Role-Reversal and Gentle Femdom General - Urethral Sounding Edition
ITT:
>related hentai
>greentext
>monster girls
>general lewdness
>dojinshi recommendations
>anime/manga recommendations
>preferably recommendations that are on-topic
>cuteposting
>vocaroos
>friendly discussion
Previous Thread: >>6476483
>What is Role Reversal?
http://rolereversalreader.tumblr.com/post/108492906077/finished-the-faq-for-relationship-role-reversal
New Map:
https://www.zeemaps.com/map?group=1618907
Old Role Reversal Map:
https://www.zeemaps.com/map?group=1239585#
FetLife Group
https://fetlife.com/groups/121948
irc channel: irc.irchighway.net , #gfd
/rr/ and /gfd/ megapastebins:
http://pastebin.com/7NfGfusP
http://pastebin.com/evbfjazh
http://pastebin.com/iQetqpH7
So how exactly do people get started with urethral sounding? Is it really as simple as just shoving things in your peepee?
>>6485355
You probably wanna buy something made for urethral sounding and something really fucking small. When i was younger I used to use q-tips...it was a terrible idea.
Probably gonna look into trying this, but god I just saw the extremes and no bueno.
Got called a girl yesterday, my looks are looking up lol
>>6485372
If you start too small you're probably gonna puncture something in there.
I've been on that zeemaps forever and nothing has happened. Orlando sucks
![tumblr_ne75h2CsAh1sihuk3o1_500[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/911AkxC.jpg "tumblr_ne75h2CsAh1sihuk3o1_500[1].jpg")
>>6485429
try going out to meet people instead of placing all of your hopes on a marker on a map in a hentai porn thread general on 4chan
>>6485432
You mean like through fetlife or something? I've done that once before, but that place is full of polyamory. Had a girl dominate me in her bedroom, but her boyfriend didn't like that lol
>>6485372
>>6485419
I don't know which i fear more.
>>6485342
this artist does great loli.
![tumblr_nhr2gaNwYe1u4yobjo1_1280[1].png](https://i.imgur.com/1hudDTk.png "tumblr_nhr2gaNwYe1u4yobjo1_1280[1].png")
>>6485486
eat shit and die you autistic shitposter
>>6485486
>things I dont like go on /aco/
This new board is fantastic.
>>6485342
For fucks sake OP what are you doing? There are TWO. TWO. ONE TWO (2) other /gfd/ threads up right now. TWO. On one of the slowest fucking boards on the entire website. Stop being cancer, you're making the rest of the community look like cancer and it's only a matter of time before we start pissing off the mods and get the entire thing banned. Is that what you want, to get this entire community erased because you can't be bothered to post in a thread that's past its bump limit but nowhere near page 10? The TWO other threads still has at least a day or two left.
PLEASE wait until all other /gfd/ thread have at least reached page 10 before making a new one. For the sake of all of us.
>>6485502
>tfw no taller busty friend to ride on the subway with as she "accidentally" squishes into you on curved portions of track.
DAILY REMINDER: DON'T DO THIS
>>6485450
Yeah! More pic like this!
It's my fetish!
>tfw a woman gropes your ass on the tram
>>6485342
>Urethral Sounding
>Gentle
NOPE
>>6485874
I know that feeling man, I was in a Thailand market trying to get some souvenirs for my mum, and some female shopkeeper just slaps my ass twice while I was walking by. So I look behind me and I see the shopkeeper laughing and waving
>>6485974
>>6485976
>>6485552
/d/eviant here, that's more the fault of the people who made those 2 threads at the same time.
Personally I like having a thread that bumps. also, pretty sure /gd/ is the slowest board. or at least in the running to be.
>>6485977
>>6485979
So anything interesting happening with you guys?
>>6485500
That picture is great...is there more?
>>6485911
It's not as bad as it sounds
>>6485911
You autism bro?
>>6485974
She was trying to steal your wallet. Don't flatter yourself.
>>6486038
Obviously, I was implying how that's what was most likely happening to him.
>>6485974
Good going mate, now you know what it feels like to be attractive.
Slightly embarrassing story to share. Three years ago at Barnes & Noble
>be in the philosophy section looking for Plato
>bent over trying to read small print on a book's spine
>be aware that cracks exposed but don't care since it's Sunday
>freeze as I feel a pair of fingers push between my exposed crack
>look behind me to see a very nice 7/10 redhead grinning ear to ear at me
>remain frozen like deer in headlights
>plucks my phone out of my back pocket
>puts her number in it
>walks away swaying her hips
And that's how I met a dommy fuck buddy that lasted for the better part of a year.
>>6485974
>>6486091
You're the luckiest fuckers ever, I wish I could be sexually harrassed by women
>>6486091
How lewd! But I like it, pretty forward of her. Still, you shouldn't leave your crack hanging out like that.
>And that's how I met a dommy fuck buddy that lasted for the better part of a year.
I hate to ask, but how did you break up?
>>6486091
>cracks exposed but don't care since it's Sunday
Huh?
>>6486125
How is it embarrassing, was anyone watching?
>>6486148
Technically that's shame, not embarrassment. Embarrassing is when people witness your shame. If nobody but you two was around it's just shame.
>>6486154
That is quite possibly it. Either way things like that embarrass/shame and I get all red faced and some women think it's cute. Damn it.
>>6486120
>forward women
I think you two would make a great couple
>>6486170
But seriously I agree wear a belt or something...then again she may of never approached you in the first place, so look at it how you will
>>6486174
Quite the conundrum.
>>6486091
Why can't more girls grab butts
>>6486194
sounds like a good problem to have
Dommes, how do you feel when your sub cries? How do you try to comfort him?
Subs, do you feel comfortable crying with your domme around? What upsets you and how do you want to be treated and cared for when you're crying?
>>6486213
No Dom, but i'm pretty sure just a long hug is the best thing for it
>>6486194
>hurr, filthy sluts, not pure virgin waifu material
Because those people exist.
>>6486221
Dude what?
