> be me, college freshman
> meet cute girl in my class, got relatively close
> fast forward a semester
> after hanging out with girl so much, eventually find out she played me to get closer to my bro who was in a class with us second semester
> bro asked me if I still had feelings for girl
> "n-nah b-bro go for it"
They've been together for almost 4 years now. I've been lifting since and still keep in touch with my bro. As for the girl I saw her at the bars a few months ago and all she could do was stare in awe at me and how much I had changed..
stupid bitches
>itt: children of single mothers
>>37569979
Shit man, wish you the best, be glad that she was mirin', use that as fuel for lifting, you will find a better girl
I got my heart broken and started lifting
>fall in love with a girl
>never felt this way before
>we begin dating on and off
>she says she loves me
>we were gonna have kids and get married
>start lifting
>think about her every second of the day
>we fight but I always feel that love will shine through at the end
>she breaks up with me
>acts like it was nothing at all
>seems happy gets on with her life
>i'm fucking crushed, heartbroken
>realise I was an idiot for placing my happiness in another person
>realise I was too obssessed with her
>understand that I should have been focussing on myself and improving myself
>lift for me and me only
>finally move on with hard lessons learned
>>37569907
We were together for five years. She left because I didn't want to get married. I didn't want to get married because we just had nothing in common and weren't having sex pretty much at all anymore. We weren't fighting, we weren't UN-happy, it just... wasn't working anymore. We had drifted apart and were just going through the motions of being in a relationship.
She didn't specifically mention it as a reason, but the truth is I did put on 40 pounds during that time. It didn't really dawn on me until she left for the last time and the garage door closed. I was fat, and was going to need to do drop at least that 40 pounds, if not more, or no girl was going to look at me.
So I did. I put on my gym clothes for the first time in months, and was at the gym in less than 30 minutes after she was gone. That was last September and I haven't looked back since. I'm actually down 50 now, starting to actually show some muscle, and I'm going to cut 10 more before starting a bulk. I don't even miss soda anymore.
>>37570057
Nice job bro
>>37570045
Wish this lesson would finally get through to me, still missing her after almost 2 fucking years
>>37570057
Damn, mirin the mentality to head straight to the gym, you're gonna make it breh
>>37569907
https://soundcloud.com/user-736055505/it-will-never-be-you-wav
we really need to ban ifunny posters
>>37570248
I don't understand how people as dumb as you exist. That image was obviously written/produced on 4chan. iFunny just stole the screenshot of the text, and then slapped their logo on it. OP has probation never even been on iFunny. Instead, someone else did, and then posted it on here, and that is where OP got it. Please end your existence, friendo.
don't know where to ask, but /fit/, there is a QT 3.14 at my work
is it worth pursuing her if she is just going back to school in the fall? Idk if I want a 2 1/2 month GF, but its better than the crippling feel of >tfwnogf... I think she likes me
Also I don't really care about making work awkward because she will be leaving anyways and I hate this place. It'd be nice to have a summer gf to get out of the house and do shit.
>>37570045
Epilogue:
>Finally realize that all girls are shit
>Learn about a place called /fit/
>Figure I will find people like me
>Go there
>Gay porn everywhere
>Figure no big deal, I'll just talk about fitness
>fast forward 1 year
>I'm gay now and I love it.
>>37569907
I've never been rejected until two weeks ago.
It feels shitty tb.h
>>37570034
Same. But eventually I realized I enjoy the burn and the results, so I stuck with it anyway. Am I vain? Sure, OK, I can live with that.
FF many years, I freakin' love my bod, easily in the top 5% in my age group.
Women come, women go. But you have to live with what you do to yourself regardless.
>>37570057
mike?
>>37570057
Nice on bro keep going
>>37569907
>be skinny fucking skeleton all my life
>with gf for all of highschool
>we were with each other through all the changes we experienced from age 14-18 (which is a lot of fucking change)
>we were with each other as we matured and went from a silly teenage relationship to an actually serious relationship even if we were only 18
>could talk about anything
>4 fucking years with this female
>was looking forward to future with her
>guess I wasn't as mature as I thought I was
>.she leaves me for chad at end of senior year of high school right before prom
>goes to prom with him
>I'm left fucking heartbroken, she moves on
>months pass
>I'm still a skinny fuck, still looking at her on social, still seeing her post pictures making out with chad
>decide that I'm fucking done being a pussy skinny cunt piece of shit beta male
>go in my dad's garage and slap on some 5's on the bar
>bench for the first time ever, feels breddy gud
>use my pent up anger/sadness to finish sets
>fast forward 1 year
>made solid gains, not at 1/2/3/4 yet cause I fucked around for the first 5 months but I'm serious as hell now and am going to join my uni's powerlifting club in september
>stopped stalking ex gf, blocked her, her friends, and her family on all social media
>last thing I saw about her online was over a year ago
>don't even use her as anger motivation anymore, cause thinking about her doesnt piss me off anymore
>lifting for myself cause I fucking love it with all my mind
>>37570724
Keep it up /fit/ bro , you did great
>Girl I know is going off to college
>Convinced she will find someone better/more attractive than me there and forget about me
>Think about her every time I go/every day
>Think she did forget about me
>I'll show her by getting swole (kek)
>She comes back for winter break
>She hadn't forgotten about me
>Turns out she missed me just as much
>Oh
>But, recently had finally moved on and got a boyfriend
>All that time I thought she'd be having a great time while I did nothing
>In reality we were both suffering
>And in the end she moved on while I didn't, and I fell into the exact situation I was trying to shield myself from
They're still together and I recently cut all contact with her. For months I felt bad, inadequate, and I'm tired of feeling that way. I don't care if she still wants to be friends, this time I really am moving on.
Sometimes, like on the weekends, when I can't lift, I feel horrible again. But lifting always makes it better. It's the only thing staving off my depression. I'm dyel but I still fucking love it.
>>37569907
im a 24 yr old khhv
i only lift for myself
>girlfriend says she would date me no matter what shape im in
>begin gaining weight because i dont care how i look anymore and my metabolism is slowing down
>in the shower one day and decide that if a man is unfit and a girl cheats on him its his fault
>start lifting from that day on
>>37570840
fuark brah, I hope my ex also felt like shit about me when she went off to college several states away. I know I felt like shit
Youre doing good though, anon. Just be sure to never contact her or let her contact you again. It's the only way to fully move one.
You're gonna make it brah. Keep liftan and keep eatan and youll be golden
> Go to uni
> Fall in love with a girl
> I'm her first
> Have the best two years of my life
> She talks about moving in, getting married etc
> Come back after a night out
> She'd drunk more than me and was pretty smashed, I was only slightly tipsy
> She lies there in bed talking to me about life
> Mentions that she thinks every girl should have a slut phase and every girl should experiment
> Literally yawns and rolls over and falls asleep like it was nothing
> No more talk of the future
> After a while she starts crying when having sex
> Turns out she has vaginismus
> On top of that, pill is killing her libido
> Fast forward six months
> Doesnt really text me that much anymore
> Looks physically pained when she realises I'd like a hug
> Even turns away in her sleep if I put my arm on her
> Hasnt touched me in months
> Been off with me and just says she feels funny at the moment
> Insists that she loves me, even gave her the opportunity to just walk away from it all
Realised recently that a girl can literally wake up one day and stop loving you, whereas with all my mates, they break up with their girls because they've found someone else or changed in some way. My parents hate each other, all my friends families are broken. Literally don't know of a single loving couple and feel incredibly underappreciated right now. As soon as this relationship runs its course, I'm just gonna stay single forever, it's not worth it.
>>37570946
Drop her man, you'll be better off in the end ive been there man. It'll be hard at first but after a couple of weeks you'll be fine.
>>37570946
that's how it works, anon. women are fucking crazy.
Start ignoring her, too. Not to just "play her game" or to "get back at her", but really cause if she's not gonna focus on you and wants to be some crazy stupid "I-want-to-be-an-independent-slut" bitch, then she doesnt deserve your attention.
This marks the moment you focus only on yourself. Lift some heavy ass fucking weights, get fucking swole, get fucking strong, and understand women arent our key to happiness. Contentness with ones own self is where true happiness lies.
Of course moving on and dealing with women's bullshit is hard and you are no doubt going to feel bad, remember this is your life and you can get toxic things out of it at your own whim.
>>37570045
Are you me?
