Has anyone here ever asked out a girl? Please tell your story.
Yeah, two.
One had a bf at the time, we made out a couple times, but in the end she chose him.
The other just got out of a long relationship, we kissed, but it wasn't really good. A few weeks later she said she wasn't into guys, anymore, kek.
>>24441528
>One had a bf at the time, we made out a couple times, but in the end she chose him.
>getting the opportunity to make out with a girl who has a boyfriend
Massive red flag, should've bailed right then
>do work term
>Girl there keeps coming on to me
>Coworker friends continually encourage me to pursue her
>fuckitwhynot.jpg
>Make multiple attempts at talking to her
>Super flirty over text, whenever we talked face to face she seemed annoyed with me
>fuck it I give up
>She starts coming on to me again
>No idea whats going on, encouraged to keep trying
>Okay, make multiple attempts to try and hang out
>Nothing comes of it, still leads me on
>Eventually find out she was dating another coworker
>Everyone knew, no one told me
>"Oh we didn't want to hurt your feelings, Anon."
>implying you weren't just fucking with me the entire time
Never again.
>>24441570
This, if she'll cheat for you, she'll cheat on you.
Quite often. I'm still shy of doing it, but I'm not a khv.
>it humbles me that many don't even have this life experience
>>24441422
I've asked a few. Popular thing to do was to say they will, then never show up or pretend like they had urgent stuff going down at the last minute, then never talk to me again. Some of them just say they're not into me, i appreciate their honesty
>>24441684
>Some of them just say they're not into me
Why can't they all just do this? Its so much easier for both parties
>>24441422
>take her to friendly coffee
>stammer out a request for a date, my voice decrescendoing
>she says yes and has a concerned look on her face
I'll never forget that look, she looked so shocked
>>24441422
>ask out girl in uni
>she smiles and says yes
>doesn't arrive to the date
>messages me she wasn't interested but didn't want to say it to my face
>she started spreading rumours about me
>people started harassing and ridiculing me ever since
>stopped going to lectures and just learn at home
Women are narcissistic psychos that can ruin you with no effort whenever they feel like.
>>24441737
>not realizing that coffee is date one
>she was shocked that you didn't realize that you couldn't get date two barring anything short of a spaghetti hurricane
>>24441575
>>24441793
Why do women enjoy fucking with robots?
>ask out a girl
>I'm busy this weekend
>maybe next weekend then
>maybe
>ask her out again a week later
>I'm busy this weekend, too
>try to meet up with her at a football game just to say hi
>she hides from me
>ask out a different girl to prom (with flowers and shit)
>she says yes
>later says someone else asked her out to prom and she's going with him instead
>ask out a girl
>she says yes
>refuses to let me pay for anything
>tells me she's bisexual
>says she's moving back home in three months and isn't looking for anything serious
>cut all contact with her
>ask out a girl
>she asks me why I'm asking her out
>ask out a girl
>I have a boyfriend
>ask out a girl
>she never responds
>ask out a girl
>she neither agrees nor disagrees to go on a date
>spend the next three years being exploited like an idiot pampering her with gifts
>never get anything back, not even a hug, and I would have been ecstatic to get a fucking hug
All women are cunts.
>middle school
>in gifted program
>take 3 day trip into some camp in the mountains
>our school and two other schools there
>met gaze with girl from other school more than a few times the first two days
>on third morning decide to go sit with her since she is on bench by herself
>she's really shy
>barely any eye contact made
>don't even remember what we talked about
>manage to get her phone number
>that afternoon I see her walking to her bus
>call her name
>tell her goodbye and we hug
>call her phone that weekend
>a man picks up
>hang up and never call back
>>24441905
>girls try to nicely reject you
>you keep pushing
>this somehow makes them cunts in your mind
>>24441922
>implying that wasn't her dad
>>24441976
In retrospect I realize that, but at 12 years old I had no better judgement
>>24441952
>girls try to nicely reject you
Lying isn't nice, especially if that lie is "maybe you have a chance with me."
stupid tripfag
>>24442002
Or you could learn how to take a hint instead of being a sperglord
like they were literally just trying to not hurt your feelings
>>24442035
"No," would not hurt my feelings.
