Been a while since one of these threads :^)
>>5229337
>go up to mom
>"come here i need to talk to you"
>"i'm transgender, i take hormones, and nag myself about my appearance"
>"okay good luck"
ggwp
>>5229680
gl hf
>>5229337
>mom I'm gay
>I KNEW IT
>no you didn't mom just the other day you were saying some shit
>mom now has wild theories on what causes gay kids
>maybe smoking while pregnant made me gay mom
She's cool about it otherwise. Wish I had more interesting shit to say.
>tell my mom I'm gay
>she doesn't believe me
Fug
Both my mom and my dad ended up stammering out "W-well... Th-that's your choice..." because of religious background. Pretty awkward.
>"anon we need to talk, are you gay? I want you to know I would still love you anyway"
>dodge the question
>next day
>mom, I'm trans
>"o-oh"
It's kinda funny, she was prepared for me to say I like guys but didn't know I had that nuclear bomb prepared
When I was 14 the housekeeper found my naked gi joe dolls under my bed and told my parents.
>>5230106
>>5229337
>be yo
>be 16 still living at mamá's house
>mami... I've got something to tell you
>What is it, mi niño?
>Start feeling nervous and shaking
>Ay, mi niño, what is it?
>mami... I'm gay
>¿QUÉ?
>QUE SOY MARICON, MAMI. I CANT HIDE IT ANYMORE
>AY DIOSITO, MI NIÑO ME HA SALIDO MARICA
>she starts calling my father
>CESAR CESAR COME HERE
>What is it, mujer?!
>what is it? your son! He's a maricooooooon
>dad looks shocked
>is that true, Juan Hernando?
>S-sí
>mom starts praying to the Virgen of Guadalupe holding a rosario
>dad tells me he doesn't mind it as long as I don't bring fags into the house
>>5230174
Whats what you get for being cuban
>>5230174
You probably made this up, but if not, lmao dude I am so sorry. It's funny because it's in spanish, but the story, and really all the stories, are still sad. It's hard being a natural born reject.
>>5230224
im pretty sure it is a copypasta as i have seen it before
>>5230174
Lmao this was cute.
>>5230174
I understood the setting, what was happening, and the rapid degeneration into spanish-english made this so hilarious i can't explain it. like it's a soap opera. and then it calms down at the end.
>>5230106
that was a funny story the first time
How I told my sister:
Sister: Hey anon, come to the kitchen real quick
Me: okay
Sister: Anon, I saw the websites you go on
My thoughts: how embarrassing...
Sister: Are you gay
Me Ugh
Sister: I won't judge you if you are
Me: okay, well yeah I am.
Sister: okay, cool
How I told my Mum:
Mum: Anon, why don't you have a girlfriend
My thoughts: I know the perfect way to dodge this
Me: ugh
Continues to ugh away all of these "y u no have gf" questions from Mum.
Sister tells me I should just tell Mum already
Friend tells me I should just tell my Mum already
Mum: Anon, why don't you have a girlfriend, are you gay or something (nervous-kek.Mumpeg)
Me: Yeah
Mum: Really?
Me Yeah
Now she keeps on asking me questions and shit.
>>5230761
>ugh
iktf
>ask sister go to breakfast with me and plan to come out
>we're eating and I tell her I'm trans
>she laughs and dances a little
>wut
>she says "I knew it!"
a month or so later go out to dinner with dad to come out
>very nervous, drinking a lot, get ready to tell him
>"Dad, there's something I wanted to tell you..."
>he reaches into pocket and hands me a slip of paper
>it says "Anon is going to tell me he likes guys"
>f-fuck
>I laugh and say "yea that too, but also I'm trans" and start crying uncontrollably
>he shrugs "so you're still my kid and I still love you"
>I'm sobbing now
>plus I always knew you were some type of queer for a while
how to be trutrans, starring me
>>5230895
...a piece of paper?
>>5230895
>>he reaches into pocket and hands me a slip of paper
>>it says "Anon is going to tell me he likes guys"
holy shit that's funny
>>5230895
>tfw no sister
>tfw not a single close female friend
>>5229337
no it hasn't
>>5230018
cyka blyat
uninstall
>think about coming out
>have dream where I get really anxious and end up sitting on a bed crying, wearing girl clothes and my family is looking at me in disgust and disapproval
>don't come out
>>5229337
Does this count as a failed coming out? Though I didn't make the effort to come out. I'm not sure how to classify this.
>Avoided having any girlfriends
>Even told my younger brothers about a girl who liked me and I ran from repeatedly because she did
>The older of the two tells our mother and grandmother and shows her picture in my yearbook
>He told me they looked at each other with concerned expressions
>Family notices I don't bother looking at women on the street, but keep insisting on the "When will you get a girlfriend?" bit
>Overtime, tell my other brother about why I used to surf /r9k/, it was the misogyny
>Told him I stopped visiting because some months ago, the board was flooded with girls (this was before the pretty princess points and roastie memes) and the betas loved to make themselves orbiters
>Told him to guess what the misogynistic board I visit now is
>He doesn't know them well, so I run down the list and explain what they're about
>He says it's each gay board until we get to /lgbt/
>That's when he got it right
>The next day, he asks me if I'm gay
>I tell him, "No"
>I'm a bi tranny after all, why would I answer "Yes" to "Are you gay?"
>He'll probably not realize I'm trans for a while because of the misogyny
>>5231380
>ever admitting you go on 4chan to anyone
>on /r9k/ of all places
definitely failed
>>5231654
yeah rly who does this
>tfw too scared to come out
I got drunk one night and came out to one of my best friends and another friends girlfriend.
The girlfriend I had a serious conversation with or whatever, but with my friend I just played it off as a joke when I sobered up the next day.
I plan to get drunk enough to come out to my crush and the rest of my friends eventually.
I feel like everyone knows
But I just don't want to put myself in such an awkward situation
>tfw have to come out cuz i a bf now but still can't and it's endangering my relationship
should I do it bros?
>>5232124
yes
>>5232153
but I don't want my dad to hate me
>self-reject forever
and that's my story
>>5232225
why is it so fucking hard? Everytime I've tried I basically freeze, I'm fucking thinking of saying it via text. I'm such a fucking beta coward pussy faggot. I don't deserve my bf.
