I just lost my best friend and I don't really feel anything. They kept pushing me away because they didn't want to get close to anyone. Said they were okay just being friends with me just not clothes anymore. We've been friends for three years and I've done nothing to cause them to feel I'd betray them.Stuck with them through all their shit. Told them personal shit.And in the end they reject me. I was sick of their shit and said I was done.
>Am I horrible for doing this /r9k/? Should I have just accepted their pushing away and dealt with it?
I had a friend who was always mildly annoying, like talking all the time, interrupting people, not listening. All he ever wanted to do was hang out in his basement and get high and watch tv. Then when we'd go out he'd say "nah how about you come hang out at my place?" Then he'd bitch and blame us for never wanting to hang out with him. I just stopped talking to him eventually.
Kinda going through that right now. My only friend in this shithole town.
I did so much for him, I talked my dad into hiring him, then he quit two weeks in. I got him connected with a job coach, talked local business owners into giving him an interview. Gave him rides to go with me to smash bros. tournaments, at times, fed him.
Now he's not talking to me because I'm "abusive" and "immature". When I'm employed full time and independent and he's living at home, a KV doing nothing but begging mummy for money.
All I did was punch him in the arm when we were messing around, and said stuff like "get rekt" when we were playing video games. To him that is, per his words, "verbal and physical abuse" and his therapist says that it's not okay.
It sucks that don't have any non-work related contacts in town, but I guess it's for the best and I can rest easy knowing that I have friends in other nearby towns, and I'm independent.
Wow, Your friend sounds kind of like a lil bitch.
>>25424043
I know it's you, and you know this is me
>tfw have a dream about friends you haven't seen in years
>tfw waking up to your life of having no friends in a thousand miles
>tfw your old friends have gfs, wives, etc. now so you'd be awkward around them anyway
fucking dreams...
>>25424892
Hate when that happens. I don't want to be reminded about what could have been even in my dreams. For fucks sake.
>>25424892
Having friends? NORMIE REEEEE
>>25424892
Damn it! Not now...
>>25424043
>Said they were okay just being friends with me just not clothes anymore
Maybe you should iron them a little more?
had this friend from 2013. We met in elementary but only hung out in our freshmen year. She's pretty chill, kinda nerdy, and she likes talking about stuff normally spoken on 3 am online. First it started how she was asking me about atheism and religion and stuff cuz she said I was the first atheist she knows(fedora kek.) Friendship got more intimate and we started talking more about our problems and feelings. Says she enjoys talking to me because I actually listen unlike her former friends from highschool.
January, we started going out. Watching plays and concerts and such. Mostly with my other friends so it gets a little embarassing sometimes.
Things were going well but she started talking less with my as the months go by.
Greet her for her birthday last april but then I found out she blocked me from every social media site. Got depressed for months. Ate less, less motivation, started going out less than usual with friends.
Decided to visit her last september to talk about it. Maybe I did or said something offensive or maybe she was having problems on which I can help her with but she wasn't home as said by her mom.
One time after a few days, I checked on her twitter(I have 2 accounts btw. One for personal and the other as a meme page) and she was just talking shit about me saying how she doesn't need me anymore and how we've grown apart.
Got in the dumps again, feeling like shit. To sad to fap even, didn't even do anything else fun but read and read.
Friends tried consoling me which felt good but still lacked. Right now I'm still getting over it.
I just need some closure
>>25425729
>guy is wearing his friends
>is surprised when they don't want to be that close
>>25426169
That sucks man. Sorry that happened. You need to forgot about her because if she can so easily do something like that to somebody without feeling a twinge fo guilt then she's toxic and undeserving of you tbqh fampai.
>>25424892
>live in small town
>sometimes see people that i knew in high school
>know that they either don't remember me or don't want to talk to me
>keep walking
>>25426299
thanks bot-senpai
Been forcing myself to forget her but whenever I've gotten over her, she just appears in my dreams for weeks
>>25427039
I mean it's hard to forget someone that you trusted like that. It's understandable. You just gotta sit back at some point,by yourself,and just release all the feelings you have about her.I screamed and cried into a pillow like a little bitch when I did itThat's what I did with my ex and I've felt pretty good ever since.
