Since I'm shy and not good at socializing,being funny etc I try to compensate by being nice and helping ppl but now it's gotten to the point where everyone just talks to me asking for favours, knowing I'm too dumb to say no. People who never talk to me will come asking me to do stuff for them and they're only "nice" to me when they need something. They even get my phone number from someone else and text me asking for favours. Idk how to say no without sounding rude or having them say im a bitch for not helping, but I'm sick of being used and not having any actual friends. How can I change this?
The cool thing is that you have no obligation to these people and most of them you'll never see again. Just cut off anyone that's using you, block them and never think about them again. It's rude, but at the same time they're not really your friends so why bother? For getting new friends you need to at least a little outgoing, join a club, sport, or group-based activity and just talk with those there. Build relationships where you can.
>>17362793
Practice saying this word in front of a mirror until you get it right:
No.
You're stronger than you think man. Yeah, cut all ties with people who use you. You need to just socialize more, maybe that can be people from your upcoming semester, workplace, wherever. Visit old friends maybe?
Also, just be honest with yourself. Do you really want to do favors for some cuck who doesn't care about you? Nothing wrong with saying no, you shouldnt care what they think.
