How are some people still figuring out their sexualities as adults?
>Seriously who doesn't know who floats their boat by the age of 15?
>>5803988
Sexuality can be pretty fluid and confusing, especially during your teenage years. It becomes pretty clear by around 20 at the latest though. These people who are "figuring it out" later on just consciously pushed themselves deep into the closet when they were younger. It's not a realization, it's an embracement.
>>5803988
I had a general idea of who I liked, but I grew up in a very conservative area so I forced myself to never explore it, never talk about it, never mention any of it, and bury it. Now in my 20s I'm still repressed and sexually confused, even after coming out. All of these people have been in the LGBT dating circut for years and I'm bumbling into it now like wtf am I doing pls help me.
>>5803988
Took me until I was 18 to admit to myself I was gay. I had some major fetishes (abdl) that obscured that fact for awhile - namely I would "self-insert" while looking at abdl pics - telling myself that it's the fetish, not the guy I was getting off to. Denial is a bitch.
But yeah - I know dudes in their thirties who are still "questioning" and I think it's ridiculous.
I was a fuggo outcast during my teenage years and had a poor grasp on what attraction feels like, also gave me a catalyst to frantically tell myself that every same-sex desire I had was pure desperation.
>wasn't interested in anyone as teenager
>early 20's into chicks
>mid 20's into guys
>start transitioning mtf
>into anyone
>late 20's into guys exclusively now
Could change again who fucking knows I don't care anymore. Be with who you want don't label yourself into a box.
Pre-transition, I didn't really feel any sexual attraction besides wanting to transition. I just couldn't imagine having a relationship with someone, with me as a boy. I tried asking a few girls out because I was supposed to, but was very shy about it and didn't have sex until after I went full time as a girl. Now I identify as bi, although I've only been with men so far (lesbians are harder to find), I would love to try it with a girl and see which I like more.
Bi male here. Was in denial about that and being gender non-conforming until maybe six months ago when I was 26. ama
I didn't feel any sexual drive until I was 17. Before that, I did the same thing as this anon >>5804314 and had a "boyfriend" because I figured that was the next step of maturity.
I'm 20 now and I have some drive but not a lot. I'm biscum with a preference for women.
I've always aesthetically admired women and watched soft yuri and lesbian shit like the L word when I was younger, but I reasoned that I thought it was cute. I never self inserted until later.
>>5804454
What does your gnc look like?
>>5804509
I wear nail polish. If I'm going to a bar I'll sometimes put lip gloss on. I'm not "swishy" but I have some feminine mannerisms (eg I cross my legs). I have cross dressed before but I wouldn't do it regularly. Always choose female avatars and prefer female characters in games. I pee sitting down.
In some ways I just think from a more feminine perspective. Two examples. 1) the last girl I was seeing was having difficulty adjusting to not dating her usual macho manly man type and at one point told me "I feel like in all our conversations you're so the girl." 2) I hate "pursuing".
I used to worry that being raised by a single mother had somehow feminized me, but I'm pretty over worrying about it at this point. Girls don't seem to like it but what am I gonna do. I don't think it's probable that I'd suddenly come around to liking traditional masculinity. I tried living that way for all those years and I hated it.
>>5804621
Maybe you could date a bisexual girl, since in theory they should like feminine mannerisms.
>>5804653
That'd be neat. I don't know anyone else bi though, which is bizarre since I'm at one of the most lgbt friendly colleges in the country.
>>5804670
Where's that?
>>5804743
stanford
I thought I was bi a long time. While I never denied my attraction to guys I thought that because I wanted to date girls, I even had a type I was into. So I bought into the whole homosexual+heteroromantic=bi rhetoric. Turns out the type was just traits I liked in anyone I want to be friends with.
>>5804989
i've felt like this for a while just because i haven't had any guy friends (gay or straight) as close as my female friends so it kinda of confused me
I know how you feel but at the same time sometimes it gets rough to figure out. Certain people can just set you off like that
I'm 18 years old (high school senior) and I honestly still don't know what I'm into. I think it might have to do with my earlier years involving a lot of sexual repression.