>Tfw still kinda heartbroken breh...
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD.
>>37570946
shit man I'm going through the same thing right now
girlfriends going though a drastic major change at college so shes spending time to "find herself". I can't be mad at her for any of that but shes so uninterested in spending time together, rarely says I love you anymore, we haven't had sex in easily over a month, can't even remember. truthfully asked her if we should break up and she assured me she didn't want that
I don't how much longer I can take this
>>37570367
Yeah go for it dude. You get experience dealing with women, and if it falls out you lose literally nothing.
Make that shit happen famalam, I believe in you!
>>37570972
This
She's probably cheated on you already and she subconsciously confessed to you while drunk. It's better getting out of there with the doubt of being cucked or stay and let her fulfil her dream of a "slit phase" and literally become one. Also the way she pulls away from you and is becoming distant is a sure sign she's up to no good.
>>37570946
Are you sure that you have put 100% of yourself into this relationship? Like, not "I wanna be with u 4ever" but more like, taking her out once or twice a week and listening to her.
Perhaps you should try to tell her how you feel, exactly as you've said here, and if she doesn't "care", go.
>>37571031
Let her find herself, but not on your time. Love is inherently selfless, so if she really did love you, she would prioritize spending time with you.
As it stands, drop that bitch and find someone who can appreciate you
>>37571031
Just break up with her my dude
Literally downhill from here; once that thought of "Oh noez I'm tied down I just want to live free as an independent woman" starts budding in their mind, it never goes away.
Unless you want to be broken up with, I highly suggest you break up with her while you still have the chance. Her mentality is extremely EXTREMELY toxic, and will make your life a living hell if you don't get rid of her.
Of course she says she doesn't want to break up because she's all conflicted and shit, but that shit doesn't mend. It will be hard to break up but it is necessary and you'll end up happier in the end.
I speak from experience. Cunt of an ex girlfriend nearly had me blow my brains out last summer due to her petty bullshit that is the same type of shit you say your gf is saying. What finally made me happy was getting rid of her and moving on
>>37571031
Having a wife of gf is the most comfy feeling, but for the life of me I can't think of a bigger double edged sword. The same thing that can make you smile can make you cry. That's what my grandfather said and it's always stuck in the back of my mind with everything in life.
Man, I never even made it past the friendzone before I started lifting, it's pathetic. Overprotective asian parents turned me to an academic sperglord of autism land.
>Be in high school
>Hang out with this kinda pretty jew girl, but was pretty sheltered.
>Wanted to be her bf, but was too autistic to follow through, she seemed receptive too
>Moving on to near end of sophomore year
>Barely see jew crush anymore
>Start talking to this average ginger chick, she's pretty cool and was also pretty herself
>Become friends in fall of Junior Year
>Ask her out to Homecoming
>Got friendzoned through text because I spilled spaghetti
>Spent days making her my oneitis and cancelled Homecoming
>Got pissed and started angry lifting for 5 or so months wanting to prove her wrong.
From acquaintances, I see she's kind of a LGBT loving weabo crazy cosplaying bitch these days.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
sure hope this works
>>37571096
What he said.
If you stick with it, it will be worse in the end a whole lot of bad shit will most likely come up and crush you. End it on YOUR terms.
>>37570847
same familia
>>37571031
I hope you realise there are girls who have NEVER been single since they hit puberty. They breakup with the first by and miss the security of a relationship so they instantly get into another one, that one falls through and it continues. They are so emotionally weak to be on their own they constantly need validation from others. Hopefully your 'girl' isn't like that but it happens. She could be using you as an emotional crutch while she's off being an independent woman.
>>37570972
I need some bros right now....
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
cant get heartbroken if you dont have a gf in the first place
>>37571031
Don't take it too much longer man. This is someone who is taking you for granted, not seeing you as a person but rather an optional component of her life. That doesn't make her hitler but it does show that she doesn't understand that you could also be "finding yourself" and why you're instead choosing not to.
>>37571124
has it right, literally say "I support you finding yourself, but I don't want you to do it on my time. It's clear we're looking for different things right now"
and just as a point of advice, don't give ultimatums. Decide whether or not you're going to tolerate her behavior before any discussion. If you want to give her a chance just say "x, y, and z things you said are all really disturbing to me." if she repeats x y or z dump her ass. If not just dump her ass now. But don't be like "you gotta change or i'm leaving u"
I'm almost 28 years old and have never known the intimate touch of a woman (or man), all you "heartbroken" anons need to stfu and be thankful.
Shit lads, I was expecting a few comments about getting my own blog or something, really surprised at some of the support here. Just needed a vent.
>>37570972
Thanks Frostychad, and believe me the thought has definatrly gone through my mind.
>>37570993
Cheers for the encouraging words bro. I've been an on-off diet and lifter for about a year but the last couple of months it's been such a good relief, and now I'm starting to just enjoy it as an activity, made my first few gains and dropped two waist bands.
>>37571031
Sounds very similar to me, hope it works out for you bro I really do.
>>37571116
I can honestly say I've put all of me into this relationship. I've stayed up late to walk her back from the club, I didn't sleep the night before the most important exam of my life so I could be with her at the hospital when her dad got sick. I take her on dates, I bring her flowers, I tell her I care. It used to be really appreciated, now it's just nothing. Lucky if I get a thanks.
As I've said, thanks for the support lads, just needed a vent because I don't want to worry my senpai or my bros. May your gains be steady and your lifts be true.
>>37569907
>Be a faggot
>Fall in love with best friend
>Get a ghetto black girlfriend who at the end of the relationship holds a knife to my abdomen threatening to kill me if I don't give her money for drugs
>Lol bye
>Find out she's pregnant with some other dude's kid, wants me to take responsibility
>All of my what, tell bitch to get an abortion and leave me alone, her problem
>Feel nothing because I like men and women are easy whores to get in bed
>Cue drinking heavily every night wishing I was with him
>Year or so later move into apartment with him, made my feelings worse
>Began getting fit in January to get over him and look for an actual BF
>Down from peak weight of 210 to 160 at 5'8"
I ballooned after moving in with him, from 180lbs with muscle, to a 210lb dyel.
I have a small frame so I'm getting down to 136-146lbs, as that should be a healthy weight for my height and frame size, and I'll make myself available in September.
Losing this weight has helped a lot with mental stability and overall happiness, and I'm going to keep going.
>>37569994
How did you know?
>>37571289
You're a man, and I'm willing to bet that you had a kind father, so you see love as sacrifice. That's noble.
Still, staying up the night before your most important exam for her dad? Walking her back from the dance club? I don't wanna say "cuck" but dude. You've gotta have some value for yourself. These aren't like "oh I didn't go see her band play because I wanted to finish the Witcher 3."
The exam thing is especially disturbing. Every adult I know would understand if you visited her dad at the hospital after the exam. And walking her home from the club? Why were you not in the club dancing w/ your woman and why does she value being in the club at all?
>deeply concerned for your self esteem anon
>>37571289
thanks bud, hope you work things out too, /fit is in a strangely nice mood tonight
>>37569907
i lift so if i ever see my whore ex again i can tell her im too good for her and i can truly mean it.
>>37571289
You said
>and believe me the though has definitely gone through my mind (regarding breaking up)
Fucking hell man. Look at what you have done for her. And what has she repaid you with? You're on 4Chan asking for advice... You know deep down in your heart of hearts she's taking you for a ride and you're right there in the fucking passenger seat with your head through the sunroof enjoying every second of it. Please don't fall back into the mess which has now came to the surface. You sound like a decent dude if what you said is the truth and a honest representation of both sides of the story. You're in uni too for godsake so there's pussy and potential rgrateful gfs everywhere, Don't settle for an emotionally void relationship because you're scared you won't get another. Fuck.
>>37571270
Sometimes I wonder if I'd be better off in your shoes.
I genuinely think women agent worth it anymore, I had better companionship from my dog than any relationship I've been in.
Women are parasites, the vast majority don't understand loyalty, you will always be dropped when someone better comes along. I'm just focusing on being successful now, will eventually get another dog (mine died) for companionship. Sex is easy to get these days as most women are sluts, tinder is full of them, failing that you can always hire a professional.
What you're missing out on its not as good as you think it is.
>start dating girl in my chemistry class
>relationship is going great for a few months
>suddenly, one day, out of nowhere
"Anon, you aren't religious, and I can't deal with that."
