Ask a mistress and her sub boy in a long-term monogamous relationship anything. Our sixth anniversary is in two weeks.
Also, straight femdom, no futa, thread.
>>5744602
Do you to live together/near by?
Do you share a favorite 'position'? Or do your favorites differ?
How many different fetishes do you guys tend to explore?
>>5744613
We live a lot closer than we used to (we met online and we lived 2000 miles apart before I went to college close to him), but we only get to see each other in person once a month since we're both poor and he lives an hour away from me. We should be getting some sort of living space together sometime next academic year.
As for sexual positions: neither of us have a favorite. We just choose what we feel like at the moment.
>>5744602
What facts about your sex life do you tell your friends? E.g. Pegging, s and m, etc.
Always wondered about that.
>>5744617
We share quite a few fetishes (I used to be a very vanilla person before he corrupted me!) but we've only done egglaying so far, with plans to induce lactation when we live together. I have an impregnation fetish that he's indulged when I got on birth control. And, of course, femdom stuff. The first time I really got him to cum IRL was from pegging. It was amazing.
I am a naturally submissive woman looking to become more dominant, as the person I am interested in romantically is also a sub. Do you have any advice?
>>5744632
Only a handful of my close friends know that I wear the pants in my relationship, but that's because we're a fairly open group (and let's face it, the idea of a short girl bossing around her much taller and stockier boyfriend is hilarious). They don't know my exact fetishes or anything because that'd be weird, but they definitely know I'm the one calling the shots.
As for his friends? I think they all know. He's stupidly in love with me and has made it apparent to them that he likes it up the butt.
>>5744632
Sub boy here.
I can't speak for mistress, but most of the time, I mention our sex lives as a joke at my friends, to get a cringe, and they generally don't tend to realize -I'm being serious-.
All in all though, more than I ever thought I would.
Are the two of you getting off to people asking you questions?
>>5744643
Accidentally the wrong image folder, lel.
>>5744643
Do you ever get gently pegged, not domination or rough but like making love?
>>5744644
Nah. I'm just bored as hell and we thought it'd be fun to do something like this.
>>5744652
My relationship with mistress is mostly a gentle one, tending more toward a tender and loving domination than a rough and controlling one.
>>5744660
Does she rub you off or is it hands free?
>>5744636
I actually started out exactly like in your case. I thought I was a sub. Then I realized I was way in love with my sweet little boy and then he told me he was a sub, so I was like, "Alright, I'm gonna research how to be a dom."
So then I watched some porn (and then realized I like hentai so much more), then lurked /d/, then read a shit ton of doujins, and then, with a lot of experimentation and communication on my darling's behalf, we figured it out. Turns out I'm a switch, and so is he, but we tend to be dom and sub a lot more than the other way around. It worked out nicely!
>>5744617
>>5744634
We've also explored bondage and face-sitting.
>>5744632
My friends (e.g. the ones I live with) are very aware that I 'wear the pants' in my relationship, and a couple of them even know that I like to peg him (dirty senses of humor), but otherwise they don't know our fetishes or the details of our sex life other than that it's pretty killer and that I am the boss.
Do you guys still have some fetish you want to try ? And also, have you ever tried inversion ?
>>5744675
Oh yeah. I totally forgot to mention that--funny, since we do those quite often. <3
>>5744669
This one is a little hard to answer, because despite being "together" nearly 6 years, we've had, comparatively, very little time together. She had pegged me to cumming without touching, though.
Also, sad day, the flash drive with my larger collection has vanished...
>>5744684
Nothing immediately comes to mind, but I have no doubt that down the road, we'll find plenty of new and interesting ways to have fun in the bedroom (or wherever we may happen to be fucking at the time). We're both fairly creative individuals, so it's only a matter of time...
>>5744682
How beta does your boyfriend have to be to allow himself to be a doormat outside the bedroom?
What's the purpose of telling your friends that "you're the boss".
ARE YA?
>>5744684
I really am excited about the prospect of inducing lactation sometime in the next year. It's been one of our fetishes.
And I'm not really familiar with the term inversion--I guess you mean switching of roles. We are actually switches (as I detailed above) but we are so often dom and sub that I introduced us as otherwise. It's pleasant when we do get to switch, though!
>>5744706
Well, he was so beta that I asked him out since I was tired of waiting. Also he's cuter that way. /s
>>5744723
I will be, don't worry. I joke around about it a bit, but I really, really do love him, and I dream of getting married to him. I'm a very monogamous person when it comes down to it and he's the only boy I've ever had sex with. We saved each other from severe depression when we were long-distance. He's the light of my life and that is why I love him.
He also has the cutest butt around, soooo.
>>5744706
I'm sorry? where exactly do you think you are? Are you lost?
>>5744723
If it means anything, I have absolutely no concern of cheating. I've never dated (nor had desire to date) anyone else, and she's so incredibly attatched to me, she may as well be a non-lethal tumor. Sorry hun. :P
Good taste in this thread.
>>5744766
I wish I had more to contribute, but I can't find my blasted flash drive. WHY DO WE MAKE TECHNOLOGY SMALLER?!
