Sup homos
Was wondering how your parents reacted when they found out you were gay/bi?
Did you tell them?
If it was harsh are you guys on good terms now?
my mom took it ok
my father told me it was the worst thing that had happened in his life and never spoke to me again after that.
>>5358830
>my father told me it was the worst thing that had happened in his life and never spoke to me again after that.
You okay?
I just feel like if I ever had a bf or anyone found out I was bi it would end up like this.What compels people to act like this?I never really thought about it but I really don't get it.How can parents act this way?
My parents took it okay. With everything considered I could say they took it great. Though I didn't tell them, my ex girlfriend did.
Mom cried. Reasons were, that a) she was disappointed in herself because she thought she knew me better (crazy lady), b) I was going to have a bad life because of it, c) me carrying this secret for a little over seven years without telling it a single fucking person.
Father was like "Yup, kinda knew it." Apparently he saw me from a window, when I walked the streets and tried to walk as gay as possible to attract other subhuman beings (I'm a bit autismo from time to time).
My brother was like: Ok.
They're all okay with it. My mother annoys me by asking me if I was going to go to a gay club or anything this evening like every couple of days (despite the fact, that the last gay bar in my area closed about two years ago and the club only has events on saturdays and I'm anything but a club-person) and my brother wants me to come out to the rest of the family because he wants to tell his friends.
So yeah, my family is cool. Having a lesbian aunt might have helped though.
My mother and my father reacted in a positive way albeit they asked me to conceal my homosexuality because they could hardly bear the spectre of the feminine, obnoxious selfish male behind the word “gay” and would like me to behave correctly and define myself in accordance with my beliefs rather than my sexual orientation, which I was perfectly fine with. I'm happy because they already knew and seem to really appreciate my boyfriend whom they kindly refer to as their “second son” now.
Folks didn't care and their only negative reaction was that I should have told them sooner so they could have been more supportive earlier on.
>>5358918
Throw in a crying mother, who only cries because she cares too much, and you have the typical first world reaction I think.
>>5358927
Truth. My mom did cry, only because the dots finally connected why I was so depressed and hating going to school. In my defense, I grew up in rural Texas and for some reason thought they'd disown me despite the fact that in their group of friends there are two sets of gay couples (on MM, other FF) and for some goddamn stupid reason, I thought they'd hate me for being gay.
Jesus I was an idiot and I should have just came out when my mom asked me if I liked boys in the fifth grade.
>>5358803
I'm 40 years young and have yet to come out but I hope to someday. I have a live in mad and a husband, although when my parents come to visit, my husband pretends to be the live in maid and my maid pretends to be my girlfriend.
dad and mum still get my gender horribly wrong, age wrong, name wrong. they don't know shit about me even though i told them everything
>>5358850
guess theyre stupid as shit
too bad i don't have lesbian parents, they have like zero abuse records
>>5358908
That is so cute
>>5358978
what the fuck.
surely there can't be grown ass people keeping up with such shit.
>>5358850
>You okay?
Yeah, it's been five years since that. I'm over it already.
>What compels people to act like this?
Ignorance. My father has no idea about anything /lgbt/ related, and it's not willing to learn. He feels like he failed as a father and that's why I'm gay. I've tried to explain to him that that's not the case -he was a great father- but he won't accept it. Also he hates gays because my mom's brother was gay and he was jealous of him because my mom really loved her brother -as a brother, ofc- and my father is a really insecure person.
>How can parents act this way?
Parents are still humans, after all.
My whole family was very supportive.
>>5358908
>I'm happy because they already knew and seem to really appreciate my boyfriend whom they kindly refer to as their “second son” now.
Sounds hot, so he's kinda like your second-brother, that you fuck.
>>5359558
this is why people think all gay people are insane.
not denying my incest-fetish though. if i had a bf, that wanted to have a threesome with his brother i would probably cum just looking at them.
Well, I haven't told anyone. I told my sister, though that counts as a family. She just doesn't care. Lul.
>>5359695
She sounds cold.
>>5358803
I'm 30 and they don't know. I don't think they would care and I think my mom is suspicious not that it would matter to her I already told them I don't want kids, so grand children are off the table anyway.
>>5358803
mom was mad i had kept it a secret. dad didnt give a fuck, didnt bring it up for like a year. mom said you never 'know' and that in college you might change your mind. she wasn't wrong, cuz ive been experimenting a lot more with women now.
dad never really gave a fuck, i think his was the best reaction a parent can have. dont make a joke, dont make a statement, its just a thing.
