>girl shows me a little bit of kindness/affection
>brain is so deprived and unloved that it interprets it as "THIS IS THE ONE, SHE LOVES YOU, DON'T LET GO OF HER"
>become clingy and start to obsess
>>25274863
Did she lose interest? You gotta be careful anon.
>>25274940
They either get weirded out and distance themselves or never even considered me romantically in the first place.
I can't have a female friend. I interpret any kind of kindness as love. It's fucked and I hate it.
>>25274966
Yeah, it's difficult to hold a girls interest. I've never done it.
vote trump desu
Where do I meet guys like this who also are mentally stable and make good money and want a religious girl who is saving sex for marriage?
>>25275050
>guys like this
>mentally stable
>make good money
pick one baka
>>25275050
...here. But of course you aren't looking for a husband. Just orbiters.
>>25275093
Yeah I am, but I am very religious it scares most men off.
>>25274863
It's funny, I'll do the same, but I'll always catch myself and back off completely, even if she was interested in me. She'll eventually lose interest after i backed off in paranoia.
I hate myself.
>>25275124
Yeah well, can you blame us? Most of us hate God because we're suck failures
>>25274966
>>25274998
I know this feeling well, anon.
The last girl I talked to reached out for me and took initiative. We had interesting conversations for months while I restrained my desperation, and then I suppose it must have leaked through somehow later and she casually started replying later and later until she stopped.
>>25275050
Depends on what you mean by "mentally stable". Men who feel this way obviously have sever self-esteem issues caused by years of neglect.
You need to reprogram your brain to hit on girls and make sexual advances. Watch and emulate Han Solo, not Luke Skywalker. No girl ever stopped being my friend or talking to me even if she has a boyfriend and I keep trying to get her to sleep with me. You probably didn't know it but you can get away with being an asshole very easily. And get better results. Be a "sweet douche" so it's not predictable.
>>25275124
are you looking for men who share your religion?
>>25275147
If you turned to God he would help you to succeed, but in a godly way, not in a worldly way.
>>25275173
if I didn't give a fuck and just wanted to get laid of course I could do that.
but I want someone who's ok with my vulnerability and won't leave the minute my chad facade cracks.
>>25275179
Yeah but there aren't many so I am willing to accept someone who isn't of my religion as long as he doesn't drink or do drugs
>>25275188
Eh, tried it. I think most robots were religious at some point. Doesn't work out.
>>25275050
That all depends on if you are a catholic or not.
>>25275188
I'm in a situation with a girl like you now, she's a Muslim and wants our kids to be Muslim and she knows that I have a problem with that, it started off just a minor issue but she's basically saying stuff like "I'm raising our kids this way whether you like it or not", so I'll probably have to end it before we have kids or anything, I can barely tolerate my girlfriend being Muslim, but not my kids, religion shouldn't be an issue but it really is.
>>25275376
The problem is that islam is a false doctrine.
If you married a Christian she would have converted you by now, perhaps in more nuanced ways than you would be able to detect.
>>25274863
Shouldn't you have learnt your lesson by now?
There's no harm in getting your hopes up. Just know that they're futile. That way, you can live in a wishful fantasy without trying to enact it and have reality smack another reasong for coming here into your soul.
That girl isn't nice to you because she likes you. She just likes being nice in that very instant for whatever reason.
>>25275050
B E L F A S T ?
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>>25275280
What do you look like?
pls be ori
>>25275499
>If you married a Christian she would have converted you by now
Nah, I don't want to sound big-headed but I'm immune to religious conversion, but I see what your point, Christianity is more compatible with my beliefs.
She prays five times a day, doesn't eat any pork and says stuff like "Alhamdulillah" when she feels relieved, so even if she doesn't directly influence her kids, they'll pick it up anyway by seeing her pray and listening to her say these things, I'm screwed more or less.
>person claims to be girl
>thread starts derailing and obsessing
fucking hell, you lot
>>25275654
was just about to say this.
god damn it guys. I just want to talk about feels.
>>25275145
THIS
>1st year of highschool, qt in class
>she shows affection
>I think it's just a thing girls do and try to ignore it
>can't stop thinking about her,fall in love
>it's pretty clear that she likes me too,tries to hug me randomly,touches my hand, attempts to play footsie etc, says she missed me when I skip school,"accidentaly" bumps into me etc.