>tell her I've had very bad experiences with religion in the past, and tell her the stories, and why I can't be religious
"Well, you need to convert anyway. If you don't convert, we can't be together."
>tell her I don't do ultimatums, and walk away
>she messages me a few days later
>suddenly a few messages per day, turns into hours talking to each other again
>she convinces me that she's realized she needs to be more compromising, and convinces me that it'd be worth trying again
>I tell her ok, but here's what I'm willing to do (only read the Bible, nothing more)
>she's ecstatic and agrees
>together for a few weeks, and it's great again
>suddenly starts trying to get me to convert again
>I refuse
>she explodes, and screams that she only wants the best for me, and since I'm refusing God, I'm refusing her, and she doesn't want this relationship
>she storms off
>she blocks my phone and Facebook immediately
Fuck me that bitch was crazy.
To put it shortly
>fall in love with girl
>She broke up with me
>Her friend forwards me a conversation she had with her basically berating me and thinking me being heartbroken was funny as shit. And that she never had any feelings for me.
>Crushed my confidence, have not been with anyone since
>I still think about her and it been 3 years
>I would be surprised if she remembered me a week after
i've actually never had my heart broken, am i missing something?
>>37571515
Are you pumping and dumping anon?
>>37571427
Trust me, you're not better off. You don't jerk off every day in order to alter your hormones to get rid of your crippling loneliness until the next day. I have a promising career and education. None of it is worth if nobody cares about you, if there is nobody for you to care about, and if there is nobody to share your feelings with. I'd give it all away to just be with someone and then get my heart broken.
>>37570367
Ask her out on a date in person, none of that limp dick texting shit
>>37571552
yeahhhh
have 2 "real" exes but broke up with both, everyone else i just kinda fucked
>>37570367
It's better to shit your pants than to die of constipation
>>37571491
Was she a virgin?
>>37569907
>be me 2 years ago
>no education doing drugs everyday weight under 120lbs
>freind of a drug buddie moves into flat
>holyshit she's hot
>get high a shit tonne
>end up fucking out of proximity
Needs to be noted that I was pretty much as beta as you could get till I discovered drugs at age of 18
>fast forward a few months
>we semi serious ish, relationship is based around sex/drugs/mutual freinds
>o crap think I'm in love
>Christmassy her ex visits while I go down to chill with my family
>pissed as shit but not much I can do, if she cheats me fuck it I deserve it all I do is drugs and play WoW
>she cheats on me
>devastated but hold it in, break up with her
> she goes back to her own country
> cut all contact do a shit tonne more drugs
> few months later she comes back
>anon I want you back, I love you I'm sorry etc
>get back together as it what the fucks the point in life if you arnt getting laid
> start to like her, turns into genuine affection and love
>6 months go by, happiest I've ever been, got the girl, got the drugs, sorting my education out
> anon I can't do this anymore, your life's going nowhere and it's making me sad
> cry like a bitch when while seeing her off at the airport
> visit her a couple of times, make effort
>this ain't working
> cut all contact and start to properly sort my life out
1 year later I'm off the drugs and alcohol, starting at a good uni in September. Started lifting 2 months ago after seeing her with another dude on Facebook. No longer look like an auchwitz survivor and am DYEL as fuck
never felt better
It gets better but fuck do I miss chilling in a single bed doing fuck all but drugs and sex
>>37571556
Not him
In today's day and age everyone is out for a quick fuck. If you do find a girl who wants a relationship it will always be on her terms, they are very evil anon and it's not a meme. If you tell them anything that pushes your buttons they will use it against you to make you submit to them. If you're into being the submissive then it's ok. But remember as soon as something better comes along she will be gone without a doubt unless you can buy her back and sometimes even that doesn't work. Concentrate on yourself and girls will flock to you and you can have things on your terms brother. Don't think for one second a gf will solve all your problems. It will only Create more problems
It can help if you're a shy person but it's really not worth the energy sap, the constant attention you need to give,
Although somehow other girls know when you're taken, so if you want to be a utter scumbag and beat her at her own game. you can get a cheeky fuck on the side and then break it off with her if you find out she's cheated on you. Atleast you come out even.
>>37569907
>never had a gf
>always thought I'd be alone and no girl would want me because I'm not popular and not very out going socially
>dropped out of school in grade 10 from anxiety etc etc
>never had a real social circle outside of 3 unique friends that basically only wanted to hangout with me because of my video games
>had my first enormous crush on cutie girl from grade 7-8
>we became friends in grade 8 and she knew I liked her but it didn't workout due to various things
>spent countless nights master baiting to her :,(
>we didn't see each other again after grade 8
>I moved to my dads house in a new city
>she went to a new school
>still thought about her everyday
>still creeped her Facebook and nexopia
>still jerked off to her pictures
>fast forward to when I'm 18. She messages one of my 3 friends on fb. Asks about me
>he gives her my number
>we arrange to hangout
>we go see 21 jump street together. Our first "date" I suppose.
>immediately there's a connection
>mfw this seems too bizarre that it turned out this way
>our third date, I've gain huge confidence. I show her a picture on my phone of my abs and gains
>she seems very impressed
>tells me to take my shirt off
>lift up my shirt to show off the abs
>she blushes
>I tell her now she has to take her shirt off if she wants my shirt off all the way
>she takes her shirt off
>fucking heart is pounding. Never had this with a girl before. It seems surreal. Happiness like never before showers over me
>take my shirt off
>she says I should take more off
>I tell her we should take this upstairs
>we go upstairs. I see a girls tits for the first time
>I finger her Pussy
>she gives me a handjob
>that feeling you get at the beginning of a good relationship. It's fucking magical and powerful as fuck
>we become obsessed with each other
>hanging out everyday
>I eat her pussy and she blows me on our 5th hangout
>I lose my virginity to her about 3 weeks in
>>37571604
Yep. And so am I. I was also her first boyfriend.
She was homeschooled in a crazy religious household. I knew she was homeschooled, but I didn't know how insanely religious they were until a month or so into the relationship. After her, and her other homeschool friends, I'm 100% convinced that all homeschool families are insanely religious. Even though she has been going to all of these homeschool kid get togethers, apparently, no other guy ever showed interest in her.
>>37571655
This
>>37571658
Making it bruh.
>>37570972
THANKS frostychad
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37570946
dude she definitely cheated on you already if she had to mention "i think ever girl should go through a slut phase" that means she definitely had intentions on fucking other people honestly just drop the bitch right now and go lift the hate from your heart bro and let nothing but love for the weights replace her
>>37571658
Good for you bro, warms my heart to hear a story like this
>>37571658
>we decide to have our first drunk night together
>the night turns sexual fast
>she can't keep her hands off me
>I can't keep my hands off her
>she's teasing me with quick blow jobs. I'm teasing her with fingering her pussy
>we end up upstairs. I eat her asshole for the first time
>we fuck savagely
>fast forward 4 years
>were happier and more open with each other than ever
>she wans to marry me. She tells me she wants my babies
>I'm so in love with her
>mfw I can't believe I was jerking off to her ass in jean shorts in grade 8 and now I'm literally the one removing those Jean shorts and sticking my tongue up her asshole and pussy while she swallows every drip of my cum
>mfw our sex life is heslthy as fuck
>we basically fuck every day. We fuck twice a day regularly.
>she gives me anal once a month
How is it possible for my first gf, my first relationship ever, to be perfect? Is this what people look for in relationships? Honest to god. Sometimes I wonder if I'm in a simulation or something. I don't get how me obsessing over this girl for 2 years in middle school resulted in me getting with her in the end. It still boggles my mind sometimes. Seems to good to be true.
>>37570616
are you me by any chance?
>>37571491
Crazy is best to stick your dick in.
I'm trying to fuck this single mum who is a ice juny as well.
God I get hard just thinking about dat ass
>>37571049
>>37571558
>>37571589
fuck thx bros, needed that. Actually asked her out (in person) and have plans Saturday. But I was just getting into my own head if she actually likes me if she is just going back to school in fall and shit.
Overthinking things as usual
>>37571708
Majority of people in the world wish they had a highschool/middle school sweet heart they married. There's just something about growing up together.
You're lucky af anon. Don't screw it up. Don't ever cheat on her and treat her right because girls like that rarely come around.