Theyre in denial especially my dad.
>>5359664
i actually do have that fetish. and i also have a brother.
however i have no sexual feelings for my brother or would do anything with him. in reality it would probably gross me out too if my bf was fucking his brother.
this is one of those fantasy-only fetishes, that is only enacted by like 5% of those having that fetish..
>Parents are really great, almost straw levels of librul
>Would be perfectly fine with it and still love me if I came out as bi
>still will never do it because I'm super afraid of their opinions of me changing at all
It hurts, for all the wrong reasons
>>5358978
>40 yo in the closet
Jesus fuck man
If you had a straight marriage and kids I'd understand not wanting to drop the charade, but get that shit over with
Family doesn't know.
Told my Girl 4 years ago that I'm Bi. She took it well.
Slowly began coming out to friends when drunk. They don't talk about it at all. Still the same to them. Family doesn't know and I don't think I will ever tell them. Will probably find out from someone else. Dad is super conservative and ignorant/closed minded. Mom would take it hard but try to calm my father down.
Still never done anything with another guy though I really really want too. Hard to stay closeted and experiment in a place where everyone know everyone and gossip travels fast.
Shit sucks but at least my GF is cool about it in bed ;)
>>5358803
Two months ago I visited my sister for brunch with the intention of coming out to her as gay, and to also give her a break from watching her baby. I've been steady with a guy for about five months now and wanted to start introducing him to the family before Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Just as I'm about to broach the subject out of the blue she cuts me off to start talking about her son's future. She tells me that she hopes her son isn't gay. Because "it's not productive and selfish. Thankfully he doesn't look or act faggy." Then she segues that into how she wants him to grow up to be an astronomer like Neil deGrasse Tyson.
I don't think I showed it at the time, but it devastated me. I had to excuse myself from the table to cry like a little girl with a skinned knee in my sister's bathroom with the faucet running to cover up my sniffling. I honestly didn't expect that type of attitude from her at all. She's a hyper liberal, kale chewing, Sarkesian feminist, anti gun activist that's paranoid about G.M.O.s. I just assumed that she'd have a positive attitude about gay people.
Hell I've been out of the closet to her husband and his parents for months now, he was great about it, and I had no idea why he was so adamant about keeping my sexuality secret from my sister.
My father still doesn't know, but I don't really feel the need to tell him and don't think he would care either. My mother was extremely supportive about it, almost relieved/happy in some weird way I've never been able to figure out.
It was much worse when I "came out" as conservative about a year ago. They haven't spoken to me since.
>>5358803
Only my mom knows, and that was because I was unable to hide it anymore after some shit started with my best friend/crush.
She's kinda ok with it I guess, but she's also worried because it's essentially playing on hard mode, even in one of the most accepting countries of the world.
I never really planned to come out to anyone at all.
I just can't accept that they'll accept me.
>>5358803
My father was dead so he seemed ok with it :) my mother said " I knew that" then two weeks later said I was just gay because i could find anyone else, thanks Mom!
My dad asked me if I sucked any good dick lately, then we had a 3 way with the guy down the road
dad fucked my ass so hard it felt so good
My dad isn't in my life (never was) so
>im bi
>expecting liberal mom to accept
>"it's just a phase"
>years later come out as trans
>"just a phase"
Nothing too bad, but nothing too accepting either.
>>5358850
>What compels people to act like this?
My grandparents went to church 5 times a week when they were kids (catholic schools were hardcore back then). I don't want to sound fedora but they were probably brainwashed about some things. They had my dad (their only kid) when they were in college. My dad was raised Catholic, and I can tell that he is pretty uncomfortable about homosexuality. He does accept it, though I don't think he would react well if I told him that I'm bi. My mom was raised Catholic and was the youngest of three. She is more comfortable than my Dad when it comes to it and is pretty accepting. They are both pretty racist though.
>>5367553
I was expecting my dad to be a homophobic fuck and my HYPERLIBERAL mother (who told us multiple times when we were kids that it was OKAY TO BE GAY) to be overwhelmingly accepting. My dad was super chill and supportive and my mom went into hardcore denial and kept arguing with me that I wasn't gay for some bullshit reason or another. For fucking years.
I'm feeling a trend here.
>>5359004
I could see the rest but age? How?
>>5358803
Why would you ever tell them?
I am like in my 30's and would never tell them
wtf is wrong with you guys? do you just hate your parents?
