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My boyfriend has been talking about getting kids a lot lately. He really seems to want them all of a sudden. I mean, we've been together for four years, and I've been considering marrying him, but kids don't fit into my life vision at all. I don't want them, never have. What's more is he kind of insists they need to be his biologically, which means either paying a shitload for a surrogate and doctors fees, or having him fuck a woman.
I don't want to lose him but I don't know where this is coming from. Has he always felt this way and is just now mentioning it? Why would he want this anyways? Not having children is one of the bigger benefits to being gay? I mean, it's not really a money issue, we have plenty, but still.
I just don't fucking get it. I've tried talking with him about it and he just says it's something he "really really wants" .
Do any of you understand where this is coming from? I've never met a gay man who actually wanted kids before.
It's not weird to want kids. Being gay doesn't necessarily mean you've sworn off having a family.
There really is no compromising on it, OP. He wants kids, you don't. Break up. Even if he lets it go for now, he will inevitably start to loathe and blame you for wasting his life so you might as well cut the cord now.
>>5414408
Sorry op, but I agree with this anon
>>5414326
Yeah, this is one of the few intractable relationships issues. Shame you two weren't clear on this before falling in love. Good luck, pal.
>>5414326
That probably comes off from him wanting to pass on his genes, I want to do the same thing. When artificial wombs become a thing and we become able to grow children outside a body I'll have a fuckload of them, with or without a boyfriend.
>>5415777
>Not raising your 3D printed mpreg replicant babies in a stable two parent gay household as the lord intended.
Degenerate.