After three years of university, I finally got asked to join a normie group at the bar later tonight.. I'm freaking the fuck out. Haven't had a proper social interaction for years...
help please
Just don't even go bro. Not worth it.
>>24562442
Drink before going but not too much at the bar
Why would you even go?
>>24562447
might not
>>24562467
good idea, ill take it under consideration
>>24562478
I still hold a glimmer of hope that I can leave my robothood
>>24562478
also freaked out and said ok when they asked
>>24562514
>>24562499
Good luck. Don't try and be the center of attention. Just kind of be on the defensive.
>>24562442
There's only one reply you should listen to and it's this: >>24562467.
Everyone else can go fuck themselves. You'll do fine, OP. Just keep yourself calm at all points in time and do NOT look for anyone's approval.
>>24562442
yo kid here's what you do. don't try to act natural. just be kind of cold and reserved.
leave your autism at home
>>24562632
>>24562648
>>24562670
okey thanks, cold and reserved it is
do they expect me to ask them questions and shit? should I lie when they ask me personal stuff?
>>24562719
my autism follows me like a jew running after a penny
>>24562442
I ask autists to come out with me and my gf all the time tbqhwyfam. Usually 1 or 2 other people. You guys can be pretty entertaining when drunk. Not in a making fun of you kind of way either. It's just different from the same boring shit. I like you guys.
>>24562720
Lol, cold and reserved means u will never be invited out again. Just observe, smille, make good eye contact. Also build someone up whenever you get the opportunity. If you want people to like you, make them feel good.
>>24562442
Don't do this >>24562632
Just have fun
Don't >>24562670 either
Don't act like you're in a movie, senpai. They obviously like you enough to being you along. Just act like you normally do around then.
Me>>24562733
>>24562756
that makes sense... how would I go about "building them up"? what does that mean?
>>24562766
>Just act like you normally do around then.
smile and walk away, dont think that will do
do you expect me to ask questions, or answer questions?
>>24562670
>be kind of cold and reserved.
and trashed for being cold and reserved.
OP, you're gonna be in a situation where people will try to assess your status in the hierarchy.
The women (if there are any) will test you and assess you. The men will try to sabotage you for sake of their own status and for pussy points.
Don't bother. Not going will, in a way, demonstrate higher status. You're leaping at the very first offer they've given you in 3 years. They think they're doing you a favor, and you jumped on it, and that's indicative of desperation. They know it.
Just brush them off.
Fuck them.
>>24562798
this thought makes me uncomfortable...
why would anyone do this?
>>24562442
>I finally got asked to join a normie group at the bar later tonight..
Why does this matter?
If you do anything other than meekly decline you should fuck off to /soc/ and reddit to be honest.
>>24562787
Just talk whenever you have something to contribute to the conversation. Honestly, house parties are better since there are games. Bara can get a little boring if you're not trying to get laid. Don't interrupt people, talk to them when you want to say something related to the conversation and drink with them or they'll just seem retarded.
>>24562467
this OP
and confidence, you'll do OK
>>24562845
Me
>>24562787
Also, no one is making all of these calculated decisions. No one is consciously judging you. It's all subconscious for normies. They're just having fun and thinking about themselves, not about you. If you're boring, they'll probably ignore you unless trying to include you out of a desire to be nice. If you're funny, they'll talk to you more. There's no secret normie shit going on though.
>>24562808
because this is how human social hierarchies work, Anon. When you strip away the niceties and look at the underlying mechanisms, what you get is what I described.
It's all about status. Women are always assessing yours, and men are often working to undermine yours for sake of theirs, because women are assessing their status as well and these men want to fuck. Diminishing your status in front of each and women thereby advances their own status.
And like I said, jumping at the first invitation in 3 years is already a demonstration of lower status. They've probably interpreted it as approval seeking, and we don't seek approval from people we perceive as our lessers, do we?
All this, all these processes, happen just below the surface of consciousness. We rarely bother to articulate them like this and explain them; oddly enough, it's considered strange to do so lol.
Check out this guys videos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICz4dC5oJGA
Jordan Peterson.
>>24562845
>>24562879
ok, but what if they ask what I've done in my life?
studying and lying in bed doesn't seem like a good answer, really
>>24562895
*in front of each other
fillertext etc so forth
>>24562899
That question won't come up. That's like a uni acceptance question. They might ask what you do for fun or about random parts of your personal life but they'll probably just talk about current events (more on the entertainment side), the bar, things they want to do, stories they have, what to do later, every day life shit. Mostly the same ahit people normally talk about but with less inhibitions.