>>37571658
>>37571708
I got horny reading this
>>37571734
Oh man, I know she was just a sexual freak, just waiting to be released from her religious oppression. She let it slip from time to time (she explained once, in great detail how she wanted to rape me. It was fucking hot as hell), but she'd always freeze back up later, and go full pious again. That's probably the thing that actually pushed me to give her the second chance. Hell, going by the conversations we were having during the second go, I was very close to getting her to put out. And I think she realized it, which is why she froze up again, and started making demands again.
>>37571655
There are very few 28 year old girls who are looking for a quick fuck and I'm not attractive enough to attract them anyway, much less younger girls who want to fuck. Having a gf will solve my loneliness which is the only problem I have or care to solve.
>>37571658
>>37571708
>yfw be with your school crush
>>37571655
My man! You know what's up!
Altho to be honest this didn't work for me
>>37571778
This is so true desu. I feel like I've missed out on not having relationships in school. It's just not fair
>>37571493
Girls are vicious, a lot express their pain as cruelty. They do it with each other too, not just in HAES hating on thin chicks but literally any girl a woman feels threatened by will experience tons of gossip and terrible comments by threatened woman.
This impulse is where all of the "I cheated on you because your dick is too small" comments come from too, they just try to do as much damage as possible to avoid confronting the reality that they're a shit human.
>>37571659
The only reason I'd put up with crazy religous bs is if she was a virgin (til she met me lol). It's hard to find women that don't want to go through a slut phase. But you made a good choice too.
I realized I hated myself for ignoring what my family has thrown at me. Working out has made me closer to both my mom and dad, allows me to focus on programming and feel better about myself and realize how to maintain a healthy life style... thanks /fit/
>>37571877
Yeah. That was a paraphrased last conversation. And in it, she made it very clear she had no interest in understanding or respecting me, my beliefs, or my needs, and that her word was worthless. To her, I was nothing more than a sperm bank with an attached wallet, that she expected to control 100%, while she literally cucked me with God. I wasn't going to stick around for that, because that's literally my definition of hell.
She did unblock me a week later, and a week after that, she sent me a friend request on Facebook. I sent her a message asking her what her intentions were, but there was no response. So after a few days, I asked a mutual friend about it, and mutual friend asked me if there was a chance my ex and I would get back together. I said there wasn't, because I couldn't trust her, and she burned every bridge with me she could. The next day the friend request was gone.
>>37571806
Imagine you have a gf right now, everything is amazing. You're doing activities together, laughing and having fun. You're the happiest you've ever been. Then one day she decides she wants a change (this thread is proof of how the female mind works and it's happened twice to me) she completely changes on you or she uses the famous 'I'm bored' line prior to the big 'change' that they want. What would you do? You'd be far worse off than when you first started. You'd be absolutely crushed. It's all fun and games in the honeymoon phase when you're getting to know eachother and that's all women really want. They enjoy the thrill of connecting and finally figuring somebody out and knowing everything about them then they move on. If you're lonely then I can understand your frustration and how badly you want a partner but it's not all rose petals and nicey nicey all the time. You think you've got her cracked and figured out and she throws a massive curveball and you're left wondering did you know her at all? And that's when you feel the most alone.
Here's to you getting a gf anon.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
never had my heart broken, but i had my brain broken
pretty much had a severe traumatic brain injury that completely stripped me of my sense of self, not to mention my ability to speak and see, both of which i had to recover myself
basically i rebuilt myself from what felt like borderline complete destruction
the injury i sustained also left me with a broken part of spine so i couldn't do much, but i did what i could as safely as possible with resistance bands and a 10lb dumbbell and super high reps at home for 3 months, hour and a half every day
when i got the OK to hit the gym again (i had only been going for about 3 months prior to the injury but wasn't pushing myself nearly as much as i could) i pretty much went balls to the wall, determined to get stronger--same concept as the mental strength i recovered.
that high rep stuff really helped me get through some fucked up months. it's pretty much all i could do at the time.
>>37570946
> Looks physically pained when she realises I'd like a hug
> Even turns away in her sleep if I put my arm on her
> Hasnt touched me in months
> Been off with me and just says she feels funny at the moment
> Insists that she loves me, even gave her the opportunity to just walk away from it all
She wouldn't do that because then it'd be her fault. She wants you to do it and to take the 'blame' and to tell all her friends and herself that she tried as hard as she could. Some people are just passive and fear taking action they know is necessary, females have a higher probability of it.
>As soon as this relationship runs its course, I'm just gonna stay single forever, it's not worth it.
You should go ahead and do it, you'll both be relieved, and it sounds like she'll be less and less into it until one day you find out she cheated because she doesn't even care to cover it up anymore because she really wants out.
Don't look to get into relationships any time soon, you have the right idea on that. Try not to be too angry at women either though. Just understand their nature, and accept it, and let bygones be bygones.
>>37571096
this is a smart anon. When I read the story I assumed she was just looking for this to happen in the future, but you're actually right that it's more likely it already happened.
>>37571346
good post, as someone who has been there. Blogposter, pay attention here.
>>37570946
> Mentions that she thinks every girl should have a slut phase and every girl should experiment
This is why I hate living in current year, all of them believe this liberation shit and with all the social media is obvious they are going to do it, disgusts me.
>>37572080
>Try not to be too angry at women either though. Just understand their nature, and accept it, and let bygones be bygones.
Probably the best advice you can give on this topic. Encompasses truth from both sides of the spectrum; acknowledging that all women are no-good lying whoores, but also realizing that being an always pissed-off misogynist is not gonna do ya any good.
>current girlfriend is a piece of shit
>no friends, very little personality, has gained 30+lbs since we started dating a little over a year ago
>low sex drive, controlling, that type of stuff
>all my friends tell me she's not good enough for me
>mixing into a new place 900 miles away this month
>leading agent is hot as fuck and wants to go to pound town
The issue is I for whatever reason still love my current GF Eben though I'm not happy 98% of the time, and I can't beat to break her heart by breaking up with her, but it's killing me to stay with her.
I stayed going to the gym seriously in the last couple months and have gone from auschwitz to DYEL, in hopes that she would catch on and realize I'm out if her league and gaining steadily hoping that she would get the picture and lose some weight, but she hasn't. Just bitches and moans about how it's so easy for me but difficult for her.
What do I do Bros?
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37569907
>wonderful relationship for 7 years+
>loved this girl so much, she not only was my gf, she was my friend and one of the few people in the world with whom i could overcome my social ineptness ( i have a really hard time talking to people, getting a conversation going, breaking awkward silence ) and talking with her felt so natural.
>even get anxiety with good friends when we are alone and there is silence so i rarely meet with anyone anymore when i know its just us 2
>then something felt odd and i know when people are lying so i checked her phone and found out she had sex with my best friend whom i knew for 25 years.
>fell into a deep depression and used my hate to fuel lifting and it helped me a lot i guess but then..
>moved 5 hours away to go to college, naturally i made 0 friends in 3 years cause who wants to be friends with someone who never talks?
>depression back again, barely lifted anymore, lost all my money and dropped out with debt
now im 27 and live with my mom again, gonna get drafted for the military in 2 weeks to pay off debts and be able to finish college
my cardio is shit and i have not been doing lifting ( got into calisthenics to go regularely but its real hard if you have 0 energy and hate yourself )
on the side note, for the first time since our break up 4 years ago i met a girl and instantly fell in love...ive seen her like 4 times and we werent even alone yet but its so damn hard to get a conversation going, i just dont know what to talk about since my live is boring and empty but shes all i every wanted out of a woman.
gets drunk, loves breaking and entering, stealing bikes etc and is a complete tomboy.
i dont even know if she likes me..yesterday she rested her head on my shoulder and we had body contact (on a couch) but her friends are all male and maybe she is like that with everyone ?
sorry for the TL:DR i just wanted to talk to someone :(
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD.
>>37572112
Ok yet there's nothing wrong with males doing the same thing?
you're an idiot.
>>37572309
I would say just tell her how you are, with your anxiety and struggles connecting with people. If she understand then great, if she doesn't then it was never meant to be. I wouldn't even mention the fact you like her yet because it could blow up in your face, she met not like you back it's all downhill from there. Play it cool and win her over overtime. Hopefully she understand how you find it difficult to speak and fund topics to talk about and she helps you out, then you can talk more and more, build a connection that way, then reveal to her at a much later date that you're starting to like her. Hopefully you would have built a nice connection by then and it could be mutual. If not you could say whatever and still remain friends although it won't be the same as before because you'll always be reminded of the something you couldn't have.
