be in 12 step program
> tell me it works best if i work the steps with a mentor or "sponsor"
> finally find a sponsor through my roommate
> today sponsor calls and starts getting on to me for things that my roommate coincidentally also takes issue with (caffeine consumption, sleep schedule, social skills, certain mannerisms, to name a few...my roommate's kind of a nosy cunt)
> i'm about to get to the part of the program where i start confessing my personal flaws and wrongdoings to the sponsor
What does /adv/ think? Should I risk having what's really a pretty intimate relationship with this guy or should I start looking for someone else?
>>17361939
Sounds like you need to find another guy...unless you want to deal with this same bullshit constantly.
>>17361939
You're in denial.
The sponsor is just doing his job. He is SUPPOSED to ride you hard, to make sure you get better. A sponsor who went easy on you would not be doing you any favors. If you are resisting already, it does not bode well for your recovery.
>>17362313
It's not an issue of whether I want to follow the sponsors instructions. If there's this relationship between him and my roommate where roomie can just go and whine to him whenever I do something he doesn't like and he listens, that's what I have a problem with. It's manipulative on the roommates part and violates the rule of confidentiality on the sponsor's part.
