Dear fuckheads,
Think of pussy like a Chinese finger trap or escaping quicksand. The harder you try to get it, the more futile your efforts will be.
Unless you are in a place where women are receptive to being picked up or you are a PUA/PUA in training, then you need to let them come to you. If a woman likes you, there will be signs (even if she's shy). If you want meaningful relationships, you need to let things happen naturally and build up friendships with girls. Getting your dick wet can wait.
In the meantime you should focus on self-improvement, e.g. working out, education volunteering, career, as improving these aspects of your life can only benefit you in the long run.
You might not see results for a year or so, don't be discouraged. I know where I want to be where I'll be happy with myself and I'm working towards that. Set a goal then get there. You can spend weeks/months farming useless shit in MMOs without a thought so why not apply that to real life?
Pic related, you could be fucking her but instead you're venting irrational, though understandable feelings on a Tibetan tapestry weaving image board.
ump-buh
thats rare and only happens if you don't care and take care of yerself
and it requires patience and these idiots don't have that
>>24483664
>Think of pussy like a Chinese finger trap or escaping quicksand. The harder you try to get it, the more futile your efforts will be.
I actually really like the comparison to be honest.Also infinitely better than food analogies which everyone always fucking resorts to.
>>24483858
its funny i don't try to get laid or get chicks and its oh what are you anon? crazy or gay?
but if you try and then oh you being thirsty
wtf man
>>24484211
iktfb. shit's fuggin terrible
>>24482893
A beta kek post by a reddit gold gentleman.
Fuck off. There is no such thing as meaningful relationships with women. All women are terrible people without exception.
>>24485426
>There is no such thing as meaningful relationships with women
Obviously m8, but you must be blind seeing as that was literally what he was saying.
There's no point looking for relationships, work on yourself, for yourself and then they'll come to you, if you want it.
He's not saying you should center your life around pussy, it's the opposite.
>>24482893
>self-improvement, e.g. working out, education volunteering, career
what if I hate that stuff and find it unpleasant and unfulfilling?
>>24485532
If you don't have any useful skills, why should women, from an evolutionary standpoint, be interested in you?
>>24485480
then people just say oh ano what why are you not going after all these nice girls are you gay??
an then you try to say no and they say oh yer in teh closet wtf
>>24485644
>muh evo psych
regardless, if the only reason I would want to do those things is to attract women, doesn't that land me right back at the "you're trying to hard and they can smell that" problem?
>>24485645
>an then you try to say no and they say oh yer in teh closet wtf
...and that is when you tell that kek to fuck off. All roads lead to death, so it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of you, they're transient and fleeting. So, allowing some cunt to blatantly disrespect you is just retarded. Who cares if you're perceived as an 'asshole'?
Don't tell me you actually allow people to do this?
>>24482893
>Disgusting tattoos
>No bra
Someone please push that thing over
>>24482893
Why do you have to improve yourself with the intent to attract a women. Why not just improve yourself to be better?
>>24485903
>Why not just improve yourself to be better?
because if I'm doing it just for me, what's the fucking point? If I don't have to think about whether other people (women or otherwise) approve of my life choices, then why wouldn't I choose to sit here and play video games instead of trying to make myself into something acceptable to them?
>>24484211
You aren't waiting long enough or putting yourself out there enough. Wait for the girls to make a move or for her to drop a few small hints, then get the message and swipe them off their feet. Once they drop hints go for it. If you get rejected at all gtfo before you become a beta orbiter.
>Fucking her
Haha
Kill yourself my man
>>24482893
>In the meantime you should focus on self-improvement, e.g. working out, education volunteering, career, as improving these aspects of your life can only benefit you in the long run.
The "improve yourself until pussy comes" meme. Go fouck yourself. You are part of the problem. AKA join the incel beta sexless reserves of losers "improving themselves" until a 30 year old dried up pussy single mom decides to pick you off the sidelines and pay for her mongrel retard kid.
No, don't "improve your life," actually live a good fucking life for yourself, not for the promise of some magical fairy cunt that will magically appear some day.
t. black pill
>>24485903
OP here, I dont. I improve myself so I like what I see in the mirror, so when I'm 80 I can still be active, so I have made some sort of positive impact in other peoples' lives, so I can look back in 10/20/30/60 years amazed at all the knowledge I've gained.
Never improve yourself with the intent to attract other people. Give up on the false idea that women are the be-all end-all to your happiness. Its nice to form a meaningful relationship with one, but thats something that has to come. You can put yourself out there for sure, but dont spend exorbitant amounts of time chasing/worrying about girls.
