why do all of my friends keep slowly, silently cutting me off, /r9k/? old friends, new friends, they all keep doing it. I wish it would stop.
anyway, feels/vent thread
>>24343493
My friends did that too, i think it's because i'm boring. I wouldnt mind just hanging out irl with people and not feeling pressured to talk to them and vice-versa. A nice silent friendship. Of course i know this makes no sense so i'll be alone forever
>>24343535
>i think it's because i'm boring
Pretty much this.
We're not fun to be around, people naturally forget about us unless we get mentioned for whatever reason.
My friends are the same way. Recently I've been unable to connected with some of my best friends. Its sad seing myself regress but I've got you losers to cheer me up.
>>24343535
I know what you mean. I long for that, too. I told it to my best friend and he just told me that it's a weird and awkward idea to hang out with someone without talking.
The one rl friend I see regularly constantly pressures me to talk when we hang out, but sometimes I just want to sit there and watch him play games or something.
Anyone else feel like they have to bait people into talking to them? That's a shitty feeling. It's very close to attention whoring but it seems like the only option.
>>24343714
I do attention whore and bait people into talking to me. I've posted pics of my belly in the hopes that gay guys would talk to me. Not even gay, i just want the attention and conversation. ;_;
>>24343493
yeah but that is natural, and one way to find your true friend
If somebody here needs a friend I'll talk to them on Skype
>>24343867
what if they are really repulsive?
at least you can make friends in the first place
The feeling I get is that if your life isn't "eventful" then people have low interest.
By eventful I mean things like jobs, dating, having kids, cute pets, skiing, traveling, going to parties, doing dumb shit, etc.
>>24343910
Looks don't really matter, I won't see you. A repulsive personality would be interesting.
>>24343493
That drawing is cute.
>>24343768
I don't have any "true" friends and suck at making them, but I see what you mean.
>>24343921
does it really matter if none of them really like me and i don't like the one that do like me
I have a single friend left and I wih he abandoned me as I can't just stop bugging him. He's smart and I'm just too much waste of a time, honestly I'm forcing him to talk with me because I'm lonely and he's too much a good guy to reject. When he'll finally cut me off at least I would know I'm not the bother for anyone.
>>24343959
It's definitely a factor. But I think that having friends and an eventful life sort of feed each other. Yet, someone can have friends that care about their uneventful life or an eventful life with no friends.
Therefore someone else just has to care enough to reach out to you. I think you just have to be lucky enough to know someone like that.
>>24344004
yeah, it does matter. And why don't you like the ones that like you?
I've got like two friends and one prefers to leave when they go through rough times. I'm in college but haven't made any friends, I've got acquaintances and that's it.
>>24343493
I am someone with many friends who has cut off friends before. It usually has to do with some part of their personality, such as being extremely hateful or belittling, autistic or spergy behavior, clingy or obsessive behavior, prone to excessive anger, etc.
Very likely you have a personality flaw that rubs most people the wrong way. I don't enjoy cutting off friends at all and I believe people can change, but at some point it becomes too stressful to deal with someone like this and you decide to let them go.
>>24344102
On that note, how do I make friends in college? I had to move to a new state and I feel like that messed me up. And I'm in engineering and I heard thats a good program to make friends in cause we're all after the same thing... Seems like that isnt the case.
>>24344136
I think the key point is to have anal sex with them. Only then, you can call them friends.
>>24344127
Help me change to be a better man senpai
>>24344136
Try joining a club or participating in a hobby that you enjoy, you will likely find many people who are like you considering you already have one big thing in common.
>>24344079
they are too clingy/flirtatious/annoying in some way, usually. i'll like who they are but get turned off by some of their behavior, basically.
>>24344127
i'm pretty sure my issue is that i can't start conversations and it leads people to think i don't like them or care about them anymore. i'm comfortable with periods of silence if i know every time we do talk it is fun and meaningful. oh well
>>24344127
>autistic or spergy behavior
>tfw actually autistic but don't tell anyone because I'm afraid they'll leave
Everyone leaves me after maybe a month of knowing me anyway. Probably because of my autistic behavior.
>tfw remain friends with someone who insults you all the time because you don't know anyone else
>>24344190
That's not really a personality flaw that would cause someone to cut contact, there is likely something deeper. Feeling like my friends are inconsiderate or not thinking about me is certainly a bad feeling, especially if you spend time thinking about them or talking to them. It won't cause someone to feel stressed out or cut contact.
