Alright, so this girl I'm good friends with this girl, I asked her out the first day I talked to her, and she shot me down, so she knows I have a legitimate love crush on her and we were talking and tis happened, I don't know what to make of it, is she finally going to give me a chance? Any/r/ girls out there know what to make of this?
wtf did you do, OP
sounds like she gave you a chance
and you bailed on her
then you tried to blame her
accusing her of fucking Matt
srsly?
OP is a faggot she definitely likes you, she wants you to chase her
Well, we work together, and it's really hard to understand when she's joking and when she's serious about something and Matt is another coworker, she hangs out with him on her breaks
by saying "thought you were with Matt, so I left"
you're expressing inferiority. Implying that she should be with Matt instead of wasting her time with you.
If I thought my girl was with Matt, that nigger would be walking with a limp. Thats what girls want. But you "oh, I thought you were with Matt so I ran away with my tail between my legs."
Never bring up other dudes when you're talking to a girl. You placed yourself lower than Matt in the pecking order by doing so. Right now, she's thinking about Matt while she dildos herself, and it's your fault.
Well, it's a bit more complicated than that, she knows I fucking hate Matt, so when I said that I meant I didn't want to be near him
I just don't know how to approach this, she keeps saying she really likes Matt, I don't know what to do
I can make her laugh to the point she cries, I wrote her a poem, I was a prick to her, I've tried everything I just can't fucking win
>>14007787
put your feelings for Matt on hold when you talk to her. Girls eat that shit up, and she'll use it against you if you let her. You keep bring Matt into the relationship, she will too. Matt this, and Matt that, is not how you want to spend your time together. Stop being jealous of her spending time with Matt, and just focus on her in the moment. In the back of your mind, picture Matt getting buttfucked by his boyfriend, and be glad that he isn't interested in this chick.
It's like every time I ask her out, or tell her my feelings she gets really pissed, I can't do it b/r/os
>>14007670
I'm not a fem anon. so you can decide whether or not to take my advice.
First off, there's some missing information, like if you two were suppose to meet up or something, that would've made bailing on her a pretty douchey move. However, you can still salvage this relationship that you have... that is, if she actually is into you.
Since, you stated it's hard to tell whether or not she is being serious or just joking (i'm guessing shes sarcastic/smart ass/tease), and that she states how much she likes this "Matt" guy, coupled with the fact that you have already been rejected by her once, here is my advice to you:
Sometimes, honesty is the best weapon in your arsenal. The next time you see her, in person and it's just the two of you, say something along the lines of this to her: "Hey, I like you, and you know I do, and sometimes I feel like you like me too, but other times I feel like you're just playing with me... I had already asked you this before, but I'm going to ask you again... would you like to go out with me this Saturday?"
This should show you where you stand. If she says yes, then great, but if she rejects you again, then I would advise you to stop wasting your time and move on.
Good luck.
>>14007801
>she keeps saying she really likes Matt
That means one of two things:
1. She wants you to go after her.
2. She actually does like him and you're already fucked.
Might as well assume it's #1; not like your situation will get any worse. Try asking her out one more time. If she still says no, then her relationship status has nothing to do with you and you need to tell her to stop dragging you into that bullshit.
>>14007801
>I just don't know how to approach this, she keeps saying she really likes Matt, I don't know what to do
That changes everything.
She's trying to use you to make Matt jealous.
Ignore her. Is there another girl in the office, that you can ask out? Slutty Mc Matt'spants might get jealous if she thinks you're slipping away to some other girl.
I've already wasted six months with her, they were the happiest six months of my life, but I want to be with her on a more personal level, not intimate, not yet at least, just personal but I asked her out tonight and she said, "it seems like it always comes to this, I like Matt, just let me be me, or this is over" so now, I just don't know I'm sort of lost
>>14007855
>>14007880
I'm retracting what I said to you before, this goes back to that whole "missing information" thing.
You're wasting your time, you tell her something like "I understand. I hope that you and Matt hook up. As for me, I'm going to start looking for someone who is into me, you take care."
Trust me when I say this, this girl just keeps you around because she likes having someone there to listen to her bullshit... she likes knowing that she is desired by someone, just as long as that someone doesn't pursue her. Really, you've been disrespecting yourself for the last 6 months by spending all this time with her, when you could've been spending it with someone else who is into you.