>>5232232
be strong. you can't let what people think of you or what you think people might think of you get in the way of your happiness.
>getting drunk with my brother
>tell him i'm gay
>"cool, the thought passed by me a few times."
that dude is my best friend.
>getting drunk with other brother, already knew i was gay, his girlfriend and our dad
>tell dad i'm gay
>"it's your life, live it your way."
>was super surprising to me
>he always seemed like a homophobe
>took me awhile to work up that courage
all in all, a smooth coming out. At the moment, i don't think most people suspect that i'm gay but it doesn't matter to me. My sexual preferences are pointless to anyone i don't want to fuck.
Honest question though: Why do people come out to their parents, in terms of sexuality? I never really got it. Is it so they can expect for you to bring certain types of people to the house/not expect you to have kids/etc?
>>5232964
Maybe because some people want to be generally open with their parents and would rather they know the truth?
>>5232964
My dad was trying to tell me how after I'm done with college that I'm going to have a wife and kids, and I was like, "Hell fuckin' no I'm not, fuck off" and let him know it was never ever gonna go down like that.
>>5233047
same for me parents tell me that all the time but im straight trans
>>5233192
yeah homie you just gotta be happy and do you
like I moved out and all that so I'm just trying to have a good time
>>5233047
>>5233192
That happens to everyone on /lgbt/, but something similar occurs to those on /r9k/ as well. It's either that parents who know or subconsciously think their children will not marry and have children are persistent with this to quell their own fears, or all parents do this, and only the children who can't see themselves doing it complain about the situation.
>>5233328
>that look on your mom's face when it finally hits her she's never getting grandkids
>>5233328
I didn't really think about it like that. I guess I never thought about why he said that, maybe he wanted to hear me say "Yes, I want to do that".
Not all parents do this I'm sure. Probably my dad was testing the waters since I hadn't had a girlfriend in years and wasn't showing any interest in females.
>>5232964
Personally, I'd rather my parents hear it from me rather than someone else.
>>5232964
>when are you going to get a girlfriend
>why don't you have a girlfriend
>i find it odd you've neever dated ANY girl
>16
>decided to tell mom that i'm gay
>go to moms apartment
>have coffee with mom
>nervous as fuck
>finally manage to tell mom that i'm gay
>"ok sweetie"
I was thinking that she would freak out but i'm glad it went okay
>>5232124
Do it for comrade doge
>>5232124
work up to it. just stop caring what people think about you; that's your goal.
>coming out
>ever
>>5232964
So if I have a significant other and want to bring them home, i don't have to lie about it or totally spring it on them and give them a coronary.
>>5236735
Those parents must be very sensitive
>>5239595
Not overly sensitive, I just know they would prefer to be told then have it "sprung" on them when they are in a situation were they feel unable to talk to you about it.
>friend installs grindr on my phone as a joke
>dad sees it
>"why did you install this?"
>Told him the truth
>"you aren't lying are you?"
>catholicfather.jpeg
>I say: "no and if you want more honesty im bisexual"
>he blinks a shit ton and walks away and we cool now
>>5232124
Do it your dad won't hate you but if he does then he'll hate himself for letting you get like this so like it's kinda win win
>mom Im trans
>"dose that mean youre gay?"
>tell my sister
>"no shit you have less balls then most girls I know
th-thanks sis
>>5236250
Why not?
So far I've only come out to two friends.
The first person I came out to was completely on accident, while high on psychedelics, and now he doesn't speak to me anymore.
The second also found out while I was doing some drugs with them, and was initially cool about it, and nothing seemed to change. Now this person wants to have sex with me. Trouble is, he's in a straight relationship and I don't think he intends to end that, and I'm not into infidelity. So now he's becoming more distant as well.
Being gay is ruining all my friendships it seems.
>>5240289
how does he know what that is tho?
>brother i'm a tranny
>"i don't care stop bothering me''
>go back home for christmas break
>decide to tell mom 3 months into hormones
>"you want to do this because you want to fuck a man right?"
>Lol no
>"I still love you"
>Posted on fb because i'm a stupid faggot
>One cousin I forget to take off of there sees it
>Entire extended family decides to discuss is collectively
>Collectively decides to not talk to me for an entire year
>Next time i was forced into a family function they act like it never happened
Fuck them
>>5242013
>they act like it never happened
They acted like you never transitioned? Seems kinda impossible if you were full time by then
>>5242013
I'm interested how that conversation went and how they came to that conclusion
>20something
>have a serious bf for the first time instead of week or month long flings
>out to dinner with my mom, stepdad and brother
>"Oh yeah, mom I'm gay and have a boyfriend"
>mom is lolwut
>bro says "Yeah, I met him. He's pretty cool."
>mom says "Ok, that's cool."
Then later she was all, it all makes so much sense now, you never brought any girls home blah blah blah.
I did have one girl friend of a friend say when they found out I'm gay "But he's so tall!"
>>5242034
which convo
>>5242025
yeah they're completely gaslighting it, it's not incredibly uncommon
>>5242176
Where they decide not to talk to you for a year
>>5242213
Ah ok. So from what I can gather from my mom, they all thought i'd basically reverse my transition if they were to break contact with me. So when I reluctantly was forced into a family party about a year or so later they now just pretend I never transitioned? Which is really surreal. Because I was in a dress, have pretty decently size boobs, look better than the lot of them because they're white trash scum?
>>5242103
Kek, how tall r u?
>>5242337
6'4", they're just all mostly manlets and womanlets
>Anon why don't you have a boyfriend
>Come on anon I bet you do
>Tell dad I'm a lesbian
>Anon why don't you have a girlfriend.
>That feel when it takes twice the work to try to get a girlfriend so I don't bother and play video games and watch anime instead
When you're used to being alone, it gets easier every day.
>>5241858
He opened it
>>5242462
Are you autistic? Getting a gf was awesome fun.
This is today's coming out experience
>got real excited I made out with a friend
>want to tell another friend I made out with him
>he's unaware of my gayness
>"anon have I ever came out to you"
>"no"
>"well I'm pretty gay"
>"I know your ex gf told me"
>"I figured, that loud mouthed bitch!"