>>37571708
meme magic friendo
more or less was generic "women dont even entertain the idea of sleeping with me so i must lift"
and the sad thing is its improved my appeal significantly and i now think my personality is garbage
>>37572309
Sorry for the auto correct in my previous post. You honestly have to be yourself at this point. You can't try to someone you're not because she will see right through it with your body language, because you're not used to be upfront open and loud everything will be very unnatural and you will honestly come off as a douche or an attention seeker. Be you and be honest. But don't go full beta mode and spill your heart out to her, just give her enough infomation so she understands you and how,you are that way she can pickup on little cues of attraction from you and act accordingly. If youre shy about making a move
>>37572283
PUMP DUMP AND FIND NEW RUMP TO HUMP CHUMP
>>37572112
just because you can't have a slut phase even if you tried your hardest, doesn't mean other people can't
>>37570413
saucy
>>37572283
its VERY clear you need to break it off with her m8
>>37572283
An hero.
Ask yourself "What would Chad do?"
>>37572424
thanks man..
i could deal with rejection but now as shes in my circles of friends it would be awkward to be around her if shes not interested in a relationship with me, also she is my fucking neighbor..
also the social retardedness gave me these special powers. i know when people are lying, what they are thinking, what their mood is etc. its very easy for me to manipulate people and control their behaviour. i feel like jason bourne.
but i cant do it with her, it just isnt working. i just want to know if she likes me :/
she enganged in a facebook conversation today and i tried really hard to get it going but after like 5 or 6 messages back and forth i stopped replying because i didnt know what to say.
hopefully she doesnt see this as me being not interested in her..
think im gonna just folllow your advice and be blunt about my awkward behaviour
2nd time i saw her she was on her fkn phone while i played mortal kombat for 2 hours right next to her cause my buddies wanted to be wingmen and left me alone with her.
thankfully we were drunk all the other times we met and it was a bit easier
>>37572283
>in hopes that she would catch on and realize I'm out if her league and gaining steadily hoping that she would get the picture and lose some weight, but she hasn't
It's because you're not out of her league and she knows it. You're too beta to act on that hot leading agent, to dump your sloppy girlfriend no matter how fat she gets, refuses you sex, acts unpleasant, or to listen to your own feelings instead of putting other people first.
Once you break past that point, you will be out of her league. This is why just lifting does not get girls; women see your body for about 5 minutes max, but after that they see the man inside, and treat him as he deserves.
>>37572553
Yeah your friends did you no favours leaving you alone with her. It only made her realise how awkward being alone with you is and that ultimately is what you want, to be alone with her. If your friends stayed it would have much better for you. Because if you felt nervous you could started a convo or joined in the convo with your friends to break the silence while you were thinking of other things to say to her, i know you want to be alone with her but it's honestly hurting your chances by making her feel awkward in your presence. Wait a while until you know her a lot better and the convo flows freely like it did with your ex. It will happen anon but until then control your pecker and build rapport first. Then everything will come to you.
>>37572044
fuck man nice work
>>37572413
Males are evolved to sow or seed in as many females as possible. Females are meant to filter.
You're an idiot.
>>37572413
Didn't say that, can't you read you fucking degenerate?
>>37572591
I'm just afraid she will an hero. I don't want to live with that on my hands.
>>37572671
Yeah I can read you swamp donkey. You sarcastically asked if there was nothing wrong with males going through a "slot phase", which there is nothing wrong with it genetically.
>>37572553
Another thing. You have to hope you know your friends very well and let them know that you like her a lot. The last thing you want is one of them to swoop in and take her all because they can speak to her more than you can. And who knows, they might just tell her themselves that you like her if you feel like you're getting nowhere. "Oh yeah anon likes you a lot but you know how he is, he's shy and doesn't know the right time to tell you he's been asking us when's the best time for a couple weeks now" I know it makes you seem like a beta but honestly girls hearts melt at shit like that. It all makes sense along with your personality and what you said to her. its shows you're genuine and really like her a lot to even talk to your friends about her and to keep it bottled up while seeing her everyday. Trust me bro. You fucking got this.
All I want to know is will she be jealous next time she sees me. I have done the work going from 240 to 185 look average to /fitzens but compared to my old self I am zyzz reincarnated.
I just think she will see me and say wow you got in great shape then go back to her chad. Is it all for naught? Will see get pissed at my gains and get mad that her current bf doesnt have abs. I'm just not sure.
>>37572607
thanks man i kinda needed that.
gonna invite her over tomorrow to hang out. good that i live with 2 other guys so no problemo
>>37572639
so you have sex only to reproduce then, correct?
2016, retard.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37572733
Primarily. Fake name, only nuterino in girls who I've never met and live in a city 1+ hour from me. Plus I donate sperm so my seed is spread even farther. Enjoy your bloodline dieing out anon :^)
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37572708
I wasn't talking to you, I was talking to the other guy.
>>37572764
Sorry friendo
>>37572714
ye i had that fear already. even though one of my room mates is a huge shy nerd that wont make a move, the other one is a >80IQ manlet that feels the need to hit on every female he encounters and even has a moderate success with it.
he even tried to hit on her while she was sleeping on my chest and threw things at her to tease her, the total retard.
i think i kinda made it clear to him that shes "mine" but even if they should hook up eventually, i know that she was not worth the time and effort as he is clearly uneducated and drug addicted and if he is her type then wtf man.
im gonna follow your advice and hopefully it will all turn out well. im not shy at all, just bad at talking to almost anyone, but we will see.
thanks again for the motivation
fugg it, im drunk
>meet guy
>hit it off instantly
>first proper big girl relationship
>had BFs before but this is different
>move in together, first time doing this
>been together over a year
>talk of marriage, looking at houses together
>holyshit.mp4, this is it
>he starts drifting away
>realize i am out of shape, need to fix this
>start cutting
>i lose pounds but keep losing him
>not like this...
>he gets into drugs
>dumpster fire of a relationship now
>end it
>spend a year in abject misery
>literally want to die 24/7 but hold on thanks to booze and liftan
>meet this guy, just friends, comfy as fugg
>realize we are starting to act like a couple
>p-pls into BFing me?
>mfw he says yes
>been a year now
>on the same page with regard to literally everything
>what we want in the short term, long term
>mfw thinkgen about him hurting
>driven in the gym to better myself and be amazing for him
>he's been cutting for me
>tfw operating like one unit
>tfw making it
I will lift, come what may.
>>37572044
holy shit
>>37572833
post tits
>>37572876
>implying I would post my naked body to a Nicaraguan cigar-rolling forum when I have an amazing man that I'm loyal to
Nah son, I don't need attention from anyone than my man. And if something catastrophic happens there, I will lift my way through it.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTY CHAD
I haven't, probably never will. All the feigned charisma and confidence I got from trying to get over her brings me more girls... But I want nothing from them. Hold me /fit/...
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37572907
when you fuck, where and how does he cum? i always asked myself that because i cant cum by accident and can only cum when i enter my "cum-mode" wherei decide i want to cum now, tense my leg muscles and hold my breat. ~20s later i will cum.
otherwise i cant cum and can just keep fucking, (record 6 hours)
my ex gf had vaginism and we were unable to have sex for longer than 20-30 thrusts and she was my first one.
after our break up i had trouble at one night stands to decide when theres a good time to cum because i didnt want to disappoint the girl so i just kept fucking until they themselves decided to push my out of her vagoo and suck me off
i hate cumming in the vagoo because then my orgasm is weaker,
my question is: is it ok to just pull out and blast on her stomach? or is that considered too pornlike and she will call me a creep?
My heart got broken, but by myself. As gay as that sounds, I realized what I was doing to myself, and with my life and I died a little bit inside. Flipped my shit around. Not lifting, but on the way to losing a ton of weight.
>Be Skinny white emo 13yr old kid.
>date 15 year old mexican shorty with nice butt.
>breaks up after a year. Then spend half a year being depressed pot smoking emo kid.
>start lifting
>ex girlfriend wants my diq now. Felt good.