Good luck.
Thank you all, no more of her bullshit I'm done being her slave
>>14007880
Girls aren't usually so direct, and that was brutally honest. She likes Matt, dude. Maybe love blinded you from hearing that, but that's what she said.
I dated a girl after her boyfriend died in a car accident. All she ever talked about was dead guy. She even screamed his name once when I fucked the crap out of her. Finally I said enough's enough. I'm not him, you need to choose. I know you're grieving, but he's gone.
She cried, and then she said "you're better than he ever was" if she hadn't said those words, I would have been out the door.
Matt isn't dead bro. For one reason or another she can't have him. She's not his type, he's gay, whatever. But she wants him. Even if you did hook up with her, she'd still be thinking of him.
I just don't know if I can let go this easily though, I said that to her, but, deep down there's a pipe wrench twisting my heart
>>14007717
WHICH I cannot stress enough is a fucking dumb thing to do. Shes not worth it OP please dont chase her
>>14007980
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kenF3_77774
>>14007980
This is her twisted game OP. She wants you to chase her and express a constant interest in her to ensure you feed her attention. In the fray you're gonna feel hurt and inferior in a way because she seems to just push you to the way side.
The only way to win is not to play friend-o
I just can't understand why I'm being punished, Matt and I look a lot alike, every time she talks to him he pushes her away, I wrote her a fucking love song for Christ sake, I can't understand why she's treating me like this, it's eating me alive b/r/os, I swear I love her, I just want one fucking chance, why won't she give it to me
>>14008042
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNZ6nR9DyVI
>>14008024
Exactly. She'll use you and step on you the entire time playing that game. My advice, fuck that shit. Girls like that can choke on syphilis filled dick. Move on and find someone you don't have to feel like being punched in the balls being around. Might hurt at first, but its worth it.
>>14008042
She isnt giving you a shot because she doesn't love you bro just the attention you give her.
From what I've read and seen from your screen caps shes literally begging to be chased.
You want a shot that desperately? Just cut her off and she'll chase you. Just generally act uninterested in her life but don't be rude.
>implying this girl is worth even being with
>>14007980
Let her go, the only reason why you're feelings this way is because you made the wrong choice, you've become attached to her. For the last 6 months she probably was the only chick you knew/wanted to know. It sucks getting rejected, that's what you're feeling now... except it's 6 months past due. You've been hanging on to a shred of hope that she would eventually come around, that she would come to realize that perhaps you're the one for her, and although there might be a slight possibility in the future that could happen (though I highly doubt it since she rejected you several times before), do you really want to waste another 6 months finding out that she hasn't changed her mind?
Just stop interacting with her, if you need to do some work-related things with her than so be it. You don't need to give her the cold shoulder during those times, treat her like you've always have, and when the work is finished/leave for the day, DO NOT contact or hang out with her. If she texts you at any given point, either ignore her or heavily delay responding by like a couple of hours, and slowly stop texting back... that will show her that you've moved on.
If she decides at some point that she came to realize that you were the one, she'll let you know. However, for all you know by that time you might not being into her anymore, because you hooked up with someone else who didn't take over 6 months to realize that you were the one.
>>14007670
Here's the thing. Life tip. Communicate and lay it all out. Don't make excuses. Put it out there, don't beat around. Tell her you like her and want her as a gf. If she says no? Move on. If she says yes, you have a gf. It's not that complicated, people make it confusing by trying to hide their feelings and slowly take the long way around to their feelings.
Be direct. Be confident. Don't play this game of "oh why am I being treated like this anons?" buuhuu. Knock that shit off. Be direct.
This was our last conversation for the night (3 images)
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How old are you three? Sounds like middle school drama
I'm 19, she's 19, and he's 23
>>14008099
Jesus op dont even give her this sort of edge lord "my final strike" shit. She doesnt care and you're making me cringe reading this utter kek shit. She is shit and you're playing into her feces facade for you.
She does not care
She will not care
She is Shit
>>14008099
Good. Done. Leave it at that. Look you have two choices. Either BE HER FRIEND AND RESPECT THEIR RELATIONSHIP, or BOW THE FUCK OUT. Don't play that 3rd wheel and claim you're in the nonexistent "friend zone".
