>>680776828

Why do you keep opening these fucking threads?

>>680777610

Because I am currently writing job applications the whole day and I need to distract myself now and then.

>>680776828
do you ever feel like a plastic bag?

>>680778052

How is a plastic bag supposed to feel?

What kind of music do you listen to

>>680776828
do you have any friends or close relatives?

Are you obese or socially impaired?

Why? Just get a fatty. Easiest thing in the world to get a gf. If you are a social retard or somthing take meds. Wtf no excuses dude.

>>680778500

Most hipster shit and Bob Dylan bootlegs.

>>680778576

No and no.

>>680778654

I'm very skinny. But I guess I am socially impaired.

So you can't make a normal conversation with others? Also are you a good-looking person or an ugly one?

Post face. We need to see what were working with to help ya. Need to know if you are salvagable. But yeah get a fatty wtf

>>680778986
This tbh fam

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>>680778876
>So you can't make a normal conversation with others?

Not for more than five minutes. I just don't know what to say. This is actually independent of whether I speak to e.g. some dude at a party or my mother, so it's not (just) nervousness.

>>680779199
Post face then

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>>680778986

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Dont be a beta cuck and get chu a fatty. She be happy getting anybody fam

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>>680779317

Also, my body; ready for the skeleton wars.

>>680779317
Wtf i dont understand. Get a solid 5 or 6. Are the eyes bulging or what? Just go get sombody or get some anti anxiety meds wtf.

>>680779317
>>680779424
You look quite normal.

Get a few fatties or old sluts for 1 night stands. Get some confidence. Get some meds. Get a life dude. Whats the problem?

Nobody likes chubbers but better than being 33 and a virgin. You shoulda shot up a school already with that much sexual frustration

>>680779784
In fact i prefer chubbies than skinny or even regular.

OP could fuck one VERY easily.

>>680779539

My eyes are fine. I just not a charming person.

>>680779602

Duh. But looks don't really matter.

>>680779317
>>680779424

Really kissless? I mean you're not a tenner but you're pretty fucking decent. Never pursue properly?

Man we should have a Board extra for stuff like this. I mean we Couleur reallly help guys out

>>680780324
Could

Could

>>680780061

I did pursue but maybe I didn't pursue properly. You know, I did the usual stuff; chatting up people at parties or at clubs. Also, did some Tindering

>>680780324
>Man we should have a Board extra for stuff like this

r9k

>>680780432

Hmm I guess overall just use confidence but don't come off douchy, maybe check out some of the chicks at the next place you hit up and then when you get the cute bedroom eyes or the 'i know you're looking at me' face go for it?

Kissing should be easy, worse case offer to buy her a drink before you start to properly hit it up?

>>680780551
>when you get the cute bedroom eyes or the 'i know you're looking at me' face go for it

Which I never got. Nor any other kind of interest,

You are a very decent normal looking guy, maybe your standards are set too high?

What kind of hobbies do you have, what do you like to do in your spare time?

do you have a plan to join ISIS?

>>680780800

What do you wear? What do you drink?

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OP! Read some PUA stylelife challange is a goof pdf bookcto start with. Promise

>>680780804
>You are a very decent normal looking guy, maybe your standards are set too high?

It's not that I ever had to turn somebody down or something. There were times when I was convinced I was a good catch and went for the 8s and 9s. There were times when I felt like useless shit and went for the average girls.

>What kind of hobbies do you have, what do you like to do in your spare time?

Very unimpressive stuff unfortunately: cooking, reading, jogging, cycling, painting, gardening. I furthermore used to do one sport each semester in university. I really want to take up climbing again, but I have no partner. Anyway, compared to most of my peers who have something they are exceptionally good in, it's rather boring.

>>680780861
>What do you wear? What do you drink?

I dress religiously smart casual. And what I drink depends on where I am. But I am generally a big drinker.

>>680781375

Get dressed in what you'd wear out in the hopes of scoring and I'll let you know what I think

>>680778786
I'm skinny and pretty socially fucked

I recently got dumped by my beautiful Japanese gf, but she was great for the time.

I'm not the perfect example because I'm single now, but all it takes is going out and getting what you want.

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>>680776828
how the hell do you go that long without anything? hire a hooker for fuck's sake

>>680781527

I don't want to change and make photos. This is probably how I look on average when I leave the house (+ cashmere sweater when it's cold):

http://myntra.myntassets.com/images/style/properties/Nautica-Men-Navy-Checked-Smart-Casual-Shirt_4e9dc5160bab84223489deff4887a980_images_1080_1440_mini.jpg

And except for maybe a suit jacket, I don't really dress up.

>>680781973
>how the hell do you go that long without anything?

It's not that sex just happens to most people, you must be proactive and at least marginally socially skilful which I am not.

>>680776828

So why no hooker?

>>680783893

Because it wouldn't change anything. My problem is that I am either so unattractive or socially impaired (both are interconnected anyway I guess), to get women to have (sexual) relationships with me. The physical act of sex in itself is secondary.