Months ago I finally had an /rr/ girl show interest in me. Things were going well, we shared nudes and then I got clingy as all hell. I obsessed over the fact I finally had someone into me, I put her on a pedestal and fucked up the one chance I had in just over a week.
Since then I stopped working out, stopped eating healthy. The months of work I put into improving myself have gone. I didn't even come to the general anymore because I thought women into this stuff are so rare I'd blown the one chance I'll ever get.
My point is don't be like me. Don't make this shit so important that when you fuck it up (and you will the first few times) it'd hit you hard. Treat it as a fetish, not a lifestyle. Dedicate your time and energy to other things, other hobbies. And if a dominant woman shows up in your life don't try so hard to be the perfect sub that you scare her away completely.
>>6486213
If he's crying over something bad that happened in his life I'd let him lay his head on my chest and just cry as much as he likes until he feels better
I'd stroke his hair too and tell him it will all be okay and that I'm here to help him out in any way I can
>>6486213
Sometimes male dom here
Typicaly my sub being depressed or crying triggers the protective and nurturing part of my personality. So it usually leads to me spending the day talking and comforting my sub for the day/night
>>6486213
I'd feel the urge to hold and protect, hide him in my embrace from the outer world.
So yeah, probably just hug him to my chest, pat his back and head, as I kiss his forehead and whisper that it's going to be alright, how sweet he is and how much I love him.
He can cry as much as he wants, I won't let anyone see. I will just hold him until he calms down enough to raise his face.
Then I'll smile and kiss his tears away.
...I think about it a lot, actually. Something in the idea about comforting a crying man appeals to me.
>>6486245
>male dom
gtfo degenerate
>>6486213
motorboating is pretty good, I'd like her to press my head against her chest. If it were the other way round I would cuddle her and nuzzle against her side, and wipe her tears away.
>>6486248
>He can cry as much as he wants, I won't let anyone see
This, so hard. I get really embarrassed when I cry unless I'm alone with a loved one, and the thought of them "hiding" me while they comfort me just makes me melt.
>>6486248
Pretty sure you just killed all the subs who were reading this
would it be hot or pathetic to ask a girl to show me how to please her?
say for giving her oral?
The last and well rare few times I was with a girl she just complained even if i asked what she liked she wouldnt answer and be very vague with herself and it well put me off and ashamed to ask.
so I'm not sure if its a turn on or not, it might be pathetic if I think about it.
Are there any /gfd/ relationships or images with a reserved/tsundere male and a out going/energetic female
>>6486213
Domme.
When my sub cries (outside of bed), and I suspect I am the cause, I leave them alone.
When my sub cries and I am not the cause, I hug them and remind them that I love them, play video games together, spend extra time with them, or anything to get their mind off of what's making them sad. In ether case I feel awful about it because they're precious to me.
>>6486413
Depends on the girl. Nearly everything involving /rr/ and /gfd/ is subjective and varies from person to person because they're such broad topics.
>>6486413
I wouldn't really consider it hot, but its certainly not pathetic. Communication is just something you gotta do to get something done right. Everyone likes different things, and unless you're a mind reader you wont know what that is.
>>6486446
yeah well hot was the wrong word for me to use tbh, it's just I wanna know how to please someone, know what they like and enjoy.
just sucks when I'm expected to mindread at times. problem with starfish girls
>>6486413
Not at all. If someone asked me how to do it because they didn't know, I'd be thrilled. Because women don't always feel pleasure in the same way and you're willing to learn to how make the sex better.
>>6486413
I think she probably either didn't know what she liked or didn't know how to articulate it.
>>6486213
Domme here, if it's about something I feel sympathetic about and the situation isn't sexual I'll hold and comfort him. If it's something I feel like he should suck it up about I'll just be quietly aroused, or if it's REALLY stupid, evil laughter and aroused.
>>6485714
Stahp.
>>6486221
This is really not the reason.
>>6486534
noh
>>6486505
>arousal at him being upset
Hehe, I wasn't expecting to see a response like this. Playful humiliation is really cute.
>>6486213
If it's the sissy I just ruffle his hair and bury his face in my chest and let him sob it out and tell me whats up. if it's the girl well that's the same treatment but she like the whole being full body smothered so it's a little uncomfortable. still hate to see them cry.
>>6485714
DAILY REMINDER THAT THE "DOMMES" IN THESE THREADs ARE THE JUST BASIC BITCHES LOOKING FOR SOMETHING CUTE
>>6486600
Well, I'm not just a domme, I'm an outright sadist. Get on my level casuals.
>>6486213
Sub
It's the only time, and it usually makes me feel worse so; while I like being held, I don't want her to. Just being within a few feet while I face the other way is perfect.
Anyone else going trough the hell of attracting submissive women only? I'm 6'5" so everyone expects me to act like some aggressive male power fantasy figure when in reality, I just wanna be told what to do and get rewarded for doing good.
>>6486650
I can handle the rough stuff brah. Its just not always appreciated here, which I can respect.
>>6486690
I'm not quite so tall, 6,3 but I know that feel more than I'd like to admit.
>>6486690
Sounds like you're looking for a short domme girl.
>>6486505
>If it's something I feel like he should suck it up about I'll just be quietly aroused, or if it's REALLY stupid, evil laughter and aroused.
Hawt damn
>>6486756
It's funny because I do therapy work, yet find a lot of people's problems ridiculously stupid. I must restrain my laughter/arousal a lot on the job.
I wish I could work at one of those dominatrix houses making hundreds of dollar a session just to whip and insult fat businessmen, but I wouldn't even know where to begin making those sort of connections. I'm not active in any BDSM "scenes" or what-have-you.
>>6486735
Same here honestly. Only thing that's come close is a long time friend of miens odd fixation of smothering me sexually and casually.
>>6486780
Well at least I have a new thing to think about my old therapist.
>>6486170
i'm just gonna save this picture. i get the feeling that someday in the future i might need this for another thread.