>>37572752
Lol, in Australia the children can actually sue you for missed alamony money when they turn 18... Fuck that
>>37572833
Pls be
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>>37572833
You fuck this up and i will toss you into a canyon myself
>>37573040
Congratulations, you just found a way to get b& new friend :>)
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37572833
He sounds beta and of weak personality. Sorry, don't think this will work for more than 5 years from the start. Good luck and keep lifting, anon.
>>37572798
So you can easily read people you say but you can't read her. I'm the same aswell. And everything you're saying sounds really familiar with the story of my ex.
Like the others said, tell her you're kind of socially awkward but also tell her you're interested in her (this is crucial).
What I'm about to say is a prophecy and will come true if you do what I just said.
You will get with her 100% sure, and it'll be a fun relationship for the first month, after that hell will start. There is this gate in your oneitis. This gate holds the demon back and you see your gf infront of you but sometimes the gate opens for a bit and she'll turn into a monster (metaphorically), you'll be baffled, wondering who this person infront of you is. The gate will shortly close and you'll be happy with your gf again. But a week later the gate, as weak as it is, cracks open again and you'll receive a fury of a 100 women. Again the gate closes but you realized the demon was even more severe than last time. As your relationship gets more serious and longer the gates comes open more often and more often. Untill the day comes you are almost always with the demon instead of your girl. And on good days you see the girl you fell in love with instead of the demon, this image will give you a glimpse of hope that it can be like it used to be, but it can't and it'll never be. Still you'll be clinging to these glimpses, holding on tight while you are withering away and losing yourself.
>>37572424
He should play it cool but not wait imo.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37573223
>>37573223
holy shit dude, i have fought with this kind of demon before i think, my ex had his aswell and as you said, it grew stronger overtime and more frequently throughout the years
i can cope with that because i really like her a lot, it will although be very hard for me to admit my feelings to her, as im not good with these kind of things. i have to come up with a way to let her know that i like her more as a friend.
is especially hard since she has mostly male friends and im not the first one in this situation with her.
>>37572413
>Ok yet there's nothing wrong with males doing the same thing?
Let me put it like this: I have been turned down by multiple women for the sole reason that I'm a 27yo virgin.
>>37570972
Thanks frostychad
>I have never been rejected because I have low self esteem and have never approached a girl in my entire life
>>37571179
>jew
>LGBT loving
no big surprise here
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
I got into lifting because open relationship and no matches on tinder. Gotta be ripped to have a chance on that app.
>>37573609
Kek not really. I'm dyel as fuck and do just fine
>>37569907
>in relationship for years
>she's great, have a lot in common, love making fun of people who get "triggered" about shit and those who don't work
>she suddenly decides to stop working, comes up with a bunch of bullshit to collect welfare
>to play up her bullshit, she begins acting like everything is a trigger and that she can't handle anything
>she became everything we mocked
>she doesn't help at home, sits on the couch playing video games all day, becoming fat and showering rarely
>get fed up, realize she'll never turn back to who she was
>she finds out that I'm planning to break up with her
>makes up a bunch of bullshit about me to people we know, only person who believes her is a 25 year old virgin
>she leaves, I take up lifting since I suddenly have a ton of free time from not having to take care of her
>feel a ton better and laugh as I receive emails occasionally from her begging me for money
Feels good
>meet girl, become good friends
>like other girls, don't really care about her
>start liking her after 2 years
>tell her
>sorry i dont feel like that anymore.jpg
>shieeeet
>still talk to her for another year, madly in love with her
>graduate from HS and we both go our separate ways
>have been ignoring her for almost 3 years (whatsapp every few weeks) and i still cant forget about her
who else /oneitistothemax here?
>>37570946
I'm a grill
unfortunately this is true
but honestly being fat/not fit has a lot to do with it
If you're fit you like moving and have energy to bone so you're too busy boning and doing stuff to worry about leaving
Basically if you give girls enough time to question your relationship 99% of girls that don't have kids will realize their life is better without you/could do better/don't have enough in common/wow you're kinda fat :0
>>37573797
blast her with piss
>>37573681
you can give me money if you want anon
>>37571031
grill from above here.
also all girls are shitty from 20-24 not even joking. it's like how all dudes are shitty until 28.
girls get shitty because that's when they start going out and realizing there's 1000000 better people than the person she's with.
Guys are just shitty cuz I have no idea why but at 28 they usually have their shit together mentally and physically and have enough experience to overcome autism
>>37570045
never forget no matter what you gain or get, achieve or recieve you're there because of that drive. You created yourself at this point, it is part of who you are now. In the future there will be a time when you're happy and have let your guard down, in that moment you'll realize you have two options. Continue as who you are, or change...possibly for the one you love or feel loved by. Pick wisely as they liked you as you are now.
/fit/ you've been warned
>>37573848
I don't give her the money, if my story was vague on that point. I laugh because the person who burned the bridge as hard as she possibly could is now trying to cross the ashes because she realized she fucked up.
>had gf
>after like a year and a half of me being paranoid she's gonna leave me I finally accept she might actually unconditionally love me
>immediate boost to self confidence, I'm the king of the world
>a week later she changes her facebook relationship status to in a relationship with some guy I've never seen, heard of or had mentioned
>5 years ago
>I act cold and distant to everyone now, nobody actually gives a fuck about me once I'm not in the same room as them
>>37573851
when you fuck, where and how does he cum? i always asked myself that because i cant cum by accident and can only cum when i enter my "cum-mode" wherei decide i want to cum now, tense my leg muscles and hold my breat. ~20s later i will cum.
otherwise i cant cum and can just keep fucking, (record 6 hours)
my ex gf had vaginism and we were unable to have sex for longer than 20-30 thrusts and she was my first one.
after our break up i had trouble at one night stands to decide when theres a good time to cum because i didnt want to disappoint the girl so i just kept fucking until they themselves decided to push my out of her vagoo and suck me off
i hate cumming in the vagoo because then my orgasm is weaker,
my question is: is it ok to just pull out and blast on her stomach? or is that considered too pornlike and she will call me a creep?
pls respond
>>37573879
I hope you meet someone who genuinely treats you right one day, anon
>>37572833
that sounds coool!!!
congrats
just remember the couple that lifts together doesn't get fat together and ends up in divorce
>>37573886
nothing is more annoying than guys that think that taking a long time to cum is cool
also if you can't cum and you don't have a medical issue it's probably just seen as an insult 9_9
Also I assure you any girl with half a brain would rather have cum anywhere besides their vag
cuz like
gross vs cleanable with a jizzrag.... jizzrag wins right?
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37573953
creampies are so hot tho fuck off
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
It was actually the opposite for me.
>handsome guy online tries to gain my affections
>I'm an autistic landwhale
>start to lose weight and become strong because I don't feel worthy for such a man
>lose a crapload of weight
>he stops talking to me because he likes fat chicks
I want to die, but at least I'm healthier now and continuing this path.
be 14, stoned out of my mind, going into freshman year of highschool, older sister brings girl from the cheer team over, introduces me
>im 5'11 140
>instantly realize shes perfect
>fit girl, tan skin, bright blue eyes, legs of a godess (squats 2 plate atg 3x8 now) czeck/french background, 5'6
>completely uninterested in me
>im obsessed
fast foreword
>look for her at all my football games
>never there, shes already on varsity (background in gymnastics)
>take year off of football
>lift hard as fuck, diet down to a T
>get 1/2/3/4 at 165 my junior year, ab veins, i look pretty decent at this point
fast foreword
>junior year
>play football
>starting varsity linebacker
>gives me attention
YES.jpeg i..i..i mean cool whatever
>start eating lunch with her
>we hang out every day
>really sweet girl, everybody is so intimidated by her they never get the chance to know her
>im a goober
>she loves it
>she comes over every weekend
>act like fuckin guys
>get the guts to kiss her
shes never made out
THIS GIRL IS PERFECT
>do everything right, become friends with her dad, respect his rules
>get guts to ask her out
>she says yes
>we fuck a month into dating
>shes a virgin
>squirts
>im 16
> never expienced it before
> nut in 5 minutes
we've been dating for 5 years now. were in love. we broke up for a year because the cockiness i developed from being the dude with a hot gf drove me to cheat (lame as fuck. i know(I broke up with her, ik. dumb decision))
were absolutely insanely in love with one another now, doing better than we ever have. both in college, only an hour away from eachother. both in top houses. we alternate who visits where every weekend, usually catch a show once a month (seeing flume in august)
nobody in this fucking world will ever make me as happy as waking up to her next to me and all of you deserve it.
bite, scratch, and claw your way to relevance. improve yourself and throw yourself out there. dress well and be yourself.
itll come, bros. belive in yourself.