Lies hurt my feelings.
stupid tripfag
>>24441805
I've never thought of it like that. Thx f a m
>>24441684
>I've asked a few. Popular thing to do was to say they will, then never show up or pretend like they had urgent stuff going down at the last minute, then never talk to me again.
Fuck this.
>ur so perfect
>omg ur so hawt how r u single
>ur, liek, muh dream guy
>ugh sorry I'm busy *smacks lips* *doesn't text ever again*
It makes no logical sense.
>>24441976
>whatever you do to my daughter I'll do to you
>>24442035
>hehe sorry something came up! maybe next week
>FFS why wont this guy take a hint I fucking hate him!
>>24442063
They arent lies
You should be able to tell what they mean
>>24442201
>a girl says "maybe next week"
>but she has no intention of doing anything next week
>or any week, ever
>this is somehow not lying
keep digging that logic grave for yourself, stupid tripfag
>>24441528
>One had a bf at the time, we made out a couple times, but in the end she chose him.
FUCKING ROASTIE WHORE REEEEEEEE
CHEATING SHOULD BE AGAINST THE LAW
>>24442194
>implying you would try to let someone down nicely if you hated them
>>24442239
Most people would have picked up on the hint that she didn't want to go out with you but didn't want to go "lol fuck off" because it would hurt your feelings
The only reason it hurt was because you couldn't pick up the hint, otherwise it would've been nicer than a straightforward rejection
>>24441952
JUST SAY NO JESUS CHRIST. Are women incapable of just telling the truth to someone's face?
>first girl I asked out (started this semester, 25 y/o khhhv virgin)
>we were at the same tutoring lab, though she's just a secretary
>anxiety through the roof
>write down "Do you have a boyfriend?" in a notebook and hand it to her
>she says "oh... I do" "well it doesn't hurt to ask"
>second woman
>she has a conversation with me one day
>she's 29, lives at home with parents, going back for her second degree after not finding work
>don't see her again for like three fucking weeks
>next time I see her (at tutoring of course) I wait until she's done with a tutor
>tell her I wanted to talk (she doesn't realize I'm >implying outside)
>ask her in front of everyone if she is single
>no, of course she has a boyfriend
>"thank you though"
Nobody has said anything about it, thankfully. It was probably for the best, I might be able to ask a woman out in a reasonably public setting now.
>>24442309
Yeah because hurting peoples feelings is just sooooo fun
>hey anon what are you doing today
>Nothing, on my way home
>Stacy and me are going to eat ice cream at place x
>Do you wanna join us?
>Nuh Im fine, I don't wanna go
>She makes a sad face while I cross the street to avoid talking
This girl invited me several times to similar things after this event. She also used to start texting me after school. Seems like she really had something going for me, but I always declined to her approaches.
Makes me OK to think about it, because I know that I would do the same today. I will never be happy with my inferior complex still in me. Sucks to be not normal.
>>24442357
It hurts so much less to the guy, if you just tell him up front that you aren't interested.
>ask a girl out
>she has a bf
>ask a girl out, get number
>never responds
>girl gives me her number, wants to hang
>stops talking to me after 1 week
>girl gives me her number, wants me to text
>she never reponds
I gave up on women and their memes.
friend asked out a girl for me at camp and she said yes, but that was the last fucking day of camp and i never saw her again
>>24442421
Like I said, if he actually picks up on the hint (like most guys do) then it hurts a lot less to just hint at it
>>24442274
>Most people would have picked up on the hint
Well, fuck me, I assumed that because we were both adults we could talk straight with each other and that she actually genuinely meant what she said. Because, you know, when I talk to human fucking beings I assume that they're not completely bullshitting me. When a clerk at Barnes and Noble tells me they can order a book for me and it'll be in next week, I don't think "oh, surely this person is being polite and telling me this book will never be available here ever and I'm better off going to amazon," because that's not how humans fucking think.
>it would've been nicer than a straightforward rejection
NO IT WOULDN'T! A straightfroward rejection is way nicer because then I could just move on and forget about her.
fucking retarded tripfag. You must be a girl to try to justify this behavior.
>>24442357
My crushes seemed to enjoy it desu senpai
>>24442444
>then it hurts a lot less to just hint at it
No it doesn't.
It's way, way worse and a flat out rejection is kinder because YOU'RE TELLING THE FUCKING TRUTH.
