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>tfw my best friend killed himself
>tfw i don't think i'll ever be able to connect with another human being again
Wat do, /r9k/?
>>24900085
Sorry to hear that anon. Did he give any indication of how sad he was in the past?
Also, how did he choose to do it?
find him in the middle ring of the seventh circle
>>24900085
kill yourself
something about flowers
>>24900085
Kill yourself too.
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>>24900199
Man so edgy guys, you really told OP!
>>24900085
Join him, obviously.
>>24900239
>implying suicide is "bad"
I'm sorry OP. Just fucking be sad and take time to mourne. I know it's lame, but only time will help.
You will eventually make a new friend, whether it be at school, work, or even on 4chan.
I'll be keeping you in my prayers.
>>24900138
>Did he give any indication of how sad he was in the past?
Yes. He was always sarcastically funny in a self-deprecating way. Looking back, it was obviously a coping mechanism.
>Also, how did he choose to do it?
He left home, drove to the west coast of the U.S., and shot himself in the head.
I had joined the military, and was in basic training when he did it. After I graduated basic training, I found out he went missing. Then, months later, his death was confirmed. I feel guilty that I wasn't there for him when he needed me the most.
>>24900311
Thanks, anon. It happened four years ago, but I still haven't been able to get over it.
don't worry dude you'll be with him again before you know it
>>24900175
>>24900185
>>24900199
>>24900262
>>24900425
Honestly, I appreciate the sentiment.. However, I don't believe in an afterlife. Even if I did, that does nothing to alleviate the pain I feel now. I literally have no idea what to do.I feel like I'm just destined to be a sad sack of shit for the remainder of my life.
>>24900606
Did you and he have any mutual friends you could talk to?
>tfw I'm still fucked up from seeing my best friend kill himself
He literally called me on skype, started his webcam and did it. I had to check myself into the psychiatric hospital after that.
>>24900085
>best friend
>friend
Oh Boohoo, normie.
>>24900673
iktf, anon.
As I said before, I was in basic training when my best friend killed himself. He left me a voice mail saying, "sorry I wasn't a better friend."
I honestly don't think I'll ever recover from it.
>>24900740
even on this board human insensitivity knows no bounds
pic not related
>>24900755
Were you a bitch to him?
>>24900765
No, we were like brothers.
>>24900762
Sorry, I can't relate to his "sorrowful" plight since I don't have any friends. I'm not gonna cry over someone who people actually like being around.
>>24900785
Are you sure? Leaving a voice mail like that gives me mixed signals.
>>24900791
OP here. If it makes you feel better, people don't really like to be around me any more, since now I'm just a sad sack of shit.
>>24900809
Yeah
>>24900085
Suck it up. Eventually everyone you ever loved will leave you and you'll be all alone in this oh so cold world.
All you can do is accept that and move on.
>>24900874
I would be okay with it if he had simply died of old age. But he didn't. He killed himself, and I wasn't around when he needed my help.
>>24900857
>people don't really like to be around me any more, since now I'm just a sad sack of shit
Well that's your choice, fuckwit. It's not a permanent thing unless you want it to be.
>>24900956
You probably couldn't have helped. Seriously.
>>24900985
Literally nobody wants to be a sad sack of shit.
>>24900085
If you knew there was no way to talk him out of it, what would you have wanted him to say to your or do with you?
I have a friend I've known for 15+ years and would like to know the best way to say goodbye
>>24901036
Then do something about it.
Make new friends, see a fucking therapist and go on antidepressants if you have to.
>>24901053
Unless he was terminally ill, I don't think there's anything he could say or do that would make me accept his suicide. Honestly, I would rather have seen him move to Mongolia or someplace, than kill himself. If your friend is considering suicide, encourage him to travel the world, and do something extraordinary before he finally goes through with it.
>>24901113
It's not that easy. Imagine that your brother killed himself. It's not something you can just "get over."
>>24901278
I'm asking because I thinking about ending my life. Still, the advice is appreciated.
>>24901278
>Imagine that your brother killed himself. It's not something you can just "get over."
Speak for yourself, I'm not attached enough to anyone to care that much.
>>24901300
Frankly, I think suicide is a selfish act. I think you should seriously consider how your suicide will affect the people that love you.
However, if you are dead set on going through with it, first move to South America and become a fisherman. Visit the city of Petra in Jordan. Go see the fjords of Norway in person. Seriously, take out credit if you have to. What have you got to lose? Go anywhere and do anything. Just please don't kill yourself in your hometown without having experienced a taste of what life has to offer.