Dumping this Kill la Kill doujin because my little boy and I love KLK and because Gamagoori is stupidly cute in this one. (Even if pegging with a high heel isn't my kind of thing--I just think about the colon tears that might have caused!)
And that there is the end. Sadly.
And now back to your regularly scheduled random femdom pictures.
Also a general shoutout to all the /d/enizens here who have posted awesome stuff pertaining to our fetishes. You guys allowed us to find our sexuality as a couple ("oh hey, do you like this picture?" "yeah, that looks pretty hot, show me more") and inspired us to be filthy animals when we finally got together in real life.
Except for you, dude who spams the board with futa stuff. You can... dial it back a bit? IDK since my little boy enjoys the occasional futa. Anyways, you all are awesome.
Also, I can't believe I forgot this picture since this is one of our favorites. This is basically us in a nutshell, except he doesn't wear stockings (he's not into trapping).
I'm so jealous, I want a mistress
>>5744891
You can definitely find one if you put your heart and mind into it, Anon. Sometimes you can inadvertantly turn an ordinary girl into a dominant lady with some conversation and decent porn/hentai. Happened to me!
>>5744891
and I want to be able to choose the right picture. derp.
>>5744622
where online did you two meet?
>>5744634
When you say egg-laying, who is the one that's having eggs shoved inside of them?
>>5744920
Where every lonely-ass nerd goes to. World of Warcraft on a tiny, tiny, tiny RP server.
>>5744924
I've tried it a couple of times, but he really likes having an egg inside of him. We use a rock egg wrapped in a condom (changed out after each use).
>>5744660
I have a fetish for that type of loving domination, but unfortunately I feel like I never see it.
>>5744898
Which specific hentai would you recomend?
>>5744945
It's really hard to find, for some reason. NTR stories where the protagonist is a female stealing a man tend to be like that (albeit with a dude not giving consent) tend to have it more often than not.
It's also the reason why my little boy can't watch most femdom porn. He feels the actresses are too based on sadism and machism which isn't his thing and it actually makes him a little sad when he wants to see loving domination.
>>5744947
Uh, honestly, I don't really have any specific hentai in mind. If the girl you're interested in like anime and she seems pretty open about talking about sex you might want to show her a femdom doujin of an anime she's seen and liked. That was my gateway drug.
>>5744936
I'd like to have eggs stuffed up my butt, however unless it comes from an ovipositor toy it just seems kind of lazy.
There needs to be a lot more KLK femdom pictures. Like, a lot more. This show was practically made for it.
>>5744958
Oh look, I found another.
>>5744965
And another!
Last one, I swear.
>>5744957
Can't remember where I've seen it, but there are ovipositor toys out there.
>>5744956
I can't really watch femdom porn either, in fact you could almost say my fetish really isn't even femdom.
I just like the idea of some cute athletic girl who isn't afraid to tell me to get into bed so she can be on top and ride my dick.
I've gone and tapped out my collection. Little boy and I will be lingering around to answer questions.
>>5744988
I'd still call that femdom, just a pretty light form of it. You want the lady to take charge, after all, and I think really that's more or less the force behind femdom.
>>5744929
>those girls in the RP servers were actually girls
I CAN"T BELIEVE!
>>5745002
Surprise! Sometimes it is a g-grill after all.
>>5744980
I've seen them myself
Looks pretty fun for me, I have a fantasy of a xeno female taking me as a mate and laying her eggs inside of me.
But I digress, how much shit have you gotten for being a sub? How many beta male jokes?
>>5745010
Absolutely none. On the outside, I'm very outgoing, and surprisingly independent. Looking at me, you'd never in 100 years guess I was sub.
>>5745017
It's true. He's a manly Viking in real life and I get to cuddle with his big strong arms around me. He's also almost a foot taller than me and has to stoop a bit to kiss me.
>>5745026
>short femdom, tall sub guy
This thread is officially 2lewd
>>5745037
Tall is too kind. I hardly break 5'2".
d-do you plan on getting married once you're living together?
or is it purely a sexual thing?
This is some true /d/ love
My best wishes to you ririsu and cookies
>>5745067
Marriage is an inevitability.
It's been fun, all, but I have to get some shuteye. If the thread survives the night, we might continue tomorrow. I think mistress has already fallen asleep. XD
Goodnight all, and thank you for the questions and comments!
>>5745078
night. thanks for the most adorable thread of the year.
How fat are you?
I use the tag ドMホイホイ on pixiv
So femanon, what gives you your jollies when you're pegging a guy? I understand that he likes it, but is there anything more than the mental aspect for you?
I'm thinking of talking to my girlfriend about pegging. I think she would be totally fine with it, but I'm a little uncomfortable talking about it. Any advice?
You two are very cute and I wish you the best of luck in your romantic and sexual adventures.
>>5745362
You just need to take a deep breath and say it. There's not much more to it. If you've been dating a while and there's a mutual desire to please each other sexually, she'll at least hear you out and let you down gently (if at all), good luck!
