I wish i could come out but, its impossible for the 15 years or so, my mid thirties could be noice i guess, any advice?
Don't come out.
Coming out is just a mean meme, really.
You get lots of advantages being straight that you don't get when you're gay.
Just get a wife and fuck dudes on the side. Really it doesn't get any better than that.
>>5587916
I guess, but what of love and all that bloody rubbish, does it even exist?
>>5587926
yeah but getting into a real monogamous relationship with another gay guy is nearly impossible.
Chances are you'll grow old alone or die at a young age because your bf cheated on you and gave you aids
>>5587949
well thats what i thought and planned for, at least i'll still have our family home and shit... just have wait for my father to die.
>>5587904
Come out.
Easier said then done I suppose, but it has never been an issue for me.
I'm in my early thirties and haven't come out, there's no point really. Just have to accept that it was too late for gay life.
>>5587904
What does coming out means exactly?
If you leave in one of those "liberal" countries then just do gay stuff and live your life, don't make any official announcement out of it though
If you live in a place where gays are a no no, then stay hidden, it's more fun that way anyways
>>5587904
Are these degenerate little rich children?
Advantages to coming out
>weight off your shoulders
>no need to hide anymore
>can be open with the people you date instead of always making them your dirty little secret
>confidence to not give a shit what someone thinks of you
Disadvantages to not coming out
>shame
>constantly need to hide who you are
>constantly need to police yourself so you don't drop any hints
>wasting time in your life, your only life, by keeping keeping yourself from getting what you want
Staying in the closet is not going to make you any happier. You can drown yourself in cynicism and tell yourself that true love doesn't exist, anyway, so there's no need to try and find it. You can even go the hardcore repression route, get a wife and force yourself to have kids. In 5 or so years, when you can't take it anymore, you'll be back here posting about where it all went wrong and wishing you'd have just let yourself be who you. I understand you're scared of the backlash, but chances are, no one will care. Unless you live in a shithole, you don't have to worry about that in this day and age. If you finally just bite the bullet and get over with it, you'll soon forget why it ever mattered to begin with. Your call, OP.