This is actually how it usually goes
>>5233328
My parents never did this to me, but i'm a neetish so i dont think they have any hope about me in anyway.
>came out to everyone but family long ago, don't see the point in coming out to them if I don't have a boyfriend
>get a boyfriend out of a long-time friend, come out to the family, they're fine with it and glad I'm happy
>have to help him come out to those who don't know about him because he's still working through issues and insecure
>a pro at it at this point
I slip it into conversation with people I don't know as well when it's appropriate but otherwise I'm just out generally.
>>5243491
>>got real excited I made out with a friend
>>want to tell another friend I made out with him
A slut and a tattle-tale who gets passed around by his friends.
I approve.
>>5243491
was that your story or just a le ebin maymay?
>>5243748
yeah man when you're bad at it it's like dropping a bomb but when you're good at it they don't even get the chance to react or better yet don't realize until they think about it after.
iktf.
>be on mones for 3 months
>had slowly made myself more and more feminine over the last couple of years
>also met qt boy online just before i started mones
>we decide to meet up in a city in between where we both live
>first time ever outside in girlmode (i got 'changed' on the train aka switched my jeans for shortshorts and tights, idk who my 'boymode' was fooling)
>have amazing day out, we become official, best day ever
>get drunk with him before we part ways
>arrive home a couple of hours later pretty tipsy
>mum wants to know where ive been
>decide 'fuck it' and try to tell her
>can't get the words out
>she guesses pretty quickly anyway
>pour my heart out about wanting to be a girl and hormones and stuff
>tells me she supports me 100% and will never stop loving me
>become closer than ever from that day forward
My mum told my dad (super masculine, working class guy) few weeks later (because i was scared he would flip out and beat the shit out of me) but after a few days he got over it and has been nothing but supportive, even getting my pronouns right sometimes!
>>5231918
I kept doing this but never could until about a month ago.
>3 months on mones
>Already drunk
>Kinda emotional cause of pills
>Just start crying and tell them I'm trans
>"Oh cool", "We support you" "Kinda knew that"
> Everything went better than expected
Came out to brother who is gay. That was easy.
Mum found note that my drunk brother wrote me. Just break down when she hugs me
>>5230104
Same, parents thought I was gay and were confused why I wouldn't just come out about it, they're pretty liberal minded, so when I told them I was trans, it was like "...oh. H u h."
>Mom:But you still like guys right
>Me: Well, yeah, but really I'm more bis-
>Mom:SO TECHINCALLY I'M STILL RIGHT, you're coming out as gay.
...in retrospect I wonder if they had money riding on this.
How do people cry when they come out and have emotional relations with each other? When I was younger I used to do that excessively until it was beaten out of me and now I haven't cried due to any emotional reaction in decades. I just can't do it anymore, even if I want to.
and I'm starting to get a bit dysphoric over it at this point, because if you present as female you should be able to express emotion. I feel it, I just never...react. Something I do to help is listen to classical music which is my only real interest and sometimes when I listen to a really great song the first time my eyes will water but I just can't cry.
>be 15 at the time
>start feeling really shitty about being trans since I didn't tell my mom
>go outside for a walk even though it was dark out since I needed to de-stress
>mom goes ballistic and finds me, brings me back in
>she's drunk
>is convinced I was meeting somebody from the internet
>try to explain to her that I was taking a walk because of stress
>she won't believe it
>tell her "I'm fucking trans, okay?"
>she's freaked out
>starts drunkenly telling her pretentious self-help gurus about it on the phone
She's pretty good about it now and made sure I got on blockers around 16, then mones on 18 but it was still a pretty fucking annoying experience.
>>5245073
>one son is tranny
>one son is gay
>mother breaks down during the most basic hug
Parents are on suicide watch
>>5245111
That's why I was scared to tell my mum. She's always going on abou grandkids, as they do. My dad will never find out. He freaked when my brother came out and stopped talking to him for a few months. I'm gonna "disappear" for him
>>5229337
haven't yet, but it's imminent. I've been getting ready to come out to both my father and grandfather.
>had a dream last night
>went to visit aunt/uncle/cousins out of state
>re-introduced myself to little kid cousin (who's only met me like once) with new name
...
>it'stime.jpg I guess
>>5230895
this is sweet and funny. congrats.
>>5231234
slavfag pls
nice quads though
>>5231380
openly misogynist tranny
all as usual, I suppose. except for the being so open about it part
>>5231654
>>5231680
let him stew in his utter retardation
>>5231998
the "you're so NOT gay and are a total pimp" jokes are probably wishful thinking and trying to push you back into heterosexuality using banter.
>>5232124
lesbian or mtf?
>>5242013
>>"you want to do this because you want to fuck a man right?"
ftm and my mom said that shit to me too, but the reverse ("you want to have a penis and have sex with women??")
why do they always do this "trap" shit
are straights really that stupid that they think "the point of being a man is to be with women, the point of being a woman is to be with a man, it's destined, straight relationships are destiny. woman+man=only possible course of life" etc etc
so fucking idiotic
>>5245096
idk I've always cried really easily
>>5245174
because biological determinism is intuitive to people, because people understand functions in the world around them based on perceived intentions; it's human nature to do so. recognizing that the intentions of nature don't exist requires a higher level of cognition than most will contribute to philosophy, because philosophy is generally seen as worthless.
>>5245185
i guess i need to talk to a therapist later.
>>5245197
>i guess i need to talk to a therapist later.
No I mean like, really easily. As in basically any time I get into an emotional conversation. It's almost a problem. I think crying really infrequently is probably more normal
>>5245200
not as infrequently as her though. that sounds like a trauma from the beating though i'm no expert in any way
Went like this.
>Mom Im female
>''k''
>Dad Im female
>''k''
>A few days later ''was it a joke''
>no
>''k''
> Get drunk with mom
> "I think I like men"
> "Okay, I thought so"
> Got even more drunk
Coming out in liberal commie-vikingland is pretty relaxed, she had also been a bartender on a gayclub in her younger days
What >>5232124 is saying is they have a boyfriend and they're not out of the closet. That's putting stress on the relationship with his boyfriend.