>>5744602
Do you ever do what my partner and I call "breakfast service"? As in, the sub gets to have breakfast only after they've brought the dom of the day to orgasm under the table (except a glass of water - got to avoid cotton mouth)?
>>5745208
Not OP, but another femdom anon.
The harness I use with my boyfriend has a pocket for a vibrator, so I do get stimulation out of it. I don't usually orgasm from it because it isn't enough, but I make sure to have him suck on my clit afterwards until I come. Several times.
There are some double-ended strap-on dildos, but vaginal penetration does almost nothing for me personally.
Mainly it is the mental aspect though. I got into it because I used to watch a shitload of gay porn and found myself wanting to be the guy on top. There isnt anything that can turn me on more than seeing a guy willingly submit to me to that degree. It's fucking hot and the power rush I get is insane and oh so satisfying. I especially like it when they're noisy.
So time to take this thread to an uncomfortable place, because that's what I do.
You mentioned that both of you were pretty depressed when you met. Are you ever uncomfortable with your mental illness overlapping with (or driving) your fetishes?
I'm a forever closeted malesub with a pretty epic case of anxiety (it sets off lie detectors!) and I just can't abide the idea that any relationship I might get into would be based on such unhealthy feelings.
>>5745472
Hm.. Why would they be necessarely unhealthy? As long as everybody is having fun and not getting really hurt, I don't see any problem.
>>5745485
I guess?
My fear is that it's really hard to compartmentalize some of those emotions. I don't ever want to put myself in a situation where I resented my partner for loving and encouraging things that I hate in myself, even if a part of me likes them too.
Being out of control and desperate to please is pretty hot as a fantasy, but when you're actually mildly out of control and pathologically desperate to please in real life it gets complicated.
Then there's the whole chicken egg scenario. Is this fetish a product of my neurotic brain, or did I get this neurotic by trying to deny a fairly core part of my sexuality for years on end?
/IrrationalFearSpiral
That sounds rather confusing T_T
I just woke up, so it's time to get down to business (and defeat the huns).
>>5745208
Currently our pegging setup allows me to put in a vibrator or dildo inside of me, but I've generally opted to just peg him and watch him coo in delight. His reward is usually to please me in some other manner afterward.
>>5745362
As the other anon said, just go for it. You may need to explain to your girlfriend what the prostate is if she received a fucking terrible sex ed like I did (THANKS TEXAS) and why it would be pleasurable for you. If she's mature I don't think it'd affect your relationship if she were to refuse.
>>5745405
I've actually never heard of that. Generally my little boy and I don't do breakfast, but since I've gotten on medication my sleep cycle has improved massively to the point where I sometimes do go get breakfast. Maybe we'll try it.
>>5745472
I actually do have a decent answer for this. My little boy's depression was fairly temporary since he was dealing with the death of his mother, grandfather, and grandmother (they all passed away in three years in succession, ending with his mother). As for me, I have clinical depression that has been ramping up in severity as I've gotten older (I've been this way since maybe 9 or 10 years old but my parents refused to acknowledge it. Yay Texas mentality towards mental health). It would cross over into my sex life--when I got depressed I would go sub, and I would need him to be Master for a moment, which he always obliged to be (though it took him a while to get comfortable with the word).
Nowadays I'm medicated and that shit works wonders. I still get sub on occasion, but that's generally because I'm feeling lonely or in need of lots of affection. Otherwise I'm dom.
I did dislike that whenever I had a depressive episode, I would go sub and ask him to be Master even if he didn't feel dom. I don't like inconveniencing people on account of me and that feeling is multiplied tenfold when I get depressed since I feel like I wouldn't inconvenience people if I didn't exist when I'm in an episode. But he was brilliant enough to be there for me even when I was down. And I love him all the more for that.
>>5745160
Either a troll question or a weight enthusiast. I'm average weight on the curvy side, my little boy is chubby and his belly is wonderful to rest on when we cuddle.
>>5745067
We're getting married. I have an engagement ring picked out once he feels it's ready to propose and I have a pattern for the wedding dress I'll be sewing myself.
He's stuck with me, but he doesn't seem to mind at all. <3
>>5744614
I fucking love face sitting
Read the first half of the thread and skimmed the second half, and holy shit everything is extremely similar to my mistress and I, from what you guys like and what we like to us both being switches (although me much more submissive usually, her being somewhat short and me being tall and slightly muscular/larger, and having to learn her way into being a dom. We also are about 40 minutes apart but have only been together about 2 years.
Unfortunately I haven't been pegged yet and mistress has a physical issue with normal sex but we get by and she absolutely adores my tongue and I can't stand up to her super soft hands for very long.
So from a fellow happily collared sub boy i hope you two stay happy :3
I was asked to be a girls sub boy once.
She lived too far away for it to be worth it.
I'm not gonna drive 200 miles for pussy unless its so good that Id die.
Which I could just get here
>>5745692
So do we. :3
>>5745822
To each their own, but we were 2000 miles apart for 5 years before we even mrt at arm's length. You'll find someone.
>>5745954
4 years, darling, not 5. <3
>>5745503
Preaching to the choir. Michiganderfag here, I'm starting to think my state is one of those underground playplaces just for kink couples.