You usually need to reach a "breaking point" to cut off someone. People who don't talk to me much just don't talk to me, not get removed from my life. I try to assume people have their own lives and can't always talk to me so I don't really get that upset about it, just feel a little sad that we can't talk for now.
>>24343493
This happened to me when I was depressed.
You can't really "fix" it. You'll likely be alone for a while.
I found that over time -- years! -- I gradually made peace with my brain chemistry. My brain chemistry didn't change, I just came to understand and accept it.
That allowed me to reach out and forge the few friendships I now have -- which I deeply value.
>>24344230
I stayed friends with someone just because they were the only friend I ever had even though they treated me like shit. Not friends with him anymore.
So I know that feel bro.
>>24344167
>likes drawing
>be the first day at club
>4 people come
>only asians, no wonder the club president is asians
>one heated up his lunch and it was fish
>everyone is super quiet, by robot standard
>club session consists of doing ball shading and CP walking around giving tips with relaxing study music 6hr playing
>did surprisingly well, made the dude sitting beside me felt bad
>next club meeting
>only me and CP
>how about we cancel this meeting anon?
>no
>club session consists me doing more ball shading while relaxing study music 6hr music is playing
>CP sitting in teacher's desk hating every minute of it
there hasn't been a club meeting since a long time now
>>24344328
>how about we cancel this meeting anon?
>no
thanks for the laugh anon
I have barely any friends left and they don't give a shit about me, they only have me around to cheat off of on tests.
It's been two years and I still haven't gotten over someone that I didn't even date, while they're living their life and have moved on a long time ago.
I honestly don't know why I'm still alive.
>>24344328
draw me a cactus. club anon
>>24344408
wait a sec, I gotta pick up the laundry really quick
>>24344285
well, yeah, that's what I thought. when I don't talk to someone for a while I don't remove them, just wait for the next time we are perhaps able to converse. but everyone removes me for not talking to them in a while.
a few times I've asked, "why did you cut me off?" out of curiousity and they say things like "I didn't think you even wanted to be friends, you didn't message much" or tell me that real friends message more often
>>24344328
Try getting a little more specific, drawing is a huge range of people. For example, people who enjoy drawing furry porn are obviously going to have a lot in common.
It should be obvious that you're not going to have much in common with Asians.
also
>made the dude next to me feel bad
You seemed to have reacted to this the wrong way, if someone feels bad about their work, you should encourage them. It's not an opportunity to try to one up people to impress them, you should have made them feel like they were capable of your work too. You probably came off as someone who isn't modest which is a big red flag to Asians.
I wouldn't enjoy hanging out with some narcissistic artist who believes his work is "good" either, assuming this is what happened.
>>24344387
Actively distract yourself from that person, anon.
>>24343493
I did the opposite to my friends, since they started becoming orbiters i cut all contact with them.
>>24344452
I've tried but it just doesn't work
They were basically my best friend for 2 years where we talked nonstop
>>24344463
my problem is that i'm the opposite of an orbiter; a distant but overly caring person.
but i feel you on cutting off orbiters. shit gets annoying
>>24344437
Some people are easily offended because they project their own thoughts onto someone else. They're not assuming you might be shy or busy, they think you are purposely ignoring them because you actively dislike them because this is what they would do.
It hurts peoples feelings but for the wrong reason, you'll find someone who gets along with you anon. The trait you have isn't a friendship deal breaker or something, I keep a lot of friends who aren't very chatty or they're just shy. It's no big deal.
Try avoiding overly sensitive or needy people.
>>24344499
At first it's hard having no social interactions for months but i noticed i kept spending more and more hours in this place so its ok.
>>24344499
Would it be dumb to equate it to stars and planets? Like people with friends have to be either stars or planets to draw people in with their gravity while others are just smaller rocks flying through
>>24344555
no, I think that's cute, actually.
>met a guy from one of the threads
>add him on skype
>he's super submissive, which is good since i'm a domme
>we send some lewd chat back and forth
>ask if he wants to be my sub exclusively
>he agrees
>eventually manage to convince him to fap over mic for me
>he does, it's really hot for a while
>halfway through, he disconnects
>ask if everything's ok
>he ends up posting a wall of text about how he has to cut contact and that he's really freaked out and getting on mic in the first place was a mistake
>deletes me from skype
>his skype was a throwaway (he had no contacts except for me) so i can't even find him again
>tfw i'm a NEET and never leave the house so I can't meet anyone else IRL
>haven't found anyone not creepy/orbiter-y on here since then
Only knew him for a week, but he seemed pretty nice and cute. Wish things had worked out, but oh well.
