Anybody else /aspie/ here?
>23 male
>high school and community college diploma
>only have a few close friends and all but one are far from me
>constantly daydream and get lost in my head, especially during conversations
>poor social skills, often run convos on auto-pilot
>stiff body language
>never had a real gf and still virgin, don't know how to love which is how I alienated 2 girls i was seeing years ago
>tough time processing words and body language cohesively (which sucks when wanting to know if a girl likes you or not)
>considered extremely good looking, always catch girls looking at me when out
>constantly depressed, have no motivation etc.
I know /r9k/ seems like a hotbed for self-pity and no one seems too eager to improve but is there anybody here who was or still is in a similar position to mine and what did you guys do to overcome your difficulties and become more normie-like? Open to therapies, books, etc.
And best if you wish.
For me it's mine, Spain.
>Literally FUCKED if you are not a normie. Since very young.
>People here are more social than in the US, been studying there. The culture of party is unthinkable for outsiders.
>tfw Mediterranean nature and way of life is shit for you
What are yours?
>>24991501
Basically me apart from never having a gf and still virgin, all of mine broke up with me for the same reason "they didn't see the relationship going anywhere"
>>24991787
Think you got the wrong thread but I'm Canadian so pretty much diet, more liberal U.S. Toronto to be exact, I don't go out too much but I'd kill to have a club scene like in Ibiza. Toronto is cold, misreable, all the women are torn between sociall naive feminazi beliefs or wanting Chad (I'm a /b/ tard and can't believe I just said that), and obsessed with fads/stupid trends.
>>24991889
You doing anything to improve your short-comings? If you have Aspergers, how did you get those women? Kinda tough when, except for honesty I guess, Aspies naturally have all the traits that repulse or disinterest women.
>>24992916
Sorry for the late reply m8, I just know how women work I guess, like my first girlfriend I got when i was 14 the average "emo couple", my second one I was only with for a week all we did before that was meet up get drunk and fuck, my most recent one I actually loved but she grew tired of me I guess always wanting me to be more social and go out to restaurants with her, I was with her for nearly two years. In my experience just find a girl who shares the same basic interests as you, also smoke a bit of weed as edgy as it sounds
>>24993182
Haha I smoke weed pretty much everyday man but thanks for the tip. Also drink and dabble in other drugs like acid, molly/e, shrooms, and coke. Used to do ketamine, fuck that shit now man. May have to cut down because of my depression and anxiety.
I'm much more aware than i was in high school but communication is still rusty and i feel like an emotionless /r9k/. Still living with my family but they can only do so much to help me.
>>24993565
I'm still in college and I live at home, I cannot even cook for myself. I used to watch the simple pickup on youTube and realized that all girls are basically the same, I cannot just go up to random girls unless im drunk but I have at least I think mastered the art of texting them at least
>>24994008
Same boat with the cooking thing, except never really tried I guess. Lacking motivation to change since I have so much trouble socially.
>>24994275
I never tried either, there is no point in chasing girls either desu, I am comfy as fuck just staying in my room doing nothing.
>>24994622
You saying that from experience or prejudice?
>>24994756
Experience, like dont put a girl on a pedestal but if you like a girl and share the same interests go for it
>>24991787
>>Literally FUCKED if you are not a normie.
This is a contradiction.
>>24994893
Started seeing a social worker and hopefully get more outside treatment for my issues. Just wondering what you guys did or do in the meantime to work on your issues?
>want a friendship with playful banter
>can't because I impusively become an over defensive sperg when someone jokes around with me
Just end it all senpai
>>24991501
There is a strict limit to how much you can improve. Personally I am unable to maintain long term relationships of both friendship and romantic origins. Which is funny considering I've reached the point where I am considered a social butterfly but the truth is I can't do anything more then that. It all falls apart once we really start to get to know each other. Can't keep the autism contained apparently or something.
Just incapable of it.