>>24901460
Travelling is not as appealing to everyone as it is to you, anon. It's also not a cure-all. Personally, I find shit like you're describing to be tedious and stressful. I don't see how it gives you a taste of anything.
>>24901510
I'm just suggesting that you might find that life is different (perhaps more enjoyable) in a new location. If you're seriously considering suicide, what have you got to lose by trying something new?
>>24901278
dunno your friend's situation, but people commit suicide for a lot of reasons, and it's nobody's choice but their own. You don't have to accept it, but you should respect it. Like you said, if he moved away forever to some far away place, you'd accept it and be okay with it, right? Suicide is functionally the same thing, it's just that you're being greedy about it because with suicide the reality hits you. If he moved away forever, you could bullshit yourself that "somehow, someday" you "may" see him again or whatever, or at least think of him and send out a wish into the universe that you hope he's well. None of that matters, though, since the fact is you'll never see him again. With suicide, you can't pretend anything, and people are so pussy about the cold hard truths of life that they blame the victim and talk about how greedy or selfish they are -- even though if they moved away forever, there would be no hatred toward that person.
People make choices that they think are best for themselves at the time, from small choices like what to eat today, to big choices like moving away for a career, nixing shitty friends forever, getting married, whatever. Suicide is no different, and the only reason anyone thinks it's different is because they're too afraid to face the fact that life is shitty and for some people that's the better option. It's literally the same cognitive dissonance as when a mom of a convicted killer still believes they didn't do it.
So anyway, like I said: you don't have to accept or be happy about the decision, but it was his to make, and I'm gonna get real here, don't you dare take that away from him. Give his choice respect and admit that it's just a life choice like any other.
>>24901460
If you're honestly suggesting this, you have no idea what depression really is
>>24901460
I have about $1000 saved up..I might consider this. Thanks OP.
>>24901653
Most "depressed" people are just lazy and timid and looking for an excuse to justify it.
>>24901609
I disagree. Suicide is very different, because you can't take it back. Everything else you mentioned can be taken back. You can change careers, reconcile with old friends, get divorced... but you can't take back suicide.
>>24901664
Hahahahaha 1000 dollars wont get you anywhere retard
>>24901707
His point is that even if other things can be "taken back", they're often not, and it's obvious to everyone involved that the change is permanent.
>>24901721
Aside from airfare, you could spend a few months in southeast Asia with that money.
>>24901664
I hope you do, anon. Because fuck it... why not? Pull a "Scent of a Woman".
>>24901721
You can get to South America from the U.S. for about $500.
>>24901723
I just can't agree that not existing (i.e. suicide) is ever the better option.
>>24901811
From the northern US, by plane?
And who wants to get kidnapped and beheaded by cartels?
>>24901910
Yes.
And I would argue that getting kidnapped and beheaded is a better way to go out then hanging yourself in your closet, so that your mom finds your corpse.
If you're going to kill yourself anyway, you have absolutely nothing to lose. You may as well fly to Columbia, snort some coke, and party with some hookers. Have some fun before you do yourself in.
>>24901982
You have a lot to lose. Being tortured, imprisoned, raped, and brutally murdered is a lot worse than killing yourself in a relatively peaceful way you get to choose.
Suicidal people aren't completely immune to all pain, stupid.
So what's your proffered exit method, /r9k/?
Train or rope for me, since guns are illegal here and pills are just terrible way to go.
>>24902019
First of all, it's unlikely you would end up kidnapped by the cartel. That fact that you think that it's bound to happen shows how sheltered you are.
However, even if you did end up kidnapped by the cartel, the end result is the same.
praise fefe when god strikes
>>24902120
kidnapped and beheaded by the cartel
>>24902124
Yeah, I know it's not a realistic possibility.
The point is that the "fuck it all" attitude you're describing doesn't work in the real world.
You could just end up in an immigration detention center or jail, where you couldn't kill yourself even if you wanted too.
>>24902198
*to,
fuck it's late
>>24901569
Does going on a killing spree count as trying something new? Checking fjords and shit sounds absolutely tedious and just as bad as hanging with normie drug addicts in da club while complaining about how my feet hurt.
>>24902198
It does work though. If you have nothing to lose, you open yourself up to an infinite number of possibilities. Sure, it may end up being a painful experience. But it may also end up being a fantastic experience. The point is, if you intend to end your life, you may as well throw caution to the wind and experience as much as you can before you go out.
>>24902302
No retard, someone who feels hurt enough to kill himself won't want to subject himself to even more pain and uncertainty.
build him a skatepark
>>24902685
that just sounds like laziness desu
>>24902685
Good point. I suppose it's better to simply stay holed up in your tiny room and wonder why nothing ever changes.
