Hey guys. This ones a doozy.
Girlfriend just laid out her plans for my birthday gift: a $500 dollar weekend trip to Manhattan. its also completely planned out. she has the money to do so. but the thing is this is so outside our range for gift prices. we've been dating roughly a year now. one concern is that if i accept and we wind up breaking up she will have wasted 500 dollars. so do I go and feel horrible because I'm not worth it, or do i feel horrible by telling her she has to cancel?
>>17348579
>one concern is that if i accept and we wind up breaking up she will have wasted 500 dollars
It's not a waste. If you break up before the trip, she can go without you. If you break up after, it's just a mutual enjoyable experience that you can both look back on. You're overthinking this.
Enjoy your trip
>>17348579
Why are you so concerned about breaking up already? That this is an issue in your mind really says something about your relationship. And how far away is your birthday?
Just make sure you tell her that you think she's amazing for doing this, and you're really happy you'll have this experience together, but it truly is way outside your price range for gifts, so she can't expect that you'll be able to make up for it when her birthday comes, and if that's going to be a problem you should consider selling the tickets and all.
>>17348579
Why are you thinking about breaking up? Damn that is cold. If you been together a year already, you should know if you plan on breaking up by now or not.
>>17348579
You've got a cool girlfriend there OP...but I'm going to tell you, $500 is not going to go very far in Manhattan over a weekend.
>>17348579
I'd be more concerned that this sets a precedent for gifts.