Even worse, the industrial/goth scene is practically dead nowadays; older friends tell me it used to be a great doorway for newbies.
>>5746019
Fellow Michigander here.
>my state is one of those underground playplaces just for kink couples
I'd like you to elaborate on this, please.
>>5746040
It's difficult to find anything local, a few munches, a detroit-area club (call ahead reservation), but anything that canvases a lot of territory tends to be out of the way- or maybe I'm just saying that from the perspective of limited transportation and time from within the north metro area suburbs, I'm not sure. I take it you severely disagree?
>>5746048
Nah, I just don't get out much, and was kinda hoping for an idea of where to look. I'm on the West Coast, and most people I talk to are vanilla as fuck. However, a lesbian co-worker is very proud to point out that Grand Rapids is apparently a very gay city. I'm not gay, myself, so that doesn't help me one bit.
>>5744602
It's pretty sad that we have to precipice all threads with "no futa" this is that state of /d/ these days.
>>5746055
Yeah, check the fetlife groups of some michigander groups, it's mostly up near Waterford and Lansing as far as I gather, everything else tends to be on private properties that still have forest as the most common neighbor. Royal Oak has a nice shop by the name of Noir Leather; one of the ladies there is a model and does work at the House of Pain in detroit and the whole shop is generally kink friendly towards the back.
I got a number from a cute guy at Noir, but I kinda had a meltdown after we talked and texted a bit- I'm still not really comfortable with sexually forward guys even if I go in telling myself I'm there to just enjoy myself. Fuck anxiety, man.
>>5746059
Nah, I disagree, futa is the primary function of the board, so it's polite to just air it out that imagers need to be selective about their content in a few specific threads. Hell, I've a really nice latex bit that would go nice with this thread, but it's futa, so no-go, bro.
>>5746069
You misunderstand. Im saying that they have no boundaries and want to turn every thread that isnt futa awash in a sea of grotesque, fake dicks.
Hence the pressing need to tell them to fucking stop.
>>5746083
Hey, that actually doesn't sound half-bad if it weren't rude as all hell. After being in /tg/ this long I'm kind of used to the idea of every anon probably being a rude hypocritical dick.
But enough talk! Have at the topic!
>>5744636
Get on fetlife dot com, get in touch with players in your local area, find a mentor, find and explore your dominant side (even if it isn't natural you can probably nurture it a bit and might even enjoy taking control once you discover that aspect of yourself)
>>5744929
WRA?
>>5745550
Anxiety is a hell of a drug (imbalance). Sometimes it feels like my brain is a rat, my skull is a cage, and the world is just a stick poking the rat all day.
>>5745593
That's cool. Nice to hear about people making it work. The whole subject seems to be a bit of a taboo in the scene. I chalk it up to a lot of them remembering the days when BDSM was still considered a mental illness in and of itself.
I think more and more I'm coming to the conclusion that I just need to stop worrying about it and jump back in. I'm at a point in my life where I basically know who I am, and if my brain still comes up with crazy self sabotaging ideas I at least recognize them for what they are and duly ignore them.
Now I just need to find the people again. Farthest I ever got offline was a couple of munches populated by people who made me look incredibly stable and emotionally balanced (NOPE'd the fuck out after two meetings). Coaxing sane kinksters out of hiding is truly suffering.
>>5744671
wow, this is actually very similar to how mine and my mistresses relationship developed
Just skimmed through the thread and I have to say I am a bit jealous. If only I was capable of not being a complete tard about trying to find a relationship.
>>5744929
Which server, just out of interest?
I realise this queston's kind of entirely irrelevant but I'm gonna be asking anyway.
>>5744602
congratulations! hope you have a wonderful anniversary. If I may be so bold to ask, do you attend any BDSM events together? Or is it a "just in the bedroom/home" thing for you guys?
>>5746220
Try fetlife, it may be shitty, but its better than the alternatives.
>>5746225
I've heard to many horror stories to feel comfortable with fetlife though.
>>5744602
what do you guys think of petplay? :3
>>5744602
OP, how can I attract a nice domme despite looking like a serial killer?
>Dat long face.
>Dem deep set, heavily ringed eyes.
>Dat contemplative, shy demeanor that makes women think I'm piecing together how best to fit them in my van.
>>5746151
>>5746221
We met on Thorium Brotherhood and we play elsewhere now.
>>5746228
We like the concept but we haven't done it IRL yet. Not sure if we will, but I would like to see my little boy wearing kitty ears and a tail, come to think of it...
>>5746233
We're not into forced chastity, mainly because my little boy wants a more loving type of domination rather than sadism/masochism. I also am a bit of a klutz and I imagine I would inadvertantly cut his dick off trying to work one of those.
>>5746276
There are women into that, I kid you not. You could try Fetlife or some other type of kink dating website/meetup site (though I have no experience with those).
>>5746331
You said your boy isn't into trapping? Thats unfortunate, wearing panties feels great.