>this goes on
> don't show any kind of interest towards her,never start a convo etc.
>time passes,graduation day
>"anon i'll miss you"
>"ok"
>says nothing and goes away but it's clear she got mad at me,i don't blame her
>my only friend sees this
>"dude,what have you done?"
>"what,man? I've done nothing wrong..."
>>25275050
CHRISTIANMINGLE.COM
DO IT
>>25275716
holy fuck all these problems would be fixed if she just did the asking out
why would you orbit someone for years and not do anything, men get shit on for this behavior
>>25275768
BECAUSE MUH GENDER ROLES
>>25274863
Wew lad I'm kinda in the same boat right now
>be uni freshmanon on winter break
>qt grill whom I know from uni messaged me out of the blue
>qt and I have been messaging back and forth for the last few days
>she's definitely interested to some degree because she always replies and likes playfully bantering with me, plus she keeps conversations going as opposed to 1-wording me
And now
>go to lots of holiday partiesnot because i have cool friends outside of uni, but because my mom knows peopleand get piss drunk because good wine is there
>lose inhibitions when drunk
>reveal my self-loathing powerlevel to qt over the past 3 days
>she still seems interested and keeps replying/contribootin, we only pause messaging when we go to bed and shit
>but qt is the first person who knows how much of a mental basket case I am inside
>she also knows what a charming post ironic memelord I am when I'm sober
>I'm alsofairly handsome
>there are good reasons for her to like me but also reasons for her to lose/have lost interest
>can't stop thinking about her
No one will read this but fuck, I had to post it
>>25275682
I have the exact same feelings as OP.
Which is why I can never be in a relationship. Shit would be fucked from the beginning, as the large majority of women hate clingy/obsessive guys unless they're chad.
One way out (if you want one) is to build a network of close friends first, but even that's beyond some autists.
>>25275729
haha sick image dude
>>25275784
I have this problem except I'm 4/10 so I know she doesn't like me.
>>25275646
Well I mean the foremost executioner that was in charge of killing and jailing early Christians probably thought he was immune as well.
>>25275844
Feel with me brother
What's your qt like?
This is the WORST.
It happens with every woman, too. I could feel myself falling in love with my fucking therapist just because she was a young woman and listened to me.
Loneliness is a poison.
>friend pats me on the back right under my shoulder
>don't realize how badly I needed that tiny bit of physical contact until after it occurred
>>25275173
>Han Solo
>Luke Skywalker
Good analogy. But I just don't think I could come up with witty retorts and remarks on my feet like Solo would.
>>25276184
>sitting on city bus
>woman sits next to me
>her thigh is touching my thigh
>realize this is probably my first time touching another person in months
>almost start crying
>>25275050
>clingy and obsessive
>mentally stable
What in the fuck are you on about? Those are clearly mutually exclusive.
>>25275206
youre supposed to have the chad facade at first, but let it bleed away over time. you basically need it so that girls will TALK to you and ACKNOWLEDGE you as a potential partner. otherwise you being "vulnerable" aint doing jack shit besides overbearing her with more problems that she doesn't need to deal with
>>25274863
I didn't need this right now anon
>>25275784
Fellow handsome post-ironic meme lord here, sounds like you should seal the deal with uniqt, but might as well move on Christmasqt while you're home. I managed to make a relationship out of similar circumstances, you can do it too since you sound way more normie. It's I mportant to make a move early or else they'll lose interest, invite unigrill to some kinda event, preferably one with alcohol, and you'll know for sure. I believe in you anon.
>>25276900
I know it's asking for too much but when women are vulnerable around me I don't mind to a point. It's not an instant turnoff if she;s not dumping her problems on me, and I want someone equal to me who would do the same instead of having to spend so much time seducing them with a false image. I don't want to be with someone who is not my equal and needs to be impressed with petty shit. I think the "bleeding through" is really just adding another color to your chad persona
Also keep in mind the threshold for "vulnerable" is much lower in women. Any kind of vague insecurity that seeps through is grounds to trash you
>>25276923
i cant word for shit famalam. let me clear things up
there is ONLY ONE grill im going for. she's the one you thought was from my uni. we became friends literally a week before finals, and then we went our seperate ways for break.
now this chick is PMing me on kikebook and thats who i was drunk messaging. there is no second qt.
i just feel super uneasy because she's contacting me while we can't physically hang out or anything and I dont want to let any chances go. so i basically have to wait until mid-late january before i can hang out with her, drink with her, etc.
