How do I deal with internalized homophobia? I've got a guy coming over today and as cute as I think he is I'm afraid of showing any affection. He's topping so I'm kinda hoping he'll take the lead. But I'm afraid that I won't be receptive and might have a panic attack. I've never been with a guy before but I really want to.
Take it slow and don't force yourself to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Start with some cuddling and maybe a drink or two and see how you feel going from there.
>>6318639
I guess I'm just not used to letting someone else have control. I'm mtf, and since I transitioned I haven't dated anyone. And before hand I was always a guy dating girls. So it's like a totally different world for me.
>>6318652
Just know that your desire is okay. It can be a little scary letting someone else have control, but that's what makes it exciting, right? And remember that talking about boundaries might not seem sexy, but consensual enjoyment is, so speak up about what you want and don't be too intimidated to ask to pause or stop. And have fun!
>>6318666
I'm so anxioussssss
>>6318754
Just go with the flow. Tell him you're anxious and to take it easy, but if he's cute and charming you'll probably just melt into his arms and it'll be easy from there.
>>6318812
There's just lots of stuff I'm really insecure about I guess
>>6318843
Yeah, I understand. I'm lucky to have a cool girlfriend who helps me feel nice about my body. But hey, he seems to think you're cute enough to come over and spend some time with you, so don't stress it, okay? And it's okay to decide you don't want to do anything tonight too.
>>6318634
Go femgen route and take titty skittles while claiming to still be a boy
>>6318900
titty skittles?
>>6318652
If your mtf imagine what a cis female would do.
Or think about what turned you on when you were dating girls. And do that for you new bo.
OP here.
He just left.
He wouldn't even look at me.
>>6319820
Ouch
>>6319572
Estrogen
>>6319820
damn, I'm sorry
>>6319820
y tho
>>6319820
>>6320105
Because guy was most likely just looking for a fuck. Why would he stay if his partner is some virgin sperglord who's afraid of intimacy?
OP, find help from a support group. Your condition will get worse if you keep doing these hookups.