>>6486752
6'2" guy here, I very much want a short domme girl. Petite, tiny girls are the best. I especially like the dynamic because she could never actually physically dominate me, it's totally about loyalty, trust, and surrender.
>>6486248
I wish my friends understood this kind of thing. I dont resent them but i still wish they could get a clue. I've been having a pretty rough year and ive definitely spent lots more time crying than I'd like to. Like... many hours per day sometimes.
All of my friends are compassionate and are generally nonjudgmental, but they just don't seem to get this part of it. Sometimes you need to BE HELD. Not just so that you feel better, but so that you can be stronger in the future too.
I can't unilaterally make demands of people to do that. And I dont. But it's frustrating to not get what you need when it seems so simple to you. Like, when I'm the one in the position of strength, it never seems like a hard puzzle to figure out how to support crying people.
But that's humans for you. Totally not psychics.
>>6486413
Well, you're asking someone to relate personal fantasies so that you can be better at pleasuring them. But many people want to leave that unsaid because they are embarassed, as if you can magically figure out what they want.
It's not pathetic to ask for feedback about how to please your partners. But you have to remember that they are probably just as shy about sharing their desires as you are.
>>6486780
L-LEWD. /d/ is a Christian board!
>>6486876
Oh yeah? I'm going to lewd so hard your hands will be sweaty from being held all day!
>>6486876
>Captcha: Select all pictures with bananas
>>6486213
No dom here.
But in my opinion why should I need to care about that? She's someone that I should need to be trust worthy to and she should be the same. If I need to cry and she's there to comfort me then yes. And generally for someon as emotionally untouchable as me when I break, I'd like some hugs... maybe run her fingers through my hair.
I'm not sure if this is the best place to ask but, do you know some doujins with trap dominating/fucking male, or trap being larger than male?
>>6486887
Goddamn anon i thought this was GENTLE femdom!
I know not all of you are into crossdressing, but for those who are there's a manga called Usotsuki Lily (Liar Lily) about a girl dating a boy who is a crossdresser (trap, actually).
I can't say it's great story or anything, it's pretty much just a fluffy shoujo affair, but it's kind of cute and it's hard to find good content about straight crossdressers so it made me smile a bit.
>>6486853
Unless she has a gun.
>>6486911
as a reference for what i'm looking for is CROSSxDRESS Part 6 from Ikuya Daikokudou
>>6486213
If a guy I'm attracted to starts crying in front of me and lets me comfort him, that's it, I will fall in love with him instantly, unlucky fucker is never, ever getting rid of me. I will SOON through his bedroom window every night and watch him sleep. I will shank any other girl who gets within five meters of him. Men crying does terrible, terrible things to me.
>>6486413
I think that's exactly the kind of thing a sub should ask about. Wanting to be instructed like that and being eager to please, that mindset is one of the things I look for to figure out if a guy might be submissive. I wouldn't call it a turn on, sometimes these things are a bit awkward, but it's definitely a symptom of the right mindset for being a good sub.
>>6486810
fine by me
>>6485342
>That map
Damn I knew the dom to /sub disparity was real but fuck man. Even worse is 83% of the females are in Euroland.
>>6486650
Same. I wish I could conjure up a cute guy who would let me tie him up and beat him with a belt, then fuck me while I bite, slap, and scratch him like an animal. Afterwards I'd cuddle with him lovingly and give him aftercare, of course.
Going to munches and all that seems like too much hassle, though. Plus I can't help but think it might be healthier if I don't get the chance to live out these fantasies.
Here is a "gentle" image so don't get mad.
>>6486944
>Going to munches and all that seems like too much hassle
It is. They are elitist as fuck and wont tolerate anything outside of their "norms." You think people who go to these things would be way more open but I found them worse than normal people. If you dont conform to what the munch wants they start talking bad about you and throw you out.
/a/nimu experts, can you give me some info?
Going solely by fanart I've found, Gekkan Shoujo Nozaki-kun seems like it has a reverse-trap perving on a guy. Is this accurate, and if so is the anime worth watching for them?
>my fucking face when i just got a 'Happy birthday, Miss ;)' from my crush on Facebook
it's all gonna be okay lads
>>6486213
>Subs, do you feel comfortable crying with your domme around?
I've never found a domme but I dont see why not. I dont see the point in trying to hide that stuff. Other problem is I'm a low end sociopath. Shit just does not phase me. I've seen others emotionally break down over something and I'm just completely unphased even when I really shouldn't be since what happened threatened my future. I would be amazed if a girl made me cry.
>What upsets you and how do you want to be treated and cared for when you're crying?
As above nothing really upsets me. The most I feel is a vague sense of annoyance and that's only when I'm being bugged when I'm trying to get work done. I have no idea how I would want to be cared for as its never happened.
>>6486944
Dont give up
I'm into stuff pretty close to that, so theres likely someone out there completely into it.
>>6486690
I know your pain. I look manly as fuck and it sets this image in peoples mind about who I am and how I act I hate it. I've had girls get creeped out because they assumed I was this thugy guy and couldn't handle that I am the total opposite.
One girl flipped shit at me because after she spent the night she woke up to me making her breakfast and cleaning. She actually screamed "Why the fuck are you cleaning! That's not a mans job!"
Shits fucked yo. I cant even use dating sites now because they always want a pic and everyone just assumes shit without readying the damn bio.
>>6486413
>i asked what she liked she wouldnt answer and be very vague
I FUCKING HATE THIS SHIT.
You either tell me whats wrong or you shut the fuck up. You dont get to complain if you dont want to help get it fixed. I'm not a fucking mind reader. If you dont like the way I'm doing it slap me and tell me how to do it right.
>>6485432
>try going out to meet people
You know its not as easy as you make it sound. Domme women dont exactly walk around with a sign. I've dated girls that were complete aggressive control freaks in public but once the doors were shut they turned into supper submissive house wives. You cant even trust how they act to be a good indicator of how they are.
After that you can only take so many failed relationships before growing cynical.
>>6486436
>>6486677
>>6486908
>>6486926
How do people cry at things? I used to all the time as a kid but I stopped when I was a teenager. When I get sad I just break things and get mad instead.
