How long do I hold out, /lgbt/?
>be me
>start a chat with a guy from grindr and get his number within the first day of talking
>he initially thought i was a catfish after seeing my pics, so i know he thinks i'm decent looking
>we've both been 'playing hard to get' (i'm not good at downplaying my interest)
>have been talking every day for about a week now and planning to meet up for the first time this week/weekend
>no nudes sent, though i've shown him clothed post-workout pics; we've been flirty but not overtly sexual
>i've made it clear i want strings/some sort of connection prior to sex
>can tell that he's into me but i don't think he's as keen on holding out
What do? I DO want the sex too but I feel as if it'll kill the chase and then he'll just ignore me. I think I'll have a better chance if I hold out and leave things to his imagination but I'm a broke final-year student and he's already graduated and working. I really don't have the money to keep hanging out or go to nice restaurants or coffee shops or whatever so the shit can develop in an organic (and expensive) way; things are tight. I've asked him to come and work out with me (home setup, free, common interest) but he's not really interested.
Should I just fuck him? I guess if there was a serious connection then the sex wouldn't matter either way but I still feel I should hold out cuz it feels better in my mind that way.
>>5907913
Go out with him -no sex.
If you feel he has lost interest, and you still want to fuck him, tell him so. He'll most likely say yes. Won't increase your chances of a reltlationship though.
>>5907926
Yeah, you're right. I guess I have to bring my A-game when we do hang out, lol. If he's not interested then I think I'll just leave it alone. I'm so used to meaningless casual sex and I no longer find it satisfying in the slightest.
If we do hang out, don't fuck, and go back to talking, how long should I hold out? Or I guess I just play it by ear. I think I need a timeframe set because we're both gay dudes and I have a particularly high sex drive on top of that so if there's no time set then I'll find it hard not to just cave. A month? Two?
>Dating in Grindr
Ugh.
