Hey 4chins,
I've been chatting with a girl online, and she said she is a transwoman. I like her, but I'm not sure how to go about pursuing her further. Do I just treat her like I would any other girl? Does this make me gay? Do I even bring it up in conversation, or just let her tell me what she wants to tell me? Any raw subjects that I should avoid in conversation? I feel like we've hit it off, and I'm trying to set the hook, but this is a different kind of fish than I'm used to. She seems like a pretty cool chick, so I'd like to get to know her more.
>>5856452
>Do I just treat her like I would any other girl.
Yes, absolutely. Don't talk about her dick (unless you're in the bedroom asking what she's okay with doing) and always refer to her as female / a girl / she / etc.
>Does this make me gay?
Maybe in the most pedantically technical sense, but you do not match the psychosexual profile of a gay man. Counterintuitive though it may be, sexual orientation is usually based on everything BUT the genitals, resulting in straight men finding trans women while there is an increasing market for trans MEN (vaginas and all) in gay porn. Gay men generally only like trans women who don't pass as female and whom they can thus treat as men, the opposite of what straight men prefer.
>>5856452
>Do I just treat her like I would any other girl?
Yes.
>Does this make me gay?
No. If you were into her for penis, then mayyybe, but that doesn't seem to be the case
>Do I even bring it up in conversation, or just let her tell me what she wants to tell me?
You should let her take the lead, at least at first. You don't want to accidentally ask something she considers too private, or just start showering her with questions in general.
>Any raw subjects that I should avoid in conversation?
Don't talk about genitals unless sex is likely to happen soon. "The surgery" is probably completely off-limits.
If it's any consolation, she's probably at least as nervous as you are. Just don't act like a twat and you'll do fine.
>>5856452
please stop comparing women to a prey animal
>>5858342
>>5858342
Most sport fish are not prey animals, but predators themselves. That's how fishing works, dumbass. Your bait is the prey, the fish is the pred. How are you able to even get on a computer to type?
>>5858742
Ahh, and now we see how the analogy relates to your tranny fetish, chaser. You're into predating upon what would normally be another predator (someone assigned male at birth). You want to dominate a male so ineffectual they became female. This is the foundation of your perversion, the irony of subverting the order and placing yourself above it all.
Go home, everybody, nothing to see here. Just the run of the mill chaser.
>>5858762
Even if it was a cis man and a cis woman dating, the analogy to sport fishing would mean both parties are predators. If using the sport fishing analogy, in any scenario, both parties are predators. Therefore, who is cis, who is trans, who is a man, and who is a woman is irrelevant. It's just an analogy used to describe a regular human interaction, that happens every day. People don't always just wait for relationships to fall into their laps, sometimes they go out and make it happen, hence the analogy. You have poor reasoning skills, meng.
WHY THE FUCK ARE WE TALKING ABOUT FISH. Why is it that every single god damn thread involving MtF is just filled with people being nit picky as fuck. I don't give a fuck if a man refers to a transwoman as a "catch", but I guess i'm now going to get a reply telling me about how I'm also a chaser enabler or some shit. Calm the fuck down and talk about OP's questions. Not how sexist a couple words are. FFS, i'm getting sick and tired of this overly butt hurt shit that goes on in every thread. This place can be no better than tumblr sometimes (never actually browsed tumblr though). As a trans girl myself, I would just like to say grow the fuck up. SHEESH.
>>5856452
Just treat her like any other girl. That's what she feel like and wants to be at the end of the day. Like >>5856524 said, refer to her as a her al the time. Being trans isn't something that fluctuated much and so if she wants to be known as a girl. that's it. No, it doesn't make you gay, she is a girl at the end of the day, trans or not. She will most likely want to be the submissive one in the bedroom (but not always) but I highly doubt she is OK with her penis in any way. Don't bring up things about her being trans unless she does. some trans girls are kinda of with talking about that sort of stuff. and others just want to completely blank it and treat it as if they are cis. Don't knock her for anything related to her gender. even if she has the best sense of humour in the world. If you point anything out to her or joke about her in any way to do with her gender. I can guarantee you it will make her feel worthless. Basically just treat her like any other girl and don't remind her that she's trans and you'll do fine.