I came out to both of my parents in one go. My mother cried, but that was only because I was crying like a bitch. Both of them were very accepting and supportive. I got the whole "whatever makes you happy, just please be careful" line. Once my mother and I calmed down my father said something along the lines of "now that that is over with, why don't you clean your damn room? I thought gay guys were supposed to like curtains and shit!"
>"You're just confused."
>"You like girls."
>tfw
>>5367996
Smithers pls
I never even told my dad because I never really knew what he thought of it and assumed he might think like my grandpa, who was very much not cool with homos.
He found out because my mom asked him to proofread something she wrote, which she forgot she mentioned having a gay son in. He wasn't phased at all.
It was weird at first after he found out, the topic just never came up. Then I made it all awkward and asked how he felt, and he confirmed that it literally didn't matter at all. Now we trade gay jokes all the time.
>be bi
>tell mom, she's kind of confused but mostly takes it okay
>tell dad later, he gets really confused and slightly angry, doesn't understand how I could "decide something at such an early age" (was 16 at the time)
>tells me he still loves me anyway
>now 22, both parents are desperate to ignore/deny that I'm bi and probably will forever even if I were to get into a homo relationship
mum: ok anon
dad: its ok son, i still love you, just not as much
>>5369815
wow that's somehow harder than all the raging parents. your father was bloody honest to you, probably really freaking calm. well, except if it was a joke by him, I would be down for such a joke. jeez, I would be a horrible father.
Why do you all say "they are supportive" like being gay is a disease
Like seriously asking what makes it better
I dont find important to tell whom i like and dont like its not their bussiness
my dad said he too was gay and then we had some hot father son quality time
he tongue punched my anus then railed me while we passionately made out then he came in my mouth telling me how much of a better lover I am than my mother
he's actually fucking my ass right now as I type this, I've given up wearing clothes because he just tears them off and they're covered in my fathers cum anyway
it's so hot swallowing a load that could of been you
>>5367902
that liberals are the most hateful people on the planet?
>>5373377
it's americans dude
I mean seriously why would you tell anyone? oh by the way mom I like to suck cocks lots of them and I sure love cocks deep in my anus
oh I support you son! that's lovely!
>>5373411
Because it affects shit. Also my parents probably know I do the fucking and don't get fucked. (^:
My mom cussed me out. It's the only time I've ever heard her swear in my life. She still refuses to acknowledge my sexuality most of the time, but once when a girl broke up with me and I felt like shit she told me she was sorry and she knew I'd find the right girl someday. Then she went back to denial, but still, that's something.
havent told them. probably never will. repression is the key
>>5373411
>>5373377
I used to be like this because I was not okay with being openly gay (what I did not realize). I was simply afraid of coming out.
It does affect shit. What are you going to do? Never have a serious relationship? You just hurt yourself. Not tell your parents about the most important person in your life? Just introduce them to your new bf? Both is going to hurt them. Not telling your parents, that you're interested in the same sex is pushing them out of your life, what will, you may have already guessed it, hurt them incredibly bad.
if you don't have a serious relationship to your parents, that's another story.
my family was pretty ok since they kinda suspected it.
the only annoying part is my brother obsession and insecurity about his looks. Now that he knows I like men, he keeps asking if I think he's handsome if I'd date him if we weren't brothers, if guys would ask hint him at bars, those kinds of stuff.
He constantly asks me about his dick's size and looks as well. Bitch keep sending me pics of his dick and asking if I'd suck it. it's pretty annoying honestly.
>>5374132
I think your brother wants more than your opinion
>>5374132
>>5374224
Not that anon but but older brother also likes teasing me, but it's just joking, he's 99% straight. But he keeps sending me random dick pics and gay porn videos on whatsapp and asking things like: would you suck it? Would you tap it? Would you do this or that? Have you done that before?
It's just to piss me off. Jokes on him, I masturbate thinking about us having passionate sex everyweek.
nobody knows I'm bi
and nobody ever will, I will only fuck effeminate men/ effeminate trannies anyways, not like it's a fully sustainable form of my sexuality anyways
>>5374641
>I will only fuck effeminate men/ effeminate trannies
You fucking shitlord, you're even worse than the CIS scum
My dad got confused and also cried like a baby bitch. I think he got it over it tho
I have not seen my mom in over a year so I do not know whether she knows or not. Or cares.
came out today
it did not go well at all.
this whole coming out campaign is so stupid why did i fall for this