>>5229337
Does telling a stranger over the phone matter? Yesterday, I called my insurance company about mental health providers. I told the woman I was put on the phone I was having gender issues, and she was very nice about the call, even though I kept asking her to repeat herself because it was so loud outside.
>>5230174
I have no idea what the fuck that says but somehow it's the most hilarious thing I've ever read
>>5230895
>I always knew you were some type of queer for a while
IKTF
>Go to aunt's house
>Ask her to close the door and sit down I want to tell her something
>"I want to get a mail order bride form Africa"
>"Oh I thought you were going to finally come out to me"
>"Wait what? You thought I was gay?"
>>5245691
>"I want to get a mail order bride form Africa"
you bought a woman from africa?
>>5245734
I was gonna. It was only £400.
>>5245765
what changed your mind? that sounds insanely cheap
>21 neet trans mtf
>went behind my mothers back to get letter for hormones and see doctors
>get blood tests
>get hormones and enjoy not being anxious about it
>figure ill never tell my mom and Ill just leave one day and never tell her why.
>develop a daily ritual of running to the kitchen with pills in hand to take them with water
>this day an accident happened when taking them
>a sleeper cell estrogen pill lay on the floor which fell from my hand unbeknownst to me.
>be in kitchen later talking to mom.
>"whats that anon?"
>she reaches down and picks up the estrogen
>WHAT IS THIS?
>she takes estrogen for menopause she knows what it looks like
>It's estrogen, I am taking it and becoming gril
>"your father would be so disppointed in you, and I am too this is not how we raised you. If you wear clothes in my house you can just go ahead and leave"
>still take hormones and dress boy, no makeup, no acting.
>crippling drug issue.
Coming out is great.
>>5245796
I am browsing /lgbt/ do the maths
>>5245798
>not dry swallowing
consider it practice
>>5245798
>Be lactose intolerant
>"Tell mum that I heard that soy milk is full of estrogen"
>"Oh dear"
>"No, that's good, I want more keep my smooth soft skin!"
>She just giggles
>>5245798
>not being able to swallow your pills dry
>>5245798
Tilt your head back as if someone were going to perform CPR on you, it's like a straight shot down to your stomach.
>>5245858
>choking to death on hormone pills
Degenerate way to die
>>5245887
if i had to pick a way to die, that'd be right up there next to perforation
Uhm... I sort of came out, when I said that one boy was cute. Since I live in a small community. Basically everyone knows it. And I don´t give a fuck.
I came out when I was 12 years old.
>>5245887
It'd be pretty funny, but they're small enough that I don't think that'll happen. I do drink water when I take my huge-ass multivitamin though
>>5245798
>not letting the estrogen dissolve under your tongue
>>5245945
I tried doing this a few times and I just ended up with estrogen dust all over my mouth
>>5245945
>not swallowing spiro but also sublingually dissolving estrogen
and while we're at it
>not cutting your balls off and stabbing your ass weekly
>>5245966
>stabbing your ass weekly
Been there done that, injections made my levels go all over the place, injected for six months.
>>5245975
someone needs to git gud at hitting the muscle
>>5245983
I did, I have a mole right where I needed to jab it, my body just didn't respond well and with orals it does.
>>5245988
no excuses kayla something something trutrans ah i'm too tired to put in actual effort
>>5245975
masculine handwriting desu senpai
>>5246044
do the thing where you make the lowercase a like a keyboard does. now your name looks more girly.
>>5246051
wha?
>>5246083
look at a typed a vs a written a
>>5246088
wut?
>>5246097
>>5229337
>have come out a bunch of times to girls who are friends, always when pissed
>still need to come out to my parents
>super nervous about telling my guy friends as well
>Come home working late one weekend
>Dad is drinking with my gross uncle
>Basically force me to sit down and drink with them
>Topic of sex comes up
>Uncle asks me if I'm a virgin
>Tell him the truth that I was at the time
>Tells me that he can fix this
>Proceeds to call this gross aging whore to my house to take my virginity from me
>I refuse but he's oddly persistent having to take his phone away several times
>Finally throw the phone on the floor
>He apologizes for being so pushy and leaves
>Dad asked me why I refused and then eventually asks me if I'm gay (in that whole, "you're not gay or anything are you" way)
>Nevermind the fact that it's a 45year old barfly whore that would have sex with a 19 year old without any hesitations or questioning it all
>At this point angry at my dad as well
>Tell him that as a matter of fact I am gay
>He sobers up and tells me he wants me out of the house soon
>Next morning he tells me he doesn't want me out of the house, he's just worried because gay people get killed or are refused for jobs and he doesn't want me to suffer for my choices
We just don't talk about it anymore.
>>5245255
Same here
It was pretty awkward having her ask if it was a joke a few days later
>bislut femanon
>talking to sister at her wedding
>she's bothering me about having a crush on someone
>admit that I have a crush on this one chick
>she's drunk off her ass
>gives me this fucking inspirational loving speech about how much she loves me and how our mom would've accepted it
>doesn't remember a word of it in the morning
>continues to ask if I'm ever going to get a bf or anything
>don't have the courage to come out again
th-thanks sis.
>parents grew up in rural Australia, dad didn't see television until the 80's, hunted and owned loads of guns before buyback
>assume this will go poorly if I tell them I'm trans
>hide it for long time
>fuck turned 28 attempted suicide
>just fuck it and tell them I'm trans
>dad says 'so are you keeping your dick or are you gonna frame it on the wall?
>mom says 'should we call you Davida now?'
>'but seriously we love and support you'
Gotta be able to handle the bantz.
>>5246583
>>dad says 'so are you keeping your dick or are you gonna frame it on the wall?
It's a shame SRS doesn't actually involve chopping the dick off because this would be hilarious
>>5245975
Lmao, do you not know to pin Topkek
>>5246594
Who wouldn't want to have a dick on their wall?
>>5245198
She is pretty overprotective and sheltering (she moved 10 minutes away when I moved for university) but I love her regardless. She's been getting better little by little.
>>5246583
>Gotta be able to handle the bantz.