Is it supposed to be crying?
>>6486967
depression makes it really easy to overloaded and break down
>>6486965
That's true. I act really chill and deferent to elders when dealing with strangers, but behind closed doors I'm a tigress. I've known guys who were completely submissive in the bedroom but totally outspoken and confident outside. You never know what's below the surface.
>>6486213
I would hold back as best I could, and try not to let her see.
Part of me would still want her to see, and to come over and hold me and tell me that things were okay and that I should let it all out...
But I'd hide that if at all possible.
>>6486967
Different people deal with feels differently. my younger brother does exactly what you describe. When I was young I'd cry it all out and be done with it, these days I bottle my feelings up and brood on them for days.
I realize it isn't healthy, but I also don't get upset often. I've taken a "I'm going to pursue what I want, come what may." attitude. And even if I don't get what I want, If I'm still breathing at the end of the day I don't see much reason to be upset.
>>6486975
The same can be said for me. I am actually extremely sensitive to slights and attempts to take away my agency in public but once I'm with a girl II like and trust I'm a complete and total submissive. If a girl was actively looking for a submissive guy she would likely look right over me.
That's why online is the best place to look for relationships like this. You dont see the cover of the book. If they want you get to see the whole book first.
>>6486213
I'm kind of a dacryphiliac, so seeing a guy cry draws me to him immediately. I somehow think people are incredibly beautiful and provocative when crying. With that said, I would of course comfort him in the hope his tears would alleviate. Not comforting someone vulnerable enough to cry openly is unbelievably callous.
>>6486984
>That picture
There's just something incredibly erotic about light bondage. You're so helpless, unable to defend or even orient yourself, and you simply need to have faith that the other party isn't willing to abuse this situation or hurt you. I don't think I could ever trust a woman enough to allow that, but if it were possible it'd be nice.
>>6486854
Its tough, guy. I've been through something similar. Friends are still very different people, and unfortunately it can be hard for them to relate with what you're going through. As much as I like mine to care for me enough to do things for me and reciprocate the friendship, I cant expect them not to see things but from their own perspective, and have come to accept that to worry too much over it is a waste of time and a waste on the mind. You will find someone, just let it happen on its own time like >>6486238 suggests in a way.
Well my weekend date was a bust. She was a great gal but after extensive talking we both agreed it wouldn't work out for us. While she a hardcore dom in bed that's it. She didn't want to take control outside of the bed room.
While is it so hard to find a girl that is happy with me taking care of the house and cooking. Man I would completely forgo fetishes just to have a girl that actively wanted me to clean and cook for her.
Oh well on to the next one I suppose.
![tumblr_mtpx8ytkOh1sjr9hao1_1280[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/bXbFUOC.jpg "tumblr_mtpx8ytkOh1sjr9hao1_1280[1].jpg")
>>6486967
The only time I cried in these past few years was when a girl broke up with me, otherwise I'm pretty much like you..
But I wish I could cry more often. Being able to just completely let go and collapse into uncontrollable sobs seems like such a liberating thing. Even more so if you have a girl to comfort you.
>>6486944
Those seem like pretty fun fantasies, why would it be healthier to not have the chance to live them out ?
And munches can be both good and bad depending on your area mostly. I had some fun and some pretty boring experiences, it's still definitely worth a try.
>>6487003
One of these days I will watch Masamune
Today is not that day
>>6487010
Clean and cook instead of working, or in addition to?
Having a guy who can clean and cook is awesome, but it's hard to get by with just one salary these days, and that's a lot of pressure on your girl. If you're working as well, however, I fail to see an issue.
>>6486248
That's sweet and adorable as hell.
>>6486967
I don't really cry when I'm upset either. The stuff that upsets me are usually things I can't do anything about, so I resign myself to dealing with them and keep feeling bad. A lot of the reasons why I'm upset have to do with gaslighting, so in a way it's really validating to feel really unhappy and have emotional issues. I'm not in crisis either.
>>6487011
>seems like such a liberating thing
As someone who cries a lot; it is. It feels awesome. I watch sad stuff alone specifically so I can ride the wave and cry openly without feeling self-conscious.
>>6487011
I'm going to try a munch in my local area for the first time this friday. The group is specifically listed as 35 and under only, so I'm at least glad I won't have the same experience I've heard of from some anons that it's all super-old people.
That said, I'm super nervous. Since RSVPing I've revived a friend request from one girl who's got to weigh at least twice my body weight, and one sub guy, and creeping on some of the profiles of people there, I'm worried about being called out on being such a wuss.
I realize my worry is probably for nothing, but It's a bit unsettling nonetheless.
>>6487003
I agree, post more.
>>6487016
Not him, but I work the prep line in one of my areas upscale resteraunts. I wouldn't reccomend it as a career however, and plan on finding new work once I finish my degree, if I can.
Reports on career opportunities for Helo pilots are incredibly mixed.
>>6487016
Personally I would like to not work but I'm sure that's everyone. I am going to college to get a Phd so its not like I expect to not work I just have very well divergent views.
I only want to work exactly enough to facilitate my life. No more no less. If I do the math and find out I only have to work 20 hours a week to live happily that's all I am going to work. That's why I'm getting a job as a professor teaching at some random college. I get to set my hours and I get to keep the school life schedule. This rubs all the girls I try to get with the wrong way. I dont know why but maybe its because they expect to be stay at home mothers. For whatever reason the idea of a man not breaking his back to bring in the big bucks is just miasma to relationships.
It just makes no sense to me. Your job should facilitate your life. You life should not facilitate your job. I would rather be happy and "poor" than unhappy and "rich." Outside of a safety net money in the bank is useless.