>>25275015
haha wew buddy wew
>>25275050
>even on r9k a girl will show up and steal all the attention in my thread
>>25275050
I was about to suggest making yourself available for mail order but then I read the mentally stable bit.
>>25274863
As least you're not falling in love with video game characters. Sigh.
Just fight this primal urge of yours and convince yourself you don't need a gf.
>>25278009
This kind of thing would ESPECIALLY happen on /r9k/ right now.
dont get your hopes up guys. even if you trick someone into liking you you will be dumped within weeks if you reveal your true self, the clingy beta, to them. youre supposed to learn to n9t do that in your first relationship as a teen and it creeps people the fuck out when they see how emotionally stunted you are
>>25275768
Get real, it's not like that would make him any less socially awkward. It would just result in a terrible date where he fucked everything up.
>>25276919
>Nurse on duty: Charlotte
subtle
>>25278009
This desu baka desu senpai
>>25275050
post on soc pls
>>25274863
hello lain
hope you're fine I'm doing well
cya later
>>25275173
Han Solo is dead dumbass
>>25274863
>2015
>not being gay
thats where you went wrong anon
>>25275206
Fem anon here, and I feel you so hard on this
>>25279038
>Fem anon here
stopped reading
pls quit announcing your gender
>>25274863
this is fine as long as she is qt and likes you back fagpai
this is nice thread
pls post more stories so i can deal with this feel
>>25275145
Are you me?
After 5 different oneitis rejecting me, I literally cannot afford to become obsessed again, and be rejected like that.
My waifu guards me from the temptation. She is my world now. She will never forsake me.
>>25274863
>>girl shows me a little bit of kindness/affection
>>brain is so deprived and unloved that it interprets it as "THIS IS THE ONE, SHE LOVES YOU, DON'T LET GO OF HER"
>>become clingy and start to obsess
Oh fuck I know these feels
I just have to keep reminding myself that it will never work. I have to overcome these irrational feelings every fucking time and just beat it into my head that it's all delusion
EVERY GIRL you've ever thought was interested in you was just being nice
Nobody could ever love you
Nobody could ever be attracted to you
You could never love anyone
You can not function in a relationship
A happy relationship is not possible
repeat over and over and over
It hurts
>>25279038
thanks for knowing the feel
my authenticity is literally the only thing I have left, it may not be worth much but it's all I have
>>25280644
>EVERY GIRL you've ever thought was interested in you was just being nice
yeah.
it would take nothing short of her coming out and saying "I like you you fucking faggot, please date me immediately"
>>25281001
>it would take nothing short of her coming out and saying "I like you you fucking faggot, please date me immediately"
but they dont ask men out. literally, it's always OUR responsibility
>>25281027
I know it. which is why I will always be alone
I can never be totally sure if she likes me, and I feel if I asked her out she'd just accept out of pity and I'd be imposing on her
>>25274863
>go to family Christmas party on father's side
>my uncle is there with his girlfriend and her 2 qt daughters
>standing in kitchen pretty much alone, just watching other people getting the food ready and talking
>can see her and her 2 daughters standing together off to the side talking to each other and looking over at me a lot
>go out on the screened in deck to grab a beer from the cooler
>grandmother starts talking to them while I'm outside and she calls me over to introduce me when I come back in
>minor spaghetti, but keep making my way to the living room
>go out on porch after to throw my empty can in the recycling
>uncle, his girlfriend, and her daughters are sitting out on the porch eating at the table
>turn my back to them and bend over to drop my can in the recycling
>hear the qt say "HI!", but my dumb ass assumes it's intended for someone else, and I don't want to feel like an idiot responding to a hi that wasn't intended for me
>uncle says "Hey, anon" so I turn around, say Hey, smile and go back inside
>qt and I are sitting across the room from each other during the Yankee swap and we keep looking at each other(or at least that's what I think)
>at the end of the night, she actually walks over towards me, but can only get about 5ft away because there's a table and people in between us
> looks right at me, smiles, and says "BYEEE!" while waving to me
>say bye and give her a small smile
>she turns around and leaves, but looks at me one more time before going out the door
Would've loved to at least make an attempt to get to know her or something, but I don't really know how to be a person, so I'd rather not embarrass myself and waste either of our time.