Don't sit there and tell her you're her friend while you secretly seethe at their relationship wishing it was you and her. She flat out told you she's not into you. She wants you to stop trying. Accept that or bow out.
Accepting it is the hardest part anon
>>14008099
Don't say shit passive aggressive bullshit like that. "I hope that you and Matt hook up" no you don't. And you sound pretentious being like "oh I'll just go find someone who will LOVE ME" Don't even fucking play that beta game.
>>14008138
this, you're descending into betahood op
I was angry at first, fought like hell, as time went on, I became more emotionally unstable, if I didn't give up it would've killed me
>>14008138
>>14008142
OP has already descended into beta-hood when he got dragged around for 6 months. The advice I gave him is just to ensure he comes out looking like a pretty decent guy, last thing he needs is her running around telling everyone how much of an "asshat" that he is. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to torch bridges, you must keep in mind that they're still coworkers, had she just been some random chick he met at the mall, then he could've said whatever and it wouldn't have mattered.
People really lack chivalry and the understanding of what it is to be a gentlemen... maybe I'm just getting too old.
i love her and her happiness is all that matters to me. I'll pay her rent, and help her buy diapers for Matt's children, because i love her. she deserves it
each day i am blessed to have her light shine upon me. my world would be total darkness without her in it. i would do anything for her
i'll give her 90% of my paycheck. I can survive on the remaining 10% if i eat off the dollar menu, and sleep in my car. My life is devoted to her, I don't care what anyone says she is a goddess, and I will worship her for all of my days.
>>14008160
If you offered that advice about telling him to tell her that he "hopes she hooks up with matt" that's being a gentleman? Not at all.
And I didn't say anything about burning bridges. I didn't say hurt the girl. I said respect their relationship or remove yourself from it. He could have worded that ANY way better than that passive aggressive last text full of empty words.
>>14008177
Uh...
>>14008183
Personally, I would've have advised him to say it in person, so that way it could've came off more sincere and respectable... because this is the kind of thing you say to someone face to face, and not in a text message that doesn't carry over your emotions or the way you say it.
If you don't agree with my wording, that is fine, but as far as I see it, he is respecting her. He respect that she isn't into him, he wishes her the best by saying that he hope she hooks up with Matt, and he is letting her know that he is moving on.
>>14008183
>that passive aggressive last text full of empty words.
those weren't empty words, he really does want her to be with Matt. he hopes that she will share pics with him of Matt's cock in her ass, or a huge creamy load of Matt's sperms in her mouth.
post some pics of her OP, we'll shop some cocks in her for you.
>>14008220
Just saying, that he could have compounded his own problem with that wroding. If she takes that the wrong way, if she reads into that like he's throwing it in her face? No it's not going to be respectful or gentlemanly, and It's still plays like yet another means of having a say in her personal/love relationship.
Doesn't sound sincere and the "I'll go find someone else" sounds catty as fuck.
Too much exposition. Just needed facts. "Hey. I apologize for making this so complicated. I just wasn't sure where we stood until now. I respect that blah blah blah." Not exactly that but I'm sure you get what I'm saying.
>>14008237
To each his own.
>>14008246
Well, I doubt anon is gonna follow any of our advice next time he sees her anyway. One can only hope. For their sake. Cheers mate
send her this:
I'm sorry for what i said last night, it wasn't cool. It's just that your thick thighs, round firm ass and huge melons make me rock hard girl. It was the blue balls talking, I didn't mean it. I got a good fap in before I went to sleep, and i feel much better now. Oh, and I wasn't even thinking about you while I was doing it, I was watching some porn, except at the end I did jizz on your tits, but I am trying.
No more goofy songs or poetry, I promise. I'll give you some space. It'll be hard... seeing you in your tight skirt around work, but that's my problem not yours, and i'll handle it myself.
Just don't go bending over in front of me while i'm trying to work, and it'll be copacetic.
If you don't wanna talk anymore, I get it. I was obnoxious, and I can't blame you, but we do have to work together and I don't want things to be awkward, so we can be friends and just talk about work shit if that's what you want.