![tumblr_nfw00yNWBA1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/7MNppg8.jpg "tumblr_nfw00yNWBA1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg")
>>6487021
maximum jelly
What kind of sad stuff do you watch ? I don't think I've cried to a movie once in my adult life so it's probably not gonna help but it might be worth a try
>>6487023
I doubt anyone is going to be cunt enough to call a new person out on not being 'hardcore' enough or something.
gl and try to enjoy yourself
>>6486934
There are probably more dommes in the USA, I'd imagine they just don't wanna be on the map because American guys are the absolute worst for thirst and lack of self-awareness. Yuros are generally a bit more sensible.
>>6487036
I honestly wouldn't know since I'm not on the receiving end but you cant blame a guy. That's the whole point of dating. If you dont like him break it off.
Probably doesn't help almost no girls ask guys out and most expect guys to make the first move.
>>6487038
As someone who's played non-romatic guy friend to drag along so marines will stop hitting on someone, yeah you can. You have no idea how unbelievably tactless and brain dead some of the approaches can be, even when there's clearly a guy present.
>>6485342
>no initial set of pics
kill yourself
>>6487041
I honestly cant say I can because I dont go out to bars or clubs or similar. They just are not my thing.
>>6486954
That sounds pretty shitty man
>She actually screamed "Why the fuck are you cleaning! That's not a mans job!"
Well best of luck, I hope you find that special someone
>>6487034
It is easy to tell you why. It is because they think that a life like that with you will probably be boring. That you are but a minimalist person that does not want to achieve anything in your life, but work the absolute minimum and and spend the rest of the time doing "nothing useful". Which in your mind is probably not the case you probably do wish to be active in a hobby or do countless interesting things. However unless you specifically voice this an outside listener will just think that you will be a boring and lazy person.
The problem is that this implies many other things
>You do not have a safety net of money for any unexpected occurrences, like loosing your job or an economic crisis. You are completely unprepared for any bad things to happen, life is unpredictable and sudden crises do happen no matter what and one must be prepared for them in advance.
>You do not consider having children, which is of course a great deal of investment both in money and work, they think they will be left with both bring bread home AND taking care of children while you do nothing.
>You do not plan to set aside money for your old age
>You basically do not wish to achieve at all, you are not pushing yourself to be at your best.
>You only wish to"Facilitate your life" and that is all meaning you are selfish and self centered not someone dependable and empathic.
Most of these are probably untrue but these are thing people might assume about you.
Can we get more short dominate women with tall guys?
>>6487062
I can see where your coming from. But why wouldn't they voice those opinions if they thought them?
I have 24,000 USD in the bank specifically for emergency's. I have it set up so I cant even use it without calling the bank and giving a password and exactly how much I will be using. I also have quite a few hobby's I'm heavily into /tg/ shenanigans and that shit ain't cheep. No I dont want kids. I hate kids. But I will have one if we talk about it and we both agree to it. Old age is a thought but its a thought for when I actually have a well paying job. But I expect to calculate out how much I make and how much I would like to spend a year and save up enough so I wont have to worry. Again I have 24,000 in the bank for emergency's. I'm serious about stuff like that. I cant handle not planing. I hate sper of the moment things. Every dollar I make has a home. I know exactly how it will be spent the second it his my bank. I do not consider work anything to be proud of so no I will never try my "best" at it. Work is a necessary evil to live in a modern world. I will put as little as I can into it while maximizing my return. Dependable? I'm the only one of my friends who has any kind of plan at all. See above. But yes I am very self centered. I do not believe in charity or anything. I will also not share my money and take care of my SO unless they are working as well. I will not suffer a stay at home wife.
They would know all of that if they just asked. Now if they didn't want to continue after asking? That's their choice I wont stop them. I want someone that is ok with who I am. While it sucks being alone sometimes I am quite happy and I wont risk that happiness trying to keep a bad relationship going. This is why people are so difficult to work with. No one asks for clarification anymore. They just go with their assumptions and it ruins everything.
>>6486967
I'm a very sensitive man and it's easy for me to break down and start crying if something really upsets me. Even a really sad song, or a scene in a video game/movie can get me going. My girlfriend (who is not a domme and is strongly opposed to the idea, RIP) will still comfort me if I start crying, but I can pretty easily tell that she thinks I'm being ridiculous.
>>6487069
You really do not have to tell all that to me bro, I am just an anon on the Internet. I'm merely theorizing about your situation by having the perspective of an outside viewer, which I assume other people have as well. I however assume that you have got everything covered since you are probably not what others might imagine and because of the environment we are talking about these things. But people that do not know these will form a completely different opinion.
>They would know all of that if they just asked. Now if they didn't want to continue after asking? That's their choice I wont stop them. I want someone that is ok with who I am. While it sucks being alone sometimes I am quite happy and I wont risk that happiness trying to keep a bad relationship going. This is why people are so difficult to work with. No one asks for clarification anymore. They just go with their assumptions and it ruins everything.
As for this part, sadly this is nothing new, most people work on assumptions all the time instead of actually being curious because it is that much easier. One has to actively challenge a person's assumptions in order to make him/her drop it, otherwise they just won't.
>>6487035
>What kind of sad stuff do you watch ?
Not the same anon, but usually a movie where a character has to sacrifice themselves to save the people he cares about does the trick. First one that comes to mind is during the opening to Star Trek (2009) when Kirk's father rams his ship into the Narada while he's still onboard so his wife and newborn son and all of his crewmen can escape in the escape pods.
The soundtrack during that sequence didn't hurt either. In fact, it probably enhanced the moment.
post fucking pics!
>>6487094
Oh hello, was wondering when you would show up
>>6487094
>>6487097
i never left and never will
So /d/, this one girl at work approached me and is kinda going after me. She talks to me when she can at work, but is usually somewhat mellow and gentle. I generally am quite easy going, know many people at work by name and converse with many regularly. She wants to teach and is going to school for it. Whats do?
>>6487101
Nigger what?
The fuck do you want to do? Are you into her? Go for it. If you're not, don't.
Simple as that.
>>6487094
Sorry none to give. While I want the life style my porn is more of a hard core sort.