>>24442444
No, it really doesn't. Believe whatever you want tho, familam and keep hurting mans, if that's what floats your boat.
I asked out a girl a couple months ago. One day after a class we share I decided to ask for her number to hang out and get coffee sometime. Afterwards she keeps pushing the time back for half a week until she reveals she has a boyfriend and then sets up a time to meet. I ended up going and we had a nice chat, hopefully she doesn't feel too bad I'm not as enthusiastic about setting something up since. I feel bad when my expectations are demanding something of someone
>Knew this girl in school
>We got put into a pair for some group thing
>Start chatting
>Get along pretty well
>Start hanging out, I didn't have any friends
>We start meeting outside of school
>One day we're chatting in a chatroom
>We normally did those online quiz things
>Shit like "What Pokemon are you?" stuff
>She messages me "Lets do this one"
>'Does he/she like you test'
>First question is 'what is her/his name?'
>I go for it and type her name
>She types mine
>HOLY SHIT
>Ask her out
>"Sorry but I can't I just got out of a relationship and can't deal with another one right now"
I swear to fucking God I was on the verge of shooting my school up the next day, she made a complete ass of me because she told all her friends that I fancied her and (Surprise, surprise) she said that she wasn't interested in me, just "playing along".
I have a few more if anyone is interested
Yes.
A cute short (4'10) blonde girl lived next to my friend. One night I dropped him home after his work. She was sitting on her porch and I asked her if she would like to go for a drive. She said yes. We had a good time.
>>24441922
You just unearthed a deep memory from me, I had a GF for one day that I need from my church's youth group, at a camp. No clue what happened to her, no clue why it ended, but I had one. I think that was like a week or two before it all went wrong too, unrelated to her.
>>24442564
go on bruh
ugh
>>24442564
I love women humor of this type so much. I have a little sister and hearing the stories from her perspective of her rejecting aspie sutors is just hilarious. Basically Anon it's funny that you thought you had a shot in the first place.
>>24441422
I've tried, but the only relationships I've had that actually happened were initiated by the women.
As you can imagine, it's been a lonely road.
>>24442444
baka cant believe quality trips would be wasted on a tripz fag like u
>>24442821
ugh?
>>24442832
Poor bait, anon.
Anyway here is another one-
>Few years after the previous girl
>Randomly get added on Steam
>Some anime name and picture
>Start talking to them
>Conversation is going fine
>Ask why they added me
>Turns out she added me to get friend numbers up
>Whatever, I talk to her anyway
>She's a friend of someone I know
>Talk about anime and stuff
>She asks if I want to meet up
>agree and we set a time
>Meet up, watch a film and have lunch
>She asks me if I want to meet up the following week
>I go for it
>This carries on for a little bit
>I'm pretty sure she likes me
>ask her out after a little
>She says yes
>Literally the next day I get a message on my phone
>"Hi sorry but my ex asked me out again so can we not see each other anymore? XxX"
That one really shattered my view of women in general and I can't take any of their advances seriously so I just pander over Anime girls
>>24443022
jewish robot being jewish
Given how awful the hints are I've taken to just letting women ask me out.
Oh anon we should do xyz!
>not a date request
Yeah, you name a date and I'll go.
>full reversal of role, no date, no date. Much easier to deal with.
>hey want to do something tomorrow night?
>sure here's my number
she gave me a fake number
>>24442459
For fucks sake, you literally are responsible for your own misery in this one. This girl had ZERO obligations towards your sperg ass, just like everyone does. Hell, she probably only told you that because she did not want to have this rejection on her conciousness and nobody could really blame her for that. The world is not spinning around you and nobody is feeling responsible for your hurt feelings, most people are not sensible creatures and will spit out the first reply coming to their head. And even if she exploited you, you are a retard for letting her in the first place.
To get offended is your own choice to make and you pretty much fucked yourself over here. She might be a bitch in your mind, but she simply did not give a fuck about you, blaming her for that is incredibly hypocritical.
How can you be so self-obsessive?
>>24441575
Same, except we kissed once at the office Christmas party, and she was flirty in person.
She'd put her feet in my lap, take her shoes off in the office and put her feet into my lap and once asked if I was a virgin. I stammered and blushed and her friend laughed and said "you can't ask him that"
Her boyfriend was massive and she ended up marrying him and had his baby.