Daily reminder that banter is code for bully. :(
>Around Ozzies
>you never get bozzies
Or whatever. Fuck australia and australians for making me cry online. ;__;
>>5246742
Maybe you should just harden up and not take shit from people, instead of blaming those who have a different way of talking and socialising.
>>5246361
>scared because gay people have it tough, get killed, unemployed etc
>his response to this is to also make you homeless
10/10 logic
At least he smartened up, however minute
>>5229680
This is basically how it happened with me.
Then she told my aunt, who is weirdly excited about the whole affair.
>>5246986
I have an aunt who I get the feeling would be like that. Seven years ago, she was talking excitedly with my father about some trans woman and saying how phenomenal her body was. She also seems like the sort to be a fag hag in general.
>>5245323
>liberal commie-vikingland
Which one?
>>5247079
I know this is terribly mean, but I think part of it is that she really doesn't get along with my sister and she's just excited to have a niece that's well, not my sister.
Also even pre-HRT, it was sort of a running joke among the family that I look eerily similar to her and my mom (they're twins) so I think she's just curious as to whether or not I'll look like a younger version of them when I'm done transitioning.
>Too scared to come out
>>5247554
pick one
>>5248261
won't be liberal for much longer if you keep importing reactionaries
but that's your business
>>5233047
Already told my dad I don't plan on getting married, but he gets concerned and thinks it's because he and my mother set a bad example of marriage for me and tells me I can do better than them.
I broke down crying after writing that. I'm coming out to him tomorrow. Wish me luck /lgbt/.
>>5229337
Well It started when i was in elementary, i new i was different but lied to my parents to please them. Later on in elementary a rumor that i was gay was spread around and i lied that i loved grils. Then it exploded into a scandal with people claiming i was gay with another guy. (Later turns out he is bi) Yet i tell everyone that im straight. I let my rage and frustration out on people. Made people feel like they where worthless. Bullied kids through elementary. Then in middle school shit hit the fan more at home and i developed some substance abuse issues. Spent a lot of time trying to drown out my feelings with a cocktail of pills. So in middle school i met this guy, who i liked and loved hanging out with. He turned out to be bi. Im like holy shit but he wont date me because of my drug problems. So i work hard to clean up at the end of middle school, and end up moving away. I never go back to drugs but i finally came out to my family in the 10th grade. My parents told everyone it was a phase and either ignored it, or told me i was a failure. So i left home and am doing alright.
I sort of came out to my close circle of friends, it wasn't really coming out because it was proabbly already assumed. The only reason I had to come out and say it was because another friend and I started "going out".
I thought I was past this big barrier with my sexuality and that maybe this would help me but it didn't really. I still hate myself for some reason and feel really guilty about homosexual feelings. Not to mention I'm young so it's still a lot of confusion about how gay I am and if any of this is for sure. I don't trust myself. Some days I'm more certain than others.
I also don't want to come out because of the unwanted attention. I just fucking know my family is going to make it a huge deal, and during the already loathed family get-togethers it'll be awful. I just wanna be left alone nogga.
So my mom confronts me in the car while we go get some peetz, she thinks I'm depressed because I'm unsure of who I am (I guess it's probably a contributing factor) I start laughing uncontrollably because I do this when I get real nervous/want to cry. I pass this off as "I'm just so shocked at the notion of you thinking I'm gay!"
Maybe I'll always be in the closet, doesn't matter that much that my parents know I like dick. Though it is sad when my mom goes on about wanting grandkids & daughter in law.
>>5245091
They probably fucking did, with that sort of response.
>>5231918
Pretty much this. I'm too much of a pussy to come out even though I know they'd be fine with it, so the plan is eventually to just get ultra wasted and do it.
>met my favorite person in the entire world
>am head over heels in love
>"hey dad, blah blah, things are going great, been lifting again, work is great, making lots of money, I'm gay, looking forward to Thanksgiving"
>he laughs and is actually really cool about it and we have this cool drunken conversation and everything is great
>day two, everything still cool, three, cool, ...
>come by to pick up my dog (he dog sits for me when my roomates aren't at home)
>"sit down son, we need to TALK"
>oh wonderful
>"I told the family about our little talk the other day, and it's going to take TIME for us to get used to this, especially ME"
>wonderful
>"well lol, thanks for not disowning me" (sarcasm palpable)
>bitterly "you're WELCOME" gives me a sissy faggot wave as I leave w/ dog
Like alright, so don't do me any fucking favors, for real. And everything was cool till he started running his mouth and someone else made his mind for him about how to act about it. Fucking sheep. Mom lives in another town and won't return my calls.. Guys, I really think I dodged a bullet w/ these people. Fuck my family, for real.
>>5229337
>left a two paragraph note for family
>one sentence paragraph for everyone else on facebook
really not so bad
>>5243858
Far from the gossiping slut I aspire to be
>>5246044
Why do you take these ppl's bait so hard? the handwriting thing? really?
>>5246830
>Maybe you should just harden up and not take shit from people, instead of blaming those who have a different way of talking and socialising.
>replying to someone who doesn't like some kinds of banter and it pisses them off when people direct it at them
I'd say that's not taking shit if they get bothered and say something to the person about it, rather than just shutting up and laughing along falsely with the banter
>>5248613
Good luck bud
>>5249364
What in the actual fuck did I just watch?
Also I think everyone knows people like that. Those who will are super passive and are cool with anything until someone tells them they shouldnt be then all of a sudden they arent any more.
>>5249364
>that webm
white people
>>5249841
>not being white
AYYY lmao
>>5249944
>wrinkles
>small cock
>paedophilia
no
>>5248613
I'll bet you $10 you won't. Good luck all the same.
>>5249960
>jelly shitskins
my sides
>>5250282
... you just won 10 bucks. I chickened out.
I'm avoiding it not so much for the backlash (I think they'll take it well, they're the "as long as you're happy" kind of parents), but because I don't want them to worry about me dating strangers over the internet. I'll get to it as soon as I get a stable relationship.