>>24482893
>balding 5'10 manlet
>could be fucking her
Kek. I'm not even a virgin but come on bruh.
Whatever. At least I'm not a kekold.
>>24486334
work hard, eat right, work out, improve yourself, die alone anyway because you're not a chad like this fucker
>>24486390
>chad is ruining my life
>not me, im perfect in every way
When will this meme die
Bump 6j
Bump 65
>>24486656
>>24486831
Thanks for bumpin m8
>>24486515
idk man
I think it's twofold really:
On the one hand you have a hyper-sexualised society that pushing sex, nudity etc in your face 24/7 no matter where you go but on the other hand you're being punished for buying into it.
The only way out is inevitably though hookers, which is fine I guess but just fucked up.
There should be more regulatoin on advertisement and TV in regards to sexual content because it really is quite distressing.
>>24484211
Honestly the same ones that thought I was gay are the ones that wanted to fuck me.
>>24486869
Don't thank me too much cause I'm this >>24486357 anon
>>24486155
So you secretly care enough to analyse the situation and play it like some autistic game of chess but you're trying to make it look like you don't care is what you're saying.
>>24482893
>Just keep working on yourself bro, it'll happen!
>You've worked on yourself for a long time and you still have no gf? Then you haven't improved then!
>lol sex isn't important bro, trust me. I've had lots of it and I can say it's no big deal.
>Wow, bitter much for not having sex? Stop being so desperate lol
>just work on your career bro
>just improve yourself bro
>girls will come bro
>>24487055
I'm not much of a Chad, I don't attract cute girls but I'm getting there. If you want something then put yourself in a position where you can get that something. Don't work solely to get it, but improving your overall standings in life will help.
>>24484211
>"I got friendzoned." "Whatever bro, you were just too afraid to tell her what you thought, and she assumed you were just a friend. Your fault."
>"I've approached dozens of women and everyone of them turned me down!" "Woah there Copernicus, no way you were actually attracted to them all. Shouldn't you get to know them, become their friend, identify their unique inner beauty?"
>"I'm only ever attracted to/approach a small portion of women I click with, but nothing has worked out." "Come on man, dating is a numbers game, just start talking to people. Ask them out for the hell of it without hanging your self worth on the answer. Or maybe just hang out with them, get to know them. You'll improve eventually, and one of them is bound to say yes."
>>24487274
LOL this
>>24485736
im 5'6 at 25 yrs old and most people that act like that towards me are fat women or guys far bigger and stronger than i
>>24486923
good for you man i guess im not that lucky
>>24487055
You are supposed to improve for yourself, not for other people
>>24482893
I've done nothing to get puss. Hasnt worked out. Probably because I'm hideous.
I swear one day I'll make it, familia. And when I do, I'll post a story here about how I made it. Givin back to the community :^)
what kinda top tier alpha males browses /r9k/ who can actually reliably get laid by having women approach him on the street.
you must be a legit 10/10 apex predator, or you're lying.
>>24482893
Not true at all.
I was a virgin until I was 24. I literally never tried to get laid or find a girlfriend because I didn't care. I eventually decided that it was something I wanted to change and spent the next few months putting in a bit of effort. I eventually got a few first dates, with the 3rd one leading to sex and a relationship. We broke up after 6 months and I took a break for a month before finding a new girlfriend.
Basically what OP says is completely wrong. You get a girlfriend/sex by actually trying.
>>24486990
Of course you are going to be looking to see if they are interested, but if they aren't then just be chill. The whole point is to stop pursuing, and let casual relationships develop with girls, so that you can build off of that. Even if they clearly aren't interested if you are friendly and likable they might hook you up with one of their friends, or at the very least hang out with you as a friend occasionally. The more girls know you and like you the more likely you are to get a gf / get laid
so what are some signs (both verbal and physical) that a friend-girl likes you
>>24487672
Men and women aren't meant to be friends.
It's unnatural and part of the reason society is so fucked.
>>24487592
I'm not saying don't try, I'm saying dont chase or obsess over them.
>>24487791
why?
the only people I've ever seen make this point are usually people who don't really get much sex, and usually get stuck in le ebin friendzone.
so they take the stance of: fuck all women you cant be friends with em because they'll take advantage of your kindness and make no sex repayments in kind.
you can be friends with women, you just can't be a beta desperate for female validation and be friends with women.
Tell me a good reason why I should waste my time on people that just pretend to like you but in the end, are going to abandon as soon you encounter a bit of hardship or for any stupid excuses that doesn't suit their feeling.