>>5746331
>I would like to see my little boy wearing kitty ears and a tail
You should BOTH get matching tail plugs. Would be so cute
how do find cute sub boys in my area
>>5746367
Attend any munch/event/chat room and watch them throw themselves at your feet? Seriously, in the scene dom women tend to outnumber sub men by a pretty wide margin. You get your pick of the litter.
>>5746367
Depends on your standard for 'cute'
>>5746370
unfortunately when it comes to subs, im very picky which doesnt help ;_; very little seem to be into what im into too
>>5746372
I guess the best I can offer you is to keep looking. It's hard enough for vanilla people to find a good match, and we're dealing with a much smaller pool of applicants. It will require some legwork, and more than a few awkward dates, on your part.
Just be glad you're not a sub guy. Fuck, it's seriously the worst.
>>5746374
dang. well, if you ever come across a sub into vomit tell him to hit me up !!
>>5746370
>dom women tend to outnumber sub men by a pretty wide margin
I never knew that. Good news for me I look like I'm 16 (I'm 25). Bad news I'm tall. Is there any room for tall guys who want to be dominated?
>>5746372
What's your ideal sub?
>>5746378
oh definitely, tall guys are adorable to me.
>>5746378
IMO this isn't exactly accurate. I think what's closer to the truth is that dom women tend to fight over a small group of actually attractive sub guys.
>>5746379
hairless, subtlety feminine, around 6'0'', into the more 'gross' kinks like vomit and piss etc., curly hair, reserved, incredibly easily embarrassed... list could go on forever. its almost impossible finding someone with all those qualities, don't you think?
>>5746385
Definitely. Curly hair is fairly rare, and 5'9" is the average height in America so right off the bat you're going to be hard to find.
Hairless is easy...force your sub to wax...
>>5746388
skinny is also important. im only into chubby girls and there seem to be so many chubby sub boys (that ive come across anyways)
>>5746388
Waxing seems like a lot of pain but if it would help me find a mistress....
>>5746389
Yeah. I mean I'm good looking/skinny/muscular so I've never had trouble finding domme women interested in me. THe only difficult part is finding women who are into casual play and who are legit dommes. MOst women want you to sub so hard that it makes their job easy.
>>5746392
If you want a mistress, get in decent shape, take care of yourself, and start getting involved with the IRL kink scene.
any advice for a very young domme wanting to find a sub irl??
>>5746414
I am in decent shape. Taking care of myself is a bit harder as is getting involved in the kink scene. I should probably go get a license or something.
>>5746418
Don't be afraid to make the first move. mistress had to ask me out because I was always too nervous.
>>5746433
FINDING them is a problem, they seem so rare around here (england)
>>5746455
The trouble that you will always run into is that doms who are relatively even keeled, stable individuals looking for a relationship aren't out there advertising themselves. A lot of them don't want to publicize their proclivities, and even if they do there's a good chance they have plenty of suitors already.
Instead focus on getting to know your local scene. Build connections with people and slowly expand your circle of friends. Once you have fellow kinksters who will vouch for the fact that you aren't a complete fuckup or Jack the ripper I think you'll be surprised at how many eligible young women seem to pop out of the woodwork.
>>5746477
Sorry, got it mixed up. But really the advice still stands.
>>5746478
age still seems to be a big issue though, unfortunately as im younger than many people would prefer
>>5745619
Fuck gender roles.
I am jealous of you now.
Because I am a bit submissive person. :C
>>5746480
It's an issue. A lot of groups simply won't deal with people younger than their mid 20s for a number of reasons. If you're any younger than 18 just forget about any organized group accepting you.
For a community that's already operating at the extreme ends of social acceptability it's only natural that they have these reservations. I hate to be a condescending old fuck but the best I can give you is to get a bit older and see if you're still into it. It's easy enough at any rate, just takes time.
You can always meet people independently online like OP seems to have, but take care with that. Everybody on 4chan/fetlife/ect.. should be assumed to be Buffalo Bill until proven otherwise.
>>5746498
I think most people are jealous.
>>5746502
kinda yeah.
Is it weird to say for my type of mistress to have a motherly charm and a nice personally?
>>5746499
it's not just social acceptability, it's legality. In many places bdsm is a very gray legal area, and in many they are technically breaking the law, so anyone organizing it as a community has to be extremely careful about the law.
And the law treats people under 18 very differently than those over 18.
>>5744602
If you're still around I do have a question.
You've talked about friends, but if it's not too personal, how much does your family know? And if you aren't open, how do you handle keeping it hidden.
>>5746377
>dang. well, if you ever come across a sub into vomit tell him to hit me up !!
I am ok with this
>>5746508
I don't think it is that weird. I would rather have a more tender Mistress than a cruel one. Pic semi related?
>>5746519
Tender with a bit of cruel.
>>5746521
That would work.
>>5744602
Who's the older of the two?
Merely out of curiosity. :3
>>5746534
That would be me. Mistress is 1-2 years younger than me, depending on the time of year.
>>5746536
You're really cute. Your mistress is a lucky gal.
