more like being proud and then moving onto the next thing with what you've learned
>>26546876
>tfw the only reason she even enjoyed sex with me at all is because I've got a chode (if I was a thin dicklet I'd have had no chance at all).
>>26547239
That's ok, kind of like how it's ok to be a single mother if your husband went under a bus, it's not got to do with the relationship being shitty. Same goes for if her parents are still together but hate each other and its constant drama in her family.
>>26545332
>only women biologically designated to be whores moan during sex
so all women moan then
>>26547239
That is a different matter.
>Specifically, I want to know who in most cases does the initiating? Is it the male?
Mostly the guy. It normally goes like this:
A) Initator starts doing low level thing to turn on other person/let them know they want sex. This could be like tracing on skin, rubbing body against, subtle flirting
B) person 2 either is neutral, shows interest, or changes focus.
Neutral, if guy initiating on girl, normally means continue. They could shut it down by mentioning something else or doing something else, or could accelerate things by flirting heavily back, via touching and/or verbal
>And, is it blatant such as the male asking the girl "hey do you want to have sex"
I've never had that happen. But SO and I are not very forward people
>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)?
90% of the time it ends in bed. often it will start on couch, standing, in car
Is their anyone here that lost their virginity at 20+ and ended up with a normal loving relationship?
>>26547390
good question, but I think 24+ would be better. 20 means you are still in college, and once you are out of that environment where there is a lot of girl around I can see how it would get harder.
>>26547390
My parents did. They are still together in their 80s.
>>26547390
I lost mine last october a week before turning 21. Shes my gf now and shes 19, she didnt seem to mind I was a virgin. Always play the "what are you getting me for my birthday?" card with girls
>>26545630
I see you haven't try heroin or any good drugs for that matter, if you think sex even comes close to a best physical feeling
>>26547362
>do the man and women get completely naked?
often guy or girl will keep shirt partially on. obviously pants and undies come off
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? or is it bright in the day? don't people feel shy being naked in the bright light?
often at night, but its nice to look at each others bodies
>what happens after sex, as in wouldn't all the cum come out of the girls vagina, or does it stay in there? does she have to go clean her vagina after?
ever heard of the "wet spot" jokes? it kinda comes out, but not all at once.
>is it awkward afterward?
only the first ~5 months, normally the post-orgasm or at least post-sex bliss prevents too much awkwardness
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing? do they kiss the whole time while having sex or is it not like that?
depends on couple, but mostly missionary, with doggy and riding being other common.
>are you supposed to shower beforehand or after?
shower before datenight 100% of the time, and wipe down before sex if you have time, but normally its impromptu and don't have time for that. If you sweat easily, shower afterwards, but that's not too common.
>are you supposed to talk about it after? like "that was fun I liked x I didn't like y etc"
depends on couple. we normally talk about it, always in positives though, because high on endorphins
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what? and in porn the girl makes crass talk I mute it, but that doesn't happen in real life right? "oh fuck my tight pussy oh fuck yeah fuck me ahahah hss hss" lol
moans cannot be helped and come out unless focusing hard on orgasm, or obviously muffled. dirty talk like that is quite rare, but some couples do
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy
not too often. But alcohol makes sex easier. depends on how much the couple drinks.
>>26544909
cyborg with gf here.
>who in most cases does the initiating? Is it the male?
i do about 80% of the time.
>does male blatantly ask or is it more subtle?
both. sometimes if we haven't done it in a while, one of us will suggest it, depending on whoever's in the mood. sometimes it's just a natural progression from making out to foreplay to sex.
>where does most sex happen (eg, bed)?
mostly in my bed, since it's more comfy and we're likely going to sleep after or just waking up. sometimes in the shower
>do the man and women get completely naked?
not always. we both like the idea of needing each other so much that there's no time to fully unclothe. if it gets hot (temperature-wise) i'll take off all my clothes. her juices stain my shirts and it looks like cum so i try to not wear a shirt
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? do people get shy?
my room is naturally pretty dark, but i prefer having a light on so i can see where i'm sticking my dick. if you're really into each other, shyness goes away
>do you clean up after?
i don't cum inside her pussy, only in her ass, in a condom or on her chest or face. ass-cum gets farted/shit out later, condom cum gets thrown away obviously,and i get wet wipes and clean up if i cum on her body or face
>is it awkward afterward?
not if you're into each other. i've had a few awkward moments with my girlfriend if i have trouble staying hard, but the awkwardness is on my end. a good woman will be understanding. men are not fuck-machines who can maintain 100% erection indefinitely.
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing?
we mostly do doggy, missionary or sideways T (she lays on her back on my bed, i stand to the side). as for kissing, depends on the people, we really like kissing so there's a lot if the position allows
(1/2)
>>26544909
(2/2) cont from >>26547461
>are you supposed to shower beforehand or after?
we usually don't do either. you can shower before if you feel like you smell funky and/or after if you get super sweaty.
>are you supposed to talk about it after? like "that was fun I liked x I didn't like y etc"
if we try something new or want to next time, yes. otherwise we just kiss and fall asleep or get ready for the day.
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what?
my girl does moan, but we try to keep it quiet because of my roommate. i'll cover her mouth with my hand if she gets noisy; it helps that she likes that, too. she does most of the dirty talk since i tend to overthink that kind of thing (which leads to me losing my hardon).
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy?
we don't drink much, but we've had a lot of sex while high. in relationships people aren't really so shy around each other, so having sex sober isn't grounds for awkwardness. it feels great and doing it while high makes it feel even better and more intense (especially when you are in love).
hope this helps.
>>26547390
I lost mine 2 years ago when I was 23 after dating the same girl for 5 years without ever fucking
wouldnt say it was normal since we are both weird aspies
>>26545107
Yesterday I spent the day with my chinese qt girlfriend having sex, marathon watching star wars (OT of course), and ordering pizza for lunch and dinner.