>>24344444
true true,
I'm not narcissistic at all, I constantly belittle myself for reasons, usually I don't even know what to respond when people compliment me because it feels so good, it feels pathetic, I have a mental image of me like a dog waiting to be petted on the head afterward
but you have good point, maybe I did come across as being non modest
>>24344444
nice quad by the way, you must be telling the truth
>>24344648
Baby those are quints, one in 10,000 for you. That's how I roll.
>>24344630
Good luck btw, you seem pretty nice so I'm sure you'll come across someone soon if you put yourself out there. You can always loosen up a bit after you get to know someone. First impressions seem shallow and ignorant but they are often used by people to protect themselves from hurt or stress of having to be around someone they won't get along with.
Don't take it personally, they just got the wrong idea.
>>24344408
here you go!
It took quite long, sorry.
>>24345045
woah hey that is a pretty swell cactus anon
>>24345066
Thanks, I actually thought about making it a swelling ogre cock.
I'm glad that you like it.
>>24345045
lovely colors. thanks anon
>>24345125
You might think it's really simple but I'm really impressed. I can't draw worth a crap and I'm not good with colors. The shading is really cool and gave me ideas on how to make things look more 3D
People are selfish pricks and rarely will someone be around someone else unless they think they are gaining something from it. The harsh truth is that you people only take. You demand attention, resources, and validation. Your idea of a relationship is expecting the other person to do exactly what you want when you want them to do it. Every single person that phases you out of their life has come to the conclusion that you're not worth the time because you don't fucking do anything for them.
Start being fucking useful and watch how people will suddenly start showing up. (then you get your own group of freeloaders but I doubt that many of you have the strength of mind to actually accept what I've written)
me rn
I think I'm a toxic relationship
I just want a weeb friend.
>>24345260
It's true but it's not so one sided. Some people here are willing to give but everyone else thinks what they have to offer is shit so they just shun them. This is why you see so many people drop out and go solo. In fact it's almost like that is being way too demanding of the recipient.
>>24345169
you are welcomed, I would never have drawn a cactus without you
>>24345192
not at all, I had to restart a dozen of times until this idea pops up, simple and soft color
>>24345260
>doesn't do things for other people
>believes people are calculating Patrick Bateman-esque characters
>defines friendship as simply doing things for another person
People don't hang out with you because you are selfish anon, not because most people are freeloaders. A few people are freeloaders but it's not everyone around you.
They likely also consider you uncharitable or cold given your post. The image you selected with it gives me a "I don't care postmodern guy" kind of attitude, someone who is insincere.
Some people can simply be happy and enjoy doing things for people they love, and often times in turn, people who love you will treat you with deep respect and consideration as well. Being cared for and caring for others is one of the most fundamental things a relationship is about, friendship or romantic. If you cannot help people, they will not help you. It's usually something people would consider humane.
Obviously, this is just my own observation, this is how I experience friendships and how I feel when I help people. You seem to be getting the opposite feeling from the whole "interacting with people" experience.
>>24345396
You sound like a female.
>>24345499
I would rather be female than someone who saves image macros to my computer in 2015 and is still in the mindset of a Death Note character 'cut on the edge' kinda faggot.
>>24345597
Being female, I doubt you adhere to your own creed of what defines a friendship. I've only been able to acquire one true friend and that was a bro.
>>24345597
>>24345652
You two are never going to ever truly understand how things work for men because you've never experienced it. You may start to understand when you are post-menopausal.
>>24345707
>similarly...etc
>had a large group of friends, 3 of them being my best friends
>dad loses job, gets another one in a different state
>have no prospects at all, basically forced to move with my family because I was NEET
>a few months after moving, I save up enough money to visit home
>things are almost as good as they used to be, but I can tell that it's awkward for whatever reason
>almost a year later, decide to visit again
>only one of my friends replies and tells me he's stoked
>everyone else either moved to another city or didn't care enough that I was visiting
>end up not going because the one friend who had replied tells me he has to work the days that I would be visiting
>its been almost 2 years now, and I get are random snapchats every month or so
I've since moved to a different city, gotten a job and met a new group of guys. They're all older than me by at least 3 years, but I'm happy as hell to be interacting with people again. Odds are that I wont ever go back home again.
>>24345788
trust me, random snapchats every month or so is pretty damn good
I do admit that many males have a very tough time in our society with what you are describing. Yes, it's not something I could ever imagine because I am not male. People have lower standards for me, and they let me get away with things they wouldn't allow a male to do. This has very little to do with how you view other people and there are men in this world who do not see people the way you are describing.
