When somebody of the family died in your country, how do you overcome sorrow? I lost father three days ago. I cannot recover myself from sorrow.
watch more anime usually
>>56608565
be with my remaining family
Stay away from 4chan while you're emotionally hurting. This place is cancer and will only make you more bitter and stuff.
>>56608565
You probably never will senpai.
The loss of a loved one is something that never fades.
The pain will diminish over time, but it will never go away.
If your loss prevents you from doing day to day tasks within the following months, seek help from a therapist.
You have my condolences.
>>56608565
I am very sorry to here that you lost your father.
You were obviously close.
I lost my grandmother 2 months ago,I struggled with her loss for a number of weeks and still do,I have nightmares about her desu.
The best thing to do is engage yourself socially and be positive,be with your family and that.
>>56608565
Is it true that Japs can´t go and cry with other people because sense of keeping your troubles for yourself?
Because when I´m feeling shit I usually complain with friends, class mates or a random taxi driver.
>>56608695
>not family
matate ateo sin familia
The same as every person around the world, with personal growth, family and friends support and
maturity. I'm so sorry for your father, I wish that he rest in peace. My supports for you and your family. Regards
I cannot bring myself to do anything now…
>>56608716
I think family is like number one isn´t it?
But when my granpa died mother was so sad that I didn´t show my saddnes to her, but hug her a lot and myself went on to cry with best friend.
>>56608716
gallego mal hablado
>>56608755
How did your father pass away if you dont mind me asking?
>>56608755
You have to let it out, don´t think of others right now and let your emotions out anon, in the future it will be better
>>56608695
showing your bare emotions in public and involving others in your personal issues are seen as pretty immature and embarrassing actions.
>Do not be moved by anything and try to be steady if you are a samurai.
>Do not be other people's burden.
>Do not let your inner sissy self out.
I guess above is the basic philosophy of our society.
>>56608565
>3 days ago
well, of course, it's still way too "fresh"
only weeks or months will heal the wound
It's harder when the death is sudden though. When it comes after a long disease, your mind is more ready to accept the eventual outcome.
>>56608789
pancreatic cancer.
>>56608775
cala a boca chicano
>>56608759
si pero no los mencionaste, es solamente eso
I lost my father when I was 20 years old, definitely the hardest thing I've ever had to go through, watching him die of cancer for 2 years prior to that, it was fucked up. Then being cast into the world alone. I was numb shortly after it happened and didn't sink in until months later. I still miss him. Now that I'm a legit adult, I feel like we could've had a good father-son relationship. He was a cool dude. I still miss him 7 years later.
>>56608957
vai tomar no cu mlk
the ceremony is extremely important. funerals are a big deal here. we're very family-orientated so people will drop everything and come for miles at the very mention of a passing to be at the wake/funeral
Don't see it as something you have to deal with by yourself. nothing will stop the grief when its in full force, but its a massive help to know people cared and showed up to give their support and will do anything they can to help
>>56608910
that's horrible. i can imagine how sudden it must've been. be with your mother and kin right now. that's the most important part.
I'm OP.Everybody is tender. Thank you very much for your advice.
Commit seppuku.
>>56608565
Go do normal things that you normally do, dont sit around and focus on it. You will feel bad for a while, and see lots of things that would think "he would have liked this". You will wish you could do or had done certain things. Thats all normal.
It just takes time. My dad died when i was 18, im 31 now, still think about him occasionally. The important thing is to not dwell on it, take whatever he taught you forward with you.
>>56608565
You probably never will,japanon. But that pain will go away in time. Reunite with your family and stay strong,the first weeks/months are very hard. Sorry for your loss.
>>56608565
Here you have to be as stoic as possible and not talk about it under any circumstances unless drunk
>>56608886
Sounds kinda awful desu
But even this pain will take time to fade you should talk to somebody apart from faceless anons in an image board, some human empathy goes a long way to heal your feels even pets can help.