>>5745410
...are you me? seriously.
any bathroom/toilet stuff? My girl is willing to do it for me but I'd rather just pay someone else to do it
I would like some advice on this type of thing,the ones I've meet online are creepers.So meeting irl is a big step cause I'm super shy.
Using the title 'mistress' just looks stupid as fuck to me
I'm a kinky fem and my boyfriend is an incredibly vanilla guy. I want to try some bondage/dom/sub stuff, but like I said, my guy is REALLY vanilla. Like, missionary everytime.
I've brought up the subject of it to him before, he seemed like he'd want to try it and basically said he refused to be the sub, but when it comes down to actually doing it, we never do.
Tips on sort of... easing him into it?
Besides fetlife or dating websites, idk i find it quite easy to find feminine and/or submissive males in the anime convention scene. So if you're geeky and stuff like that, I don't see why not?
>>5746331
Its a delight to see more couples into gentle dominance. Good luck with everything!
>>5746392
It doesn't hurt nearly as much as I thought it would. Actually, the part that hurt the most was burning myself -- don't do that!
>>5746151
>WRA
Don't do that to yourself, friend. It's a bad time.
>>5746574
:^)
so what are the odds of a sub male who's got med-long hair and is short+skinny
like, we're talking SERIOUSLY horribly skinny
>>5746872
Following up to this anon: what are the odds for a hairy 6' 7" sub? (also skinny)
Do doms draw a line somewhere concerning height or could the contrast even be of use?
>>5746418
Where in the UK are you from? If you're anywhere near London, come to Club Pedestal. The men there seem to be a lot more attractive and socially competent than the fuckwits on Fetlife. Add me on FL if you want, I'm a London domme so if you're from around here I can probably help you make a few connections.
>>5746872
the odds are get here right now and let me pull your hair :^)
but nah for srs skinny guys with long hair are really in demand, in my area at least.
>>5746619
Trick him into doing some light power subbing, works every time.
Like give him a blind fold, or some light cuffs if he'll have it, and then lay him down and let him tell you what he wants you to do to him. If he likes it you can keep pushing the envelope until you're telling HIM what to do. If he's not into it though, he's not into it. Sadly guys can't be trained like dogs (I mean a few of us can, but that's a very different fetish).
>>5745593
I don't know if you guys are still here but I feel the exact same way with my trans girlfriend. I'm usually the dom (though I'm a switch), but when I get depressed, I need affection and go sub and feel horrible about making her dom. But she does it anyway for me and I absolutely love her for that.
Take us through a day in your lives.
Also, do you squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom or the middle?
>>5747365
Bottom.
And a typical day is just whatever we have for that day, interspersed with texting eachother. We're still mostly LDR. :P
>>5747365
Unless by toothpaste you mean a euphamism.
>>5747402
Nope. Just curious. It's a good personality gauging question.
>>5746964
That club looks incredible, I wish I wasn't at the other end of the country though ;_;
I am living in Australia and wanting to get into a dom/sub relationship (myself being the dom) though I have no idea how I could find a female sub that lives near me ..could you give me any suggestions of where to look?
>>5744602
As a lonely 18yo guy living in oxford, I'm extremely jealous...
This thread makes me so happy yet so empty
Long-distance relationships aren't proper relationships. Nice thread, though.
so from what I read here is that doms experience very little physical pleasure from the experience, and do it mainly to pleasure the subs?
For some reason this makes me very sad (as a sub).
>>5747811
4'10". No, I'm not a dwarf. Cookies is about 5'5" but he underestimates himself.
>>5747844
Cookies is exaggerating somewhat when he says we're mostly LDR. I go to college an hour and a half away from him. We would be able to see each other every week if we could afford to/had the time to see each other. Instead we only see each other once a month. We're getting a place together, however, next year.
>>5747777
Nope, completely opposite side of the country.
>>5747799
FetLife. Alternatively ask around with friends that seem to be mature about sex (aka the kind of people that won't go bug-eyed the moment you mention anything kinky) where some clubs that might have BDSM clientele meet, as stated in this thread. Or just get a girl interested in it as Cookies did with me.
>>5747855
Oh no, I get a lot of pleasure from my little boy. Pegging is an act that doesn't give me lots of physical stimulation but it sure gives me a mental stimulation. He's also more than happy to eat me out, suckle my breasts, fuck me, or have me ride him as a reward--generally, whatever I ask, he does it unless he has some physical ailment making it impossible for him to do it.
I'm not particularly into femdom, or domination as a whole. I have nothing against it, its just not particularly my cup of tea, however, this is the first thread on /d/ that I've seen that has not only stayed on target but is also almost universely positive. It's really brightened my day, plus its lovely to learn about a real, loving relationship. Good luck to the both of you, Miss Ririsu and Mister Cookies!
>>5747855
Well, its a plastic attachment, so no shit. Topping a guy is however the sexiest sight ever, and holy shit my vagina immediately becomes the Niagra Falls every time. I only last maybe 10 seconds when he eats me out right after.
There was a kickstarter a little while ago for a strap-on that transfers stimulation to the clit when touched, I think it was called ambrosia. Seriously hoping that shit ends up working.