Those days are best days.
>>26547108
>>26547212
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorder#Akhtar.27s_phenomenological_profile
I did some research. I hit almost all of these.
>>26547521
Why would you do that, anon? What a tremendous waste of time.
>>26547390
i lost mine at 24, but we broke up after about four months. my relationship with my current girlfriend (met a month after my ex and i broke up) is much better than the one i had with my ex.
>>26545187
>Read some game blogs.
"Game" is delusional bullshit. No one likes a faker and "learning game" is fake as fuck.
>>26547390
Yeah, lost mine at 22.
Two years later and two relationships later, I feel back on track.
>>26547560
physical intimacy makes me really uncomfortable, we've only just started sleeping in the same bed this month
>>26547603
This gives me hope.
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>>26547761
people like you are the reason /r9k/ has been turning into tumblr
>>26547800
>>26547761
Triggered much, famalam?
>>26547803
what de hek?
was full normie degenerate for a while, my best shot
>where does most sex happen
usually bed or various public places like bathrooms and secluded alleys.
>do the man and women get completely naked?
usually yes if in a bed
>is sex mostly happen at night in the darkness? or is it bright in the day? don't people feel shy being naked in the bright light?
only fucked in the dark once, when i lost v card, didn't know what i was doing, and almost didn't get it in. never did it again
>what happens after sex, as in wouldn't all the cum come out of the girls vagina, or does it stay in there? does she have to go clean her vagina after?
i always used condoms and kicked the girl out after, would sometimes give her a ride somewhere but usually no. if im at her house i usually fall asleep for a while then leave
>is it awkward afterward?
imo, yes.
>what is the main position couples have sex in? and also, how much of sex is kissing? do they kiss the whole time while having sex or is it not like that?
i always fucked doggy or cowgirl, few times missionary when i had an inexperienced partner
>are you supposed to shower beforehand or after?
i always showered after.
>are you supposed to talk about it after?
I assume so, but never did it myself, would usually just say 'welp that was fun' and excuse myself
>does the girl really moan when having sex? are they really quite loud or what? and in porn the girl makes crass talk I mute it, but that doesn't happen in real life right? "oh fuck my tight pussy oh fuck yeah fuck me ahahah hss" lol
some girls talk dirty, it's just as disgusting as in porn. i was always very rough so they made noise, would try and make them get loud
>what percentage of sex happens while under the influence of alcohol, in normal relationships? is it the norm to have sex sober? aren't people shy?
i've never had sex sober, I think it was a problem of mine. coincidentally when i swore off drugs and drink girls stopped wanting to fuck me, realized sex is degeneracy
>>26544909
Been with my wife for 12 years now. Best answer I can give you is....it depends. I'd say I initiate it 60% of the time. Sometimes it's overt like "I wanna stick my dick in you" and other times it's more...."hey come here..." and then on to the romancing. And sometimes she'll do the same things ("We should have sex" or "hey papi, come here"). All depends on our moods.
>Location
Bed usually, sometimes living room or kitchen.
>Nudity
Sometimes I'll keep my boxers on if I'm feeling lazy, but otherwise we're both full nude
>Time
Afternoon usually, because of our schedules
>After
Yes, it does leak out and yes she has to clean it. We usually shower together afterwords though so it's not as big of a deal. Positions and all that depend on your partner. Same with talking. We usually talk though, that's part of the bonding.
>Drugs/booze
Used to have drunk sex but I last waaaayyyy too long so we don't do that anymore.
I passed a girl in an alley once. I looked at her, and a warm feeling permeated my torso. I had to look away, nearly tripped over myself, and once she was out of earshot I laughed. For the rest of the day I was more aware that I existed in a physical form like all the other people. Is this what wanting to have sex is like? I'd never experienced it before, haven't since, and I never want to again. It confuses me to this day, I don't even do drugs or drink and had done nothing differently that day.
>>26548561
that was your urge to kill whores
>>26547651
>just started sleeping in the same bed
How long does this take most couples to get used to?
How are all these people cumming in their GF regularly? Is birth control that trust worthy?
>>26547390
I lost my virginity age 20, a couple months later meeting and going out with my first current GF, who was 18 at the time. I really thought I'd missed the window for that young, naive, childish love that r9k romanticises, was such a blessing I got to experience it, very surreal. Anyway, 20 is absolutely not "too far gone" material.
>>26548723
Shouldn't take time at all.
I remember being frightened at the prospect of being this close to someone, waking up in the morning with them, smelling their morning breath and shit and worrying about them smelling mine. I'm not a morning person and hate being around even my own family early morning for these reasons.
but with my GF, it was never an issue. It's like while I can certainly acknowledge what should be unpleasant sights and sounds, that "yuck" switch doesn;t come on in my brain. I just want to be close to them at all times and love them wholly.
>>26549483
Birth control is super trustworthy after like the first week, the thing that fucks it up is women not taking it on purpose or on accident
With me it always just ended up would sit on her bed because her nerd flatmate was playing video games in the lounge. Eventually she'd cuddle up and it goes from there. Like rubbing her ass on my dick or I'll just put my hand close to her pussy.
Need to remember both of them will be keen to fuck. I once had this petite slavic girl. I watched a show or something that day where the dude just picked his gf up and banged her against a wall soon after she arrived with no warning/foreplay so I wanted to give it a try. It worked and I nutted in about a minute.
>>26545257
Gf used to stop me after one clit orgasm. She said she felt like she was about to pee.
>remember first time I made her cum
>she was a sheltered Romanian virgin so had no idea what it was
>shook violently and tensed up for a good 20s
God that was hot.