>>680776828
are you happy sometimes?

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>>680785622

Yes.

>>680785700

Just long-term hookers.

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die alone then

>>680779317
>>680779424
you look good. i'm also skinny, it should be no big deal for you to get a girl.
learn how to be not an autistic asshole (even if you fake your behavior) and you'll do good

>>680786228
>learn how to be not an autistic asshole (even if you fake your behavior) and you'll do good

Easier said than done. Dude, I am in my mid-30s. Believe me, I tried. And unfortunately, my social standing vis-à-vis my peers is getting worse and worse.

>>680786439
i'm also, when it comes to social behavior, in the same boat as you.
you're body is actually nearly like mine, i'm 34, i don't have any friends at all, i'm always depressed and anxious, a total loser.
i have no idea what to talk to people, i do have even less and more boring hobbies than you (programming, math).
but guess what, i had 4 serious relationships so far and a few of ONS.
the thing is, you need to look for the right girls. my current gf loves our "boring" lifestyle. she just enjoys my calm kind of being and that i don't like partying at all (even if i'm also a heavy drinker).

you're introverted. that means you have to look for introverted girls. with your looking, you will find one with online dating without any problems. i found mine at pof.com, fucking genious website with a lot of nice girls

>>680786977
>you're introverted. that means you have to look for introverted girls. with your looking, you will find one with online dating without any problems. i found mine at pof.com, fucking genious website with a lot of nice girls

I certainly am introverted. But I've also met many introverted girls in my life. During my university times, 60 - 70% of people in the courses of my STEM program (biochem) were female. And almost none of them was stereotypically girly; most had at least one nerdy hobby. The problem is that I was still boring. Because there are two types of boring: the way an introverted person is boring to an extroverted person and vice versa (meaning simply different interests) and the way some people are just fundamentally, universally boring. I was always impressed how complex, multifaceted most people I met are, while I am just some dull, wooden machine.

>>680787773
yeah i feel exactly the same way. nevertheless i always got relationships.
i guruantee you, the reason you are not that lucky has nothing to do with your self conception of being boring.
i'm in therapy (depressions and stuff) and my therapist stated, he actually never met someone with such a low self esteem as i do have. when my gf visits i never know what to say and most of the time i don't talk at all but we do "boring" stuff, like cooking or watching dvds. we don't share a single hobby, she is not into STEM so i have really nothing to talk.
but i like to listen when she talks, she got a lot more friends than i do and so i listen to her stories.
we enjoy evenings together on the balcony, grill something good, drinking wine, sometimes i then also get into the mood to talk (well, i need alc) and she really enjoys my boring bullshit i'm talking.
again, my therapist also states i'm not that boring how i believe i am, even if i feell EXACTLY like you "dull, wooden machine". my self conception is totally fucked up, like yours.

the reason you don't get a gf is anywhere else. i assume you just stopped trying and i would encourage you to try online dating (no tinder bullshit).
you actually sound like a reasonable and nice guy, i would like to have a friend like you and talk about STEM and stuff. you're not so fucked like you think you are

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>>680788541

When I talk to other people with the same problem (who are e.g. socially inhibited), I always hear that they think that they have going on inside which they want to share with outside world but can't. I am the complete opposite. I was always able to keep a facade up, so that people (friends, colleagues) thought that I have much more going on than I do. People described me always as very intelligent, successful, high potential and I cultivated this image by habitus. My social image is better than the truth.

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>>680776828
Do you or can you relate yourself with this?

>>680789406

No.

>>680789976
I have serious doubts on this.

>>680790414

Why so?

>>680778380
drifting through the wind, willing to start again

>>680790677

I am indeed willing to start again. I wish I could erase everything which happened in the last 20 years and start back in HS.

>>680776828
have you ever had any chances-to say the least-of getting the pussy but you werent able to take it??

>>680778052
drifting through the wind

>>680790867
do you ever feel so paper thin?
one blow from caving in

>>680789326
>>680789326
>I was always able to keep a facade up, so that people (friends, colleagues) thought that I have much more going on than I do. People described me always as very intelligent, successful, high potential and I cultivated this image by habitus. My social image is better than the truth.

also, exactly the same here. i'm considered very intelligent (even if i feel dumb), successful (software engineer, even that my job is shit) and so on.
you persist so strongly on your (false) explanation why you never was successful with girls, that your assumed problems are just a self-fulfilling prophecy.

as i said before you sound like a good guy. if you want to come into contact via email, let me know. i might be able to help you or we just talk (write) from time to time.

>>680791111
CHECK'D BOISE

just use tinder? are you that autistic. anyone can pickup

>>680791117
have you even had a girlfriend before?

>>680791277
yeah, i mean like youre not a 10, but youre not extremely bad either. you have a chance, to say the least.

>>680790908

Not really. Even though I thought I had. When I was in my 20s, I was always looking for these small behavioural clues and many times, I was convinced that a girl must be into me based on that. It never was true.

