What's the difference between being confident and being an asshole? Is the answer just to stop caring about other people"s thoughts and do whatever you want? Is caring about other people's opinions inherently beta?
>What's the difference between being confident and being an asshole?
Respect, patience, and empathy.
>Is the answer just to stop caring about other people"s thoughts and do whatever you want?
To an extent yes, to an extent no.
>Is caring about other people's opinions inherently beta?
Good lord no. Caring about other people's opinions could be a motivating factor. But ultimately do things that you would be proud of.
>>24893377
pretty much,would be like arrogance and confidence.there k thk bye
>>24893377
You shouldn't put others before yourself, but you should still try to be nice.
Really, it's a balancing act between how much you want to live life for yourself, and how scared you are of being perceived as rude.
It's about being secure in your own thoughts and actions without shitting on other people in the process. Caring about others opinions to the point where you're actively suppressing your own is being insecure, but completely disregarding the thoughts and feelings of others is being an asshole.
>>24893377
>Blames self for world
>>24893377
don't be a cunt, don't be a doormat, have some sense of social awareness, take the time to consider the feelings of other, you don't have care what they are directly but stuff adds up and people will avoid you then feel justified in fucking you if you keep fucking over others.
>What's the difference between being confident and being an asshole?
Being confident is being able to do anything in your own will and believing in yourself. Being asshole means you intend to hurt that person or do something on purpose in order to get a reaction or attention without realizing how wrong are you. You also believe you are above everyone else.
>Is the answer just to stop caring about other people"s thoughts and do whatever you want?
Sort of. You need to balance it out and know your limits. If you don't know if something will offend someone else, ask yourself this: Would you do it to yourself? Just stop caring about people's thoughts and do whatever you want will eventually get you killed, literally too.
>Is caring about other people's opinions inherently beta?
If you let it control you and make you feel bad then yes it is beta. There is a difference between taking notes on people's opinions vs. caring about people's opinions. You can't control what other people say about you. People will always talk shit about you in order to feel better about themselves.
>>24893377
>confident people make things happen
>assholes step on other people when they make things happen
Confident people help everyone to win (if it's possible). Assholes only care about "getting theirs."
You can care about the opinions of others without being subject to them.
>>24893582
>Confident people help everyone to win
>Assholes only care about "getting theirs."
This is where you're wrong. There is a balance between getting yours and letting everyone win. If you just give out hand outs to everyone without ever even giving yourself the time of day then you're an asshole yourself.
>>24893640
Boundaries and self-care are definitely important.
>>24893640
You're looking at things in absolutes. Compromising for the greater good doesn't turn you into a beta. Think of it this way.
Four cars come to a four way stop. All of them think that they have to get their way and that they're pussy betas if they compromise. All the cars crash into each other.
The enlightened person can evaluate the situation and realize that in some situations that others have to get their way in order for you to get yours.
Stop thinking that you're an edgy anime hero.