>never masturbated when going through puberty
>first sexual experience was around age 15 with another guy
>had nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) until 16/17
>didn't start fapping regularly until around this same age, because I was tired of having nocturnal emmissions still, especially at such a late age
I guess you could say I'm a serious late bloomer when it comes to sex and stuff. Everything still feels somewhat new to me. It's quite pathetic, really.
Honestly I have more of an idea of my gender identity (tranny scum here) than my actual sexuality.
I kinda just assumed I was "normal" or maybe rather just really wanted to be normal. Anyway any abnormal thoughts I pushed away as far as I could.
I remember really wanting a girlfriend because guys get girlfriends and ended up in a relationship with a terrible girl that I tried crazy hard to get back with after she left me. She ended up coming back for a little bit when I finally got over it but I took her back. Thought I loved her but most def did not. The two times I dated her were the two stupidest things I ever did. I used to make fun of her before I dated her even, I pretty much just dated her because she came on to me.
I'm 23 and barely have a sex drive. It's probably something I should check with a doctor but I just don't care. I don't masturbate, only dated one person of the opposite sex for a little bit a couple years ago and we never did anything sexual either. When I was in high school I didn't date and by senior year a lot of people thought I was in the closet because I just kept denying anyone that asked me out.
I kind of blame my parents for giving me a fear of being in a relationship but at this point I don't feel particularly attracted towards men or women.
Used to identify as a gay male, which was just me being a closeted tranny. Came out, assumed a bisexual identity, but came over time to realize that I don't really like the whole package that men represent and so I'm not really interesting in having any relationship to them.
24, probably a tranny but I'm afraid of being wrong and being genderqueer or a femguy, it's confusing. Simultaneously want to do HRT/not make a mistake.
because asexuality isn't acceptable to people and you are expected to fuck yourself over by experimenting with people you are not even attracted to,
22 bi male here. I only really came to terms with my sexuality a couple months ago. I also identify as a graysexual (I was literally sex-repulsed all through high school) but I wonder sometimes if that's just from repression.
I sympathize a bit with and >>5804621. I used to feel a pressure to put on a typical straight bro persona around my friends and I didn't like the person it made me. I have a lot of feminine mannerisms. I've been gradually going for a more androgynous look and it's given me more social confidence.
I already knew the way I ticked when I was in middle school and considered transition heavily. In the end, Susan's hons scared me off, alongside the possibility of my parents or sister that I loved so dearly rejecting me, and, to a young middle schooler, both things are difficult to bypass.
A damn shame I didn't.
>>5805508
how old are you now? did you transition?
>>5805518
I considered it again in high school, and yet again early in university. In high school, I tossed it aside, saying that I could live with it, or it was just a fetish or whatever, since I felt like I'd never be able to pass because of those hons on Susan's. I was hyper emotional back then, like, more emotional than most girls are on their period, so the thought of telling my parents and sister something like that was utterly terrifying for me.
There was never an iota of doubt in my mind *if* I was trans. It was always about the reprecussions and passing.
I wound up going for it at 22. I'm a year in, and I regret waiting this long with all my heart. I'm not getting much in the way of hippage, aside from losing 3"-4" from my waist naturally, but things are going... alright. I should be average facially with just type-3 and dermabrasion for the acne scars. After I had my eyebrows plucked, I've been getting 'misgendered' a decent amount, so long as I haven't spoken yet - though, I suppose part of it is the feminine winter jacket I'm usually wearing. Still underweight, and I need to do more voice training. Might get Yeson if VT proves to be problematic enough, but I'll give it another half year at least.
Sexuality is fun now though. I mean, full body contractions that make masturbation a full body exercise? Count me in.
The worst part is definitely the overwhelming regret. It could have been easier. So much easier.
>>5805629
>dermabrasion
hey I'm 24 and still undecided and your inspiring me. at least your not 24 lol.
>>5803988
I know I'm straight as hell since I was 5 or 6, then again I had an attraction to pregnant women at age 9, and in between I identify as a semi-male/fem combination, while I would just live my life as a boy/man into pregnant women.
>>5805629
I think I might of done it at 22 but I was harassed at my work for even siding with transgender rights.
>>5804018
Well said, it happened to me and I see it this way.