>>24441422
Two, after getting dumped by gf of three years.
>Mexican cutie
>I did a capoeira demo at the uni Latin American society
>she was mirin
>got her number after the show
>she flies the fuck back to mexico
>talk dirty for a little bit, quite fun cos she had a bf
>asks me to come to mexico, fug that
>fizzles out
>Meet indian girl at diwali festival
>lots in common, she also does capoeira
>have a good time, maker her laugh a lot, she keeps touching me, putting her head on my shoulder
>get her number
>arrange date, despite her taking several hours to days to respond
>4 hours before date she cancels
>apologises, says she will text me next week to rearrange
>doesnt
Thats my history of asking girls out. Thinking of taking a long break.
>>24443401
Fuck these bitches, this is too common an occurrence.
>>24441905
girls don't treat me like that at all
maybe it's you
>>24443460
>she probably only told you that because she did not want to have this rejection on her conciousness and nobody could really blame her for that.
>it's okay to tell lies when the truth makes you feel bad!
Holy fuck this better be bait.
>>24442444
>this much autism
Suppose you're right and "most guys" do pick up on it. How are they meant to know what's serious "something came up" and what's pity "something came up".
See they don't you spergy fuck, in reality the "let them down gently" approach is just something women use to feel like they're in control because being able to get you excited before shutting you down is the only amount of power they really have, don't think for a second that they actually care about your feelings wtf
>2015
>literally expecting rational thought from a female
>>24441905
>>ask out a girl
>>I'm busy this weekend
>>maybe next weekend then
>>maybe
>>ask her out again a week later
>>I'm busy this weekend, too
>>try to meet up with her at a football game just to say hi
>>she hides from me
>>ask out a different girl to prom (with flowers and shit)
>>she says yes
>>later says someone else asked her out to prom and she's going with him instead
>>ask out a girl
>>she says yes
>>refuses to let me pay for anything
>>tells me she's bisexual
>>says she's moving back home in three months and isn't looking for anything serious
>>cut all contact with her
>>ask out a girl
>>she asks me why I'm asking her out
>>ask out a girl
>>I have a boyfriend
>>ask out a girl
>>she never responds
>>ask out a girl
>>she neither agrees nor disagrees to go on a date
Wow, 90% of all women have acted liked this.
The "I have a bf" thing is okay, most girls have a literal line of guys waiting to date her. Most girls I knew could drop relationships and be in a new one within a week.
>meet really sweet girl on dating site
>have a nice, long, interesting conversation about our hobbies
>even mentions she would love to cook for me sometime if I visited her
>stops responding after I suggest we meet up
>>24441575
this exact thing happened to me, except she was banging anyone. Would just lead me on never hang out when I asked. Cut her off and shut her down not worth the time of day
>>24442274
ITT white knight trip fag
>"Hey, really sorry can we make the date next week, I gotta study"
>continues to send texts all through week says busy again when the time comes
>she always initiates conversation
How the fuck is that a hint you retard. Are you not fucking capable of understanding that some girls enjoy leading guys on.
>le xd your the spergh lord for not taking hint xd. le girls dindu nothin you spergass xd
>>24443460
wtf is this man. trip-fag is samefagging because no one will agree with his shitty bait.
the amount of autism in this thread is incredible
any normal person would realise that the girl isn't into you
this is how communication between people works
>>24441528
>One had a bf at the time, we made out a couple times
you fucking retard
>>24441422
>tfw ascended all need for female companionship
you're all fucking keks stop orbiting roasties and give up
I've tried many times. They either really had bfs or they just didn't like me. It damaged my confidence and dragged me down to this pit called /r9k/.