>>56608565
feels bad man
>>56608565
Drink with family and remember your loved one
Drink
Sorry for your loss
>>56608565
I do know your devastating pain.
My university mate who'd been with me every day playing in the same band for seven years jumped from a uni's facility building 5 years ago and I still can't completely get over it.
Every clear day in May reminds me of him and the day I heard the news.
Sometimes He appears in my dreams.
That's how you will live with him the rest of your life.
>mfw feel no emotion when family or friends die
What's wrong with me /int/? My mom yelled at me because I was so calm at my grandpa's funeral when I was 13. I don't blame her though, I think she was just emotionally unstable and took it out on me.
>>56608565
I never needed to, because I don't feel sorrow. It is the inevitably of life, so it is best to be stoic about it. My life will continue without them and it is pointless to dwell on the past.
>>56609423
It means you're a psychopath.
[spoiler] Maybe [/spoiler]
>>56609423
This is important now.. think really hard...
Do you ever feel emotions?
>>56609423
nah she was wrong
I'd never say this to anyone, but my dog's death actually hit me harder than my own mother's
my mother's death was terrible and destroyed me and my family, but it was a 'shared' death, where all the family were there and felt the same sense of loss/grief and we could console each other
but my dog (who I had since my early teens all the way to 30) passing was something that I had to carry alone. sure everyone understood it was sad and offered their sincere condolences, but the grief was mine and mine alone. and its something that far too often falls on me like a tonne of bricks and I can barely hold myself together when it does
>not that I felt I was entitled to special grieving rights or anything
obviously my mother's passing was a major event in the grand scheme, whereas my dog's passing was a personal one, but that dog was always with me literally no matter where I went throughout my coming of age period. not something you can just discard and move on from as if it didn't happen once its over
I felt uplifted a little. Thank you everybody.
>>56608565
I dont know man. I lost my lil sis 14 years ago. I dont know how i overcame it. I just want to forget and look at the bright side: she will never have boyfriend.
I just focus on work. I cant rely on other people to understand me, not even my friends, lover or family. When i lost my younger brother i grieved alone and just focused on work and the simple fact that he was alive, he lived, he knew love and companionship, he lived a rich life.
well the turkish tradition upon death of a person is as follows;
>the body of the deceased is taken to a mosque where the proper muslim rites are done
>the funeral is carried to a cemetery and buried
>the attendants eat food together and disperse
>40 days later the close relatives of the deceased come together again to commemorate the deceased and eat food together
>we also commemorate the spirits of our ancestors by visiting holy places and tying small pieces of cloth on trees to ask for things
i would say don't get drunk, don't do stupid shit. just try to accept the fact that we all die one day, it is too soon for the pain to pass give it time
also visit to honor and remember your dead loved one at least once a year
that is what i do at least
>>56608565
We all will be dead someday, don't be a selfish man. We are just guests here on Earth. Born, receive experience, die.
>>56608565
Gotta keep your mother/brother/sister alive I guess. That is all I got ;_;
>>56614058
That's fucking deep, m8.
>>56608565
Remember the last ankara explosion that everyone from /pol/ laught ? I lost my parents there and now im trying more to espace from this shithole.Now can you do me a favor ? Does Japanese people hate Turks ? Or is it true that Japanese people got problem with english ? Because i study Japanese and English literature and gonna learn whole japanese in university.
>>56614177
bullshit
>>56608565
I dont overcome it, i simply don't have it. Since my childhood I was on funeral every 2-3 years, so I dont feel anything.
>>56608565
You don't ''overcome'' sorrow. It becomes a part of you.
>father died 10 years ago
Watch funny cat videos on Youtube it always makes me happy
>>56608565
Just remember that this life is just a game. And your father in better olace now.
ctlr+F "drink"
yep, that's right
>>56614058
I like this post
>>56614212
Why ?
>>56614289
your parents didn't die in the ankara bomb
>>56608565
I wish my mom would die already tbqh.