>>37569994
WTF?
I am a fat fuck my whole life since I can remember.
Only had a couple of dates in my life. Had my first kiss when I was 20 years old on my first date.
Last year my friend suggested that I should look on tinder cause he found his gf on there. I thought why not?
Absolutly nothing happend for almost 1 year on tinder (My text game was poor).
A couple of months ago, another friend said that I should come with him to the gym and start working out.
I started working out, lost a lot of weight (still not made it yet)
It gave me more confidence and I started dating girls more.
Eventually got a date with a girl whom I licked her nipples, fingered her pussy and got a blowjob from her.
Best night of my life yet.
Too bad I still fuck up afterwards, cause I get too excited and text too much to a girl I like. Need to stop that shit.
For short: We are gonna make it.
>>37574014
sorry about my spelling and grammar btw, my phone screen is fucked.
i really want to emphasize how hot this girl is btw, bbygirl got featured on tfm
>Play on a "clan" server
>Get banned because you "Disrespected" a mod
Why are these faggots so butthurt over nothing? They get so mad that they have no power in real life and have to take it out on everyone else.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37574152
you're the one with no power in real life bud, bitching about getting banned from <random server> on fucking /fit/ lmao
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37569907
Society raped me and didn't call back
>Be 13 year old freshman in highschool
>Meet this cute girl. She's great, loves vidya, nerdy shit.
Fast Forward
>Now senior in high school
>Still friends with qt and she's dating my best friend
>Steal her like a chad
>Date for a year semi-long distance during my first year of college
>I lose my virginity to her and we both loved each other
>Talked about moving in with each other
>Out of no where "anon I'm losing feelings"
>I'm crushed, crying like a bitch
>Breaks up with me a week later
>Turns out she was fucking a 40 year old
>Being a beta bitch I try again with her
>She promises to break things off with the chad dad
>She doesn't and breaks my heart for a second time
It's been a year since then and I am finally out of a deep depression. Just started lifting a little more than a month ago, making noob gains and shit. I feel great and have lifting bros to keep me motivated. All I can do is keep going.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37574255
>Steal her like a chad
Chad doesn't steal he just takes whats his, dumbass.
>>37574293
do all girls belong to chad?
>>37574293
Hancott?
Let's throw some perspective in dis bish
>be 16
>start accutane because my face looks like a minefield
>endure one year of fulltime nosebleeds, dry assholes and dandruff
>face finally looks normal
>meet girl and fall in love
>experience 3 years of bliss
>we break up and get back together every 3 months the last year of our relationship
>both know it's toxic, but can't seem to shake ourselves from each other
>mate has a stern talk with me about respecting myself, and I finally break it off for good
>first 3 months after breakup are one nonstop alcohol-fuelled sloot fest
>after 3 months, reality sinks in
>she has moved on with her life, and I'm still longing for her
>get deployed for 9 months
>mid deployment I write her a corny letter about an anecdote, and end the letter with a meager attempt of getting back together
>no answer
cont.
>>37574111
fucking post a picture already? this isnt /b/
>>37570972
T h a n k s f r o s t y c h a d
>>37569907
I'm only doing calisthenics so I don't know if it counts.
>Be 18
>Fall in love with a friend, she's the qtest of qt 3.14's
>She falls in love back
>Stay together for 8 years
>This means I learn nothing about what makes relationship works, I stagnate and don't really know how to be a good bf or person
>Take her 100% for granted
>She finishes college before me (3 year degree vs 5 year degree)
>Long distance makes her breakup
>She does this over facebook cause she always had trouble talking about issues
>3 days later I ask her, and she admits she "already has feelings for someone else"
>>37574255
you deserve it for stealing a girl from your friend, piece of shit
>>37570724
>you had a home gym all that time and didn't use it
breh
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37569979
thats the spirit let a ho be a ho
theres many more out there and the options only grow the more you progress :^)
>>37570724
somtimes i dont think of my oneitus as anger for my lifts, sometimes im like on my last rep of my last set, and i see her face.
>>37574557
>tfw during my hardest times working out I always remember eating her pussy out
its an abstract feel
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
> be uni fag
> find an incredible girl who has everything I could ask for
> has an ex that she can't get over
> k man, everyone has stuff they find hard to deal with
> she inspires me to actually be something else from the usual dbag that I am
> find out her ex has still been in contact with her, abuses her
> offer her my help, tell her I'll face him if you need me to
> convinces me that it's her battle to fight
> get left for said ex
Fucking hell man. I lift to forget about these feels.
>>37571179
No worries buddy, I was the same autistic sperglord in HS.
The second I start having feelings for a chick she'll almost always hop on random chads dick within a week
>>37570972
Thanks Frostychad
>>37571556
This
Got primoted 2 times in the last 3 years, all through hard work but nobody gives a fucking shit
Now I do the bare Minimum in life generally, scraping by because fuck it, it brings the same results and I can stop being a fucking tryhard overachiever
Never heard 'happy for you hun' or similar in my life, not even ex gfs
>>37570885
good on ya, but if the girl cheats on you she is a fucking whore, if you want to cheat, break up instead ffs, cheating is the fucking worst
>>37572833
Well meme'd
Upboat
>>37569907
>Literally have all of this with 9/10 gf who lifts
>I am still lazy and ungrateful
Whats wrong with me? I literally have the perfect gf and I still live like a miserable >tfw no gf neckbeard
>>37571809
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37569907
>be me
>beta af
>somehow land 1st gf 9/10 sweetheart
>5 years later she realizes she's too good for me
>spend 1 year alone wishing I was Chad
>lift, eat well, make social gains time elapsed 1 year
>find red pill, swallow it
>flirt with every girl I see, gains bring me le confidence
>can now break ice, escalate, and fuck most women I'm into
>women want to be with me, men envy me
>tfw I still pine for the innocent Love my youth and first relationship brought
>there is no more beauty, just hard work and results
And to think I thought I'd never grow up
>>37571031
She doesn't want to break up with you because she hasn't found the guy she'll replace you with yet. Most girls are fucking terrified of being single because their entire self-worth is predicated on how much men want to fuck them.
Dump her anon, it's only a matter of time before she leaves you anyway.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD.
>Be college freshman
>Literal turbo-autist but I concealed it, eventually get integrated, nobody notices I'm a robot
>There's this real qt3.14 but sorta unconventional looking
>She comes closer to me over the first semester, I mean physically closer to me during courses
>I usually just slept in the class between courses, she would come over and try to smalltalk or touch my buzzcut and smile
>Fast forward a bit, we all pass our exams, I have the highest average and pay drinks for the lads
>Notice they all drool over her pussy, some guy mentions she works as a model
>All of these fuckers wanna put their dick in her
>She turns them down, one guy who really hates me came to me afterwards and told me not to try anything since she has a boyfriend
>Get shitfaced one day, talk to her a bit over the course of a week
>Finally work up to balls to ask if she has a boyfriend (over text, like an autistic fuck)
>"No, why? :D"
>We go out for a couple of drinks and then walk into the forest, then to her place
>We have a lot in common, it all goes really well
>"I gotta say, I'm pretty worked up, but that was great. Let's go back tomorrow, head further out and camp"
>"Yeah anon, I'd like that but right now I'm just so sweaty and tired I just want to shower"
>It was at that moment that I remembered a greentext from one of you autistic fucks
>"Why not save up on water and go together? Gotta keep the environment safe and all that"
>She blushes the deepest shade of red I've ever seen, smiles, takes one of her hands to her mouth and the other to her chest
>"It sure took you a while anon"
And that's how /fit/ got me together with my oneitis.
We're all gonna make it brehs
>>37574870
I'm happy for you bro
Please dont fuck this up anon, that sounds awesome.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37574870
You made it brah
This is my first visit to /fit/ in years. I haven't lifted in about 5 years and since quitting quickly went being back to being skinny and lazy. After moving to a new town, for the past 3 years I've worked in food service, now a restaurant manager, drinking heavily of course. I started seeing one of the waitresses (quite a bit younger than myself) around February or March, knowing this would probably another short, mostly sexual relationship of only a few months. Regardless, I spend this time being sweet to her, foolishly coddling her during her bouts of social anxiety, and yes, I admit, sneakily affording her preferential treatment at work. I don't fall in love, but I eventually develop emotional attachment.
