I did not know wear to start but had the thought that 4chan has a plethora of diverse people and culture to help me with this. If my request is inappropriate or rude I kindly apologies. Just trying to work this situation out in a good and fruitful way.
I am a married heterosexual man who has found himself for the first time having a gay man enter into his circle of close friends, or casual moving that way. Sadly not a common thing in my world though not a small comunity in my town. Lets say I don't want to fuck this up. Cool guy and I don't want to be rude or make him think I am just using him as a gay google for what every my random question about dude on dude life is really like. Some info on how to be a regular friend to a regular guy that is out of the norm for me.
don't talk about penises. ever. in any context. that's it.
i managed to spend 4 years in one job without needing to ever talk about the cock. it just.. never came up.