>>25427173
still am. Been hanging with good company and constantly distracting myself with hobbies
>>25424043
I gradually got sick of all of humanity and just stopped talking to everyone. The end.
My bestfriend committed suicide last June. I went through the stages of grief. Acceptance came most recently. He was someone I've known since I was 8. I lost it, I was out with a girl I was crushing on, head over heels, 10/10 crush, and a group of her friends.I got the news from his brother and I lost it. Couldn't stop crying, felt embarassed whilst feeling like a complete fucking asshole for not being able to help him. Eventually led me to go into a mental hospital for suicidal idealizations as 5 months later the same girl distanced herself from me. I loved her. Felt really empty. Still do.
>Be lonely, KHV robot
>No one's ever shown attention to me
>Meet guy on steam
>We talk often, joke, laugh, he shows me more affection than any other human
>Basically spend hours talking to this guy. Sharing personal thoughts
>I somehow fall in love with him
>Think "Oh shit, what the fuck am I doing"
>Can't deal with the fact that I like him WAY More than he likes me
>Block him because out of some mixture of guilt, shame, and unrequited love
>Still miss him years later
Some of us weren't meant to be close to people
>>25424043
Why the fuck are you saying "them" instead of he or she?
Not yet but fuck does it seem to be approaching fast. Why the fuck did you have to crush on me you faggot? Why do you have such shit taste?
>meet guy in middle school
>he's one of the few people more autistic than me
>talk with him often all the way through 10th grade, probably the only friend I had at that point
>never had classes with him after that
>try to talk to him on steam occasionally but he hardly ever responds
>he deleted me a month ago
>meet kid in grade school
>autistic but not as much as me
>play games, talk at school
>only friend
>years later
>have Facebook account for stalking and shit
>he posted on facebook saying he
might end it or something hinting at it
> say he's attention whoring and call him out because he does this often
>hasn't talked to me in weeks
Sometimes you eat the bear...
>>25424892
I had the same type of dream
>>25424043
I lost my best friend 2 years ago when I confessed my feelings to him.
We still met each other a lot these days, but he barely talks to me and call me a faggot.
I lost one of my only friends a few months ago because I called him out on his SJW bullshit. He always posted shit online bitching about "stupid racist Republicans/blah blah blah" and essentially calling anyone who disagreed with him a "fucking worthless idiot". So I simply said "maybe you shouldn't act like this. I mean, you're only making people more racist and angry by screaming at them". He proceeded to block me on all accounts and hasn't talked to me in months
>>25429575
I'm sorry this happened man :/
>best friend whos now a normie and doesn't even acknowlage your existance
>>25429071
Same happend to me almost word for word
I'm not sure how if my best friend still considers me that but I really like him
We rarely talk nowadays even online simply because I don't feel like talking ever
>>25424043
I blocked him from everything.
He was very dear to me but also really annoying. I don't know why minor annoyances would ruin the friendship for me; I thought I was someone who could take the good with the bad.
>>25424654
>To him that is, per his words, "verbal and physical abuse" and his therapist says that it's not okay.
Ok, so I can agree with you that that's kind of overreacting. But if he's sensitive enough to get bothered by it, then maybe you should stop punching him in the arm?
I had a best friend for what had to be around 16 years, ever since were around 5ish I think
>Inseperable, like brothers essentially
>Played games, ate pizza, watched movies and anime and shit together
>Would bunk college just to go chill or see the new AvP movie
>Get into all sorts of situations, including being out on the street 3am whilst it's pissing it down and we're insanely drunk, singing songs and all sorts
>He got into the wrong crowd when he got a job at Game, stole from the place multiple times
>Thought it was cool at the time myself, got to play games like DmC 4 a week early.