>>5229337
To my mom
>Hey mom I'm gay
>be safe sweetie
To my friends
>playing a drinking game cuz my friends gf is like 18
>qt gaysian boy says never have I ever had sex with a guy
>drink
>no one really said shit that night
>don't have friends now
Didn't even fuck that Asian bp either ://
i must have more
>>5230761
Does she keep asking you why you don't have a boyfriend now?
>>5245798
Should have taken a water bottle or glass of water to your room
>>5245823
It's probably for the best. She would have missed the rains down in Africa.
>be me
>come out as trans when i was 16
>friends accept me, all is well
>live with great grandma
>she finds out im trans when im 17
>ohfuck.jpg
>she flips shit
>screams and cries like a baby
>says i cant leave the house, she'll call police
>im 18 now
>about to move, nowhere to really go - no supportive family, friends are too broke to take me
>mfw contemplating suicide because i cant transition correctly and my dysphoria is off the charts
Rip
>>5251071
i think she might be a bit of a mong
>>5251052
not yet, I know it's inevitably though..
>>5250526
do eeet faget
>>5251153
Anon, are you in upside-down land by any chance?
>>5251129
please leave my sides alone.
>be yesterday
>dinner with my brother after he learned I wear makeup
>I'm making food, back turned, he's at the table on his phone
>"so, I didn't know you're gay," he says under his breath with my back still turned away
>I hear it, but pretend to be not listening
>second of deafening silence pass before mom comes out of nowhere
>"he is NOT gay, okay?" she blurts
>I burst into laughter
>"OH! you're talking to me?" I exclaim
>"you said that so quietly, I thought you were mumbling to your phone again"
Conversation ended there and I never answered his question. Dinner proceeded as normal.
>>5236250
this
I came out at the age of 26, I had had girlfriends in the past and always thought I was bi. I ended up falling in mad mad live with a wonderful Mexican boy and we a couple now. For a bit of background my dad had always made some slightly homophobic jokes but nothing all too serious. It was early November and in Canada you legally have room have winter tires, my dad is getting on in years so I do it for him and my mum. I was in the middle of doing his car when he asks if I'm alright, I had been very nervous around my folks lately because I had my first bf and wanted to tell them but the right time never came up. I look up at him and drop the x bar and tell him, dad I'm gay... well he just looks at me and breathes a sigh of relief and says, I thought it was something a lot worse!!!! He then says he's known since this really cut girl was after me and I had zero interest. I got up and hugged my dad and I even cried a bit, I was even light headed as I had been holding in my feelings for guys (remember I used to think I was bi) for so many years and suddenly all that stress is gone in one shot!!! 3 years later and I'm still with the same guy and we are looking to buy a house together. I was very lucky in my comming out and the fate that my folks love my bf.
>>5246097
Like "Kayla" instead of "KɑyLɑ".
I might need you come out as gay soon. I want to see my boyfriend's graduation, but I need to take a plane to see him, and that's not something I can hide. Does anyone have any advice?
>>5256136
that's pretty smooth
My neighbor saw me kissing a lady I was dating at the park and told my parents.
They handled it pretty well though and told me they didn't care who I smooched they just wanted to meet them first.
>>5257783
call your family before you go
>>5255747
Upside-down land???
>>5257259
That's a nice story m8. I have a question for you, why do you identify now as gay if you had girlfriends? why don't label yourself as bi? what changed?
>>5258233
Australia I guess
>>5258363
Oh. No, Im not in Australia
>>5258281
Hey there! I don't know, the last of my name and my parents had a fairytale style relationship so there was a lot of pressure on me to reproduce, I had 6 or 7 girlfriends and I even really loved one, I was able to be excited during straight sex and thought it was good, but I always looked at guys. I could never do anything when I still lived with my folks so I didn't know. When I found the wonderful world of grindr after my last hetero relationship I knew from then on that I was gay, I'm a 4.5 on the kinsey scale if you will. But from then butts and cock for me!
>be 15-16
>catholic family, also part of an 'ecumenical covenant christian community' (think cross between catholics and pentecostals)
>closet mtf trans, hiding everything, intense self hate, etc
>one day I slip up and mom discovers that I had been visiting lgbt websites on my ipod
>she confronts me late at night and wrings the truth out of me, but she doesnt believe, thinks I am brainwashed because of liberal media and just have low self esteem. At least she didnt tell dad
>i suggest treatment, and her response is pretty much "never in a million years"
>she starts making a show of treating me as some manly man. "look at my masculine handsome strong son" etc
fast forward 6 months
>mom discovers more trans shit, its getting harder to hide.
>she tells dad and he flips the fuck out, but I was pretending to be asleep so at least he didnt beat me up.
>next day he confronts me about it and is pissed off, says he is about to kick the shit out of me. I deny everything and listen to an hour long lecture on how I have to be a good strong christian fan, and how the family must stay strong against the evil media and popular culture brainwashing.
>I go along with everything because I am scared shitless and want to escape.
now life is pretty much constant eggshell walking and I plan to gtfo asap. I am pretty bitter still about people with supportive families Tbh.
>>5259657
well i hope you managed to buy blockers from ihp or something
>>5259657
That's pretty shitty. Do you think you could possibly self-med on the down-low in the meantime? I sure wish I was certain i was trans at 16
>>5230895
your dad is joseph joestar
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jnVadPvjro
>>5259733
Ouch, why did the p.o. box fail? Have you tried UPS ones?
>>5259831
I don't have enough valid identification for a p.o. box, and I was actually about to check up on a ups place near where I work. If that doesnt work i figured I will find a trans support group or something and beg someone there to let me send hormones to their home.
>>5259953
Do you not have a driver's license or something?
>>5259957
I have a license,
https://poboxes.usps.com/poboxonline/search/requiredIdPopup.jsp
>When you go to the Post Office to pick up your keys, two current forms of ID are required. One must be a photo ID. The other must include your physical address. Acceptable forms of ID are listed below.