>>6487103
then lurk or don't post at all. it's that easy
>>6486213
Male Submarine
I don't really like crying in front of my dom, just because it makes me feel like I'm bringing down the general mood regardless, but sometimes it's unavoidable. When it happens just holding and sweet words is nice. Been alone too long, can't even remember being cared for by my dom
>>6487103
Here take some of mine, Ill make a conscious effort to not post them in the next thread
Do any girls like shy,timid guys that blush easily?
>>6487106
>>6487102
Well, I dunno. I dont feel like I should ask her out n stuff.
>>6487108
>>6487110
>>6487111
>>6487112
That should do it
>>6487113
Wait I got a few on my phone
>>6487113
Thats pretty hot
>>6487114
Sorry about the hold up my phone wasn't loading in the captchas so I had to transfer the images to my computer
>>6487116
Yes military and swat girls are best...well knightfus are pretty good as well
>>6487118
Eh that's it, I gotta save some for an other post or response
To y'all who want to be dominated by a short girl: do you consider 5'3'' short?
>>6487124
I consider that really short. Why?
>>6487113
It occurred to me that I didn't drop the full set last thread.
Not "gentle", but for completion's sake...
![tumblr_nvgtvqFncv1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/ji6lV3v.jpg "tumblr_nvgtvqFncv1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg")
Duplicate deleted, sorry!
>>6487124
>160 cm
Yes, that's pretty short I'd say.
But then again I'm almost 2m so idk.
>>6487128
not even a /k/ommando but these are hilarious and adorable as fuck
>>6487124
Nah, I am 5'64" so 5'3 is perfect!
>>6487130
Yeah, but I figured some anons might enjoy having the 3rd of the set.
>>6482999
>>6483004
Personally I'm up for some of the rougher Femdom that doesn't necessarily qualify as /gfd/, though waterboarding might be pushing it a bit for me as well.
Good /k/ related femdom material is pretty hard to come by.
>>6487135
No problems here as I said "military and swat girls are best" thanks for linking me to the rest
>>6487135
I would not mind a girl into that stuff at all. Well so long as she warned me before hand. Rough stuff is nice but not always when its a surprise. I do actually want to feel what its like to be water boarded though.
>>6487034
What are you getting it in?
>>6487143
Psychology. I plan on being a professor to get that sweet sweet tenure while keeping my ear to the ground for any relevant positions opening up.
>>6487146
You sound like a service sub but also cheap as hell, just from an outsiders pov. On another note, how would the dynamic between you and your Dom work?
>>6487153
Service sub? Cheep?
Well to be honest I want a girl that wants to be in complete control. I feel best when she has the final say. I'll gladly say what I want and give my opinion but I like it when she makes the final choice. I also like cleaning and taking care of the house. I'm happy in doing small chores like that.
Fetish wise? Thats up to her. I like doing what ever gets her off. I'm not very experienced in the more hardcore stuff but I will try anything once.
Another thing if I find a girl I know I will be with forever and I know I can trust her my body is hers. Piercings, tats, even hormones. I dont know if I will ever trust a girl enough for that but I know I would totally give myself over to her if I did.
I guess to put it simply she takes as much control as she wants. I enjoy being totally submissive and my biggest kink is taking orders.
Why do you ask?
>>6487153
Not him, but could you define "service sub"?
>>6487160
I saw it on reddit,( inb4 burn the Reddit witch). It's a sub who takes care of the Dom like cooking cleaning, back rubs ect instead of the other way around.
>>6487161
Ahhh then yeah that fits me pretty well. Nothing is better in like then that small smile they have when they come home to a perfectly clean home with dinner on the table.
>>6487157
I'm more /rr/ than the other one, I like hearing about what other people here are into. I also found it interesting that other people aren't all neets but actively trying to improve themselves. Can I get a throwaway email to talk to you on?
>>6487170
Sure.
[email protected]
I'm an open book so feel free to ask me anything.
>>6487171
>>6487170
Ohohoho, I smell something happening, good luck you two!
>>6487038
Yes actually, you can completely blame guys for being obnoxious. They're the ones who choose to do it.
>>6487161
Interesting. I always figured that was just a natural part of any healthy /gfd/ or /rr/ dynamic.
Then again there do seem to be a number of couples here that enjoy a more mother-child style relationship.
I really enjoy feeling helpful both in and out of my relationships, and sometimes I worry that people take advantage of that. Do other subs feel the same way? would you also self describe as service subs?
>>6487190
As I already replied yeah I do now that I know the term. As for being taken advantage of I actually like that. Unless I was ordered not to let others take advantage of me I'll gladly help out even if I was being "used." The only exception is money. Money is to valuable to just give out because I was asked.
I could also do a mother son thing. But it would have t be clear she really wants it. I've never done anything like that so its uncharted territory for me.
post pictures you sperglords
>>6487198
no
>>6486213
Im never comfortable crying around anyone ( I find it embarrassing) but if I do cry around my dom, only knowing that me being sad is directly a problem to her, which would probably drive my sapy state further.
All of the normal cuddling,headpats and such is great for comforting, but holding from behind is GOAT.
>>6487161
>sub who takes care of the Dom like cooking cleaning, back rubs ect instead of the other way around.
So the dream? Lol
In all seriousness, those qualities would stick around even if I wasn't into rr
>>6486213
I don't feel comfortable crying around anybody. I grew up being taught that, basically, showing any emotion other than confidence was an extreme weakness and something to be shunned. Bits of that still bleed through.
>>6486213
I'm don't feel very comfortable crying around people. If I had a domme I may feel more comfortable though. I get all blubbery and can't speak, and it makes me feel sorta defenseless. I don't cry all that much anyways. I suppose if I was crying then hugs and sweet nothings would be the best fix.
Eclipse anon are you here?
>>6487000
>I somehow think people are incredibly beautiful and provocative when crying.
I think that is true sometimes when it's just tearing up a little, but when it's completely raw and undisguised, my face will be agonisingly contorted in a horrible fashion, most of the time it's not that bad for me. I've never cried in public, 99% of the time no one is there at all if I can help it. In front of my parents I still felt the need to hide my face.