Her returned affection diminishes. Not long before it all ends, I see the writing on the wall; she's probably losing interest in me. We're out drinking at a bar when she starts squeezing another guy up. I tell her cut it out, this makes me jealous. She says something like she can do whatever she wants, so I decide to get hammered-ass drunk and don't really talk for the rest of the night. In the morning, two weeks ago today, all I can remember is her yelling at me the previous night about being an alcoholic. She tells me via text I'm some kind of condescending, abusive monster, comparing me to someone who used to hit her. She's tired of my acting like I do her loads of favors.
I feel heartbroken. This is the fourth time I've had this feeling; it's not as bad as any of the times before, but it's unmistakable. I spend almost the entire Friday at work feeling sick from hangover and sorry for myself, trying not to cry. A different waitress hugs me and I nearly choke.
Reached character limit, cont'd.
>>37569907
>I like girl
>she obviously doesn't like me back
I need to improve my chances by getting swole
>>37574916
The next day, I wake up feeling completely normal, having pushed my feelings for her aside. I go online and arrange to pick up a bench, rack, weights etc from someone in town who wants to dump it all for $250 (Life Fitness equipment and a bunch of other shit he had lying around, it's pretty nice stuff!). Got it home Wednesday the 8th and have been doing Stronglifts 5x5 since. Had completely forgotten how much I enjoyed lifting.
I'm back to eating an acceptable diet. My numbers are still garbage, but I think I've already gotten the rust off. I haven't had one drop of alcohol for two weeks today. I have loads more energy. My mood and attention are improved. For the first week I had nightmares and great difficulty falling asleep without alcohol, but I persevered.
Just got done tonight's workout, which I performed naked whilst listening to Peter Frampton, and followed up with some curling on the preacher bar and situps just because I could. Now I'm going to play video games all night. Life is great.
I lift so that I'll be healthy enough to take care of my parents as they get older.
I gave up on happiness for myself years ago. I missed out on too much being a shut-in morbidly obese piece of shit growing up that I literally cannot enjoy anything now without reminding myself that I could have done it years ago if I wasn't such a fat failure.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37569907
> See this awesome blonde, Pamela
> Find out she did an awul thing on a boat
> Now I can never forgive her
> Start lifting
>>37573427
>2016
>not fucking prostitutes for that honest interaction between a man and a woman
you did this to yourself
>Be beta sperglord with intense anxiety and autism two years ago
>Fall in love with some nice booty redhead girl from my classes
>Talk and Chat with her for a half year
>Really close and she trusts me instantly
>How ever I am just a beta orbiter
>Get insecure as she still hangs out with her ex as He is in her friends group
>Start lifting and show some gains
>She seems to get more interested, plan our first Date for a few days after my birthday three weeks prior
>Suddenly stops talking to me a week before it
>Chat her up a thousand times thinking I fucked up by doing something
>Manage to find out at 2am on my birthday that she is back with her ex over Facebook
Long story short, I went from 60kg to 90kg while putting on 15kg of lean body mass, out lifting everyone I know irl.
>Oh but also I broke like three of her girlfriends hearts and repeadetly fucked her best friend on the side afterwards
But that's another Story folks :^)
>>37575025
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>every girl I've ever been with, I've left once I lost interest
>let a girl take me to lunch 2-3 times a week after class for a few months better telling her I'm not interested, only date white girls
>no girl has ever wanted to leave me out lost interest
I know /fit/ is full of losers, but this thread is fucking sad. I don't even know what it's like to have such low value that people just lost interest or so loving you
>>37573953
This
Can't cum from sex and it's incredibly frustrating for both parts. Thinking about getting that circumcision honestly
>>37573879
> she might actually unconditionally love me
Men all around the world buy into this myth. I don't know if its more funny or sad.
>>37573851
>enough experience to overcome autism
I dunno why, but this made me kek
>>37575095
>letting girls take you out.
Ofc you havent cause you've always been the bitch in the relationship
>>37575123
>2016
>paying for a pussy's lunch
Either you're just a total cuck or you're my grandpa, not sure
>>37575123
>don't worry m'lady, I'll get the bill
>chivalry isn't dead
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD.
>Start dating this girl
>Shes a little more above average crazy but was too blinded by love
>2 years apart
>In mad love
>Literally cant be apart
>Talk about our future and that we will move in together and have children
>Both decided to take eachothers virginty
>7 months later things start to go downhill for me
>gain weight
>flunk some college classes
>Gf accuse of me abusing but literally didnt do anything
>cheats on me with an actually 2/10
>dumps me and goes out with him
She dumped me without respect on how I felt and I was an absolute rekt. I guess I learned my lesson on not dating fucked up bitches. Today I'm lifting but keep failing every now and there but im getting there and see improvements.
>>37573223
I can attest to this 100%, same story here.
It's a relationship between an NPD male and a BPD girl.
>>37569979
pretty much exactly this but i was already lifting. kill me now.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37569907
No one broke my heart, I just hate myself. I don't have a oneitis and haven't had a crush of any kind in over 4 years. There are no females in my life besides my mom and younger sister.
My life is going nowhere and I succeed in nothing. Ive been stalling on all my lifts for 3 months and my weight hasnt dropped in months due to poor eating. I just want to hit 2/3/4/5 for 5 instead of being stuck 2/3 of the way there. Im a disappointment to my parents and a failure of an older brother.
Im going to be 25 soon, a kissless virgin still and with no prospects for a job that pays more than the $13/hr I make right now.
I just want some direction in life.
God bless all of you.
>>37574232
>Blaming society for being your own uselessness
hahahhahahha
>>37569994
More like
>on this site
>>37569907
>meet girl that ticks all my boxes
>she loves me
>started dating after knowing her for a year
>keep telling myself I am not in love with her
>be the happiest man alive
>she semi moves in
>still telling myself I am not in love with her
>she tells me she sees a future with me
>it feels like a marriage proposal
>cant be happier
>still tell myself I am not in love
>things start going down hill
>we are both stuck in a destructive path
>break up
>the train with feelings rams me at full speed
>realize I am in love with her
>enter a depression
>crawl out of it a year later
I still dream about her three years later
I never stopped working out, but the depression did help with my cut, got a lot of mirin but didnt give anything about it
>>37571751
That's the way kid, make sure to have a good time and throw out your spaghetti before you leave the house
>>37573526
This. Fucking this.
>Having a heart in the first place
You guys messed up.
>>37573797
Dont worry bro eventually your mind just stops responding to the whole "oneitis" psyche. Happened to me and now I'm happy although I dont think I'll ever fall in love again.
>>37569907
shit man, that pic killed me, all those things mentioned is what i miss the most not having a gf...
>>37574870
Dem ones when /fit/ autism gets you laid
>>37569907
Haven't had the chance to get my heart broken, that's why I started lifting
OP here, the amount of feels ITT is fucking high.
Going to the gym in 2 hours, I'll be lifting heavy for you guys today.
Even if you didn't get your heart broken, wish all of you the best in life.
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>>37570972
thanks frostychad
>>37570972
THANKS FROSTYCHAD
>meet a qt 3.14
>go on few dates
>really like her
>she becomes gf
>out with her and her friends
>she invites an ex without saying anything and it randomly comes up in conversation
>red flag... lonely and ignore it
>great time for the first month
>fights start because of women at my work (new job)
>it's my fault that women work in my office even though I have no interest in them
>fast forward a year later
>she continuously talks to ex bfs
>they always are asking to netflix and chill
>always fighting about stupid stuff
>never happy
>hang out with friends from work
>one was a landwhale woman
>TELL HER WHO ALL WAS GOING TO BE THERE and she said it was ok
>gf cheats on me that night because she thought I was wanting the landwhale
>tells me the next day and says because she knew I was doing it too
>I wasn't
>heartbroken
>escape to the gym to fill the empty void
>meet new friends
>go out more
>loving life
>move for work
>nothing in my new city
>why go on?
Three years later and still not trusting women. Been with plenty of grills since then, but I just can't find myself to be in a relationship.
>>37572536
So savage but so true
>>37575514
>I still dream about her three years later
Holy shit, so I'm not alone. I still dream about my ex and it's been 2 years. Fucking hell, why are our brains such fucking assholes sometimes?