>Acceptable Photo IDs:
Valid driver's license or state non-driver's identification card
Armed forces, government, university, or recognized corporate identification card
Passport, passport card, alien registration card, or certificate of naturalization
>Acceptable Non-Photo IDs:
Current lease, mortgage, or deed of trust
Voter or vehicle registration card
Home or vehicle insurance policy
I only have a license, nothing else on here
>Telling Ma about a friend who gets drunk and makes out with guys, offers to suck them off but he says he's straight when sober, say I think he's bi but he's too closeted to admit it when sober
>"Bisexuals are just gays too scared to come out of the closet"
>"Except they're not"
>"No no no, I used to know a guy who said this and 2 years later he came out as gay"
>"Ma, gays using bi as an excuse to come out doesn't mean they don't exist, I exist and I'm proof of that"
>She's quiet for a few minutes, I'm horrified because it just came out, I wasn't intending on it before "So you're bisexual?"
>"I said that, didn't I? Yeah. I am. Sorry"
10 years later and she's always been okay with it but I hate the way she calls it 'sexual freedom', biscum I may be but I've only ever slept with 2 people. Dad was fine with it, guessed my first boyfriend before I told him that he was.
>>5259984
If you are of age you can easily get voter registration without your family knowing about it. I would personally ask them if a school ID could be used. I would assume so.
>>5259984
Why do you not have a passport?
>>5259984
Just get a passport. Certain post offices have the forms to apply and take your photo.
>>5261038
Walgreens can do it too. Thats where I always go.
>>5260082
>sorry
I've actually never come out to anything verbally, but all my friends and family know. In highschool I started dating a friend and that's how the both of us came out. it was smooth.
For my parents all I did was take him home and say "hi this is bf k thx bye"
Came out to mum as trans last night:
>Mum I have something to tell you
>Let me guess... you're gay.
>What? No, I'm trans
>...
>...
>Well...your height would suit you better if you were a girl let's be fair
Tfw being 5ft4 scored me acceptance from my mum
>>5267501
>>Let me guess... you're gay.
>>What? No, I'm trans
Yeah, my parents had basically already assumed I was gay but they had no idea about the trans shit
>Went to boarding school
>Had a diary (kek)
>Cunts went through my room and shifted it's position
>I left boarding house early cause fuck them hos, gets messaged by someone asking me if diary is a joke
rip me
Well it happened far ago.
>Be 16, closeted faggot, also want to be androgynous but can't
>Extremely conservative family (They are like the Catholic ISIS)
>Wow shit never had a gf, never showed that much interest in girls, in fact i hated them and avoided all contacts.
>Go to my parents talking in the kitchen and come out
Hell, wish i didn't had said that
>Dad freaks out and starts screaming shit at my face fucking loud. I though he was going to punch me. My mother is crying, and screaming to both of us. Dogs barking like crazy
>I go to my room and lock myself for an whole day there. If i stood there for days and died by starvation no one would care
>Then, someone knocks the door
>Brother sends me a message in phone
>"Hey lilbro open the door i want to talk to you"
>He also sends a retarded but funny photo of him in my door.
Then i've opened the door
>He sits on the bed, bring some food and we have a conversation while i eat. I'm crying like a fucker and explain everything.
>Suddenly he hugs me. fucking strong.
>I get shocked this moment, then start crying really loud
>He says all the things like "I don't care wathever you choices are. You're my bro and i love you, will always do and i'm gonna protect you until my death"
>We lay on the bed and i fall asleep this night.
I'm living in another city now, for university. Dad rarely calls to see if i'm alive. I still maintain most of contact with my mother.
About my brother, i hardly talk to him nowadays, he's in the army or something like that and we rarely see each other. I hope we can do shit together soon.
>>5245040
>even getting my pronouns right sometimes!
if it makes you feel better, you're still not a female.
>>5267501
>tfw im 5'6 and a guy.
>>5269792
Lucky.
>get notebook from parents friends on Christmas bc they have no idea what to get a 10 year old.
>first entry was a confession that I wanted to be a girl I wrote after a panic attack
>forget about it for months
>one day cousins are over
>goes through my things when I'm not in the room and they find it
Oh so fucking embarrassing
It's funny I actually never came out to anyone but my parents, and their response was just "Yo that's cool." Considering I have like 3 gay relatives and a bunch of gay family friends I think they were fine.
Everyone else found out because within 3 minutes of dating this guy news basically hit the presses because the next day everyone knew all about it. Might have something to do with being completely dateless at 19 years old but hey, these things take time.
This was also only like 5 days ago, so I'm still absolutely buzzing over it.
>>5230174
Did anyone else read the Spanish in the Bumblebee Man from the Simpsons' voice?
>>5231918
I did this to my girlfriend, her silence said it all I think... We've still never discussed this and it was years ago :/
I did it to a friend too he was just like "okay"
>be mtf
>too chicken to come out pre-hormones
>too chicken to go to a therapist and tell them about it for hormones
>say "fuck it" and order hormones online, start taking them
7 months later
>still too chicken to come out
>still boymode because too afraid to go around in public in girlmode
>go to a party of about 25 people, most of them friends ive had for years
>have seen none of them since I started hormones
>walk in the door
>"WOAHHHH dude you look way different!" Instantly, from everyone
>comments on my hair being long, etc.
>nobody connected the dots (I think...)
>later start conversation with this random dude i had never met before that party
>he comments on how he thought I was a girl the whole party until that point when I started talking to him, appologizes profusely
>I start smiling uncontrolably
>feel amazingly happy
>realize i need to start coming out to people i know
>come out to friends a few days later
>100% positive reception, much "lol that explains a lot" from people who saw me at that party
>come out to my faghag sister
>she is surprised but also very supportive, as expected
One month later
>see my mother for the first time since pre hormones
>we talk for a while
>she keeps commenting on how different i look
>work up the courage, and tell her im trans
>she starts crying
>wonders why im wanting this
>for months, keeps trying to talk me out of it, keeps crying over it
>"why cant you just be gay?"
>she goes into a phase of not talking about it for a few more months
>eventually starts being very supportive of it and nice
>around this time i go full time girlmode
>had not seen my father for 3 years prior to starting hormones
>have not seen him for 10 years now
>5 years ago he started trying to get back in contact with me
>i still avoid all attempts
>in town relatives have not seen me since pre-hormones
>have been avoiding them to spare them the feels
>only relatives in contact with me are my mother and sister
>still too chicken to change that
>>5268207
>gets messaged by someone asking me if diary is a joke
Why would it be a joke? It's a Diary?