>>6486922
Look up Secret Plot
>>6487107
I've met a few who find it cute, despite me hating it.
>>6487124
I'd say that's in Pixie Girl territory, but if she had the right attitude it wouldn't matter.
>>6487124
I have been lifting weight for half a year now. i hope that when i am muscular i can find some girl your size to get head pats from.
>>6487124
Yes
would anyone here be interested in being dominated by a very skinny girl? i'm 5'0/75 lbs, no that's not a typo
>>6487464
>Skeleington Dom
Spooky, Scary, and a little bit arousing.
>>6487464
I would prefer a bigger girl, but if the girl is cute it makes no difference to me what her size is.
>>6487464
i can cook for you.
>skeleton doms
>ghost subs
This thread sure has been going places lately.
>>6487500
Yes my friend
>>6486251
Takes all types. Doms can learn from each other, regardless of gender - or who they prefer to dominate.
![tumblr_njwjc0eXJi1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/aJdeYRa.jpg "tumblr_njwjc0eXJi1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg")
>>6487500
Obviously the interest in femdom arises from poor childhood nutrition.
>>6487503
Spooky Scary Skeledoms
>>6487464
Cool, I can bench three of you. You could probably just ride on my shoulder while going out. Amusing, bu slightly awkward.
>>6487464
I wouldn't mind at all. For me its all mental. Its about how you make me feel. You can look and do what ever you want.
>>6487517
dammit i can only bench 2 times her weight.
il be back after i can bench 2 plate
>>6487523
Go forth and gain, brother!
>>6486926
Welp that's one of the hottest things I've ever read.
>>6485714
Most people (in here, I hope) know they shouldn't do this.
What is the point of reminding all subs that they're held to a high, often impossibly high standards? Or that, on their first message, they'll be perceived as one of "these guys", often no matter how complex of a message they'll write? Or that they shouldn't write at all, if they don't want to be seen as desperate? We all know that. We already feel the immense pressure.
That isn't loving nor gentle at all.
>>6487699
The "dommes" here are useless retarded fat chicks who piss their panties whenever a cis white male attempts to talk to them without first signing a consent form.
>tfw no tomboy gf to play basketball with
![tumblr_ngg1katk0p1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/Qy69q3a.jpg "tumblr_ngg1katk0p1u4yobjo1_1280[1].jpg")
>>6487699
>We all know that. We already feel the immense pressure.
lmao what
I agree that posting that image over and over again is kinda obnoxious but what 'impossibly high standards' are you even talking about ?
If anything the fact that there are so many twats bothering dommes with baseless wankery means it's far easier to stand out if you just talk to them like a normal person - which really shouldn't hard at all if you genuinely find their profile interesting beyond the F and D parts.
>>6486926
> that's it, I will fall in love with him instantly, unlucky fucker is never, ever getting rid of me. I will SOON through his bedroom window every night and watch him sleep. I will shank any other girl who gets within five meters of him
I want to be wanted like this. If a girl wanted me this bad I would do anything for her.
>>6487762
>what 'impossibly high standards' are you even talking about ?
The ones that define you as a creep before even the first word is read.
>If anything the fact that there are so many twats bothering dommes with baseless wankery means it's far easier to stand out if you just talk to them like a normal person
Haven't really experienced that. I've met a couple of amazing Dommes - amazing as regular people, especially - but they wrote to me first.
You can see that as your message standing out, which can certainly happen, but also as being drowned in a sea of crap.
>which really shouldn't hard at all if you genuinely find their profile interesting beyond the F and D parts
That's a different issue entirely, that Dommes often don't say anything about themselves other than their sex and BDSM status. Even if they're actively trying to attract people. It's not like they're often held to a high standard by many of these subs.
Good thread here. Lot's of neat conversation.
IME, if you are really desperate for a female dom, and are having 0 luck in finding one (location, no game, none available, not the right attractiveness, whatever) don't feel bad about hiring a pro. It's worth it if you're going through a lull.
My current GF sometimes takes control in the bedroom, and when she does it's glorious. She's 15 years older and in solid cougar land, and has perfect smothering-tits. But more often than not, she's submissive. Which is fine for me, for now.
Anyway, contribute'tanning.
>>6487762
Hes talking about supply and demand. The disparity is real. Domme girls can pick and chose at their convenience. I've actually experienced it. I was semi dating a girl online. Nothing to serious but past the agreeing to be bf/gf. She straight up dumped me because she found another sub that "fulfilled everything you do while being cuter and younger than you are."
These high standards he is talking about is the fact that with so few female dommes the cream of the crop get them first while the rest of us have to wait and hope which only hurts us because we age and grow older and uglier while there is always fresh new young subs.
Its no reason to act like a dick bag like in that photo but it is real and I've known people who attempted suicide over it because they were to manly and couldn't even find a girl to give them the light of day.
>>6487781
>Hiring a pro
No. I have an intense hatred for "professional dominatrix's." So fucking many have lead me on and then when they felt they "had me" attempted to take my money. On top of that it only makes all this shit worse. Now instead of a sub living happily with a Dom that dom now charges him and he will never get to have his happy life.
I would break up with my soul mate if she told me she was a professional dom.
>>6487790
> So fucking many have lead me on and then when they felt they "had me" attempted to take my money.
You mean the people who charge money for sex tried to charge you money for sex? Fucked up
>>6487781
>don't feel bad about hiring a pro
Well, I'm definitely more comfortable with an existence of Pro Dommes over god-damn FinDommes.
That said, given that we're in the "gentle and loving" category, I don't believe the world should force some to pay to be loved. Even without that, BDSM is very much about the connection and understanding between two people. Think about how sad that is. Not to mention the possible mental issues of falling in love with someone you pay for it.
Sell your skills, like amazing bondage or sessions for couples. Don't sell the mere fact of giving attention.
>>6487790
Ah that's too bad. Anecdotally, I've had nothing but great experiences with them when I've used them. Where I live it runs $100 - $200/hr.
>>6487791
I think he means they tried to steal money from him while he was tied up.