>>24562899
Talk about what you plan to do - get a job, get your degree, etc. Also, get tipsy but not full-on drunk.
>>24562895
You're obviously a robot. No one thinks like this. Assessment of another person is all subconscious and mostly dont in the firat few minutes. Unless a woman is considering dating you or is afraid of you, she's not making note of everything you do.
JUST
BE
YOURSELF
UP
SENPAI
>>24562953
>no one thinks like this
Yeah, they do.
> Assessment of another person is all subconscious
That's literally what I said. Read it again;
>All this, all these processes, happen just below the surface of consciousness. We rarely bother to articulate them like this and explain them; oddly enough, it's considered strange to do so lol.
shake my head to be honest family
>Unless a woman is considering dating you or is afraid of you, she's not making note of everything you do.
Cart before the horse; they take note of you, then work from that to determine whether or not they want to fuck you, are afraid of you, etc.
>>24562787
fuck that shit, just be cold and reserved. nobody expects anything from you, the other people are probably even whinier than you. you just act cold and reserved and that's the point from which you start your conversations. the whole point is to avoid anxiety, just be the cold and reserved little bitch you are and try to enjoy the night. you cand do it!!!
>>24563009
but don't be too slutty
>>24562995
Missed that part.
Either way, if OP isn't trying to fuck one of them, it doesn't matter. The women don't realize what they're think anymore than guys do about a hierarchicalstructure. They're just there to have fun. It's not some warlike battle for dominance, not in the way you're making it seem, I mean.
>>24562442
Most people are scared of meeting new people, anon. They feel anxiety.
Even though they're normies, they're still human like you. They feel exactly as you do, albeit to a much lesser degree.
You're putting other people on a pedestal, anon, and that's why you're anxious. It's just people.
There's 8 billion of them and they're all mostly the same. There's nothing special about them, and there's nothing special about you, so stop with the pedestaling.
And you might not believe it, but you have a certain amout of control over how scared you are. You can CHOOSE to go in there and not be scared of fucking up. You can CHOOSE to go in there and be the leader of the group and have everyone walk out of the bar thinking "I wanna be that guy."
It's not the olympics. I'm not saying that with enough determination you can beat the world record in the 100m sprint. That's simply not possible. Going there tonight and not being anxious is very much in the realm of reality for you.
Also, smile and laugh a lot. Almost to the point of ridicilousness. Not only will it make more people more attracted to you, but it will also give the added psychological benefit of actually making you happy and cheery.
>>24563285
This man's got it right, imo.
>>24563285
hm, i really wish you are right
>>24563443
He IS right.
Yeah, it isn't likely that you're gonna be a rags-to-bitches story of basement to bitches on the first night, you know what I mean?
But if you go in with that mentality, you're likely to be a pretty cool guy in the eyes of everyone, and you'll learn some shit.
>Also, smile and laugh a lot. Almost to the point of ridicilousness
To a jackass spending large amounts of time on 4chan like us, all of the seemingly feigned cheeriness and good vibes can seem really stupid.
But you gotta remember, we're sitting getting a monitor tan for days on end. Way different perspective. You know, it's fucking fun and interesting as shit to get in with these guys you'd call "normies". Like, just such an amazing difference in worldviews and ideology. Treat it like you're studying something if you have to, or treat it like a game!
Just get in there, and use your noggin to be smooth. Some folks it comes naturally to, and we're not really them. But we're supposed to be smarter than them, right? Use that noodle of yours, bud.
God help us, the motherfucker's right. I can go into a party as a dude having spent several hours a day on 4chan for ages and act like a happy idiot like the rest of them...and man, it really DOES make you happy! Fucking crazy.
Just give the shit a shot, man.
>>24563540
ok Im actually feeling better about this, I'll try it out
>>24562442
Go and just drink let your drunk self take over
>>24562895
No. Well, sometimes I guess. But not universally. You just use that cynicism as a defense mechanism for your own social retardation.
>>24563633
Except I'm not socially retarded.
Precisely *because* of that so-called "cynicism".
>>24564040
oh ok, i certainly do believe you, fedoramemefriendo! (:
>>24562798
thisthisthisthisthisthisthisthisthis dont go you. just drink at home masterbate to furry porn with us like you always do.
ONLY ONE DRINK
I tend to spill my guts when I drink too much.
I revealed my power level the first time I went out with "friends" in uni.
Irreversible damage occurred.
>>24564130
>le hat joke maymay
Bee yourself
No seriously, you'll fuck up big time if you flop while trying to put on an act