>>5744602
How did you find someone like him?
How would a male sub find someone like you?
How does this affect his masculinity? Is he viewed as a lesser man by others?
![f706a0fd5a350c8f02dab2552b9a1a9e[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/Mda5dj2.jpg "f706a0fd5a350c8f02dab2552b9a1a9e[1].jpg")
>>5747865
Thats nice. It'd feel like a sham if the sub had all the fun.
Anyway pic is my fetish.
>>5747905
I'd heard from some lesbian friends that the thrusts can create friction so it can feel like gentle fingering. I (obviously) have no idea though.
>>5747929
...I assume they use a feeldoe-type strap-on then? Personally having stuff in my vagina just feel weird and uncomfortable in general so it's pointless for me, so I just use the old fashion harness. But yeah if your mistress likes it that's another option if you want her to get more direct stimulation.
>>5747917
I've never been degraded for my subbiness, but then again, it's not a very public thing. We act very much as equals in public, unless around close friends, at which point she likes to joke about wearing the pants. As for how I found her, we met in an unusual way, since we met and dated exclusively through World of Warcraft for at least a year and a half before branching out to alternative means of communication.
>>5747253
It can be a rocky road, but we've both been strong, and it works out in the end.
I wish nothing but for it to work out for you both as well. Don't be afraid to lean on your partner, supporting each other is the greatest act of love you can provide. :)
>>5747917
I answered the top question a bit earlier in the thread. We met via World of Warcraft on an RP server and after we dated for a bit, we exchanged numbers and started texting in addition to playing WoW. Then we started using Skype, Steam, what-have-you to make playing games besides WoW easier and just to keep things feeling close.
Almost 4 years after we began dating, we finally closed the distance and met IRL for the first time when I moved out to a college close to him. We visit each other monthly (all we can afford to do right now) and Skype/text the rest of the time.
The other points my little boy has answered well, but I'd like to touch on the point of masculinity. I don't think liking having something shoved up your bum necessarily makes you feminine. If anything I think he's more of a man for being up-front about his desires and exploring all of the anatomy that makes his junk work, not just some of it.
It also prevents him from getting prostate cancer, so I think I'll be pegging him until he's old, grey, and his asshole can't take it anymore. I'm going to keep my husband around as long as I can. <3
>>5746410
I've talked to more than a few dom(me)s on the issue of give and take. From the Dominant perspective, their job apparently is not to bend or break you but give you someone to bend to. The attitude revolves around the whole "finding joy in providing good service" axiom.
I'd call that 'submission heavy' interaction. A lot of submissives who are... in a word, inexperienced, my self included, tend to idealize 'dominance heavy' interactions.
Between the two, I have to give some credibility to Sub-Heavy proponents since my few meetings with Dom-Heavy types have a strong correlation- and this is probably personal bias based on a limited set of observations- with mental and emotional instability in both sides of the partnership.
From the Dom(me)s perspective, giving you dominance is a reward for your giving them submission. Everything else is just roleplay, it seems.
>>5746477
As always, it comes down to networking and having a stable personal life OR being that one asshole with the lucky break.
I'm a dom and want a sub,how to I go about finding one?
Craigslist is shady for me.
This has been a lot of fun, everyone!
Mistress and I appreciate all the wonderful and interesting questions, and we'll continue to answer so long as they come.
Thank you guys for being awesome!
>>5748138
Do you have alternative friends? Ask them to steer someone matching your interests your way and to vet them for unhealthy behaviors.
Do you have a fetlife? I know it's a horrid place to stay, but it is a very primitive "I'm looking" tool.
Do you go to a kink club or a fetish shop? Get to know the regulars and staffers, build a network and they could act as intermediaries and friends as stated above.
Are you really desperate for a session? Hire a professional sub- no, I have no idea if they exist.
Do you have a list of preferences? Try to avoid looking for the "perfect sub" and start with the ones who aren't crazy (unless that's something you both want and are prepared to deal with) and meet one or two of your desires and have a common interest or three outside of sexual preferences.
>>5748151
How do I evaluate myself as a sub, you know, to make sure none of my kinks or behaviors cross that line from sexy into unhealthy? I assume you two have had a bit of interaction with the community in your area.
>>5748167
Not really. We haven't gone to any events or anything--we're loners like that, and we don't even have Fetlife profiles. It's just us looking at weird hentai on /d/ and other places, mostly, and going, "HEY, let's try that."
>>5748160
I don't know if there are any fetish groups in my area,I'll look.
I'm not desperate,but I'll try your suggestions,thank you!
It helps alot.
>>5748160
> Hire a professional sub- no, I have no idea if they exist.
Fuck, if they don't they should. Subbing is hard work if you're actually putting your back (and your brain) into it.
>>5748167
As previously mentioned "unhealthy" is pretty ambiguous. If you take the DSM approach it basically boils down to whether the activities cause distress or dysfunction in your life. So, do you feel anxious when you're not allowed to sub? Are you using the ritual of structured play to mask emotional intimacy issues? Is subbing just an excuse to cover up your god awful lack of social skills? (Harsh, but depressingly frequent even from what little I've seen).