>>6487781
You lucky mother fucker. Mind if I ask how you two met
>>6487791
No they go into it acting like they like you. That they want a relationship with you. Then when they think your addicted to them and too spineless to stand up to them they start extorting you for money.
Then if you do stand up to them they act all coy and say shit like "Its my job what did you think I wanted to date you? You owe me for my time."
>>6487790
No dom is going to charge someone they have feelings for- pros have non-pro relationships too. If you can't get a dom's attention without paying for it, whose fault is that, really?
Never understood at all why some guys resent sex workers so much. You either work on being an attractive potential partner or you go 'nah fuck that' and pay for the convenience of not doing so. It's pretty damn simple.
>>6487801
>Never understood at all why some guys resent sex workers so much.
Because, unless you're a super-successful guy who has no time and has to get hookers on his dick, sex workers can be seen as abusing your sex drive for money, very much like advertisements often do.
>You either work on being an attractive potential partner or you go 'nah fuck that' and pay for the convenience of not doing so.
A "potential partner" would give you much more than a fuck in the back of your car.
>>6487799
I've literally never seen any proof of this being a thing. Could you provide an example? With screencaps and a link to her profile.
>>6487809
Abusing your sex drive? Hahahahaha holy shit, i've heard it all now. Go jerk off dude, that's literally how easy it is to manage your sex drive.
>>6487798
I started working at a new firm in Manhattan, about five years ago. Little did I know she liked younger guys. She had planned from the start to chase me, thinking I was very cute and seeing how my office was 75% women, 20% gay men, and 5% hetero men, she didn't have a lot of options.
We hung out a few times, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. She would text me, and I'm a sucker for teasing/flirting, and it got to the point where I really, really wanted her.
The next time we hung out, I made the first move. Overall, it's been a great relationship. We've been on/off/on/off/on again for the last five years. She's very stable and an amazing person. Our life goals are different. I want to get married and have kids, she's content in her Upper West Side condo with her two cats.
The sex is very good, she prefers vanilla, but I do dominate her, tie her up, spank her. She'll smother me, facesit, peg me, tie me up, collar and leash play on occasion.
>>6487815
>Go jerk off dude, that's literally how easy it is to manage your sex drive.
Yeah, tell someone who deals with marketing daily, that sex drive is so easily manageable, that it can't be abused for money.
>>6487799
Holy shit lol. They act like they like you because that's what you pay them for. Do you think your waitress wants to fuck because she smiled at you and asked how your day was?
>>6487810
It was in real life both of the times it happened. I met one Jessica at a munch and the other Rebeca at a sex toy convention. Neither one said anything about money and responded as any normal girl would when asked out.
>>6487790
>So fucking many have lead me on and then when they felt they "had me" attempted to take my money.
Shit, sorry to hear that. You must hang around some shitty people (or make a ton of money.)
>>6487816
Good for you anon. Glad you made it
>>6487781
Anything which involves me giving them money ruins it, though I'm sure they could satisfy me sexually. My motivation for getting a dominant gf is for intimacy and for someone to genuinely care for me and for me to lovingly serve her, it has nothing to do with sexual frustration. I'm fairly good at satisfying myself anyway.
>>6487793
That sounds fairly reasonable.
>>6487104
>jailhouseblues.jpg
>>6487172
sauce?
>>6487809
>Because, unless you're a super-successful guy who has no time and has to get hookers on his dick, sex workers can be seen as abusing your sex drive for money, very much like advertisements often do.
Goddamn this is funny shit, 10/10.
>>6487699
I think you're projecting too far out. It's true you're facing a disparity issue, which sucks, but don't assume that automatically means women are going to have crazy standards or be super judgmental. I will admit, because we're dealing with BDSM-related activities, I do review men vary carefully before reaching out to them in order to protect myself. There are a LOT of creeps in the fetish community and men and women both need to try to screen them as best as they can as early as they can.
All I'm looking for it a guy who I share a mutual attraction with who is an awesome friend first and then also sexually compatible. Most women here are the same. You're dealing with a tiny dating pool versus the general population so it's less likely to be a deficiency on your part and more likely that you simply haven't run into a compatible girl yet. It doesn't mean we're hating on you.
The number one thing that will help you is putting yourself out there. Add a face picture to your profiles, and talk about your interests, lifestyle, and the things that matter to you in addition to your kinks. I see so many sub profiles with no pictures in which the guy talks only about his fetishes and sexual tastes. Maybe that's okay if you're only looking for hookups, but for the many guys here who seem to want girlfriends, it's not the best way to go. I want a sense of who you are outside of the bedroom too.
Even with the gender ratio being in my favor, I have yet to find any guys reasonable near me who I feel I'd be compatible with. All we can do is keep looking.
>>6487831
Could I get a source on that clip?
>>6488025
Just casual anon browsing through the thread here. I don't really use services like that, I just started reading this thread due to the pics! : D
Anyway.. That seems like a solid load of info. I appreciate you going through the trouble to tell this. I also kinda projected and thought that I'd never try these dating things if the community was mean and punished for trying. But yeah you kinda put it in context. Still not sure how the etiquette for making contact works.
>>6487816
Congrats Anon, I'll raise my glass for your success!
>>6488048
Completely forgot. Have some ara ara for compensation
>>6488025
What we really need is a dating site focused on kinks. Fetlife is fucking horrible because the creators built it to prevent hookups like that.
Someplace we can put a bio like that while still being able to narrow down to what you want.
>>6488185
Like what BondageBook?
>>6488048
>>6488162
Amagami. Didn't take that long to find it. Ya'll need to improve on your reverse image searching skills. As a consolation prize have Tionishia.
>>6488185
There's collarme. It's full of creeps and 50 year old morbidly obese women. Moreso than fetlife, I mean. Any site like that is doomed from the start because there is a huge contingent of obsessed weirdos who will sperg at anyone who's into the same sex stuff as them.
If you just want a woman to cuddle you and be on top during sex you really don't need a fetish site.