>tfw this threads going to die with my post
>they always do
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>>25281056
>just man up, bro!
im tired of this feel anon
>>25274863
>>25274966
>>25275145
>>25276144
god dammit, I think I'm succumbing to this shit
>>25281142
I can feel your deepest feels from 2 planets away
I'd be worried uncle man thought I wanted to fuck her right in the pussy
Also you didn't specify age
>>25281188
I'm 23, and I think she's around 19. My uncle would be cool with it if something happened between us. I assume her mom would be, too, since I think they were talking about me. This shits probably all in my head though.
>>25281142
man, i love how oversensitive we are to any form of interest or attraction (be it platonic or romantic) thrown our way. we're greatly affected by the smallest ripples of kindness because we've been alone so long
And what if you actually tricked a girl into having sex with you? Is it clingy and obsessive to fall in love with her?
I lost my virginity to an amazing girl, I didn't let her know that. She said I was the first person she fucked in three years. I loved her, but she broke it off, it was a very short relationship. I can't get over her. Since then I haven't found anyone who's half the woman she is.
>>25274863
The simple answer is you start interacting with more women, and you become desensitized to that kind of thinking
>>25281268
this is so true that i want to cry
>>25281268
You are correct, couldn't have said it any better.
>>25281268
>tfw I fell in love with the first person to show me affection
>it was an online friend
REEEEEE I HATE MY ROBOT BRAIN
>>25281675
this is me right now. it sucks so hard because this girl is so cool but my stupid brain wont let me just let me think of her as nothing more than a friend.
>Girl starts talking to me
>Initiates conversations and asks to hang out
>Realize she's into me
>Consider dating her
>Remember it would be impossible to convince her that the holocaust didn't happen
>Distance myself
Why am I such an autist
>>25281757
>Remember it would be impossible to convince her that the holocaust didn't happen
I kekked. Why won't these bitches ever understand?
>>25281056
Or in my case accept the invitation and offering a fake phone number, all the while smiling like their day had just been made.
I'm not bitter.
>>25281675
>>25281694
Iktf
I first met this grill irl but mainly talk to her online
>>25274863
I can't handle those kinds of interactions. I hate thinking dumb, fuzzy thoughts, but they always come up.
>>25281694
>>25281675
my brothers.
she asked to meet up with me but I'm terrified I won't be qt enough for her so I'm thinking of just ending it so she doesn't have to be nice to me out of guilt. we share so many things it's absolutely bizarre and she's my ideal qt tomboy type, if I were someone else I'd gf her in an instant and be so happy
>>25274863
>>brain is so deprived and unloved
I bet this is bullshit. You probably have parents and a family that loves you. You're not unloved at all.
>>25282100
>familial love is the same as romantic love
ayyyyy ebin maymay
>>25282100
my family "loves" me but it's only because they're expected to and they've been around me so long. if I weren't related to them they'd hate the kind of person I am.
>>25282132
>romantic love
Now that's a fuckin' maymay. Just because there's a vagina involved doesn't make it some other magical kind of love.
>>25282155
>only because they're expected to and they've been around me so long
That's how all love works desu. You really think it would be different with a girl?
>>25282209
the point is they like me because they're already conditioned to. I could be (am) an awful fucking person and they would still like me, not because they see anything redeemable but because they remember what I was like when I was a child. none of it was earned
a girl wouldn't be expected to love me if she didn't see worth in me. she'd get the fuck out immediately and trade up
>>25280644
>It hurts
If it's any consolation, this eventually works.
The only trick is that afterwards you have to find a way to fill the emptiness inside you.