As long as both you and your partner are happy and safe it's not wrong, but you owe it to yourself to examine what you're doing with a keen eye.
Reading this thread made me feel a lot more guilty about faking being a woman on TERA online ;______;
>>5746964
i live in yorkshire, unfortunately ;__;
>>5748475
... Why?
>>5748475
What's wrong with that? Some of us don't have gender boundaries and actually enjoy the ability to play in whatever body we feel like that day, besides, I'm of the opinion that the emotional connection is more important anyways.
>>5748819
Okay, I have to ask, why does it seem like all the kinksters live over the pond in England when the US and Canada have something like sixty times the land mass?
Man, I would love to be in a relationship like this.
I'm a submissive male and I've wanted a mistress forever. I hope I find one some day.
>>5746385
Are you a guy or a girl?
Because I've got curly hair, am 5'10, and am into piss. I also get embarrassed pretty easily.
>>5744671
How do you statisfy your submissive desires? I'm a switch, too but do you think that your partner is a good Dom?
>>5744740
You are a good woman, I wish I had a wife like you. I think this post gave me another boost to find my true Soul mate.
>>5744929
Too bad I don't roleplay. But you met on a place which was very related to your interests. Because which "normal" guy would go to a tiny rp server on WoW? I think it's true that if you go at places you like that you will meet people you like.
Well, sounds like I should stick to CS 1.6 more often haha.
And yet I'm still surprised that you met each other. You both seem to be so unique and yet you found each other like in a love story.
>>5745017
The bigger they are the more masochistic their minds.
Well, like the other anons I wish you the best of luck with your relationship. Seems like you both like cuddling. And I didn't met aby femanons who were into cuddling. Too bad I didn't found you because I really like your personality . You and Cookies are pretty similar to me. Maybe you have a girlfriend who is pretty similar to you
Well under the line I love you both and want to ask: what should I do to find my switch faster/better/ or just find?
Have a random pic from my mobile and my favorit Manga. I am absolutely sure you will like it
http://www.fakku.net/manga/let-me-bark-for-you-english/read
How long until you get tired of the pathetic omega male and go looking for an alpha who can make you feel like a woman?
>>5749457
Girl! woah. you sound pretty perfect
>>5750767
Lel, never.
>>5749664
In reguards to how we found one-another, I can say this.
Being of sound scientific mind, I have trouble calling anything fate. But by that same token, fate is just the quantified result of the most likely result, so since we shared so many interests, I would call it inevitable.
Fate, even.
>>5750767
Maybe as soon as you stop shitposting on /d/. /s
But a serious answer: no, no chance in hell. He's my husband and that's something I will keep til the day I die.
My bf loves femdom but I'm a sub. I'm not into it at all, and I feel like I'm lying to myself when I try to be his Mistress. What do I do?
>>5751237
It's just surprising that you met on a place which wasn't related to your actual interests (like femdom, fetishes, etc.) and yet you are such a perfect couple.
If you play a vidya, you will find girls who like vidya but not into kinky stuff, if you go to SM sites you will find girls who are into SM but probably not into vidya.
It's just amazing to find an actual place which is mostly related to your interests and personality. And there you will find people like you.
Well yeah, it was fate.
I'm also a science guy. I like ballistics
Does penis size humiliation ever enter the mix?
How big is your sub?
>>5751483
Nope. I've never had another penis to compare it to and he is quite big (6" on a good night, really, really thick to the point where we have to use ridiculous amounts of lube) so mostly I just tell him how good he's making me feel, which makes him happy. To belittle him wouldn't turn me or him on.
>>5751538
I was just thinking...a guy obviously can't make his cock any bigger or smaller or change it's shape or anything, but you could change it up all the time, and I'd imagine that you would, different sizes, thicknesses, textures, ect.
Ever consider or use some of those Bad Dragon toys on him, especially the ones that'll dump that faux lube inside him?
>>5751566
faux cum*
>>5751566
This.
This is actually already in the plans, and we do have a Lil' Squirt already, which is wonderful for lubing up mistress before we have a go.
Unfortunately, we both have very limited income right now, and even more limited surplus income, so plans for the future, I suppose.
>>5744602
ok i gotta ask
are you that couple who did "taking liquid from balls with injector" story that i read about year ago or so?
>>5751566
>A guy obviously can't make his cock any bigger
>What are cockrings
>>5751826
I don't know the story you're talking about, but that sounds really damn painful and I wouldn't go near anyone's junk with a needle unless I meant to do them great, great harm in a horribly painful fashion.
>>5751849
yep
it was about put needle in balls and slowly pulling the liquids from it
it was even painful to read
>>5751860
Oh my fucking god. I don't have balls and yet I'm here crossing my legs together. Just oww.
>>5751076
Yeah? Do you wanna maybe get to know each other? I made an email for this sort of thing, so send me one if you want!
[email protected]
Please don't be screwing with me :(
Why does nobody in these threads ever live in Canada?!
I'm tall, skinny, I have super curly hair, and i'm ridiculously submissive, but I've never had a dom! :(