Fuck it I've got nothing better to do
>Freshman year of HS
>get to know a really cool girl with the same interests as me
>not really interested in girls at the time
>one day puberty hits me like a bullet train
>want to have female companionship
>"this shouldn't be too hard!" I say to myself
Poor me, if only I knew the path I was taking
>takes me months to work up the courage to ask her out
>says we're just friends
>disappointed but not too upset
>her brother, who I was good friends, calls me brave for asking his sister out
>she never talks to me again
>Sophomore year of HS
>cute girl sits next to me in biology
>get along with her pretty well
>she's funny so I decide to ask her on a date after a few months
>she turns me down
>acts like I'm a creep afterwards
>Junior year of HS
>girl from my old group of middle school friends comes back to my town after moving for two years
>always liked her a little
>decide to talk to her, she's dating a Chad
>decide to wait since that shit never goes well
>she's a total furfag, wears emo shit and furry cosplay pieces to school
>still ask her out after she breaks up with Chad
>turns out another guy had been biding his time like I had been
>something inside me snaps, start my downward spiral into depression for a number of reasons, including my Mother attempting suicide
>Senior years of HS
>Go to lunch with a cute girl I like, kinda friends with her
>ask her on a date
>she says yes
>habbining.bmp
>go to football game with her
>all is well
>go to another with her
>turns out she is dating a guy on the football team who is a good friend of mine
>ask her if she knew about how I felt
>"yes, anon."
>wtf why'd you lead me on then
>afraid my friend is gonna be pissed at me for trying to take his girl
>he jokes about it and teases me a bit and never mentions it again
>he's also a failed normie, remains a bro until the end of the year
Cont...
>>24445620
please keep going, I can relate to three of these so well
>>24445620
Cont...
>Senior year of HS
This requires some backstory...
>Have a YouTube channel with an online friend during my sophomore year of HS
>he was a real bro
>made videos about a Minecraft server called MineZ
>pretty well known in the small ass community
>he always brings in fans to play with us
>brings in a girl once, lets call her Z.
>Don't know Z too well but we play with her pretty often
>friend and I start to grow apart as the MineZ community dies off and we eventually quit our YouTube channel and stop talking.
>Kinda keep in touch with Z, start to have feelings for her
>kick myself and say "long distance never works idiot"
>talk to her on and off for a year
>cut off contact for my own good
>she messages me one day and wants to talk
>my heart is afly again, no stopping the feels
>don't say anything to her about it
So these two experiences kinda overlap a bit...
>know a cute girl, she's stuck up but I like talking to her
>ask her to homecoming, since we're good friends I thought she'd say yes
>says yes but cancels on me
>I bought her her favorite coffee and wrapped a ribbon around it and everything
>feelsbadman.bmp
>decide to tell Z about how heartbroken I am and how much it sucks to be alone like this
>she says she sympathizes and starts crying about her most recent breakup
>she's really depressed and I know that
>she threatens to kill herself
>I tell her not to
>"why shouldn't I?"
>I make one of the biggest mistakes in my life in this moment
>I tell her "because I love you."
>she smiles and says she won't do it
>we start talking more often
>things get flirty and sexual sometimes
>I really like talking to her
>some things are too good to be true
>it becomes clear she isn't mature enough to keep her eyes on one person
>has the same thing going on with multiple other guys
>obviously an attention whore, my friends warn me to steer clear
>don't listen because I was love with her
>she leads me on HARD
>she's constantly saying "I love you" to me
Cont...
>>24445746
Cont...
>she turns around and gets a boyfriend
>things get really awkward
>I keep in touch with her
>constantly typing out how I really feel about her only to delete it
>beat myself up over it
>eventually she breaks up with him
>threatens to suicide again
>I get stressed out about her
>we cry together a couple times and I think everything is starting to work out
>tell her I love her on Christmas eve
>she says "I love you too :)"
>go to bed
>for months after that she doesn't say a word to me
>completely heartbroken
>cry to my friends
>eventually realize she wasn't worth the effort anyways
>start to get myself out there a little more, but graduation is fast approaching and so it college
>Senior year of HS again
>Been talking to this cute "geeky" girl in my Spanish class
>we have a fun time conversing since the teacher doesn't give a fuck about teaching
>I decide to ask her out
>she doesn't realize it's a date
>walk away laughing inside because of how much both of us fucked that encounter up
>nothing changes between us, so it wasn't too bad
>ask her out again a month later
>clarify that it's a date this time
>she chuckles and agrees to go on a date
>dress up nice for our coffee date
>we buy our drinks and walk around town for almost two hours
>I think we really hit it off despite how awkward we both are
>she hugs me and we part ways
>say "fuck yeah" to myself on the way home
>despite my efforts to contact her afterwards she never replies
>not super disappointed, but I think it's rude to pull shit like that
>oh well it's progress
>graduate from high school a few weeks afterwards and start prepping my ass for university
>Z finally starts talking to me again after I arrive at university
>she's talking about a lot of heavy shit, but she seems much better than she was before
>she got a shrink like I told her to
>she talks about her last boyfriend and how she lost her virginity
>I didn't want to hear it because it hurt my heart, but I listened anyways
Cont...