Also, not all females are so attractive that they never experience rejection, if this is what you are referring to. I was born with a serious face deformity and most people are not attracted to me.
>>24345988
????????????
Wrong thread, roastie
>>24346026
mistake, thanks tiny dick anon
>>24345652
>>24345707
meant to reply to these two
>>24346201
np bbgrl
>>24345988
>Also, not all females are so attractive that they never experience rejection, if this is what you are referring to. I was born with a serious face deformity and most people are not attracted to me.
Well that's who I always thought would be fembots if they existed. I'm sure a guy would be willing to see past the deformity itself, or accept it.
Difference between men and women is that a lot of men tend to be willing to accept things like that. Normally some are still stuck in their "Oh I want to be picky" phase, but eventually when a guy is just looking for a decent girl, he's up for justabout anything.
Especially considering the kind of sleazes and bi-polar loopy bitches exist, jesus there are so many.
>>24344487
I've gone through the same thing. You /have/ to move on, anon. Find something else, anything. I know how hard it is.
>>24346257
I don't refer to myself as a fembot, I just call myself female or anon (assuming the post is unrelated to my gender). I'm nothing like a robot or "fembot".
>>24345315
be my weeb friend, anon
i need a weeb friend too
what's the longest online friendships you've had?
>>24346807
Probably the relationship with my oneitis.
I enjoy seeing her fall apart at the seams as she gets older.
>>24346807
2 years.
it recently endedi am dead inside again.
>>24346807
I met a friend of mine online when I was in 4th grade and she was in 3rd; we're still friends now and she's a senior in high school/I graduated this past year. We used to be really, really close but not much anymore. We both changed a lot over one year of not talking much.
>>24346892
Do you still talk to them or is the friendship over?
>>24346978
Sorry anon. It's always miserable when a close friendship ends. There will probably be another in your future though.
>>24347286
I still talk to them daily. Probably going on 10 years now.
>>24347322
Damn. That's a long time to talk to a oneitis. Why are you happy her life is unraveling if you still talk and like her?
>>24347480
I've seen what's in her closet and I'm not interested anymore.
She can still hold a conversation better than most, so it's not so bad talking to her.
>tfw you've been bros4lyfe with a guy since elementary school
>tfw able to call each other out of the blue after months of not talking to each other and still being able to dick around like old times
>tfw he has his own circle of friends while you're still the same friendless loser since elementary school
>tfw you've somehow managed to become an even shittier person since elementary school
>tfw you might have been the only one to think you were bros4lyfe this entire time
Get a feeling so complicated. I don't know if he's my best friend because we're so comfortable around each other, or if he's my best friend because he's my only friend. I wonder if he even considers me a friend. Maybe I've been misconstruing our relationship this entire time. Maybe we're not so comfortable with each other, but rather I'm too assburger to realize when he's uncomfortable/bored. Maybe he only hangs out with me because we used to be friends in elementary school and he just pities me. Maybe it's all just a big running joke, hanging out with the spastic to regale his friends with tales of my assburger tendencies and fuckups. Oh shit nigger, my entire life up until this point has been a lie.
>>24347525
I'm amazed you've talked for so long and it's every day. It always falls apart for me. Either I'm doing something wrong or you're very compatible as friends.
>>24345045
That looks like a penis, you might be gay
>>24347689
Hack his facebook
Check his chat history if he talks about you
>>24343493
Anon are you me?
I even made an /r9k/ "friend" (more of an acquaintance I suppose) and I really liked him/liked talking to him but he deleted me from skype sometime after I got crazy busy with work and was too shy to message, especially since I liked talking to him but didn't know what to say that was interesting. Even fellow robots that I can relate to a lot don't want to be my friend.
>>24349686
sorry for that long-ass sentence by the way.
s-shakes, if you see this by some random chance, h-hmu if you ever want
I am constantly struggling to do the bare minimum to succeed in this life. Outwardly I appear like I should be happy. I have hobbies, a loving partner, family, friends, pets, I'm a good worker, I get good grades.
But for years, I've been so depressed. Existentially. Everything is such a pain, I rarely have fun or enjoy myself, and when I do it's so short lived. Life seems like it's one big pile of shit with a handful of nice things to tide you over. I've never seen the point. For as long as I can remember, I've always thought life was so pointless. I've been suicidal for years.