>tfw everything niggas do is because they are trying to impress succubi
>>24482893
Wow you're just bullshitting so hard.
>"LOL DUDE DON'T TRY IT JUST HAPPENS xD"
Just as bad as "BEE URSELF BRO. JUST BEE URSELF!" It's so meaningless and so pompous at the same time. Go fuck yourself you stupid prick. You had sex with less than 5 girls and you think you're the shit. What a fucking idiot.
>>24487865
That's an common misrepresentation of my position.
Men and women, naturally self segregate. They aren't meant to think of eachother in terms of friendships.
If a woman thinks of you as her friend it's probably because in her mind you're just another woman.
If a man thinks of a woman as his friend it's probably because in his mind that woman is just "one of the guys".
You can't be friends with women unless you want to remain a man.
You can talk to them and engage in pleasantries with them but true friendship will never be attained unless you degrade yourself and behave like a bitch.
desu
>>24482893
>If a woman likes you, there will be signs (even if she's shy)
This is the important part of your post and I'm shocked I'm the only one who seems to be wondering what it actually entails. Are you going to expound on this or aren't you?
>>24487949
15, but close I guess. I posted this mainly from things I've learned reflecting since my breakup.
It depends what you want. If you're after easy hit it/quit it pussy then this thread is not for you, just do whatever the fuck you want to lure women into your bed. This thread is designed for people who want a meaningful relationship with a female. Im not saying give up/dont try, I'm saying dont obsess.
>be yourself
This is solid advice and people shit on it way too often. Real girls don't wanna deal with a bullshitter who isn't who they say they are.
>>24487976
.. so you've immediately contradicted your own hard-line position by saying they can be friends, they just modify they're behaviour around the opposite gender -- which is true.
great talk my nigga.
>>24488075
unless you're in highschool senpai you're not going to get a relationship as a man by sitting back and being passive.
it literally does not happen; unless of course you're a 10/10 playboy with women trying to steal some of that lifestyle.
advising someone to be passive in getting relationships is bad advice, and directly goes against what men know they need to do and what women say they like to see from men.
>>24488073
There's no checklist. Just pay attention to how people act around you.
>>24488219
what the fuck does this even mean
>>24488102
No, you're just further misrepresenting my position.
I really can't be asked explaining something so basic as self segregation to you.
Just look at any school.
Girls talk with girls.
Boys talk with boys.
That's self segregation.
Somebody didn't sit down all the little toddlers and tell them not to talk with the opposite sex they just do that anyway because they're biologically programmed to stick with their own.
As a man you're so fundamentally different to a woman both mentally and physically you'll never be part of their social group.
Unless you're a raging faggot jacked up on oestrogen because you love sucking dick so much you just have to splurt it about everywhere you'll never be woman's friend.
And it's spelt nigger, not "nigga".
>>24488219
GREAT ADVICE DUDE I WILL DO EXACTLY THAT
YOU WANT TO LEARN HOW TO COOK? JUST THROW IT IN THE PAN AND SEE HOW IT GOES. YOU WANT TO LEARN HOW TO FIX THINGS? JUST BUY A WRENCH AND GIVE IT A TRY.
JUST GOTTA PAY ATTENTION, BRO
WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THIS SOONER?
>>24488262
it's basically the
" i don't really know what I'm talking about, I'm just typing out semi coherent thoughts that spring into my head "
indicator.
>>24487791
I'm not disagreeing with you, but having female friends helps if you are looking for a gf / casual sex. Also getting used to casual interaction with girls is very important in this society if you want to have any kind of relationship, casual or otherwise.
>>24488269
except everything you're using as evidence for your point:
> I really can't be asked explaining something so basic as self segregation to you.
>Just look at any school.
>Girls talk with girls.
>Boys talk with boys.
is fundamentally flawed from the ground up.
we don't operate our society on a hard line segregation based model for social dynamics.
you've fucked your own argument by taking such an absolute stance on something that is clearly not absolute to anybody with a semblance of intellect.
think about it, you're trying to imply men and women don't socialise in school as one of your key points.
maybe you didn't socialize with girls, but I assure you other males have and do.
>>24488073
Different girls give off different signs but
>seeming flustered/nervous when she talks to you
>touching
>laughing at stupid shit you say
>staring at you excessively
Mostly 1 and 3 are the dead giveaways but its easy to write it off as being goofy or weird. Sometimes these signs will be given very subtly so you have to figure it out.
