>"Just be urself"
Life just reminds me how shit I am at socialising, no matter how confident I go into a situation.
Came back crushed inside from what was supposed to be a happy event because life slapped in the face to make me realise again. Self esteem has hit rock bottom and is still falling.
At least just let me have 1 friend, cruel world :(
>>24599207
I will be your friend anon.
Do you have any contact details? :)
>>24599421
r u pedo?
Well, either way, everyone seems to move away from me eventually. I mean, I'm not a monster or anything.
>>24599530
No I am not a pedophile. Are you a oittle girl? (Lol)
What's the worst that could happen anon? Just make a seperate account o social media or somthing.
I can understand how you feel. Being all alone in your room for hours on end can do things you'be never seen.
We are not the enemy my friend
together we are strong
>>24599530
I'm also willing to be friends with you, if you are.
Socializing is hard.
Some things I have learned:
Just talk, it can be about bullshit but just talk. Sometimes you will say something and everyone will get quiet. Do not let this discourage you from talking again later. Just accept it was awkward, ignore it, move on.
If you say something the wrong way, or say something and then realize it sounds stupid/gay/weird then correct yourself. Don't be afraid to correct your statement and try to do that in a joking way. Think of the character Anna from Frozen.
If someone else is talking, just comment on what they say. Bonus points if you take what they say and turn it into a perverted joke; normies love perverted jokes for some reason. Obviously don't turn EVERYTHING into a perverted joke. Just do it occasionally.
I also found this highly helpful.
http://www.businessballs.com/body-language.htm#eyes-body-language
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>>24599781
I hate that I've been raised to take your kindness for acts of evil. It gets to me, it really does. Well, I hate the way the world works in general though.
Sorry guys
>>24599804
Okay, and how would you advise someone that fluctuates in and out of periods where they show visible signs of anxiety to the point of choking up in everyday situations, like going grocery shopping?
>>24599207
HALT
>>24600017
What conditioned you to think that way anon? :c
In regards to anxiety, you need to expose yourself gradually to situations that cause anxiety. You will also probably need to take meds and talk to a psychologist (one that works for you) during this process
>>24600017
>>24600089
If you're looking for a bro to have some bants with, I am definitely down for that :)
Give it some thought op
>>24600017
>Okay, and how would you advise someone that fluctuates in and out of periods where they show visible signs of anxiety to the point of choking up in everyday situations, like going grocery shopping?
This has happened to me, too on occasion. Some days, I just don't have it in me to leave the house.
Necessity forced me to engage in situations that trigger anxiety. So I just powered through because I had no choice, and found that it gets easier with time. It always made me feel pathetic that little things would affect me so badly, things that everyone else does easily so they take it for granted. Over time I have come to forgive myself and remind myself to go easy on myself. Yes, others have it easy, but there is guaranteed some area of their life that they struggle with. Everyone has that. So I remember not to be so hard on myself for being pathetic at my age. The rest of the world beats us up, so why beat up ourselves? ya know? In the end, I am my only true friend, so I just take it slow at my own pace. If others have a problem with it, (and they usually do) then that is just THEIR problem. I don't make it my problem and I don't let their childish insults bother me anymore. I do what's healthy for ME now.
>>24600089
>>24600247
Cheers guy. The biggest blow is when I build confidence, then I lose it all in an instant and go back to square 1.
Someone posted a made-in-paint looking pic sometime ago that described how I felt at times. 2 guys, one given negative responses throughout his life, that killed his confidence, compared to one given positive responses, who seemingly enjoyed life more, that was telling the other to just be more confident, or something like that.
>>24600132
Sorry man, gonna regrettably decline.
>>24599207
My brother was complaining about my weeb avatar on WhatsApp
He's literally the only person who talks to me there kek
>>24600640
I've also noticed the more miserable i get the more i turn to anime...
>>24600694
I just embraced it, I'm doomed to have a shitty life anyway.
>>24600694
Careful lad
>>24600581
That's a shame. Well all the best anon
>>24599207
>"Just be urself"
Who the fuck actually says this? It's parroted by /r9k/ all the time, but I've never heard anyone in real life say anything like this.
>>24599207
>be urself
Its terrible advice if you don't understand it. But when you understand it you no longer need it. So all around its really just shitty advice.