>>5803988
>be bi
>live in homohating society
>totally homophobic and in denial
>internet and culture changes your attitude
>its easier than ever to find boylove and still remain in a closet
>enjoy it much more
>fall in love
>turn fullgay
>>5803988
>15 me likes girls
>18 me likes girls and boys
>22 me likes boys
I honestly don't know, I wouldn't be surprised if I turned out to be either of the 3 because there is strong evidence supporting each.
Straight because I've never been attracted to another guy in person, only traps and femboys online, but I don't know if that attraction would carry over into real life.
Bi because I (think) I'm attracted to girls, but there is a chance my gay porn habits could possibly mean more.
Gay because I've never actually had sex or been very close to any woman, even though I get feels around them, it is possible I'm just totally incompatible with them sexually.
The curiosity is certainly there, but I feel like I can't be sure until I have real life sexual experiences with both sexes. 24 yo virgin btw.
I was 24 when I decided to be gay. Before that I had only been attracted to women but nothing ever happened, then I met a guy and allowed myself to experience same-sex attraction. And nothing ever happened again. Turns out sexuality is for average and beautiful people.
>>5805120
>loses virginity at 15
>"late bloomer"
uwot?
autism
>>5803988
i never masturbated until i was 16
no i'm not gril
>>5806420
>weed weed weed weed weed
kids these days are banging at 6 years old it seems... have u seen the tv channels lately?
but in fairness i lost my virginity at 12 to my first gf who was 11 at the time, and she wouldn't ever let me put it in her pussy either. anal sex only can do weird things to a man... and that's why she left me years later.
>>5806249
this
>>5804018
Sexuality isn't fluid for most people, bisex. You need to come to terms with the fact that your reality is not universal.
>>5803988
No idea, but I can tell you this: I started masturbating at 8 (I am female, discovered by accident what happened down there), now I am 20 and still have no fucking clue whether I like males, females, both or none. I only know I don't like masc\hairy people (of both genders, butch dykes and muscular beefs are equally disgusting). Besides that, I get off to violence, on a mental level, and not people. It's puzzling.
>>5803988
Special Snowflakes
>>5803988
Didn't even masturbate until I was 16, lol. Even then it was to bizarre pseudosexual fetish crap.
Only ever crushed on girls growing up. Dating attempts in late teens/early twenties went poorly. First girl I slept with threw up on me, first girl I fell in love with died. Other girls I tried to see all turned out to already have boyfriends or a fiance they didn't mention, which made me feel like shit. Lotsa depression.
Tried guys about a year ago. I started falling pretty hard for the second fwb I've had now. Probably the most positive intimate relationship I've had desu.
Longstanding suspicion that I'm trans but I've never spoken to anybody irl about that. Little too late anyhow, I'm almost 25 now and my bones are done growing.
Isolation, no social skills, being ugly
I never even thought about relationships during my teen years, I was too busy being alone and hating myself, im 20 now and I still dont think I know, it doesnt matter because ill be alone forever
My boyfriend is 30 and exclusively dated women before me. I'm pretty confident I'm just his "exception" though. But I'm okay with that. We clicked and fell for one another based solely on personality really.
>>5806726
That's why I said "can be" and not "is". I was suggesting the people who decide they're gay at age 40 might have experienced sexual fluidity.
Why is it so perplexing? I can see if the person has had plenty of sex with both genders, but isn't it possible for a virgin to be genuinely confused no matter how old he is?
>>5804018
>Sexuality can be pretty fluid and confusing
Fucking bisexuals and their stupid shit again.
>>5808060
Hes right though. I was completely straight for like 2 weeks once.
>>5803988
>repress your gender identity
>kill your sexual desire
>pretend to be "straight"
>battle for years against aversion to sex and boredom with porn
>finally decide to transition
>suddenly have no idea where to start
maybe when i'm presenting full-time and feel more confident in myself, it'll just naturally happen
>>5806249
Let me guess, MtF who went full time at 18? This story is so common I'm wondering whether I will end up going full straight in a few years ( me: >>5804314 ). Before transition, I thought I was only into girls, now I think I'm bi and sorta into girls more, but when I fantasize about sex it's usually with a guy and I have a part-time boyfriend.
>tfw will be a straight housewife in 10 years
>>5808221
Probably. My current mtf-gf was "pansexual" and during the course of us dating became exclusively "straight". Luckily I'm a guy though.
>>5808078
>he's right
about bisexuals only