To be very clear, I know a lot of you took what I said the wrong way
>DONT GIVE UP ON WOMEN
Dont stop going after girls, obviously you wont get laid if you do that. That being said you need to play smarter if you want decent results.
>Dont chase/obsess over women
Its fine to text and try to date but dont spend more than 30 +/- minutes a day at it, your time can be better spent.
>Do improve yourself
This is a must. Remember its not about them, its about you. You want to be able to look in the mirror and see someone you like. If you reach that point, women will start to notice and respond to that. WOMEN LOVE CONFIDENCE, I DONT KNOW WHY THEY JUST DO - EVEN IF YOURE SOME BUTTFUCK MANLET.
>Learn how to pick up on signs and take advantage of them
Imagine you're a hunter. Are you going to shoot your gun blindly in the hopes that you kill a nice fat deer? No, you're going to look for clues/signs that lead you to your mark. You could shoot blindly, but that's a waste of ammo and energy and you'll probably end up shooting your dog or something.
>>24488291
Glad to help, bro.
>>24488187
See
>>24488445
Im not saying dont try, for the love of the emperor.
>>24488372
"Socialising" isn't friendship.
Friendship is kinship. It's a bond established over months or even years of interaction.
It isn't just "I talk to this person occasionally ergo they're my friend."
You represent the very worst of the Facebook generation.
Your degradation of the world friend to the point where it's merely a synonym for acquaintance and your denial of basic fundamental facts of the human psyche are cancerous.
I'd ask you not to breed but given your propensity to casual sex thankfully you've done the job for me.
>>24487502
>Self-improvement is invalid if done for the wrong reasons
>>24488269
>And it's spelt nigger, not "nigga".
>being this frustrated
>>24488493
watching your argument collapse in on itself has been an enjoyable experience for me.
>>24488291
>>24488298
not the "no checklist" dude, but in my experience you should be trying to get laughter. If a girl is laughing with you during conversation it is a good sign that she at the very least doesn't mind being around you. Don't really have any specific advice on how to escalate from there, all i know is that every time i have gotten laid / met a future gf there was always a lot of laughing and fucking around beforehand.
>>24488583
Are you a woman by any chance?
You type like one and your self proclamations of victory in an argument you yourself constructed really make you sound like one.
>>24488550
If you want to say nigger say nigger.
>>24488659
nope, but your inability to coherently put your thoughts together and acknowledge the serious limitations of what you're trying to imply as gospel makes me think you might be a little feminine in the brain though.
Self-improvement is for you, if you really wanna get laid, best thing you can do is fix your shitty personality. Sure you might be a bald manlet or something, but if you know how to make people wanna be around you, you're bound to end up with some amount of pussy in the end. Unless you have straight fucked up facial aesthetics, like 3/10 retard face. That's tough shit.
You should just try to emulate the personalities of the most charismatic people you know. They don't have to be the smartest or the nicest or the most responsible or admiral people. That doesn't matter.
Just make it seem like everything around you is awesome, even if it's not. People, especially sloots, care about their social status more than anything.
>>24488701
What limitations?
You aren't some silly cow's friend because you eat lunch with her every wednesday and talk about the inane driven you read on Buzzfeed the other day for an hour.
You're an acquaintance at best. Friend die for eachother. Friends kill for eacohther. Friends cross oceans just to be with one another. Friends form bonds thicker than blood.
You find me one woman in the world you'd do any of that for. You find me one woman in the world who'd do any of that for you.
99.9% of the time she's you're wife/girlfriend/mother/sister already.
>>24488075
>15, but close I guess. I posted this mainly from things I've learned reflecting since my breakup.
>It depends what you want. If you're after easy hit it/quit it publah blabh ablhblabhhlb blah blah blah balh blah blah
dude shut the fuck up for real, nobody fucking cares about your gay opinion
everyone's experiences are completely different, you have no idea what tools I'm working with
a large fraction of the men here are working with a completely disgusting body, ugly face, shortness, early balding, small penis, crippling social anxiety, depression, substance addiction, or other mental health issues
you have no idea what they're going through and your advice is fucking gay. "just act cool and BEE URSELF, all the girls will COME TO YOU MAN" is pretty fuckin stupid advice and only makes those poor people feel shittier about themselves when they realize other attractive men don't need to do anything to be loved by women, because women just find them attractive naturally.
>>24488291
lmao'd hard
>>24488976
Whine whine whine. How is improving yourself a bad thing? I'm not saying women will flock to some rocky Dennis freak show mother fucker, but it can't hurt to get in shape.