>>680791277

I did. It's mostly bots though. Maybe had one or two matches in one year.

>>680791117
>you persist so strongly on your (false) explanation why you never was successful with girls, that your assumed problems are just a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Then what is the real problem?

>as i said before you sound like a good guy. if you want to come into contact via email, let me know. i might be able to help you or we just talk (write) from time to time.

[email protected]

>>680791308
ýes of couse, i'm this guy >>680786977

Man you look totally fine, it's crazy that you're a kissless virgin. What about dating sites, have you tried those?

>>680791399
not gonna lie, im 20, had my first time when i was 17. yeah you can say this generation is fucked up, but idk, in this day and age, you're not too late. just have money you're good to go.

>>680791610
my bad.

>>680791561
>Then what is the real problem?
as i said, it's just a self-fulfilling prophecy. we can work on this if you like. i'd enjoy helping you setting up a decent profile on a dating plattform and help you with texting girls.

>[email protected]
saved. i'm writing you later

prostitutes are.... unwise choices. unless youre willing to risk std, i suppose. otherwise, probably try dating sites? or perhaps hook-up sites, at least

>>680791657

Only Tinder. And - again - looks don't matter.

>just have money you're good to go.

Yeah, I don't. Compared to my peers, I'm not on a great track career wise.

>>680789406
holy fuck is this a rage thread? what a cuck that husband is

>>680791561
Not the guy who replied to you, but from reading this tread, the only thing that is stoping you from getting a partner (or friends) is confidence.

>>680792392
>confidence.
no. confidence is overrated. i'm the guy op talked to and as i said i have absolutely no self esteem.

>>680792392

I have a low confidence. But it wasn't always that low; it decreased slowly in my late 20s after I realised that I wasn't the big deal I thought I'd be. Both socially and career-wise.

>>680792514
>>680792638
Confidence is not overrated. You can do fine without (like me, being in relationships most of my adult life, I'm 34 now) but I really think this is what op is lacking. No way he is too boring or unattractive. It's all in the social skills and I have never seen a confident guy (no matter how ugly peace of shit or a boring shallow cunt he is) that is a kissless virgin.

>>680794060

So, how do I become confident (again) and where is the threshold between confidence and hubris?

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>>680776828
33 virgin????

The rumors are true, a level 3 wizard!

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>>680776828
haha y u not take urself out of ur misery

>>680784299
I disagree.... If you get that out of the way, you will start looking at chicks who are in-your-league and find a gf

>>680794552

Because life is not great but it could me much worse.

18 year old here, this thread is more relatable than anything I've ever read on 4chan

godspeed you, man.

>>680794060
>Confidence is not overrated.
yes it is overrated. you don't need confidence to get girls at all. it's just like a modern religion that guys think confidence and some gym-shit it the key to everything.

>>680794722

How does that work? Wasn't I doing that? Furthermore, I have no idea what my league even is. I was always thinking that was something which cannot be determined a priori but is a case of trial and error.

>>680795095
I haven't read all of the prior posts ....

But it sounds like you simply need practice, bro. Most of us get this practice early on, starting in middle school. We completely fuck up all of those early boy/girl interactions and learn to be better. Then we get real girl friends we have sex with, and completely fuckup those relationships too. Only by the time you have your third longterm gf do you approximate getting it right.

You missed all that, it sounds like. And now you are angry because you have all of this piss/vinegar /semen backed up. You need to get laid, and you should find one of those college girls who sell it, or some shit.

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Why are you out of your containment board?
>>>/r9k/

>>680795625
>You missed all that, it sounds like.

I did. And I feel that I cannot re-live or compensate for that. But the question is why? I was not home-schooled, I was not sick for a long time. In fact, I started out in the best position one can possible have. I had sexual interests in girls extremely early, I was the first around my peers to ask out a girl (at twelve), I was pretty popular in middle school badass. But in the end, everyone overtook me when it comes to social development.

>>680796302
You obviously cant get back "time" you missed, but you still need to figure out a way to practice.

Think about the guy who decides to pick up golf in adulthood. He surely doesnt start out by going to the golf course with his much-better friends. He starts out by getting lessons. Then, he spends hours and hours at the range and putting greens, then he plays by himslef on shitty courses, and only after a couple years is he likely ready to not embarrass himself with his friends

>>680797171
>You obviously cant get back "time" you missed, but you still need to figure out a way to practice.

But how? I had time and opportunity to practice my whole life. I just didn't get better.

>>680797530
Not sure what to tell you, OP.

You seem to be more interested in looking for reasons why instead of putting all that shit in the past and fixing it.

Eventually you gotta forget all of that, and go out and fake it (i. E. Practice) with a few chicks

>>680798136
>You seem to be more interested in looking for reasons why instead of putting all that shit in the past and fixing it.

I'm looking for reasons why fixing it didn't work. I'm looking for things to do differently. Going out and "fake it till you make it" was the advice I got from my best friend (who was hugely successful but also a straight 9/10) when I was 19.