I'm 21 years old. Is it too late for me?
I feel like I've wasted my entire life until now. When everyone around me was having fun and living their lives, I was in my mom's basement watching anime and sleeping 12 hours a day. I'm in college now and feel like I can do better, but it's the same shit. I just go to class and then sit in my room for the remaining 20 hours in the day. I haven't had a meaningful conversation with a person in months. What can I do differently and is it even worth it to try?
>I'm 21 years old. Is it too late for me?
I ask myself that question every day. My life just seems irreparable at this point.
>>24470030
Don't worry, the vast majority of people aren't doing anything meaningful with their lives either.
>>24470030
>What can I do differently and is it even worth it to try?
Join a club, talk to people, get a part-time customer service job. Basically any way to hone your social skills will benefit you.
But remember that building social skills, just like any kind of skill, takes practice and dedication. You must stick with it and not give up, even when things seem hopeless.
>>24470030
>I'm 21 years old. Is it too late for me?
re-read that and see how ridiculuous it sounds
>>24470030
>>24470067
> get a part-time customer service job
This, OP. I did this a month ago and my mental health has improved so much. I still don't have friends and I spend all my time locked inside when I'm not working or at school but for those hours I'm working I feel really valued and happy. There is a great deal of satisfaction that comes from socializing. I couldn't go the club/"justmake friends" route because I'm awful at conversations but since you're in customer service, you are forced to talk to customers and coworkers.
Not at all. 21 can be considered later bloomer stage and you can still experience many things with the young crowd without it being weird.
Once you hit 24 it hits you hard.
Once you are 25, it's over.
21 year old reporting in. Get through the days with a belief that every dog will have his day.
>>24470118
Bitch I'm 28 next month and I still don't feel like it's too late to change. I don't think it's ever too late.
>>24470087
I've lived for 21 years doing absolutely nothing. It isn't hard to imagine myself living for 21 more the same way.
is 21 to late to transition
>>24470134
Can confirm. I'm 27 and I still don't count myself out. Let's all be thankful for the self delusion that lets us keep functioning.
>>24470134
>>24470148
How can you guys look at young college students etc. and not feel instantly disgusted with yourselves?
I'm 34 and I would kill to be able to go back to 21 and fix everything I fucked up.
>>24470162
College students aren't real people
>>24470062
I don't know how others can tolerate it. My lack of any achievements constantly bothers me.
>>24470162
How can you look at young college students without feeling disgusted with them?
At 21 I felt this way. I am 27 now, and life is way different. Lots of sex, partners, experiences, fun, etc. Keep trying. Say yes to things. Take care of yourself and your personal appearance.
>>24470186
Most people are too dumb to even examine themselves/the world in such a way. Congrats, you're smart enough to see through the bullshit, but not smart enough to do anything about it. Welcome to /r9k/, please enjoy your stay.
Bro I'm 25
and you're male
women love dudes that are like 30 and shit
we got time
I'm 23 and feel like it's too late, I don't know why I didn't do anything as a teen.
>>24470030
No it is not, you just dont know what to do about next. I seriously recommend r/theredpill. Read the sidebar etc. I was at the same point a year ago. My life has enormously gotten better.
Good luck senpai, we're all going to make it bruv.
>>24470223
>Welcome to /r9k/, please enjoy your stay.
I've been here since the original board was created; I wouldn't call the feelings it brings enjoyment.
It's just hard because all of my friends and family are doing impressive things, and I'm just wasting away.
>>24470224
Correction, women love men that age if they are successful and have experienced the world somewhat. If you are 30 and still work in McDicks having never left the town you grew up in, you ate in trouble
>>24470295
Don't worry, your friends and family will all die one day.
>uncle is in his 40s and lives with grandma
>just got fired from shit job for having weed in his system
So pathetic, we can't go out like that!
>>24470373
Little do you know that your uncle wanted to get fired, so he can now smoke weed all day instead of going to work.
>>24470368
But at lest they can live without despising themselves.
>>24470404
At least you didn't waste your time doing meaningless bullshit and jumping through normie hoops just to accomplish shit that won't matter in the slightest once you're dead.
>>24470030
Don't worry anon, you will get your day in the limelight.
>>24470419
Zurie it may not matter when I'm dead, but it means something to me while I'm alive. There's nothing wrong with jumping through "normie hoops" so long as they coincide with my own interests.
same, I don't even know why I'm in college other than escaping real life. I'm not going to get a job anyway, it's essentially impossible.
I know some people say you can change yourself and turn your life around, but I just don't see it. I can't just change my personality, this is just who I am and I have zero drive to improve myself, I have zero drive for anything
maybe if I'm faced with homelessness I'll change, maybe.
>>24470500
>There's nothing wrong with jumping through "normie hoops" so long as they coincide with my own interests.
They won't. That's why you didn't do it in the first place.
>>24470543
The problem is I'm incapable of jumping through the hoops that do coincide with my interests
>>24470609
How is that a problem? If you know you're incapable of doing something, why are you stressed about not doing it? The entire point of stress is to motivate you to do shit, if you're incapable of doing what you're stressed about, then it serves no purpose at all and you should completely disregard it.
>>24470680
I'm not sure if I'd call what I'm feeling stress.It's more of an intense self hatred. It hurts to know that only possible means of fulfillment are out of my reach.
>>24470771
Fulfillment is a made up concept. No one is ever satisfied and normies constantly want more. The same would go for you even if you end up doing whatever bullshit you feel like you should be doing right now.
>>24470821
I suppose you're right, but knowing that doesn't take away the pain. I'd do anything to reduce it even if it were only temporary.
>>24470030
It is not to late, eat well, lift, read some selfimprovement books, try to be more social, it will take time but you can become chad too
>>24470903
>I'd do anything to reduce it even if it were only temporary
Have you tried drugs? They're pretty great.
>>24470968
They only make me feel worse when I'm sober, and I don't have an income stable enough to permanently remain high.
>>24471001
Maybe you're doing the wrong drugs. You do acid or mushrooms? They're pretty great for long term effects.
>>24471037
I've done both. They were fun, but neither changed me for the better.
>>24471110
Well, if you do them a bunch of times you could at least create a drug induced psychosis. That'd probably be better than just constantly hating yourself.
You should be fine based off the point you're 21 and feel that way. It took me until I was 28 until I finally started questioning my life-choices....you have a 7 year head start.
>>24471204
That may be the best possible option. I've been considering getting addicted to heroin, so I can at least have an excuse for being such a failure.
>>24471297
Nah, heroin is shit. Just keep doing acid and mushrooms until you realize everyone in your life are actually just government agents placed there to keep an eye on you so you don't discover the secret.