>>5269245
No shit you retard, but I fucking look like one and that's ok for me.
>>5242462
>When you're used to being alone, it gets easier every day.
sounds about right
Fuck it. I'm sending my mum a message now. Let's see how this goes.
Never going to happen. This closet is way too comfy.
>Be in 8th grade and had come out as bi to friends at school
>talking to other bi guy on Facebook messenger about sex stuff and maybe meeting up.
>Facebook is still logged in and Mom goes through my messages cause she's a crazy bitch.
>confronts me about it
>shutdown deny deny deny
>Dad is like lol who cares
>She goes to the school and brings a printout of all my messages with bi guy.
>school is like wtf why are you telling us this
> demands that I have my classes changed so I have no classes with bi guy but school doesn't do shit.
> everybody thinks my mom is batshit crazy
>gives me hell all through high school.
>cutoff contact a year ago with her.
>reconnected with bi guy and am now in a relationship with him
>>5275567
I kinda wish I was still there,,,
>sitting with parents
>why don't you have a gf
>is it because you're gay anon? that's okay with us, just tell us the truth
>say im not gay
>they ask again, telling me that i should tell them now and go enjoy myself instead of keeping it a secret
>deny it again
>they ask a final time, telling me that i have nothing to be afraid of
>say no, start acting overly homophobic
>now the most rabid homophobe known in my family
Why me?
>>5275645
It's your fault you fucking idiot
>>5275675
Accurate but rude
>>5275675
It's my fault I'm gay?
>>5275707
To think that I called you an idiot simply because you're gay on an /lgbt/ board proves even more how stupid you are.
>>5275831
I was just setting up a strawman.
>>5275856
I could tell.
>>5275645
>why don't you have a gf
How old are you?
In general, at which age is strange be dateless? i'm 18 and i'm afraid my parents will start asking me about...
Is this thread up?
I need help. The thing is, my friends are a bit homophobic, but I still like them as friends. How do I come out to them?
>>5276879
Unless you 100% need to tell them for some reason, do not tell them.
>>5229337
>Be me
>16 year old straight tranny
>get outed as gay to liberal family by lil's sis
>tell her i don't appreciate that
>'its not that big of a deal anon'
>mom is halfway cool
>'you didnt show up on my gaydar'
>tfw i gotta come out as a tranny when my parents didnt even consider being gay a possibility
>fml
>18 years old
>Got drugged and molested
>Hide it for 10 years
>Some point in between I slept with anonymous men and women
>I think I'm bi
>Why would my parents need to know?
>tfw secretly had tranny feels for years
>tfw hang around with gay friends, only twink in the group
>tfw they jokingly call me a tranny
Come out never.
>>5230174
this copypasta is so old that people really started to not recoglize it?
>>5279391
Yeah, wtf. This type of pasta happens all the time in Twitch. Weird how people think this is real, considering the use of Spanish in an intentionally funny way. "Maricoooooooooon" baka desu
>>5279391
>>5279437
kek I made that post and I didn't knew there was a similar copypasta.
although it's not the first time I make that joke in a coming out sotries thread t b h
next time I'll try with russian or something like that.
(my actual coming out story was pretty boring desu like my parents told me they already knew)
>>5277869
Are you out as gay or are you just trandomly hanging out with gay guys?
>>5277869
Just be trans. Twinks are already pretty cute as is.
>>5277529
maybe one day you will ge into a relationship?
>>5277200
THat isnt neccesarily that bad
>18, had been on hormones/blockers for first semester of freshman year of college.
>Winter break
>Tell parents
>Stop hiding my breast growth
>Kicked out before Xmas
>7 years pass, return to old hometown.
>Be extremely passable, post op.
>See dad in local grocery store a few days after visiting an old friend.
>Walk by dad in aisle.
>Doesn't recognize me.
>Stares at ass as I walk by.
>>5283698
>Stares at ass as I walk by
you should fuck him while slowly revealing information only someone very close to him could now so he realizes what's going on right when he's cumming.
>Be me
>lived in an extreme Christian household
>tried my best to adhere to our view of chastity. >However, when I was 13 I found out I was gay.
>I didn't want to tell my mother because they always said that it was a sin and I would never be allowed back home if I was gay.
>I kept this a secret for five whole years
>tried my best not to get off with gay stuff.
>I tried and tried to make myself straight, but I couldn't.
>I don't have a job and they are paying for my college education.
>I felt scared because I can't find a job anywhere and I don't want to lose my college education.
>So this evening my worst fear came true.
>I was visiting them and my mom came across my journal and read something I wrote when I was 14 or so. >She banged on the door of my room and barged in.
>At this point, I could no longer hide the truth from her.
>I finally told her I was gay and I couldn't help it.
>She was scared, and she said:
>"You're moving with your auntie and uncle in Bel Air".
>I whistled for a cab and when it came near the license plate said fresh and it had dice in the mirror.
>If anything I could tell that this cab was rare but I thought now "Forget it. Yo Holmes, to Bel Air!"
>I pulled up to the house at around 7 or 8 and I yelled to the cabbie "Yo Holmes, smell ya later!"
>I looked at my kingdom I was finally there, to sit on the throne as the prince of Bel Air.
Reading this thread before coming out is a bad idea it seems. Fuck.
Not my story but my friend came out yesterday and said he was dating a guy for two years.
Thing is that he gave me a Facebook of the guy and that dude is a literal neckbeard. Overweight and that man bun on the top.
My friend in comparison is metrosexual and I thought after he told me that he would be dating somebody cute...
He also invited me to their thanksgiving party with six other gay guys.
I haven't answered yet so what's the nicest thing to tell him so I can bail?
>>5283765
"i think i'm coming down with something so i'm gonna sit this one out just to be safe"
>>5283734
Coming out went fine for me. Just gotta know your parents well
>>5283765
I think your friend is just using that as a cover just to test you.
[spoiler]he likes you[/spoiler] and wants to test your reaction before asking you out.
>>5283785
>I think your friend is just using that as a cover just to test you.
I figured.
the whole conversation was awkward as shit.