>>5858850
and these are the people you want to chase... you think they are better in real life?
>>5858850
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>>5858867
Honestly, if I found myself in love with a transgirl, I wouldn't terminate the relationship because of that, but you won't find my chasing after a tranny anytime soon for the miryiad of other mental problems that go along with that GID
>>5859096
I can't tell if you're trying to mock me. or agree with me.
>>5858762
Easy there Žižek.
>>5856452
>Do I just treat her like I would any other girl?
Yes.
>Does this make me gay?
Do you often go clubbing with men and suck on huge hairy dicks for fun?
>Do I even bring it up in conversation, or just let her tell me what she wants to tell me?
You should both talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable.
>Any raw subjects that I should avoid in conversation?
Don't ask her what made her "become" trans, or what she was like as a guy. Just don't be dumb, use your head.
>I feel like we've hit it off, and I'm trying to set the hook, but this is a different kind of fish than I'm used to. She seems like a pretty cool chick, so I'd like to get to know her more.
I won't lie, a lot of trans girls are minefields, but not all of them. Do whatever you would when hitting on or getting close to a girl, but be even more careful. I'm just giving you answers based on my experience.
>>5867027
>You should both talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Yeah but you gotta be ginger about it. I’d put it off for a few more convos if you can bear it, and when you do bring it up don’t be cavalier about it, take a moment to say I have srs question so she’s less likely to take umbrage at whatever stupid thing you say.
>>5867065
Honestly, I would bring it up late into the first real life meeting. I'm lucky I knew I was bi in my early teens. To OP, lots of guys aren't so much afraid of a girl dick as they are the social stigma of dudes calling you gay because they think trans girls are men. People are shit.
>>5867145
>Honestly, I would bring it up late into the first real life meeting.
If they meet in real life I assume it would be to spend a week or so together, ask it toward the end. Or do you live closeby OP?
>To OP, lots of guys aren't so much afraid of a girl dick as they are the social stigma of dudes calling you gay because they think trans girls are men.
Also this.
>>5867264
>If they meet in real life I assume it would be to spend a week or so together, ask it toward the end.
Who in this day and age wouldn't be in bed within the first 2 days? What if they had an amazing week then were going to have sex and suddenly he's out because it turns out the dick is too much for him? He would get out on his terms, but she would be shattered.
>>5867286
Oh I assumed OP was talking about questions about how she FEELS about her gender identity and what’s a sensitive topic and whatnot. I didn’t even consider that someone might not be okay with the girlcock, I’m so fucking acclimated to it myself at this point hahaha. My bad you’re right man.
>>5867319
Now I feel I was reading into this wrong. WE'RE HELPING!
and same, girl cock rules.
>>5856452
Talk to her about your experiences buying tuna at the supermarket.
>>5867356
Anything fish-related is going to remind her of >tfw no vag
and trigger her dysphoria.
>>5867365
Ask her if she ever has trouble cooking sausages in her frying pan, like maybe has she ever bought super big ones that are too big for her normal pan?
>>5867387
>>5857397
>"The surgery" is probably completely off-limits.
This is fucking bullshit. At some point, especially if you plan on spending a lot of time with this person, this is something that needs to be asked. Trans who get triggered when genitals are mentioned BY THEIR ROMANTIC PARTNER are never mentally sound relationship partners.
>>5867511
>This is fucking bullshit. At some point, especially if you plan on spending a lot of time with this person, this is something that needs to be asked.
Yeah absolutely at some point. Just not day one.
>>5871899
It happens man.
How does one ask about what theyre ok with with their genitals and stuff. Im trans, but totally fine with my equipment being used in masc ways.
>>5858762
Not gonna lie. that was pretty good, i wish i could award you a ribbon for that post