>tfw christian and an mtf transexual
>tfw can never find a bf who shares my beliefs
just fuck my shit up
>>25281268
>tfw I can't turn this off
If I could ram my foot up god's ass I would, but my legs don't extend that far yet.
>>25282319
you already fucked your shit up senpai
>>25275784
I have such a feeling of deja vue reading this, as if I've seen it on here before.
>Get my first close relationship to a girl sophomore year of highschool
>forced to be at sisters house
>nothing to do there
>can only think about her because of this
>obsess and constantly message her
>ruin it quickly.
She was my first kiss :(
>get close to another girl last year
>ruin it even quicker this time but we keep talking for a while until i almost get a restraining order
>cops called to my house from her
>told me I could never talk to her again
I just get obsessed and attached as soon as a girl is kind to me.
>tfw my friends meme'd me for over a month on a joke concerning the last girl
>IM GONNA KILL THEM ALLL
"HAHA HE HAD AN ATTACHMENT, AH FUCK'EM" - my friends.
Sorry for the disorganization here.
>>25282443
>restraining order
wtf did you say to her baka?
>>25282572
Stalked her online, and had a bunch of pictures of her. I still do but I had posted them here on 4chan. Normie friend told her and I got fucked.
Haven't talked to her in months and I'm pretty much not allowed to.
>>25282615
>tfw have collected hundreds of pictures of girls I've had a crush on over the years
Y-you only got caught because you posted them right? I have a recurring nightmare about my folders being found and having the run away from a proverbial pitchfork mob.
>>25274863
Hi Lain
Im back
I learned my daily vocabulary just now and saw you again
didn't I said cya?
So we met again Lain
What are you doing all day Lian?
just wondering
I think that i will surf a bit on 4chan now and then continue to write and read in my IDE and RAP
Hope we can talk oneday bout this stuff. would aprecciate it
so long, have a fine day lain
>>25282688
Yeah. I mean I got caught because my normie friend ratted me out which was bullshit. If my computer was confiscated I'd get a restraining order from 4 girls. 3 of them actual students, and one a teacher.
Just fuck my shit up man. please..
>>25274966
Same here, dude. For a while, I was completely incapable of making female friends without automatically considering them as a romantic interest. I've actually gotten better at not doing that, though, since I've been lucky enough to make friends with quite a few girls who already have boyfriends. That way, I don't have to think about dating them or anything.
>>25282751
>tfw some of my friends know about the folders
I mean they think it's just for wanking, but they do know it exists.
I gotta set up some self-destruct plan to destroy this kinda shit just in case the cops ever come knocking
>>25282840
Encryption could work. I keep the pictures to admire them. Never wank.
>>25282840
You could write a little script/program that, when executed, automatically delete everything.
>>25282979
Seriously?
That won't do jack shit against forensics
Encrypted USB or SD is the only way.
>>25282883
Yeah I never wank to them either, but I brought the pictures up once and it was easier than explaining the truth.
>>25282979
Honestly, at that point I could just delete the folder normally, wouldn't save that much time. I'd be worried that they would run some data recovery program though and there wouldn't be enough time to run some overwrite program on it.
>>25283089
also you could build a little gadget with a raspberry pi for example.
connect it with a small amount of explosives and place it on the critical position in your computer
would even work with a confisicated device when seperated from the energy circle of your main device.
>>25274863
>girl shows me random show of kindness/courtesy
>trained myself to not sperg out
>simply nod, smile, say thanks, and move away as quickly as possible while thinking about how qt they are
it's ok
PLEASE EVERYTHING HURTS SO MUCH. I JUST WANT TO CRY. panic attacks incoming. FUCK MY FRIENDS AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
>>25282443
>>25283174
>explosive booby traps
>either get shafted with restraining orders and community service
>or get fucking fucked up the ass with terrorism charges and the like
>>25282979
CRT degaus coil wrapped around the hard drive. activate when the feds arrive
>>25274863
>tfw this used to be me
>somehow learned to stop
>now I have lots of female friends and aquaintances
>but not a single crush
It's a bittersweet feel.
>>25276633
>Han Solo in 2015
There's a void hmmmm
>>25278243
Yeah, that's why I'd say no anyway, I've given up on relationships and would rather be "free".
But >>25275768 is right, that's just stupid.