>Gets caught, goes to court etc gets off with fine.
>So it begins
>Started lying and turning up a lot less, stealing from friends, oweing people thousands
>Disappeared to Spain for a holiday where his mum had a B&B out there.
>Never returned until a year later, got arrested as his foot touched the ground for theft year ago.
>Deal with it anyway, lose a lot of my friends siding with him, even though he was the only person that didn't judge me for being introverted
>As time goes by, ends up stealing for me a few times, selling my 360 as well
>Went to court against him, STILL managed to forgive and forget, made excuses
>Eventually stole a 600 quid bonus I got from work whilst I was AT work.
>Cut off all contacts, found out he went to court for stealing 86k from an old school friend who had returned from the army after losing his legs.
>Went to jail for a year, this was 2 years ago, heard he got out but haven't heard from or of him since.
>Still dream almost daily about our friendship in the past, when I was actually happy.
>Become so insanely bitter that seem to sabotage any friendship I have now, wanting to be alone but hating it at the same time.
>start hanging out with old friends after I dropped out of school and got a job
>hang out with them every single night for a year
>lost my job
>started running out of money
>started hearing from them less and less
>eventually completely out of money
>never hear from them again
I still don't understand how you could keep someone around for such a long time and only be using them for money.
>>25430639
Yeah the whole "pretending you dont exist thing" is fucking annoying
I was best friends with this guy for like five or six years, he would always come over and we'd play vidya games and have pizza, pretty chill, we never argued about anything really, and we told each other about serious things, our issues, we were pretty close. This one day he just started ignoring me along with two of my other friends, I'd bring up a topic and they just dont respond. So I apologized to them for whatever I did, which I still haven't a clue what it was, the two other friends were chill with it, but I got no answer from him. Later I was I invited to hang out with all of them like old times and what not. But of course they fucking bailed on me.
2 years later we started to talk again (the first anon I mentioned), and now I have some new friends (we just kind of have gatherings, fuckin wierd right?) And of course I hear through my other friends that he still hates my guts and wont get that grudge out of his ass. Then he pulls this whole "I won't show up if anon is present" to which he doesn't even have the balls to tell me himself. So then i just sorta stop getting invited to stuff and get shut out, again
Fucking bullshit man
>>25424043
This doesn't even sound like a friend, family.
>>25431097
confront that pussy nigga and ask him what the fuck his issue is?
I have a friend who just did this maybe 3 or 4 months ago.
He just up and left one day. With some drama. I didn't chase him.
Good guy but he was a jealous and insecure has been chad and no doubt he's been dissapointed with the response.
>>25431156
I've done that multiple times but he just doesn't say anything and attempts to avoid me, it's like he's afraid of me
>>25427022
this happens to me also.
hardly anyone spoke to me in school.
>>25424043
>> started working after dad had brain damage
>> poor family
>> worked like a machine for past 10 years
>> no time to socialise
>> no friends, gf
>> about 10 months back family pass away in a accident
>> left all alone now
>> hardly any one to talk to apart from 2-3 at work
>> they think I am a creep. they never meet me outside work hours
>> don't know what to do
>>25424043
>. I was sick of their shit and said I was done.
are you horrible for doing that ? obviously not , should you had accepted their pushing away again no , you did the right choice , they should be the one feeling horrible for losing good friend like you. Be glad you got rid of them
>be best friend with 2 kid since i was 9yo
>hang out almost every day
>they got a gf
>i didnt
>end of story
>>25431097
I had a friend do this to me. Friends for about 6 years but we talked about nothing serious, just kept it to ourselves. Then out of nowhere he stopped talking to me, so I made a couple jokes about it and still got nothing. Odd thing is once every few weeks he would mention something like he was going to start chatting, like "Check out this new vidya coming out", so I'd give my opinion on it and then nothing. I hated that shit so much.
>>25431070
How much shit were you giving them in the first place?