>>56609000
nice trips
>>56614306
Yeah , that 138 people were nothing right ?
>>56608565
>family reunion
>karaoke
>gambling
this really happened on my grandma's wake.
it really helped our family to lessen the sorrow because of her death.
>>56614329
post proof
>>56614346
.How ?
>>56614338
>gambling
I've heard some scammers buy dead body in the Manila slum so that they can legally do gambling.
>>56608565
>father died 3 days ago
>posting a thread with anime image
He must be rolling in his grave.
>>56614177
i remember the post on /pol/, is it really true or?
>>56608565
he did seppuku?
>>56608565
from my experience time will recover your heart.
>>56614402
I do not post anything on /pol/. I was in shock when the explosion happen.
Just breathe
Just believe
>>56614392
He must say , for the love of god throw soil on me
Get drunk. We are all going to die, human life is cheap.
>>56614436
nah nigga, you are just roleplaying
this is the only family i could find that died in the bombing and it says that their girls joined the funeral
>>56614380
yeah, they buy the unclaimed bodies (probably dead homeless or criminals), put it in a box, ask for a permit and turns his wake into a monaco casino.
>>56614492
>mfw no one gives a fuck when you live in a small town and lose your parents
>>56608565
welcome to chronic depression,i have had that since 1995
>>56613970
>>tying small pieces of cloth on trees to ask for things
No one does such a shamanic superstition don't deceive people.
I had a stroke couple years ago, my wife thought I was a gonner.
Moments before I completely passed out, I told my wife to not say any goodbyes
,that she has to go on, and make lots of babies, and watch them grow. That she's gonna die an an old lady warm in her bed, not with me here, not this night. Not like this, do you understand me?
>>56608565
Kill yourself faggot
>>56614728
German humour
>>56614714
>this cuck
>>56614603
oh really? where do you live, in the south east?
in the central and west this is still tradition
>>56614728
wew germans are funny as usual
>>56614714
R u half paralysed now?
How damaged is your brain currently?
Can you do basic math?
>>56614728
>this comment
>this flag
You can't do anything with deaths. I believe, when something happens, there's no point in torturing yourself even more. You can't stop feeling but concentrating on it deepening the suffering is pointless.
>>56614787
No, I'm almost in a wheelchair, I have no bowel control either, I shit myself every 3 hours.
Palooska, the lady that helps me is really having a nightmare.
My wife also left me. She took my advice and actually left me.
>>56614714
Is that from titanic?
>>56614775
Lived all my life in the northwest
It's bullshit btw
Haven't lost anyone influential yet, wouldn't know. Hope you are doing well OP
>>56614974
well i'm from istanbul, i have lived in many different cities and visited nearly all of turkey except for north-east and south-east
and let me tell you the "such shamanic superstition" is considered a part of religion and tradition nearly everywhere
i know that black sea region is becoming full on arabisized but don't fool yourself saying that continued old religious traditions don't still cling on to the turkish daily life
>>56608565
Give it time.
>>56614930
Seriously? I feel for you
>>56614058
russia i...
>>56614798
>>56614784
Fuck off you nip bastards. Think about all the whales you widowed. Not that you're even Japanese, whitey.
>>56608565
have you ever tried to help poor people or any stuff about voluntary work? this is the first thing i'd do
>>56616077
t. angry iron-hearted PETA German aka Asian hater German or just that Chink
Animal worshiping German might be kinda rare here but still its not surprising
No wonder you unmercifully gassed Jews
>Fuck off you nip bastards.
Go eat vegetable you fatfuck
>>56616370
Go home you disgusting weaboo. You type like your average American.
>>56608565
get drunk or fap, there is no third option
>>56608565
Become chuu2.
you don't. that's why you need to become an edgelord and distance yourself from everyone
>>56609423
i was calm too at my granddad's funeral but i was in reality really sad inside and i think it showed a bit through the way i acted and talked
>>56609815
this is normal anon don't blame yourself
