I just got a match on tinder and im freaking out
what should i do guys? im new to this shit
>>24612887
talk to her faggot
>>24612899
what the fuck do I say?
>>24612905
Talk to her about anime and international jewery.
>>24612915
i just checked her pic, i dont remember liking her, bitch is ugly as fuck
>>24612905
Hey? Ask about their interests? I don't know I don't use it, I socialise out in the real world
>>24612922
nah nvm i dont even wanna talk to her anymore
>>24612905
"Hi, I'm <your_name> and I accidently shat my pants in the 6th grade ;)"
>>24612887
post screens on 4chan.
>>24612954
im not english but fuck it m8 i dont even remember liking her i fucking dont even like asians
probably swiped the wrong side by accident
>>24612928
Well now you can send her creepy shit and post it here
>is using online dating
>still has hope
Oh boy.
If you're using online dating as a crutch because you're too afraid to talk to girls in real life... then all I have to say is you're in for a wild ride.
>>24612919
Ugly girls are good practice and good confidence boosters, m8.
Also, >not just swiping right the amount you can each day and seeing who bites
>>24612983
Exactly, if you resort to online dating I don't understand why you wouldn't take every opportunity you can get
>>24612967
tinder isnt dating tinder is for hookups
right?
thats what i ws told
and yeah i dont even have the balls to talk to girls online, let alone irl
>>24612983
but this one is really not my type
and i am picky, i dont swipe everyone right, i swipe more left than right and i still have reached my maximum ammount after 15mins
>>24612994
cause i am way too picky and have way too high standards
>>24613006
>cause i am way too picky and have way too high standards
Isn't tinder just full of shitty normies? You'd find girls easier by taking up a few hobbies where you can meet groups of similar people
>>24613035
can you help me?
>>24613057
Not really, I don't know you. Getting off /r9k/ would be a start.
>>24613006
>and yeah i dont even have the balls to talk to girls online, let alone irl
So you're engaging in online dating for what purpose exactly?
To meet a girl irl...
Hmm...
It seems that you've just introduced a ton of unnecessary bullshit into the process here by signing up for online dating. Either way you're eventually going to have to talk to a girl in real life.
So cut out the unnecessary time-consuming bullshit of online dating, and skip straight to learning how to talk to girls in real life.
>>24613075
whats wrong with /r9k/? You are here too
and i dont have many interests besides
Movies
Series
Music
Gym
Running
Computer shit
>>24613076
So what I need to start somewhere
and its not online dating, im not looking into dating im looking into hookups
and i wish i could talk to girls online but i have no interests and hobbies are ways of coming in contact with them so i thought i'd try this
>>24613085
>So what I need to start somewhere
>and its not online dating, im not looking into dating im looking into hookups
>and i wish i could talk to girls online but i have no interests and hobbies are ways of coming in contact with them so i thought i'd try this
You need to START by getting some interests and hobbies, and generally having a life that a girl would want to be a part of.
Do you not realise how many frustrated boring betas flock to online dating? You're just one snowflake in a blizzard of profiles for any girl that goes online. Your message just one of 50 that she'll get today.
Its not about hookups, you're still going to have to go ON A DATE. Girls aren't just going to invite you to come to their houses and fuck them after talking to them online.
And wait until you do get to talk to them online, its the most stressful experience. They could stop responding at any time, because you are just another random guy on the internet to them.
Online dating is shit for everyone involved, there are no qts, only single mothers, uggos, fatties, and crazies.
If you want an easy hook up, you have to pay for a hooker.
Its good that you do want to start somewhere, but you need to start by fixing your life. I decided to fix mine on my 25th birthday, I'd lost my virginity by the time I was 26. It is possible, but there's no magic solution or shortcuts, and online dating is just going to make you more miserable.
>>24613249
how did you fix your life? I started to fix my life by going to the gym on my 24th bday, now im almost 25.
im still neet though but im unfit to work so what should i do
i thought it was best to be the cool mysterious douchebag guy who just said shit like: wanna fuck? but idk if thats a good approach
i absolutely fucking hate dates and feel nothing to go have dinner with some weird girl, i literally just wanna netflix and chill i thought thats what tinder is for, its not dating its hooking up
>>24613293
Gym is a good start. But how are you unfit to work?
When I started I had zero employment history so I did voluntary work for a while to get some references and "experience".
>i thought it was best to be the cool mysterious douchebag guy who just said shit like: wanna fuck? but idk if thats a good approach
Its not, because its an act, and unless you're REALLY good at it, it will be seen as an act and you'll be seen as creepy. Also that edgy 'mysterious' crap doesn't ever work, you're not Squall from Final Fantasy 8. You need social skills. But fortunately you can learn them. Read How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie, it'll teach you how to hold a conversation. Read the definitive book of body langauge by alan and barbera pease, it'll make you more perceptive by being able to read body language, because most communication is non-verbal.
If you prefer videos then this might help you too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI it covers a lot of decent principals.
>i thought thats what tinder is for, its not dating its hooking up
Female sexuality revolves around comfort. Even hookers have pimps to keep them safe. There is no way that any girl is going to invite you back to her place to netflix and chill with her if she hasn't met you in a public place first. There's just no way. You have been lied to. There is no secret online hookup-only dating service, unless you're gay, and that's called grindr.
>>24613035
The problem is that my uni societies are all sausagefests and the few girls there are either obese, taken, or both,
>>24613399
Could you give some info as to how you met a girl and lost your v-card?
>>24614026
I did somepuaand talked to a girl in a bar. Her name was Lauren, she didn't know that she was my first.
>>24614167
>>pua
>>tfw too awkward and not attractive enough to pull that off
>>24614369
pua doesn't work on looks, its about modifying your behaviour and mindset... that's why pua exists and works.
Anyway, pua is an okay stepping stone, it might help you rid yourself of your virginity. Just don't be a massive autist about it, or follow any of the street pickup faggots on youtube, there is a lot of toxic and useless shit available that calls itself pua, but there's also a lot of decent self-improvement stuff too. Take what you need to help you with your issues and move on. I found RSD's early stuff helpful as it tied in nicely with the stuff I was learning as I was working on my social skills.
>>24614478
Yeah that's my problem with pua, I'm not a fan of modern feminism at all but there is so much shit in pua which is basically misogyny. I definitely think that the self-improvement stuff would be of use to me.
>>rsd
Is that the rsdnation website?
I think my biggest issues are a) finding single girls, and b) actually talking to them in a way that isn't purely platonic.
>>24612887
did the dog die? is there now a skeleton stuck inbetween that fence?
>>24613035
I already have hobbies that are fun but won't get me a gf or friends. I have very little time and money and i have no idea about any other hobby i'd like to do.
>>24612887
You should fuck her senpai, if she's not a bot or a match hoarder then you've already been screened pretty hard for that match.
>>24614583
>Yeah that's my problem with pua, I'm not a fan of modern feminism at all but there is so much shit in pua which is basically misogyny.
Yeah as I say, just find something that you like, and discard what you don't.
I might also recommend Mark Manson's book Models as well, as that definitly leans more towards self improvement.
>>24614781
Thanks man. I'll have a look at the stuff you've suggested. I'm 22 and as long as I lose my virginity before I'm 25 and without paying a hooker, I'll be happy.
>>24614929
> I'm 22 and as long as I lose my virginity before I'm 25 and without paying a hooker, I'll be happy.
As soon as you stop needing it so badly, it gets a lot easier.