Despite being "smart" and all the people who care for me, I always feel useless, like a terrible person. I never feel loved enough. I'm hopelessly insecure. I feel lonely, always, even when among friends. I don't want to live this life. I don't want to do any of it. I don't want to work full time. I don't want to always worry about other people, but I don't want to be alone. When I have free time, I squander it, browsing 4chan instead of doing things I like because I'm always so exhausted no matter how much I sleep. 6 hours, 8 hours, 12 hours, I always feel sore and tired. I can't remember anything. I feel like an alien.
Every day I beg for death, both in my head and out loud. Everyone knows how I feel, but it's become so commonplace it's just nothing. I joke about dying and everyone just laughs "haha, that's Anon", and that's what I want. I want to tell everyone how I feel without being a burden. It works.
There's nothing I can think "oh, if I do THIS things will get better", because I have it so good already.
I just want to die.
I just want to feel loved.
I just want to be happy.
Someone please help me.
>>24349686
>>24349702
if he deleted you over that then he wasnt worth the friendship
>>24349752
maybe. I think I might have missed messages from him so he might have thought I was ignoring him while I was away. Oh well, I'm dumb for getting attached to a person I only seriously talked to for a few days. Perhaps I'm too desperate for friendship
>>24349800
what about him made you like talking to him?
>>24349686
You HAVE to show you're interested to people. I recently added two people to Skype.
One of them showed a lot of interest at first and then died off, so I asked them what was going on and they responded that they were stressed out because of school and weren't really in a good place to be a friend.
The other one I had to do everything to get the friendship to that point and the responses died out and I let them. Didn't even ask what was up.
Guess which one I deleted? Spoilers: they also had 4x the Skype contacts, and I don't find that coincidental.
>>24349748
Bro maybe you should see somebody. like a doctor. Or a therapist/psychologist whatever it is. I really think that's your best bet.
By the way, even to my most suicidal of friends, its nice to live life just to see how it turns out sometimes, right?
You get one life, might as well see how it turns out until shit goes terribly wrong.
>>24349830
I thought I did, I just couldn't use my laptop for a long time except for at weird hours lol. I get ya though. Show interest and make more of an effort instead of waiting for people to come to me. thanks for the tips/story; they honestly help because my social skills are so shitty
I have like 300 skype contacts though, but its mostly because people from big call-based groups need you added for ease of calling/inviting/joining. Don't know why I'm adding this but oh well.
>>24349887
I'd call the amount of skype contacts a red flag, but more importantly, that's because I'm insecure. I assume that if you have that many contacts, and everyone needs social contact that logically you're talking to your other friends and have no space for me, so I ditch you.
Just try to make people feel wanted. They'll remember it.
>>24349887
>300 skype contacts
absolutely disgusting
wouldnotfriend
>>24349917
Ah, I see. I only ever talk to like 5% of my contacts, I'm just too much of a baby to go through and delete anymore.
>>24349924
I just looked and holy fuck I was off, I have 155. Still a lot but way off from the years-ago number I was using. 155 is more manageable, right? r-right?
>>24349957
I have like 15. Every single one of them means something to me, though.
You're a friend collector, admit it.
>>24349957
155 is still disgusting.
>>24349970
this guy has the right idea
>>24349970
I mean, no? Because I have few actual friends, and I don't really consider skype contacts "friends" to be honest.
I have one friend who, like you, has like 15 and they're all meaningful or close friends, but my contacts are mostly old group adds or something.
You guys have inspired me to clean them the heck out though because I don't even know most of them considering they are quick adds from years ago. Thanks anons
>>24349838
I did back when I was like 15... I started to again but the process was so long, and when they finally called I was on a bit of an upswing so I brushed it off. Now I just don't care enough. I'm not going to kill myself. I've come to terms with it. years and years of wanting to, even when everything was way worse than it is now has proven that. No matter what I'll struggle on.
>>24350251
Sounds like a terrible way to live
>>24350280
It is. You know that you'll never have that way out. You can't think oh well, if it gets bad enough I can just end it, because you've proven over and over that you can't and won't.
>>24343493
>friends never initiate conversations
>feel like they don't wanna be friends with me
>keep hanging out with them because I have hope
>they still don't really find interest in me
>never initiate conversations either because they might think i'm annoyingtfw they replace you after you finally decide to stop hanging out with them for a while, and you have to watch your old friends act the same ways they did to you, but to another person
My job changed banks so I have to go get in line for who knows how long so I can have an account there
I work at 4pm and it's fucking 6am and I have to leave in a few minutes
there goes my free time