>>24445842
>she says her Chad ex gave her a bootycall the other day
>her friends told her to ignore him
>she didn't because she "still loves people even after they break up"
>awkward silence
>"Anon... Do you still love me?"
>She's the only girl to ever tell me that she loves me
>I realize what I should say, I need to shoot her down because I know she'll hurt me again
>do the opposite
>"I do, Z, I don't think I could stop loving you even if I wanted to."
>I really did want to stop loving her in that moment
>she tells me she loves me and that she'll talk to me later
>my friends tell me to block her ass and forget about her
>I know that's what I need to do
>I hover my cursor over the button for a good 5 minutes but cannot bring myself to do it
>talk to her later that night, she's really horny
>she talks about visiting me and having sex with me
>I say that's not exactly feasible, and I don't think it'd be legal now that I'm 18 either
>she smiles at me and says "I was joking"
>she clearly wasn't
>talk to her but slowly wean off contact
>knowing how unstable she is I don't want to set her off
>haven't talked to her in about 2 months
In my mind I dodged a bullet.
So that's all the stories I have for now, I'm planning on asking a girl out this week and it probably won't go very well given my history, but I'm not going to stop trying damn it.
Once.
She said no.
It hurt.
Now I'm a 29yo KV.
>>24445922
I admire that you aren't a quitter anon, but don't you think after a while you'd learn that having a relationship might not be worth your time? I'm just curious, not saying it is or isn't. Thanks for sharing by the way.
God no, fuck that
>"Hey would you like to go out sometime?"
>"Hmmmm....I have a boyfriend you know, and he doesn't like it when I go out with other men, teehee"
>"Oh it's alright....anyway, good bye"
>"Bye!"
What annoyed me more is that a few days ago she gave me her phone number pretty enthusiastically. I don't get girls.
>hey, xxx, i like you. can we go out?
>she: no, sorry
>can you at least tell me why?
>she: i have a boyfriend
>k
>she: but we can keep talking about arts and stuff
>no, thx *walks away*
wasnt that terrible
>>24441422
No. I'm asexual
>>24446011
In all honesty I don't know. I want to try having a real one before I make a judgement on weather or not it's a good thing for me to have in my life.
>>24446086
I see. Well don't kill yourself trying to get other people's approval. Although around here people might see women in an extremely negative light, there's still a lot about it I think is true. True about people in general, actually. Hopefully this next girl gives you the chance you deserve, however.
>>24446155
If worse comes to worse I'll just enjoy the extra money I have from not having a spouse and/or child and live my life as a free man.
I'm gonna assume we are talking about asking a girl out that you had no idea what she would say.
Because usually I will never ask a girl out unless I'm 99% confident she will say yes.
I have only tried the blind pick up thing a few times.
Got shot down every time.
My last one went like this
>Be at store
>Talking to cashier at counter
>As I'm purchasing my product (don't even remember what it was) I make small talk with her
>She actually seemed to be into the conversation with me
>Finally say, well hey give me your number and I'll text you sometime. We'll go do something
>She replies, Sorry I just got out of a relationship. I'm not really looking for one at the moment.
But we all know if that had been Chad, the answer would have been yes
>ask out QT to prom after months of preparation
>date goes great
>just get ignored shortly after
Okay.
>Knew girl I liked liked my best friend
>Told bestfriend I liked her
>bestfriend said he'll help me ask her out as moral support
>Was walking with bestfriend, crush and crushes friend
>Bestfriend kept nudging me say "go in do it. Go for it already"
>"hey erm anonette... w-will you go out with me?"
>We all stop walking
>She looks me in the eyes and says
>"Awwwwwww cutie"
>pats my head (I'm a manlet)
>Try to fight the tears. No use.
>bestfriend "Ah man at least you tried. better luck next time eh?"
>mfw she thought I was joking
>mfw she went out with a chad the next week
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